more asian parents need to see this

@IvyWayAcademy

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Caitlyn, speaker Alex here! Yes they need to. I'll be most grateful if you can help me share! Thanks in advance! :)

@luisvilla799

5 жыл бұрын

Most hispanic parents need to see this due to how ignorant alot are lol well at least mine and my friends

@harrue

5 жыл бұрын

I think everyone need to see this

@Arcamedi1

5 жыл бұрын

It’s not like they’d care to understand any ways

@nalinbhan4445

5 жыл бұрын

True

You know Harvard is actually hard when an Asian is giving a lecture about how hard it is

@nowaif9144

5 жыл бұрын

That is both racist and accurate! XD

@wonduxx5355

5 жыл бұрын

@@nowaif9144 That's not true. Only few hundreds of asians out of 10s of millions can qualify for Harvard

@alanabelaye-mateo8842

5 жыл бұрын

@Debasis kumar But we weren't talking about other countries. This is just Harvard, and I do get your reasoning, but whites do play a significant role in out status as a country

@drcommondrate12

5 жыл бұрын

Harvard is overrated lol. It is now imbued of privileged silver spoon fed students. I think MIT, National University of Singapore, and University of Hong Kong are better.

@ritageraghty4404

5 жыл бұрын

Believe this or not, Asians engineers in USA are more skilled than whites and so have higher salaries. Asian women earn roughly the same money as white men.

"If you are used to being successful in life , it will be hard for you to deal with failures."

@source3703

5 жыл бұрын

@Muhammad Kaz Kaz 🚫🧢

@hero0fqower

5 жыл бұрын

Trump Cant Stop Winning!

@sovietninja6865

5 жыл бұрын

Failing is good since it can make you go harder.

@josue7210

5 жыл бұрын

Oh yeah yeah you can't succeed without failures first

@hotsaucebeliever

5 жыл бұрын

Oh yeah oh yeah

Before I left for college, my Dad told me something I have always remembered. "You got in because you finished at the top of your class, but everyone else there finished at the top of his class too. And after first semester, most of you won't be at the top of your class anymore. Whatever you do, don't flunk out and don't drop out. Your mother and I don't care if you graduate last - just graduate in four years." I did, and I've since realized that most people don't even care where I went to college, let alone my GPA or my class rank. I'm so thankful my Dad told me that because I was able to go for me, not anyone else.

@khaihuynhcao7929

2 жыл бұрын

Your dad is great, you are so lucky

@haruharu4344

Жыл бұрын

That's some cool dad! Congratulations

@jahangirbutt5546

Жыл бұрын

I know lol Even when u apply for a job they won't look at what college you went. To or your degree but only your expirence

@tumblingartist

Жыл бұрын

Your Dad sounds awesome

@Matraka2000

Жыл бұрын

That is completely true. In real life and real jobs it is more important your attitude and emotional intelligence to deal with anything.

I’ve always said “I wanna go to some Ivy League school when I grow up” but recently I’ve been thinking of how hard it would be to compete with thousands of other number 1s who are also realizing that they can’t all be #1 anymore

@Bruh-bk6yo

Жыл бұрын

At some cushy Ivy League school?

@rgseven6557

10 ай бұрын

@@Bruh-bk6yohow is it cushy? You have to study really hard if not you will be kicked out by these colleges.

@yothisdogisbehavinggoofyaf5248

9 ай бұрын

@@Bruh-bk6yotry university of Texas

@raifkenedy3

9 ай бұрын

couldve gone pro if i hadnt joined the navy

@projectkepleren

9 ай бұрын

​@@rgseven6557Translator note: Cushy ivy league school is an expression usages by the vidoe game antagoniat "Senator Armstrong" from the video game: Metal Gear Rising: Revengeance which is a spin off of a video game series: Metal Gear Solid by Hideo Kojima

In my exams I got an 'A' in every subject. ...'Absent'.

@Nushentertainment1

5 жыл бұрын

i love you!

@livingthebestrn6981

5 жыл бұрын

Lol

@TheOlgaJC

5 жыл бұрын

That was great! LOL

@user-lt2su1qn8c

5 жыл бұрын

Daniel Evans May you were a part time student

@tacomadc

5 жыл бұрын

How'd that work out? Hard to succeed in your education if you don't f****ng show up.

"my first c+ in my life" Rookie numbers. Been rolling with c+'s since 6th grade.

@aryanrathod255

2 жыл бұрын

Rookie numbers mate. I never went to school so I don't even have grades.

@apurplegoldenfaith7

2 жыл бұрын

same😂😭

@tdjkhazard4522

2 жыл бұрын

“D” is for diploma am I right guys??? 😅

@mindlesssheep9116

2 жыл бұрын

A kindred spirit.

@FAN-eo4ou

2 жыл бұрын

@@tdjkhazard4522 and Degrees lol

I came back to this video after my friend passed away due to the same reason. It's been almost a year since the incident happened, but it's still engraved in my brain. The first time I watched this was 2 years ago, when I was working on my essays for US uni apps. Didn't get into any, and I ended up going to a prestigious university in Asia instead. Felt like a failure, but I was doing alright. COVID made it very hard to socialize and talk to people, but I still managed to become friends with a few. Halfway through my first sem, one of the few friends I made at uni passed away. And I still don't know why he made that decision. I still have messages from him on my phone that he sent the day before he passed away. Nothing seemed wrong. I still remember this extroverted, hard-working person who was mature and wise. But now, it's as if he didn't exist in the first place. Everyone who used to know him pretends like they don't know him at all, but I still open up the messages we sent each other every once in a while just to remind myself he did exist. Being a uni student sometimes sickens me. The day after I found out my friend died, I woke up early to finish an assignment that was due at midnight. I prepared for my tests and exams, and got surprisingly good scores. But inside, I was devastated, trying to cope with the situation. Being academically successful doesn't mean you're more organized and stable than the rest. It's absurd how we all pretend to be alright when we know no one is truly alright.

@user-io4vt8eo1k

Жыл бұрын

抱抱你😢

@xiaoqingling1500

Жыл бұрын

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@grav8455

10 ай бұрын

​@@xiaoqingling1500 couldn't agree more ❤

@Occ881

5 ай бұрын

You have good english

Major props to whoever is running this account for keeping up to date with comments and being supportive for people sharing their personal experiences.

I mean, if he was "average", i'm the dumbest guy in the world.

@elizabethbennet4791

5 жыл бұрын

lol and youre above average right? wtf

@alethes.sophia

5 жыл бұрын

he's an average a-hole

@RandomGuy-hh4dk

5 жыл бұрын

He probably forgot about most of the things he studied in harvard and remaining other things he will never use it in real life. But because he is hardworking he will still be successful in the future. Harvard doesn't have intelligent people it just has hardworking people that will be successful no matter what.

@Madness851

5 жыл бұрын

@@RandomGuy-hh4dk You can't seriously think only hard work will get you into Haward.

@lucastavares206

5 жыл бұрын

BRYCE not a rule. Some poor guys from my country (Brazil) got into harvard. But these are some rare examples. But i wont put enough time to search better about it.

"It's called dream school because it's not within your ability", it is very true.

@blsi4037

5 жыл бұрын

@@hansbrackhaus8017 um.....okay.....

@azure5584

5 жыл бұрын

It's always within someone's ability, though. There's always someone smarter than you - yeah, but there's also someone who's actually the absolute smartest.

@roskichan3001

5 жыл бұрын

I'm very bad academically so I can't relate to it.

@javadborhani7838

5 жыл бұрын

you name it dreamy school because you made it as a huge place where you can not achieve it even if you really suit the position. after 7 years of lying to myself, I do have to admit the only thing you need is to believe in yourself. not every smart guy is making the next big thing. not every average or poor guy has to be jobless. Just believe in yourself and fight for what you want but remember the only important part of it is that perseverance.

@vilifieddimensions7248

5 жыл бұрын

Plat i dont think so, a dream house should be a goal :)

Very interesting talk. This man seems well mannered and his drive for making his parents happy is really something to respect.❤️ May God bless you all

Everytime I struggle in my job and don't perform as well as others despite trying my best, I will return to this video to remind myself that we are always on a bell curve and someone has to take the bottom. I graduated from a prestigious university with a good GPA hence this phase of "adulthood" and adjustment has been very trying on me. I relate to this guy so much

Jokes on you, I don't need harvard to get depression

@Arcticwhir

3 жыл бұрын

For real, also I think many many college students have depression regardless of the college they go to. Personally was depressed in community college and that was very easy. Future uncertainty is also really anxiety inducing...

@williamlevison9966

3 жыл бұрын

LMAO

@Corridorcrawler

3 жыл бұрын

LOL help😂

@iamapokerface8992

3 жыл бұрын

stfu

@itzzme_cre

3 жыл бұрын

Righttt

It's okay, you can now add "Given a TEDx talk" in your resume.

