A good phrase the internet taught me is: "You don't have to light yourself on fire, just to keep others warm." Man, that helped me a lot.

@Faith-zt3pq

5 жыл бұрын

Woah that's a good one. I've never heard it before

@karla3153

5 жыл бұрын

@@Faith-zt3pq i heard that one too

@alina6623

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@angelchan6398

5 жыл бұрын

Thx boiiii

@weymorales

5 жыл бұрын

this is accurated

"I'm sorry I have to cut you off. I'm not responsible for your happiness." "You're literally my therapist I pay you 250 an hour"

@chloeithsad

2 жыл бұрын

i- lmfao that's great.

@kiyoshi5430

2 жыл бұрын

LMAOO O O O OO O

@SuchitaBhattacharya

2 жыл бұрын

LMFAO WAIT-

@your_newsavior2436

2 жыл бұрын

I WAS EXPECTING SOMETHING REALISTIC LOL

@kookiejess

2 жыл бұрын

They're still not responsible for your happiness, just saying

“you are NOT responsible for anyone’s happiness!!” this single line is actually helping me so much holy crap, thank you so much jaiden.

@simonerose9040

8 ай бұрын

*Parents*

@A_Kiwi_Donut_YT

8 ай бұрын

The only happiness you are responsible for are your own and your imagination

@adithyanr7415

8 ай бұрын

But you are responsible for your own happiness

@simionleva3856

8 ай бұрын

Except don't live by it TOO much or you'll become selfish

@user-lr9ho8wc7n

8 ай бұрын

@@simionleva3856 There is a difference between not being responsible and not doing sh*t for anyone’s well-being I guess

"do you feel like you're walking on eggshells around them?" has carried me so far in knowing what relationships are harmful to me

Jaiden: "No one wakes up and is like 'haha im gonna be super manipulative today!'" Politicians: *Watch me*

@fusix92

2 жыл бұрын

"Lying isnt a career" **laughs in politician**

@Michael-mh2tw

2 жыл бұрын

Hot and original take.

@pkmntrainerred4247

2 жыл бұрын

Also politicians: Uh wait don`t watch me its harmful for my career. Don`t watch me just listen to me & everything`s gonna be fine. TOTALLY not gonna manipulate you guys or turn the whole country into elected autocracy, I SWEAR. Just F@@king listen to me & not to those other a$$holes & if something starts making sense just shoot it in the face with a bazooka. And if you don`t listen & start teaching M how to do MY job, I`m gonna throw ya in jail bud, so good time enjoying picnic to prison land adventure park if you decide to buy yourself a ticket, the price for which is- your freedom LOL, so enjoy your time. Totally not gonna turn this into a elected autocracy.``

@astek.lenartowicz

2 жыл бұрын

Polish politics:well we manipulator evry dsy every hour every minut eevey secound (i and my friends call Polish politics little liaras)

@collinashley2570

2 жыл бұрын

What is Politicians

Anyone else super afraid that they're being manipulative towards others without noticing?

@anaveragehooman2364

4 жыл бұрын

Me

@gmkdraws2477

4 жыл бұрын

I’m not cuz I don’t have any relationships :3

@maryanderham9967

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. Now I’m scared everyone thinks I’m a jerk and I have no clue

@aod.1

4 жыл бұрын

your profile picture reminds me of 2012 and I love it so much

@nolifenerd2750

4 жыл бұрын

Me

The thing is, this isn’t just with friendships or partners, it’s family also sometimes. I know a lot of people that never thought about it. Personally I experienced a horrible relationship with my father until I inevitably cut him out of my life, and just wanted to put this out there for everyone

@jessicatoussaint9140

5 ай бұрын

I can relate to this. I can't wait to cut mine out of my life too. Good on you

@bashattack2414

5 ай бұрын

Same here with my grandma, I cut her off years ago, but have only recently realized how abusive she was towards me. This video has honestly saved my life in a weird way.

@_Bear70

2 ай бұрын

Yup, easing him out of my life rn. It really is amazing what cutting out toxic people can do.

@DavyIJones

23 күн бұрын

It's crazy cause I'm going through this right now, but it's like, they're our parents. They've technically done everything for us and personally I feel wrong for disrespecting them. Idk if I'm being an asshole for disrespecting them or not giving myself enough credit and need to be my own. I should go to a therapist huh

@user-lj7pu9dj4u

14 күн бұрын

The ecosystem analogy helped a lot I mean it hel0ed the unhealthy ways I were in relationships

This video has SINGLEHANDEDLY changed how I develop relationships with people. I genuinely didn't understand how to have healthy boundaries for years. "You are NOT personally responsible for anyone's happiness!" is SUCH. A. MANTRA.

“Don’t let them forcefully shove their junk on y-“ *_D E M O N E T I S E D_*

@SenselessArcade

4 жыл бұрын

King Anson I thought I was the only one who found that joke dirty...🤣🤣🤣

@fischlvonluftschlossnarfid5048

4 жыл бұрын

*69 likes*

@AECcomputers

4 жыл бұрын

@@medditor3863 Wha?

@tojislefttoe7505

4 жыл бұрын

I just realised this! Lmfao

@tojislefttoe7505

4 жыл бұрын

@@medditor3863 bruh, it's a joke

Jaiden:”You dont have to solve other people’s problems” Me: *Looks at math* “Well, if you say so…”

@ziyahdavis2571

2 жыл бұрын

Wait wha

@kingvoid8823

2 жыл бұрын

holy shit your IQ

@funnyvideoguy3216

2 жыл бұрын

I mean, when are you gonna need it anyway (unless you aren't in high school yet)

@animationcity8178

2 жыл бұрын

@@funnyvideoguy3216 Or in Turkey.

@DanielLovesArt

2 жыл бұрын

@ii_nixliiYT agreed.

