I did the step father thing..after the divorce..she did not let the kids talk to me..I raised them for 10 years..luckily now that they are adults we have all reconnected. They realize what their mother had done..looking back on it. I wouldn’t do it again and I would advise any man not too. Start your own legacy.

@abdulwakeel5598

17 күн бұрын

@@mydogmarleyandme.4325 you still a simp

@BlaydeAlabama

17 күн бұрын

Is virtually impossible because most men and women are having children in their early to mid-20s. That was going on for gen x and y so you know it's going to happen for Z too. Someone else's children can also be your legacy.. Don't forget the Bible says It takes a village to raise a child. The village matters. A legacy is leaving a piece of yourself behind in other people. That doesn't start or end with bio children... Didn't they come back? LEGACY 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 U sum right

@inhumanjoey310

17 күн бұрын

I did it too. They still rock wit me. My step pops is the shit. My brother has no kids. I tell him, don't do the step pops thang. It ain't worth it. Your 1st kid should be hers.

@inhumanjoey310

17 күн бұрын

​@@BlaydeAlabamavillage ain't there no more.

@buki3009

17 күн бұрын

​@@BlaydeAlabama No

For a man that been through that step dad role. It’s not worth it men…

@zopound7688

17 күн бұрын

💯

@GentlemensDialogue

17 күн бұрын

Single mothers = smash only

@umbreonix

17 күн бұрын

@@GulimeetswrldI wish you luck man. There are some horror stories out here

@danjjice

16 күн бұрын

& I agree 💯 % . You more like a A.T.M

@_MoneyMike_

16 күн бұрын

Idk what make yall do it in the first place

When my mom failed as a wife, the men in my mom's family and my paternal grandfather took me in. If anyone "should" raise another man's child, it should be people who are related by blood. Don't put that responsibility on an unrelated man.

@broinsocali

49 минут бұрын

Great point

Whether you're a stepdad, a real dad or don't have any kids at all, being a man is a thankless existence. Especially these days.

@jaykisuke3397

17 күн бұрын

Maybe to you but being a man of God is everything

@BlaydeAlabama

17 күн бұрын

Alot men feel this way.. it's not true. The ENEMY will put all the negative in our face so you'll completely by pass the exceptions. I myself & the women I'm friends or associated with Love & Honor Good Hearted Black Men! Just some KANGS🤣

@BlaydeAlabama

17 күн бұрын

​@@jaykisuke3397 Facts! Both sexes feel like that & it's just NOT true. SM makes me sick. It perpetuates the notion. The Enemy is a LIE

@zayinseven7923

17 күн бұрын

@@jaykisuke3397 as crazy as it seems, I agree with both of ya'll statements. God may love and appreciate us, but the world doesn't. You can even look at the prophecy of Adam when he got kicked out the garden and what was stated to him. Also Ecclesiastes 7.28 Proverbs 31.10

@buffalo.blackk

17 күн бұрын

Uh, no. 👎 You’re equating being a stepdad with being an actual father. This is ludicrous. In America, stepfathers have zero rights. Real fathers have some rights. But there are hundreds of countries where men are respected, there is no child support laws, and where men get first choice to have the kids since they are the providers. Also, having no kids is all what you make it. It is not thankless because you are not seeking the approval of a woman or children. Terrible and flawed comment.

I read a quote that argues that single mothers are dating guys they normally wouldn't deal with if she didn't have a child. Just think about the times you were ghosted for months/years, and then she calls you with a baby crying in the background

@rondolbalfour1856

17 күн бұрын

Yeah I saw that quote, dat shii real

@zayinseven7923

17 күн бұрын

My thought was similar to that. If you can be honest with yourself and discern that she wouldn't want you if she was single w/o a child, Why would you disrespect yourself and take her with a child?? And some of the honest truth is alot of men knows this but if she is attractive enough he'll take it as a deal, its like getting a hot girl on discount. His intentions are getting the woman, he doesn't care about the child(ren). And then theres the single mothers mad & bitter because they cannot get the men they actually desire because they have a kid and feel its "unfair" that they are not desirable by the majority of men. They are "settling" for their limited options now.

@rondolbalfour1856

17 күн бұрын

@@zayinseven7923 facts

@misskeah8893

17 күн бұрын

​@@zayinseven7923men do this too...but yeah don't settle or date if you not going to be serious

@StylezYung

17 күн бұрын

😅 u must be young Yes single mothers are low hanging fruit ... This has been a thing since like the 60s it's just as in like the last 20yrs it's been normalized but back in the day single mothers were looked down upon to be dating. They were expected to remain single, attend church, and or find a husband. Now single mothers are all u see in the club ... A single mother with kids/Children in the streets was such a taboo

"Build your own family. Stay away from readymade families". -- Confucius (500 BC) Translated to plain English: STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM SINGLE MOTHERS.

@denzel1877

15 күн бұрын

I agree that a man must build his own family and stay away from single mothers, but Confucious never said that.

@aquarianrain9082

13 күн бұрын

Should women stay away from single fathers? Just curious on your ideology...

@netpasya

13 күн бұрын

@@aquarianrain9082 If a woman doesn't have children, then "YES". That's not a hard concept.

@QueMari

11 күн бұрын

@@aquarianrain9082Yes. It goes both ways.

@dubblebarrelnoyz1862

10 күн бұрын

It will always turn bad

Us men without children don’t give a damn good luck ladies yall know everything and we can’t tell yall shit 😂

Keisha only wants Pookie. Good Men get Used. That's the truth.

