My husband made a comment along the lines of “I got lucky with you” bc his friend is dealing with problems with his wife and his ability to have some freedoms and flexibility in his marriage. I was quick to correct him and explained. He is NOT lucky. I “give” him freedoms and flexibilities that his friend seems to not get because he treats me SO well. I told him that because he treats me with such kindness and thoughtfulness it has made me feel safer and happier in our relationship. So for example if our anniversary falls on a day that he needs to be gone for work/music/etc I dont get upset bc I know we will still celebrate it and it will be just as great or even better because of how he treats me. His friend doesnt get that “luxury” because he does not make his wife feel safe, happy, beautiful, etc. so he doesnt get to have the rewards of a happy and safe partner.

@elkynethehorde5592

Жыл бұрын

A lot of people take for granted the amount of work that goes into the “happy” relationships and understanding that both people are working to make the other persons life easier. When you treat people with kindness and respect, even when you are angry, you will see a big change. Doesnt mean be a doormat.

@ciszonek

Жыл бұрын

this is like...reducing human psyche to that of a dog (for the record i looove animals and have worked at two animal shelter) - my gut just tell me that u feel superior to your husband

@elkynethehorde5592

Жыл бұрын

@@ciszonek treating someone well because they treat you well in return is not like the psyche of a dog. Id like to believe we have learned by now, it is the end of 2022 after all, to not make such bold assumptions. Seeing as your comment about my character and relationship are based upon a limited perspective, zero knowledge of me or my husband, zero experience with me or my relationship, and most likely not even backed by any formal education on relationships. This may be a public platform and you may be free to post what you like but perhaps some introspection before you decide to insult someone or cast judgement on them or their relationship. You are a 🤡

@ashert4918

Жыл бұрын

isn't this just.... victim-blaming? 'if your wife is being controlling and terrible, it must be because you did something wrong'

@SjofnBM1989

Жыл бұрын

It's a crazy concept isn't it. "Don't treat your wife like shit and she'll like and trust you."

Our therapist called my ex-husband a sociopath and essentially told me to run.

@C-SD

Жыл бұрын

A good couples therapist will tell you never try to go to therapy with an abuser. They never take responsibility for anything. The biggest problem is when the abusive partner is charismatic and manipulative enough, and the therapist joins in with the gas lighting and stuff without knowing. I'm glad you got out.

@chibigirl8545

Жыл бұрын

Follow that advice!

@voyance4elle

Жыл бұрын

Do you agree?

@vulcanhumor

Жыл бұрын

@@voyance4elle I mean, they said EX husband, so I'm assuming so.

@AttackRunRepeat

Жыл бұрын

@@C-SD Mine admitted he was wrong, told me he'd change and do better. He never did. It got to the point where I told him if he jumped out of our car while on the highway I wouldn't stop.

My husband and I had been married 2 years when we went to see a therapist. The first thing he said was that he didn’t believe all marriages could be saved, and if he felt that was the case of us, we would tell us. That was such a relief. I was at the point I was looking for confirmation that it was okay for me to leave him. That I had done everything I could, and it was time to walk away. After 6 months of therapy, my husband and I were moving cross country. Our therapist told us that he had no doubt in his mind that so long as we kept doing what we’d been doing, we’d go the distance. We still quote that therapist’s advice to each other today, we ask, “Now, what would Matt say?” We’ve been married for 13 years now, and have 4 incredible children. I like to say, “We’ve had 10 happy years of marriage, and 3 that were necessary for growth and development.”

@zarahshabs7936

Жыл бұрын

Love that you had such a good experience and that the therapist was so real with you! I feel like that doesn’t happen so often

@halloweenallyearround4889

Жыл бұрын

My birth giver did that to my therapist when I was a teenager. He was very experienced and but I guess he hadn't met someone as manipulative as my mother.

Ahaha, "She's your wife, she's not a Papa Jones" got me 🤣🤣🤣👍

@mohammedashian8094

Жыл бұрын

I mean Calzone is delicious so 🤷‍♂️

One of the reasons I waited so long to get married was because I was looking for a man who would be a true teammate. It was worth it to not settle. A lot of people forget a wedding is a day, a marriage is a lifetime

@esmeraldasanchez1353

Жыл бұрын

Such a powerful phrase "a wedding is a day, a marriage is a lifetime" gotta write it down somewhere

I firmly believe it is your professional responsibility to watch Bad Moms and make a video for Cinema Therapy.