@AshutoshSingh-to9vx

5 жыл бұрын

i cant stop thinking that this talk was only for a resume point.

@artificialintelligence5787

5 жыл бұрын

Ashutosh Singh, Where did you graduate? at Harvard? He graduated from Harvard and, believe me, he knows how to be successful and he has that potential.

@Nushentertainment1

5 жыл бұрын

HAHAHHAHAHA

@agglyusr

5 жыл бұрын

@@AshutoshSingh-to9vx Same. It didn't help me at all.

@sluggie1018

5 жыл бұрын

@@artificialintelligence5787 believe you? no, you give no credentials to be trustworthy. You can lose the 'believe me' cliche as not even kids will fall for that. It is a myth that every harvard graduate is successful. potential? yes. not necessarily successful. There's been enough studies and articles written about this. I could say believe me, but since I'm not retarded I'll just say do your own research.

This is a fantastic talk. I had an interview for Oxford to study engineering and I flunked it- best thing that ever happened. I went to Edinburgh, had a great time and ended with a real love for the subject and a hunger for more.

It's incredible how, everywhere on the globe, a lot of people are experiencing the same things, go through the same processes, the same feelings, etc. I've managed to enter my "Dream School" through HARD WORK and I was so proud when i've received my letter of acceptation. The things at school were tough, it was really hard but I could still managed it. When extra-scholars things happened, it broke my balance and i was STRUGGLING HARD. I've failed this year, quit the school and was really depressing during one year while keeping the same smile in front of my friends and parents... Now, i'm at another school, i'm a internship away from graduation and I'm still regretting the fact that I didn't keep up there. But I'm fine, it was a cool experience and rn i'm focus about who I am, what I'll be and it's OK thay way.

*Looks at triangle* *Chooses "ENOUGH SLEEP" twice*

@yfrufeyfryd2129

5 жыл бұрын

That what I did And I ended up expelled :/

@richszeszko8844

5 жыл бұрын

Haha. When he said he couldn't even do one, I almost laughed my ass off. Dude goes to Harvard and can't even figure out how to pivot away from grades and social life for a week to at least crush sleep? He isn't any college material.

@limazulu6192

5 жыл бұрын

@@richszeszko8844 maybe because if he chose that option he'd fall behind too much to catch up? He already illustrated pretty well that he's a hard working and accomplished overachiever type before he went to Harvard. This guy has never seen a C grade on anything he did and now he suddenly got them almost exclusively. That's not something you'd expect from someone who had a well established game plan that works for him. He's obviously been dumped into a situation that's hard to relate to from an outside perspective.

@Nova-du5on

5 жыл бұрын

Lima Zulu 911, I’d like to report a woooosh

@limazulu6192

5 жыл бұрын

@@Nova-du5on eh...i mean it could go eitherway depending on writers intention. If you have any experience in overworking in any field you'd know that proper resting may look like wasted time but would actually save you a lot more because you perform better. That's the way i understood it. I was just picturing that it might not be viable anyway.

Imagine waking up one day at university not knowing where your friend/ roommate is then some proctors knock at your door and say that your friend committed suicide. That would hit me hard

@tremolony4924

3 жыл бұрын

miss u everyday lil bro

@fdoki4385

3 жыл бұрын

@@nahidsumon9635 nobody asked

@nahidsumon9635

3 жыл бұрын

Haha you challenge my mental breakdowns weaklings?

@DirtyToenailZ

3 жыл бұрын

I would go into the wild and become an hippie

@JC-fd8ho

Ай бұрын

Why would someone commit suicide because of college?

This is the video that convinced me to accept enrollment at Bard College. I had real doubts, since it wasn't the Ivy League education I'd worked really hard for. But I realized that going to a school that prioritized a holistic education and a real emphasis on deep thought would be a better choice for my whole person, not just my GPA. So grateful this person shared his story ❤️

@iimaazii963

Жыл бұрын

Did u get accepted at any ivy leagues

@iluvatarchem

8 ай бұрын

You are rationalising failure. These schools are designed to bring out the elite of the elite. Deal with the fact

@safiulfaiyaz7038

7 ай бұрын

@@iimaazii963 I don’t think so she’s just coping, as if Harvard doesn’t prioritise holistic education or deep thought lmao.

Maybe that’s the education they were missing: knowing how to deal with not being the best, „failing“, not getting what they want or think they deserve. Harvard is gifting them a very important life lesson/experience

"My first C+ in my life." i am shook

@mariamk1952

5 жыл бұрын

hippity hopp ikr. When I was younger like getting 9/10 was so tragic I had mini mental breakdowns. Now getting 13/20 and don’t give a fuck lol 😂😂

@trinitylivingston1286

5 жыл бұрын

C+'s aren't that bad, but you've got into the mentality of a guy like him. He's used to getting straight A's for all of his life, so he's not used to this and he considered anything lower than an A- a failure. Plus, I think his parents drilled into him that good grades are all that matters. For me, sometimes the best grade that I get is a C.

@pokiblue5870

5 жыл бұрын

i had F- in history... i was basically sleeping in class lul

@trinitylivingston1286

5 жыл бұрын

@@pokiblue5870 sounds like my life.😂😂

@BruhTumbleweeds

5 жыл бұрын

Middle school deadass sucks lmfao. I used to be an all honor roll student back in elementary school then I applied for a really good school one of the best in the USA well top 500 at least. First term I was one of the only kids without honor roll. I know how you feel. Also the fact that kids from your old school who you used to overachieve or were better at become better than you.

When he says that he wants to be successful for his parents, you could hear his voice trembling and my heart just broke.

@jungkookslambskewers9025

4 жыл бұрын

Yes i did omg!😭😭😭😭😭

@mahooi

4 жыл бұрын

I can relate to him ..

@dailybls

4 жыл бұрын

If that's how your parents make you feel, they're not worth it. They should have already instilled in you that your life is your own. They shouldn't need you to make them happy. That's their failure there, right there. Life is so much more than 'success'. It's not real love if they're going to be unhappy because you're unsuccessful and they can't be proud of you. They should care more that you live a healthy, happy life surrounded by people you love and who love you back. And people shouldn't be loving you for your success either, because that's bullshit love. That's what real success is. And trust me, very very few people get that. Regardless of what school they went to or how much money they make. Work on your spirituality kids, the other stuff is dumb and superficial. If you love your work do it for itself, not for the success it will bring.

@feelcollins4358

4 жыл бұрын

@@dailybls I agree, Imo being supportive of the positive things their kid can do is the best way a parent can show their love. If their kids stray to a darker path though like consumption of narcotics or commiting crimes then it's the parent's job to set it right (it's still a form of support), but nonetheless never make them feel like they are indebted to the parents, because the parent's job is to guide their kids to be able to make their own decisions as they grow up and be able to live without their parents.

@raniabenabou8481

4 жыл бұрын

Omg yes Thought he gon cry

This hit deep its actually pretty spot on for people who are in ivy league colleges or even other higher ranked ones it gets pretty tough for you as a person who has never experienced failure in highschool and in your mind you're just thinking that everyone has high expectations for me and you're always under constant pressure like for me it got to a point where even when the semester ended and the final grades were up i still go back to the university's website to check for assignments and such, and then i realize what i'm doing and just get really mad for doing it. It feels like i just want to run away and restart everything in my life. But we move on....stay tough out there guys and just remember, if you're working hard sooner or later, you will harvest that sweet sweet fruit.

Yea I was definitely disappointed that I didn’t get into Oxford because I want to have that “dream school” on my resume. After watching this video it’s definitely a blessing in disguise. I’m currently at University of Helsinki and it’s so far it’s the best experience ever. :) met tons of friends, professors care about your mental health and still push you to succeed, and I get time to focus on myself. Thanks for sharing Alex, never go by worldly standards, each individual including you all have an awesome destiny in the future than what a “dream school” can offer.

Y’all, no one is commenting about his friend, John, who committed suicide🤷🏼‍♂️ I just think it’s sad that someone would really do that because of school.

@comforth3898

4 жыл бұрын

Ohhh yes you would I mean, I'm even considering it myself But I probably won't though because what if I survive and I'm left with a major injury or something Besides i still believe i can turn around my academic life But honestly, college education at an A class college is fucking depressing and can lead you to some really dark places

@VaricYT

4 жыл бұрын

he never referred him he was suicidal because of school work. But im sure youre more than half right to blame it on school.

