"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone." ~ Robin Williams

I lost my job in Australia 3 months ago, 53 yrs old, past visitor to Thailand many times, I'm lucky to even talk to a shop assistant for 30 seconds, very isolated in a city of 1 million. Ytube has become my main source of contact with people now in the comment section if I get an answer.

@WillyEckaslike

Жыл бұрын

know the feeling Rickman ...you get used to it ...if u have 2 or 3 real friends u are lucky because most other people are just persons you know...materialism..breakdown of the family...loss of religion and ethic and social cohesion and community has created a society with huge numbers of narcissists and sociopaths...try exercise...voluntary work..take up fishing and join a club..good luck

@AZdreaminn

12 күн бұрын

Hey bro. Are you able to come back to Thailand?

Been in Thailand for six years. Never been lonely once. Sometimes I get bored but never lonely.

@AZdreaminn

12 күн бұрын

Same same. I haven't felt lonely living in our rual Issan village. Joke a little with friends and family using my limited Issan. No deep conversations about quantum physics or anything. Sometimes I have to make an effort for some alone time.

I never got married because I saw my parent's relationship as a kid. I actually love my own space and it would be very difficult for me to share my life and compromise with somebody. I see how miserable my married clients are. 50% got divorced and more than 50% of the other half only stay together because of the children, financially cannot afford to split or are too lazy and put up with it.

@GungaLaGunga

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for expressing that. I have come to learn it is a fundamental truth: good ENJOYABLE marriages are incredibly rare. Study history, human psychology and philosophy as to why. I came from one of them, a disfunctional abusive alcoholic family. I'm simply better off alone. Cheers to all the happily single men. You made it. Peace, contentment, consciousness, self awareness. Aaaaaah.

@ma3stro681

9 күн бұрын

Bachelor life is be$t, especially post 50 … 🎉

I’ll shortly be moving to Thailand. Not really concerned about being lonely. I do yoga in the morning, read a book, learn Thai, hit the gym in the afternoon, watch Netflix, visit orphanage twice per week and donate some food, play pool (don’t drink or smoke) and learn to cook more.

@litozcar

Жыл бұрын

That is absolutely amazing mate... wish you all the best in your journey

@MyBelch

Жыл бұрын

Hey look, it's Mother Teresa.

@lezzeppelin2222

Жыл бұрын

I’m going to Thailand it’s only prostitute and bargirls because it’s super cheap.

@sammas2959

10 күн бұрын

You living a stoic/ buddhist's life; that is if you don't abuse others!

Most vloggers don't talk about uncomfortable subjects like loneliness but you did and thanks for that. Great video and very educational. 👍👍👍👍

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your positive response.

@sammas2959

10 күн бұрын

He came off as very simple minded by western standard and coarse and barbaric (no manners) by Thais standards; using his foot to do things? That is just not thai like.

It doesn’t matter where you are if you are lonely it’s something you gotta fix in you

Loneliness is fundamental in every country, not just in Thailand, people don't communicate any more, too busy staring in to their phones and how can you have a profound conversation with the local Thai people? You'll always feel like an outsider.

@ma3stro681

9 күн бұрын

Even if you speak fluent Thai you’d be hard pressed to meet a Thai to have a deep conversation with …

Fortunately, I have always been comfortable with my own company. I have about three ex-pats I consider friends in Pattaya and see them occasionally. I can see how loneliness can be a problem. I notice some neighbors in my condo community who stay inside and I never see them go out. At the young age of 66, I find myself in better shape and physical health than I have been in decades. I go to the gym multiple times a week and enjoy long bicycle rides. I may go to a bar once a month. Several times a week I have breakfast with a young German ex-pat and look forward to those times. After three years here, I have no plans to leave.