@tymitch3207

17 күн бұрын

Pookie is good at making them FEEL like they're gettin a good deal😂 it's all game, and sellin em a dream. the programming is crazy right?

@MDENT313

17 күн бұрын

@@mr.dccomics9018 Amen

@misskeah8893

17 күн бұрын

Good women get used by men, and your point?

@tymitch3207

17 күн бұрын

@misskeah8893 Good Men catches on to the game and become like that from experiencing and watching other Men have bad experiences w some toxic females..even the ones that are half decent have an underhanded way about them...its like you have to be messed up yourself in order to be w these woman

@Laoriginal718

17 күн бұрын

Goes both ways. Good women get looked over for 304’s all the time.

I rather start my own legacy

@DarkAngel-im5bh

16 күн бұрын

As you suppose to do brother

@MasterK4eva

14 күн бұрын

Same here man. 💯🎯💣🥂🕯👏🏾👑

@joedon-hb4nl

12 күн бұрын

Look up the definition of legacy ya using words and don’t know the meaning

@keevandrayton

12 күн бұрын

Agreed

@keevandrayton

12 күн бұрын

I tried it but I prefer to date a woman without kids less stressful and painful

Being a step parent is a thankless and under appreciated job period.

@Saviiq

17 күн бұрын

Not for everyone

@DenesiaWilliams1888

16 күн бұрын

@Saviiq and most of the time the children aren't the issue. It's the other parents smh

@KingCoupaSDN

13 күн бұрын

For men. You come in on a man and his kids… you become another mouth to feed and another financial liability

@DenesiaWilliams1888

13 күн бұрын

@@KingCoupaSDN are you saying the woman becomes another mouth to feed?

@lilikaramirez1848

10 күн бұрын

​@@Saviiq I'm sure one out of every 100 exists🙄

How about apologizing to your kids for trying to raise them with a man that’s not their biological father. Would be a great start

@edwardflounoy7207

17 күн бұрын

Facts

@bensisko-theemissary4940

17 күн бұрын

That would mean accountability. They avoid that like the actors in the Matrix.

@inhumanjoey310

17 күн бұрын

​@@edwardflounoy7207💯 I'm one of those kids. Moms died 15 years ago. I have 2 daughters 2 BMS. My kids rock wit me. We hang out all the time. Blood I wish I had my pops. I literally have no parents.

@zayinseven7923

17 күн бұрын

Thats deep. Deeper than what most ppl might think.

@johniferhall7253

17 күн бұрын

I'm also 1 of those kids. Funny part. Neither parent loved me the same after they separated. It's like to My dad. I became a reminder of his failed relationship. And to mom a liability. To her n her new relationship. I def felt this conversation.

As a woman I don't wanna be a stepmom either. I would love to experience parenthood with someone who it's their first time too.

@KyRoTV91

17 күн бұрын

🎯

@geminitwin5525

17 күн бұрын

I agree.

@thomaspostman9175

17 күн бұрын

Yall should really stop doing that. There's magnitudes more single moms than single dad's. It's a problem on the women's side.

@BlaydeAlabama

17 күн бұрын

I used to say the same thing and I'm so glad that I didn't let my assumptions lead. My twin stepsons were 2 when my husband and I met and they just graduated from high school. It has been such a joy and a pleasure being his wife and their bonus mom. I would not have known what I was missing and I just thank God that I get to experience it everyday 🙏🏼💯 The Holy Spirit prepared me mind body & spirit right after he proposed. He knew what he had to do for me 🤣💯 I'm a FOOL

@JohnSmith-gz5pm

17 күн бұрын

@@thomaspostman9175EXACTLY! Women are attracted to the same men. They’re SHARING the same men! Then they’ll turn around and expect the hard working “boring” men that they passed up before, to help them raise someone else’s kid. Then they have the nerve to get mad when men refuse to do so and go deal with younger, childless women.

“Step crash dummy.” 😂😂

@chromepixels8922

11 күн бұрын

Stepfather = StepDummy

God help the kids growing up today. Most are raised by single women with no life or parenting skills.

@eliot5220

14 күн бұрын

@@EducatedBlackMan Notice how crime has really gotten worse in the last two decades. I believe it’s due to the lack of fathers in the home. It’s mostly young men committing the crimes.

Currently doing the stepdad thing and I wouldn’t recommend it fellas 🤦🏾‍♂️ 9yrs and the dad decided to come back around and man the disrespect is crazy I had the realization that I’m not her father but I have the responsibility of taking care of her while he gets all the love and respect it’s hard

I’m thankful that my dad helped to raise me. I wasn’t biologically his but he made my life better. I’m turning 50 and eternally grateful.

@X8ZAD

12 күн бұрын

Thats great but times have changed ma'am

@QueMari

11 күн бұрын

that’s a blessing. But I’m sure your stepfather and mother was from a different generation. Today’s climate is soooo much different

I had to fast forward to the truth smh these women always got a story

@ballen0360

17 күн бұрын

I did the same. I can't listen to their stories anymore.

