We grieve but, no one is lost forever. Once you know that, it makes you realize that the departed has moved on to better times. They were suffering in the body, and now they have been released,, you will meet again. We grieve when friends immigrate to faraway places but, few consider it a death. Perhaps it's a matter of perspective. I have found it helpful. Love T.

@frednorman1

6 ай бұрын

How do you know you will meet them again? has anyone ever met their deceased loved ones again?

@tomjensen618

6 ай бұрын

Happens all the time.NDE's @@frednorman1

@tomjensen618

6 ай бұрын

Never fall prey to religion.. You are divine and immortal.Religion preys on fear and commit the greatest sin of all, tyaking your divinity from you??@@TruthWriter...

Hello from the UK. The poem was so poignant Maria, thank you. I lost my husband Terry on the 4th December after a short and painful illness. Too quick and to soon. He was my love, my life and my soul mate and my heart is broken 💔. We were together for 50 plus years and the grief is unbearable right now, so I completely understand your loss. We didn't have a family but my two fur babies (our cats, Tally 🐾and Luna🐾) are giving me a reason to get up in the mornings. With blessings, love and light to you both. Take care and remember all the memories that you shared ☺ xx

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Oh, my heart goes out to you too. So sorry for your loss, I can only imagine how that must feel. I am glad the poem resonated with you, sometimes we can take refuge in the words of others for a little while... Also so good you have the cats. Thank you for your kind blessings and love, sending the same to you❤️

@veronicashipley9123

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for your reply and kind words Maria. Hard, sad times .... With love xx

Loving & caring thoughts to both you and Bendik. Thank you for sharing the poem by John O'Donohue and your loving video that will help others understand the process of grieving. Today I am 74 and lost my youngest brother 33 years ago. He came to me in a dream once - standing next to a white tree filled with ice - much like the ones in your video. He told me he was okay and not to worry. I still see him in my mind and feel his presence in my heart. The ones we've lost are physically gone - but they will always be in our hearts and minds. My heartfelt sympathies go out to you both.

When a loss is out of time, someone young, it has left me feeling empty, robbed of a future that could have been. That I knew I would miss for years to come. Lossing my nephew at 23 was beyond understanding. Although he took his life, it leaves a void unlike any other death. At 78 years old, we have lost more loved ones and friends than we would have wished. But life, as you know gives some really hard blows. I pray that in your grief you can have moments of wonderful memories that hold your heart in love and not just the loss. What we focus on helps us to not be destroyed or lost in the pain. Finding joy in the good things about that one, remembering is the only healing way thru. Love, Glenda

I saw the thumbnail the day you posted this video and just could not click it as I was griefing myself right at that moment over a close family member we lost right before this Christmas. Fuck cancer

@Mariaandtheforest

5 ай бұрын

I completely understand that. So sorry for your loss... Yeah, fuck cancer, really.

I think your cat knew what you were feeling and that is why it got so close to you.

@trylliumt5441

5 ай бұрын

Indeed, they know.

Deepest sympathies to you, Maria and Bendik. Wishing you both peace in your hearts, filled with warmth and love.

So sorry for your loss Maria. I lost my mother this past year and know of what you speak. Thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts along with Mr. O'Donohue's poem, which exquisitely described the painful emotions of grieving while also providing words of comfort. Blessings to you and yours. ❤‍🩹

You read the beautiful poem thinking some of us out here might benefit from it, might be experiencing loss, too. I am one of those people. I lost both my mom and a dear friend last year, and my best friend the year before. My heart is still grieving and the poem so perfectly expressed where I am in that journey as well as your own wonderful words. Thank you for posting this. My heart goes out to you and Bendick in your sorrow and your loss.

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Peggy, I am so sorry for your losses. So glad the poem resonated with you too, that means a lot to me. Sending my love to you as well and where you are at in the grieving.