@milansikela8383

Жыл бұрын

Reading your comment gave me hope. Thank you. Been dealing with a lot in terms of wanting to transition from the work life into what I hope will someday be a happy retirement. There are the ties that bind here in the United States, and maybe the way to go for me is living a few months each year in Thailand rather than pulling up stakes completely. Two homes are better than one (if you can afford it)---especially when one of the homes is in Thailand. Being 55 years old, you gave me hope that I could turn it around by the time I'm at the two-thirds-of-a-century mark. Working a job that I've been at for half my life, I'm thankful to have it, but I have the battlescars that go with it. Recently I hit a wall. Just sick and tired of everything else in life being shoved into the margins while the acquisition and allocation of resources (i.e., having a job that pays the bills) takes up the lion's share of existence. But being impoverished in one of the most expensive areas to live in America obviously isn't an option. And so I work...and work... A lot of awesomeness has been experienced in this mortal coil, but right now I'm looking at the dark side of the coin...looking at the half-empty part of the cup. Been to Asia a half-dozen times, saw seven countries all told. Three of those trips involved month-long stays in Thailand. I fell in love. To be honest, I loved every Asian country I visited. The Philippines was also wonderful just like Thailand. The bottom line and the upshot to all of this is that you talking about how good you feel and what great shape you're in (and having the time to make that all happen) was the life raft I needed to give me hope that I might be able to weather the storm and ride out the attrition-like grind in order to overcome the rat race in this dog-eat-dog environment and "stack enough mail" in the meantime to someday reach the promised land of healthy, affordable retirement. So thank you again for giving me that hope.

@timg5463

Жыл бұрын

@@milansikela8383 just do it. All the stress falls away. It can be a new birth. Create the life you want. You are welcome and i am humbled.

I've been lonely in the US for the last few years. I hope to move to Thailand next year. I can't imagine I'd be more lonely than here. It's worth a shot. I also watch Brett Dev. He says he talks to his neighbors more in Chiang Mai than he did in 10 years in Essex, UK and he doesn't speak Thai.

@jme2310

Жыл бұрын

i live in Chaing Mai. I've been in Thailand 20 years, I'm raising 2 kids here as a single Dad. I'm not lonely but skint. I can teach you Thai if you are interested to learn

@mickeyp5122

Жыл бұрын

Good luck with your move to Thailand Ralph. I am sure you are going to have an amazing time ahead of you. Take care.

@mickeyp5122

Жыл бұрын

@@jme2310 Great Idea Jamie. The secret to not feeling Isolated in Thailand is to learn the language. Although I must admit I find it a real struggle. It seams to come easier to some people. I hope your financial situation improves buddy. Take care.

@win-eo2jq

Жыл бұрын

If you have money loneliness will disappear. And you have to willing to pay.

@Chris-gi9ch

Жыл бұрын

I haven't visited Thailand, but been in the Philippines. Yes, there are Caucasians there but we do stand out, and yes I felt out of place at times. We are also stereotyped as having alot of money, and get hounded sometimes. Not really something to truly feel until you experience it? Still an awesome time! Something to really think about though......

Loneliness among ex pats is as real as alcoholism. Perhaps both are linked.

I think it depends if your an introvert or an extrovert, I’ve been here 2 and a half years and I’ve never been lonely. I’ve lived in Colombia for 5 years so have experience of living in another country too. Spanish is a much easier language to learn, but Thai is so difficult. I guess Philippines is better to live, as they all speak English to some degree, but it’s still a different culture, have lived there also for a year or so. What keeps me here in Thailand is my Thai girlfriend, we seem to have a good relationship and I’am still happy to be here. Now I’am a lot older and don’t have to work life is so much easier, now looking forward for my daughter and a friend are coming here, it will be fun to show them my life here!

Appreciate you feel lonely at times. But if you are living in a country you should be able to speak Thai after 10 years. Otherwise what would you really expect.?. I'm not having a go. But being lonely is a state of mind and you can be lonely in your own country.

@brin57

Жыл бұрын

Living in a country for 10 years and not speaking the language is doing exactly what people back home complain about foreigners. No excuse really.

I know this is an old video, but thank you for posting it. I've been nomading for just under a year now and for the most part it's been fine but I'm starting to feel the loneliness now, even though I'm fine with my own company it's starting to get me down a bit. I'm not a drinker and don't really like drunk people when sober (who does?) so I avoid bars and most women I meet can't speak any English so yeah, it's tough and I thank you for acknowledging it.

Often alone but never lonely, been in Thailand for 11 years. Don't drink or smoke. Gym and running daily. Plenty of Thai friends and foreigners who live here and come here... I speak Thai quite well, easy to learn and can be fluent in 6 months to 1 year depending on your learning ability. So I guess experiences may vary. I'm 34 and I love this place. Always something to do and all my good friends are like minded and healthy... we train together, travel, eat good food... I think you're only limited by your own mind to be honest. Get yourself out there and experience life, keep positive people around you and you should for the most part feel happy and stay positive. Cheers!

