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@christopherdlhardy

2 ай бұрын

I’m not even all the way through this video yet. I needed to stop and say thank you. This is ridiculously perfect timing. I’m going through something right now, and I’m really grateful for this information.

@m.mand.i.ble.

2 ай бұрын

🐝

@DrDelightful

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing xxx

@jamescalkins6069

2 ай бұрын

This is like your describing my life

@Sal-fn1pm

2 ай бұрын

How is it that you know everything?

"Trauma is perhaps the most avoided, ignored, belittled, denied, misunderstood and untreated cause of human suffering". Peter A. Levine 🌎😘

@m.2768

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely

@mariaspiteri2093

2 ай бұрын

Unfortunately yes. When a parent agree with the other parent to conceive their child together and they do, I see it as a divine gift for both. Yet when the pregnant parent ends up abandoned it is her legitimate right to reveal to the child's right that parent that walked away. However nothing is guaranteed that the pregnant woman succeeds after all is said and done officially. Stay Calm and focus your strengths to protect and nurture your child on your own.

@RhythmJunkie

2 ай бұрын

And at the root of it all is ignorance

I wish every judge had to listen to this 🙏🏻

@PaulOBrienSEOBrien

2 ай бұрын

How might we make that happen? How does this get exposed more to legislators, lawyers, social workers, and Guardian's?

@Ashlee-hh6di

2 ай бұрын

Seriously! I’m on board, let’s do this. ✊🏼

@breannaseviour1032

2 ай бұрын

Same. I've been let down by the system and now have a very distant relationship with my oldest due to this exact explanation in this video and kills me daily let's get this out into the open the system is just as fu*ked for falling into the trap 😕

@YellowTreeB

2 ай бұрын

Except that judges don’t care they often knowingly side with the alienator because their job is to generate revenue for the dirty system.

@LisaSmith-yb2uz

2 ай бұрын

And sadly, many still would NOT understand ❤️‍🩹🥹

I'm a grown man who hasn't seen my teenage daughter since she was 6. I cried throughout this video and I've never cried apart from the day I lost my daughter

@SharvanZuilecom

2 ай бұрын

Oh Kris must b so sad for u I’m happy to hear u have started to release the pain My dad left my mum when I was 2 and my mother tried hard to poison me against my dad I found him when I was 21 Your daughter will want to come and find u too it’s only natural 🙏✨💕💫🫰🏻

@chrismullin8304

2 ай бұрын

Yes! Become the reality that is best for your children!

@ParentalAlienationEndsToday

2 ай бұрын

there is hope. I was alienated from my dad from 5 until I was 27 and really fully reunited in my mid-thirties when we both discovered what had happened. We went on a journey to solve the problem and I now help families all over the world solve this problem. Don't love up. Your daughter loves you. XO

@EmergingForward

2 ай бұрын

oh wow, amazing❤

@eyeswideopen67

2 ай бұрын

it hurts man...I have fallen apart many times. A commercial can set me off. I'm broken because they took my daughters from me. Haven't seen them in many many many years.

My dad alienated my sister and I from our mom in order to punish her for leaving him. Told my sister that our mom divorcing him was “the reason we’re not a family anymore,” never-mind the fact that he’d been abusive and neglectful. Being older, I could see through a lot of what he was doing, but my sister was younger and more vulnerable. Our mom died in an accident when we were teens, and it’s always painful to consider how much time with her was lost due to our father’s selfishness. #stopalienationnow

@lunarae1946

2 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry..I spent my whole life with my dad being an alcoholic abusing my mum, and she tried to leave so much. She's in her 60s and finally left but now she's an alcoholic and she lives with my brother. I'm so sorry about your mum ❤

@equs1b

2 ай бұрын

I have a question, I commented about it but I see that you are mentioning that you saw through the alienation attempt, if I may ask how old were you? I think older children might not easily fall for it if conditions are right- thank you in advance for sharing

@forgeluv

2 ай бұрын

@@equs1b I was 12-13 during the bulk of the alienation attempts, but my sister was below the age of 10

@forgeluv

2 ай бұрын

@@lunarae1946 thank you, and I’m so sorry to hear about what you and your family have been through. It’s hard when people talk about alienation and abuse as though they are behaviors exclusive to the mothers in the divorce process.

@katyjean862

2 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry about your mom ❤ This mom Is grateful to hear hear your story. Thank you for sharing.

I have never felt as validated as after watching this video. Both of my parents did this, and no professional could see through the smokescreen. I’ve cut ties with my family because I was blamed and abused for my entire childhood. Thankyou Teal for being so wise and thoughtful. 💗💞

@Chris-qi5rq

2 ай бұрын

I went through all this and now I feel like I don't even know who I truly am. Like wtf.

@HelmiHolkeri-xv7sd

2 ай бұрын

@@Chris-qi5rq Exactly, don’t blame yourself for this. I understand completely💛

@peteduch2151

2 ай бұрын

Absolute a lot of people who have problems and are not suited to care have kids wich they put trough hell thats why a lot of people are messed up and relationships fail

@HelmiHolkeri-xv7sd

2 ай бұрын

@@peteduch2151 pre-birth intention, but as known, in the 4D we do feel the suffering💗 I believe that in time it’ll all make Sense.

@peteduch2151

2 ай бұрын

@@HelmiHolkeri-xv7sd i am a angel in time it will make sense

Also-how does every goddamn psychiatrist and psychologist I’ve EVER spoken to not get this? I’ve never met a single practitioner who gets this in this vivid detail.

@Bri-xb8ud

2 ай бұрын

The system is set up in a way where I feel therapists are restricted by too many rules and factors in order to be certified- And it’s like they can’t go deep enough idk if that makes any semse

@kimmski

2 ай бұрын

They only can go so deep where they self have been. That's why it's so important that survivors share there experiences and wisdom. Regular therapy approach this with the mind/psychic, but it's all about recognizing patterns.