@MovableNu

Жыл бұрын

Seconded!

@xochiltaviles4539

Жыл бұрын

I am for this!!

@irinakl441

Жыл бұрын

Yes! Yes it is! Please do! ))

@celicasillas

Жыл бұрын

💯

@sonja2901

Жыл бұрын

Also Bad Moms Christmas

It may be funny in the context of this movie but it’s honestly horrifying that so many men see pulling their own weight at home as a means to a sexual end and not like “my partner is my partner and we’re in this together”.

@Sombokor

Жыл бұрын

Yes and also... Do they think it's sexy? 'I washed the dishes, here's my d*ck.' It feels like a misplaced condescension from both parties like... 'Uh, this idiot can be happy now, I did something.' And 'Ugh, this other dimwit gets the bellyrub now for being a good boy. Not that it was much of a help.' it should be more along the lines of 'I shouldered my weight, you did yours. We are free to do what we want so take pleasure in each other.'

@iridizousa8578

Жыл бұрын

That shit gets my blood boiling. That's exactly why I couldn't be a therapist. If I see something like that I'd immediately call him out, and not in a professional way lol

@yb9964

Жыл бұрын

@@iridizousa8578 what gets my blood boiling is how many of us were led to believe this was normal and how long it took some of us, myself included, to realize that using sex as a tool is very… rape-y. You’re not doing it for sex, you’re doing it as a praise like you’d give a dog a treat for obeying an order ? In these moments, I’m so glad I was raised in a conservative country. It definitely kept me away from learning this the hard way.

@jclyntoledo

Жыл бұрын

@@yb9964 Lots of conservative ppl believe this though so I don't think it has to do with that.

@yb9964

Жыл бұрын

@@jclyntoledo I didn’t mean conservative countries don’t have that mentality, I’m just saying it’s kept me afraid of sex before marriage for long enough for me to learn that lesson

I really appreciated a therapist who said on the first session: "Ok, I am going to save you guys a lot of money. Your values are impossibly incompatible as they are now, so unless one of you is willing to do the BIG work of changing your core values, there is no chance this will work." She explained how small incompatibilities can be easily workable but CORE value differences are VERY VERY hard to change for yourself, let alone for a relationship and only 3% of people maintain real lasting changes on even a single value. Multiple core value differences combined with one who wanted to destroy another to feel less insecure and more powerful left it a rather hopeless case. She did a follow up text confirming that she thought he had sociopathic tendencies and that it would be wise of me to exit asap. She gave me a book on the abuse cycle and how to escape it for me to read. Excellent. I got out and am far better off for it. I appreciated her doing all that in 1 session instead of dragging it out to make $$$$.

I remember when I was first started therapy with my therapist I asked him, "So can I legally cuss or would you just prefer that I don't...because I was really want to." And that made him laugh. I was in highschool and thought it was possibly illegal to cuss in therapy 😭

My ex husband admitted to not being in love with me anymore well before our first couples therapy session. I kept telling him I’d rather we split up since I didn’t want to be with someone who doesn’t love me, was openly cheating on me (with his now wife who is far more perfect for him than I ever could be), and resented me for things that were so far out of my control. I’d lost all respect for him, was becoming more and more distant with him to the point where we were basically roommates that didn’t get along anymore, and at the end of the day I just didn’t want to raise our kid with this shit show of a marriage. But he insisted we stay together because he felt obligated to stay with the mother of his child, and didn’t want to be divorced like his parents. I reassured him over and over that we would never be like his parents (who haven’t spoken to each other in 30+ years) but he refused to split. I told him the only way I’d stay in the relationship was if we went to therapy. He was hesitant, but eventually agreed. In the first session we were able to agree to end our romantic relationship, and enter into a parent partnership. It was the best thing we could do at that point. I’m happy to say we started crushing it when it came to co parenting, and 10 years later we are in the healthiest place we’ve ever been with each other. We only ever had the one session together, and it changed our lives for the better. I started going to therapy on my own, and we occasionally did family therapy with our kid just to make sure we were staying on track with co parenting, especially through my ex getting remarried and having more kids. His wife is luckily very supportive and the best step parent I could have asked for. I’m so grateful for our blended family, and I’m glad my kiddo gets to grow up seeing us at our best.