@user-ic2hz2ib6c

Жыл бұрын

@@paulsmith2279 I'm mostly and introvert actually and don't like being around too many people. I am good around people when I want to be though.

@ActiveAussie2024

Жыл бұрын

That's good if you are into some exercise. I m an older guy, not into gym, but running or even a lot of walking is good for ex pats in Asia, as long as you are in a place with low air pollution. Swimming or paddling a surf ski is good too, but got to find some genuinely clean beaches though.

I lived in rural Philippines out in the middle of nowhere Mindanao & despite Philippines having a high level of English speakers, out in the middle of nowhere Mindanao the people are not educated. I was 5 hours by car away from the nearest small city, 7 hour car drive the the nearest large city. House full of 10+ uneducated Filipinos at all times & most of them can't speak English. The other few who could speak it, didn't speak it very well. I ended up EXACTLY as you described, terribly, horribly lonely & started drinking more & more heavily to the point of turning yellow... I started suffering from liver damage. I had to leave my Filipina wife & 1 year old daughter there, she refused to come with me but I had to leave or else I would have either committed suicide or died from liver failure. Returned to my home country & spent the next 3 years sobering up. I wanted to learn their language but after I learned about 30 words, my wife was not being helpful teaching me, often making fun of my accent or acting like teaching me was too much of a hassle for her.. despite her not having anything else to do.. she doesn't work & I paid for a live-in nanny/housekeeper so she didn't even take care of our daughter or clean.. Lazy b*tch.

I'm happy to tach Thai to anyone who wants to learn. I'm English and been here since 2003

@stevesteve1027

3 ай бұрын

Where are you ?

The great amplifier of loneliness is boredom. No matter where you live you need things to be passionate about. So many guys now seem to have no hobbies. Stay out of the bars...learn the local language (you dont have to reach fluency)...keep busy.

Thank you for this! There are many things I recognize...

👏👏I am just happy to see you back on KZread , i have just subscribed and thumbs up .Good man 😉

Good video Dave ... some things that we need to think about.

I’m going through this now.

I've been alone here in the U.S. for 4 years. I'm definitely wanting a change. I've experienced the same thing you're talking about in Mexico. I can speak some Spanish but when I got around several locals talking to each other. I couldn't understand much of what they was saying. I've subscribed to the new channel Mr. D. Thanks for your insight.

Excellent content. I live 50/50 Bangkok / Brisbane and even I get lonely sometimes. The need for quality conversation is really important

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Cheers mate!

Great video and infomation.

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!😀

Great to find your channel mate. I'm a Scotsman living in Australia. Been here 21 years and I still can get lonely. I have been in Thailand for 4 months on and off this year. I enjoy Pattaya yet I don't drink or rarely do. I enjoy the best of both worlds. 25 Bhat for my Thai milky tea and 120 for fry up with cup of tea. I'm looking to travel around more when I come back in February next year but I'll still pop on down to Pattaya, well Jomtien. Night time I walk and find a local place to eat. Love it.

Good to have you back, missed your vlogs! best of luck with the new channel

I wish I was still there and never left there in 2015, so many great memories Dave

Im Danish man, just retire in thailand. been here 7 months, after the "honeymoon" feeling i start have the loneliness feeling..many times actually, so i think about the life in Denmark, i also feel the loneliness there..And think where you want to be lonely, home country or Thailand, and then i still want be in thailand, people are generel more easy going here.

@kastelvetro1491

Жыл бұрын

modern day thailand is one lonely place, the people from thai of the boomers, gen x, and some of the xennials where amazing people and so warm, those days are gone, its a millenial vibe and its sterile plus foreign , its anati social, and the people have become shells oftheir former selves, youll miss the usa or europe if you go to thailand theese days, unlesss your super old and hae never seen anywhere in your whole life then it will becute for a while

@pattayabob

Жыл бұрын

@@kastelvetro1491 in my opinion O have to disagree with your profile of Thailand today. You can certainly CHOOSE to feel isolated anywhere. But the Thai people I meet everyday seem happy and are helpful so long as your not a scowling angry foreigner or someone who has to speak loud his angry. In the 7+ years I have been here I have found the people friendly and never have I ever felt insecure or unsafe even late at night

Yes, definite isolation. I have lived in Thailand for about 3 1/2 years and for almost that long with a Thai woman that does not speak English. I am lonely and watch KZread videos quite a bit. Drinking wine, sake and gaining weight eating quite a bit. Thinking about going somewhere else to live that speaks my language. Thanks for posting the video.