@Nikita-vd4tz

4 жыл бұрын

@@comforth3898 I don't know you and anything, but please don't take your life You have the right approaches, I know it's not easy, but talk to someone about what you think It can be a friend, family member or a stranger like me Hope your life changes to a better one

@brynnaandersen7739

4 жыл бұрын

@@comforth3898 There was a girl at my school who was so stressed and depressed that she committed suicide - even those who didn't know her were mourning for the pain she must have felt. I've had friends contemplate suicide because of school, and it's hard not to mourn with them for feeling like all hope is lost and their destiny is set for failure and more sadness. But that's absolutely not the case. A few years back I was in a very dark and anxious place, and I kept having thoughts that my life was just going to be a life of suffering - i would grow up and be an adult and still be suffering and feeling guilty all the time. It took me a lot to realize that those thoughts were not true, but complete lies, and not everything that i thought was true. Not everything that you think true. What you feel is undoubtedly there, but why it is there may not be what you think. Please talk these thoughts to someone outloud. Please talk to someone. Help is available, and strength is also. From a fellow college kid, please hold on.

@dannovanpauldevis5999

4 жыл бұрын

uhhmm you'll be surprised on how many students commit suicide because of studies. It's good tho that you didn't know about this. :)

Harvard University Motto: *Havahard time studying in Harvard*

@sentinel_1752

5 жыл бұрын

Macedthur Harvard wants u

@marcossantana1312

5 жыл бұрын

I'm having a hard time right now >:)

@brad349miller

5 жыл бұрын

Correction Havahahd time studying in Havahd. *New England accent.

@lonelypotatojinneverfound378

5 жыл бұрын

I'm doing it well without harvard's help...

@jayomage2764

5 жыл бұрын

*Harvard wants to know your location*

This is the definition of ‘real talk’ cuz damn this man kept it real.

This resonates alot with life during medical school no matter how hard you try you will still get Bs & Cs sometimes D. Stress is immersurable continuous even post graduation and for the rest of your life you are expected to be on 120% performance all the time

Okay that triangle thing is so bs. I get no sleep, have no friends and have a 2.0 GPA.

@bencruz3805

5 жыл бұрын

Jamarcus Swindle what?

@avzarathustra6164

5 жыл бұрын

@@bencruz3805 lol

@killurmastersent.8930

5 жыл бұрын

Ben Cruz it means to be honest

@lindsay16

5 жыл бұрын

I'm gonna be honest, that's pretty sad man

@stsk7

5 жыл бұрын

Hahah 0/3 in the visible triangle but im sure you have a strong 4th category!

You don’t have to go to Harvard to be a genius.

@HelgatheHorriblez

4 жыл бұрын

SCARlet_DRaKox13 truth! A sign of true genius is not going to begin with!

@skrtskrt6286

4 жыл бұрын

You don’t have to go to school to be a genius

@skrtskrt6286

4 жыл бұрын

ArcticZombie fine I’m liking my own comment

@yashaswikulshreshtha1588

4 жыл бұрын

Einstein refused many degrees offered by top ranking universities, he didn't have degree. He made his name a title with efforts not with these universities.

@yashaswikulshreshtha1588

4 жыл бұрын

If you're genius then you don't need get a stamp of these universities to be known as genius. Believe in your strength not in improving some other points, if you fail at exams it's okay, that doesn't mean you're worthless. Always remember that you're not machine to be perfect at a certain task you can choose your tasks on your own, no matter if it's artist, singers, or technological hobbyists. You have one life one chance, but a lot of time. Try to stand among geniuses with your strengths not with your improved weakness, enhance your talent, don't supress it cuz that's gonna let you think, decide, win everything.

Bravo brother! As a teacher myself, I've seen so many of high school students being under excruciating pressure just as to get to what they call "dream university". This kind of talk should be shared more because it's the matter of being true to who they are rather than look up to others whose capability is way better than theirs in terms of academic performance. Accept yourself, move on and evolve at your own pace. Success is on your way as long as you decently work hard and never quit!

Alex, you honesty is outstanding. More high school students need to know that the first year of college is difficult no matter what school they are in. It is a big adjustment. You have to get to know your professors and see what their styles and expectations are. It is common for A students in high school to get Cs the first semester. A B at Harvard means you still worked hard. It is sad that there is so much pressure. I didn't go to Harvard. I always did my best and I didn't really care about my grades. My parents expectations from elementary school on, were do your very best. I know Asian students have a lot of pressure from day one because of the competition. If they could relax a little more, they would most likely do better grade wise. I lived in China for 3 years. Alex, you will go far in life where ever you work. Just always stay as honest as you were in this TEDx.

@IvyWayAcademy

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Lorraine!

Bruh said he transferring to NYU like it was a damn community college like lol wut

@sosa.6k

4 жыл бұрын

😂

@mustaki7620

4 жыл бұрын

Lol

@Ali-hh8vl

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@SS-yv9cq

4 жыл бұрын

I've been laughing at this 2 minutes straight lmfao 🤣🤣

@spearofconquest

4 жыл бұрын

Because it is when compared to someone like him. Overachievers in academics who have zero interest in liberal arts, wouldn't wipe their ass with a degree from NYU lmao.

harvard sounds like an absolute nightmare

@andrewschannel4259

5 жыл бұрын

JuliFXJ I call it Hardvard for a reason.

@stretfordenddevil7735

5 жыл бұрын

Some Ivy League graduates turned out to be the most deranged, degenerate people ever.

@shelby7188

5 жыл бұрын

BRAVEHEART that’s so true lol

@TheWhoIsItOfWhoCares

5 жыл бұрын

@@shelby7188 no its not true. Don't form universal opinions based on one video.

@Merdicano

5 жыл бұрын

@@andrewschannel4259 Hahahaha

I struggled even in high school. My most challenging subject was English because it was my second language. And I continued to struggle even at an average college. Higher education is not for everyone. Just choose that path that makes you happy.

I was not from Ivy-League university, but I can totally understand what he has gone through. I was doing very well academically in primary school, and ended up in one of the top secondary school in my country. And somehow, I still able to do well academically. Despite having social awkwardness, I was still well known in my batch as sometimes I scored excellent in certain subjects while others failed in that subject. But things changes as I enter university. Even though the university is not of Ivy-League, I was surrounded by the best of the best in their high school. And for the first time in my life, I almost failed in one of my module. As much as I aimed to score high, I knew at that time, its not possible. So instead, I reduced my expectation and ensure myself not to fail in any modules. And I did it. I graduated in chemical engineering without failing in any modules. I was still able to do and graduated with a PhD later, and now working as a Postdoctoral Researcher. Meanwhile, some of my primary and secondary classmates who didnt do well academically, become more successful and wealthier than me. I was puzzled and analyzed what make them different from me? Turns out instead, we had the same mentality but different path and goal. And that is: determination and never give up. Hence I came out a quote: " Getting good grades doesnt make you a billionaire." It doesnt matter whether you can study or not. What is matter is to find the right environment for yourself, and then work hard to be successful. Being a postdoctoral researcher is not easy, but somehow is the right environment for me, and thats how I can succeed in career. But if I switched role with my friend who is wealthy as he is good in sales and business, I dont think I can be successful in sales and business, while I dont think he will be successful in doing research. This is something that I hope every parents, especially Asian parents, will finally understand.

I taught at Harvard for five years. At the beginning of my second semester, I asked the head of the Mental Health dept of Student Services why Harvard people-students AND faculty-were so uniformly miserable. He answered me directly: “Everyone here finds their limits”-i.e., exactly what Alex Chang is describing here-“so they get grumpy and depressed.”

@jarry8150

2 жыл бұрын

so they're not use to having their resilience tested because their "over-achievers?" or is it for the sake of having "limits" tested?

@rhondarockwell2384

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t know what an overachiever could possibly be. These people are super achievers, many of them, who have never not been good at just about anything the first time they tried. If they tried hard, really worked at something they loved, they never failed; they were unbeatable. Or so they thought till they got to Harvard and were outdone, which to them is the same as failing. So they have to learn how to bounced back, which is a far easier lesson for young kids@@jarry8150

@jarry8150

2 жыл бұрын

@@rhondarockwell2384 yeah makes sense, so a question of resiliency/mental fortitude. So they’ve excelled at whatever they’re natural inclinations. And when they’re abilities are tested self esteem, self image, ect come into confidence question. Mental resilience cannot be exercised if you’re always “winning” and never experiencing a time that required them to bounce back.

@EmekaI

2 жыл бұрын

I grew up in the UK and went to Cambridge University. I had the single highest score in Scotland in Chemistry and Maths my year but didn’t top the class at University. I didn’t even come close to the top, though my grades were still good. I was fine. I didn’t die. Because I knew and I know I’m not the best at everything, I can never be the best at everything, and NO ONE is the best at everything. I can appreciate that it’s humbling when you realise you’re no longer the smartest kid in the room (and actually NO ONE is the smartest in the room across all subjects/specialisations) but some people clearly need a reality check ... without trying to sound too harsh. If Einstein was rejected by ETH Zurich I can live with the fact that I’m not the top student at Cambridge University or Oxford University or Harvard University or MIT or Stanford or Princeton or whatever elite university you and thousands of other people went to.

@reemalin

2 жыл бұрын

Vince Lombardi It's not whether you get knocked down, it's whether you get up.