Jaiden's channel gives me a breath of fresh air, a cousin I don't see often but always have a blast when they're around

Okay, so I think I'm finally ready to share this. I learned of this video roughly 2 years ago. At the time, I'd already been through a slew of slightly toxic friendships, so I resonated with this video. But, by that point I had a group of great friends who I really trusted. About a year ago, one of those "great friends" asked me out and I said yes. It wasn't exactly how I imagined my first relationship going, but I thought it was going swimmingly well. At least that's what he told me. Because any time I expressed doubts or anxieties about something, he told me that's just how it was supposed to be. And I'd been friends with him for like three years, so obviously he was "very trustworthy". After about three months, I was ready to not be getting him anymore and (after a semi-traumatic experience right after we broke up involving unwilling first kisses and a child-locked door) ready to not know him any more. Because of what he had told me, I felt like it was my fault. Like I had pushed him to whatever. But about a week after I got out I remembered (if a little too late) this video. The number of "toxic traits" listed here that he had were ASTOUNDING: - *_Emotional Blackmail:_* He knew this was my first relationship, and told me that dating someone "super-duper casually" had WAY more emotional responsibilities than most married-couple relationships have, and I basically became his unpaid therapist. He also totally trauma-dumped on basically the first date and kept using that to guilt me into stuff. "I know you'll be the one to not leave" and stuff like that. - *_Shifting Blame:_* He kept blaming me that in those three months we really only ever went on 2 dates. However, I only was the cause of this once, and that was because that weekend I had strep throat AND Hurricane Ian hit. All the other times the dates got postponed he was hanging out with friends or he had a stomach bug (which he also blamed me for... For some reason...). - *_Gaslighting:_* Was used to supplement the shifting blame. - *_Guilt-Tripping:_* Was used to supplement the emotional blackmail. - *_Support system:_* He very much tried (and somewhat succeeded) at cutting me off from my support systems. He kept accusing me of hanging out with my friends more than I hung out with him, even though I hardly went out, and he hung out with his friends all the freaking time. He also told me that in a relationship you don't just go to your parents for everything, that's when you start being able to handle things on your own. And, once all was said and done, he went to our manager and said he didn't feel safe because I told my best friend (who worked with us and is incredibly in tune with people's emotions) a watered-down version of what had happened, and got me in serious trouble and placed under what was basically a "keep-quiet" mandate. Meanwhile I was having mini panic attacks anytime he came too close. (And yes, I knew going into it that dating a coworker was like farting in an elevator, but I figured a one time exception with "one of the sweetest people I knew" would've been fine. Nope.) - *_Justifying/Explaining Actions:_* I'm not even gonna list how many times I did this, either to myself or to others. - *_Disliked by the Trustworthy:_* My best friend mentioned on several occasions that he got a bad vibe from this guy. I just figured he thought he was annoying. - *_Feel Like Leaving Is Dangerous:_* See emotional blackmail. - *_"Do you put off seeing or responding to them?":_* Yeah. Many times he'd text me asking me to play unpaid therapist for him again, and I'd just pretend like I didn't have my phone for a bit. - *_"Have they threatened you or themselves in any way?"_* Yup. There were a lot of veiled threats directed at both of us. He acted super religious and he basically implied that a girl who breaks off a relationship was a "harlot" and would never be forgiven, and he also implied that breaking things off might be dangerous for him. - *_"Do they make you feel like you can't do things on your own or you can't make a single decision without them?"_* Yup. See support system and shifting blame. Also, he kept talking about how I didn't know what was best, so I should give up on my dream and a day-job that I loved so that when he was a famous movie star I'd be able to pull him away from all of the ladies who'd be throwing themselves at him because he's "so hot and so famous". - *_"Do they ask for a lot of favors or money and don't pay them back?"_* I didn't experience this first-hand, but I remember him telling me about an argument he and his friend had about how they'd always go to movies, the friend would pay for the tickets, and he never paid her back. - *_"Do they talk badly behind your back?"_* His best friend (who was toxic in his own right) dated one of our other coworkers. We got to talking one day, and she said that her ex (the best friend) would talk crap about everyone in our workplace. I was apparently the only one he didn't have any comments on, until things ended, and she implied that very nasty things were said. I didn't know the friend that well, so I can only imagine where he heard those things from... - *_" Do you feel like you're walking on eggshells around them?"_* Absolutely. That was the three most emotionally draining months in my life. - *_"Do they put you down?"_* Yeah. Between how I "couldn't get the whole dating thing right," I "didn't spend enough time with him," etc. I pretty much felt like total crap by the end of everything. Plus... -When we were together he hit on the coworker who was dating his best friend while I was just a few cubicles away. -He kept going to events "as a friend" with this girl who I knew had a crush on him and would always come up with a lame excuse as to why I couldn't go. -Even though I told him before the first date that I was asexual and he said it was fine, he later told me he just said that in the hopes that he might get me to change my mind. -I brought cookies into work one day, he said that I'd "have a good place in the kitchen" and that was when he started showing interest in me. (Found this out after all was said and done.) -Oh yeah and I brought those cookies in when I was only 16 or 17. He was 5 years older than me, making him 21 or 22. That is illegal and (considering he's the outlier in guys I've liked) likely grooming. But thank you, Jaiden, for helping me realize that it wasn't me. I really need that. (He leaves tomorrow, and hopefully I will no longer be [as] cursed.)

@localsoul9760

9 ай бұрын

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I may not have gone through any toxic relationships (as far as I'm aware), but after reading your story and many others in this comment section, I REALLY feel bad for people like you and those people, while they CAN get better, often don't. They are super harmful and I really get pissed off at them when I read these types of stories. However, I do get that people like them can get better.

@one-onessadhalf3393

9 ай бұрын

Wow, your ex sounds like a really gross dude. I’m glad you’re free of him now.

@licarsmeth6890

8 ай бұрын

I'm sorry you had to go through all that. One point has me genuinely curious- you being asexual means you wouldn't wanna date anyone? Or have a romantic relationship? Or is it just you want to have a platonic relationship and not a sexual one? If so, why chamge from friend to boyfriend?

@KasaiRayquaza

8 ай бұрын

@@licarsmeth6890 I'm romantic I just don't want to... Canoodle.

@vignotum132

8 ай бұрын

Holy fuck dude. Best of luck in the future

“you are NOT responsible for anybody’s happiness” Me: But they’re my children

@genericdude9082

4 жыл бұрын

Bruh

@KlavierMenn

4 жыл бұрын

Well... that's the only case, it's your responsability, I guess? But there's a fine line in being responsible and being a helicopter.

@KlavierMenn

4 жыл бұрын

@@suravinayan2753 When the child is yours? sure.