I asked my husband what he likes about me and he simply responded with “I like a lot of things about you” followed by “among those things is hard to think about while I’m also working” 😂 I love how patient he is when I’m interrupting him during work.

@pipersisk3966

Жыл бұрын

PS: and his patience over all

@sarahouillette1357

Жыл бұрын

This was adorable to read thank you!

I went to couples therapy once. My ex walked out and refused to ever return because he felt “you and the therapist are ganging up on me”. Because the therapist confirmed what I said to be true (that I studied a different area of psychology and thus didn’t know a damn thing about couples therapy because I’m in FORENSIC Psychology). And that was us ganging up on him. So he never returned. I made the foolish mistake of thinking a new home and a child would help us connect. It didn’t. And now I’m a divorced, trying my best to coparent a beautiful baby girl with him. And honestly she’s worth it all, so that’s fine.

@irinakl441

Жыл бұрын

This is why my husband didn't want to go to therapy for so many years. Because "it would just be the two of you, telling me all over again how messed up I am". Then after 13 years, many many fights and a major crisis we finally got to therapy. The first thing he told me after, was "I'm glad I'm not the only one messing up" )) I'm so grateful to our therapist for being professional and reading him right.

@radhiadeedou8286

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like a bad therapist

I unironically love this movie. Thanks for the reaction to this scene and breaking it down from an actual therapy perspective. Super fascinating. I'd love to see this with a few other couples therapy scenes in movies, like How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days or Mr and Mrs Smith

@yevgeniiakupriianova782

Жыл бұрын

omg yes! The Smiths are HILARIOUS )

I went to couples therapy. My husband threatened to walk out when I told him I felt coerced into sex with him and that I felt he abandoned me for other partners (we are both polyamorous) while I was in the middle of a mental health crisis. He started leaving me alone for half the week at a time while I was actively suicidal and at a certain point I just stopped wanting him to come back. He also told our therapist how useful our therapy strategies were for him in his new relationship. The therapist told him maybe he should spend the session working on OUR relationship. I didn’t bother responding. Yeah… we separated.

@n4l9bx

Жыл бұрын

and good riddance, you deserve to be respected and heard by your partner

Personally, I believe compatibility is the most important. You can have two people who truly want to make it work and care about each other but making it work would mean compromising their deep needs and self. I don’t think people should be pressured to compromise their values for a relationship. They should find someone who respects those values.

@irinakl441

Жыл бұрын

The question is, how does one ends up marrying a person with such a different set of values and beliefs. How do you even find it atractive in the first place?

@NatalieZii

Жыл бұрын

All kinds of reasons that can stem from bad childhoods or just being immature/ naive. Idealization, low standards, lack of self awareness, outright lies and manipulation etc. You can find certain aspects of a person attractive and believe the traits you don’t like will be ‘fixed’ with time, not realizing that they’re an ingrained part of who they are. I’m unfortunately talking from experience as someone who has been through all of the above. It’s obviously not healthy but it’s also sadly not uncommon. Especially if two people enter a relationship with a lot of unhealed baggage and lacking a sense of who they are and what they need to be happy. Once healing starts, people can realize incompatibility.

@irinakl441

Жыл бұрын

@@NatalieZii I'm sorry, I'm not a native english speaker and maybe something got lost in translation. When you said "values and beliefs", I thought you ment more of a lifestyle and less personal traits. For example, one person is deeply religious and the other wants nothing to do with religious life. They both can be lovely people, but the differences in their values make it too hard for them to be a couple. For me, this difference makes the other person not atractive as a potential spouse. I'm sorry if I hit a nerve and thank you for the sincere answer.

@NatalieZii

Жыл бұрын

@@irinakl441 Oh no, no nerve. It's all in good faith to reflect on :)

My ex-husband had (have?) addiction issues, and it's pretty much ruined our relationship. I tried to make him go to marriage counseling with me, I even found a way to get it for free because we have money issues because of that addiction. He refused to go to therapy, and said he wanted to go to therapy by himself. I found him someone to go to, and he said he's not good enough for him. He did start spending money weekly claiming it was for personal therapy although he could never give me the name of the therapist. Looking back I think he used that money for more of his addiction🤦‍♀️. This movie came out a bit after we got divorced (or starting the procedure of divorcing) and I could totally relate. I really do believe that in some cases, especially when one of the partners is very self-destruct, there is not much to do to save the marriage.