His voice was trembling the whole time and it sounded like he was about to cry I felt so bad

@forsaken696

4 жыл бұрын

YayItsFranny first person who didn’t have a first and last name username

@wondergound680

4 жыл бұрын

yes, they are for real. i have used them too

@saviitrius

4 жыл бұрын

I thought the trembling was just the anxiety brought on by public speaking, except for the moment he was talking about his parents; he really did sound like he was struggling to keep his composure.

@yashaswikulshreshtha1588

4 жыл бұрын

you felt it because i think you never felt it often, think about us in our country we feel this every time even before high schools even me. you know many of the students dies here cuz of pressure created by competition. Here if you don't wanna starve out of hunger etc then study hard. don't take term 'starve' too serious but it's kinda like this

@ericardperalta3578

4 жыл бұрын

No he's not lol

Wow, EVERY kid who is applying to college should see your great message! Thanks

top 10 out of 1100 people. "I'm not a genius like my classmates" bruh what?!

@burgos582

3 жыл бұрын

believe it or not, his stats are pretty bad compared to most Harvard applicants

@thesaddestdude3575

3 жыл бұрын

@@burgos582 Sauce

@burgos582

3 жыл бұрын

@@thesaddestdude3575 His SAT score would barely put him in the 25th percentile there. Harvard doesn't like to give specifics on who they admit, but people who are applying there typically have 15+ AP classes while he has 5. His awards are actually pretty good but will be vastly overshadowed by the others at Harvard

@thesaddestdude3575

3 жыл бұрын

@@burgos582 Its wild, i can't imagine what is needed to get a perfect A score across the board, i remember having a teacher that just didn't like me so he gave me shitty grade, what must one do in order to always ace everything. These people would have to excell on so many levels, and get the perfect conditions at the same time, i just can't imagine that there would be enough to fill these universities.

@Insigniaxhonkai

3 жыл бұрын

it's like he is very good and hardworker, but it's not enough groundbreaking achievements.

My friend went to Harvard because her parents wanted her to. She went into a deep depression and ended up transferring to another university after only one semester. Needless to say she was much happier.

@celestial6166

3 жыл бұрын

i'm so sorry to hear that!! hope she's doing good right now

@alexysam7169

3 жыл бұрын

Good for her..

@cherylmonterola2322

3 жыл бұрын

Why she got depressed and what average i.q. can pass in harvard?

@alfiemarc8852

3 жыл бұрын

many think, harvard will make your future a better , thats not true, JEFF bezos ceo of Amazon, didnt even go to harvard yet he makes billions everybody knows his by now, he has more money than anyone than any person you can think, more than tesla, you name it

@jacobsaadoun5523

3 жыл бұрын

@@alfiemarc8852 jeff went to Princeton

Damn, this really hitting hard on me rn. I barely passed my 3rd year subjects in undergraduate pre-med course and I’ve been doubting myself for quite some time if I can handle going to med school. It’s really hard not to disappoint your parents and peers around you as an Asian myself. I hope the best for other struggling students out there!

I’m currently in one of the top foreign language high schools in south korea. As a sophomore which is the first year of hs in korea, everyone seems way too smart compared to me and I couldn’t be more worried about my future. Apparently a lot of ppl have depression and anxiety from so so much stress and barely any sleep. Graduates say they were very sick for years afer they graduated. Some were told they wouldn’t live longer than 30. Although this is high school, I highly sympathized to this video considering hs has less stability and almost no vision for the future. The truth is that I don’t have a dream, no idea what I wanna be. But maybe it’s ok. I’ve spent about two weeks at my new hs. Maybe one day I’ll look back on today and say what a state I was in. I’ll work hard, no matter how stressful, and hopefully, I’ll survive through the tough 3 years😊.

"Harvard is hard" *Every 60 seconds in Africa a minute passes*

@jamalanewpizza6334

4 жыл бұрын

Liviu Dan I DONT BELIEVE YOU.

@jimothyjimothy1

4 жыл бұрын

Hardvard

@KelvinWKiger

4 жыл бұрын

Fake news.

@pmc614

4 жыл бұрын

@@thatonesomali3217 How is it controversial?

@pmc614

4 жыл бұрын

@@KelvinWKiger Fake and gay

Honestly, "The Kissing Booth" directors need to see this. Harvard isn't a community college... Who tf would accept Elle to get into Harvard with that essay of hers, let alone call Harvard her "back up option"

@tanvikhare9710

3 жыл бұрын

That's a stupid movie, mate, don't take it seriously😂

@itswilly9043

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@stuntmastermonkey

3 жыл бұрын

are you dumb bruh it’s called a joke

@apexspyder8994

3 жыл бұрын

It was really dumb. Like Harvard is insane and this girl was just writing nonsense to the admissions woman

@apexspyder8994

3 жыл бұрын

@@stuntmastermonkey What exactly is the joke

My father got admitted to Harvard in the 70s but he did not attend because he could not afford the tuition. He instead decided to go to trade school and learn to be a plumber . He retired in 2008 with a plumbing business in Texas having 238 trucks and 560 employees making over 10 mil a year . So moral of the story do what you love and money comes to you no matter which school you go to .

I dropped out of grad school and I am still proud of it to this day

The most successful person I ever met was my great grandpa. He never learned how to read and worked fields all his life, but he found happiness in all the things that God allotted to him.

@elaineburnett5230

2 жыл бұрын

Your Grandpa was a genuis...

@lydiaheelu2681

2 жыл бұрын

@@elaineburnett5230 I totally agree with you.

@ethanzambrano7083

2 жыл бұрын

A trully sucessful man, he knew that while school can lead to success, its not the only way and that we should go with what is the best for us and our health, also that you can take pride and be happy in things/jobs that aren't all academic related.

@julianj_7

2 жыл бұрын

Amen

@teniola9304

2 жыл бұрын

I'm proud of your great grandfather congratulations 🎊 👏🏿 💐

i was the type of student who freaked at anything lower than B+ in high school, but now that I'm in uni anything above a D is a win for me lol

@polymathecian

2 жыл бұрын

You’re a cutie. 😏

@clublulu399

2 жыл бұрын

If there's one things to take away, it's C's get Degrees. Good looks also help.

@LtKregorov

2 жыл бұрын

I never cared about my scores at all but never really struggled during school either. I went through uni (4 years of electrical engineering degree) without much issue. I was the type of student that never go in classes, study by himself and only show up at exams. I finished with a degree above average of my group but not by much, I shown up at any party I could find, closing bars with friends all years long. Easily the best 4 years of my life. Do you know which question I never got asked by a recruiter? What is your score\grade? Unless you really want to do a master or phd, on the job market scores barely matter. If you are unlucky it will a tiny bit for the first job. After that, experience gained from job is wayyyyyyyyyy more important. No one will ever request your school grades ever again. Work enough to get through and not more and take all the time left to enjoy every spare minute you have to party. Our favorite line back then was: D for Diploma.

@mynames7664

2 жыл бұрын

@@polymathecian yeah man good job you hit on a girl over youtube, she'll for sure message you

@tdjkhazard4522

2 жыл бұрын

@@mynames7664 😂😂😂

Yes he is so right I went to Fordham University For my BA, New York College of Podiatric Medicine for my DPM and Adelphi University for my MBA before I tried out of necessity of running a multiple office practice as the CEO to do certificate programs at The executive education aspects of Wharton, Cornell, Columbia and Harvard. Now I applied and was accepted to Cornell for my MHA so that I can educate myself and implement that knowledge to better understand public health and healthcare so that my business can evolve into a compassionate and successful healthcare system.

Iam so glad that he shared behind the curtains of fantasy. Its everybody dream to be in harvard everybody craves for it but reality is different struggle is also more than other universities and yes the amount of pressure you have especially when you are from different nationality it quite took a lot from you. I have also had a very painful high school days but i am glad that i pass those moments and iam trying to do better now .SO THANK YOU FOR THE SPEAKER ALEX FOR BEING BRAVE TO SHARE YOUR SIDE OF STORY. I USED TO THINK IWAS SUCH A LOSER OF MY FAMILY THAT I COULDNT MEET MY PARENTS AND MY OWN EXPECTATIONS THIS VIDEO IS SO SPECIAL TO ME NOW ONWARDS .I WIL SAVE THIS VIDEO IN MY PLAYLIST BECAUSE IT GIVES ME COMFORT BY LETTING ME KNOW THAT ITS OKAY TO STRUGGLE WITH YOUR GRADES NEW FRIENDS AND UNIVERSITIES AND ITS NORMAL TO BE ANXIED WHILE DEALING WITH THIS PHASE THANK YOU 😊😊

Mental health really needs to be taken more seriously

@andrewatkins8925

5 жыл бұрын

@@xhorizon1976 but we can't be the ones to die when we are the ones doing the exterminating and the fact that pussies like you could never fight back let alone hurt a fly xD

@andrewatkins8925

5 жыл бұрын

@@xhorizon1976 but yet he never inferred racial genocide but yet you use it as your topic example. Clearly showing how far you took his statement that you would go to assume that it borders the lines of racial genocide. But if that be the case then yes... We need an idiot genocide :)

@jakezlomek6192

5 жыл бұрын

Lennart O oooo shit dawg, your heartless lol

@mattlukco3717

5 жыл бұрын

Lennart O absolutely evil

@audreybel6805

5 жыл бұрын

Ibnziyad Tariq if everyone who lived never died earth wld be a mosh pit.