@belltempest3708

4 жыл бұрын

Ok gray area

@darthestar8791

4 жыл бұрын

Ok. That's a gray area. While you're responsible for making sure they grow up to be a happy, responsible, loving individual. You're not always responsible for their happiness(In other words. Don't make decisions that are already going to make them happy unless it's related to their needs(unless it's them being picky about things like food))

Jaiden: talks about relationships James: talks about his dead moth

@csuporlucifer7744

4 жыл бұрын

And yet, which one of them is more successful? They're both awesome tho.

@thegistofthelists

4 жыл бұрын

JustAHamsterOwner Oof he said *more*

@csuporlucifer7744

4 жыл бұрын

@@nuggetthehamster7072 they can't both be *more* successful.

@yfi6841

4 жыл бұрын

@@nuggetthehamster7072 i agree with you my friend.

@csuporlucifer7744

4 жыл бұрын

@@nuggetthehamster7072 also agree

I just got out of a toxic relationship 2 weeks ago and I've started to think it would've been better if I stayed or dealt with it. I came back to Jaiden's channel and saw this and this video really helped me a lot to see the red flags and the reasons why I left. I just wanted to say thank you for making this, because realizing manipulation or leaving unhealthy relationships is something really important to keep in mind. Thank you :)

As someone who is battling depression and anxiety, I wonder how I come off to others. I just got back in touch with some old high school friends, they don't know what I'm going through because I haven't told them, but I catch myself oversharing certain things and being overally emotional. Honestly, reconnecting with them has helped me take my first steps to take charge of my life by going back to school, but I have to learn not to text them so much when I'm feeling down. I feel like it's kind of selfish, but I just get so damn lonely sometimes. I just hope I'm not being an emotional vampire.

@dopaminecloud

24 күн бұрын

You might be. But something important to note I think is that getting on people's nerves now and then isn't the end of the world and we all do it. It's all about the give and take, the understanding through clear communication and the apology. Like even under far less heavy circumstances, if someone just had something stressful happen to them, they're like to take that energy into their next conversation and make it unfun for the person they had it with. Does that mean they're a bad person that can't regulate their emotions or is that just normal and we're not machines? Don't be overbearing, of course, but simultaneously, don't think you have to a perfect conduit of good vibes to everyone, that's unrealistic.

“I’m pathetic just leave me” “Ok” *leaves* “Uhm”

@chandawellgapot8399

4 жыл бұрын

*me being literal*

@yellowdandelions7760

4 жыл бұрын

*Thats what I call a pro gamer move*

@marilynsmalley8807

4 жыл бұрын

Poké Dudes meeeeee bro

@barnabyjjones2348

4 жыл бұрын

Wow this is my best comment since one I made on a Betty boop video

@theambergryphon4266

4 жыл бұрын

I hate people who keep repeating that shit.

-You deserve clean air. *China* : stop right there

@michellesouthward6606

5 жыл бұрын

sea turtles : I have air but I CANT BREATHE

@augusteklimantaviciute9445

5 жыл бұрын

FOSSIL FUELS, POLLUTION, DEATHHHHHH.. sorry I've been in school for too long..

@omoghosty5777

5 жыл бұрын

China: We are selling _canned air_

@nahiyan4564

5 жыл бұрын

Air: MaDe In ChInA

@geoss2346

5 жыл бұрын

@@omoghosty5777 i became zillionaire

rewatching this after having gotten out of a toxic relationship is so eye-opening. I was being manipulated and bullied for so long, and I didnt even realize it I would blame myself constantly, because I always felt like it was my fault. but, finally ending things off was the best decision, it did sting, but I wasnt myself anymore and I had lost so many friends in the process. being in a toxic relationship is extremely difficult, especially when you feel like there's no one to turn to and you feel trapped. but, just remember youre your own person, no one should ever control your life and the things that you do

“You’re NOT responsible for other people happiness!” You do not know how much this helped me Jaiden with a certain relationship so thank you so much!

Jaiden: We have to interact with people Pandemic: Allow me to introduce myself

@hunnydayzzxxx6610

4 жыл бұрын

THE HUGGING AAEÆÆÆŔĚƏƏ

@TheKiwiCache

4 жыл бұрын

Celestial Dragons the fuck are you saying my guy

@dood9191

4 жыл бұрын

Hmmm, I like the stealing joke.....

@NaxDucky

4 жыл бұрын

Me, an extrovert with discord and zoom: are you challenging me?

@villainshototheythem2178

4 жыл бұрын

SpiderKidAnimations Anti-socials with anxiety such as I. “We are going to be great friends 😌”

“Dont let people force their junk on you” -jaiden, preventing sexual assaults 10 minutes at a time.

@aceofheartzxaver1366

2 жыл бұрын

Even if it was a accidental convenient sentence

@kingstonsilva1417

2 жыл бұрын

Hey great anology😃😃😃

@TheActualMrLink

2 жыл бұрын

@@kingstonsilva1417 dontyoumeanANALogy

@eiko1

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheActualMrLink _w h y_

@CozyAlaedu

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheActualMrLink WHY

I remember when this first came out. Its crazy all these years later this advice still stands true, absolutely timeless perspective and counsel.

Two years ago I watched this video and it made me realise i was a part of a REALLY toxic friendship. It was one of those “but she’s really depressed and su1c1d@l i don’t want anything to happen to her!” Friendships where I end up being forced to carry the burdens of my friend to the point that they aren’t getting any better, but I’m getting worse. It pulled me into a really dark place but this video smacked some sense into me and I ended the friendship. Now I can say I’m really truly happy.

@anneblackwood9013

17 күн бұрын

Sorry to ask but what happened after you ended things? I'm desperate rn

“When you do the kisses with someone” Cutest phrase ever

@eebertdeebert

4 жыл бұрын

JKH133 Yep.

@bigboyobi-wan

4 жыл бұрын

haha yA

@fluffernal

4 жыл бұрын

SHIP

@miciah3351

4 жыл бұрын

Ship you and yo doggie

@toatlord247extreme5

4 жыл бұрын

Wow

My therapist: exists Jaiden: I'm about to end this whole man's career.

@joselint7158

4 жыл бұрын

Omg literally what I was just thinking about it 😂

@Maukiki

4 жыл бұрын

*lets act that is not there

@chopperbrosadvance9760

4 жыл бұрын

Wtf

@le5052

4 жыл бұрын

PLEASE get actual help if you need it, don’t use a KZread as a substitute.( still love jaiden!) not trying to ruin the joke, but jokes aside, PLEASE get help if you need it.

