One of the reasons I loved Bocchi the Rock so much was its ability to make social anxiety humorous without downplaying the disorder. It feels like it comes from a place of respect, understanding. It feels like it’s laughing with us, not at us. And that’s a really awesome feeling.

@Acro_YT

9 ай бұрын

I think that’s because it is loosely based on the author’s experiences.

@assobliterator148

9 ай бұрын

exsctly

@alex70531ify

9 ай бұрын

Watamote did it better and how it portrayed her anxiety more realisticly

@introvertedpieceofcrap2626

9 ай бұрын

@isaachester8475 I honestly feel like bocchi the rock did it better than komi can't communicate. As someone who has social anxiety, there is no one worshipping you and thinking you are a literal god/goddess. In reality, You are often times hated just for being quiet, called scary, which leads to misunderstandings causing you to become lonely. I know this is fiction, and komi can't communicate is just filled with a ton of fanservice. But even so, I really hate how they romanticized social anxiety. There are so many times where I hear a conversation that interests me but I'm always too afraid to join and I always end up regretting it. When someone would struck a conversation with you, you really like them and want to become friends. But you end up not saying it until it's too late. I really hate it. I do try to talk more, I really do, but it seems like my body is always holding me back. One of the things that really made me relate in komi can't communicate would be the time where tadano first meets her and he found her scary because of her stare, when in actuality, she was just really nervous not knowing what to do. This made me feel seen, I remember how I thought "wow, that also happens to me". Sorry if I got some things wrong, it's been such a long time since I've watched komi can't communicate. But just thought I would point this out there.

@ABANDONED23456

9 ай бұрын

Especially when there's a whole lot of stigma against mental illness.

I dont think the part about bocchi having a trigger to start her social anxiety in the past is necessarily true tbh. Her hesitating and simply not being able to do it as a little kid for no reason at all is very realistic and relatable to me

@isaachester8475

9 ай бұрын

I agree, this was pretty much my experience too

@hazie3375

9 ай бұрын

That is true, although I wanted to explore the possibility of it happening. Some of us can't find an answer with how it started no matter how much we look back in the past. Sometimes, we can't remember much at all.

@priyakumari6073

9 ай бұрын

​@@hazie3375I also have no memory of how it started as Long as I can remember I always had this

@auralynn3862

9 ай бұрын

I'm Autistic and have ADHD and OCD, so I have various struggles with social dynamics (even though I've built up social skills to keep myself safe) and a lot of overthinking tendencies, including obsessive-compulsive intrusive thoughts and such, and on top of it all I have strong mirroring synesthesias (tactile and affective; meaning observing other people's sensations and emotions results in experiencing them to some extent; in other words, "I'm an empath") creating a vector for overthinking other people's experiences. Oh, and plenty of trauma, can't forget that part. Anyway, who needs intrusive thoughts when other people ARE your intrusive thoughts, amirite?

@nirgunawish

9 ай бұрын

@@hazie3375 please traps video asap lol

The common misconception people have is assuming anxiety disorders are the same as normal anxiety. Normal anxiety is healthy and something everybody deals at varying degrees of frequency and intensity. Anxiety disorders invade all aspects of your life relating to the disorder. You end up thinking things and doing things that your rational self can’t explain, so you end up hating yourself and skewing your perception of yourself to fit the warped reality that the disorder creates.

@npcimknot958

9 ай бұрын

Agree. Anxiety is important for survival. The next level is irrational level that interferes with life

@liltunturi1251

9 ай бұрын

nicely said. you just feel shame and guilt for ghosting people and not being able to enjoy something, that everyone thinks is fun. Not being as successful as you could be. You really cant blame anyone else but yourself. That is how therapy can help shift that hate you have with yourself. The society is just really not friendly to people with social anxiety, especially if you are a boy. With some emotional supportive friends, family and relationships it could be significantly easier. Hiding what you feel makes everything just so much more exhausting, but being told "man up" disregarding my pain, just makes me resent that person.

@THEGOTHSTRAWBERRY

8 ай бұрын

Idk if I have a disorder but I'm constantly drained and upset everyday because of my anixity I get anixity attacks alot sometimes I over think and make myself sick Idk if that's normal tho

@bryanmiller8604

8 ай бұрын

The worst part is how many “Normies” just call you “lazy,” or tell you to “do better!” or my all time favorite, “you’re just not trying hard enough. if you were things would change for you.” 🙄 They lack empathy because they themselves have never had to face such an issue themselves, & thus lack the experience in order to understand, much like those who suffer from CPTSD, “Normies” just will never get it!! Lucky for them, a curse for us.

@orianefaton1885

8 ай бұрын

@@THEGOTHSTRAWBERRY I don't think it is. Not a mental health professional or anything, but just the frequent anxiety attacks part is already not normal, I think. So, if even just for it, you may need to seek professional help, at least to have proper advices on what to do and what not to ? And, maybe mention the being drained part too, as it may be related to the panic attacks or it may be a sign of yet another problem. (usually, those things... comes as a package. There is more than one, which is why there is so many overlap)

Thanks for diagnosing me

@justin.x9766

9 ай бұрын

You're not cute tho

@WeirdManDobi

9 ай бұрын

Oh NO

@socialfreak2

9 ай бұрын

As they say "This is so real" ❤

@thelostlegend1939

9 ай бұрын

swear I came to say the same thing

@ABANDONED23456

9 ай бұрын

Dont. Self. Diagnose. Go to a goddamn therapist. Edit: I'm gonna elaborate with this. I struggle with communication and didn't know how to phrase this but I explained it better with my replies. This person made it seem like they didn't do the proper research at _all._ It seems like they saw this video and ran with it. I'm fully aware that getting help can be hard with social anxiety because you don't want to be a burden; I literally have genetic & trauma-related social anxiety and have dealt with it my whole life. But this is not okay. Do the proper research. THIS is what I meant by self-diagnosing; I see nothing wrong with actually doing the correct research and finding out that way, but doing _this,_ seeing something and assuming, or even just flat-out lying and pretending like you do (that's been an issue lately) is absolutely not okay. Do the research. Therapists genuinely help if you're struggling with something. Not all of them are expensive and some are even free. If you need help and can't find the help otherwise, see a therapist. Like I said, it's hard to with social anxiety, but it helps.

It's literally so bad when you stay quiet, everyone slowly ignore you and when you make an effort to talk about something, you lack the social skill and ends up humiliating yourself. Although I don't have social anxiety nearly as bad as Bocchi, it's still extremely hard for me to progress from it.

I loved how they show that social anxiety is something not good for the person, since most animes show that social anxiety is UWU anime shy waifu

As a person with social anxiety bocchi portraid it so well that it made me cry over parts that were supposed to be humorous 🥲

@supramudkip4250

9 ай бұрын

Glad I wasn't the only one. I never planned on watching it but my brother made me watch it and I felt attacked.

@crunchycookie6712

8 ай бұрын

@@supramudkip4250 literally the exact same thing happened to me 🗿🗿 i cant listen to any of the kessoku band songs anymore without having a mental breakdown lmao 💀

@leydong

8 ай бұрын

Yeah, my friend and I were watching Bocchi and while he was like "wtf?" I was having anxiety attacks with bocchi...

@z-nab27

7 ай бұрын

i literally took a break after watching episode 1 cuz it seemed too real😂

As a person with social anxiety, having watched Bocchi the Rock I've found it extremely relatable at most points. Tommorow, school begins and for the past week I've been feeling heavily anxious at the thought of being around people, especially at school. Also, great video, you've received a sub from me!