If a woman asks me if I want to be a stepdad to her child, I’ll respectfully answer that question to my following question: like “would you want your son to be a stepdad?” And she says NO, and I said Why? And she says “because I want her son to have a family of his own.” And I said in that response: THAT’S WHY. I have a mother and a father myself who wants me to have a family of my own too. 💯🏆

@wutang23361

17 күн бұрын

That's too much. Just say and keep that ish moving. All that explaining is a waste of time

@TajeniV

17 күн бұрын

@@wutang23361Thats the problem You have to show them how stupid they are Too many men move along without checking these womens stupidity😂

@Missliaz

17 күн бұрын

Just say no and keep it moving like why do u even engage with low value women plenty of single women with no children young and clean out there go meet ur woman and leave the single mums in the misery they belong in

@missjoy6685

17 күн бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@DarkAngel-im5bh

16 күн бұрын

You had to put logic into them…bravo

100 % agree there is no benefit in being a stepfather at all especially with a broken woman who is not over performing in all other aspects of her life, it’s almost impossible for these modern women to add true value and meet a real man’s needs as he would reciprocate to her

@BlaydeAlabama

17 күн бұрын

I have to co-sign on broken people Now. I'm witnessing it right now. What about the women who aren't broken & also the men who aren't broken? These men and women have to link up with somebody to be happy one day s*** You better choose wisely regardless.

@Adotjunior

17 күн бұрын

@@BlaydeAlabama the values have to match it has to be equally yoked with the most high in the center if you want a marriage to work and build a strong family 💯

@misskeah8893

17 күн бұрын

I doubt these men are thinking about the most high when the are hooking up with single mothers or better yet creating single mothers. Instead of telling men to avoid being a stepdad, tell them to stop creating single mothers. Be accountable of their peen​@@Adotjunior

@DominantBlackMaleLeader

17 күн бұрын

@@BlaydeAlabama Are you currently looking for a stepfather to your kids

@markrodrigue6913

17 күн бұрын

@@Adotjunior you said that right

my father and mom got divorced. My dad went on to meet a woman who left her husband and came to the marriage with 2 young boys under 6. My father came up, and put those boys in luxary upper middle class NYC suburbs, private school, AAU teams and college while under his roof. Today me and my step brothers are in our late 40s. They speak to my father about 4-6 times per year.. All the overtime put in to pay mortgage, and he gets not the respect from the children under his roof that he should. The wife respects him, but raising another mans kids didnt give dad the effort he put INTO it

@johnnystudly3778

14 күн бұрын

From your description, your father raised those step brothers to be spoiled, entitled, brats. If you raise a child to be an entitled little shit who only cares about what you can do for them, that is how they are going to turn out. Your step brothers may be now be selfish assholes, but is that their fault or is the fault of how they were raised?

@70two41five

7 күн бұрын

He didn’t respect himself by raising another man’s kids. Especially from a woman that just left her husband for him. How are those step kids supposed to respect that? He broke up their home and facilitated their mom’s philandering. They are treating him exactly how he deserves in my opinion.

@andrewdudley3905

6 күн бұрын

@@70two41five feel the same way, what about the husband that was left, wonder how he felt

This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

@RoyJ.Tillison-tq5ed

15 күн бұрын

I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counsellor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back

@wonhur885

15 күн бұрын

Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?

@RoyJ.Tillison-tq5ed

15 күн бұрын

Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being

@wonhur885

15 күн бұрын

Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.

@RETROESKIMO3ATC

14 күн бұрын

Maybe instead of getting your ex back get yourself bac, sounds like for a man you’re too codependent, that will put her off more work and improve yourself

A man with “options” never chooses the single mom. “All men know this.”

My dad raised another man's kids since they were babies...they act like they don't even know him now since he divorced their mom

@more_life

17 күн бұрын

It’s a terrible existence

@misskeah8893

17 күн бұрын

You should ask them why...I'm quiet sure they have a legit reason for not communicating to him. Ask instead of assuming....

@cephas5053

17 күн бұрын

@@misskeah8893no we rather not. Just say no to being a step parent.

@triptizzle8566

17 күн бұрын

​@misskeah8893 aren't you assuming they have a legitimate reason?

@vinobeans9542

17 күн бұрын

Ungrateful little MFs!

😂😂😂 " Bonus Dads " is crazy thts all you need too know to not ever be one

@miyagifatghost2684

16 күн бұрын

Brooo I was praying I wasn't the only one who caught it. NEVER HEARD THAT ONE BEFORE!! She thought it was cute but she in reality was bragging HER pom pom and what she got with it. To a man's ears that is COLD BLOODED

@creativiety26

16 күн бұрын

@@miyagifatghost2684 right bro its crazy out here

20 yrs ago to be exact, I married a woman with 2 young boys by the same father. Before her, I was the type man who never took a woman with kids seriously. But, she was different we fell in love and the kids were great. I was ready to stop sleeping around and running the streets. The whole family life felt good, she cooked, cleaned and always ready for sex. But, soon after getting married my business started slowing down because of the economy. She starts acting different. Long story short we moved to Atlanta and divorced shortly after getting there. I would not ever recommend marrying a woman with multiple children. There’s probably going to be issues with the baby father. You will spend money on them, all the time. They have to eat and they need things.

@beautifulsoul6535

13 күн бұрын

This same situation could have played out with your own kids. The marriage could have ended and you would have to pay child support and now there a new man in the house. Stop trying to make it seem like these situations are less likely to happen with you own kids. Different ways if course but how do you think single moms are created? With fwb relationships or marriage failed ya’ll can’t be serious. Yall literally just want to crack her first it’s an ego thing

@Footballer85749

12 күн бұрын

​@beautifulsoul6535 you're right but with his own kids it would at least be worth it. He just didn't want to say that part. Truthfully, he just married a gold digger but also doesn't want to say that part.