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your comment. I find that making my KZread videos really helps me not feel lonely. It's a hobby that keeps me busy.

@BradSabako

Жыл бұрын

I too felt lonely in Thailand. I moved once a year, which helped. Every guy I met was a big drinker, and I’m not. I wasn’t interested in having a girlfriend, as I just went through a difficult divorce in the states. Now that I’m back in the states by 2 years, I find myself missing Thailand. You can’t win!

@Ekowal1965

Жыл бұрын

@@BradSabako I like to backpack in Thailand. I'm not sure about living there. If you'r retired you can discover other things. Go travel somewhere else. Go to Poland for example. It's cheaper. Do some research and go. Go south buy a sailboat learn to sail. Go to Caribbean. Buy a camper. Visit all the National parks in US.

Nice to see you back. Up the ra

Yes, I can totally Identify with what you are saying there. Upcountry with the wife to be and while at her home, at times felt so isolated because I could only talk with her other than hello and how are you etc.

I’ve been living in Pattaya for two years. Best thing I ever did was get an I watch, big iPad, iPhone. Stay active with a morning and a late afternoon/evening walk, it’s too hot between noon and 530, you’re going to be in your room reading your iPad/napping so get used to it. I don’t speak any Thai and in my early 60s I’m just not going to, I had Hispanic employees in the US and I could never learn Spanish. I admire and envy people who can speak Thai but it’s just not gonna be me.

I can fully relate to this. If you're in a non touristy area you need to speak the language. Another note i was at the local swimming pool. The attendant gave me my change and dropped a coin It was rolling away from me. I put my foot on it to stop it and she went absolutely ballistic at me even though i had my half thai children with me. It was a completely innocent mistake

I'm currently in China and trust me, I would rather be lonely in Thailand than China. I have to deal with anti-foreigner hate everyday here. I'm heading to Thailand in January 2023. I seriously cannot wait.

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

You will be made feel very welcome here.

Good to see you back

I just subscribed from your other channel. I throw in my 2 cents. A lot of Thai living channels do the same content; condo tours and costs, walking videos, girls, etc. I'd like to know the basics; how to get around, what areas a new expat should start at, how to hire a cab, transportation options, health insurance, etc. Thanks.

Wow. This is an eye opener. Wow. Makes me think. I can feel some stress in your voice. I am speachless. Thinking about this vid.

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Cheers Dan.

ANYONE can be lonely on the moon or in the middle of Manhattan.

I feel bad for you, I worked in Thailand for over three years and can not remember feeling "alone" but to be fair the girl I was dating spoke english very fluently as well as the people I was working with. I suppose had I not had that I could have felt the loneliness. I will be returning early 2023 to visit everyone. Thanks for the video :)

@thebigpicture-elpanorama

Жыл бұрын

Cheers mate! Thanks for your comment.

Heartfelt video. I can see how loneliness could definitely be something a non-Thai man might experience in Thailand. Thank you for the insightful forthright content. I don't think my situation/experience would apply since I would be part of the "be in Thailand a few months each year" category rather than the "living in Thailand full time" category, but I was never lonely in Thailand. I had friends (some Thai, some not) but I craved solitude, rest, and peace. Other than meeting women, I loved the solo groove I had in Thailand. I would wake up around 14:00 or 15:00, shower, hit the gym, shower again, head out to eat (and, if necessary, run errands), then return to the condo and take another shower, and then my friend would come over between 18:00 and 19:00. After she left, I would shower again and another friend would either come over or I would go meet her (this was usually somewhere between 21:00 and 23:00 sometimes later or earlier), then she would leave. I would shower again and then, depending on how I felt, I might head our into that velvety Thai night between midnight and 1:00 (or later) and meet up with another friend. By the time all was said and done, and the final shower was taken, it would be around 3:00 or 4:00 and I would relax, drink, listen to music, look out at the lights of Bangkok, write, post comments, reflect on the experiences I had, edit photos, correspond with folks overseas, and just be happy and content (a rare thing for me these days). Then around 6:00 or so, I would head downstairs to inhale a delicious all-you-can-eat free breakfast and then go to sleep. When I first got to Thailand, I traveled all over the country, even going to Laos and Cambodia, and saw all the sights. My day/night consisted of 60% sightseeing and 40% nightlife. By the second and third times I was in Thailand, I woud still enjoy the sights, but it became 10% sightseeing and 90% nightlife with a greater focus on exercising at the gym. I loved it. But I'm different. I heard these longtime expats talk about how they were tired of the constant hookup culture and other complaints they had. I couldn't relate to them at all. Thailand was paradise. And I was so busy trying to stuff things in (might be the wrong term to use...or not) before I had to return to the United States, that I was like a kid in a candy store trying to eat as much candy as I could before time ran out. Now if I lived in Thailand full-time for an extended period, maybe I would get burned out on the constant intimacy with beautiful women, excellent Thai food, and improvement of my health by working out all the time...but I doubt it. Furthermore, I always thought that, in addition to the daily/nightly regimen I outlined previously, I could finally write and publish my Great American Novel. For me, there was no loneliness. But there was the fact that I missed the people and animals I loved back in the United States. So that's why I think that the partial stay in Thailand worked better for me and also prevented me from feeling lonely.