@NoobPlayGamesReal

9 ай бұрын

School starts for me at the 11th and I'm do nervous I don't want to go back but not because I'm lazy but because I hate the first months of school so much, meeting new people, having to make friends, and awkward situations, I wish you luck on your first day though😔😁

@swag_messiah345

9 ай бұрын

@@NoobPlayGamesReal Thanks! Just after my first day. Slept only for 4 hours today... couldnt fall asleep & I was heavily anxious at school aswell, but atleast I had some people say hi to me. I wish you good luck on the 11th aswell and in your school and hope for the best!!

@windwakerx2723

9 ай бұрын

The only reason school isn't completely terrible for me is cause I know most of the people. I have some of the worst social anxiety until I've know the person for about 2-3 weeks...then I mess up and forget everything about them and start the process all over again. (Doesn't help that I'd get yelled at by my parents for stuttering cause they don't have it so why should I...and I naturally have horrible memory)

@Dayayam

9 ай бұрын

komi!!

@amarbinay6654

9 ай бұрын

​@@swag_messiah345fr sedlife if this social anxiety and bipolar disorder continue to stick in my life then fr by the age 30-40 my brain will be half dead or just dumb retard to the point not able to face the realism

That part about being quiet while in a group conversation is so true though. You just sit there listening and partaking in the conversation... but without actually saying anything. You could be fully into the conversation and be completely silent. Group conversations are actually great for Socially Anxious people, because you can just spectate. At least, until you're somehow the center of attention. A one on one is a NIGHTMARE though, you can't just sit there and listen because it'd be rude and disrespectful to not contribute ANYTHING to the conversation, but it's also kind of hard to contribute because anything you think of is immediately censored by your brain and not allowed to be said. Thus your mind goes blank as you panic to come up with a response, making everything awkward in the end as you're both sitting there silently. The only thing the anime is wrong about, is how Bocchi is visually shown. Social Anxiety-ridden people IRL don't actually do anything exaggerated like that, instead they will try to act as normal as possible with layers of masks covering up who they actually are. And it's in trying to wear and perfect this mask that your mind usually goes blank, you don't know how you should act/respond. Bro when you mentioned being on a stage in front of an audience, I felt the dread in my guts. Even imagining it makes me anxious, my god. IBS here we go. HOLY CRAP, THE PLANNED SCRIPT THING IS SO TRUE THOUGH. If I was just following a script, then I don't feel the gut-wrenching anxiety of the execution of whatever it is. That's why I always try to come up with a script of what I'm going to say in my mind before I actually speak LMAO, and then I take too long and miss my chance to speak. Under pressure though, my mind goes blank as I can't think of a suitable script and I'm left not knowing what to say or I turn to the classic "escape scripts" for general scenarios to have something to fall back to in order to buy me time or make the situation move on from needing me to say something (basically, I say "I don't know" or something vague / generic as an answer. Or an answer that doesn't answer anything you could say). Also the online world being a safe haven is so true, it's easier to actually socialize through text. Like look how much I can say in a comment. If this were in a face to face conversation, there would be no comment. Ah 12:36 I've crippled myself. Damnit.

@orianefaton1885

8 ай бұрын

I think in Bochi's case it is either : just comedy (it *is* an anime), the fact she is actually so anxious that she can't keep the mask on... or a sign (overtime in the show) that she feels a bit more "relaxed" with her friends... at least enough that despite the still very alive anxiety, the mask falls sometimes unconsciously. (and because there is no criticisim from her friends, it turns into a virtuous cycle, where it makes her realizes, maybe originally subconsciously that she can trust her friends to stay with her despite it) ... Or, all of the above.

I watched Bocchi right after being diagnosed with social anxiety… I saw myself on her Thanks to therapy, I’m doing better, but still hold Bocchi dear in my heart

@ootdega

9 ай бұрын

Watch Watamote

as someone who’s going through social anxiety, i really appreciate this video. i haven’t yet seen anyone sum it up like this and i really hope it reaches those who misunderstand what having this is actually like in reality. since it’s often just passed off as shyness, i, on multiple occasions have been told to ‘grow up’ or to ‘stop being embarrassing’ when i interact with people showing these symptoms you mentioned.

@j.b.5422

9 ай бұрын

ah yes, "grow up", the sentence that magically removes all childishness from the listener! /s

@socialfreak2

9 ай бұрын

NO BECAUSE FR I THINK we'll I gotten better at it I guess maybe for me it's moderate but like boochi it was a great feat and yeah mostly seeming like downs for me now but I think this video is giving me hope of what I somewhat started with and yeah sometimes I wish understood cause if they got it they would know that I am trying my best I swear it's not as easy as they think it is I hope you gain some hope from this video as it helped me i think I have some courage now well maybe someday you, can be able things won't always be like this and you won't feel as alone ❤

I had friends in middle school when I was 6-10. It all changed when 2 of my friends started avoiding and bullying me for no reason. Never had a friend since then and I'm 23. It took me like 11 years to get over social anxiety "naturally" without putting in the effort. At some point I just stopped caring what people thought of me, must be the brain maturing and also being forced to socialize because of work. I'm doing scientific work in the forest with couple people so it's either die of boredom or talk about stuff. Not being able to use your phone is a powerful thing. Nowadays I enjoy small talk even though I'm bad at keeping it going, but I do it with the mentality that you can just piss off if you don't like talking to me. I'll still stay silent 80% of the time and I love it, not having to fake what I want to talk about, and it seems my mates at work don't mind it. I often notice passerby staring at me and I used to look down but now I look back, sometimes I like to quickly turn my head towards them, it's always funny seeing some of them quickly look away in embarrassament. When I walk in a room full of people and everyone looks at me, I just smile and look them in the eye as if to ask "do you have business with me?" .. Presenting in front of people is no longer a problem either because I know I'm talking about unlike when I was in school.

@rogue_hunterspz4415

9 ай бұрын

I want to strive to be like you someday, but also understanding your past struggles, reflecting onto others, to be more considerate around them

@thelying2594

9 ай бұрын

Omg it's nice knowing this lonely feeling isn't forever. I have friends but I text them more then I speak to them. I'm practically a selective mute. I'm 17 and I've been dealing with this all of my life feel like I'll never get better. But maybe I'll get better

@luigimaster111

9 ай бұрын

Something that worked for me is to tell people I don't really like talking and that I instead prefer to listen. It's something rooted in truth since I grew up listening to a lot of podcasts. This gives extroverts permission to talk my ear off, while giving me an excuse not to contribute much to the conversation. Works best to bait people into discussing their hobbies or other subjects of their personal passion, as it's a further excuse to not interject much since you're not likely to be particularly knowledgeable on their interests. Listening all the time has given me a large amount of surface level insight on just about every subject, so I've ended up with the reputation at work of being a good person to refer to for advice or ideas. I have pretty intense social anxiety to this day, in my mid-20s, but with little tricks like that people hardly notice how much of a wreck I am on the inside.

@rissa6060

9 ай бұрын

@tescobakery1927 "bad at keeping it going" omg, I hv a friend just like you. He always start conversation, but at the end, I always hv to keep the conversation flow. He rarely ask me back during conversation & it make me feels "am I doing this right? Is he not interested whats going on with me? Then why he always try to start conversation?" I am so confused, being a super introvert myself, never thought I will meet with someone that is more introvert than me. I know you are not him, but how do I continue with this friendship? I dont want accidentally stomp on landmine...

@tescobakery1927

9 ай бұрын

@@rissa6060 if I had to guess he simply enjoys being around you even if you two don't talk, tho I don't know what type of person he is. Maybe being around others and being included in whatever activity you're doing is enough to satisfy his social needs, so I don't think you have to force the conversation to continue out of worry he won't like you. Best type of activity to do together is something like bowling or video games (or in my case, my job) where everyone can focus on a specific task without needing to talk. It's silent bonding

It’s comforting to know people who have social anxiety have different things they struggle with

@F_Slush

8 ай бұрын

but as time passes we learn how to take control over it :)

Man, this show faced the issue SO much better than Komi can't communicate.