It would’ve been better if the title was “Harvard is Hardvard”

@freshtanoori5992

5 жыл бұрын

IM WHEEZING 😂😂

@half-soul8393

5 жыл бұрын

Oh my my genius

@danieltruong1905

5 жыл бұрын

GET THIS MAN IN HARVARD!

@mielle3470

5 жыл бұрын

bruh, you want a scholarship?

@SuperTf2rocks

5 жыл бұрын

hardvard wants to know your location

Thank you for sharing your story. You are a brave authentic young man.

I read a book in high school called 'David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants'. I found it a really good read, and I still find myself thinking about the things I learned from it today, ~5 years later. Each chapter was a story of an underdog overcoming an allegorical giant. In one of the chapters, it was discussed that it might sometimes be better to be a big fish in a little pond then a little fish in a big pond. This Ted Talk made me think of that chapter. Probably everybody thinks it would be awesome to say they got into Harvard. The connotations of that statement is that you're brilliant. But, that doesn't mean you should go there. That is because most people who go to Hardvard are brilliant. That means that the relative level of intelligence, work, creativity, dedication, etc. will be far higher at Harvard than at virtually any other school. Instead of excelling at Harvard, you might barely meet expectations, and get C's, not get attention from Professors because they are focused on the other brilliant minds, etc. On the other hand, being brilliant and attending a good school might make you one of their most brilliant members. You'll get good grades, be recognized by and given attention by Professors, and so on. In short, you'll be a big fish in a little pond and prosper, whereas you might be a little fish in a big pond at places like Harvard. That's not to say Harvard isn't the right place for everybody. But some people really might enjoy the experience of being a big fish at a little sea more.

This man gave a 13 minutes speach with no mistakes or awkward silence. I can't even talk in front of my class for 2 minutes without having an anxiety attack

@Jathinr

4 жыл бұрын

That's because he was speaking his mind , his mind is clear. When your mind is uncluttered you can speak with confidence , then you won't think what others are going to think about you , you just think for your self

@aldanyiu4352

4 жыл бұрын

@Kaptain Kid INDEED! that was what i'm about to say XD

@user-ly4ut6xh7q

4 жыл бұрын

Trust me I was at the same position at you are,once you are confident about yourself you will see a drastic change in yourself.i have seen a great changes my life,trust me.i cant emphasize on how beleving in yourself could make a difference.just be clear of your thoughts. And also even if you makes some mistakes it's okay my friend, everybody will laugh at you and giggle at you but that's how people grow.ik it's embarrassing it's really embarrassing but after 2years you would laugh at these things.i have experienced same thing so I can tell you.ANYWAY, BEST OF LUCK FOR FUTURE!!

@user-ly4ut6xh7q

4 жыл бұрын

Just make sure that these giggles could help you grow.because criticism helps a person to step outside of our comfort zone🙃🌏

@jhonpolanco1347

4 жыл бұрын

Cristiana Darau you’re very beautiful!

This guy was on the brink of tears and I’m so proud of him for telling us his story.

@natanmiksic8537

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah, his voice was cracking little bit the time he was talking about his friend that committed suicide. Great guy, would love to have him as a friend

@alethes.sophia

5 жыл бұрын

well, to be fair, being a catamite isn't easy.

@Daniel.Emmanuel10

5 жыл бұрын

@@alethes.sophia what the heck?

@alethes.sophia

5 жыл бұрын

@@Daniel.Emmanuel10 oh, it's nothing you would understand with your uninitiated mind.

@andrewwhitted1011

5 жыл бұрын

@@alethes.sophia I think he was saying "what the heck" more in the sense that he is shocked about what you said not his understanding of the word.

Appreciate the sharing of this young man. Both of our boys graduated valedictorian in their respective class of over 800 in N. Texas. One attended and graduated from Princeton and the other from Harvard. The older boy learned how to be humble at Princeton when he discovered that 24 of 28 in his class were valedictorians, and he didn't get any A in his first 6-weeks report. Getting into those schools isn't the hardest, to graduate from them is.

@pastoryau2237

2 жыл бұрын

I forwarded this video to our 2 boys now in their late 40s. Here is the short message I attached with the video: Watching this video helps me to understand how ignorant we parents are to know our kids and their struggles during and after their college years. I am more thankful to see my kids and their endurance during those years. May the Lord continue to guide you and provide the strength you need to go through all the ups and down of life.

@IvyWayAcademy

2 жыл бұрын

Truly appreciate your sharing your story. Thanks Pastor Yau!

*Me showing this to my parents* My parents: But at least he got into Harvard

@360wheelz5

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@RodriHermo

3 жыл бұрын

@@360wheelz5 Thats sad for you :(

@bobsmith962

3 жыл бұрын

Man

@mayuripandey2483

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly... 😂😂😂🥺

@Zeicel

3 жыл бұрын

Oh:(

This video was amazing,Thank you for sharing this.

I never thought I needed this. Thank you

Harvard is Hard...and The Sky is Blue.

@noneofall1397

5 жыл бұрын

also cause dicc long

@heyhey5364

5 жыл бұрын

Harvard is hard, The sky is blue, I made this poem Just for you!

@zulu6167

5 жыл бұрын

Vladimir Goh dafuq

@M3ta1

5 жыл бұрын

In other news water is wet

@devoshin2308

5 жыл бұрын

Harford is hard... and the sky is blue, we're all going to get bombed by Kim Jong un

*if you're not doing good in school, that also okay. Unless if you're in asia*

@muniroloko3584

5 жыл бұрын

Disagree. Africa too ... you know how it is .. also let's not exclude the middle-eastern

@louissehaberle1856

5 жыл бұрын

@@muniroloko3584 ik ik i just quoted what he said in the video :>

@muniroloko3584

5 жыл бұрын

Louisse Haberle oops my bad. Must have not heard it. And I don’t see no quotation marks either 😭

@louissehaberle1856

5 жыл бұрын

@@muniroloko3584 it's okkk!! It's on bold tho that means I used ** those but it's ok i understand! ♡

@thiccjigga2585

5 жыл бұрын

Ur peng

Great Talk! Must see for all the High Schoolers who aspire for IVY leagues.

I remember making all straight A's throughout grade school, middle school and high school, all the honors and clubs and leaderships and whatnot that I did, just to hit college and get straight C's my first semester. The depression and pressure to succeed were extreme. I remember friends committing suicide and dropping out of college. I remember considering suicide and dropping out of college myself, that I had fooled myself into thinking I might be good enough. Colleges call this condition "weeding out the unfit students". Looking back, I see it the same way that Alex sees it. Although I didn't attend an Ivy League school, I also graduated college with the "Ivy League" mentality of mental toughness, perseverance, confidence, passion and social responsibility. Today, years later, this mentality helps me foster my personal business and entrepreneurship. No matter what you may "fake" to others, ALWAYS be true to yourself.

I'm 27, went to a crappy unpopular college and got a bachelor's in computer science. Now I work at NASA as a cyber security engineer, don't have any student debts and own a condo. So please think again before applying to an Ivy league school. -- Correction, I don't own the condo, I have a mortgage, but you get the point. Also I just finished a Master's in Cybersecurity at a better school

@shelby7188

5 жыл бұрын

If this is true, congrats

@dracobluelol

5 жыл бұрын

@coward LOL!

