“They’re always selling you a new problem about yourself” Ain’t that the f*cking truth.

@obrien92

4 жыл бұрын

yay, capitalism! 🤢

@nandno8811

4 жыл бұрын

I literally read this comment when she was saying it

@ThatArtsGirl

4 жыл бұрын

Shaden that’s really freaking shitty and I’m sorry that someone else’s standard of beauty made you look at your skin through a negative lens. Try considering them your battle wounds for when you kicked their shit out the door and smashed the patriarchy!

@tovenrvik6336

2 жыл бұрын

You are so right‼️The Beauty industry prey upon others insecurity, choose wisely about what you'll think you need ‼️

Insecurities are so weird. Sometimes, I’m so confident and I feel like a queen and then the next second I look in the mirror like “WHY AM I SO UGLY”

@sadiabegum1099

4 жыл бұрын

mcdreamy’s babe sameee even though our faces look exactly the same ??

@gabyrey4410

4 жыл бұрын

Can relate

@seanrobertson6586

4 жыл бұрын

same

@winddragonlundholm1792

4 жыл бұрын

I have wrinkels and I'm 14:D I really want to have chubby cheaks because then I won't have wrinkels but I have like no appitite.

@taneciadepass3760

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, somet8me I'll do a nice make-up look and feel really pretty. Then a couple minutes later I'll look in the mirror and feel super ugly.

let me just say, this comment section is one of the most supportive and nice comment sections i've ever seen.

@bconni2

4 жыл бұрын

unless you love L.A...then the comments suck...

@marianna380

4 жыл бұрын

@@bconni2 i honestly hate la

@liannarosario495

4 жыл бұрын

im wheezing

@kldottie6524

3 жыл бұрын

hiii it would mean a lot if you checked out my channel

@eyimofeedah3640

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr

Can I just confess my insecurities for a sec? I just need to get it out without somebody telling me to shut up for once. I don't like my undefined Asian nose, my thin dark brown hair, my non glass skin, how skinny I am, my nose blackheads, and my small eyes. I think after typing out this long list of things I don't like about myself, I noticed how small these things are. I just wish I didn't have to feel like I needed to prove the rest of the world that I was worthy by being beautiful. I don't need to prove anything to anyone, but I constantly pressure myself to think that I do. Now, i'm realizing that I am beautiful. Not by the world's standards, but beautiful in a way that i'm starting to start to love myself.

@thejungle7429

4 жыл бұрын

I AM SO PROUD AND I LOVE YOU SM

@Keiralynneee

4 жыл бұрын

You are beautiful the way you are and you're right. You should not have to "prove" that you're good enough to anyone. Thank you for sharing your insecurities, it's really inspiring to see you write out all of them. Know your worth. You're beautiful. I love you!!!!

@hollylee4044

4 жыл бұрын

@@Keiralynneee Thank you so much! I wish there were more people like you in the world 💗

@Keiralynneee

4 жыл бұрын

Holly Lee No problem!!💞💞 I just want everyone to feel special and feel good about expressing their true self and their insecurities without feeling horrible about themselves.

@genevievemccalla3632

4 жыл бұрын

That was quick

Every time she says “this is going to sound dumb” I know I’m about to relate to something I didn’t know I related too.

@alicelarsson4258

4 жыл бұрын

You are rite

@ronie1844

4 жыл бұрын

Full on facts😂

@emmaharness798

4 жыл бұрын

same lol

@FabiolaSuarez

4 жыл бұрын

OMG SO TRUE!

@jiahnair3072

4 жыл бұрын

makayla chambers lol same

imagine ashley writing a book.. A DREAM

@toricleland5362

4 жыл бұрын

sophie ♡ i swear if she did it would make my life, Ashley please 😭🙌🏻

@jasmine57895

4 жыл бұрын

♡ YESS

@nerdfacedemoji

4 жыл бұрын

ashley but a podcast

@muntianuanisia7498

4 жыл бұрын

Omg your profile looks so cute

@peggleblastlover

4 жыл бұрын

sophie ♡ or a podcast 🤩

I couldn't help but notice she said "We" instead of "I" A lot. I feel about 7% Less Lonely.

ashley’s first video I watched i was like “oh no she’s pretty I don’t like her” then I realized what? Why should I resent her for being pretty? Like it’s such pre-teen angst and it’s so immature to assume pretty people don’t deserve their appearance, I’m a junior in high school and I can’t believe how ridiculously crappy I acted when I was younger...

@ninaaanestad7198

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! I acted that way too (in my head) to a lot of the pretty girls at my school, and i'm so happy my mindset has changed a lot since then! (Physical) beauty does not correspond with worth, intelligence or kindness at all and that's something i still gotta remind myself of!!

@anxiety8054

3 жыл бұрын

Same here, but now that i realized doing that is really stupid and immature. ive been able to appreciate alot more female youtubers and its so exciting

@ninaaanestad7198

3 жыл бұрын

@@milkychii i really dont know. I'm guessing it was some sort of jealousy or engrained competition between girls :/

@ygs8814

3 жыл бұрын

ashley’s first video I watched i was like “oh no she’s pretty I don’t like her” then I realized what? Why should I resent her for being pretty? Like it’s such pre-teen angst and it’s so immature to assume pretty people don’t deserve their appearance, I’m a junior in high school and I can’t believe how ridiculously crappy I acted when I was younger...

@eleanorshaw8005

3 жыл бұрын

@@ygs8814 why did you copy the same comment 😂

*petition for Ashley to start her own podcast*

@ashleyhao6837

4 жыл бұрын

Violet - yes pleeeaaase

@peggleblastlover

4 жыл бұрын

Violet - *p* *l* *e* *a* *s* *e*

@Benderblender

4 жыл бұрын

Yes pleaseee

@flakes_8401

4 жыл бұрын

Violet - 1k

@rosalindaocasio3149

4 жыл бұрын

Fr

everyday i skrt skrt but i actually hurt hurt 🥺

@ashleyash5388

4 жыл бұрын

You also gotta understand what your body is trying to communicate to you through these skin issues. Our bodies are electromagnetic information fields that demonstrate the issues we are facing in our lives by transmitting information. This information will then show up in our physical body as errors like dis-ease, skin issues, etc. Really what I'm trying to say is to pay attention to what your body is trying to tell you, and don't ignore the signs it's trying so hard to communicate 💚

@lexizheng2472

4 жыл бұрын

My mom is so bothered that I have acne. Apparently, she and my dad never had acne, and she’s convinced that I shouldn’t have it. It’s natural. I don’t care that I have it. I just wash my face with the cleanser and go on with my day.