@beautifulsoul6535

12 күн бұрын

@@Footballer85749 nothing is worth it when you lose love either way. It’s possible she wasn’t a gold digger and honestly did not want to be married anymore. I don’t know why grown adults can’t fathom a relationship ending. People can fall in love multiple times the same way the can fall out of love multiple times. Again we’re grown sometimes kids are a outcome of those situations

@beautifulsoul6535

12 күн бұрын

@@Footballer85749 nothing is worth it when you lose love either way. It’s possible she wasn’t a gold digger and honestly did not want to be married anymore. I don’t know why grown adults can’t fathom a relationship ending. People can fall in love multiple times the same way the can fall out of love multiple times. Again we’re grown sometimes kids are a outcome of those situations

There was a time when women respected men who picked up the pieces. Now the ladies demand that from men without giving them respect, love, or adoration. It’s a fools game to play step dad.

@Jonkin715

17 күн бұрын

Very true. They would demand that their children give them the same respect if they where their own flesh and blood. Now, the stepparent is treated as "birth parent's friend"

@70two41five

7 күн бұрын

Nobody ever respected a step father. They are men with limited options and the women don’t respect them for that. Men with many options don’t choose single moms.

Single mothers are always a bad bet.

@MACHINEmg

17 күн бұрын

Especially if their ABW by far

@misskeah8893

17 күн бұрын

Yeah....same with the men , I agree

@Sheed96

17 күн бұрын

​​@@misskeah8893 lol stop it you're being disingenuous you know damn well single fathers do astronomically better than moms statistically

@darnellrhodes6174

17 күн бұрын

@@misskeah8893The standards between men and women are different. You should know that. A woman with kids is different from men with kids. Most men regardless of their situation view women with kids as a liability. A man with kids is viewed as a preselect man by most women!! That’s the reason between 75-80% of children are fathered by only 20% of men in the black community!! This isn’t new it’s been going on for decades!!

@waynereid3433

17 күн бұрын

@@darnellrhodes6174Typical BW answer 🤣

Don't ever, ever, ever be a step dad to any woman's kids if that man is still alive.

@Missliaz

17 күн бұрын

Even if he ain’t alive it’s bit ur blood so why bother

@misskeah8893

17 күн бұрын

You sound traumatized...

@MrRodsQuadrant

17 күн бұрын

​@@misskeah8893 😂😂😂 Because he's telling the truth, he sounds "traumatized." The jeti mind tricks... Well if that's the case all men should remain traumatized...😂😂😂

@BlaqTearz

17 күн бұрын

@@misskeah8893 yep, however lessons learned

@dukz-gw1gg

17 күн бұрын

Not alive I still wouldn't

Completely depends on your maturity level, the maturity level of the woman, and your attitude towards being a Father and a Husband. My grandfather married my grandmother when she had TWO children. I know women who have married and had children with a second husband and are very happy. Totally depends on the maturity level of everyone involved.

@demetriusjames9535

17 күн бұрын

People were built different in grandfather and grandmother's time. There was something called duty back then...

@miguellorenzo3609

17 күн бұрын

@@demetriusjames9535most importantly men and women knew their roles in a relationship. Today, it’s a tornado of a disaster being with a girl no a days…

@demetriusjames9535

17 күн бұрын

@miguellorenzo3609 True, but The Greatness was absolutely correct. Nowadays, neither the men or the women have matured enough to be together and support themselves; much less each other! We are living in some sad times, indeed...

@DominantBlackMaleLeader

17 күн бұрын

The man’s happiness seems to be irrelevant in the scenarios you proposed. Not surprised 😂 but yes let’s save these queen matriarchs. I got my cape ready bro bro

@QueMari

11 күн бұрын

My grandfather also married my grandmother after she already had TWO sons. But the world was a different place back then. Different era… different generation.

That's the problem. Everybody always doing things out of trying to benefit

In this current western society, there is no win situation of becoming a step father. Alot has to change

@detroitvcw

17 күн бұрын

Definately a net negative in all aspects.

@DarkAngel-im5bh

16 күн бұрын

At all

@RASTAGOOB

16 күн бұрын

Dude! Biologically, it’s bad luck. Nature rejects that easily.

@geraldg350

16 күн бұрын

There has never been any period in history where it was a win lol nature literally punishes it.

My ex had 3 kids, I had none, come to find out her bd was living his best life, never around. She was grateful for the kids, while putting responsibility on me, I ditched her and still have no kids. I can make my family, and not bother with another man's seed.

@shyne1308

17 күн бұрын

Wtf was u dating a woman with 3 kids? Smh

@smitht1988

17 күн бұрын

In-FXCKING-sane 😂😂😂 She thought you were gonna be a step crash dummy for real 😂

@_MoneyMike_

16 күн бұрын

What made you want a woman with 3 kids? You gotta look at yourself my guy

@_MoneyMike_

16 күн бұрын

@@smitht1988I mean he was for a little bit

@djhoddakabigscooby7089

16 күн бұрын

If you look at the Redpill community at first everyone did some simpin, I didn't know any better, now I know, as black men we can't take less. We are kings

Pick a good father the 1st time

@darnellrhodes6174

17 күн бұрын

No, choose your SPOUSE wisely!!

@moneymitchamp

17 күн бұрын

@@darnellrhodes6174 I’ll take it

Step dad,means you are there to be stepped on! No benefit!

@YaItsJP

17 күн бұрын

Go heal

@antonioshulerphotography6407

16 күн бұрын

😂😂😂 this is funny asf

@iykejnr6296

16 күн бұрын

😂😂😂that’s what it means literally

@iykejnr6296

16 күн бұрын

😂😂😂that’s what it means literally

@eliot5220

14 күн бұрын

@@chrishodge9437 I concur. Don’t tell me to heal. Already and she left. Good riddance. I have contributed to the single mama dilemma . My work is done. Now it’s time for me .