@wrincht1

2 ай бұрын

True, no-one knows anything. I think it's because we live in a narcissism aligned society, this is normal to them.

@Frequency999

2 ай бұрын

Dr.Childress is working on that!

@AP-uk1op

2 ай бұрын

I am so feeling this right now. I am setting on the path to healing my situation that is so unique, I have never met anyone else who has gone through what I have gone through. My fear is that I will lose myself in this terror attack because the facts are too difficult for others to understand. I think an FBI detective may be my only hope.

This is a fu*king masterpiece. Truly. Teal you should get a Nobel price for the work your are doing.

Many people say many things about Teal but her intelligence and competence is beyond any dispute !

@m.2768

2 ай бұрын

She is a gift from the universe

@StinkyGringo

2 ай бұрын

@@m.2768 the "universe"? Give me a break. What part of the universe is making decisions to gift you people? 😂🤡

@LisaMcGraw-ib7rj

Ай бұрын

Lol @ Gringo

@MsMinnow8

22 күн бұрын

@@StinkyGringo who are 'you people' you refer to? Just curious. Cant fathom why you're here, on this page? It's just a weird, hostile energy you are bringing to a page that is supporting parents of alienation who've frankly been through enough attacks as it is. Chill out man. Go Meditate. Downward facing dog....maybe.

"One of the most traumatizing experiences that a parent can go through is parental alienation". Teal Swan 🌎😘

@JoulesCraft

2 ай бұрын

yes

@annikabirgittanordlander6887

2 ай бұрын

@@JoulesCraft ❤😘

You are doing God’s work. I am a living example of this, a father of 4 aching for his children.Thank you so much for for your time & contribution 🙏

My parents were divorced. 50/50 custody. BOTH of my parents alienated eachother. They constantly were bad talking eachother. I had to quickly switch sides whenever I changed houses for the week. I cannot even imagine the feelings I had to suppress to constantly have to change my stance in order to feel “safe” in my environment. This went on for years.

@virginiacreager4331

2 ай бұрын

So sorry you went through that 🌹🧡 hope you can get the peace and healing you deserve.

@The_Mim

2 ай бұрын

While this is abusive and horrible and an awful painful experience you were forced to go through, it is not parental alienation as defined.

It is just as sad when a grandparent does it to the parent because on top of abandoning their own child and replacing the grandchild as their own child is one of the worst abuses ever :(((

@SharvanZuilecom

2 ай бұрын

and then the narcisistic addict grandparent does not stop there, they poison the grandkids and any one else they can too to against their own child whom has broken the patterns…ive just walked away from it all..they dont want saving, they dont want help…its happening from my higher self for sself empowerment….it broke my herat but now its healed….its transmuted and transformed…when my Mother dies they will begin to see the truth,,,as they will no longer be rewarded for bad behaviour…crazy world,,,crazy ego….black magic now broken of me…i feel for my grandchildren

@katyjean862

2 ай бұрын

Right? Because now you have to deal with not only the abuse you experienced in childhood, but also your parent rejecting you as an adult, choosing your child over you. Anyone who is in this situation, go find a new family. Al anon Or some other 12-step, A Faith community, A friend's family, A place to volunteer, your neighborhood... The reality is, you don't really have a family, you never did. Find your people. Your people are out there.

My son been alienated from me completely since he was 10. This is exactly what happened. Even though the so called mental health professionals and people in the system clearly saw the truth they went along with the alienator most likely for money because he outspent me at every step. Despite the triangulation being diagnosed and reported by the cps. There are no words to describe the impact this has had on me and our extended family not to mention the lifelong struggles this will create for my precious child. This is one of the most evil acts imaginable.

@TheThinkingMathematician

2 ай бұрын

I offer solutions

I’ve been living this nightmare for almost nine years. This video is FACTS upon FACTS. I wish this video could be sent to the judges used in my custody case and the therapist that was used as well.

I’ve never been able to articulate what I experienced in childhood until now. I’ve never felt so validated and understood. Wow.

I am going through hell of being alienated from my son. On top of that I went through hell of going through courts and talking to ‘professionals’ who denied that alienation was happening. The court allowed the alienating father to move away with our son to another country. Please, please Teal make the second part to this video with actionable tools.

@katyjean862

2 ай бұрын

So sorry Mama. My heart breaks for you. I'm in a similar situation. The least favorite thing I hear people say is that boys need their dads at a certain age. I was never keeping him from his dad. It's his dad that's keeping him from me.

@ginafinch3307

2 ай бұрын

@user-ey4sj8bx1e, apart from what human law does on our planet, there is something you can do on an energetic level, and I've tried it many times. It can be applied to any situation in life and goes like that. You seat in a peaceful, relaxed space, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, then you imagine that in front of you seats your son. Your intuition will guide you how far from you he is seating, how you see him dressed, what energy you feel around him and this may change every time you "talk" to him this way. You can tell him all the good and positive things (never negative, sad or complaints). You tell him of your love and care and how you will always love him. When you feel ready ask him a simple question, then listen carefully what you get. You may doubt it at first but after so many times doing this process you'll just know and trust those intuitive messages. This way we communicate on a much deeper level, unconscious to person we talk to. I've tried to communicate this way with my daughter, who leaves overseas and was upset about something, when I imagined her seating in front of me I could sense a lot of darkness around her. In that instance I knew she was very sad and depressed. I immediately imagined her surrounded by beautiful healing lights, healing angels/god, ferries (whatever one can relate to) and I was sending her love. Very quickly I could sense the dark energy dissipated and her seating in the beautiful light. By doing this process we build a great positive relationship with the other person as the energy can never be lost, we create much better future. Also by connecting this way with your son, you'll feel close to him every day. There may be lots of tears during this process so let them flow as it's the sign of healing. Imagine and feel that you see you son every day, that you hug him, talk to him, lough with him and so on. This is how we create every corner of our reality. You can apply this process to his father, and talk to him also. Here again, you talk to him without blame (as here will be his higher consciousness and not his human personality or ego). You tell him how you love your sone and how much you'd love to be in his life. When you're ready you can tell him that you forgive him for what he did, and that you love to see your son on a regular basis and/or know how his going. This is a long explanation but it's all important to know how to do it properly. I know how difficult it is to forgive (as I was in a very difficult situation in my life for a very long time), but it's the most important to know that true forgiveness is not about forgetting what someone did to us, but letting go of this hurt and pain that is holding us back in life. It's a huge baggage to carry and huge negative energy to deal with every day. I hope it helps, many blessings on your journey in life. 🌺