@goobing

4 жыл бұрын

Jaiden, the ultimate therapist

i came back to this video after i got broken up with and i realized that both of us were being terrible to each other . its really hard to see bad behavior in yourself but coming back and seeing it explained from an outside perspective is really enlightening . i always forget how helpful this video is until i come back to it

This is very true, But when I first watch this video I highly questioned “am I toxic?” Every single one of us did something toxic, ik I did, but the moment we admit it and the more we grow and STOP that’s how you know it’s getting better, but if you don’t change then yes that’s a big issue on ur part, We should also remind ourselves some toxic traits come from trauma, now don’t use that as an excuse, but I know trauma made me have abandonment issues where I would try to be very close to certain friends and the moment they went off without me I would break down, emotions like that isn’t saying your manipulative or toxic, it’s how u deal with it, and if you dealt poorly it’s never to late to change

@brynncess2228

11 сағат бұрын

I feel like there aren't enough ppl saying stuff like this

Jaiden really out here advocating for everyone to be their own Lorax

@gamegod6859

4 жыл бұрын

speak for your own trees

@grumpyoldmanneedsanap8365

4 жыл бұрын

Yessss!!!

@abcjhill3063

4 жыл бұрын

i am the Lorax i speak for the trees,if you polute eviction notice to thee

@crack_soda

4 жыл бұрын

I am the Clorox, and I speak for the Bleach.

@lilyplayz_yt

4 жыл бұрын

I am the lorax, I speak for the trees. Litter again, I'll break your knees.

"Drugs are bad...are my other friends going to do it???" Friends: slams heads into coke

@cupcakeletsplay9475

5 жыл бұрын

That was funny I don't know why😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

@AnAppleSlice

5 жыл бұрын

*SNIFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF*

@murdurerjack7463

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, the rest of us also saw that.

@philswift2435

5 жыл бұрын

CANS COKE INGOB-)HEADS SMACkWould FRIENDS MY

@tiffanymills7479

5 жыл бұрын

I could not stop laughing

i’ve always had a strong relationship with this video. about 5 years ago I had a bunch of friends that really sucked and I just keep rewatching this to feel better about not talking to them anymore. Now, someone who I was very good friends with has stopped talking to me due to my mental health not being great and her trying to get better. And now I’m back watching this. It’s yet again comforting. It’s so good hearing somebody say “You are not responsible for anyone’s personal happiness” Even though it sucks for me i’m so glad that my former friend is actively trying to get better, even if that means i’m not a part of it. This is always something I watch in times where one way or another I need to grow or change as a person.

This is such a heartfelt and deep video. It feels like psych2go

Jaiden: Someone shouldn't ever need you. They should want you. Romantic Movies: Wha'd you say?

@shaina4891

2 жыл бұрын

Ifkr! The idea of love they project is really toxic if you ask me (I know you didn't but still) It's just that the whole "I'll die without you" facade is really shitty.

@TheWorldPillow

2 жыл бұрын

@@shaina4891 Strong agree.

@RAINY7701

2 жыл бұрын

100% AGREED. You should NOT need anyone to survive, unless there is a valid reason to require help from another individual. (I.e caretakers). YOU SHOULD NOT USE OTHERS AS A TOOL FOR YOUR SURVIVAL. This idea is toxic asf and annoying to hear about for the millionth time. (Sorry this kinda became a rant)

@FlakeTillman

2 жыл бұрын

You should see what Hollywood producers do behind the scenes... (Seriously. Those movies are made by sick people.)

@LucienAnimations

2 жыл бұрын

Dum you are so rude to her i don't know why people hate her she is awesome👍🙄

Jaiden: Not responsible for anyone's happiness. Person: But I'm a therapist.

@marco_panda4606

3 жыл бұрын

Therapy gives people the tools to help them fix themselves

@lightning2738

3 жыл бұрын

Okay gray area there.

@crazybot1123

3 жыл бұрын

Alright, grey area.

@PLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEWORK

3 жыл бұрын

Or a mother

@linguine_noodle

3 жыл бұрын

I’d just like to say that therapists have the job of helping people and/or giving them the professional social/emotional help they need. Therapists are responsible for helping people to change into being the better version of themselves’ in order to make their life more enjoyable, but, therapists do not control the people they see. If their visitors refuse the advice they are given and decide to be so incompetent that they block out any useful information towards a better path to the future, the therapist is not responsible. (Y’all probably know this, I just wanted to comment it)

I have sent this video to two of my friends when they were in toxic relationships, and used the eight points you listed out around eight minutes and thirty seconds in to help them figure things out. Thank you SO much.

I just broke off a 10 year friendship because me and the friend had grown apart and they lashed out at me and started blaming me for situations I can’t control. Breaking my friendship off with them will most likely cause most of my friendships to disappear which I’m terrified of, but this video made me feel more confident about my choice. It reminded me why I broke it off

Jaiden: *Swears in a video* KZread: RED FLAG

@wesleysceilingfanjoint5255

5 жыл бұрын

Dang right

@nethascotx24

5 жыл бұрын

Well it's not technically a swear as she didn't say the last letter

@peachy1954

5 жыл бұрын

@@nethascotx24 yeah but this is KZread. stop doing drugs your high sis

@wesleysceilingfanjoint5255

5 жыл бұрын

@@nethascotx24 yeah she definitely did say the last letter on

@girlyvideos2809

5 жыл бұрын

Dean lol

"NOT responsible for anyone's happiness!" "But.. I'm Santa Claus..?" "..." "Alright, grey area."

@8-bitgiraffe917

3 жыл бұрын

thomas jefferson

@8-bitgiraffe917

3 жыл бұрын

@g@m3 i said that because of the op's profile picture. it's daveed diggs playing thomas jefferson in the hamilton musical

@moonie9750

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao

@pansyflower9697

3 жыл бұрын

What about Cupid?