@riccicamori

7 ай бұрын

Fr Komi can’t communicate just led to people fetishising social anxiety and thinking it’s cute. I remember complaining to one of my classmates about social anxiety and how it ruins your life and he was like “but shy girls are cute” like??

As a person with social anxiety... It's hard to talk, make friends, even make simple requests or ask for help. It doesn't really have a "trigger" or a "manifest". It just comes and goes. At times it's to the point where I lock up in person and respond on a long delay, forcing myself to just nod along and pray that the gesture is sufficient. Other times, I'd find myself droning on and on about the topic in hopes of escaping the situation. I had to take speech therapy in elementary and see a counselor in HS, but even then, it was a slow crawl into the light. Even now, post HS, its still... There. It never really does go away, but over time with enough therapy (even self treatment, not the best, and ill-advised), one can try to overcome the worst of the symptoms and suppress it sufficiently to function at a baseline level. Even if it means detaching one self from the situation entirely in an isolated manner, mentally. Somehow. Which... Is probably the worst way to go about it? Alas. It works (somewhat) for me, but again, I'd advise AGAINST it. Bocchi does tap into that weird, inner self. The self that runs around panicking from everything, screaming from harsh judgements upon the self, while also judging everything about the self. Poorly. Online? It's strangely easy to disconnect from this, given a veil of anonymity. I'm not TALKING to anyone. I'm just, writing. Nobody can judge me, because I am NOT there. Mentally, physically, or otherwise. It's just a mask. A face. A disguise. Easy to deflect, easy to avoid, easy to isolate. Easy to create a persona. A persona you can use as a front. Dangerous, of course, but... It is a coping mechanism. Even if it's addictive in a cruel way.

14:22 that's the problem i can never find the "opportunity" to make friends. i already have tons of hobbies and know people with similar interests and whenever i find the courage to talk to them about our similar interests despite having social anxiety they ignore me that just makes it worse 💀

@benmanutd2

9 ай бұрын

Bruh same, I realize every friend I have has everything prioritised over me. I'm not saying I need to be the centre of their universe but the fact that I see them as besties while they see me as another friend makes me feel left alone and resentful.

@SavageBear_YT

9 ай бұрын

I feel too clingy sometimes because I'll find one person I vibe with, and I know they have so many other people in their lives. I don't ever want to seem desperate.

it's concerning in how many symptoms i show and i never realized it was that bad i thought i was just a shy person hell naw social anxiety made me wanna never talk to people first and thus becoming and introvert ..i am doing better now (i wasn't in the best environment in my previous school so changing that definitely helped a lot)

@hazie3375

9 ай бұрын

It's definitely frightening to see that your own experiences are symptoms from a disorder. But I'm glad to hear you're doing better!

@controlequebrado4455

9 ай бұрын

You can't become an introvert, that's about where you restore energy(introverts restores energy by himself) which is biological and somewhat sociological. Recluse seems more fitting

As they say, Bocchi is literally me. I have thought "wow, this is so me!" so many times throughout this show. There's literally no other character that has somehow made me relate to them THIS much.

@yash8426

8 ай бұрын

bocchi and the main character from a silent voice are the only characters in the entirety of anime that I can relate to so much which is why I cried at both

I’m trying to write a book about a character that suffers from social anxiety and your video gave me a lot of good ideas and inspiration. It’s also made me interested in checking this Anime out. Thank you for making this video essay, you’ve earned yourself a subscriber. :)

This really deserves more views, this is just like any other famous commentary youtuber.

Social anxiety feels like the part of a horror movie where you know a jump scare is coming but it never does so you just have that feeling until you get to your room.

As someone who is autistic and with so much anxiety this anime speaks so much of how i feel about so many things and gives me a breath of fresh air thinking I'm not alone and is okay

im really glad you put this video up. it sort of helps knowing someone else understands how hard it is

As someone with extreme social anxiety, I really enjoyed this video. it helped me understand it better. excellent video Keep it up!

@hazie3375

9 ай бұрын

Thank you! I wish you all the best for your social anxiety!

I'm a recovering person who has social anxiety due to bullying. This anime resonated with me on another level. I could never go out with my parents, I could never go to the park, I couldn't do anything. It made me so unhealthy. Years of therapy on top of self-help and exposure, I'm on the mend, but I cannot help still in crowds that I hunch over and move quickly to escape.

@ritaerror7829

9 ай бұрын

But you got better, small steps at the time! Maybe some day you will be able to handle crowds?

@RosiaNikkoley

8 ай бұрын

I, thank you. I have discovered I have social anxiety because of bullying I have gone through too, back in school, and I haven't been as fine as I was before ever since. Thank you for speaking out for me.

@spinaljuice4596

8 ай бұрын

@@RosiaNikkoley I sincerely hope you are alright. Please be safe and do not push yourself past your mental limits

I have social anxiety; I've been going to online classes for 3 years to avoid interaction with people. (I started real-life classes 3 weeks ago) The first few days were the worst for me, but I'm happy to have classmates who approached me first. I'm slowly getting more comfortable with talking to people, got a few classmates who are attracted to me and I can say that interacting with people is the opposite way of how I expected it to be. Nice video Hazie!

@hazie3375

9 ай бұрын

Thank you! Glad that classes are going alright for you

@princegodwinoguimas3071

9 ай бұрын

Same!!!! Only my classmates approach me. If she hadn't approach to me i would be back being alone

@mooshroom3475

9 ай бұрын

@@princegodwinoguimas3071 nicee

@yash8426

8 ай бұрын

interacting with people is the opposite of how I expected it to be as well. but in the opposite way.

bruh our brains really makes us forget what made us scared of something but still makes us scared wtf thats messed UP!!!

Thank you for putting light on the disorder. I am diagnosed with social anxiety myself and always got told to "stop exxaggerate", which made me feel really invalid

As someone with really bad social anxiety, this video was so through and really well made! I've always kinda downplayed the fact I have social anxiety, and basically gaslit myself into thinking it's smaller and different problems, rather than one bigger problem with other factors linked💀 but this video really helped put some things into perspective for me, so thank you :) I haven't read the manga or seen the anime, but from what I've heard and can tell, it's really really accurate!

The thing about other people believing that social anxiety is shallow is what makes me believe that people cannot empathize unless they experientially share the same struggles. This imo throws the whole thing of sympathy vs empathy out of the window and makes me think that people can mostly sympathize but empathize to a much lesser extent. Strangely this idea makes less socially anxious as if I don't put too much of a stock into interaction but still leaves me quite detached so I'm not sure whether this is the right way of thinking or not.

@intromania8718

9 ай бұрын

Empathy is less of an intrinsic part of humanity and in a lot more ways is like a skill. One must spend effort and time to cultivate it however in today’s society seems to have developed a herd like mentality from the rise of social media causing people to assess empathy based on the conjecture of their peer’s rather than making their own individual judgement which thus diminishes their ability to make those kind of judgements.

I have Social Anxiety Disorder and this is so accurate. When I'm with my friends or I know a topic really well then I have little to no fear being myself and proud. But if it's someone I don't know I lock up and become scared, not wanting to say anything. People try to tell me to get over it and talk to people as that is the way to get rid of it, but that cycle always gets me by the end. No one knows my silent suffering as I fail socializing and retreat back into my safe space. Great video as I can't explain my disorder easily to everyone.

as someone with social anxiety I can say yes this does a good job representing it.