@katyjean862

2 ай бұрын

@@ginafinch3307 wow, Gina. That was the most thoughtful KZread comment I've ever experienced in my life. I feel my higher power speaking through your words. I will read this several times. Thank you

@ginafinch3307

2 ай бұрын

@@katyjean862 , ohhh, I'm so happy you found my comment helpful. Thank you.🙂

My Dad did this to me! I was the puppet, 100%!!! THANK YOU for this message!

@user-ik1tr7fe3v

Ай бұрын

Мой сын прошёл через это со своим отцом,который отчуждал его от меня,его мамы.Я борюсь за своего сына уже 15 лет,но я устала быть плохой в глазах ребёнка,когда ничего плохого я не совершала,наоборот делала максимум хорошего в очень трудных для меня условиях,это не замечается.Я близка к тому чтобы опустить руки.Мне жаль что мой сын в лапах такого страшного человека как его отец.Отец ребёнка мстит мне за то ,что я с ним развелась.

I am very sad and uncomfortable to recognise this in my family. I don't even want to begin explaining what that means for me. Thank you for shedding light on this dark gunk that has plagued my heart.

going through this with my first born .. i cant begin to explain the heartache

This is really hard, because my mom definitely alienated me from my dad with any and all excuse about how terrible he was, but also in my own interactions with him, I knew him to be abusive. I see things like this about alienation and I have a hard time knowing what's real at 34 years old. I still don't speak to my dad, but I speak to my mom and she was just as abusive, just in more covert ways. It's that because of the alienation? It's so hard to know what's real and what to believe when you've been gaslit and manipulated your whole life by the people who were supposed to protect you.

@DelSunflower33

2 ай бұрын

Yes!!!! Forgive your father he needs your love. When I went to therapy I kept telling them I was only there to talk about my father… til they slowly with time and weeks of sessions I learned my mom was covert! Behind it ALLL lies deception manipulation

@punkrocksmidge

2 ай бұрын

@@DelSunflower33 see this is what's hard about that. My father abused me, regardless of what my mother did. That approach isn't healthy for me either.

@lunarae1946

2 ай бұрын

You described my life...abusive dad, a mum that was also abusive but covert...I'm 30 and idk what to think about anything. I honestly think everything is a case by case basis. Some kids need to be protected from their parent/parents,

@artifundio1

2 ай бұрын

Same childhood here! I'm 43 now. My take is that they are both narcissists in different ways. My father is not worse than my mother, just different. She needs to control the narrative to feel safe, and she will do anything and everything to feel safe. I went no contact with all of them 6 years ago. Best decision of my life. I'm still putting the pieces of my life together to understand who I am, and my true inner worth. I can love them now too. For what they tried to do, for what they taught me about crafts and the world. But I cannot be with them side by side without them trying to silence me. I was born with a very truthful personality. I cannot shut up without hurting myself. I had to go away. My personal and economical growth demonstrates I made the right choice for myself. I know they all did the best they could, and so I am. ❤ I don't feel hate. 🙏

@kristina7901

2 ай бұрын

You were alienated from your father. Fix it!!!

Omg...she verbalized that so succinctly i cannot even believe it. I have to listen to it again --- thank you !!!

@mysticpeace

2 ай бұрын

I aged!

You have explained everything I have gone through. I have lost a daughter and now 3 grandchildren. I shared your video. Thank you! You reached my soul!!

This is the most accurate description of what parental alienation is and how it affects everyone involved. As an alienated parent of 3. children, I watched this video both feeling validated yet devastated at the ABSOLUTE truth that Teal Swan is providing. It'll be 10 years on the 26th of this month since I've seen my babies- whom are not babies anymore. And the ones who suffered the most are my children. Bryce,Ashlyn, and Devyn- if you by chance ever come across this video, just know that I love you with all my heart and if I could bear all the pain you've had given to you, I would in a heartbeat. My one wish is to see you and hold you again. ❤

@duchess1774

2 ай бұрын

@blissfulchaosfactory I am so sorry for the pain and suffering you've gone through and continue to without having your children in your life. My two daughters were alienated from me and now live with their father but I still get to see them when they want to see me, and even though it's not what I want I've had to accept thats how it is, I take what I can get. I hope one day they will be able to understand how this isn't what their Dad has made them to believe. My heart goes out to you. There is nothing stronger than a Mother's love for her children.

@AGenerationJones

2 ай бұрын

Check out the Anti-alienation Project. It’s a group of adults who were alienated as children, and they are spreading the word online that this is child abuse! They’re going to college campuses and making an impact.