@yara4486

4 жыл бұрын

I get bullied everyday for my acne so say that to my ass lmao

@cowcow7273

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah. Many people ask me how I have such beautiful skin and nails but guys we all have about 99% of the same DNA and I’m just the lucky one in the line. As a girl I am very self confident about my looks and if I could bottle up that feeling and hand it out to everyone I would and I get other people aren’t like me and I am very grateful but I still have my moments where I have to say to myself. “It’s ok”. Remember. Beauty doesn’t come from the face, it comes from the light in the heart

@sanjanan7109

4 жыл бұрын

it's hard for me bc where i live NO one gets acne. like, not even a pimple. everyone has glass perfect skin, and they don't even wear makeup. plus, you can't cover up pimples + acne with foundation, its very obvious underneath. to make it worse, i'm indian, so ALL my relatives and family friends have absolutely perfect skin, and they always stare at me lol. plus, its true everyone gets pimples, but it feels a lot different to "get a pimple" than to have actual, heavy acne.

Beauty standards are POLITICAL, they are racist, sexist and capitalist. Understanding that they are not casual and factual really healped be be more confident about my looks.

@bruhh137

4 жыл бұрын

@@bconni2 I don't think beauty standards are universal? Asians and western beauty standards are so different and they keep evolving too. And idk about political but yeah they are capitalist. Like of course they are. These companies thrive on people's insecurities to make money. And the part about 'rationalizing the fact that you're probably not good looking' like bruh how do you know? No one is born 'ugly' . Op said they are feeling confident in themself. It has nothing to do with if they are this made up standard of 'good looking person'.

@bconni2

4 жыл бұрын

@@bruhh137 ...you can go any where in the world and people are judged by their looks....it has nothing to do with capitalism , sexism, racism, politics or western culture...it's a universal aspect of human nature...but good looks don't make the person beautiful...there's plenty of good looking people who are ugly on the inside and not so good looking people who have beautiful souls...

@plumeria72

4 жыл бұрын

@@bconni2 I don't want to stir up some sort of argument and I do agree with you, but it is fairly common for something or a couple somethings in daily life to make you feel bad about your appearance. Beauty can be and sometimes are sexist, and racist. God I hope that the world changes.

@bconni2

4 жыл бұрын

@@plumeria72 ...so if someone has a specific type they're attracted to that makes them racist....? like i heard some Asian girl was complaining that it's racist for White men to be attracted to Asian women because they're fetishizing them..? .i mean, that's insanity coming right off the conveyor belt of the Humanities department at your local University...

@plumeria72

4 жыл бұрын

@@bconni2 Like Ashley said in that video, simple stuff like an instagram filter, can make someone feel bad about their appearence. I mean, making a filter that basically makes someone more white. Doesn't that seem like racist crap to you that ultimately can bring down people's self esteem? Especially since, in messed up yet popular media, it seems that there is a very clear standard set in media for "beautiful people".

When she was talking about being nervous sleeping over at a guys or your boyfriend's place because they would see you without your makeup. It kinda reminded me of the recent episode of true beauty when she pretend faint so she wouldn't have to stay over with her boyfriend cause she was afraid of her boyfriend seeing her natural face.

@clementineanartist5714

4 жыл бұрын

YES same! I was thinking about that too, when she said she was alternating between two faces.

@foolishhuman5259

3 жыл бұрын

YES EXACTLY!! I wish the author would point this out and focus more on self-love instead her insecurities being shown as "haha lol same 😂 so relatable" because yes, insecurities are something everyone feels, it should not be dismissed or just be solved by dating a handsome boy. Like there's literally tutorials on how to cat-fish in the webtoon 💀and the title is "True Beauty"

@lavanyabalaji5038

3 жыл бұрын

It reminded me the first scene of bridesmaid..

ashley is the only 'influencer' that i actually want to be influenced by.

@Amber-co1th

4 жыл бұрын

Same girl same

@aditirao7143

4 жыл бұрын

OMG YES

@slowsinging4544

4 жыл бұрын

You should look at Anna Akana, she's really good too

@sonipitts

4 жыл бұрын

I feel that

@rayaqp6702

4 жыл бұрын

Preach

you should honestly do a podcast - i would listen

@belensilva5389

4 жыл бұрын

YEEEEEEEES

@janesmith8085

4 жыл бұрын

Nithiyaa Karunakaran I NEED this in my life

@Sierra-cl9xr

4 жыл бұрын

I’d listen too, everything she’s said is like its coming out of my own brain

@Proserpina777

4 жыл бұрын

I would listen the shit out of that

@caulifoil6939

4 жыл бұрын

i need that

I always felt that way: asian wasnt pretty. My parents are immigrants who are just so grateful to be in america and are used to a more grotesque kind of racism so they dont understand it. We also live in a white community so theres no one really to talk to about it. Not until an older gentleman basically called me a monkey for being asian did I realize that what I felt was legitimate. I found communities online and bestdressed really hones in on this well. Shes a godsend and super talented.

@Danuxsy

4 жыл бұрын

he called you a monkey? 😂😂

@Anna-ug8cq

4 жыл бұрын

People confuse me :( I’m white and I’ve always thought asians were most beautiful

@Danuxsy

4 жыл бұрын

@@Anna-ug8cq yeahg you dont, you hate asians, just like me. lol

@Anna-ug8cq

4 жыл бұрын

XIAO Huhh?