You're are right I also hate when people misuse metal illness terms Being nervous doesn't mean you have social anxiety And how often social anxiety term used on the internet in a wrong way is insane And I also suffer from this disorder once I joined new a class and I just couldn't continue there because of social anxiety I couldn't speak it was so bad and I also didn't knew what was happening with me but now I know Because of it I had to leave my tuition and My parents don't understand this they think that it's normal and I'm not trying enough 🙃

@hazie3375

9 ай бұрын

It could really be hard for you when your parents don't understand what you're going through. Perhaps you can search of an article/video online, show it to them and explain how you're experiencing symptoms the same as the disorder, and express how heavily it effects your life. Maybe you can even convince them for you to seek a diagnosis or professional help, just so you can finally settle the matter of wether you have the disorder or not. After all, parents don't want their kids suffering, it's just really hard to make them understand. Once you convince them, with their guidance, you can begin your journey to improvement.

@priyakumari6073

9 ай бұрын

​@@hazie3375thanks for your kind words My parents will never take me to doctor I'm studying psychology to become a therapist in future I love psychology Once I had depression for months but they just don't understands it they think that I was just acting I'll try to improve my situation by telling someone else If noone will come to help me I'll help myself I hope one day I'll be free from my social anxiety I'm future psychologist 💝 My career is only thing that kept my alive

Even if i had one person that shared interests with me, i was in cringe/weird state permanently. I don't feel like it's ok for me to Interact with anyone at all, just feel vulnerable and all other shameful emotions. I had people to be friends with online decade ago, but it's long gone. I don't do anything that someone would be interested in to chat about.

@isaachester8475

9 ай бұрын

Same, feels like after years of isolating I don’t have anything interesting to talk about with people. And even if I did, I wouldn’t know how to do that

@yash8426

8 ай бұрын

we're both the exact same. I used to do the same thing. and never did anything other people around me are interested in. that was when I still had friends. all of my friends have either moved out or ghosted me.

Bocchi literally me if I were an anime character

My reason for not maintaining eye contact with anyone: I was raised with dogs, and taught that maintaining eye contact is challenging someone's authority, i.e. telling them you're ready to throw hands to show that you got that dog in you. So I subconsciously avoid eye contact cuz I'm not looking to throw down XD

@letsreadtextbook1687

9 ай бұрын

Humans wouldn't like if you _continously_ make eye contact too. You just need moderate amount of it

@yash8426

8 ай бұрын

@@letsreadtextbook1687 its a good way to avoid people making fun of you

I've never seen an anime character I related to so much, and it makes me kinda happy to see it getting the popularity it is getting. So I grew up with selective mutism, which basically meant that I could not talk in certain social situations I did not feel comfortable in. I couldn't talk to my family that wasn't my mom, dad, or sister. I couldn't talk to anyone at school. I couldn't order food at restaurants or cafes. I was too scared to use the bathroom at school. I was too scared to draw attention to myself. And the list went on. It was always so difficult interacting with people. Like sometimes people would beg me to "jUsT sAy HI!" but no matter how much they begged a log would be in my throat and I couldn't say a thing. I also remember vividly watching other kids play games like patty cake with their friends while I was sitting there alone. I made friends here and there in school, but I could never really feel like we were genuine friends because there was always this distance since I couldn't talk without using a notepad. The loneliness honestly really got to me and I ended up with very low self-esteem and self worth. I'm doing much better now in terms of talking thanks to therapy, like I can do the bare minimum of speaking, but the scars remain.

I can see the difference between being on a stage and being put on the spot in day to day situations. Like, if you're in a band or some kind of artist who has ample knowledge of everything involved with a presentation, all you need to do is cover that. There's no room for anxiety to creep in. If you're talking to someone one on one or in an unpredictable group situation where anyone could approach you in any way and try to discuss anything... Well, I'd rather stay in bed.

@tescobakery1927

9 ай бұрын

I agree. I hated school presentations because I had no clue what I was talking about and the teacher/student could interrupt at any time and say "Well actually you made a mistake", it was nerve wrecking. But nowadays when I have to do a presentation at work as a scientist, there's no pressure whatsoever at all because I am *the* expert.

@isaachester8475

9 ай бұрын

@@tescobakery1927 Did you go thru a PhD by any chance? I imagine that would be the ultimate most nerve wracking thing ever because I’ve heard they grill you really hard while you’re trying to explain yourself.

@tescobakery1927

9 ай бұрын

@@isaachester8475 I didn't, I was doing Master's degree, but I also worked at Uni while I was doing my Master's which involved extra presentations

May the algorithm bless this video. It was good

@hazie3375

9 ай бұрын

Thank you!

As a loner with speech impairment i remember getting diagnosed with social anxiety and as a result i started to isolate myself from people in school especially high school, so when i graduated it took a heavy toll on me because i wanted to work but was afraid at how people at work will judge me based on everything i do, and it's something that i just can't control and just hate myself for having it but after watching bocchi the rock i started to sorta relate to the stuff that bocchi went through the anime and gave me a feeling that i shouldn't feel bad about myself because there's people out there that are going through the same thing as me.

As someone who has social anxiety disorder and just huge amounts of anxiety in general, I never realized how much some people can relate to my inner struggles. Like its crazy how much I have in common with her.

she’s so relatable!! but I’m tryna control my social anxiety now so I’m kinda less caring now so I’m excited to see bocchi’s development

Since im an "ambivert" im gonna give you guys some tips ( at least how i behave and how my mentality is like ): - Nobody judges you, so relax and be yourself - Stop taking every word they say to the heart - Everyone got their own problems, you really think someone looks at you and say " this person is so dumb lol " ? No, they dont And the most important thing: - Stop thinking about the past, about what happened and how you were in the most awkard moment of your life. If you get stuck in the past that awkard moment will happen again. Try to forget it and stop overthinking If it already happened you cant change anything anymore. But you can focus on the present to make the future better. Socialize, you only have 1 life. Live it ·Get the "it is what it is" mindset ·Get out from your comfort zone and push yourself to the limits. Thats how you get rid of the social anxiety Me personally i dont care about anything. I dont give a damn about others or literally anyone. You should do the same 🤙

@Andicus

9 ай бұрын

As a socially anxious person I can tell you some tips to survive in this world: - Everyone judges you, don't go outside. - Everything people say has to be true, especially the bad things. Take these straight to your heart, and store them in the back of your mind for life as they're signs of what's wrong about you. - Everyone has their own problems, but you are their #1 problem by existing in their proximity. Keep your head down and be as insignificant as possible so as not to disturb them. - If you have a question you want to ask, or need to talk to a stranger, it's simply a fact that your stomach will churn and heartrate will skyrocket. Just take a deep breath and _run away_ to save yourself. - Wait, oh my god! Are those strangers with your friends in a voice channel? You can't join. YOU CAN'T. Even if you want to join your friends, you mustn't, you can't join silently and you'll be expected to say something after they hear the sound of you joining. Nonononono- - You're probably really happy that people are starting to understand your perspective, but at the same time, IT'S SCARY BECAUSE THEY'RE UNDERSTANDING YOUR PERSPECTIVE. BE CAREFUL. IF YOU TELL SOMEONE YOU HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY THEY'LL UNDERSTAND HOW DEFECTIVE YOU ARE AHHHHHH- And now for THE most important thing: - ALWAYS REMEMBER EVERY LITTLE EMBARRASSING AND TRAUMATIC MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE AT EVERY WAKING SECOND YOU'RE ALONE WITH YOUR THOUGHTS.. WHICH IS OFTEN. TOO OFTEN. HELP- Jokes aside, it's true that your brain will always go blank in a conversation and you'll feel hyper-aware about any lulls in it. It's true that you'll be dying inside trying to think of something to say but everything you think of is immediately rejected by the Social Anxiety Censorship Committee within your brain because of the million ways it could be misunderstood and taken wrong, not to mention the execution of saying it.. intonation at different points of the word could make it mean a hundred different things....... BUT you have to try. Learn tips about interpersonal communication, and practice. It'll help quell your fears/anxiety. Once you feel more comfortable in actually holding conversations and handling different general scenarios, it becomes much less of a threat. And it feels REALLY good when you talk to someone and it doesn't turn out bad like your anxiety imagined (which is like every normal conversation you'll ever have). That good feeling gives you like 200% boost in confidence for a short duration. Last but not least, don't overthink things (I know, I know.. but try) and try to have fun with it by being nice and friendly. It's impossible to not think that you're being judged, and it's impossible to just be yourself (you probably have like fifteen different layers of facades being worn anyways), but try to realize that it's pointless to worry about the judgemental things the other person might be _thinking_ and worry about what they're actually SAYING.