Most single moms don't even appreciate when a man takes on that responsibility so why should we even help ungrateful entitled individuals.

It’s the same. Being a step mom or a step dad has no benefits. Don’t do it. ESPECIALLY if you have no kids.

@DominantBlackMaleLeader

17 күн бұрын

Young woman can easily benefit from playing stepmom to an established man’s kids. Plus, men don’t have custody of the kid in most cases. Your complaints expose how self centered the woman’s worldview can be, at times 😂

@ndondiafrika249

17 күн бұрын

stepmom dont have a duty of care, stepdads MUST care for stepkids

@acthe_original8485

15 күн бұрын

💯 ​@@DominantBlackMaleLeader

@acthe_original8485

15 күн бұрын

​@@DominantBlackMaleLeader💯

@louisj4645

15 күн бұрын

Stepmother vs stepdads are two totally different things, and men have it worst. Men have the pressure to provide for a family, and still deal with another man. seeds. A stepmother is never expected to take on the pressure to provide for the house and raise another woman's child...bc most likely, the children are with the biological mother at least 80%. It's not the same.

What they wont admit, is that the reason younger generation of women dont want to be alone is because they don't want to fall into the same trap mama did being strong and independent.

STEP CRASH DUMMIES IS…CRAZYYYYY WORK!!😳🤣😢😂🔥🔥

@sthomas730

7 күн бұрын

😂😂😂😂

It’s even crazier there are men who willingly choose to share his family with another man the weirdest thing to me. I have no problem looking out for no kids but I’m not sharing my family with another man. Women need to make sure they’re married before having children because expecting another man to take care of another man’s seed is insane to me

When I talk you know I can go there. Yup that’s Bw for

I’d rather eat a shoe

@GentlemensDialogue

17 күн бұрын

😂😂💯

@FinancialBasicsMastery-tb8rk

16 күн бұрын

😂😂😂😂 with Ketchup

@waqqas800

16 күн бұрын

Nike or Reebok

@BiankaSimoneTargetedIndividual

16 күн бұрын

😂

@azraelfirstofhisname8695

16 күн бұрын

@@waqqas800 At this point I’ll choose some Butter Timbs

Coming from being a step dad more than a real father. Anton is right. Black man establish your own family frfr. Right now black man should NOT be a step dad. Stop listening to these single mamas curse you because you dont want and need that title. Your not a man until you have your OWN flock. Black boys listen, watch, dont talk just learn. Until we eradicate this problem boys should learn from positive men. Definitely not single moms in my opinion.

No man should ever step in anything in a child’s life without first observing the single mother and how she coexist with a single father, that will tell him everything he need to know whether he should stay or go

@listeningviayoutube7229

15 күн бұрын

True

I partially agree. There is often no Earthly benefit to being a stepfather (not speaking from personal experience, just observation of close friends). But there is a definite spiritual/heavenly benefit. Taking in and caring for the fatherless is seen as something precious in His eyes. Isiaiah 58:7-11. Probably outside the scope of this discussion but worth a mention IMO.

@exquisite921

15 күн бұрын

Parenting is hard in GENERAL Anton knows nothing about the God he claims to serve. He will be held accountable for misinfluencing people and preventing marriages from forming with this warped ideology

@dancleary4101

14 күн бұрын

@@exquisite921 that’s funny because God himself says don’t have kids out of wedlock… So therefore by being a single mother, you’ve already offended and disobeyed God why don’t you read the Bible first, sir?

I hurt for those unsuccessful experiences that individuals endure as a step parent. It is not for the weak and takes mental fortitude to understand at its inception that it has a high failure rate. But the success yields tremendous rewards. ✊🏾

1:20 moms #1 rule. Was. When you walk out this house you dont make me look bad... She was supposed to apologize for that?? Discipline?? Kept me out the pen.

Im a stepfather now and my wife has two different baby daddies and they don't anything for their kids and she cant have kids and i go back and forth with my feelings sometimes because i really want my own kids but she is a great wife its just i wish i could have my own legacy im 33 now and i feel like I'm running outta time.....if you reading this have your own kids and be there for them, raising another mans children issa emotional rollercoaster

@aqib1992

12 күн бұрын

Feel you on this brother.

@Yoko.Kurama

10 күн бұрын

Are you sure she can't have kids?

@jimmydean5663

9 күн бұрын

😅​@@Yoko.Kurama

@Yoko.Kurama

7 күн бұрын

@jimmydean5663 you thinking the same thing I'm thinking?

@jimmydean5663

7 күн бұрын

@@Yoko.Kurama his girl big too

Fellas do you wanna play another man’s my career account? You dropping 30 and that’s not even your face scan 😂.

Why would you have a kid with a man that doesn't want kid in the first place !!!??????? that is HELL for the kid !! growing up with random men on mummy's bed

The first woman who spoke is an example of the women who lack emotional intelligence and the ability to take accountability. She appears to take accountability but she isn’t actually taking accountability because she made the statement - no matter what you do kids will think it’s toxic but that isn’t true. Raise a child in the way they should go and they will. She a single mother - that ruins kids. It ain’t about kids thinking something is toxic it’s much deeper when you don’t provide two parents for kids.

I scanned the comments and saw no one mention loving the child as a reason. No one :( I cry for the children.

@ultraozy4085

17 күн бұрын

It's not that man are not sympathetic. No. Man we don't give birth to kids but we develop love and emotional attachment even to step kids. It's a risk to get so emotionally involved and have them distanced from you if anything happens. It is like your own biological child being taken away from you. Nobody wants to go through that.The way most man are responding, is because of having taken the role of step Dad but the dynamic results thereof are bad and it is what has made their hearts hard. The dynamics are many and a single episode can not even cover them all.