@mayar404_

3 жыл бұрын

It's at 4:49 btw

Every once in a while I'll come back to this video, I've had a couple toxic relationships, one was more recent and we were friends for a long time with no problems and randomly they became sour. I doubt myself a lot on if I am actually " in the right" but this video always helps me realize and remember that I did all I could before it went bad and that I didn't do anything to cause it to happen. Thank you ❤️

@Kirbzi

Жыл бұрын

I've recently had to ask my best friend of a few years to give me some space and leave me alone for a few days, I felt horrible for doing this but he has slowly become much more toxic over the past few weeks and it is starting to negatively impact me. I know I will thank myself for this in a few weeks time. Like this video says, we are not responsible for other peoples happiness. Hopefully you are in a better place now and have found some new people to bring some positivity into your life!

when this video first got uploaded it helped me so much with a toxic friend , i literally sent it to them in our groupchat and everyone agreed cause we've been thinking it. I always end up coming back to this video every so often, it really helps me ground myself and remind me about really important relationship things

When someone drinks straight out of the milk carton RED FLAG

@belleyelena7720

5 жыл бұрын

Just drinking plain milk is a red flag :/

@crystalbubbleaj7581

5 жыл бұрын

TJ Shavis oh darn they caught us

@fangirlgames6963

5 жыл бұрын

🚩

@bella9590

5 жыл бұрын

BOTH OF YALL ARE WRONG

@claritycw6424

5 жыл бұрын

Yes thank u

I saw something once that said: “When you’re wearing rose-colored glasses, the red flags just look like normal flags.”

@clastophobic

4 жыл бұрын

quote from Bojack Horseman

@endergirldragon

4 жыл бұрын

Hahahahha *My glasses are pink*

@chaos7076

4 жыл бұрын

Wha

@spreademu1218

4 жыл бұрын

Every 60 seconds a minuet passes in Africa.

@lex1212

4 жыл бұрын

how does that mean anything /im14andthisisdeep

I like the pile example because it symbolizes that it's perfectly fine to help them out a bit with what you can without neglecting your own mental health but it's important to set boundaries about how much you can handle helping with

I remember watching this years ago when it first dropped, it was great back then, but I didn't realise how much I needed this now... Just had to go NC with someone and this helped bring context to things and validated my actions... Thank you Jaiden

”When you look at somebody through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just looks like flags” - Wanda Pierce

@Lol-zw8ks

4 жыл бұрын

Damn that’s a good fucking quote holy shit

@warrena5515

4 жыл бұрын

Bojack moment

@certifiedtoaster2425

4 жыл бұрын

I used to be in a really famous teee vee show...

@livlovd6380

4 жыл бұрын

So like if you look at someone you “love” the red flags arent as visible?

@warrena5515

4 жыл бұрын

@@livlovd6380 no shit

"Are my other friends gonna do it?" *smacks face into the pile of coke*

@soulextracter

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah I know right! My gf is sleeping behind me, and I'm trying to be quiet, then all of a sudden "PAFF" and I break out laughing like a donkey!

@kaylascott3339

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@Insertcashorselectpaymenttypee

5 жыл бұрын

XD tru

@ProfessionalNoob123xyd

5 жыл бұрын

The horrible story of a man that was forced to connect his youtube account to google+ k

@alejandroperales1316

5 жыл бұрын

ThatGirlInTheComments 500th like baby

ironically I watched this video when I was in a toxic 5 year relationship, and i remember thinking nothing was wrong at the time and applied the video to other people in my life in my head. But revisiting the video really makes the parts of us that didn't work out become glaringly obvious, goes to show that hindsight is 20/20. I know the things i messed up in the relationship, and am more aware of the things my partner did behind my back now that we are done. i love your videos jaiden, keep it up!

Some parts of this episode remind of this movie, "Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind". It's a good movie and it pretty much says some hard truth about the relationships

Moral of the story: *don’t be friends with anyone unless they are fertilizer*

@sofi_sticado111

5 жыл бұрын

Quote of the year

@maythegamer1291

5 жыл бұрын

What if they’re animals living in the plants?

@jadinrobinson603

5 жыл бұрын

I subed to you because that cat is cute

@gamingcookiereal

5 жыл бұрын

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

@Bennie_Tziek

5 жыл бұрын

Or if they are Santa

Jaiden: THAT"S TOXIC AS SHIIIIIIII KZread: RED FLAG

@thatguy5720

4 жыл бұрын

Lol

@Rapidihnov2

4 жыл бұрын

No it’s Jaiden: THATS TOXIC A SHIIIIII KZread: YELLOW SIGN

@galaxyadalyn1324

4 жыл бұрын

Lol😂

@guxkkusamamama

4 жыл бұрын

XD IM DEAD XDXDDXDXDXD

@trashwolf9563

4 жыл бұрын

Ah! She didn’t say the whole word!

Thank you, jaiden. I've been going through some tough friendship changes. 0:46 -1:21 hit home for me rewatching this video. This has helped me understand my situation more clearly & about myself as well :)

thank you for this, it's so hard to manage yourself around relationships. this video really helped me a lot in realizing and taking action even though it hurts but I guess things just need to change

"don't let them forcefully shove their junk on you" -jaiden 2019

@moxximain

5 жыл бұрын

DIRTY MIND TEST!!!

@hellryderplayz1854

5 жыл бұрын

doing that is something called rape i suppose

@sunclove3554

5 жыл бұрын

I S T H A T A N A N T I R A P E J O K E ? SJWs 2019: BURN IT WITH FIRE!

@velconx15

5 жыл бұрын

Wait what?

@velconx15

5 жыл бұрын

How is it dirty mindex?

“Don’t tolerate any pollution, you are the one who has to live in it, and you deserve clean air.” -Jaiden Animations What a great quote honestly. (Fixed my comment)

@shinyzane2660

3 жыл бұрын

first reply of 337 likes lol

@shanonymous2010

3 жыл бұрын

@@shinyzane2660 what lol

@shinyzane2660

3 жыл бұрын

@@shanonymous2010 i was the first reply to your comment

@aydenday5805

3 жыл бұрын

That freaking hit different oh my gosh

@daithioloinsigh

3 жыл бұрын

Ye

Thank you for this video! It helped me to notice that I need some distance in one relationship (non romantic, more familial). Just because they want me, I don't need to be close to them.

I saved this video and reflect back onto it when ever things feel fishy for me or a friend who is telling me about a crappy person. I normally watch through and if a friend needs it send it to them. It’s always nice to have a refresher

Jaiden: No one wakes up and says "Ha, ha I'm going to be really manipulative today." Greg Heffley: Hold my soda.