@Anna-ug8cq

4 жыл бұрын

XIAO With a username like xiao? Is that sarcasm 😂

“I didn’t realize that all the things I hated the most about my face were the things that were most asian” I felt this in my core. I just realized this last year. I’m Hispanic, though I often get confused for Asian, especially when I moved to NC from NM where pretty much everyone is Hispanic. I realized it differently though. One day, as I was thinking about the features on a face that I found to be most beautiful, I realized that it was a white face. Rounded eyes, pale skin that turned pink in cold weather, smooth hair (I have curly hair) and the two things you listed: a pointed noise and strong cheekbones. THESE ARE PRIMARILY WHITE FEATURES. Of course I could never be happy with my face. I wanted to achieve something that I could never have. I was so mad at myself for this internalized idea of beauty and surprised that somehow, though I have found so much beauty in a variety of skin tones all my life, it was still ingrained in me that white features were the epitome.

@smileyy777

4 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙌

@AlyssaAcuna

4 жыл бұрын

for me it’s the opposite , im puertorriqueña but most definitely white passing , all my family had nice curly hair , tan dark skin , cute noses , dark hair , but my mom is European so I came out with brown hair instead of black , wavy loose curls , instead of tight curls , & i hate being the “white girl” of the family just because of how I look

@rosamendieta4579

3 жыл бұрын

Ah same! i’m hispanic (pale though) and grew up in peru, when I moved to North Carolina I got SO insecure because everyone here is blonde and pretty and pretty much the beauty standard:/

@mrs.shushiman1459

3 жыл бұрын

the replies just prove that you can never be happy with yourself, so you should save the trouble and just except yourself.

Ladies and gentlemen may I present to you... *the real definition of an INFLUENCER!*

@chocolatewafflez2454

4 жыл бұрын

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

@tala8514

4 жыл бұрын

Best comment

@emilyquack8880

4 жыл бұрын

Omg but really though!!!!!!

@amychen4930

4 жыл бұрын

she really is omfg

@kayedomingo9027

4 жыл бұрын

Yes she is!!! She is so brilliant and intelligent, funny, compassionate especially in how she empowers other women and how she keeps spreading important messages, she's beautiful inside and out, and she's amazing at everything she does. She has so much humility and sincerity.

this is a real influencer raw, not full of inspirational quotes, realistic, and relatable

@LuKa-qk7fp

4 жыл бұрын

amen.

@FabiolaSuarez

4 жыл бұрын

I AGREE! This is what I strive to be!

@Kaiisdreaming

4 жыл бұрын

Yes totally agree

Ashley, I want to say thank you. I recently "found" your account, and as a 15 year old with a craniofacial disorder, this video was very uplifting. For years I've hated myself, I listened to what others said about my odd facial features. Convinced myself that I wasn't worthy of confidence. So thank you for defying the social standards, because nobody should feel like a freak for how they look. :)

@simarrandhawa3365

4 жыл бұрын

Skie Yesss you are beautiful. Love yourself 🖤

I'm a 31 year old woman and I don't know who needs to read this but please don't sleep with your makeup on, even if you are in your early 20s and your skin is young. Plus you are all awesome and beautiful and you will become more confident with age and life is bloody awesome when you finally realise how unique and sexy you really are. You're a legend and I love your channel!

Honestly, she is the prettiest person inside and out.

@HiZelia

4 жыл бұрын

Temia RVW #word !!

@audreyoh2289

4 жыл бұрын

True

anyone else think she’s genuinely so beautiful? inside and out like she has such a big personality but she’s also pretty as hell

@tomparker8282

4 жыл бұрын

She's stunning

@miowlysiew4846

4 жыл бұрын

a true beaut

@adriadziaa6035

4 жыл бұрын

@@debe654 Whaaat ? how is that? can u explain why?

@KaboodleDoodle

4 жыл бұрын

@@debe654 why are you watching her video if you think of her in that way? :(

@debe654

4 жыл бұрын

@@KaboodleDoodle Just because some one has some flaws, it doesn't mean they aren't enjoyable.

I agree with the entire Eurocentric beauty rant, because personally I’ve been insecure my entire life of my “squinty” eyes and how small/thin they are, but I also have another take about how with big lips and a big ass being “in” now, it’s also cool to look “racially ambiguous” (take Kylie Jenner for example) but as long as it’s sexually appealing and you aren’t too far away from the white standard

@luckychonk9527

3 жыл бұрын

Honestly the TEAAAA. Its like saying "its okay to be mixed but only if you have white in it"

@bunnywavyxx9524

3 жыл бұрын

@@luckychonk9527 this!

@yahistheway.5166

3 жыл бұрын

I am white, and I don’t fit the white standard people speak of… I am not thin nor am I pretty…

@tovenrvik6336

2 жыл бұрын

The Kardashians who have had butt implants, and make their lips bigger, are wt Afroamerican guys, and have tried to get the beauty standard from that race‼️

@tovenrvik6336

2 жыл бұрын

We Scandinavian girls wt bright hair and blue eyes are known for being beautiful, men from other countries get suprised about how many pretty girls there are in Sweden and Norway. Scandinavia is in Europe ‼️💎

I love how she uses the mix of expensive band cheap products she is a queen $42 foundation and $1 lip balm

I love how she acknowledges that other people think she is pretty.

@thatquietkid5925

4 жыл бұрын

I think its important for her to mention, becuase just because shes really pretty, and other people aslo think shes pretty, it doesnt mean she doesnt have her own insecurities

@agnesptk

4 жыл бұрын

because she is.

@user-xs2gf

4 жыл бұрын

That’s the problem, beauty is subjective and depends on the eyes you look it through. I think Ashley is BEAUTIFUL (inside and out), but she and other people might think otherwise.

@carmensclothes

4 жыл бұрын

So she agrees.... she thinks shes really pretty

@softieclubsss

4 жыл бұрын

Sheridan Campeau mean girls !! I love that movie

one thing i always think when i'm feeling insecure is "who profits off this emotion?" read it on a post a while back and it's always stuck with me.