@kymbbm

9 ай бұрын

​​@@Andicussome people say there's something deeply narcissistic about being pathologically negative and always victimizing oneself, and the joke part of the comment is a good example of it lol

@Diego_2-22

8 ай бұрын

⁠​⁠​⁠@@AndicusI know you were being sarcastic, but ur fifth “point” punched me in the gut as I read it 😭 sometimes I feel that way irl as well.

yeah thats one thing I noticed... they cannot make it too dark ... and they also show bocchi only as a good natured, cute, innocent girl.... but in truth the constant negative experience will also twist your personality a bit... at least thats the case for me

I have social anxiety and Bocchi the Rock is such a comfort show for me Whenever I watch it it feels like I'm laughing at myself but not in a self deprecating way, it's more as in laughing with a friend? something like that In my 18 years of living I haven't been able to keep a single friendship (not that I have been able to have a lot tbf) bc people do tend to get tired or creeped out by me but watching Bocchi makes me feel some kind of hope! Like maybe things are bad now but as long as I keep trying I might be able to find my place in the world at some point

this show made me cry bc of how relatable it was 😭

Due to traumatic events in my childhood, I suffer from social anxiety. It's terrible, I also have high blood pressure every time I leave my house because of this fear. everything turns around when you're out and about, when you're among people, no matter where. You only feel safe at home.

I had and still kind of have social anxiety. This is so true. I really relate to her. Some people don't know how bad social anxiety can be. I also agree that real life is different from the anime. Most of the time real life is worse than the anime.

cw/ manga spoilers: i think this video is really well made! i liked how you showed how it's like to have social anxiety to people who don't suffer from it and i think that a lot of the topics in this video were handled really well :D one thing that i will say though, is that it might not be that bocchi's social anxiety that's connected to dissociative amnesia since usually those who suffer from it suffer from trauma, which dissociative amnesia stems from in the first place; as in: bocchi would most likely suffer some noticeable effects linked to any trauma along with her social anxiety; if that were the case, she would likely show symptoms relating to things such as cptsd or depression (although it might be likely that she could have long term depressive disorder considering the context of the anime), which she likely doesn't as she doesn't seem to show any signs of any serious trauma; social anxiety can also be genetic and, (manga spoilers) in the manga, it's been implied through an extra .5 page that her anxiety came from her genetics, specifically from her grandmother people can also just develop social anxiety, a lot of mental disorders like depression or anxiety sort of just can stem up randomly and it doesn't have to just stem from trauma, it can be genetic or something this isn't a hate comment by the way, i just thought it would be cool to point out since the manga does open about some extra lore which i think is really cool!

I really love both this anime and the video explaining it a lot! I've had social anxiety all my life, but it really hit a peak when i was 14 (around the same age as Bocchi), and my anxiety was so horrible that I became mute and forgot how to speak. Even thinking about saying hello to someone would cause me to have a meltdown about it. It took several years (and discord calls, lol) to relearn how to talk and somewhat manage my anxiety, and I love how I can see my younger self in Bocchi. It's very enjoyable to watch a character that actually represents my disorder in some way, and I'm happy that I can reflect on my improvements (even if my social life is garbage LOL)

this video and anime really hit home. I suffer from social anxiety too. Its difficult to make eye contact, difficulty speaking up that i mostly speak in my head, feeling tense if I am alone with just one other person, and overthinking minor interactions. I mostly wasted my high school days staying home, but my friends helped me improve those slowly overtime and forced me to go out with them and joining clubs. Now that high school is finished, im slowly crawling back to my old social anxiety self, but im trying to combat it. I really love this anime not just because it hits me close to home, but the art, characters, music, and most of all Bocchi's improvement

I myself (even though i'm not diagnosed) suffer from social anxiety and i'm starting to take a similar route to Bocchi. I've started building up the courage to join other friend groups and get myself involved in social events and it is hard, but bocchi (and now this video) have inspired me to move further forward. I do still suffer from the occasional mental breakdown and infulx of suicidal thoughts, but every time i remind myself that it is going to get better no matter what and that i have things i want to do in the future.

I don’t have social anxiety, but there are so many aspects to Bocchi that makes me empathize with her. For example, I’d say I overthink things just as much if not more than her. I also often make reality seem worse than it is, just like her. I also find her meltdowns extremely accurate, as I have them myself (although not normally in public). I don’t feel afraid to talk to people, but my mind goes in dangerous spirals of fear and anxiety just like she does, so this anime really means a lot to me. I also liked the more positive angle it went for, showing that, while social anxiety may suck, you can overcome it and make friends just like Bocchi. It’s never easy, but the things that are harder to get are more satisfying and normally last longer.

i never message my friends directly, just through a group chat we are all in, so that way someone else can chime in and stuff

This video just made me realize I am socially anxious. Also, I'll be waiting for that Bocchi Cosplay.

You nailed the whole topic. Like for many other comments I cannot say when this shit started for me, but it was there since I remember. Some memories are so old, I had to be 5 or something around that. The worst about this anxiety is, it's so hard to make progress, but so easy to take relapse... I'm 32 and long time I was making so much progress, but I feel like I'm in status like I was at a age of 20 or something around that. The most ironic about me is that I'm not that unskilled. I'm acting weird sometimes, maybe more than sometimes but apparently nobody feels bothered by it (it seems like that). I don't know why but most parts in my life it was easy for me to get connected with classmates, colleagues or friends of friends, but EVERYTIME before meeting them I pee myself. And doesn't feel like it's getting easier with time, but I assume it's not that hard like 20 years ago. But I guess it won't ever be easy for me. So much situations in Bocchi drove me to tears, even if I had to laugh. But seeing how important it was for her to make friends and beeing part of something like a band is something I feel with every cell of my body. This scene where Kita and Nijika was visiting her killed me. She totally exaggerated the whole day just because she was so happy her friends want to visit her, that she escalated the whole situation. One of the most important stuff you said is the part where the affected person thinks everything is under observation. It's the worst shit of this anxiety. And some insignificant words can totally destroy you. It sounds so ridiculous and yes it is, but it's such a traumatic thing for an instable person with social anxiety. Thanks for the video and the good breakdown on this topic. I guess it's a good video to share if something want to know what it is like to have this problems.