@ashlynnmalone6109

4 жыл бұрын

I fucking snorted, how dare you (translation from gayngry: thanks I needed this)

@Gabi-ej5rb

4 жыл бұрын

I’ve committed nose exhale

@slimjim658

4 жыл бұрын

* exhales * yep

@mo7a1xy60

4 жыл бұрын

Ray Diaz too

@ohmyohnothegrapesarecoming2011

4 жыл бұрын

ahahahahahahahahahaahahahahahaahahahahahaha

Now that I'm out of a toxic relationship, this video hits different.

@MalakSmalak

3 жыл бұрын

I had a super toxic friend. We used to always fall out and he would always find i way to lay the blame on me, making me feel like it was my fault we were in this shithole of a situation to begin with. What i didn't know, is that we fell out because he didn't agree with what i did. He didn't like what i did so that made it a problem. This is a brief rundown of what happened. Me: 'Hey i'm going to go hang out with (insert random friend name here) today!' Him: 'So you're just going to leave me alone? What the hell is wrong with you. I thought we were close friends. You always treat me like shit!' You see where i'm coming from?

@velmadinkly1093

3 жыл бұрын

@@MalakSmalak ah yeah. I had a friend like that. She was awful but I then I moved so it was fine I guess

@MalakSmalak

3 жыл бұрын

@@velmadinkly1093 oof sorry to hear that :(

@felinefrost7023

3 жыл бұрын

I’m proud of all of you in the comments who got out of that It takes a lot of strength so good job

@MalakSmalak

3 жыл бұрын

@@felinefrost7023 well it most certainly takes a lot of strength to say you are proud of someone! Thank you :)

This video taught me to stand up for myself and put myself first when I would always justify someone else's behaviour. I am proud of myself for making the right decision. I also learnt what is toxic within me. I do not vocalise what I feel or need when it is required.I must learn to stop being embarrassed of my own wants, needs and emotions. I am not too much or too sensitive for being the way I am. Further, a reminder to everyone. None of us are perfect human beings. We are all flawed. In fact, incredibly flawed human beings. So, I want you let be less harsh on yourself. If you are toxic in some ways or were, do your best to work on it! No one can perfectly eliminate the ugly sides of ourselves but we can always try to reflect on ourselves each day, be mindful and progress. Being too mindful is very stressful! Relax, do what is best in your consciousness and enjoy life :)

I'm really glad I stumbled along to watch this video. Thank you. I've been struggling with a situation and at least for a little bit it brought some calm to that storm :)

My health teacher played this in class, best teacher ever

@johannamorales3478

2 жыл бұрын

:0

@verzionhorizon

2 жыл бұрын

i want that teacher.

@insectcat7057

2 жыл бұрын

I wish mine did, we had this exact same talk but longer and more confusing so playing this video would have saved multiple weeks worth of thought and agony.

@lamp888

2 жыл бұрын

Yasss

@verzionhorizon

2 жыл бұрын

wait your a lamp? well you better be careful of moth then-

As Garnet once said: *“Your soulmate Is your complement not your missing piece”*

@hyperkitten2247

4 жыл бұрын

sup fellow fan

@r3trobananas33

4 жыл бұрын

Imagine when they turn to the gem, they just remake into a jewelry store

@Isaacindelicato123

4 жыл бұрын

Complement*

@johnmurcott1273

4 жыл бұрын

I'm a therapist

@johnmurcott1273

4 жыл бұрын

Do therapists have to help people

This video helped me so much on relationships. I watched it ages ago and liked it despite being young and not understanding it a lot, I really liked it and watched it every year since. it's really helped me and given me a good understanding on relationships, whether it be friends or partners

When someone's gonna swear in your Christian Minecraft server *_RED FLAG_*

@emilyr6510

5 жыл бұрын

*police sirens*

@emilyr6510

5 жыл бұрын

DO NOT SAY POTTY WORDS LIKE POOP OR FRICK ON MY CHRISTIAN MINECRAFT SERVER * Nuclear explosion *

@justposeidon3810

5 жыл бұрын

I'm Gonna Curse And No One Can Stop Me! *Inhales* H E C C

@haydens2361

5 жыл бұрын

Scott! Yass

@LiarLiarPlantsforHire

5 жыл бұрын

Dead meme

“Yeet toxic people out, yoink good people in” -Mahatma Gandhi

@lilywoodrow7881

5 жыл бұрын

Mind if I use that for my research paper?

@-acne

5 жыл бұрын

I have to yeet more than anything else :,,)

@ArthurSilva-ql4zd

5 жыл бұрын

alpha bet Subscribe to Pewdiepie, also T-gei

@HotDogSkins

5 жыл бұрын

I thought she was gonna cuss

@wolfsmith7285

5 жыл бұрын

I mean in reality it'll get to the point where relationships wont exists seriously i mean now a days toxicity is nearly over 75% 🙏💥cant wait for the earth to end at some time period 👌

I've used this video to help other friends for many years, and now this year I'm using it to help myself. I even have the hard pill section clipped for repeated mantras and for slapping at friends who are struggling with this kind of thing. Codependency can sneak up on you no matter how healthy or well meaning you are. Thanks for this wonderful bite-sized video of self affirmation. It'll be a while before I feel better, but I can rest easy knowing that eventually I will. ♥

When someone says “did I ask” every time you say anything. RED FLAG

@christiehuckleberry7685

4 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU

@ilovjello13

4 жыл бұрын

Bright PE did I ask?

@ilovjello13

4 жыл бұрын

Bright PE lmao jk

@seth_7197

4 жыл бұрын

Lol

@derppan9215

4 жыл бұрын

DiD i AsK?!?!?

I love how Toga wakes up and is like: haha, I'm gonna be super manipulative today

@newalbacore8352

3 жыл бұрын

yeppp, time to go manipulate uraraka and deku hehe

@Someone-vk6pl

3 жыл бұрын

Me: sees this Me: ARI!!!!!!!!!!!! LIKE ARI!!!