@Katjjjes

4 жыл бұрын

I want this written on all my walls

@moonchild2140

4 жыл бұрын

i've never seen it that way, that's very interesing i'll definitely use that tip too! thank you for sharing :)

One of my “friends” would comment on my appearance pointing out my big nose and the acne on my forehead (I didn’t even have that much) and it would hurt me so much but now I just look back at it and realize she only said that to me because she herself was so insecure and needed to feel better about herself 🤷‍♀️

@tovenrvik6336

2 жыл бұрын

If you get acne, put toothpast on them until you have dried them out, put toothpast on emmediently when one pops up ‼️💎

"people don't go up to you and scrutinize your face, like 'oh, u have a blackhead', or 'oh, you have a new pimple' etc etc" "... and the truth is, that's never enough to make you happy, because you just find another thing to hate about yourself, like you're surrounded by hate comments everyday, telling you about your other imperfections in other aspects..." i genuinely love ashley

@444fawn

4 жыл бұрын

my friend does that though, whenever i have a pimple she points at it and just says "you have a pimple" as if i dont have eyes of my own and dont look at the mirror each morning...

@caoimhehanretta4012

4 жыл бұрын

@@444fawn girl she's t o x i c haha, she might just not realize that it hurts u tho, let her know and if she doesn't change, goodbye! remember that ur beautiful xx

@mijidoe2192

4 жыл бұрын

Angel yeah my friend does that as well. More about my blackheads, she says that my nose is not clean¿ because of the blackheads so yeah 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Sofia-ssn

4 жыл бұрын

Angel, that’s what my friend did sometimes. i don’t talk to her as much now. i realized its very very toxic.. you’re beautiful and you shouldnt tolerate that. she just wants a reaction out of you. act unbothered, or if it REALLY bothers you, tell her!! but be chill about it. also this last part might sound harsh, but if you don’t want to do any of the other things i suggested, then give her a little taste of her own medicine. (i wouldn’t, because i don’t want to stoop down to their level). BUT JUST REMEMBER YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL 🥺💗! I KNOW IT. own it, cause you’re a true queen. you’ll learn to be confident in yourself!

@dhrutipurushotham8242

3 жыл бұрын

My boyfriend does the same thing to me. He points out every new pimple or if I look a little plum that day. We had a facetime after ages (yknow quarantine) and he pointed out how fat I had become. He points out my body hair too or how dark my skin is. But I'm in love with the way he's so spontaneous and adventurous. Everything about him just makes me feel lucky to have him. But I've noticed i dress up and sit in front of the mirror for atleast an hour and a half before I've to meet him. (And I don't even use makeup. Cus it's supposed to take time. Idk what I do that entire hour) I suck in my stomach sometimes too I guess. Idk why I said all that. You don't have to reply. I'm just venting. That video was beautiful. I needed that. 😔😫💕

*covers up hickey with concealer* ashley: *timid giggle* 😂😂😂😂 i love her

@eyaloukil

4 жыл бұрын

Omg I thought that was a rash or a mosquito bite or smth, eye. Go get it gurl!

@sock3772

4 жыл бұрын

Time stamp ?

@lauryn3634

4 жыл бұрын

Eya Loukil maybe it was 😂 but i’d rather root for her gettin it on HAHAHA

@lauryn3634

4 жыл бұрын

Suki Yarsano 6:04

@sock3772

4 жыл бұрын

@@lauryn3634 thank you

the big sis I never had... (with a really dirty mind and amazing fashion sense)

@andreah.8333

4 жыл бұрын

my thoughts exactly!

@sofianagi2913

4 жыл бұрын

I love her dirty mind 😂😂😂❤

@amandamuttonen275

4 жыл бұрын

Nct oh daddy don’t we all😂😂

@sdramw

4 жыл бұрын

so basically an older sister

@inesaxus8694

4 жыл бұрын

totally relate

something I rlly hate abt beauty standards is that fact that big noses are seen as ugly. like dam I’m just trying to breathe. you don’t have to tell me I look like the witch from snow white thank you very much❤️

@plasticfrog4533

3 жыл бұрын

I read somewhere that the witch trope is rooted in anti semetism, the curly dark hair, the big hooked nose ect. Big noses are beautiful, ur a bad bitch 💜

@aenirrinea523

3 жыл бұрын

That and dark skin. Dainty features are worshipped too.

Ashley is like a self aware person in the game of the internet or some shit. Like she acknowledges that she is a part of an industry that heavily pushes the ideals and I love that.

"The only time that i could go outside without bullying myself first" hit me hard.

@MissTheMae

4 жыл бұрын

This is the one that made me tear up, too. Damn.

I swear no one has ever talked about vagina insecurity and I thought I was the only one who had it.

@ruthwaore1405

4 жыл бұрын

Lol Its good to know there are people you can relate to

@rosevalenzuela3932

4 жыл бұрын

Same lmao

@sweetp2732

4 жыл бұрын

Khyati O. ikr I’m super happy now

@juul5535

4 жыл бұрын

Sis..... Youre not alone lol!

@Laura-lp3hp

4 жыл бұрын

Where?

Rewatching this again and again everytime I feel so bad and insecure about myself :((

@zekimse

4 жыл бұрын

nooooo :(( please dont feel bad! im sure youre very beautiful!

@tovenrvik6336

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds wise, everything that can lift us is good ‼️We can try to find positive things wt ourselvs every day‼️💎

I'm rewatching the old videos. It's comforting Never thought I could miss a person I never actually met in real life. But I do :(

the mother i never had. she is the sister everybody would want. she is the friend that everybody deserves. i don’t know a better person. *my reaction to every single one of her videos*

@hermione124granger

4 жыл бұрын

omg that is kind of dramatic BUT SOO TRUE

@mm-hx4oh

4 жыл бұрын

#sister ashley

@uglyorgan375

4 жыл бұрын

It's the exact same comment that was posted under her previous video, why

@vidhituteja

4 жыл бұрын

Covering up that hickey at 6.07 though !!! 😬

@giovannacoser1695

4 жыл бұрын

@@uglyorgan375 i dead ass didn't know lol, i had just seen a meme with oprah saying that and thought it fit perfectly with this video

Now I just want a podcast from Ashely.

@maryalice3474

4 жыл бұрын

Yesss, please.

@luisarebelo6752

4 жыл бұрын

everybody doesss

@liula540

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! Do it, Ashley!

Ashley, your videos age like fine wine. *chef's kiss*

the best confidence booster i’ve had is when my best friend told me she liked me too. i always feel very ugly, and knowing that when she called me pretty, it wasn’t just to be nice, it was because she meant it. i love her.