Great video thx 🙏

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

You are very welcome.

Well done very informative

hi mate, nice to see you back on screen again

Interesting video. I have been married to a Thai for 16 years and we live in England, but when I go to the Thai village I feel like a spare part to be honest. Living in the village would definitely drive me to drink even though the people are very friendly. Generally without discipline in Thailand - financial, moral and health/drinking etc you won’t survive long and I have seen so many go off the rails there because they lacked discipline.

If you are moving to a foreign country to be lonely, why don't you stay home and be lonely? Now if you're lonely in your home country, then move. However, your chances of meeting a nice beautiful woman will increase dramatically if you move to Thailand, the Philippines, Vietnam...etc. because there are many women there who are lonely too looking for a great companion. Cheers and keep your head up guys as best you can.

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for your feedback. I am happily married to a Thai girl.

Your back! Like the new look!😁👍🏽🇹🇭

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Thanks! 😃😀

@mickydee7502

Жыл бұрын

You're not 'your' back.

that is the reason, I decided to move to Philippines. Also knew if it was Thailand, learning the language would be a high priority

your channel had a different name. glad I found you again. always appreciate your content 🙏

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate that

Glad to see you back mate 👍 🙌🏻 👌 Past is the past

Wow that's awesome video on the street... look great to share I am your fan 💚💚

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 🤗

Thank you for your job

Yes I believe there is a lot of truth to what you are saying. I've heard it before and drinking is the #1 down fall and it can take you all the way out. It's something that a man needs to consider if he plans to live in Thailand. That was great advice for a newbie to really consider and make preparations for 👍💯

I prefer lonely in Thailand than lonely in the UK. I can speak, read and write Thai and being knowledgeable about the locals --doesn't make it any better! Stay uniformed and enjoy --learn too much and you may regret even coming here! I have children born here otherwise---?? Beware the smile! It's all a con!

@GTE-gn4ww

2 ай бұрын

Wise words.

Boredom is a real problem in Thailand, too. I came there for three months. Was going to write that novel that had always eluded me. Discovered I was not a true, disciplined writer. Damn near lost my mind in the afternoons in Thailand.

if you live alone and not sociable, you can get loneliness anywhere including your own country. you just need to figure it out how to deal with it.

This is a great topic, I have not seen anyone talking about it. I can understand how you could feel lonely in Thailand as a foreigner. Probably contributes to alcohol abuse 👍🇦🇺😢

Thai isn’t as difficult as commonly thought - six months of intense study and you can go native and never need speak a word of English. Stay away from expats and expat locations, learn guitar or something in spare time or something like that. Learning the language = learning the culture and there is pretty much no other way.