@_Lynx_kitty_

3 жыл бұрын

Haha yeah

@vibinqx

3 жыл бұрын

I watched this so many times already and now I have only realized that’s toga 👁👄👁

@sfoliver

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao I didn't think anyone else knew who that was

This honestly just helped me so much, I recently left one of my best friends cause they were super toxic and did a lot of this and it was so hard because I keep thinking that I should just go back or talk to her cause she is going through kinda a hard time. But this just helped and now whenever I want yo I just think “ your not responsible for anyone’s happiness but yourselves” 😌

You know, i watch this video at least twice a year. This is by far one of the best video on youtube you could watch to slowly heal and get back self-confidence. This video is extraordinary pure and full of kindness as much as good for putting limits where they need to. Jaiden, you can't imagine how much this video has helped me so I want to say: Thank you

_when someone sneezes with their eyes open_ *_RED FLAG_*

@thehat371

4 жыл бұрын

*impossible*

@memorableman3709

4 жыл бұрын

If someone does that, they are not human.

@-cosmiclown-

4 жыл бұрын

Hold up

@irislxv

4 жыл бұрын

Did you know sneezing with your eyes open is actually bad for you?

@its_eva

4 жыл бұрын

The moØn playzz no coz it’s legit impossible a human can’t physical sneeze with their eyes open

When you hear someone knocking your door and it says "You forgot your French lessons" *_RED FLAG_*

@smildoddlesXD

5 жыл бұрын

ehehehehehheheeh

@burdenuner9084

5 жыл бұрын

Beg for your life in spanish

@dragonz3037

5 жыл бұрын

NO DUO! DON'T DO IT!!

@wolfheart8604

5 жыл бұрын

Getting a notification for that same thing JUST as I read this comment? Red flag. *BIG RED FLAG*

@DiamondRose

5 жыл бұрын

I’m gonna go do some Spanish now.....

Jaiden, I hope you realize how much this video (and a few others) helped us become happier by learning more about who we are, what we desire, and shaping our boundaries. It's "only" been 4 years this video came out now, but I can see how much things changed for me in the meantime, and how, without even knowing it, this video (alon with many many other experiences) shaped who I am today, and the fact I'm happier everyday with who I am and where I am :) I still have a long way to go and a lot of things are unsure for me, but I learn about myself and better interacting with people every day, my friends are the best I could have hoped for and I found ways to easily come back to a safe space when necessary. I don't tire myself out every day anymore, and I try to enjoy life as much as I can before getting to the next step, be it through hobbies, relationships, silly stuff or whatever else I'm so happy I can call myself happy

this video is so important to me, it's helped me so much and really changed the way i view things. no joke i send this video to my teachers if they ever even MENTION something along these lines (and they always love it)

"Don't let them forcefully shove their junk on you" -Jaiden 2019

@vico1054

5 жыл бұрын

Loki the kitten ikr

@criticalgamerx172

5 жыл бұрын

9/10 Kids don't understand this joke

@pineapple3555

5 жыл бұрын

Ew lmaooooo

@pineapple3555

5 жыл бұрын

I didn’t even realize that... I’m never gonna unhear that xD

@justsomeguy144

5 жыл бұрын

Her chuckle after saying that though.

"Responsibilities aren't just assigned to you." Schools: I'm gonna pretend I didn't see that.

@justsomeguy144

3 жыл бұрын

The guidance counselor: No No... He's got a point.

@SOMEONE-pr8qp

3 жыл бұрын

Expooooosssssseeeeddddd

@trevorbean1534

3 жыл бұрын

Employers: Nothing to see here...

@patriciafarrelly1068

3 жыл бұрын

Parents: yea... just schools..

@brodysawa5563

3 жыл бұрын

666th like

tysm for this, i was going through a hard time and you helped me detatch from them. now that i confronted him he is acting as the victim. even though he hurt me so much and technecally cheated on me he did way more and hes acting like i did way more. im still recovering and i js wanna say ty, i hope this video helps others ❤

this is a really valuable piece of info that is essential for maintaining healthy dynamics. positive and negative relationships are both incredibly nuanced. like you said, most people don’t wake up and decide to be manipulative. it’s usually a product of their environment or something that harmed them. fear and control are, unfortunately, powerful driving forces for questionable behaviour. and i don’t think any of us get out of this without being influenced by one or the other. it’s most important to see where those two factors come into play and how they contribute to our interactions. where is the lack coming from? that’s how we can pinpoint it and begin repairing the damages.

Jaiden: "NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYONES HAPPINESS" Me: "W-what if I'm a therapist"

@SahloFolina2161

4 жыл бұрын

Flute&Clarinet Duet Mmmm grey area....

@michaelhaukaas5526

4 жыл бұрын

Can't work harder than the client. You equip them with tools, but they have to use them.

@Inanedata

4 жыл бұрын

Therapist in training here, professionally responsible for helping people in a variety of ways but never personally responsible. being personally responsible is a great way to hurt your client and yourself.

@Krewton08

4 жыл бұрын

Gray area

@falcon5178

4 жыл бұрын

alright gray area

"No one wakes up and is like "haha, I'm gonna be super manipulative today!" " You're right. You can all trust me.

@Destinyawe

2 жыл бұрын

I will do whatever you ask. I pledge myself to your teachings.

@krysticblue1336

2 жыл бұрын

*heavy breathing* HUAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

@olisbricks2468

2 жыл бұрын

Why does she look like toga from mha

@Sammy_Wammy_

2 жыл бұрын

@@olisbricks2468 she does

@shantanuurgunde2013

2 жыл бұрын

did anyone notice toga?

rewatching this video after leaving toxic friends really hits different. made me learn that it’s really not easy to spot manipulation. stay safe out there.

4 years later and I found this video. An old friend and me were friends since Reception. Lately he has become a bit more manipulative and wierd and I don't know why but then this video popped up on my For You. I watched it to see what it was about and it helped really well. I supported him on what he needed to improve on and helped him go see therapy. Even though we aren't in touch anymore I'm glad I helped him through this video. Thank you Jaiden

Can't be in a harmful relationship if you have no relationship I'm so lonely

@coolerthanyou6040

5 жыл бұрын

Noble Aura Me and my grades are starting to have a bad relationship. XD

@Rayan-qk2xw

5 жыл бұрын

I don't know whether to laugh or cry from the relatability.

@salamiguy8064

5 жыл бұрын

@@medicbag7526 ;-; so true

@pikasheep

5 жыл бұрын

I feel ya buddy 😔

@DasBrot-tf6vm

5 жыл бұрын

@@Lightboxy Bro, it's a joke. BUT if it had been true that's some good advice

i love this video sm. i always come back to it every now and then

I come back to watch this video every now and then because I’m not good at relationships. I have a friend I haven’t known for long and I’ve been open about the fact that I am insecure about relationships

"You're not responsible for someone else's happiness." This is a truth that's really hard to learn but very important to accept.