Wanda Sayks can do no wrong and this scene just proves it lmao, love this scene and wanted to watch your reaction ever since I rewatched the movie xD so thank you Jonathan :)

I always remember what my mom told me her therapist told her. When she was asked if she wanted to stay married to my dad, my mom said maybe. The therapist told her that anything other than yes is really a no. Even with a maybe it will eventually become a no, especially if you feel the other person isn't putting any work into the relationship. My mom left that session and realized that if she stopped trying in the relationship than it would be over, cause my dad wasn't trying at all. He'd get home from work shower, change and then head out to hang out with friends until late at night, every night. They were getting a divorce two months later.

3:38 Well he cheated on her online with a woman halfway across the country and shows more respect about what that woman's career than he does about hers and laughed at how she looked when she came in carrying nearly everything rather than offering to help.

My couples therapist didn't understand why I was mad that my ex was blatantly checking out other women when he was with me, but I didn't mind him watching xxx videos while deployed. She genuinely didn't understand that the 2 are different.

@radhiadeedou8286

Жыл бұрын

How can such a stupid person be a therapist?

When I took Marriage and family, we watched episodes of showtime couples therapy and the professor would stop the video and we'd talk about it. It was very interesting and gives you a different perspective on couples therapy from what you think it is before learning about how it works. I notice how you didn't point out that they are both sitting in away from each other that always a big thing to look for too, is the distance and closed or open positions.

We have been to couple's therapy before we got married with my husband. We arrived clutching each other's hands like a safety net, so at the first session I think the therapists already knew that we're not going to have a lot of trouble. We had some adjusting to do, and some perspective to gain, and we went on to have our separate therapy for different things. I feel that our bond has only deepened since then, and a little unbiased outside perspective has been very helpful in growing together in a direction that is good for both of us.

We were in couples therapy for about 3 years. Every session, he would let me start by saying what problem we had, then he will agree with me, acknowledge my frustration, accept his responsibility, etc; so the therapist would be so confused as to why I was mad at him in the first place if he was "getting it". And every time, after therapy, I would asked him why he didn't behave the same when we were alone in the middle of the issue; his answer was always some version of "it was your fault I treated you that way". We stayed together and had a second baby after we finished therapy. Of course, the problems came back. I asked him to get a divorce at the beginning of this year.

@Tahtanista

Жыл бұрын

Mine did a similar thing, acting all reasonable and gentle in therapy, or acting politely and genuinely confused like "she's upset and I'm so sorry you have to be here for this", which ended up making me look like the crazy, emotional, irrational one. He'd get the therapist on his side and pretty soon they'd be asking me to change my behaviors like it was all my fault. And in private it was a similar result except he didn't have to put on his "nice guy" mask; he would just outright blame me for his behaviors. I'm divorced now, too.

@mamibrain

Жыл бұрын

@@Tahtanista I'm glad you are divorced. It's sad but much healthier.

I appreciate videos like these, as I dont have insurance and dont have the money right now for therapy, but having videos to let me think on things when I cant specifcally talk to someone really helps how to approach my relationships.

"This is some catastrophic s*it" cracked me up. Yeah, why work hard on a relationship no one is invested in? I'd try couples therapy, but my husband isn't willing to do anything, so won't help.

@suzanneevans1771

Жыл бұрын

My husband wasn’t willing either - it took me far too many years, but he’s now my ex. All the best to you in finding a path forward.

@C-SD

Жыл бұрын

@@suzanneevans1771 its frustrating in part because I know its mental health issues, and I want to be supportive, but he doesn't want help, and I'm seriously considering moving. Idk if he'd notice tbh. I have mental health issues and get no support.