I am so sorry for your sad Christmas I have had cancer and now I have it again. But it is slow growing. Blessings and love for healing on your journey of grieving

@Mariaandtheforest

5 ай бұрын

Oh, I am so sorry to hear that. Sending you lots of strength ❤️.Thank you for your kindness and blessings

Oh Maria, this was so beautiful. It left me in tears for you and all of us. Loss, grief it is part of our living, it’s dark and lonely and confusing and I just don’t know why pain needs to be part of our existence. But what I do know is that woven in with this intense pain of loss there are small moments of magic and beauty. I would encourage you to keep your eyes and heart open to this magical time and gifts surrounding death( I don’t have a better word than magic). Maybe what I’m saying doesn’t make sense now, maybe it never will. But I’m so glad someone told me to stay alert during this special and intense time. It helped me realize the sacredness of our journey(again, maybe there’s a better word). I’ve come accept that to stand with love ones in life and death is an honor and an honor that scars. Wear the scars, find strength in the scars, they reminds us of our love, our loss, our strength, our weakness, our humanity. Wishing you strength and magical moments during this intense time of grief. 💔

I’m very sorry for your loss. Your cat knows you are hurting and wants to help you heal. They are very smart animals and can feel your emotions. Hope you find peace and healing.

Thank you for the rawness of this. My nephew passed away last week and the grief has wrapped itself around each of us. The poem by John O’Donohue is one that I have turned to.

@Mariaandtheforest

5 ай бұрын

You are welcome, and I am so sorry for your loss

I have just found and subscribed to your channel . Your videos are beautiful. I am so very sorry for your loss, and while it is true that time heals all wounds, getting there is raw and painful. Wishing you fortitude, healing and peace .

So sorry Maria and Bendick for your loss. May God wrap his loving arms around you both and comfort you. The kitties can comfort too. Much love to you both.❤❤

I am so sorry for your sad, sad loss. I hope as the time passes, your pain will lessen. Be blessed with hope and goodness in this year ahead~sending love to you and yours friend. 💙💜

Oh my dear Maria, I lost 2 people last week…. And I am so thankful for your video. Thank you ❤ Hug you tight from far away

Hallo Maria, and Bendik. I would also like to extend my deepest sympathies, I am a new subscriber and I just binged watched all your videos. Because of your honesty it feels like I know you guys a little bit. That’s all I am going to say for now sometimes less is more.

And then we see the power of poetry and poets when it is unimaginable and impossible for us to find any words. Thanks for reading John O'Donohue's poem. Sending you peacefulness and relief from the South West of France.

Thank you for the video!

I’m sorry for your loss, sending you all my love x

My deepest condolences ❤

Thank you, Maria. I'm sorry for your loss.

Maria I'm so sorry for your loss.

Sending you lots of love and comfort and prayers

I am sorry for your loss. Thanks for beautiful footage, music and words.

So sorry for you loss

Thank you for sharing. You have helped others with this video, especially the poem.

Magnifique ! 🧡

Sending love... words fail me here.

I sincerely and deeply sympathize. As someone who has also lost a loved one cause of cancer, I know how painful it can be. But yes, grief will pass and peace will come.

So sorry for your loss 💔💐 Thank you for sharing this heart felt video. Sending love and support from afar (San Francisco) 🤍🙏🏼

Deeply touched by your video in my own loss after a full year og grieving. Peace to you in your loss. MO, USA

Sending you love and hugs. 🌟

Maria and Bendick, sorry to hear about your loss of a loved one of you... So sad to hear a young person left this world... Last year i lost three family members within three months, so i recognize your feeling of emptiness and the way words lack the power to describe your feelings. My condolences to both of you,,, In stark contrast to the aforementioned, I am happy that the both of you can retell the car accident without any injuries. Stay strong, take time to process both incidents and give them a peaceful place in your heart.

So sorry for your loss Maria 💔 grief is such a long and hard process to go through 😢 just go with the flow and you will find peace im sure, sending love ❤️

Sorry to hear of your dear friend, understanding you have to feel your grief and wishing you well. Love 😊❤

Thank you so much for sharing and being real ❤ When you lose someone it's often times easier to watch others live their normal happy lives and try to fit in or forget the things that have happened because it seems easier that way. But sometimes it really helps to hear someone go through a similar experience and not feel so alone in this. I really needed to see something authentic. Because loss is a part of life and we all have to experience it sooner or later. Thank you again and wishing you and Bendik a lot of strength and sending love!

Thank you for sharing the beauty that by being open and true to your sorrow can be a solace to you and to each of us.

So sorry for your family’s loss María and Bedick. I lost an uncle to Parkinsons on Cristmas day. My heart goes out to you. We must give ourselves permission to grieve. A strong hug 🙏✨♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much my friend

I am sorry that you and Bendik are grieving, and appreciate the raw honesty and wisdom of this piece.