@KayStevensScholerNPC4444

2 ай бұрын

I’m with you both, my youngest is almost 18, but right now he’s the puppet. 😢This is one of the most articulate heart Daggering videos. Well done! ….but after watching it my blood just boils, I get so mad. I can put it in the back of my mind when I need to, but this brought out my truth for sure. Mainly because of her speaking the whole truth on every level. Wolf in sheep’s clothing…🐲 Deep breaths…🧘🏻‍♀️🧘🏻‍♀️🧘🏻‍♀️This too shall pass. 🧗🏻‍♀️☀️🌈

I remember being a little girl, my parents divorced. I went to visit my father one day. I said to him mom said you are sick but you are look ok.(she meant mentally, I didn't knew that you can be sick not physically). And he said. what?? I came back home to my mother and my father talked with her on the phone and she was upset. I wasn't supposed to tell him what my mom said and I didn't knew.... My mom died from cancer a few years after that. And for years my father said to me that my mother turned me against him.. My older sister was the opposite. She loved my dad and hated my mom. I loved my mom and hated my dad. I don't think this video is relevant to me because my father abused my mom for years and nobody knew. I feel like I'm my mom and my dad at the same body. The war I have within myself is between the part of my uncontrollably emotional dad and the part of my silenced trying to look perfect mom. I am both of them and I understand both of them and it's horrible.

@virginiacreager4331

2 ай бұрын

Wishing you peace and healing. You can find it don’t give up! 🌹🧡🙏

Looking forward to part 2. This is exactly what I am dealing with right now. It's so brutal. I miss my daughter so much.

@KrisPBacon-ts6vp

2 ай бұрын

I hear you

@StephanieSullivan369

2 ай бұрын

Me too 😢 heartbroken 💔

@jamieendicott7496

2 ай бұрын

I miss my daughter so much too. Love and hugs

@Katyayanibetha

2 ай бұрын

@@jamieendicott7496 Same to you! 🧡

@StephanieSullivan369

2 ай бұрын

@prathameshadsul8700 in New York State a child above 12 years old can make their own decision even when I had proof it would be to her detriment. My ex planned this whole situation years ago. We had 2 homes. Ours and his family home. His family home was larger. He threw a narc tantrum to move to the larger home and remodel the house. We bought his parents a house in Florida. But they never stayed down there only a couple of months. Anyway, I was the one who had to leave. My kid didn’t want to do a week with me and back and forth. She listened to others. O just pray God gets him good. If not , I will..

As an alienated father, Thank you for this. This really helps show just what horror parents like myself have had to go through.

Judges, co parent counselors saw his side and my girls do not speak to me now at 29 and 20 years old. Its a spiritual war..heartbroken and worried about my girls mental health. I have healed as far as i know..its been a lot of trauma work. Healed people heal people. I❤you to all alienated parents and children. Dream

Could you please do a video about estrangement between parents and children as well? 🙏🏻❤️‍🩹

@ogyanabear

2 ай бұрын

i think this is what alot of people thought this video would be about lol

@jimmy-stevenbiemans1486

2 ай бұрын

@@ogyanabear I thought that too, so my comment is fueled by crushed hope 😂💔❤️‍🩹❤️

@JustUsLeagueAZ

2 ай бұрын

Are you serious??? We must not be watching the same video or you're just ..... not yet equipped to attend this school. It's okay. Theres others. That's why there's so many options out there. Choose one that fits your style.

@ogyanabear

2 ай бұрын

@@JustUsLeagueAZ check your ego please , its annoying 😭

@Seamannon

2 ай бұрын

@@JustUsLeagueAZ What do you mean? How would watching this video over and over help? I think you're the one who doesn't understand that parental alienation isn't the same thing as parental estrangement. This video was about parents who use their children as pawns in their fight with the other parent. Parental estrangement happens when the children grow up and decide they don't want to have anything to do with their parents, because there was never a healthy relationship to begin with and the parents were a source of constant stress and trauma instead of a source for safety and belonging. So the adult child has to cut family ties in order to preserve or recover some mental health and learn how to function in healthier ways. dysfunctional relationships are not worth maintaining and generational trauma has to be healed, so someone has to be the first one in their family line to break the toxic patterns. These are two very different problems, although both might be experienced by the same person - a child who grows up in the first scenario can accumulate so much resentment towards their family over the years, that they lose any desire to maintain contact with their family as an adult, so get get into the second pattern.

One of the saddest things is that the courts, especially the lawyers, don't want to see this. Neither do the counselors. You're not going to change the alienating parent. The best thing that can be done is to limit the time the child spends with the alienating parent.

@SteveJones379

2 ай бұрын

What do you do if the alienating parent has more custody time and domicillary status?

@ChipNov1998

2 ай бұрын

@@SteveJones379 Steve I don't have a definitive answer for you, but one if the battles you might have is your kids thinking that you don't love them. Daughters in particular need to know that you love them UNCONDITIONALLY. You will have to explain that you might be disappointed in some choices she may make later in life, but that you love her no matter what. I have had to remind my daughter a few times. I ask her "How do I love you?" So she thinks about it and remembers. I don't think you can say anything against their mother, even if they bring it up. It will get back to her and set her off. I don't have any advice on that one. Sorry. I know that everything you say and do will be twisted against you. The time you do have with your kids is your best defense, don't let her take that away, because your children and you will suffer because of it.

@user-hr5ez8us9o

2 ай бұрын

At some point, I understood, that most judges and social workers are narcicistic themselves. That´s why they scan the situation and side up with their equal. Sad but true. I try to stay away from court fights, and give the child the best tools I can.

@SteveJones379

2 ай бұрын

@@ChipNov1998 Thank you. I appreciat your thoughts. ☮

@wrincht1

2 ай бұрын

@@user-hr5ez8us9o exactly! It's why no one knows anything - they don't want to know.

This rings true to my childhood, now within my authenticity I am estranged from that parent No need for these relationships

Teal swan is the female version of jordan Peterson. She’s awesome! I can’t get enough if her. Thank you teal for sharing.

This one hits hard. I have been manipulated by my dad my whole childhood this way. I am not angry, but now I see it clearer than ever.

I’m so glad that you are for new parents. My 40 year old son still bares the scars from his father due to this exact dynamic. I was young, vulnerable and had zero support and the guilt is over whelming still that I allowed it to happen. Thanks for all you do !