When I finally began to realize what harmful patterns had developed in my marriage, and how I was rapidly falling out of love, I went to couples therapy, at first alone, because he didn't want to go to therapy. Once I went though, then he decided to come so he could control the narrative, which he did. Rapidly he was so reasonable and persuasive that he had the therapist on his side. Just like in our private discussions, the therapy discussions then became all about what I was doing wrong and how it was my behavior that had to change (not saying I had no responsibility, but he certainly believed he had none). Then after a few sessions, he declared there was nothing more to be gained from therapy and that we wouldn't have any more sessions. I kept going a few times because nothing had changed, I had already twisted myself into knots trying to make him happy, but the sessions became mostly me crying, with the therapist giving some sympathy but not much else, and me having no idea how to fix the relationship. Absolute fail. I moved out, gave him six months to convince me to come back, but he hardly did anything, so I divorced him. I am much, much happier now, and have found much better therapists since then.

My experience with couples therapy was terrible. I wanted to work on saving the marriage, she only cared about listing everything she hated about me. I found out after the fact that her boyfriend (who she had been having an affair with since before we got married, who she INVITED TO OUR WEDDING, and who was still married to his wife) had told her hurt me as much as possible so I would no longer want to try. I worry that those wounds will never heal, even a decade later.

the one time i went to couples therapy the therapist only talked to my boyfriend really and kept saying "we touch each other in a special way". at the end of it we didn't get anything out of him but a giggle.

My ex would only attend therapy sessions "for me," (as in, to help the therapist fix me) until I indicated that we'd be over when our youngest turned 18 if things didn't improve between us. When we finally went to therapy as a family (we have 3 kids) he was still charming there, but blamed me for everything when we left their office. When we split up, the kids were 17, 14, and 11. They are now 25, almost 22, and almost 19.

Thanks so much for making these videos! They're so insightful, and I've gotten some genuinely good therapy techniques from listening to you. (I have two degrees in Psychology but am not practicing. These videos are like a much-needed and entertaining refresher.)

OMG I appreciate so much that you guys read the comments on the videos you make! It means a lot to me

Watching your videos and cinema therapy is like free therapy for me, I need therapy but I struggle trusting it after a few bad experiences and watching these videos makes me feel so understood and helps me out a bit I just want to thank you for everything you and your team do for people

I appreciate what you said about interrupting conflict or condescention. I was really surprised when my husband and I tried couples' therapy, the therapist would often let us go on and use up a lot of the session on conflict and there would be only minimal time left for repair. It was one of the reasons that when we took a break over the summer, I ended up not wanting to go back to that therapist. I have been focusing instead on working on myself: it is making a difference in my marriage too, but whatever the outcome, it will still leave me in a better place than paying someone to spectate our arguments.

Please do the mom-daughter therapy session from A Bad Mom's Christmas as well! Or any of the mom-daughter interactions, maybe. :)

I got minutes into Bad Moms - but I’m watching this because I like your channel and I LOVE Wanda Sykes.

When I was married and struggling, I asked my husband to come to therapy. He agreed, even insisted on it, but would never come. My current partner and I are in a wonderful relationship, and go to couples therapy because we like having someone to check in with beside each other. Our therapist helps us make sure our relationship stays good. And, if we have a concern we've settled between sessions, we discuss if it should be brought up in the next session to get any perspectives we've missed or get new ideas on how we could have handled it. I highly suggest going while things are good. We really like it.

Very informative 👌🔥

“She’s your wife she’s not papa jones” made me laugh so hard 💀

I think you could do a really good Therapist Reacts RAW to the couples therapy in Big Little Lies - it gets very intense and if you watch the series just through the couples therapy scenes it would make for a really interestig series of videos to analyse from a therapy point of view imo

@bschaefs

Жыл бұрын

Seconded! The actress that plays the therapist on Big Little Lies was incredible.

"She's your wife. Not Papa Johns." Lol I love that Johnathan! :)

@MendedLight

5 ай бұрын

I have a weird brain.

My husband said he is to old to change. He doesn’t want to change. He told me to find someone else. I have to believe him. I can’t fight him. But I have to be the one to push all the divorce papers. I have to push him out of the house. (There are kids and his family will take him in with open arms. He is causing a lot of behavior problems staying in the home) He cries and I don’t understand why. I didn’t sign up for an open marriage. I want to work this out but he refuses. He expects me to accept him as he is. I know he can be better. He just flat out refuses to be better.

There is also a therapy scene in the sequel (Bad Mom's Christmas) that features a mother-daughter relationship with Kristin Bell's character in the movie. I'd love seeing your take on that one!