🙏🏻💕🙏🏻 a heartfelt hug for you and Bendik. Grief is a very difficult thing, something that takes time, and courage to look it in the eye, to allow yourself to grief and feel all the feelings that belong to this loss. ❤ thank you for sharing with us, for being so open and honest. 😊

Thank you for sharing this and I am really sorry for your loss. Do take care of yourself!

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you

So sorry for your loss Maria 😢 I know how difficult it is Sending hugs from France Delphine

Many love to you 😢❤

Oh Maria and Bendick I am so so sorry to hear to have all of this all at once and I am so dearly sorry for your loss. You are so not alone - this has been one of the hardest seasons that I can remember with loss and grief. Thank you for the poem, it went right to my heart. Holding you in my heart and sending all the grace you need.

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

So sorry you have had such a tough season with grief Gabrielle! Thank you so much for you empathy and kindness, that means a lot. I am glad the poem could resonate with you to as you are going through these times

@gabrielleszafir

6 ай бұрын

@@Mariaandtheforest Sending so much love and support from over here to you both!

I just lost my father , thank you for sharing your feeling and the poem of John O Donahue , I leave in Virginia and send you ❤

So sorry Maria & Bedick May the beauty of the winter heal your hearts.

So sorry ❤ Lot of hug's

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you Mia

It is a part of your life and it will affect you for a long long time. Sending hugs to you both. Grief is so different for each person--but taking it gentle and slow and just remembering that beautiful life and being grateful for what we have--that helps so much.

Love to you ❤

My heartfelt condolences, Maria. Much love from Nova Scotia, Canada. ❤😢

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you

I am so sorry Dear Ones, May God bring you peace and comfort in your time of loss….. ❤ Marley from Missouri North America

Sending you both love and gratitude for what you share with us and I am so sorry to hear of your loss. When I lost my mother last winter, it was sometimes your videos that helped me through this dark time in my own life. You inspired me with the papermaking course and all the beautiful videos and peaceful places you film at. As I had finally caught the Covid and was forced to be alone at the darkest time of my life, I found some small happiness and peace spending time with you, my beautiful and faraway friends. The poem was so beautiful and completely relatable to by me. Thank you (these words somehow feel inadequate) and heartfelt hugs to you and Bendick. 🙏❤

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you so so much for your kind comment

I was wondering if you and Bendik are OK, watching your previous videos, and here's the answer. Yes, there's always before and after when grief is present and words don't come easy. I think it's especially very hard to deal with the loss and other hardships after so much touring and teaching. Thank you for this beautiful video. My most heartfelt condolences. My aunt passed away just a week ago and I'm almost shocked, 'cause we had a complex relationship. And it feels like the winter and this freezing cold (we also had minus 20 here) resonates perfectly with the loss, although I usually have brighter associations with this time of year. Hope you manage somehow and you don't forget to be kind to yourself.

I have no words to really convey my condolences to you and Bendik. The poem really resonated here, contrasted by your beautiful film of life going on regardless of grief. I almost didn't watch, as my own grieving process continues to haunt me. I am so very glad I took a leap and was pleasantly surprised I didn't crumble into total blubbering tears ( just a few escaped) Thank you for sharing. Keep on keeping on.😻

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your condolences and kindness

A beautiful video. Thank you for sharing . I lost my beloved wife five years ago. We were married 47 years. To help my grief, I often read this poem by Ernest Dowson: “They are not long, the days of wine and roses: Out of a misty dream Our path emerges for a while, then closes Within a dream.”

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this poem. I really like it, beautiful and melancholic yet so silent in a way

the poem was beautiful and delicate. thank you for sharing it. condolences to you both. i am so sorry for your loss.

@Mariaandtheforest

5 ай бұрын

Glad you felt that way about it too, it really captures many of the emotions in one I feel like. Thank you

@storybookfibers

5 ай бұрын

@@Mariaandtheforest ❤

So sorry for all the hardships that have come your way at the end of 2023. It feels like nothing can prepare us for these things, but your strength and other relationships can get you through them. Hopefully this upcoming year will be full of new happy opportunities and love! Also, would you ever consider creating a fundraiser or something like that for us to donate to your car situation? It sometimes feels defeating to ask for help, but I feel like many of us on here would love to help in any way we could! Just a thought. Happy New Year and I hope things start looking up for you.