I’m a parent who has been experiencing this rejection and moderate to severe alienation with my 14 year old for almost a year now. I’ve poured my heart and soul into researching what happened to our once loving and close relationship and how to help him. You have put everything into this video and your other one. It is incredibly well done and wanted to comment so more people can see it. This horrendous form of child abuse is unfortunately not that uncommon these days. Worse, the alienating parent is often very secretive in their tactics so no one suspects. More people need to understand this dynamic. Particularly therapists, social workers, judges, lawyers, school administrators and teachers. Prayer: May no harm come to our children.

Talk about the absolute worst gaslight. 💔

Teal youve become a Giant vessel of wisdom. Thank you so much. My children and I have been living this for the last 9 years. Weve all had Stockholm syndrome until i understood the tactics of covert narcissism. Then he went for parental alienation as nd got to our son. The sabotage and mental confusion he generates for him is shocking. There arent professionals and judges who understand as you do. We need to educate the masses so this cannot continue. Thank you. Keep shining✨✨✨

Thrilled you covered this topic! I suffered 3 years of agonizing pain until my daughter gradually beginning to come back to me. Courts and counseling made it worse

I can’t tell you how freaking validating this is to hear!!! I have just lost my 16-year-old son to his dad who does this constantly in his life 😢😢😢 Nobody recognizes this but myself and only because I’ve watched Teals videos. My second son 12 was full blown deceived the last time he saw his dad. He came back walled up and afraid of saying anything to me about his day. Later I realized that because I had “told his dad” that he was not going back to see his dad if him and his partner were continuously fighting 😢. Now he comes back saying that he’s not going to share what’s going on in order to keep a relationship with his dad. FYI: dad was furious that my son didn’t tell him so he punished him for it. 😢. I talked with my son about this and it took about 4 or 5 days to help him realize it is in his best interest to keep sharing his worries with me and I won’t ask my ex (his dad) to stop his constant arguments with his partner. Good thing I live 10,000 miles away now. Sending hugs and healing ❤️‍🩹 to those involved in this space.

My parents tag teamed against me and each one disowned me, once at 19, once at 35. I started healing at 50, when I allowed myself to let go of my past and focus on my own system. Understanding that my birth parents were abused abusers was necessary for us to let go.

This is unbelievably SPOT ON. 100% accurate. Thank you so much for posting this video. I wish more people involved in family courts had this training. This should be mandatory.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart! This is like a death you, as the alienated parent, are not allowed to grieve!! Looking forward to the next video!

@AGenerationJones

2 ай бұрын

Most parental alienation survivors need to go to grief counselling 😥

@mysticpeace

2 ай бұрын

@@AGenerationJones yes, I've been in therapy for years. TY

So well described. Thank you. As the alienated parent, I feel so isolated and alone and vastly miss my kids and worry so much over how this will effect their mental health and potential future relationships in their own lives. I look forward to more of your content that may help this type of situation.

@wrincht1

2 ай бұрын

My kids became narcissists like their mother; I hope for better for you; I think it's up to the kids how they turn out.

Thank you so much for this video!! Indeed the professionals involved are not trained and in fact there are groups who deny it happens. This leaves the child in abuse.

Holy smokes!! I've been dealing with this my whole life. The pattern has reiterated so many times that I presumed it was the way the world worked. Not being hyperbolic here, it started at ten months. I have a very strange memory. Can't wait for part two.

This is exactly, to the absolute tee, what my mom did and does to this very day. She literally alienates everybody from everybody else to maintain her narrative. She totally destroyed our family and all of our relationships with each other. She is a master at this skill unfortunately.

Aww Teal, upon stumbling across this video I thought "how must this relate to me" now I understand that it does in a profound way. This was the dynamic used by my Aunt and almost every adult around me to turn me against my birth parents, more so my Mum in an articulated way and used to further justify the abuse I endured. When my Mum past away I held this guilt for rejecting my Mum and thinking it was right not wanting to have contact with her whilst being told it was wrong to grieve for a woman that was seen as a monster and evil. Now I can articulate this type of dynamic and see it for what it really is and that is eloquent abuse! Thank you so much Teal

This is the most complete and perfect explanation of this situation I have ever heard. Bravo. This deserves to be shared.

I wept myself to sleep for three to four years. I started turning to alcohol, which was very out of character. I lost a lot of loved ones because they were so quick to judge. It was not even my own despair that broke me, but my concern for my children's mental and emotional well being. When your daughter has had multiple suicide attempts, and admits that she feels psychotic. For anyone who is going through this, keep your head up. I am more emotionally and mentally resilient than ever before.

I have so far found Teal’s teachings seamless, however I’m surprised by how this topic is left so open and on hold for the solution to an alienated parent. I have been closed to people in this situation and it’s extremely painful to see your child rejecting or worse hating you, so please hurry up with part 2!!

Dad did this when my parents divorced and I stayed with him, because mom went to live in another city with her new partner, and I wanted to stay in my hometown, and I also wanted to live away from her control, to be honest. He and his whole family were on it, it was truly terrible and they would turn against me any time I would show any kind of love or approval for mom. They never managed to turn me against her, though, because of the enmeshed relationship we have, and on some level I still feel like my survival depends on her, even though we haven't really lived together since I was 7, basically. Divorce is tough enough already, but to do this to a child is, in my opinion, vile, and whoever is doing that should really stop and realise what they're doing.

@CelesteWhoknows

Ай бұрын

Well said.