@m.kjordan5449

4 жыл бұрын

Aww thats sweet.♥️

@tovenrvik6336

2 жыл бұрын

Love makes ppl pretty‼️💎Live and love‼️👍

"I used to tell myself that once my skin was clear or I lost a certain amount of weight I could be happy with myself". This hit home. I just wanted to say, genuinely thank you Ashley. I'm going to make this something I "used to tell myself" too.

@madhulikakorde9260

4 жыл бұрын

It's so nice to hear inspiration stories! And yeah sis, you totally will

@bi_anca7554

4 жыл бұрын

Shannon Ringle i know I love her so much she really puts my POV in the right perspective I would think the same thing that “when my skin clears maybe boys would like me now or if I had a bigger butt and smaller waist I would be “perfect” I just realized that I’m making myself fit into the likings of others and not myself that if someone will like me it would be for me not my looks I think I’m gonna take a break from worrying thanks Ashley!🥰🥰💕💕

@marieralf8621

4 жыл бұрын

I was telling myself “If your skin isn’t clear you can’t be loved by someone.” These thoughts are so fucked up. Don’t drag yourself

@march9177

4 жыл бұрын

I mean, I have clear skin and I'm in good shape and there are still many things I dislike about myself. However, at the end of the day, I remember all the wonderful ppl I'm surrounded by and that I am healthy and lived another day and that brings me to a place where I'm grateful for who I am.

I feel like watching you is really good for my mental health. Thank you.

@milenavlloso

4 жыл бұрын

yes!

@seominnys5389

4 жыл бұрын

same here

@tanishasethi4441

4 жыл бұрын

yes! you put it into words!

@mishkaatrawjee1271

4 жыл бұрын

ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ Lumi omg same!!!!

@tildegjesingantvor8236

4 жыл бұрын

Sssaaaaammmmeeee

this video helped me so much when i first listened to it in high school and it still does now

'Changing your appearance alone is not enough to make u love yourself' damn girl that was inspiring

@tovenrvik6336

2 жыл бұрын

If a person get a nice haircut that suits them, cloths that fits your body type and makes you feel good, this things can help‼️💎

Can you please just make these “girl talks” into podcasts so I can contemplate beauty standards on my bus ride to school or during my art classes.

@margauxqb290

4 жыл бұрын

Angela Quintero YES

@rhob-rochfm1489

4 жыл бұрын

Anyone pls contact Headgum to produce her podcast!

@muskanmalik1998

4 жыл бұрын

YES PLEASE

@alexisx4368

4 жыл бұрын

PLEASEEEE

@meganbiggeman2673

4 жыл бұрын

yessss, but maybe not call it girl talks, maybe real talk, or reality check? idk, just to include everyone :)

I want you to challenge yourself not to say "this is gonna sound dumb" before a sentence. Please, nothing you say sounds dumb you're so intelligent.

@stephkatrina7687

4 жыл бұрын

Yes yes yes 👏 Any time she said that she always dropped a valuable truth bomb. I know she's very conscious of sounding cheesy, preachy, or self-indulgent but she ISN'T! We need more real talk on the internet 😊

@gaslight.gatekeep.girlboss6476

4 жыл бұрын

THIS!!

@TheSkittishWhippet

4 жыл бұрын

Agree! and also I want all of us to take our time and not feel squished to edit out all quietness and pauses, because they can be very powerful too, IRL as online. To not ever let anyone make us feel rushed.

@maariagp7

4 жыл бұрын

"your mind believes your thoughts so don't think things you don't want it to know" and also "stop speaking negatively about yourself or your life, even as a joke. your spirit doesn't know the difference"

@snailmucus3921

4 жыл бұрын

Mimineko101 honestly you sound like the best friend to have ngl

I'm white. When I was super little, maybe four, I saw an asian girl walking on the street with her parents. I thought she had the most beautiful eyes and I wished mine looked like hers. It kinda shocked me when I later saw a couple other kids pull their eyelids back and laugh as they did the "chinese eyes". Later on I'd look back and realise that stuff like this is subjective; beauty standards are pretty pointless. Doesn't stop me from completely disregarding that and feeling insecure about my other features wooo

I remember that feeling as if going out without makeup seemed offensive, too. Isn't it messed up how girls are made to feel that way?

@allyeverett8288

4 жыл бұрын

And starting at such a young age!

@Ashesinferno28

3 жыл бұрын

Yep

absolutely no one ever: ashley: [makes sex jokes whilst talking about serious things] we love an exaggerated blush routine

ashley to editing ashley: “we’re not putting this in the video are we?” editing ashley: hECK yEA WE ARE

@randiraesam3421

4 жыл бұрын

trina :p 😂😂

@CherylGoer

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂👌🏻

@therandomratarmy7904

4 жыл бұрын

I JUST SAW THAT 💀

her comment sections are the best place

@tovenrvik6336

2 жыл бұрын

Agree, I have learned a lot from others experiences on the topics I'm interested in‼️💎

When I first discovered your channel, i instantly thought “ Pretty girl.” Like no question. I guess alot of us girls really do beat ourselves down on our looks.

the best thing about Ashley, is that I can tell she’s talking as an educated person and not just “influencing”

@captainmillie4017

4 жыл бұрын

Hxllelujah too true

@riddhis5701

4 жыл бұрын

That is so true!! I highly agree :)

@cherfancherfan6682

4 жыл бұрын

@@riddhis5701 me 2

Beauty doesn’t equal confidence, but confidence equals beauty

@ruthwaore1405

4 жыл бұрын

I need that on a tshirt

@babyindirt

4 жыл бұрын

@@ruthwaore1405 kinda chessy for a tee tho

I am literally never the person to cry to videos like these but my god, when she said "you think you'll be satisfied once your skin clears up and lose a little weight but that's not true" it hit me so hard because those exact thoughts were in my brain.

This may be 3 years ago, but I still find your vlogs comforting. I miss you, Ashley!! 💕

I will say it for everyone, Ashley you need to make a podcast

@Dvjkuyfgbojy574

4 жыл бұрын

Lacey Crabill a little louder for those in the back 💕💕

@alexandraaikonika

4 жыл бұрын

hell yeah

@whoopeedoopee251

4 жыл бұрын

YASSSSSSSSSSSSS

@Bea-vc6wt

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely yess!