As a newcomer in Thailand and someone just starting off on KZread, I have to admit I’ve been blessed with some great friends like Keis One, Dan the Man, Project bangkok, life if serg, and many others I’ve met because of Keis one … That being said, the life of Nana / Asok is not all that it’s cracked up to be. At first your having fun, but eventually your KZread friends or local people end up moving on … in my case as KZreadrs the guys travel every few weeks, sometimes they are literally all gone somewhere, koh chang, Philippines, laos visa runs etc … then it’s my turn to fo to Cambodia etc … you need to have a strong mind and not let the loneliness creep in because it will affect you for sure. I’ve been lucky to have a wonderful woman here, but nothing is guaranteed. Ive hot rocky patches were all the guys are off somewhere, the woman ain’t speaking to you and your friends are 30 hours by plane away… you walk out your building and all you have in Nana is a bunch of lady boys howling at you, guys trying to get you in there tuk tuk and a fresh batch of indian guys just off the plane. Asok/Nana is a fun but lonely place to live. Thailand is for that matter if you don’t have a good woman … unless of course your chasing every night and hitting the bottle in that case i hope your finances are in check

..you got yourself a new sub.

I’ve just subscribed to your other channel.

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Cheers mate!

I'm more of a loner anyways. Still, I plan my weekends for salsa dancing and even though there's a bit of a language barrier here in Tbilisi, I get more social contact than I can handle. A friend told me the latin dance scene in Bangkok is huge. As long as there is at least one dance studio open, loneliness is the least of my worries. You're right though, sometimes I have one drink too many.

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Cheers Antonio. Sometimes I like my solitude. But I also like to have a detailed chat over a few beers. That's when I feel lonely cos there ain't many ex-pats in Huai Khwang to chill out with.

@ralphfurley4217

Жыл бұрын

Good to know there is a huge latin dance scene in Bankok. I'd like to move there next year from the US. I have no latin dance experience as there isn't much of a scene where I live now, but latin dance is high on my list of things to learn.

@jglee6721

Жыл бұрын

Correct. Social dancing is the best way of breaking the ice.

Where ever you go There you Are! Being Isolated or lonely effects a lot of Retirees due to lack of engagement in their own live. A lot of people don't understand the loneliness you speak of. I have lived in countries where very little or no english is spoken to level you need to have a real intimate conversation with someone or a group of people you can call friends. In Thailand people come and go, very transient place. The live expectancy of a Frang is 3 to 7 years then they go back to their home country and you feel a great loss. Even the clubs you join in Thailand are all transient. So, yes you can develope short time friends that speak english and this will help for the moment. I have never meet anyone in Thailand that is an Frang that actually speaks enough fluent Thai language to acutally hang out all the time to become intimate with a Thai family or parents of their Thai Wife o Thai Husband. Thai is a very challenging language to learn fluently. So, you need a hobby ie.. excercise gym, reading, part time business, etc.. to stay engaged or you will go crazy or become a drunk, if you drink and hang out at bars. It's the same no matte where you go Thailand or your home country. If you don't get a schedule or routine going it will be challenging not to be lonely.

Thanks for sharing and making this very important video. I lived in Thailand and can relate to this, yes I was lonely too, but I then learnt the language and I mean the script so I can read, write and speak, not fluent, that takes years, but let me tell you just the routine of learning a few words a day, writing them down, listening out for those words when Thais speak, gives you purpose, also suggest to keep fit, keep away from beer bars, of course the odd night out, restaurant is good, and all the great craft beers, but don't make it your routine, even volunteer, get involved, its the only way, otherwise you WILL hit the booze and wont last long. Like anything, learn, learn, join a group with a purpose, appreciate your new home and try and blend into the culture as much as you can, and this goes for any country. Wish you well.

@senianns9522

Жыл бұрын

Cut to the chase-- long term expats are not wanted here! They don't like us, just deal with Immigration to understand that !

Good video so true

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed

Welcome back.. wondered what happened to you fella..l reckon that's why alot of people make KZread vlogs.. keeping up with your culture etc.. isolation is a bit of a killer for many people..

its crazy but ive been sat at a bar in soi 4, usually stumble inn surrounded by girls and music and still found myself feeling completely alone. ive been going to thailand for over 12 years on holiday but i would never go on my own, i always travel with friends or family.

@pattayabob

Жыл бұрын

In my opinion if your feeling lonely around many people it’s a bad feeling that can follow you everywhere not just a foreign country Some people I have met I. Thailand go to see a psychiatrist here for feelings like that

@passportmarc

Жыл бұрын

I’ve lived on soi 13 the last 5 months and it’s true. It’s not because people are around you that you aren’t alone

I have never felt lonely in the 20 years i have been going to Phuket, , everywhere i go bars,massage,beach reaustrants always have had good conversations with the thai people in English

you got to be a bit of a loner to survive here , thai people have no interest in deep conversation . you gotta keep busy with projects and fitness , no boozing because your bored . Many expats have issues / highly opinionated / arguementative / pussywhipped /trapped in shitty marriages /and will drag you down making you feel depressed and pissed off for days after being in their company , find people who are energetic or who will make you laugh ,and cheerful positive outlook people who do stuff .