@DominantBlackMaleLeader

17 күн бұрын

Should’ve cried before Pookie hit it raw 😂

@BrandonTimmons-km4hi

17 күн бұрын

I think she eventually shared that with Anton. This is why the clip is so short.

@LeekedBeats

17 күн бұрын

@@DominantBlackMaleLeader🤣🤣🤣

@BiankaSimoneTargetedIndividual

16 күн бұрын

😢

The word toxic gets thrown around to freely.

Why pickup and be a stepfather. Its not your responsibility, why come in and takeover what he left. No man should be a stepfather.

@misskeah8893

17 күн бұрын

I guess no woman should be a step mother too...sounds good.

@mercuryman1250

17 күн бұрын

​@@misskeah8893pretty much. I Don't even won't kids.

@adewoleabioye8540

17 күн бұрын

Why assume the man left?

@mikeray9933

17 күн бұрын

​@@misskeah8893men arent typically asking women to be stepmoms. Let's not act as if it's even close to equal or the same on both sides ma'am.

@dancleary4101

14 күн бұрын

@@misskeah8893 single mom spotted

My ex had a baby that I still raise, but she makes it super easy for me to see her and be a real parent. I don't pay child support or alimony from our divorce, but I realize that I got lucky. Most women would try to make me pay for trying to be a good man, so I don't advise being a stepdad. It could easily go the other way.

“Step-Crash-Dummy”…100% spot on Anton! I’m gonna start using that phrase.

All facts never waste your time on this earth putting your time and resources into someone else children besides yours

There are plenty of benefits, just none for the stepdad. Don't do it.

@BlaydeAlabama

17 күн бұрын

I have to disagree with that. My mother and my father met when I was two and he just passed 2 years ago and it was me that was there happily and willingly for him. He has 3 biological children and he was never a deadbeat If anything he probably did too much. In a lot of situations folks can't depend on biological children to do s*** either. I've seen that all thru my family people having multiple children and only one child out of the multiple is present 🤷🏾‍♀️

@bendixonsghost7621

17 күн бұрын

At all NO pussy is worth it at all NEVER EVER get involved with a single mom or put yourselves on that position don't do it

@Missliaz

17 күн бұрын

@@BlaydeAlabamano good reason to take another man’s child and raise it why should he bother it’s not his blood 🩸

Now ladies, before u keep hollering " im not your momma" understand something.. Cooking, cleaning and etc doesn't mean your his Momma.. but if u think it does then let's flip it... U got your own money so why does a man need to pay your bills,buy u gifts, take care of u, spend his money and live in a house he paid for rent free and bills Free.. he's not your Daddy...

Unless you're an abusive parent, you have nothing to apologize to your child for. They need to realize, just like you , nobody's perfect.

There is no benefit in raising another woman’s child either. Being a step parent in general is not beneficial.

@dancleary4101

14 күн бұрын

The funny thing is 51% of the matter single and childless while over 70% of the women have kids you have more options than we do

To each their own. There are many thankful and greatful kids/adults who were raised by a none biological parent, and that person has plenty to benefit from respectfully. But yet, a lot of men be out here playing step daddy and barely do or take time out with their own.

@BlaydeAlabama

17 күн бұрын

I'm one of those children that came from a blended amazing family that set the tone for my future blended family. I know how to be a good stepmom because I had an amazing stepdad. The Bible says it takes a village and u know these children need as much love and guidance as possible in the world we live in in.💯 Baby I don't play about Lee Frank 🤣

@mateoramirez6684

17 күн бұрын

​@@BlaydeAlabama What verse is that in the Bible?

@misskeah8893

17 күн бұрын

​@@BlaydeAlabamasame. I loved and cared for my stepdad more than my own bio...I didn't meet my bio dad until I was 18...seems like he timed it perfectly.

@DominantBlackMaleLeader

17 күн бұрын

Only a damaged American BW would say this BS 😂😂

@LeekedBeats

17 күн бұрын

@@mateoramirez6684it’s not in this Bible. These women are ridiculous it’s sick! They love making up shit to fit their narrative!

No, too many women out here without kids to be a stepdad.

I'm so sick of chicks online saying the words heal/trama

@theuncluded6220

17 күн бұрын

...or the word "toxic."

@coreythrift

16 күн бұрын

The most overused words.

@hamshank8892

16 күн бұрын

Or narcissist

@powerade1328

16 күн бұрын

Yes they the crazy ones 😅not me

A man raising another man's kids is like paying another man's debt.👀🍿☕️

I see the point about stepdads not being appreciated. Helped raise step daughter since 5, she 33 now and one of my best friends Key word helped raise. Her mother did her part financially and handled being the disciplinarian of her. She is a step mom to my 32 year old son. We lived together for 20 plus years till they were grown and gone. Me and wife never thought it would work honestly. But it did. But God. They introduce them as brother and sister, not step like they do me and wife. Lucky cause boy and girl same age. Yall know the thoughts. Some thinking it now lol 😂

@exquisite921

15 күн бұрын

No one is gonna like this bc it worked out for you lol. This crowd is crazy traumatized lol

Facts. Many parents can't admit they screwed up. Then they double down and keep doing it. 😢

I have been a step parent and looking back now realized I wasted time and resources. In addition to the kids being unappreciative once they got older men don’t do it read some literature reconsider dam how I would have love for someone to give me real advice

I'm so very glad that my Father, who is my stepfather, didn't believe this way; Because he is my everything and he never allowed anybody to refer to me as his stepdaughter. It opened up the door for me to be the amazing stepmother I am to twin boys for the last 12 years. My mother marrying well Opened up the door for me to watch her go from being a single mom to domesticated. It was a beautiful thing to watch and now I myself have the same thing. Loook AT GOD💯🙏🏼

@jrandolph6642

17 күн бұрын

Nope. I'm still not doing the step daddy thing.