Holy Crap! This is exactly what happened to me - every example and statement lines up. Zero contact with my 3 kids for 5 years now - their faces in my dreams are now blurry. Loosing friends, all my money twice, jobs, family, business associates house, cars, furniture, everything- has given me freedom, love, gratitude, health, strength, compassion. It is still the worst punishment for any human. TY Teal - you gave me hope and growth since 2018 🙏🏻

This has been a hard thing to deal with. I have not been able to be with my son since March 2022. My ex hubs and his female have completely and utterly destroyed the connection between my son and I. They also held my daughter away and abused my daughter but now she is with me. Divine intervention. My daughter was the scapegoat child and my son is the brainwashed child. I was a zombie for so long and barely survived it. I do know the Universe has my back and my children's backs and will step in and those that are doing the abuse will experience their own karma that they have sown. Someday I will hold my son again and we will all heal and be okay. We are divinely protected. 🧿 #StopParentalAlienation

My son in law has done this to my grandson who is not even his child! He has lied to him about his mother so he has someone on his side. Neither one even live with the mom any more. He mentally abused my daughter also! Turning her against her own family first in order to alienate her from all friends and family. Thankfully she has gotten rid of him after 17 years

@wardeggerrobertmarius144

2 ай бұрын

I don't believe you. Are you trying to use triangulation, in order to turn people against your son in law? No one, outside your family, would've been able to do that if you had a good healthy relationship with your daughter. Probably he just pointed out the dysfunction in your family and got scapegoated by you. I was just thinking that this video would be used as a weapon exactly by those that have serious dysfunctional ways to relate with others. Don't believe you. For me, you prove that your kind has no limits in the harm they are willing to do to others.

What if instead of “alienating parent”, there are “alienating grand parents and/or aunt (uncle)”? What if “alienated parent has been already the “scapegoat” of an unhealthy family system? How to break our dysfunctional family system without hurting our own children?

This is amazing! It’s only a matter of time before the OMB warriors come for you. People deny that this exists. It’s sick. 😢 bravo for speaking about this.

This is why I have scoliosis - pulled in two directions. It affects me to this day. I find it impossible to make a decision sometimes because I always felt like I had to choose between two extreme sides that I didn’t want agree with

@gregandcarrie2

2 ай бұрын

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You are describing exactly my childhood! I feel so seen and validated for the first time in my life.

I have felt at times as if I am losing my mind and I thank you for bringing light to this matter.

My childhood has been described in vivid detail, thank you for validating the pain lived in this experience.

0:26 simple definition + unconscious dynamics 1:40 further definition (abuse process of rejecting & abandoning other parent) 2:08 *Tip 1. Alienation is abuse;* very damaging; alienating parent puts own interests #1-#10; lack empathy; child is pawn 3:30 *2. Extreme enmeshment:* child as puppet reflection of alienator; not safe; retaliation suppresses authentic identity, emotional/mental hostage, no differentiation; codependency forms. Fused with parent; not there, complex hostage situation. 6:43 *3. Alienator isn't safe for child:* rejecting other parent is survival mechanism; children align with abusive parent to stay safe. 7:53 *4. Alienation as Process:* grand deception; extreme gaslighting; goal is to be seen as the good guy and other as bad guy, all hidden; 9:56 *5. Triangulation:* unseen manipulation for division; triggers and actual issues--used to distract and divide. 13:03 *6. Children do not reject parents:* so this is abnormal and dysfunctional. Signs: absence of anger; rejecting parent identity and alienator is perfect. Red flag: child rejects offer to fix issues (love is suppressed from fear of disloyalty). One parent is workable; child is not workable. 15:50 *7. Child is weapon/accessory of attack:* hostility/defiance/abuse is used show loyalty vs perfect public behaviour. 18:12 *8. Power/Control:* to cause suffering by a) submitting to rejection b) fights rejection--is scapegoat c) accepts rejection--loses child. Feels like lose-lose-lose. Child's behaviour is parental control tactic. 20:50 *9. Alienator's Why--ancestral trauma:* victim of trauma as child; false positive personal narrative; compulsion to recreate trauma; sees other as abuser of them and child (persistent triggered state); alienated parent is being projected upon. 23:01 *10. Spreads Control Outward--enrols allies/rejects non-supporters:* power/control dynamic is a crusade that extends to everyone (family, professionals, etc).

This happened to me with my children and not that they’ve grown up it’s still a mess and I can’t even form a relationship with either of them there’s so much pain and trauma for all of us and we can’t seem to move on as their Dad still is going on with the agenda there’s such pain for me idk how to heal from this I’ve been fighting it for 35 years

This one is hard hitting, especially the distinction between enmeshment and belonging, mistaking one for the other. You go in Teal!

Would you please do a video explaining what to do about each of these dynamics, not jusy how to cope or parent, but in every way: messaging to others, dealing with legislators, handling the courts, what to look for in therapists, how to start reconciling with with children, restoring a more familial relationship with children. Thank you!

Teal can you speak about adult children who reject their parents? My daughter loved me, went to a therapist for a short time and came away with resentments where she barely wants to speak with me now. Would like to hear your thoughts.

As painful as it is to be going through this personally, hearing you explain it so clinically helps. Thank you

My profound gratitude for this pivotal piece of information. Timing is Devine. I sense something way off. Now I can make sense of what might be happening. Thank you 🙏🏾

I realized that the alienation game was in my life so many times, from parents, " friends", Co-workers, neighbors, professors, etc. It is probably that I used it subconsciously too. Thank you for bringing this information I was not aware of. There is so much retaliation in this game. Thank you. Much love.

This is my favorite video you’ve ever done. Thank you.

Wow. Thank you so much. I've NEVER heard anyone talk about this but it's exactly what I experienced growing up. At the age of 5, my mother programmed me to tell my dad "You're not my father. My father is in heaven and you are from the devil." Literally standing behind me while I recited the script at my father. If I connected with my dad in ANY way, I was severely punished emotionally, neglected, given the silent treatment and so on... I have been working to heal this and thankfully my father and I restored our relationship 7 years before he passed way, but only after I completely distanced myself from my mother - because as long as she was around I couldn't see what happened. It was extremely painful and absolutely felt like a lose, lose situation for my whole childhood. I just never had words to put around the experience... thank you again. This was so helpful.