@bushrasharif5951

4 жыл бұрын

Lacey Crabill YESSS

literally the only person who could make podcast that would never get boring

@itsnotrainer

4 жыл бұрын

Riley exept the mcelroys ;)

@christinebrown1235

4 жыл бұрын

completely agree

@kineshit7952

4 жыл бұрын

tru dat nd I never fast forward her videos lmao

@DulcexClara

4 жыл бұрын

YESSS WE WANT A PODCAST ASHLEY

@moonstruck-1572

4 жыл бұрын

Riley fr tho 😂

I found this girl a few hours ago and I LOVE HER SO MUCH!

Think about your insecurities as if you were the main character in a novel. Everyone’s favorite characters are the ones with quirky personalities, little “imperfections”, and things that are weird about them! This is kind of a long comment but the point is to just love yourself however you can💕💕

@tovenrvik6336

2 жыл бұрын

It's allowed wt a long comment ‼️💎

“Life is like doing your eyebrows in the morning, you never know what you’re gonna get.” - Ashley, 2019

honestly more young girls need to be watching people like ashley

@antoniogabica3280

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! and alexandrasgirlytalk, her and bestdressed genuinly just WANTS to help us. In my opinion they are just THE BEST!!

@mili28manga

4 жыл бұрын

Antonio Gabica i A G R E E

@rositaspigeons1148

4 жыл бұрын

I am, I’m turning 17 in a week!

@carlosgalvan1792

4 жыл бұрын

i was summoned

@mishripettinger6170

4 жыл бұрын

I am 11

A lot of models are more insecure about how they look than the rest of us because Everyone Always Comment On Their Looks.

@yourgirlannelise6604

3 жыл бұрын

@E K yea. I feel bad for them. :(

Ashley: is Asian, thinks (or used to think) eurocentric features are more beautiful Me: is European, thinks Asian features are more beautiful and cuter The grass is always greener on the other side I guess

@ekdud2772

2 жыл бұрын

it’s tough for asians living in America when Eurocentric features surround us on a day to day basis

@hanabimizuki6024

2 жыл бұрын

@@ekdud2772 agree. It is sad, i really want that european feature

@giannakayira8133

2 жыл бұрын

but i feel like i shouldn’t say that, but i also believe Asian features are so freakin beautiful and would rather look Asian than african!! it just angers me that people are making such beautiful women feel insecure when they’re literally QUEENS!

@pleasedontlookforme8036

2 жыл бұрын

@@giannakayira8133 I get that feeling too, though for me it's "I'd rather be southeast Asian than Central Asian (iranic/afghan) because southeast Asians are so gorgeous". But then lately I've been asking myself why I don't think that I'm beautiful being the race that I am now, and once I evaluated that, like Ashley, it always came back to Eurocentrism and Eurocentric featurism. Anime consumption also really heavily affected me aswell (I grew up on it and still heavily consume it), which whilst also indirectly promoting Eurocentric beauty standards, despite being of Japanese origin (though that's a massive topic in and of itself), brought to me toxic Asian beauty standards as well. I mainly really hated my big nose, which ironically enough is my most ethnic feature since I'm fairly white passing, and I also felt I wasn't light enough, or tall enough, or I was insecure about my jawline, or my body, or my unruly hair - and I would see Asian girls and white girls as women who were born without my "ugly" features - they'd be paper-white fair, small nose, the white women were tall, the Asian girls had beautiful jawlines, and both had the most silky manageable, beautiful hair. But these are just stereotyped generalisations of very vast populations, and most of these people don't look like the beauty standards their societies enforce, which harms them just as much as me. Basically, what I'm trying to say is, not every Asian woman is the perfect image of an Asian woman you have in your head, and being African doesn't make you any less beautiful.

*_ashley's amazing skill to randomly insert stuff and tips about sex is very rare_*

@kggroom

4 жыл бұрын

Lizzy Grant 🤣🤣

@Heyjerkweed

4 жыл бұрын

I'm glad I wasn't the only one who notice. It truly is a gift.

@annaswanson5903

4 жыл бұрын

@@Heyjerkweed word

@azul4904

4 жыл бұрын

an beautiful

@alannahcarmodybrowne6420

4 жыл бұрын

I love how real your videos are, thank you❤️

WHY ARE HER WALLS SO PRETTY

@rose-gl4io

4 жыл бұрын

Walllllllpaaaappeeeerrrr

@fishyfingers5044

4 жыл бұрын

bruh that sounds so wrong

@samanthaharris2094

4 жыл бұрын

fishy fingers how so?

@fishyfingers5044

4 жыл бұрын

Samantha Harris it’s what you call the inside of a woman’s parts

@imlonely8752

4 жыл бұрын

fishy fingers your not wrong but your name is literally fishy fingers lol😂

I’m so glad you speak about that because that’s exactly how a lot of people feel and you can put words on that feeling and it’s so much a relief

omg I loved this video so much, I came back to rewatch it and I really relate so much. I’m still not completely ok with my face or body and I often compare myself to my friends and celebrities but this made me feel more hopeful to try and feel better about myself and stop just looking at someone and thinking they’re perfect because they look good but not accepting they have the same insecurities as me. Watching you talk about how you have been through a lot of insecurity Ashley and have worked through them a bit made me feel really good. 💗💗

when I can’t express myself I watch Ashley she is the voice inside my head tryna talk PLEASE make a podcast

@thereseaanes6712

4 жыл бұрын

OMG YES A PODCAST!!!

@leticiac8087

4 жыл бұрын

IKR

@bumpfel7005

4 жыл бұрын

YES

@amysorrels

4 жыл бұрын

I would listen the SHIT out of her podcast

@samantanicoleruiz9181

4 жыл бұрын

Podcastttt

A 25 minute from Ashley? About beauty standards? WHAT DID WE DO TO DESERVE THIS?