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Miranda

Maria...❤ You are a being of light and you demonstrate it in every video. I am very sorry for your loss... It is very hard, but just be as you have to be, respect your energy even if it is low and sad. Better times will come sooner than you expect, but in the meantime, keep yourself busy but also be alone with yourself, I love you in this world, I am sure that life, even in its balance it can be hard, it has really good things in store for you. I send you a very warm hug Maria ❤️ I don't really know what to say... So I just want to tell you: you have a lot of people around the world who would give you a hug right now, imagine yourself as a little human surrounded by a huge ball of humans hugging you so you feel best ❤️ You are very loved Maria, this will pass ❤️ 

Leit å se at dere har det vondt❤Sender klemmer og varme tanker❤Å sørge over noen er det verste som finnes💔Godt vi er på vei inn i lysere tider. Snart er det vår💚

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Tusen takk Åshild

Thank you for the poem Maria, it rang very true for me. I am so sorry for your loss and for the pain you feel. Be Well, Keith

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you Keith

@user-cc7so9ii2d

6 ай бұрын

Hello Maria, I would like to contribute towards the repair of your car. Is that possible? Is there a way to message privately?

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

​@@user-cc7so9ii2dthat is so kind of you, but I can not accept such an offer ❤. We have found a solution for the car now so I have good hopes that it will be repaired within a price we can manage. Thank you so so much for your kindness and wanting to help ❤

So very sorry... Our life is not endless... Sending your wonderful couple all my support and love ....

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you

Hi Maria--So sorry for your loss. Sending you and Bendik lots of healing thoughts and hugs. John O'Donahue's poem "For Grief", really captures the process of grief and how "sorrow will remain faithful to itself. More than you, it knows the way"...Take good care. Jenny USA 🐦☮❤

@Mariaandtheforest

5 ай бұрын

Thank you Jenny ❤️

Lost my little brother 9y ago from cancer. Grief is a long process and basically it's still hard sometimes i still miss him of course. Take your time, everybody react differently, needs something different. Do what you feel you need to do. Lots of love from here ❤

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

So sorry for your loss. That must be so tough. In my experience grief does not go away - only gets easier to bear with the years, so I can imagine 9 years still feels short in a way. Thank you for your kindness, and for the reminder to do what feels the most right to me ❤️I needed that.

Oh Maria, you really haven't been having a great time lately you poor thing, but thank God you both survived the car crash unscathed at least. The loss of a young life is hard to bear, and difficult to understand or accept, yet the memories of them will live on in you all forever. These moments are punctuation marks in all our lives, dividing one chapter from the next, so take as much time as you need, and return to editing videos only when it feels right. As you can see in these comments, there is a global community here thinking of you all at this time.

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you Mark

I’m really sorry for your loss 😢 Unfortunately we don’t know when it’s time for us to leave. I hope you had the chance to say goodbye. I believe there will be a day we will see our beloved ones again. More and more scientists are sure that there is more than we think. The best you can is to remember this person a while life and to live for this person too. Make as much food memories as you can to tell the loved one at the end of your journey what you experienced 🙏❤️ It’s totally okay to grief, to cry and to be angry. But don’t forget the good moments. Think about what this person teaches you and spread the love, the friendships and the laughter. Sometimes it helps to write a good by letter, to express the grief in words and to say what you always wanted to say to this person. I can be a relief. Lots of love 🙏

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for this

So sorry for your loss. But one day grieff and pain will be changed into sorrow, sorrow to melancoly and eventually into sweet deep memories of the loved one you have lost. I give to you all my deepest empathy and love❤️as a mother to someone your age I just want to keep you in my arms and comfort you and make your tears disapear🥰

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind words and empathy

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Love and light from ireland

It is so hard. I'm sending you both all my love. Two years ago my very dear friend died of colon cancer. She was 15 years younger than me and lived a healthy lifestyle. May your friend be in peace now and may you find peace in your heart.

@jackiewheaton4199

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for the poem.