There are many who have the same experience in childhood who choose not to abuse their children like this.

This is a very good explanation for those who will open their minds to this abuse. Victimhood is also huge here. Where the child and alienator become such sad, stuck victims, trying to mask everything. Telling everyone they want nothing more than the child to see the other parent, but with only basic superficial words. No actions that show any real desire. No working with therapists, no effort to empathise with the alienated parent, no actual action that leads to a child allowing the possibility of a relationship with the other parent. This is the worst. It confuses everyone to think they really want the child to have a relationship with the parent, but they are so secure in the damage they have created, they are bold enough to tell the professionals this infront of the child so it looks plausible, but just pleading ignorance in knowing how to do it. But no effort to learn comes with this. It's such a well thought out and strategised plan that even if professionals have doubts, they latch onto the display of ignorance and use that to explain it justify a lack of reaction or action. Even if dangerous behaviours are happening around that child at the same time. The narrative of a bewildered victim always trumps, and masks the danger that child and the alienated parent are in. It's like grieving loss every day, even when you come to accept and understand it, it creates pain every day that can't be healed because it's still continuing, and you then know how much your child is suffering.

This is one of the best and most concise explanations of PA I have come across. Thank you for your work in spreading awareness about this devastating form of abuse. 🙏🏻

Thanks for bringing awareness to this important topic.

I went through this with my children's father. The oldest, who was most manipulated, doesn't speak to me, and his wife told me that I ruined his childhood. I lived in a chattel state, and had no choice but tolerate years of mental, emotional and sexual abuse until he left me and the kids.

How do you deal with this? How can you get peace? Do you have a video about that? Or how do social workers or psychologist help grown ups with the trauma of this?

I’ve been severely ALIENATED FOR 8yrs. I have so much proof of this I’ve documented EVERYTHING, I’ve just gotten to a spot where I dunno what to do from here. I can prove it, but I don’t have thousands of dollars to prove my point so I use TikTok as a form of expression. My kids will stop by and like something from time to time and I feel as if I’ve finally opened a door up to them. I can NOT figure out how to save my kids. How can I save my kids. I feel like I’ve gotten to the spot I need to be for my children’s best interest. I’ve been completely shunned by EVERYONE SHE KNOWS. My children are the most important matter in all of this and I can’t get the alienator to see and I’m just defeated. All I can do is fix me… and pray they see.

This explains a lot what I’m experiencing with my 12y daughter right now. I got hit by a car a couple of months ago and severely injured my leg. Almost overnight my daughter completely rejected me and all of a sudden she became very mean. She uses the exact phrases my ex wife does, how I’m useless and basically suck at everything. This is a shock to me since we’ve always been very close and basically never argued about anything.

This hit me hard, as someone who’s experienced this with his two kids I found myself realising way too late to stop the kids from hating me.

Why do social services order fosters, strangers, and whoever else cares for a child (schools, med facilities) to essentially completely and utterly totally alienate parents from involvement with their own children that they love and support? As a subject to this type of psychological torture, where I, a good loving mom have had no access to my own son, it's worse than discomforting to have learned that noone tried to call me when my son was taken to a emergency room, not even 1st day of kindergardten, not even when criminals misinformed everyone about me, while I certainly didn't even have access to speak in court! They did this to breastfeeding moms who didn't have access to hold or nurse their babies since visits with removed children were so scarce that their milk supply and parental bond wasn't even honored. Those who violated our rights often tried to scapegoat the most vulnerable or to discredit safe parental decisions. People who have no intentions of reuniting parents with children, shouldn't work in fields with children or parents. People who are gullible to the lies made against parents and children shouldn't give 100% decisions and power to vengeful hateful caseworkers of social services. They shouldn't assume a fair court process ever occurred for alienated parents.

I’ve always known/felt this but have never heard it so perfectly explained. Thank you !!

Please remember to include and acknowledge that this is also happening with grandchildren, grandparents, siblings, nieces, nephews, Aunts, Uncles, etc.

My mom and later grandparents did it to me. Till i hated my dad.

@AGenerationJones

2 ай бұрын

I hope you can reach out to him.

Thanks Teal. Very validating. Both my parents practiced this on me, to "get back" at each other in their own f'd up ways. My father never hid this behaviour so it was obvious, but my Mother, wow, was I enmeshed and confused, she made herself out to be a martyr, and as soon as I started to even minimally do something good for myself, or have a different emotion to her I was shamed (by all members of my family) for being "selfish"...utterly sh1t. I cut contact a few years ago when I was middle aged. One of the hardest things I have ever done, but I am actually starting to heal.

Teal, PLEASE tell us how to resolve this dynamic on a spiritual/subconscious level. How do poeple become a match to thsi dynamic? PLEASE, help us deal with it internally so it doesn't show up externally.

Thank you for calling it what it is, abuse. I never realized that is what my mom did to me. The truth you gave will help me move on. Thank you.

Glad this is finally being talked about, because when my child was alienated from me and I got her back and his family tried to to make me look like the bad Guy!

Teal, You have authentically broken down “parental alienation” completely! Thank you! ❤❤❤❤

So so many "Professionals" are ignorant to this, especially in Family Court and so get caught up in the dynamic, encouraging it.

Teal thank you so much for this video. I am an alienated parent and my mom was the alienating parent. She tried to destroy my relationship with my daughters everything you said in this video happened to me when I try to tell my story people think I’m crazy. Thank you so much For this acknowledgment of this very harmful dynamic It has caused me tremendous pain and suffering in my life, and every day I am working on healing myself from the trauma I have severe CPTSD and I am doing my best to heal the relationship with my adult children. She tried to use the school system the court system and therapist. Every single thing you said in this video I can attest to.