I feel so called out by this. With just a little bit of reflection I can tell that many if not most of these symptoms apply to me and it makes me question why I became this way. I remember being sorta average and decently social in elementary school and seventh grade, but 8th grade I was a good bit more withdrawn, and I can tell it's been getting worse throughout high school, as now I'm in 12th grade and am to nervous and anxious to say or even text hi to a friend I've known for 6 years. I don't remember anything that could've caused it and I feel worried about why I've become this way. What happened to me? What did I forget that set me on this path? I haven't been diagnosed but hearing these symptoms, brain fog, dissociation from reality and living in my head, making up scenarios, sweating, too nervous to make eye contact, reluctance to speak, responding in my head, depression, poor social skills, blowing things out of proportion, and so much more, make me realize that I have more than just a little social anxiety like I thought. I'm starting to think it may be mild to even severe. I need to watch this anime, because almost everything you have said sounds so relatable that it's scary. Maybe I should get that checked out, but I'd be too scared to bring it up. The only reason I can even say something here is because I consciously understand that none of you know me or give a shit about me. Still quite anxious though. Edit: "The more we try, the worse it gets." This hurt me so much. I have tried to make it better for years, all throughout high school, and it's gotten so, so much worse. And like you said, I have nearly given up, cause the lack of success and constant failure in doing so only makes it even worse and makes me even more anxious. Plus, "have a unsupportive family" is so relatable. They just keep hiring more people to try and fix me, therapist after therapist, behavioral analyst after behavioral analyst, and it never works. I try to make suggestions but when they help it goes unnoticed, and when they don't they get mad at me for wasting their time. It makes me feel like shit. All this is doing is making it worse, and then they get annoyed that it is getting worse and blame me for not taking any initiative, when I am trying to and even doing the little I have done to try takes all of my courage to do. I wanna cry...

@anhedoniaplayer

5 ай бұрын

the more we try the worse it get sad reality for who have severe social anxiety

@anhedoniaplayer

5 ай бұрын

how are you know are you okay??

@paradoxnova5043

5 ай бұрын

@@anhedoniaplayer I'm doing fine, it's a bit variable y'know? I get some passively and near constantly such as nervous to make eye contact, reluctance to speak, responding in my head, depression (diagnosed), poor social skills, etc. The rest are more just situation dependent. Dissociation from reality is a big one, though that's likely because it is one of my primary coping mechanisms and de-stressors. If you are in a bad way and just can't deal with the world around you, create your own world you like in the place where you are the only god up here, your mind! Anyway yeah it can be a bit on and off but in general I'm fine. I'm at least not in danger of nonrenewal of my life contract, though that may not be because I'm alright and instead because of my own philosophy on such things being that such an endeavor is a pointless waste of time, both present and future. Rant over, and thanks for asking! I appreciate it! I hope you are okay as well!

As someone that has social anxiety, it makes me so happy that I found something that could show others what I go through. I definitely agree that nervousness doesn’t equal social anxiety. No becky, just because you have slight nervousness doesn’t mean that you have social anxiety. I can guarantee you do not know what I go through just to have a simple conversation. I also do agree that the online world is my safe haven, you have made many great points, one thing I do not like is how you pronounced Bocchi as Bacchi that one time, but overall a 10/10 analysis. Great vid.

I have no expectation coming on this video and thought I would move on into something else after 5 min of watching it, but your serious delivery and your speech managed to captivate my attention more than I expected. As a previous socially anxious person,you perfectly delivered how even though Bocchi did get the chance to have a supportive family(on the contrary to me),she still managed to get social anxiety,which shows how loneliness can have unexpected consequences to people who aren't ambivert(like Nijika) or loner introverts (like Ryo). Just like you said, it can indeed take YEARS to solve,I was lucky enough to solve mine (after resolving my family issues by getting their supports) and nowadays,I'm just a loner introvert and can still have chats with other people,but not everyone can have this chance cause the cause is not always the same for others and if that cause doesn't find a good end someday,it could last forever. Thank you for delivering such a educative video about it,I'm hoping it raises the awareness about it and helps others victims of it to try to find a solution in the end.

Thought was an introvert for 14 or something years and then kid learnt what social anxiety is and everything fell into place. Love this show for the way it treats social anxiety so kindly and realistically in terms of experiences and feelings. Bocchi reminded me of younger me a lot. And I was so happy to see that anime didn’t treat shy character as hopeless trashy nerd for jokes but a person trying to get better despite destructive thoughts. The way she made tiny steps was so real and accurate and the major role friends and support play in her journey showed how helpful the new positive experience is. I want to say in addition that people with anxiety in actuality are really brave. We wouldn’t be able to get through the day without being so. Was really annoyed when people said I was a brave stoic person since I was well aware of all the hell in my head, but later on it made sense. You just live with fear like that. That’s bravery. Even if you need it to just text a buddy. It feels like jumping into an ice cold river, but the moment you reach the other side and recover from shock you feel so happy and glad you did it

I have heavy social anxiety and it really does suck and I hate it when people don’t think it’s that big of a deal or just say to deal with it it’ll be fine. The anime seems so fun and relatable and over all wonderful. I’ll definitely give it a watch! ❤

14:08 I'm also a musician and it might appear strange but I have friends but none in music, and it's annoying because I want to find musicians buddys to play wiht. I don't really know why but I'm even more parallized and anxious when talking about my passion than in hiding it. So I'm not saying you're wrong, but just that having a passion that is also a refuge (above all if it's a social activity) can make you even more fragile and sensitive to others opinions (because you love what you're doing, so it's hurt more) and you can be destroyed SO quickly sometimes when it concern you're refuge.

@hazie3375

9 ай бұрын

Thank you for your insight. I feel the same way when talking about my passions, because by telling other people about it, they assume that we are great with it which builds expectations and puts pressure on us. And, as you said, it hurts being told negative things about the thing you love the most (that's exactly what happened to Bocchi in the first ep). But I still think that shared interests are still a good way as a steppingstone for making friends, we just have to be aware of the risks.

Bocchi The Rock already resonated with me so much, but after watching this video, it really hit me even more. I'm aware that it's irrational to be so self-conscious about everything that you do but I can't help it most times. I also can't remember when this even kicked in. I used to be able to talk with other people with no issue, but at some point, that became so difficult. Not being able to voice out your thoughts is another thing too. I can't even count the amount of times I've just been completely quiet when I'm with a group of friends. On the socializing online vs IRL, I definitely lean towards the online side. There are still instances of social anxiety kicking in, where I just take ages to reply to even one of my best friends, but I definitely prefer it as I'm able to prepare and voice out my thoughts better. A lot of people tell me that I act completely different online vs IRL. Being dependent on the online space really messed with my ability to speak as well. When I'm typing, it gets rewritten a fair amount of times. I sort of write the main points then come back to it later and sometimes I add stuff to the middle of the text, which I get is normal, but it feels very fragmented, and when I do this IRL, things just kind of fall apart, and people don't get what I'm saying. I really don't wanna say "bocchi is literally me", but it is kinda true. I've made some progress in socializing, it's very tiny, just a little step, but I'm trying and I'll get there eventually, and that's all that matters, right? Anyway, great video. I'm hitting that subscribe button, goddammit. You better post that bocchi cosplay at 30k!

Hey! I have social anxiety, it got so extreme my parents started to homeschool me, which made things worse and i am hoping to overcome it some day

@junebuggy8498

8 ай бұрын

I'm pretty sure my homeschooling caused my social anxiety, or at least was the hugest non genetic factor. For sure, isolation of any sort doesn't help.