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Jackie for these kind words

@jackiewheaton4199

6 ай бұрын

It has been 2 years. It sometimes seems like she has been away on a very long trip. In a way, it's true. I guess I have learned to accept it's the way it is and sometimes I cry, not as often. I just rewatched your video of the trip to Hammerfest and other northern villages. Breathtaking. Sometime during the last year of her illness, Mellie read about some guy, can't remember his name but think he was a Norwegian veterinarian who believed that demons are responsible for our illness and he had a way? of communicating with them. She had this dream (delusion) of sailing to Norway to meet him and cure her illness? In reality, she became too ill to travel very far. I knit her a small gnome which she kept with her at all times and I believe was cremated with her body. I stuffed a small, smooth, heart shaped beachrock into it. It's very stormy here today in Maine. We've had 3 bad storms in 3 weeks. Roads washing out, wharves and small buildings floating away, power outages. I taught kindergarten for 25 years with a huge break inbetween after first 5 years. Mellie and I were supposed to do things together when I retired. She died in January and I retired the following June. She was a gardener by career. Now I work with plants during the growing season, basically watering and weeding them to earn some $. I was surprised the yarrow you and Bendik picked was so green. Mine was pretty dead looking at the time you made that video, I think. Didn't mean to write a book. Love and peace.

Oh Maria, I don't think a KZread video has made me cry before. It is so difficult to lose someone young, and when you are young yourself it really takes a piece out of your soul. It is so hard to believe what has happened, and it is so final, and it really does make you feel like life is upside down. As Queen Elizabeth said when Princess Diana died "Grief is the price we pay for love." We humans are made to love, we can be at our best when we love, and we have a very deep human experience when we lose someone close. I think it makes us more human too, to feel so deeply. I sense in this video your cat knew that YOU needed attention and TLC. I know you were very tired after all the long touring, and obviously you were away in Bergen for Christmas. And on top of it to be in a car accident. You and Bendik may be okay, but as someone who has done massage for decades I know that the memory lodges in your tissues, so if you can, get a massage or two to help release the shock from your body. And perhaps it will ease your entire being at this sad time too. Yes, the car is just a "thing", but that is a loss, too, on another level. I am sending you a big warm hug, my heart is with you at this really difficult time. And may your heart know what a blessing it was to have someone in your life who you loved so well so as to mourn so deeply. Much love to you.

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Janina for your empathy and your kind words. I feel them

@janinafisher101

6 ай бұрын

@Mariaandtheforest Excellent that your mom gave you a massage. You may beed more than one - but is she in Bergen? I'm assuming that is fairly far from you, but I don't know why I'm thinking so. All I know is you are somewhere in the south. Give yourself lots of mental and energetic space. From my experience it takes about a year for that sharp sense of shock and disbelief to soften its edges, and begin to shift to acceptance. (My best friend from high school committed suicide when we were 39, and she left 4 kids ages 2 to 10.) Do lots of self care. I find journalling my feelings helps get them out of my head. If you have heard of the book "The Artist's Way" by Julia Cameron, she recommends "Morning Pages" - 3 pages of stream-of-consciousness writing, by hand, every morning before you do anything. I try to do this every day (I've done it off and on for 30 years), and a day started with Morning Pages is always a better day. Somehow my mind becomes clearer, and I am able to let go of the previous day's energy, and start this day fresh and open. Just let yourself feel what you are feeling. I do think you are doing that. Sending healing hugs, and always much love. As I think you know, I feel a special connection with you, and I love the connection you give me with Norway, too. 💞

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nydelig filming, vakker film, Mariamin.

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Takk mor

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Sorry for your loss. When someone young leaves us, it seems so unfair. Your cat is a great comfort. Can I ask what happened to your cat with the one back leg. 😢 ❤

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

Thank you

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A friend lost her husband of 47 years just before Thanksgiving. Here are her thoughts... The video is haunting. So starkly beautiful and sad. And the poem is so beautifully written - I listened to it twice, and will probably listen to it many more times. It resonates very much with the ups and downs and the moments that you are “ ambushed by grief”. There is so much truth in the poets thoughts about this experience. The regrets, the anger, the sadness, the moments we relive of the good and bad times… it’s like a reel in my head of memories. It’s exhausting sometimes, and the business and the distraction of the holidays is over, and there is nothing more now to do but just let it happen.

@Mariaandtheforest

6 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear about your friends loss. Grateful that the poem could resonate with her too the way it did for me. That means a lot

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