@kggroom

4 жыл бұрын

Margherita Bonatelli Exactlyy 👏🏽👏🏽

i just rewatched this because its one of my favorite videos you've made, love you ashley! 💓 oh also you're about to hit 3 million so uhhhh EARLY CONGRATS ON 3M!

this vid alone has made me change my perspective on myself honestly and look back at my progress throughout the years, i feel sooo proud of myself!! thank you 🥺

it’s funny how everything she hates about herself i find very pretty!

@pandalover1238

4 жыл бұрын

We're always our own worst critic!

@yopi5909

4 жыл бұрын

this comment is underrated!!

@oliviadong9885

4 жыл бұрын

true, I am all about chubby face, it looks so young full of collagen.

@charshae9002

4 жыл бұрын

As someone who has really chubby cheeks, I always think other people’s cheeks are so cute and chubby. 😂 I don’t like my own though.

@dracobluelol

4 жыл бұрын

u got low standards boi

Early 2000's: Stay Skinny..having a butt is gross 2010's: Omg she's so flat, she has no butt! You literally can't win

@SarahFletcher12

4 жыл бұрын

I remember when the common question "Does my butt look big?" was something you wanted to hear the answer No to... oh how the turn tables.

@stonecat676

4 жыл бұрын

Men of all eras: oh shit, he has abs and money

@glaciergang

4 жыл бұрын

BIG FACTS

@mitza420

4 жыл бұрын

@@SarahFletcher12 Yeah but its still bad that we are defined by trends

@MithrandirFreak

4 жыл бұрын

Uhmmmm, you obviously don't remember jlo lol.

For the past few days i’ve been watching Ashley’s videos while doing my makeup, and today she really inspired me to skip concealer and just show off my acne.

you talking about your acne journey and wearing makeup resonated with me so much.

i felt ugly before watching this and now i feel less ugly ;)

@littlespotty3443

4 жыл бұрын

alison lee wait but u look so cute in ur profile pic!

@peepee4677

4 жыл бұрын

Little Spotty your amazing :D

@peepee4677

4 жыл бұрын

alison lee your beautiful have a great day!!

@heywhatsupyouguysyes9090

4 жыл бұрын

your gorgeous! If u feel like that again go to r/instagramreality it helps me when I feel like that❤

@laurenrojas

4 жыл бұрын

Ugly is not a feeling.

“Comparison is the thief of joy”, Theodore Roosevelt

@Sofia-ssn

4 жыл бұрын

damn that’s wise..

@yashmoitra

3 жыл бұрын

That's as wise as like a god

@kldottie6524

3 жыл бұрын

Who else is trying to grow their channel during quarantine? Let’s help one another. Much love

this is the first of your videos i´ve watched, it helped me so much and you have such a positive, beautiful aura

When she started talking about her trip to Austin it reminded me why I love camping and why I loved the church trip I went on last summer. I rarely looked into a mirror for like a week and I truly felt like I was living in the moment and I loved it so much. It is important to not get too connected to your mirror. Live in the moment!

The fact that this video even got dislikes is like literally ABSURD.

@margauxqb290

4 жыл бұрын

Veronica S. Wang shoulder highlights surely

@clara337

4 жыл бұрын

I'm 100% sure the accidantally misclicked

@sophiascarfe3718

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, exactly! It's other people that are still in awe of this warped sense of beauty and still think that this is normal and right when really in actual fact the industry has sold us problems and insecurities dressed up in bottles and creams instead of nessesary products because if we all were shown everything "wrong" with us with no comment on how or why its ugly or needs to be changed beauty would just be the uniqueness and variety in us all x

@jgyapologist7946

4 жыл бұрын

Or their phone fell and they pressed dislike accidentally and then it died

@divinemabika2685

4 жыл бұрын

People have the right to dislike a video... Please, stop acting like everyone has to like the same thing.

Who else is in LOVE with these videos Ashley has been posting lately???

@quibusquabus

4 жыл бұрын

Woozi’s Guitar ME 🙋🏽‍♀️

@annablum7365

4 жыл бұрын

Yesss :))

@PeterEllieArielle

4 жыл бұрын

Meeee

@Grace-sr4kv

4 жыл бұрын

Woozi’s Guitar So freaking in love. 🥺❤️

@FabiolaSuarez

4 жыл бұрын

MEE! They are so raw!

what you said about struggling with acne and being insecure about it is so relatable to me because i went through it too and i just recently learned to love my face without makeup :) thanks for being real girl we love to see it

You literally inspire me to restart my KZread channel! You’re so genuine and real, talking about real issues and it’s great

Ok but like when she said at the beginning that she wasn't wearing makeup my jaw dropped cause she already just looked so stunning

@localarmadillo1677

4 жыл бұрын

This^

@amrendennor6961

4 жыл бұрын

Ana Han agreed

@amyslotover8467

4 жыл бұрын

Ana Han same lol I thought it was just a chit chat but when she said I’m doing my makeup I was like heh

As a boy, I gotta say I feel so much shit ur talking abt. Thanks for being my internet older sister🖤

@excuseme1543

4 жыл бұрын

wholesome af TT

@samarneson9475

4 жыл бұрын

Landen Ramirez yes me too retweet that 💙

@isisjenkins9262

4 жыл бұрын

My heart melted omg

@demps025

4 жыл бұрын

💗💗💗

@yourlocaltoad5102

4 жыл бұрын

Dude, yes. I can totally relate to some stuff and honestly, these videos are soooo good to watch

love love LOVE how real and vulnerable you are in this video!!!! the thing you said about makeup being a barrier to being spontaneous and true freedom is so on point. I have been thinking about this for so long and you articulated it beautifully :)

honestly hearing about ash’s experiences makes me feel so much more normal and helps me to relate to her. i have so much respect for you for making this video🥰

ashley: "like the e-girl that i am" (16:47) also ashley: "yes i am that vsco girl" (20:04)

@danackroydsbutt

4 жыл бұрын

She must've been watching that Tiffany Ferguson video :-)

@keighlysocha5364

4 жыл бұрын

These different ways to classify teenage girls is lowkey a way for people to hate on girls who like expressing themselves in different ways tbh It feels like it at least lmao Idk the memes are funny too

@jazzy3120_

4 жыл бұрын

YOU CANT BE BOTH!!!