@akosimauballat5575

5 жыл бұрын

Wowww! I am so impressed! It gives me more motivation!!! Thank you for sharing your story

@hmmm9220

5 жыл бұрын

Wow I feel so inspired

@exposedd2

5 жыл бұрын

Flex

Class mate: the anwser was 13,257 Other class mate: No it was 13,256 Me: * erasing *BARACK OBAMA* *

@yourgirlsarah1868

5 жыл бұрын

Lmao fr tho 🤣

@Onur_ince

5 жыл бұрын

-Harvard- Hardvard

@akirakirawabushi7019

5 жыл бұрын

@@Onur_ince i don get it

@moofmoofnguyen1175

5 жыл бұрын

@@akirakirawabushi7019 it's a joke, he just mean he get a very different answer

@jacobmartin8332

5 жыл бұрын

FBI agent #2419 FBI agent #2419: Lmao

How this resonate with me so well. I too am currently attending a prestigious university in my country and on top of that studying in the major that had the highest requirements for entry. It was a wonderful moment when i got the admission letter, i showed that to everyone, my parents was really proud of me, they too, showed the admission letter to everyone. Since the uni is at a different city, i had to move out. At first it felt life changing (technically it still is), i feel like i was going to enter this world, this environment that is going to boost me so well and turn me into this successful, magnificent figure. I still think that was rather naïve for someone who is on top of her class. But reality didnt take its time, the moment my dad come back to our hometown and i was left alone in this new, big city, i realized how small and alone i was. And it didnt take long into the semester that i realized i cant blend in very well with the people here. On topnof that i was, for the first time, struggling academically. I wasnt a #1 anymore and no one cared for me. I, under pressure, also applied for a ton of extra curricular activities. And i failed, again for the first time. When i did get into a club however. Balancing it and school work was more than hectic, yet i know other people is doing the same thing as me, and they are doing it so much better. They were successful, happy and they just kept going. I eventually got overwhelmed and cut back on the extra curricular activities yet i still wasnt doing as well as the ones who were still balancing the two. And some of them were even working part time. My results were also less than the people who crammed everything in the last week while i studied for the whole semester straight. All of that and more combined wrecked my identity, my pride and self worth. Ironically, i was more confident in public but i was always anxious, more and more constantly anxious than ive ever been. Id close all my windows and door to balconies at night to prevent myself from being so overwhelmed i do something reckless without thinking about it. At this point i still feel like what i feel is rather trivial and i shouldnt be feeling this way, i mean theres people at harvard and oxford … and im out here having the same struggles at them? Its almost laughable. Although i dont particularly enjoy going through all this struggle, i dont deny it has helped me improve something along the line of what Alex mentioned. Its good to hear someone in a similar situation to know that im not alone tho, thanks Alex and people im the comments!

@sodiyaifeoluwa47

2 ай бұрын

I'm currently going through the same right now.I just got into university this year and its really a rude shock to find myself struggling academically

This is a great video. People truly underestimate how hard these places are. The only people who coast there are supra-geniuses, but almost everyone there is gifted and with an extraordinary work ethic and struggle tremendously

@comlain2513

Жыл бұрын

intelligence =/= knowledge =/= hard work

I was top of my class. Went to law school. Nearly cracked. I quit law school and applied for a two-year degree as a woodworking technician. By being innovative, I now make plenty of money, and I have a ton of free time. My point: prestige isn't everything. Smart people can often work their way up, even in "lower level" occupations. At the local CLT factory, we have a gigantic CNC machine. I first taught myself to operate it, while working the assembly line. Then, I taught myself how to program the thing. Then, I developed plans on how we could improve and speed up the entire operation. All I'm saying, is that there are great careers out there, in places where you may not have realized.

@yourproblem9195

5 жыл бұрын

Alot of the richest people in the world didn't even graduate high-school. Just because school isn't your best environment doesn't mean your dumb.

@sebfox2194

5 жыл бұрын

@@yourproblem9195 A lot of them did though. Bezos went to Princeton, Gates and Zuckerberg went to Harvard, and Buffet went to Columbia business school. Steve Jobs went to community college, but he still graduated from high school. You don't have to be great academically to make money and have a good life. And the academic path is not the only path to success. But, one thing that's true is that a lot of the poorest people in the world didn't do very well in school. On average people with college degrees earn more money than those without.

@yourproblem9195

5 жыл бұрын

@@sebfox2194 I know all that, I just hate the misconception that you have to be dumb if you don't get straight As. And also the misconception that having straight As means you're super intelligent. Just not true

@sebfox2194

5 жыл бұрын

@@yourproblem9195 I agree with your point that you're not necessarily dumb if you don't do well in school. And that you can also succeed in life despite not doing well in school. I just think your first statement that most of the richest people in the world didn't graduate high school is not true, because most of them did.

@yourproblem9195

5 жыл бұрын

@@sebfox2194 Yeah I was reluctant to say most, changed it to Alot

No wonder an intellectual genius like lil pump drops out of Harvard,my god.

@zorquax

5 жыл бұрын

in the sea of comments yours is the best

@thc7865

5 жыл бұрын

U won the internet for today

@frespects9624

5 жыл бұрын

Actually, it was HARVeRD

@RepliesMuted

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Stalin.

@benb4805

5 жыл бұрын

666th like :steamsmiley:

The truth people often overlook is that your mental health is more important than getting the top grade. Sometimes you get so lost in the pursuit of your prestigious degree that you forget what you truly love, because you’re no longer happy in the process. In schools like Harvard, everyone is a winner at the beginning. As time goes on there will be way more failures than successes and the ones that fail will be devastated to the point of depression, because nobody came here to be the bottom of the class. So go for what brings you happiness, not simply a prestigious degree. Most high-school leavers have no idea what life at a college like Harvard will be and just label every Ivy their “dream school”.

stay calm...focus...absorb. I use to turn a study into a game. this greatly reduced my tension, slowly you rise academically, spiritually,, and physically.

i love TED talks.... pretty people who say looks don’t matter, smart people who say smarts don’t matter, etc etc etc.

@IScreenshotNFTs

5 жыл бұрын

Looks actually matter 100%. But smart doesnt have to matter. Take billionaire robert herjavec for example. Did his bachelors in arts, and is now the founder of a cyber security company thats related to computer science. Skills complement knowledge. If you dont have skills, only knowledge, then you are pretty useless.

@darkknight-xm5cj

5 жыл бұрын

Josh Johnson what do you mean looks matter

@tdreamgmail

5 жыл бұрын

Josh Johnson he was being ironical ...

@tdreamgmail

5 жыл бұрын

It’s disguised self aggrandizement but it only fools stupid people.

@flazzyfire7717

5 жыл бұрын

Josh Johnson looks matter but not 100%. Would you rather have a 8/10 women who you love or some 10/10 bum girl

This does not only apply to Harvard, but all Ivy League schools and any of the top 50 schools in the world.

@IvyWayAcademy

3 жыл бұрын

Hey George, thanks for the comment! Definitely; in fact, it should apply to the top 50 in any field, even outside of the context of education.

@aolvaar8792

3 жыл бұрын

They don't have Mandatory flunking, bottom 10% of every course. "We have the computer do it, it's not fair but it is impartial." Only half of the freshman class should be allowed to graduate.

@mr_squid1980

3 жыл бұрын

@@aolvaar8792 what does this mean

@aolvaar8792

3 жыл бұрын

@@mr_squid1980 State Schools get paid based on graduation rates>> 97% and Average 3.80+ GPAs

@mr_squid1980

3 жыл бұрын

@@aolvaar8792 Ok why is that relevant

I feel bad for individuals like Alex Chang who work so hard to get to a place they want to be but are not rewarded. Do people think these top colleges have a secret formula, new curriculum, or magic book that would put them ahead of everyone else? The answer is no! Everyone uses the same books and receives the same information. The problem in Alex's case he had to pay 40k more than everyone else. As for myself, looking at business schools like Wharton, where some course's content for MBA classes consisted of only articles and no books. These schools aren't providing the same dedication as the students working so hard to be there.

This is exactly what he needs to hear! Thanks!

This was almost the exact same lecture I got during my medical school orientation. The problem is that people build their identities around their achievements. When this happens a failure is not simply a failure - it's an attack on who you are. *Know this:* You are more than your achievements. If you fail you are still the same person who achieved, but now you have an opportunity to learn and improve from life's greatest lesson, failure.

@mustafaaa772

5 жыл бұрын

oh god, I really want to get into med school it's my "dream".. but everyone makes it so dificult. what do i do?

@VKingMD

5 жыл бұрын

@@mustafaaa772 Someone once told me medicine is a lousy job, but a wonderful calling. The most rewarding things in life are not born out of being comfortable. If you really want it, and are willing to sacrifice for it, then go for it.

@IntheEndAhNevermind

5 жыл бұрын

That's easy to say. However, life treats us differently. A better view I think is to accept you can't control all. In fact, you probably control nothing. It's just a ride. Let it flow. Don't be lame and limp, but understand, life is a crapshoot. Things happen in ways, and people often behave in ways, that are beyond reason and expectation.

@incyphe

5 жыл бұрын

well said.

@elisendadomenjo3223

5 жыл бұрын

Rachel Rogers that’s a really good comment!

When he was talking about his parents, you can hear his voice trembling, you can just imagine how he must have felt when his parents kept calling him and he couldn’t give them the answer they expected. It hurts cause I’m pretty sure alot of us experienced / is experiencing some form of this.

@PravinKumar-th3cu

3 жыл бұрын

Thats so true..I thought no one noticed it and I was the only one who felt that his voice was trembling when he was talking about his parents..it's so sad when realities breaks us..🙁

@dame1045

3 жыл бұрын

I resonated with him when talking about his parents, its the same how my parents treat me. They view me as the bread winner as I am the first born and there were high expectation but in reality, I was just that one average Asian who sometimes gets a high grade sometimes just a passing mark. Right now, my parents often ask me how my job hunting is and I'd say literally the same lines as Alex said.