I'd love your thoughts on Esther Perel's podcast "Where should we begin", real nice video thanks !

you should review the Bad Moms Christmas movie! lots of generational trauma and emotional aspects to discuss

I've fallen down mended light videos. [cinematherapy fan] can you do more on both bad mom's movies.

I took that opening line from the couples therapist as a way to establish that she is "holding the hope" for the couple.

I think that you can say whatever you want in therapy but the moment your actions don't match your words is when change might not be possible. It sucks but sometimes people won't change unless you leave and if they change either better or worse is no longer your issue. Sometimes you have to look at your own wellbeing before the person who refuses to change because you're worth keeping.

This is also why I am not in support of the idea of becoming a full time homemaker. I think people have the mindset that this is a calling, but in reality, many women do this because we are taught that men should provide for us financially if we just take care of the home. It always creates inequality and conflict in relationships. Understandably, if you’re committing yourself to taking care of the home, then it’s not unreasonable for your spouse to expect you to do that well. If that makes you cringe, good. It should. And that’s why both partners need to work and be homemakers.

I would love if you therapized the relationship from 'pieces of a woman'. how does a couple go on after loosing a child? its a heartbreaking movie

I would love to hear your thoughts on the relationship in Ted Lasso between him and his wife. They seem to have decent chemistry but its a struggle for them. Curious to hear your thoughts on it.

You should analyze a marriage story (very profound movie about a couple going through a divorce and having to coparent). Also "Scenes from a marriage" (the actors in this movie are excellent! and the content is about married people who go through struggles with work, unexpected pregnancy, mental health, differing backgrounds, an affair, divorce, and coparenting). On the lighter side Fools Rush in would be a fun one (two people of different backgrounds have a one night stand that results in a pregnancy and they decide to get married and have to struggle with living in different states, having different career goals, different cultures, family issues, etc. Also My Big Fat Greek Wedding...is an awesome story about melding two families in a marriage and trying to find the balance between being enmeshed in a family vs. having a life of one's own. Also...the Wedding Singer. I'd love to hear your thoughts on broken engagements, falling in love with someone who's already involved, long drawn out engagements that may be indicative of one or both partners hesitance to get married.

I remember when I went to couples therapy. We were told to explain our feelings and the other person would say what they heard. He explained his side and I told him what I heard and he said I heard him right and the therapist even said I did a good job. Then, it was my turn to explain my side and after I was done, my partner said, "all I heard is that she gets mad when she doesn't get her way". Thinking back about this now, it's pretty funny but I was very unhappy at the time...never again!

My husband and I are starting couples therapy this week after a big blow up this past weekend. I'm really nervous about it.

I think it would be interesting to see a reaction to the movie 'Night mother. 🤔

If you want another RAW couples therapy scenes, I'd like to throw in a suggestion for season 3 episode 4 of 2012 Beauty and the Beast. Episode is called Heart of the matter

Hi, I'm from Venezuela. Please do Sheldon and Amy front the big bang theory

What's really interesting, is that HE'S the one who wanted to come back home after he cheated on her! Her stipulation was couple's therapy and you'd think that he would take it seriously since HE'S the one that wants to back into the relationship. Granted she wasn't putting much effort, but it could be argued that she was taking his lead (if he's not going to take this olive branch and show me that he wants our family to stay together, why should I bother?)

When she said “I don’t love you anymore” my just spit a huge “DIVORCE”

I went to 10 couples therapy sessions. Because the therapist knew nothing, absolutely nothing, about the type of relationship we had; it ended up being us teaching her about it. At the last session, we just said "you know, we should be billing you for this instead of the other way around". We did not go back to her. We did, however, see another person who knew what we were dealing with.

I wonder can it be a reaction of the musical *next to normal* it is so psychology related (or please let me know if it’s already been made 😂

Can you do a movie review of Wolf? It’s on Amazon Prime, the date the movie was made is 2021

Can you react to Everbody Loves Raymond Debra and Raymond or Robert amd Ray? Also maybe My Wife and Kids?

1:01 You may want to edit the subtitles. When describing marriages that involve affairs, abuse and all sorts you SAY "abhorrent" but the subs READ as "important".

@JonathanDecker

Жыл бұрын

They're autogenerated by KZread.