@cottage-core_

4 жыл бұрын

@@jazzy3120_ you are allowed to be multifaceted!

@elizabethfinnigan2155

4 жыл бұрын

Old person here: what are either of these girls?!

in a society where capitalism needs you to feel ugly to profit the system, the ultimate form of rebellion is loving yourself :)

@hadley269

4 жыл бұрын

I’m a rule follower but I loveee the idea of rebellion (it’s something I’m working on, being a rebel even if I’m the only one) and this just makes my day

@BERNIEmeetsSTEF

4 жыл бұрын

I love this!!

@ishasatapathy6303

4 жыл бұрын

Fuck yeah, let’s go a step further and love other people for who they are too!

@amber-gg5nh

4 жыл бұрын

Finally I have found someone in the comments section who can speak proper English and is well spoken. I thought this day would never come😪💚

@milane7514

4 жыл бұрын

Amber Lily aww thank you!! english is not even my first language so this means a lot

I'm so shocked that all those things happened to you... so sad. You are so beautiful on the outside and have an awesome personality, which is what matters the most for me as a viewer. Go girl!

Your honesty and vulnerability are so refreshing. Thank you

i think the epitome of how disgusting beauty standards are is how in america tan skin is idolized and being naturally pale is weird but in asia being sickly pale is sought after even though most Asians have warm toned skin

@amulyasubhash7764

4 жыл бұрын

I'm Indian and we as a country are obsessed with fair skin ( because of colonisation ). When I was a young teen, I was watching a lot of beauty videos when I found out about fake tanning it was bizarre to me because as soon as summer comes we have anti tan packages in salons and fairness creams. Beauty standards are horrible.

@bvleinebleue

4 жыл бұрын

i’m an Asian and i have natural fair skin. people always ask me stuff like how do i get white skin or do i use any product and it’s ironic that i don’t even like my skin colour

@aaxx9780

4 жыл бұрын

i used to try to find make up/skin care product to make my skin lighter (im asian, im tan) and i used to hate how dark my skin is. but now i love my skin tone and i would never want to be any lighter (thats a progress i guess, i still hate my body tho)

@nidhimahesh1673

4 жыл бұрын

@@amulyasubhash7764 can totally relate I'm Indian and I'm pretty dark and I hate it when people tell me something on the lines of "you're pretty for a dark person" so dark people are supposed to be ugly?!? It just triggers me so much these eurocentric beauty standards really annoy me

@alexandrastamm8452

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, Ireland and the UK are heavily influenced by American media and therefore beauty standards, and nowadays so many young adults wear fake tan/use tanning beds etc.

Ashley: *covers up hickey* Ashley: hehe

@mememe552

4 жыл бұрын

Fatimah Al-Jazairi 6:00

@8:04 "It never worked; I still smiled the way that I smile." t-that _hit_ me so fucking hard cu z i've been in that exact same spot and thought that my smile was "ugly" just because it dint fill the cute-smile-standards™ and tbh i'm still not quite over that thought

i've watched this video for like more than 5 times now, and still enjoying it. hope ashley feels more confident now

I agree with the weird sensual make up names - theres a mascara called “better than sex”

@snailmucus3921

4 жыл бұрын

Generic Channel same thing with perfume!!

@tylark2817

4 жыл бұрын

my boyfriend and I were walking around Sephora and saw some lipstick shades called 'Orgasm' and 'Super Orgasm'

@Kaiisdreaming

4 жыл бұрын

@@tylark2817 could you imagine a beauty guru being like "now I'm going to put on this lipstick in the shade super orgasm" So gross

@tylark2817

4 жыл бұрын

@@Kaiisdreaming ikr, like what was the thought process behind that

@Kaiisdreaming

4 жыл бұрын

@@tylark2817 I literally don't know like why does everything have to be sexualized

The poc experience is realizing that you unknowingly subscribed to the idea that your features are undesirable, and then having to slowly unlearn that mindset

@jw-06

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@tashlovespaul

4 жыл бұрын

I’m not a poc, but I’m not Anglo Saxon either, and I completely relate to this. I went to a super ethnic school and then switched to one that was mostly white. I suddenly became so insecure about my nose, how hairy I was, and my frizzy hair. Still working on unlearning that mindset but I hope to empower other people along the way!!

@vanessasridoza628

4 жыл бұрын

Gah! Please do more on the race thing

@jess6155

4 жыл бұрын

I know this sucks so much, and it sucks even more to see other poc (I see this particularly in a lot of asians, since I have more experience with that side of poc) falling victim to this to the point where they have internalised racism and hatred towards their own culture and features bc of the stereotypes and ideas projected upon us by white people and society ):

@liawinter5245

4 жыл бұрын

@@jess6155 yeet i'm half white but i never spent time with my white side of the family, and growing up in vancouver, i was always surrounded by asians. i love that side of my family, but everybody (my friends and strangers) honestly think i'm, like, full white? and, i don't know why that makes me feel really sad but it does? it kinda just makes me feel like an imposter. can't joke about being asian with my friends, can't identify myself as a white girl. i feel really left out honestly and it sucks. i know my friends deal with wanting to be lighter, but honestly? i wish i wasn't stuck in the middle, looking like an alien, like i don't really belong anywhere. it's stupid. and it's weird because i've got all features that don't suit my face at all. and, i know every asian looks different (my mom looks half, but she's full, my half w/a little cousins look full white, and my full asian cousins look half, my grandparents look full), but i just wished i looked a little more like one side with features more proportionate to one? because i've never really met a person who looks like me, and half the time i don't even recognize the person staring back at me. barely register them as human, or female or male (hence the makeup). idk. i just... wish i looked more like my mom's side of the family. because at least i know what they look like, and most of them are still alive, y'know?

I love how real you are and how unfiltered you are, as a teenage girl I really appreciate it

i looove what you said about your trip to austin-a few weeks ago i went to cabo and the mirror in the bathroom is SO TALL so I'd literally have to climb on the counter to look at myself. sitting there trying to do my makeup was so uncomfortable, so i didn't spend as much time doing it and honestly, it was so refreshing not seeing and picking myself apart all the time