@JP-lw3bt

17 күн бұрын

Can't be a step father, n won't be shamed into it either

@more_life

17 күн бұрын

You need to leave these comments trying to convert men. How old are you?

@gmoneynyc8842

17 күн бұрын

Anecdotal experience but majority of the time a stepdad gets stepped on

@brianalexander1922

17 күн бұрын

​@@gmoneynyc8842And that is largely on the man for choosing wrong and not setting the rules. If you're going to be a step parent it can't be with a Bomqueesha that thinks you have no say in how things go under your roof, or a Pookie father that tries to fight you. The conversation of what your role is as the step father has to be clear up front, and a lot of men don't do that.

All that work playing step dad, just to get a handshake on draft night

@BrandonTimmons-km4hi

17 күн бұрын

Shaq's stepdad got more than a handshake.

@Saviiq

17 күн бұрын

U sound bitter

@dancleary4101

14 күн бұрын

@@Saviiq go find your father

in my 30 years of living on this earth i've never seen a happy ending to being a step dad. Step crash dummy is a great name for those to choose that life

Its about time men are asking "how do we as men benefit from your plan, ma'am" and women don't even have an answer. You'll be a fool to invest in that one

I have two step kids, and that absolutely has not been my experience.

@kelz7039

13 күн бұрын

Hopefully you and your spose don’t separate. Then you’ll see

@jamesross6476

13 күн бұрын

@kelz7039 that's a possibility in every relationship

@MrsWiles-kq5st

8 күн бұрын

I have 4 bonus kids, and it's not my experience either. Still married 22yrs. @jameaross6476 Congratulations

@OGXDream

4 күн бұрын

​@jamesross6476 The difference is that if they were your biological kids, you would have some sort of legal rights to see the kids after the split. Assuming the kids are under 18 and your wife leaves, you have no rights to see HER/HIS kids

@OGXDream

4 күн бұрын

​@jamesross6476 The difference is that if they were your biological kids, you would have some sort of legal rights to see the kids after the split. Assuming the kids are under 18 and your wife leaves, you have no rights to see HER/HIS kids

Don’t do guys !!! Once they get older you forgotten in my opinion….

@Saviiq

17 күн бұрын

That’s not a good one don’t be negative most of our men bashing women came from single women smh

Did it once and I’ll never do that shit again especially when they have daughters. You have to realize, no matter how good a step father you are, the kids will always want that love from the biological father. He can be out of their life for 10 yrs and show up with a puppy and it’ll be like he was never gone

This isn’t even a argument It literally just women thinking they fooling someone. All you have to do is exchange men and women in every argument they use and they will say no.

There is absolutely no glory in being a step father💯 and being a step mother in a rich man's life if a whole nother story tho!!

@_MoneyMike_

16 күн бұрын

Exactly

There is a benefit if you pick the right one. We can't say we are for the better benefit for our community and leave kids fatherless just to make a point. In my opinion

@QueMari

11 күн бұрын

I think more black men should MENTOR fatherless children. But that doesn’t mean you have to get with the Mom

@Yoko.Kurama

10 күн бұрын

Not wanting to raise someone's else's kid has nothing to do with wanting to better the community

I'm reading all these step dad horror stories... All I can say is "sorry for your pain'. I never experienced any of that in either of my marriages with any of my step kids.

@exquisite921

15 күн бұрын

Scrolling thru a sea of traumatized people, incels and bots 🥴🥴 plenty of success stories and many of those ppl don’t frequent these videos bc they’re out living prosperous lives lol. Marriage is positive when two people in purpose(childless or otherwise) come together and make it work

@ChrisCollins-oj2fx

15 күн бұрын

@@exquisite921great exception’s dont dissaprove the rule. Their is no benefit of raising another mans sperm😂😂😂😂

@marcus5m

15 күн бұрын

​@@ChrisCollins-oj2fxhe said either of his marriages. He was used and then divorced

@dancleary4101

14 күн бұрын

@@exquisite921 yeah let’s ignore the bitter baby mamas who nobody wants. Good luck. The marriage rate for single mothers is never going to increase it’s over.

@ChrisCollins-oj2fx

14 күн бұрын

@@marcus5m so daring single moms an L. We agree

A man should not be so insecure that a child is a threat to his existence.

I know I would not do it just because these kids they will not respect you My uncle was an step dad And I saw the these kids disrespect him. And I told him why be a step dad for what? these kids are not yours

Anton Daniels aka Mr. Potato Head F-in Clown!

@cephas5053

17 күн бұрын

Weirdo

I'm still waiting on that Anton-Kita fight that's pending...

We need to stop bringing up different eras in time and anomalies when talking about this era and the quality of individuals being produced over 30 years for society. No one saying "ALL" or "NOT ALL" because there are a few different circumstances involved. But we do understand that most of these couples are just breaking up during pregnancy and right after the child is born. Now we have to put these individuals decision making into question. We shouldn't have a large percentage of recklessness. In today's society it's in a single man best interest to never support another man's seed(s) especially when the other side are encouraging/shaming men to do so.