You can (or cannot) be lonely anywhere you go! Mostly up to you.

10 years and not speaking Thai! C'mon man!! You'd be not happy about foreigners doing that back home.

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

I do speak Thai, but not fluently enough. I take your point though.

@ActiveAussie2024

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, if you live in a country more than five years you need to speak the language.

@Ian4444four

Жыл бұрын

I think that if you come to Thailand in your 60s or 70s the complex tonal language, different alphabet and your ability to learn is too difficult. Unlike the West, Thailand welcomes retirees so it is a different comparison. In some ex pat areas of Thailand you never need to speak Thai on a day to day basis.

@jglee6721

Жыл бұрын

@@Ian4444four Correct. It depends on individual and age does play a role.

@mickydee7502

Жыл бұрын

@@ActiveAussie2024 I lived in Russia 20 years and still couldn't speak Russian, having said that, I'm thick as two short planks.

I think most of it is in your head, it all depends on how you deal with it. Having extra money to spend probably helps too.

Why do you feel lonely? The majority of people can not even enjoy themself. That is the fact, cause in this ever fast changing environment we live in and all the distractions with Social Media, Internet, News etc. it is easy to fall into this trap. I love to be on my own and I work on my dreams, life is cool. Don't be a Snowflake, my mentor would say. Learn to deal with yourself and enjoy the peace on being alone. Simple as it is! Thanks anyway for sharing your thoughts, just wish you a happy self development and inner peace.

I saw this headline and watched it coz i'm feeling lonely in Phuket.

@keithy507

Жыл бұрын

Try and go out and talk to others! Being lonely isn’t good pal

When ~I wake up I roll over and have a rumpty bumpty with the lady I found the prev night... Back home I could'nt do that and would be feeling really lonely

@ActiveAussie2024

Жыл бұрын

This is one good thing about living in Asia for Western men. I am in Brisbane, Australia, the environment is good here, but I prefer in Asia. I m fairly isolated here, but I have a nice apartment. I 'll probably come back to Thailand for 3 months in September. Being in Australia for too long without a break is a bit soul destroying. This society is nothing like what it used to be.

@mickydee7502

Жыл бұрын

You're pretty disturbed.

Yes, After living in Pattaya for SIX years I know what you mean !! Well, said..

Oh so very true

It happened everywhere, it happened to me the same in my country Belgium, i knew the loneliness in my own country 😉😉

@UCtfc29-dtibVpb91vtiVspA

Жыл бұрын

Same like me in China in own country

Good advice. You should take it. If you have the time the best thing to do is start off learning Thai. After all it is THAI-land. Falang, Farang. What does it matter it's what WE are. It's not offensive, just in the mind of the receiver. Remember what the dark people were called "back home"? I guess it was ok then when directed to others. Time to enjoy and embrace the Thai and their culture, there's always other choices.

Just about to make the change and it is something that concerns me. Was in Thailand for three months earlier this year and yes I missed Aussie food and no one to talk about the meaning of life and sorting out the worlds problems. As much as I love talking to my wife it's never that deep.

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

I understand what you mean.

@brucerobinson1037

Жыл бұрын

I lived in Thailand for 4 years in Phuket and Chiang Mai, and my experience was exactly the same, while my Thai girl spoke good English, if amongst her friends and family it was all in Thai and hard to hold a conversation, you were left out, I gravitated to the pubs and bars to have a decent conversation with a westerner or western friends i got to know, it is very easy to get caught up in that drinking culture. It was even worse when I went to her village outside Khon Kaen and I was the only one who spoke English and the drinking started in the mornings in the village ( not for me tho ), in the end I moved back to Australia for my own mental stimulation, and it is not easy to try and understand the Thai way of thinking , and dont question it either ??

@jeffuk3940

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like moving to Thailand is not going to suit you, so keep your options open in case you can't live without being in Australia.