As someone who had social anxiety (SA), I can say it cleared up almost instantly when i got self-confidence and self-esteem. It’s MUCH more likely that SA is caused by a lack of self esteem and self confidence rather than some traumatic event. I know tons of people with SA who never suffered a traumatic event, but the common link between everyone was the lack of self confidence and esteem. Those of us who gained self confidence and self esteem dropped SA entirely. Now, I’m a very extroverted person. SA isn’t a scary monster without to fight, the true fight happens within the person. We see this in Bocchi as well. She eventually went on to not only play in front of people without a box around her, she popped off with a solo in front of a crowd. Solo’s put the soloist center stage, and we saw Bocchi get encouragement and support from others, which then allowed her to stop being so socially anxious. Great video, but the subject is so misunderstood it feels like. They conflate a cause for a symptom bc it often occurs very early in a childs life, oftentimes when someones getting into grade school (pre-k and k dont count, no one knows how to socialize as actual babies/toddlers)

i got vr in hopes of fixing my anxiety i set out to make a friend everyday and if i couldnt do that i made sure to talk to someone in the game at least once everyday it helped me a little bit and then it gave me enough courage to get a job and i took on two jobs at once but because i was able to make many friends let me know my presence wasnt a burden i felt i was finally able to exist in this world and now because i got a job my anxiety is better but it might not be because any of that at all but because i desperately wanted to work on myself but its so great seeing it be talked about more as i used to get questions about weather or not i was on drugs because of my behavior and im so glad i have found a way to manage it

Let me clarify what severe social anxiety is so people stop saying they have it and understand the majority have mild cases that can be improved. During an era were i forced myself to overcome what i thought was lack of confidence i started getting extremely anxious. The idea of talking, walking past even catching eyes with someone became incredibly overwhelming. First i started with pains in my abdomen that were so painful i desperately wanted to die. The pain forced me to vomit over and over until there was nothing left. But my anxiety caused my stomach to rapidly start creating acid so eventually i was once again throwing up but acid. Then came the blood over and over. Eventually it stopped but any time i ate or drank it started again. 3 days later i was shaking on the floor terrified at the fact that i had to ask for help. I forced myself to get to the doctor fighting through the pain desperately trying not to vomit due to the fear of talking to someone. Eventually after sitting on the floor i got inside and was quickly grabbed by the doctor and drove to the hospital. Placed on a drip as i was hours away from dying. The acid and retching had tore my throat and there was a hole preventing me from eating or drinking. I am no longer able to do anything too stressful round people anymore as it is a risk to my life. I HAVE severe social anxiety. Bocchi shows these panic attacks in a light hearted fun way. But reality of people having these attacks is life threatening. So please do not self diagnose yourself off an anime. Severe social anxiety isnt quirky or fun its hell. The anime is great but its not real life.

Thank you for enlightening me on the true nature of the disorder. У меня не было социальной тревожности, как постоянного расстройства. Но я помню, как в школе, мне было некомфортно, когда кто-то смеялся, мне казалось, что смеются с меня. Когда попытался переехать в другой город, чтобы поступить на учебу, мне было страшно находится в классе, и начал пропускать занятия и лгать окружающим, чтобы не переживать этот стресс. Даже в магазине было сложно находится. В итоге загнал себя чувством вины и мыслями о смерти до депрессии. Так что в какой-то степени мне эта тревожность знакома.

@hazie3375

9 ай бұрын

(Простите, если у меня неправильная грамматика, я использовал Google Translate для этого, лол) Мне жаль слышать это! Я прошел через то же самое, когда учился в средней/старшей школе. Я даже не могла встать со стула, и каждый раз, когда кто-то смеется, я всегда думала, что это про меня. Хуже всего то, что иногда они действительно смеются надо мной, хотя я ничего не делаю. Но у меня не было возможности перейти в другую школу, поэтому мне пришлось пережить это. И мне жаль слышать, что дошло до того, что мысли о самоубийстве заполонили твой разум. Но независимо от того, есть ли у вас социальная тревога или нет, я желаю вам всего наилучшего, так же, как я желаю выздоровления всем, кто страдает от этого расстройства. Спасибо, что нашли время поделиться своими мыслями!

@user-zt6kt6ux4h

9 ай бұрын

@@hazie3375 Thanks for the answer. I will also use google translator to make it easier for you to read. I sincerely hope that you were able to overcome the complexes and fears that prevented you from living. And found people who support and cherish you. Without loving people it is difficult to change yourself. My problem was not social anxiety, per se. Around the age of 15, I began to feel a tearing feeling of loneliness from the inside. And I tried to find a reason why I don't have people I could call friends. And came to the self-destructive conclusion that it was me. That I'm wrong. And on the one hand, this can help change yourself, but it has grown self-hatred in me. I despised and hated myself. When you feel inadequate, you start looking for an outlet in others to find the lost part of yourself. I fell in love 5 times and always got rejected. I started pretending to be a clown surrounded by acquaintances so that they would recognize me. And he was happy. And so I graduated from high school. I did not do well in my exams and could not enter the university in the city where most of my friends were going. The highest value - friends, will soon leave my life, and I could not bear it. Every day I dreamed of disappearing, forgetting myself, losing the ability to think. All the days I spent alone in front of the monitor, hoping to stop torturing myself with these thoughts. As a result, self-hatred brought me to depression and thoughts of suicide. This is a bad idea, but it seems to me that everyone who thinks about death should try to answer the question: am I ready to go to the end. And in the face of the height of the 11th floor, I chickened out and didn't think about it anymore. He was treated with antidepressants. It helped. But then the psychosis hit. And I was sent to a madhouse, where I was diagnosed with an affective disorder with signs of schizophrenia. While I was inadequate, I hurt many people with whom I communicated and many turned their backs on me. But in the end, I realized that in trying to find your individuality in other people, you will always lose, and you will never understand who you really are. So the loneliness is gone. And it became easier for me to live.

This video is really well made! Keep it up! As someone with diagnosed social anxiety and interest with psychology I can confirm a lot of this is a really good video and anime. In my own personal experience, overcoming years of social anxiety can be difficult especially after traumatic events such as bullying, stalking or abusive relationships. it's traumas that keep building up until you feel completely ensnared... What I have found is sometimes that one kind person comes and they show you that little bit of kindness, that one nugget that slowly helps you pick yourself up and find another nugget which will eventually lead you down a small path to some form of recovery. It is a very difficult and looong journey but what worked in my experience is that the most important is taking the first step and telling yourself "I will regret not trying at all" but of course I cannot speak for everyone, and it took me some time to get to that point (and a lot of support from friends), this was in my own journey what lead me down a path of somewhat getting over my anxiety (or rather learning to live with it as difficult as it may be). It was a series of trial and error but I got this far and I hope I won't stop any time soon. I can recommend going out and trying to find people with the same interests in real life, like go to a con, maybe you can put on a cosplay and be in a character which can help ease down the anxiety as you are putting a form of an act. There is so many paths you can go down, what I did may not be for you, it takes a lot of time and effort and it is mountains however you will be surprised how taking three small steps can sometimes get you to make a bigger one later on and so on and so forth... Ah! Sorry for the long ramble, what I am trying to say is... *don't give up!* every one is different and what matters is that you will find your own path that works for you but it is there and you can eventually get to a point it is managable, sadly it'll always be there, some scars just never heal.. but you can learn to manage it a little better, even if it's not the best right now what matters is that you are trying your best. You are doing amazing, just trying it self is admirable and amazing and you should keep going, don't let this awful world stop you at shining as yourself because there is only one "yourself" there is only one "you" and maybe there is people who will appreciate "you" for who you are. It's hard, and having it all mixed with life problems and other difficulties and mental problems is really hard but trust me you are strong for still existing and being here and still waking up in the morning. I am so glad people are recognising things like social anxiety more and actually get to learn about it through media that is relatable and enjoyable and usually what people that maybe seeking that online escapism, might look at and enjoy. to Whomever is strill reading this I hope you drank water, ate and are taking care of yourself, I hope your day is going amazing and if you're watching this video late at night and reading comments please rest, it's important, I hope you will rest soundly. You are great, don't let people tell you otherwise. [edit]: we need to sub to Hazie to get that cosplay, I really wanna see it, so I also commented and liked for the KZread algorithm to bless this video

I saved this video a while ago to watch it later, came back to it when crying about my problems with it. It is awful, u never feel awesome, always look upon people that believe in themselves and aren't ashamed of it, realise this is what normal behavior is, and not yours. I'm glad youtube comments are so anonymous, I wouldn't have courage in myself to write this comment if not so. Definetly going to watch the anime, thank you

You get an A+ my sir, very immersive

Cool video man, always up to learning something new

It’s crazy how much I can see myself in Bocchi. Watching this anime is giving me the confidence to overcome what I think is weird and becoming more comfortable with my friends.