My marriage was savable, but when we went to therapy, he literally shut down and sat silent on the floor for 30 minutes until the sun went down, and the therapist finally said that we should go inside for dinner. Out of an entire three night retreat, he did not contribute to therapy. I begged, and he ignored

Hoping you were observing this!

Just watch the Breake ups video, and we need the Vampire Diary video. Elena and Stefan and Elena and Damon

@MegaGreencarebear

Жыл бұрын

Yes!

Could you react to greys anatomy?

My Ex husband refused to go to Couples Therapy. I went to Individual Therapy, and finally he agreed to Individual Therapy with a different therapist. His therapist called me up, and said that he didn't see any hope. That he had my Ex do an exercise where there were behaviors on a clock. He had to put me there, and then his mother. Then he had to put me where he preferred that I be. Of course, it was where his mom was, on the clock. My Ex insisted that Couples Therapy wasn't necessary because I was the problem. So we divorced.

This was not enough since you do not have full context of their relationship or the movie, plz do a cinema therapy reaction video to it.

I'm personally single but I think that commitment is the determining factorI'm personally single but I think that commitment is the determining factor. So long as both parties actually want to make it work they can. Even if they don't feel like they love each other anymore love can be demonstrated in action and through that action the emotion can follow. Because love isn't just an emotion it's how you treat people in spite of how you feel. Love is being kind to the guy that's bullying you simply because you know it's right. I'm not saying don't take your safe too seriously but just that love is doing something for someone else without expecting anything in return sometimes at the cost to yourself. And as long as they're willing to do things for each other to change things for each other it can work. And I'm no therapist but if I was that therapist what I would probably tell them is not to get a divorce but I would say this is not gonna work unless both of you decide that this is what you want how you feel doesn't matter what choice are you gon to make right now because if you decide that you will not get it worse that you will stay together that you will do the work necessary so that it's not a miserable experience for both of you it will work but if you throw your hands up now and give up it's never going to.

The captions are wrong at a key place - truly abhorrent behavior, not truly important lol - 1:02

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Everytime my husband cleans it's super attractive

You look really tired…are you ok?

Btw I don't remember that much about this movie, I remember seeing it in theaters because a heterosexual friend of mine wanted to (we're both cis women, I'm very asexual though, also gray-panromantic) and it just felt like SUCH straight women energy in the theater, I felt so out of place, plus as someone who has experienced a TRULY bad mom in the form of an abusive mother, I hated this movie acting like all moms are good moms because they are always trying their best and the moral of the story is moms aren't ever bad, just human or something. Like no. Stop generalizing. Idk it was NOT a movie meant for me at all. I love Mila Kunis, Kristen Bell, and Sarah Drew as actresses but just. This movie was one of my least favorite movies I ever saw lol.

@MegaGreencarebear

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Thanks for sharing. I never considered this perspective. As a new mom, I really liked this film because it tried to tackle the impossible standards we try to hold mothers to. However, I did question whether it went too far, eg one of the three "bad moms" is definitely neglectful of her kid. It's played for laughs and he's older so it's not as obvious, but what we really need is a recalibration of our expectations of mothers to be a "good enough mother" rather than b/w poles of perfect good mom/anything goes bad mom.

@VioletEmerald

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@@MegaGreencarebear I very much agree. That very neglectful mom made me very uncomfortable to be treated as not bad too, I recall now. I want to be a good mom one day myself, probably one day in the next only a few years, as I'm already 32 but I'm intending to become a foster parent, a trauma informed foster parent who takes great care to be a good enough mom and understands it's unhealthy to strive for the impossible task of perfection, but aiming for good enough is powerful and certain types of key things are really key and important to being a good, loving, caring, thoughtful mother who values her kids and their perspectives along the way.

You should really change the word therapist to counselor. Why would they make a word that spells out the rapist that's supposed to be about helping you recover?

I saw that, and in particular, she just viewed him as a tool to be used, nothing more. And you mr Mended Light, have exactly the same attitude to men. We are nothuman, merely objects. Heaven help any man forced to come to you.

@JonathanDecker

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Lol. Okay. Back that up with evidence.

@jackdeniston59

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@@JonathanDecker Divorce Laws.

That guy's a kid in a man's body. He's a MAN CHILD cringe 😮‍💨