As I’m sure everyone here has been through this, I’ve dealt with this for over 25 years the brunt of it begging in 1999 way before anyone really knew or understood any of it. In all of that time, after dealing with and doing my own healing work from it, this is the best explanation I have come across. I was also interviewed in the documentary Erasing Family to help reunite children with their parents. Is there another video you have done that helps with attempting to connect with or have a relationship with adult children? My daughter is a lot like her father in general and still stands fast to the rejection ; now with another generation in the picture. My granddaughter is 4 months old and she won’t allow me to meet her because my daughter still thinks I’m rejecting her, etc. My son still sees me as the bad parent though he is torn because he also sees that I’m not who he keeps thinking I am at the same time. And there are so many levels to this as Teal describes. It’s so challenging to watch this in them and the sad thing is that I knew this was going to happen with them when they were still little. The best way I have found to heal from this as much as possible is to work on healing and forgiving myself because you don’t know what to do at the time and then live your life as best as possible. My son who is now 35 said to me that this is the best way for us to connect, when he sees me living my life and enjoying myself. It actually works AND it is healing to the generations. Thank you again Teal for this. 🌸💕🙏🏻☮️

❤❤❤❤i thought that I the guilty one. I had made so many mistakes that my beloved son moved to his dad when he was 12. He then started rejecting me as an abusive mother. That was in 2007. He had not spoken to me in years. My heart is broken. But what could i do.i still love him. He ist 28 now.😢😢😢😢😢😢 Still hoping he might find back one day

@CelesteWhoknows

Ай бұрын

Don't give up

I've never felt so heard and understood than I have, listening to this. I was the alienated parent for 12 years. My kids suffered, and still suffer from irreparable damage, and I was made to be crazy, and it's taken years recently to repair the relationships with my kids. Thank you for breaking this down the way you have.

This is crazy that it is so true! I became so enmeshed with the alienating parent (my mom) that I spent 26 years of my life hating my father! And then, I went through a spiritual awakening only to realize that I had become my mother, I had no identity of my own, and came to the surface - my profound love for my father that had been suppressed all those years. It was extremely painful when this realization happened. I am going to be 28 in the next few months. I have made genuine efforts to re-connect with my father. My mother stopped her tricks as they no longer work on me. What must be addressed is the immense amount of grief and remorse that comes due to mistreating the 'alienated' parent by acting as a puppet of another.

Thankyou for this video. You described my situation. I couldn't figure out why people took my ex's side and believed his lies. I was seeing abusive behavior directed at me from my teenage son, when I told him it wasn't acceptable and he was acting like his dad he moved out and in with his dad. I look forward to part 2 because I'm at a loss of what to do. It's caused me to be very isolated.

@StinkyGringo

2 ай бұрын

"you're acting like your dad" Is basically you telling him his dad is a bad person. YOU may possibly be the one alienating your son from his father.

@Songs4U26

2 ай бұрын

This is a very hurtful comment for you to make in a case of an already alienated parent suffering greatly...maybe that's your intention.

@StinkyGringo

2 ай бұрын

@@Songs4U26 she's literally telling her son his father is a bad person. Every time he acts up, she says "just like your dad". She's literally alienating the father. Sorry truth hurts peoples feelings

@AGenerationJones

2 ай бұрын

@@StinkyGringo You really didn’t get the nuances of this video, did you? Obviously you’ve never tangled with a covert narc, and are victim blaming. He probably was acting like his Dad, as abusers often become role models for abusers - that’s why it’s intergenerational trauma. Check yourself!!!

@StinkyGringo

2 ай бұрын

@@AGenerationJones lol you know nothing about me so it's a joke for you to make ignorant assumptions. She is telling the child he is bad, and telling the child his dad is a bad person. That will alienate the child from the father. Why is this slipping past your comprehension? I am not victim blaming, I'm speaking truth. Too bad you can't understand what she's doing to her child. She is doing exactly what the video is talking about. Stop protecting toxic behavior. You're enabling.

Thank you so much Teal. I have been struggling with this subject for 15years now. All I had to go by is intuition. Hearing you describe this process is a huge relief. I have cried through many of your videos. You are a gift.

Damn this hit close to home 😅 35 years now, and slowly restoring my relationship with my father. A few years ago, I fully collapsed mentally. I chose to go to a mental health clinic evey day for 8 weeks. In this clinic I was suddenly curious what my fathers story was. I called him and we talked, and talked and talked. I learned how much he suffered, I learned how hard he fought for me, how much he loved me, how proud he was of me. He suffered so much, we both cried and made eachother a promise to try and reconnect. A few years later and I love my dad. He is the wisest man I know! So emotionally intelligent, so much life experience, he is a blessing in my life. I did try to confront my mother but she immediately played victim and played hero how she protected me. He hurt her that much is clear, and she never got over that. I wish her well, I love her no matter what. Recently, she took the brave step to go into therapy herself. I hope she heals. I am at a point where I dont care for an apology. I just want both my parents to be well, healthy, and happy. Each far away from each other 😂

Thank you Teal for bringing consciousness to generations of trauma. I feel you gave meaning and voice to what I have experienced in my early adulthood. I am sure a lot of people relate to this form of abuse and trauma. 🙏

I grew up in this, so Teal made me feel heard. However, I miss the positivity. The snippets I can still utilize today are the mentions of gratitude and such, including compassion, etc., even from her books and meditations that are digestible to me. I am truly impressed by Teal's committed focus on the pain body now that I no longer resonate with her delivery. Yes, I may be hating on her, but I am also impressed and grateful.

Teal thank you for validating my experience. I haven’t spoken to 1 daughter for 3 years and another on and off for the same. For my youngest graduation I took her and my sister out to dinner . We weee having a nice time, father texted daughter and ask her what furniture I want. This put her in freeze, survival mode and then we didn’t speak for months. I also found out my ex has been talking to my sister. I currently will never speak to my sister again. She is just like him..