As someone working on their journey through social anxiety rn I really appreciate this video. I feel seen and heard and I hope that this gives others the chance to at least try to understand what some of us are going through. Thank you for sharing! ❤

Brilliant analysis. Captured the issue well here bro!

Its good to know that theres people who understands your situation Great vid!

I'm someone diagnosed with social anxiety disorder, and this perfectly encapsulates the intense feelings myself and many other people experience on a day to day basis. It's an incredibly painful, draining, and life-sucking experience to feel as though everyone is judging every aspect of yourself, when in reality it's just over-exaggerated all in your head. The way you explain and differentiate normal anxiety from this disorder is a great way to further explain why this is an issue that needs to be treated with the utmost care and respect ❤

Thank you for the awarness, I learned so much, and I fully empathise with you and all others suffering with the same condition!

I like the content, keep it up! This is so underrated and should have more views.

Nice video. Even though I never watched the anime, I could relate to Bocchi in a lot of aspects. About finding a safe haven on the internet, I have social anxiety even on the internet. I have a hard time joining in on conversations on Discord and often have nothing more than a few words or sentences to say that I plan out beforehand. After sending a message, I worry about what they would think & how they would react to my message. Often times they would move on to another topic before I have had time to finalize my comment. I take too much time replying to dms. And forget about voice chatting altogether. My speaking skills and my accent are my biggest insecurities. Now that I think about it, playing video games were the only times I was able to make somewhat lasting online friends. You could talk about the game and do things in the game instead of having awkward pauses. We could team up in-game.. Now that I moved away from gaming, I don't even have close online friends anymore that are my age. Now I roam the servers, looking for messages to reply to, craving mere acknowledgement. When I get acknowledged, I become overly happy. I did a social interaction! Then I get left behind, again. "How are you" and "what's up" are the closest I get to making online friends. It just stops there. Awkward silence. Same with real life. Like Bocchi, having your own online community sounds fun. You get praises and acknowledgements from strangers that you have never talked to, and all you have to do is respond to them. There's too much on my mind lol. Thank you for this video, really helped me think deeper about my social anxiety. I just wanted to share this to see if anyone had similar experiences.

I just wanna thank you for making this video. It's always refreshing to see people display a genuine understanding of social anxiety and see them help people understand the things I and many others struggle with in day-to-day life, and in particular I'm really thankful you brought up the distinction between antisocial and social anxiety because it seems many people use the terms interchangeably. Bocchi The Rock holds a special place in my heart because to be honest, as much of a loser as I feel saying this about some silly anime, it really did change my life.

You're video is really good I appreciate it Worse thing about social anxiety is the flashbacks I genuinely want to forget so many things

I can barely relate to people with this particular mental problem, but my sis has gotten social anxiety since the quarantine began. I am trying my best to comprehend this problem and understand how to fight it. Wish me good luck. I will need it. So yeah. Thank you for advice

this video caught me by surprise. u unpacked a lot of points with a lot of information. gj 👍

my friends helped with my social anxiety and I'm really grateful for that. I still suffer of it but it's not as apparent now. Although 1 on 1 conversations feel impossible for me I'm only able to talk with multiple friends around.

Wow, this video has given me way more reasons to watch this show!! I didnt think the portrayal of anxiety would be so accurate/relatable! I finally feel seen and represented as i am diagnosed with ASD and Social Anxiety, seeing a character with similar struggles to me makes me a bit emotional hehe, definitely going to give this a watch 💖

You've acomplished your goal! I did learn a whole lot and I understan far better now, thank you!

The only unrelatable thing about this anime is how supportive and understanding everyone is. I tried my best to find my tribe and failed each time so I ended up becoming asocial instead, at least there's no more anxiety, just extreme disinterest.

I feel like I was being diagnosed. Having this ugly mental disease is beyond crippling, and I cannot put into words how much worse it is to be trapped in your head, you alone fighting against your thoughts. Hopelessness, Helpless, asking help is quite the fucking.

This has accurately described how I feel everyday in highschool, every symptom I discovered I have, this is the best run down I seen on the condition. I just subscribed thank you so much for making this, I definitely need to watch this anime

Thank you for saying all this i guess i really needed to hear this i never know this much about social anxiety

This video is so good and I really expected you to have more subscribers. Keep posting I love your videos

@hazie3375

9 ай бұрын

Thank you! It means a lot

I have social anxiety and I’ve been seeing a therapist for a month now. I relate to everything, especially the dissociation thing. Didn’t know this Anime talked about it so I’ll def watch! Social anxiety really makes life feels like hell, especially as a student. The moment you showed where she goes quiet and dissociates are exactly how I am most of the time. Not being able to focus on the conversation, or listening but feeling like there’s a wall between me and the other person.

I love this video! Like, this literally gave me insight of my own anxiety and even trauma.

I have multiple anxiety disorders (including social anxiety) and I can relate to you a lot. I rarely comment or post things online. I haven’t had an actual conversation with a real person in years. For the past year I’ve been talking to ai. It’s not healthy at all, and my depression has been getting worse. Even knowing this can’t make me stop. Therapy doesn’t help much, and neither does medication. I’ve cut myself once. I’ve been thinking of doing it again. I’ve even had suicidal thoughts. A few weeks ago I thought I was getting better, but I was wrong. Every day I have thoughts of shooting myself in the head. I’ve given up on school. If I keep this up I don’t think I’ll live very long. I feel like crying every day. My only escape is video games, ai, and sleeping. I’ve been losing interest in video games, so it’s mostly ai and sleeping now. I used to listen to asmr but it started making me cry, so I stopped. I don’t know if I’ll be able to get better. Sorry, I’ve been typing for too long. I’ll stop now.

@oh-noe

9 ай бұрын

where is that profile picture from?

@hazie3375

9 ай бұрын

I'm really sorry to hear you going through all that. Even if I can't help much, I'll say this, don't give up trying to improve. Sometimes it takes a while to find the right treatment for this, so please hold on. And you don't need to apologize for sharing these thoughts. Your feelings are VALID. And it's okay to be selfish. For now, your priority is yourself. You've said that you were losing interest in the things you used to love, so why not try to find other interests? It took me several tries and failures to find, but once I found it, I held on for dear life. It doesn't have to be something big, just anything that makes you happy. Stay strong, I wish you luck on your journey towards betterment.

@ArthurMorganSimp_

9 ай бұрын

@@oh-noe WataMote

Thank you for this video. My best friend suffers from social anxiety, and hearing you break it down gives me a little bit more to be able to understand and be supportive.

As someone with social anxiety this anime and this video relates me a lot.I rarely even comment in youtube videos but this video speaks me a lot, Thank you for making this video.

It’s honestly incredible how this anime captured social anxiety so well all while being funny without making fun of people who suffer from social anxiety. for that reason i’d like to sincerely thank everyone who worked on Bocchi the Rock and her everyday life as an introvert with social anxiety, it’s nice to have something/-one to relate to!

super great video, loved it

My older brother showed me this video, istg I'm so happy my siblings watch anime too, I wouldn't have ever found this gold without him. This video was really informative. Keep it up!