@iamapokerface8992

3 жыл бұрын

a lot*

@emaanahsansarfraz1940

3 жыл бұрын

Hello! How is everyone? If anyone needs someone to listen, someone to talk to, or a friend. I am here to talk, listen, and be a friend. Know that you are amazing and have rights as a human. Please have appropriate action for anything that you know is wrong. Anything that seems bad or wrong in your life right now will get better. Please don't do what is wrong, fighting back and harming others will not solve the problem. Please understand that and do the good thing. It will one day come back to you. The people in the world are so much more than what we know about them, not everyone opens up about the beautiful things and acts they have witnessed, not all those amazing doings are acknowledged. Please understand that and know that. If you feel like no one cares about you, know that I care about you. Together, we can be a better community. Stay safe, healthy, happy, kind, understanding, positive and strong!

@emoticonfeliz2129

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I went to study abroad to make my parents proud and it was pretty much that, I became all depressed (almost suicidal) because my parents spent so much money for me and I wasn't able to do good enough no matter how much effort I spent, I would be taking it in while talking with my parents throught webcam and cry just after ending the call, it was very hard for me to get out of that toxic mentality, gather myself together and find a sense of value were my grades didn't define how much I was worth

Feel for him and those in the same spot. Speak up! Say your stressed out! Don't let society bring you down. Shine bright!

so after watching whole video and reading comments, i can conclude that never ever compare yourself with others no matter at which stage you are. When comparison starts, depression comes in.

@dimavlasiuk4220

Жыл бұрын

If only comparison could’ve just been cancelled like a Netflix subscription every time it pops up and not just amplify itself like it usually does

It takes courage for this Asian guy to say he struggled at Harvard. This would have eaten away at his pride. Well Done!

@gmailhmmm2850

2 жыл бұрын

It’s not about race but ok

@enochjunesin3341

2 жыл бұрын

@@gmailhmmm2850 it is asian parents have this ideology that pride is everything and as you grow up thats all you know, pride so when you fail and you tell people its like destroying everything you lived for or how you were taught growing up. its very different for asian people and how how much they want their parents approval its on a different level.It is about race everything is bout race which is bad but the cold reality.

@khaaysclipz6955

2 жыл бұрын

100% bro, this asian guy saying he strugged at harvard definitely takes a lot of courage

@mirandachen8189

2 жыл бұрын

@@gmailhmmm2850 it is absolutely about race. i don't think asian people are the only people to experience academic pressure and there are definitely some asian people who don't but overall the need for prestige and pride is completely ingrained in asian culture. it's in the way we (as asians) talk to our kids, talk to our friends, talk to ourselves, etc. it is 100% about race and the particular cultural, familial, and societal pressure of being asian is something that i don't think any non-asian will understand.

@gmailhmmm2850

2 жыл бұрын

@@mirandachen8189 nah

My mans was living for his parents not for him. He got a lot out of Harvard and is definitely tough because of it, but i feel like my mans was just trying to please everyone but himself

@vishurana2362

4 жыл бұрын

its a cultural thing. asian people always try to make their parents lives better and make them proud.

@asahel980

4 жыл бұрын

be that as it may, but billions of people will be jealous of him, life is not sure all somewhat happy. being force to study the perosn is given at least a good preparation for life

@GAnonymusG

4 жыл бұрын

@@vishurana2362 Asians follow Confucius ideals. In the old country if you're good enough for Harvard, that's middle class maybe. Asia is uber corrupt. So when they go to places where there isn't a Merit Cap, they usually become super successful. But the world always isn't true, it's more like 20% to 30% of them follow through with it all. Which is astronomically higher than that in other cultures.

@GAnonymusG

4 жыл бұрын

@Jesse McFarland-Ward Not really. Pick up some random American or Europeon and they'll most likely fail if dropped in Asia or even within their own domestic systems. It's a culture issue. Africa has some top talent as well but usually it's concentrated at the top as with most nations.

@echt114

4 жыл бұрын

"mans"?

perfect speech, inspiring. you need to be who you are not who people want you to be.

As a D student, I can’t relate

@denosorx3805

5 жыл бұрын

LOL

@ascendedweeb328

5 жыл бұрын

denysost c student here boi

@thc7865

5 жыл бұрын

As a F student, why am i even here

@KidAteMe1LetsBuildsAndMore

5 жыл бұрын

@@Keezus. what

@onemoregodrejected9369

5 жыл бұрын

XD yeah, fellow D, ranging from C to F, I feel like I am looking into a diferent world.

What do you call a person who went to Harvard and graduated with a C+ average? A Harvard graduate. About two, maybe three, seconds after you graduate no one cares anymore about what grades you got.

@bearholdensharkslux4791

4 жыл бұрын

Or any college

@GetTheGames

4 жыл бұрын

Ohhh how far from the truth that is. Top companies look at your grade. I go to law school and I know someone who was invited for a dinner by a company. They were asking questions about why and how her grades were lower in her 1st and 2nd year going over it course by course.

@ManOfLaBookDotCom

4 жыл бұрын

@@GetTheGames For your first job, maybe and only "top companies". Maybe! Frankly, your example is much further from the truth (for the majority of people) than my comment.

@missailaivy9739

4 жыл бұрын

GTsude gh

@GetTheGames

4 жыл бұрын

@@ManOfLaBookDotCom now I don't know how it's like in your country, but in Belgium in sectors where the influx of certain degrees is too big they don't just look at the degree anymore, but their grades. It's an objective way to measure someone's "worth" in their eyes. That is why it's far from the truth. Most of your maybe's don't apply. Even non top companies use this method.

Wow… this is really insightful! I’m currently in one of the top universities in Nigeria, and I’m already transferring to Havard. Watching this sends shivers already down my spine. I don’t like competition, but Havard and all that I’ve heard and researched about it, projects it competitiveness. Phewww!! I hope God see me through this uncertain journey.

@Sezfluffy

Жыл бұрын

I think clever people sometimes don't learn to fail young enough. Its ok not to be the best.

@kofizayn6077

Жыл бұрын

Wow please tell me what do you think got you accepted into Harvard?

@t.s5806

4 ай бұрын

​@@kofizayn6077He's lying

Thanks your testimony is truly inspiring

everybody talks about how hard it is getting into Ivy leagues but no one talks about the struggle after you get in..... Thank you for this perspective! I gotta go show this to my parents now!

@kinseylise8595

2 жыл бұрын

Here's something else to show your parents. I'm from an Ivy mill, which is a school district (often public, surprisingly) that grooms students for Ivy Leagues from the moment they enter at age 5. When I entered college I found out that I had been taught all of the college content, the only time I saw anything new was in extremely specialized classes, and in the classes that I took for a masters program. to succeed I slept about 4 hours per night and studied non stop. I was considered the bottom of the barrel at my high school, despite having straight A's in what I now know to have been college courses while being a two season athlete, working two jobs, teaching martial arts, and getting awards for community service. Let me again stress this: I was considered an under achiever. There were people who could do that level of work and also run a club, ace national competitions regularly, etc etc etc. Those are the people going to Harvard. Me? As if. I spent my entire childhood being groomed for an Ivy League and working as hard as I could to do succeed, and I was simply not good enough. This is true of most of my classmates. Some people will go to Harvard, yes. It does not have to be you, it probably won't be you, and there's nothing wrong with that. Go get good grades at a cheap college that'll give you a scholarship; unless you want to work at a fortune 500 company that will be enough. The level of pressure that my classmates and I were under did more harm than attending Ivy Leagues could ever counteract, we had at least 2 suicides a year for every thousand students, and for what? This is less than the stress of attending Harvard. So to parents really pushing for their children to attend Harvard, please consider the unlikeliness of that and the damage that it could do.

@rampageviii7186

2 жыл бұрын

@@kinseylise8595 May i ask what are you doing currently and what are ur plans? Im just curious because based on ur statement u seem to be smart and reflected. Sincerly yours :)

@kinseylise8595

2 жыл бұрын

@@rampageviii7186 Thank you for the compliment. I did an accelerated bachelors in Biological Sciences, and am working on another bachelors in English and some classes for an accelerated Masters of Education. I plan to teach high school and like teaching both subjects, so since I was able to get accelerated tracks for all of these, I decided to pursue them all. I originally planned to enter biological sciences for plant genetic research, but found that 1) I do not enjoy the lab setting and 2) I would like to raise my children myself, so I should choose a field that can be exited for many years and then re entered. Teaching was always something that I enjoyed, so I'm pursuing it now. Best of luck to you in your path!

@offensivecreampie3015

2 жыл бұрын

@@kinseylise8595 Hey is there any kind of website or forum that could tell me more about Ivy Mill? Also, being groomed since a young age to enter Harvard, can you tell me more some of the hardest struggle you need to cope with throughout your childhood?