A whole lot of nothing be said here. 😒

@dancleary4101

14 күн бұрын

Anton said fax

The lady in the cap. I have no idea what she actually looks like.

Anton is correct. StepFathers in our culture should not be accepted by our culture as a majority backup plan for failed relationships. Since only Fathers can truly protect children physically in any capacity. And StepFathers KNOW THAT ...Like inviting a Wolf to live with your sheep and the woman is more sheep than a wolf at her very best physically to a man.... see Glendon Campbell when he spoke with The Lead Attorney and Anton Daniels.

She made an excellent point @4:28. The way you treat your kids is what they will end up expecting from other people. Stay Focused!

This is nasty work….

It's not a matter of an inability to "handle" a woman with a hood mentality. Nobody in their right mind WANTS to have to "handle" anyone or their attitude. It's just not desirable. I disagree with Anton on this "step crash dad dummies" or whatever phrase he uses. It isn't a 0 positive game, it's a game that absolutely does have a lot of risks and downsides, BUT, it is also something that can work and be beneficial to all parties if the ground rules and an understanding are set from the get go by people that have their heads on right. Obviously, you're not going to have a high success rate with a Pookie and a Bomqueesha as the parents, but, as the lady on the panel stated, when she let the man be a man and show guidance to the boy, things worked out. That understanding has to be there for things to work, and you certainly develop a strong bond between step parents and children.

@JamesHall_II

17 күн бұрын

He’s right. There’s no benefit whatsoever for a man to be a step dad. Are there exceptions to the rule where the man has the green light to be who he wants & discipline the kids when needed without any pushback? Sure. But in general, there’s way too many cons being a stepdad as oppose to pros.

@brianalexander1922

17 күн бұрын

@JamesHall_II To say there is no benefit is not true. We're talking about human beings here, not trinkets. How would you quantify the value of building a strong father/son or daughter vibe with a step child? You can't measure that, and you surely can't say it has no value. Of course being a stepfather has risks and isn't desirable. But, the main reason why it often doesn't work is because the men that take on the role aren't regulating and showing leadership upfront towards these women about how that relationship is going to be. They let women treat that child like they are some separate entity that doesn't concern the man. Both sides need to be on the same page and it can work.

@LeekedBeats

16 күн бұрын

@@brianalexander1922no benefit at all. Stop making excuses for chicks that love having bastard children, but despise marriage

@JamesHall_II

16 күн бұрын

@@brianalexander1922 Simple. You have 100% responsibility with very little if not no authority over said child & if things don’t work out, then you have no parental rights to see the child anymore so all that time & money spent was all for not when you could’ve taken on a woman with no kids & build a family with her. The risk far outweigh the reward so yeah, it’s not in a man’s best interest to take on a woman with kids.

@brianalexander1922

16 күн бұрын

@JamesHall_II Again, you just bypassed everything I said to make the same point. You are describing the worst case scenario as if that is the only way these situations can turn out. It's like saying you shouldn't get married because of the high % of divorce. A marriage can work AND be beneficial if you put in the work and choose right, and the same is true of being a step parent. No one said it's in a man's best interest. It's obviously a risk. But it isn't the 0% or 100% good/bad you're painting it as.

Everybody has their own experience good or bad on the step parent tip. I am a product of that. My step father came into my life when I was 9 and my lil bro was 6, he passed when I was 24. Even tho shit was fucked up growing up, him and my mother both on drugs, We always stuck together until things got better ,home to home , shelter to shelter he made sure we was safe.They eventually got it right. I thought I would grow to hate my folks cuz of how hard we had it but when I look back at that shit, cuz ain’t never fold on my mother and I watched them bring eachother back to life. I’m 31 now about to have my first child and I wish he was here.

Moral of the story men: Boss up, Take Control of your life, Elevate financially, & your options will open up. If single mothers are your ONLY option, that is indicative of your lack of success financially & socially.

Step Baby Daddy 6:20 😂😂

Say no to single moms

“Anton…Anton…”👏🏾💯 If real words could be said any better…..😇

No matter how good of a parent you think you are, your kids will hurt those feelings at some point....📍📌‼️

All this talk, nothing but talking, from one channel to “black town hall meetings about relationships” nothing but talking and these women and men ain’t accomplish nothing.

@gerardrush1048

17 күн бұрын

Man u telling the truth bruh

@karenmassey8354

17 күн бұрын

This is because baby mamas and baby daddies are one in the same. They are each other’s counterparts. It’s like arguing with yourself in the mirror. That’s why nothing ever gets solved between them.

@DominantBlackMaleLeader

17 күн бұрын

We’ve been having this same conversation for 60 years, it’s just getting more ratchet over time. Now we have step baby daddies 😂

@iykejnr6296

16 күн бұрын

Because talking won’t solve the problem. USA needs new laws

Being a stepdad is nobody's goal....because it's a thankless job!

@Saviiq

17 күн бұрын

Can’t say that everyone not the same buddy

Had a stepdad growing up. And he hated us.. beat the crap out of us a lot of time for nothing. As a adult my Aunt said he told my mom he didn't want her she push herself and us on him. And we paid for it.

Great interview Anton. Good wisdom being spoken on both sides. It is good to see these ladies waking up to the reality of some of their mistakes. It’s late for them but really encouraging to see.

Yea I had done it once upon a time as noble as it is. It’ really doesn’t pay off unless you find the perfect situation where the baby daddy isn’t in the picture or the baby momma is on top of her game

@CHill-qn3kr

17 күн бұрын

Id says the biological father being out the picture isnt perfect .. This is a lame way to think. Stop trying to play daddy to kids that arent yours