@wayne8469

Жыл бұрын

@@jeffuk3940 I think I'll survive

@ActiveAussie2024

Жыл бұрын

You need to have interests too I think to live there full time. If you are a type of guy who likes fishing, swimming, boating, paddling a surf ski etc, somewhere like Pattaya ( not central Pattaya) Hua Hin or Cha Am would be the go. Just going to bars and restaurants or gentlemen's clubs etc becomes very boring, expensive and stale after a while, and bad for health.

There is something to be said for being able to shoot the shit with your fellow countrymen every once in a while.

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

That's for sure.

You are right about loneliness.

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Thank you.

I’ve watched that many vids about Thailand to try and get the courage to actually make the move . What do you suggest ?

@brucedavis6234

Жыл бұрын

Well you're not getting any younger, so make the move....

@shamusshamus6251

Жыл бұрын

come for 1 year for a test , but dont buy anything or get married , 2 years is even better to see if its for you or not

I know what you mean about language. I live Canada and had a Taiwanese friend who invited me to her leaving dinner. When I went it was all Taiwan people speaking Mandarin, I just sat there like a spare prick at a wedding.

Welcome back Paddy.... How you cutting 🍻😎

He can't speak Thai but is pissed of by a Thai word because he misunderstands the use and exact meaning. Priceless. How would you even have conversations when you even get pissed of by a neutral word ? Correct that you live in a parallel word if you don't speak the language. That's what I like about it : because I speak, read and write Thai, I see foreigners who can't as complete outsiders in a paralel world who barely have a clue. But part of the foreigners are still able to have a happy life without knowing Thai, because they have the right attitude. Basic Thai knowledge is still "not knowing Thai".

you are dealing with a subject that few people have dealt with....is it a taboo for expatriates? personally i lived in thailand in 2012 for 6 months i worked for a big french hotel i was a cook and it's true that after 4 months i felt the loneliness even the europeans who live there you have to find the good ones you have to have the same free time but we I still feel lonely...I never understood how people manage to live 5 or 10 years in Thailand with this lifestyle...me from the 4th month don't laugh he managed to talk to myself what do I do when my 6-month contract ended, I was happy to return to Paris... if one day I come back to Thailand, it will be for a vacation of 1 month or 2 months maximum....

I think when I hopefully move next year , the language is a priority I’m learning now , but it’s not easy. Loneliness for a Farang even when you have a partner is going to be a tough gig .. I would hope to meet a few non Thai at somepoint ..

@jonhobson3592

Жыл бұрын

Having interests is good yes, swim , walk , explore .. cycle , but I’d still think would feel lonely getting used to the culture and adapting. My friend is lovely but they all talk in Thai when together and you feel a little excluded .. but I’d rather be bored / lonely there than here. I’ve had it with the uk 🇬🇧..

If I moved to Thailand and my neighbours were farang I would be pissed of

good vlog .....

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙂

Great advice something to really consider I think This is a serious consideration that people have to have so they don’t end up being part of the Pattaya sky diving club

I can do a month but no more, it's a holiday place for me, my life is in Australia.

you are a funny guy, I like your videos. No, I don't feel lonely, I just sometimes feel annoyed by spending too much time with my girlfriend. But learning this thai language is a good deal

@alphaomegadaily

Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing 👍

If you’re poor and discontent you can say that is the reason. If you’re wealthy and discontent it’s hard to find a reason. Nothing but yourself to blame, ouch!

I'm kinda a solitary guy but at least when I go to my local Walmart they speak English.

I lived in the sticks/village with Thai girl friend on her families small durian/rubber tree farm in chumpon/sawi area for around 4 months and a yeah....very lonely there.... lol...no tv...had internet but some times power out....no one speaks English or very little so yes need to learn Thai to live in village for any length of time, or may as well stay home and be lonely and bored...She likes the village life...I kinda like it but not speaking the language is big negative...

Well if you are standing in the middle of the road what do you expect ....lol

@chesterwunpen2196

Жыл бұрын

😀😀😀 Made me laugh too. It sure looked like a road.

Yes have money you will have friends

That's why I visit Thailand but live in the Philippines...

@TheColossalBlanket

11 ай бұрын

Old comment I know but why Philippines? Is it because English is more widely spoken there?

Just learn the language and your world will open up to a new adventure! You are a visitor to Thailand so it's incumbent on you to learn the local language. The Thais are not obligated to speak your language!

@alphaomegadaily

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the advice Kevin.