@kinseylise8595

2 жыл бұрын

@@offensivecreampie3015 This is a long one. As I recently discovered this term does not seem to be universal, so while there may be website about high achieving school districts, I am not sure how to find them. One option to look for this kind of information is to use school search websites like College Vine (I believe they have elementary, middle, and high schools listed as well), but I am unsure of exactly how you could interpret the data that they provide to determine if a school is an "Ivy mill" or high achieving for other reasons. If you want more information about what this type of school district is like, feel free to ask. I'm not sure what would help you in your search (hopefully to avoid these districts!) but I'm happy to inform. For many of my classmates the hardest part was that they were under immense pressure from their parents and as such faced constant criticism; the classes were difficult enough that even the best of the best were never 100% perfect, and anything less than perfection was strongly criticized by their parents. Their worst days were compared relentlessly to their peer's best days, and they were expected to follow their families' preferred career paths. Personally I was blessed with a family that did not do this to me; I was expected to work hard and succeed, but they supported me and never expected perfection. My greatest struggles were socialization and self actualization. I had no experience with close relationships because I had never had a close friend, and only maybe two distant friends. I want to build close relationships, but I still struggle deeply with becoming closer to others. My professional persona is excellent but I can't make friends. As far as self actualization, there were a lot of factors there. I knew that after high school grades would not matter much, but it was still a shock to my system, much more than I expected. I no longer had an intuitive sense of where I stood among others. That was good in the sense that I no longer felt like a second class citizen (in high school there were people with whom I felt could not initiate conversation because they were in more AP classes than me and thus were "out of reach") but it made me lose my sense of self. If my identity was not explained and defined by being a high achieving in a difficult school, who was I? When I started undergrad I thought "nobody cares what school I came from now, nobody cares about what I worked so hard for, and there's no reason that they should. Without the context of my school, what am I? How do I even explain to people what made me who I am?" which was uncomfortable and upsetting. Learning to change what you tie your self worth to is a very painful experience, though I am grateful for it. As an aside, I don't consider this to be entirely related to my schooling because I do not know what caused it, but I was very suicidal for a long time. I dislike how quick we are these days to diagnose people with mental problems and frankly I'm not sure that I had a disorder of any kind, I think it was a stress reaction. Many people in my high school were suicidal and self harmed, and stopped a year or two after graduating. Towards the end of my time in high school I began to have spells of apathy that were very difficult to deal with, and they slowly became less frequent and less intense as time after high school passed.

My dad told me to have the mindset 'You don't need harvard, Harvard needs you. The only way to prove that is being excellent in everything you do'

@IvyWayAcademy

3 жыл бұрын

Your dad is absolutely right!

@Someone-nt8wz

3 жыл бұрын

thatonenerd

@rap3208

3 жыл бұрын

What makes harvard the top school is they only get the cream of the crop of high school students. It's not really that hard to make overachievers and geniuses to perform brilliantly. I think it is more impressive of a school to take an average student and make him a cream of the crop graduate.

@catbeard5752

3 жыл бұрын

@@rap3208 Amen brother, amen

@annahdz4614

2 жыл бұрын

That sounds like horrible and unbearable pressure

The struggle is one of the most valuable things about going to a top school. Face it with a positive attitude and come out a better person.

Wise word, Alex. People really need to change thier perspective based on their ability.

Nothing is impossible. I struggled my whole life, was kicked out of my house at a young age, had $15 left in my bank account, had to find a minimum wage job, work for 5 hard years nonstop and go from paycheck to paycheck just to be able to purchase a data plan which enabled me to write this review and tell you that I have never been to Harvard

@kenleydagoat

4 жыл бұрын

Angel Soto lmao

@striker9686

4 жыл бұрын

5 years to pay a phone bill bro quit smoke meth.

@Khemmdawg805

4 жыл бұрын

Striker 😂😂😂

@ViralBoss4K

4 жыл бұрын

Got us in the first half not gonna lie

@ashutoshsamantaray2572

4 жыл бұрын

Wow you certainly achieved a target now writing a review in a harvard is hard video can be on your resume

"If you don't design your own life's plan, chances are you'll fall into somebody else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much." Jim Rohn

@SeaJay_Oceans

5 жыл бұрын

Universities are Ponzi Schemes.

@dusathemaid

5 жыл бұрын

Still better than what I'd have planned anyway

@lennyvander4110

5 жыл бұрын

Important 👍🏻

@3litepker

5 жыл бұрын

"As a D student, I can't relate." denysost

@Eniramos619

5 жыл бұрын

Sterling Lowery Haha you don’t design your life. Jim Rohn’s an idiot

thank you omg. i needed this

Best advice i could ever give to any college students or even highschool students watching this is make friends with people who also want to succeed in your classes. Obviously colleges and such dont want you to just straight giving answers to one other. But they dont care if you discuss how to do things or concepts learned through lectures or classes. Part of the reason why smart people succeed is because at times they accept that they dont know something and seek help. With friends who want to achieve the same goal as you, you are able to help eachother succeed and accomplish your goals

I’ll never forgot we had this one kid in our school. Pham. #4 ranked in the school, had scholarships to like every Ivy League school out. The principal literally came into a class of his I happened to be in to tell him all the schools he got accepted to which was like 30 of them. He went to harvard, Anyway i decided to go to a junior college down the street. 2 years later he was in one of my classes in junior college. I was shocked as hell. I was like brooo what the hell why are you here!! Ain’t you go to harvard… He just looked at me with this dreadful face like almost of pure sadness and just nodded his head and was like… it was to much man. My grandmother and parents no longer support me or talk to me… but honestly i’m happier here. It was to much. I am still in shock to this day

@alicronaldohitman

2 жыл бұрын

Too*

@deodeo7620

2 жыл бұрын

@@alicronaldohitman bro rlly?

@actual_doge3221

2 жыл бұрын

That is sad to hear, but I don't blame him for leaving. He needs to be happy to some degree in order to survive. I am happy for him. There is so much pressure to be number one even in normal schools. I was talking to my teacher a few years ago (I have already graduated high school) and I said that it wasn't fair the way the grades are done. He agreed with me because it wasn't fair to put a child whose parents were not so involved in his life next to a child who had all the resources and financial help at his disposal which determined who is the better student. By default it would be the one with resources from the get-go, assuming they were both intellectually capable of the same things.

@spicyshizz2850

2 жыл бұрын

I hope he found happiness and if he still hasn’t, I hope he keeps chasing after it till he does find it

@spicyshizz2850

2 жыл бұрын

Personally I found help going to a mosque, they helped me out a lot, mentally too

I hope Alex sees this: YOUR TED talk changed my life. my Asian parents were ok with their average kid, but I was not. I would watch people's reaction videos of them getting into the big schools and cry in my bed, feeling like a disappointment. But when Alex said "if your goal is to get into grad school, it might be better to go to a college and do well, than a dream school and struggle", that sent chills down my spine. I want to be a vet, which meant this advice is applicable. I changed the way I looked at my application, took off the "reach schools" like UCLA which I definitely was not getting into (being realistic here), and made my "dream school" UMass Boston (UMB), a school not far from Harvard, maybe not as cool, but it's on a peninsula across the street from the ocean with great food and dorms. It was a "safe school" that I knew I would be happy and do well in. So now I'm writing this from my UMB dorm room, halfway through the first semester of college, and it's the best decision I've ever made. so thank you, Alex, you saved me.

@IvyWayAcademy

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Jane, Alex here! Thank you so much for your comment. Glad to hear you’re doing well at UMB. Seems like you’re on your way to becoming a successful vet! 🙌

@gm836

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you ace everything from now on. Good luck, you got this.

@manunandela5156

3 жыл бұрын

This is super inspiring. Hope you enjoy college!!!!!

@ascore142

3 жыл бұрын

And i am already in my countrys top school and struggling so bad

@gm836

3 жыл бұрын

@@ascore142 you got this. Just work through it. You’re bound to get used to it.

This reminds me of Magnet Schools. I somehow managed to get into my state's best school as it was actually REALLY hard to get into. At first, I was really happy since I was actually in the top 6 to get selected and literally thought that the difficulty of this school wouldn't be bothersome to me. I genuinely lost my emotions the second I started that school. Every day, go to Panera after school to study until 7pm. Come home, and study even more. If not, wake up as early as 5 am and continue studying. The worst part about this is that some of my friends had clubs in the morning as early as 4 am to 6. My grades started dropping one by one to Fs; which I never encountered any grade lower than A- or B+. My mental breakdowns stopped just 3 weeks later I started school as I normalized and named myself as the "idiot" one. In the reviews, the school is demonstrated as one of the BEST schools in the country, or that the school is amazing. It's not. Although I got along with people, the school itself destroyed me. Today I go to an ordinary school that I actually have a really good social life in and ranked top 5 in my grade. I think what matters is that you get to be WHO you are rather than some high school taking away your teenage life.