@somethingunusual8456

3 жыл бұрын

I'd love to print it and put in my forehead, so that MAYBE that one specific person would finally get it.

@elanorpuppydoggowoofles2147

3 жыл бұрын

@singularling It's harder when you lived a life where making others happy is practically survival and just an instinct. Edit: grammar mistake.

@sridaran2666

3 жыл бұрын

"but i'm santa clause"

@peachesandcream333

3 жыл бұрын

I cant stop myself from doing this yet lol. I need to go to a rage room XD

@peachesandcream333

3 жыл бұрын

@@elanorpuppydoggowoofles2147 omg so right, I didn't know how to put it into words lol

"dont let them forcefully shove their junk on you." oh.

@aaliyah214

4 жыл бұрын

oH

@pelican7235

4 жыл бұрын

OH

@squippites7356

4 жыл бұрын

iiKyanite OH FU-

@TheGibusDemo

4 жыл бұрын

Oh wow

@daboiboi4726

4 жыл бұрын

Oh God

I watched this year's ago and when it came to the part where I'm not responsible for others junk I purposely ignored that part and said but I have to be a good person and help others out to my best degree . Now that I finally realized how a person who chased your best friend around with a knife they brought to school is NOT a person I should date and try to "save" . Thank you for your amazing advice sorry I didn't listen to it before .

Don’t measure a relationship on happiness. Happiness is a state of mind. For instance you could be happy you got your dream job, a good job that pays your bills and affords you a reasonably comfortable life. That doesn’t mean you’re going to be happy everyday of your life. So many factors go into your happiness. For instance you can base your happiness on what you don’t have and what other do have on social media… (etc) everyone talks about red flags, that’s a negative outlook and can manipulate you from seeing and noticing the good flags. A “green flag” would be, for instance, someone who has a reasonable base of happiness, and emotional stability. Great video, got me thinking…

"Someone shouldn't need you, they should want you." Yea, I found that out the hard way. That's why I love my friend group now.

@kaprecerajkumar9618

3 жыл бұрын

Good for you @Koshi Sugawara stay strong

@Booeyb800

3 жыл бұрын

Have you ever pooped your pants thinking it's a fart

@the_great_mammon

3 жыл бұрын

@Kenma Kuzume Hey Kenma!!

@the_great_mammon

3 жыл бұрын

@Sk Can Thank you! To you too!

@the_great_mammon

3 жыл бұрын

@@kaprecerajkumar9618 Thank you so much

*”It’s not selfish to want the best for yourself”* I really really need to learn that. Tysm Jaiden (and Katie!)

@todorokishoto2176

4 жыл бұрын

For me it is

@teagannam

4 жыл бұрын

Todoroki Shoto fALSEHOOD this applies to literally everybody. It’s completely natural and healthy to want the best for yourself and if someone calls you selfish for caring abt yourself, cut them out!! It’s not that you shouldn’t care abt yourself, it’s that they don’t care abt YOU.

@taylorcampbell2653

4 жыл бұрын

I agree

@meganparker550

4 жыл бұрын

i liked this now it has 666 likes. I will unlike it to keep it holy but know i like this comment uwu

@doris4469

4 жыл бұрын

It is selfish, but who said selfishness is evil?

The thing I'm calling ''The Island Mindset'' has helped me! Basically, I ask my self ''Is this person helping my island/ecosystem?'' and if they aren't... 6:40

Everyone’s talking about the other people’s happiness line but I absolutely adore and cannot stop thinking about the Santa Claus grey area line

Me: but...I have kids? Jaiden: NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYONES HAPPINESS !!!!!

@mcdowneywhite279

5 жыл бұрын

You here of the giving tree?

@Technoanima

5 жыл бұрын

It’s a grey area! 🤣 Plenty of standards to follow. In dog country, it’s the moment your kid starts yapping back at you.

@patrickmccarthy349

5 жыл бұрын

But I'm a therapist

@pointyfingersazel5986

5 жыл бұрын

thats wrong but its still funny

@genomerc

5 жыл бұрын

@@mcdowneywhite279 *hear

“*Don’t let them forcefully shove their junk on you*” You’re right! **Tell them to start recycling!!**

@07burchan

4 жыл бұрын

Ye save the Earth

@tobikeepstalking9071

4 жыл бұрын

Make bad thoughts happy : D

@vekopt

4 жыл бұрын

Hehe

@datgamerian

4 жыл бұрын

it's funny because it has a rape connotation haha

@thatoneguy9983

4 жыл бұрын

Owo

bro i needed this video for the last 6 months my girlfriend has been manipulating me exactly like this it got to the point that is was difficult to think about anything else and it took until a week ago to really realize that it could not be healthy i was bassically doing anything and everything to make her happy at the expense of my own mental health, it sounds litterally exactly like this video its scary im just so happy im out of it and my real friends are amazing for helping me notice it and break away

Ty jaiden you made me realize that I was in a toxic situation and that all that time I was working on someone’s else’s island and not mine. Your probably not going to see this but if you do you make a lot of people aware of there situation and you are helping a lot of people because of that

Don't let them forcefully shove their junk on you. Jaiden Animations 2019

@everlels7608

4 жыл бұрын

CONTEXT MATTERS Vanossgaming 2015

@madelinebogle7475

4 жыл бұрын

A good message for both meanings and contexts

@sm1purplmurderedme583

4 жыл бұрын

Thunder Waffle that’s what she said ;))

@hazy3870

4 жыл бұрын

Con👏text!

@neckbite9159

4 жыл бұрын

Best analogy ever

jaiden is literally my youtuber therapist rn lol

@youdontknowme6101

3 жыл бұрын

Yee mine too lol

@Axel-tn8gk

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@doom_0606

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@doom_0606

3 жыл бұрын

Jaiden is VERY cool

@ice.102

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

Hiii! As a person who has best friends in a toxic relationship i agree with evrything Jaden says in this video (one year ago i confroted my old best friend and she rolled her eyes and laughed said i was to emotional, my family disliked her evry year we were friends) Stay safe and healthy yal! And remeber! Your needs come first, if the person you suspect of being toxic cant understand that then drop them as soon as possible! Or if they are willing to work on it! Give them a chance❤