The terminally ill Regina C. finds help from a professional companion for dying | DW Documentary

Dying - it’s not an easy conversation for most. Regina Ciriack, who is terminally ill, has a hard time discussing the topic with her family. A professional companion for the dying helps her.
In the beginning, Regina’s primary response was fear. Fear of dying. The Berliner had already dealt with a lot: Lung cancer, a brain tumour. But there is no cure for the lung disease COPD. The alveoli in the lungs are destroyed; the lung capacity decreases; breathlessness and panic attacks follow - and in the end, death. The 67-year-old wants to make the most of her last months, and to make her own decisions on what happens to her and when. Her husband and children support her as much as they can. But Regina also wants a professional death companion at her side. Someone who has already seen what’s in store for her and can take away her fear of death. A report by Sylvia Wassermann.
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  • @Fatma-mx6cc
    @Fatma-mx6cc Жыл бұрын

    I’m terminally ill myself, and this is a great video! I’ve been lucky enough to go through the grieving process of my own death. It’s always hard at first, then it gets easier to accept and can even become a beautiful process. It’s always nice if those around you can accept it too, but that’s not always true, everyone is different. My father won’t accept I’m dying, acts as if nothing is wrong with me, he just can’t deal with it. I have had help with lots of grief counseling and that is where I get my support, thank God for these people!!!!

  • @nadiaborges.

    @nadiaborges.

    Жыл бұрын

  • @tektitictielll8418

    @tektitictielll8418

    Жыл бұрын

  • @papi7260

    @papi7260

    Жыл бұрын

    I wish you a peaceful passing. All the best for you and your family.

  • @W1433LA

    @W1433LA

    8 ай бұрын

    Sending you lots of love god bless you ❤

  • @lyrooo326
    @lyrooo326 Жыл бұрын

    Everyone deserves love, compassion and kindness especially at the end of their lives.

  • @margodphd

    @margodphd

    9 ай бұрын

    No, not everyone. Being old or infirm doesn't undo the harm done, doesn't change what the person did when they were alive. We are professional towards pedophiles, murderers but nothing more.

  • @KeliK1
    @KeliK1 Жыл бұрын

    I like Regina's way of thinking. I'm like her. No need to torture yourself. What should happen will happen. Live life well and forget the rest. When it's almost time to "go", don't make your love ones suffer about it. Death is part of life and shouldn't be scary. It should be accepted and dealt with positively if there is no other alternative.

  • @littleredrose6254

    @littleredrose6254

    Жыл бұрын

    Well said.

  • @5422074
    @5422074 Жыл бұрын

    DW, please never stop making your documentaries, they are amazing!!

  • @MDobri-sy1ce
    @MDobri-sy1ce Жыл бұрын

    I have taken and plan on taking more bereavement and end of life courses after my uncle and grandfather passed away. However, instead of feeling worse it helped in the healing process and in turn I was able to help other family members.

  • @julie-nw6ql
    @julie-nw6ql Жыл бұрын

    I admire Regina , for inviting us into her home and sharing her thoughts on dying , thank you 🙌❣️

  • @Urgleflogue
    @Urgleflogue Жыл бұрын

    Very touching and also discussing an important aspect of life - death. Everyone should have the oppotunity to leave this life painless, in dignity and peace. Nice work, DW!

  • @silversurfer8237
    @silversurfer8237 Жыл бұрын

    A great documentary. With the progress in society, dying with dignity is an important topic that requires discussion.

  • @DWDocumentary

    @DWDocumentary

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for watching and taking the time to share your thoughts:)

  • @Ukie88
    @Ukie88 Жыл бұрын

    In Canada a death companion is called a Death Doula. From birth doula to death doula, the cycle of life.

  • @werbnaright5012
    @werbnaright5012 Жыл бұрын

    Hospice is a wonderful thing. It allows for a peaceful, comfortable death. I just wish there were more beds available. Healthcare needs to he fully funded in all countries.

  • @cheri238
    @cheri238 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for showing those with compassion and love. ❤

  • @DWDocumentary

    @DWDocumentary

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment.

  • @TranNguyenVungLay
    @TranNguyenVungLay Жыл бұрын

    I always love DW Documentary because you make the good topic about our humanity. Thanks ♥️

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    @DWDocumentary

    Жыл бұрын

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  • @ksidnfurnekaoajdbdjfkn
    @ksidnfurnekaoajdbdjfkn11 ай бұрын

    This compassionate and sensitive documentary sheds light on a difficult but essential topic - death and dying. It follows Regina Ciriack's journey as she faces her terminal illness with courage and a desire to make the most of her remaining time. An inspiring and thought-provoking story that encourages meaningful discussions about life's final chapter.thank you for the chance you gave to think about this topic

  • @dekev7503
    @dekev7503 Жыл бұрын

    As an African, I cannot understand for the life of me how Europeans can just leave their elderly parents when they need them the most 😢. At this stage of her life she should be surrounded by multiple generations of her descendants. At least her husband is still in her life.

  • @wangariwairimu1st

    @wangariwairimu1st

    Жыл бұрын

    You're right...here in Africa we stay with our grandparents untill the end😢 ..crazy how life is different for other people across the world

  • @anyaboscovich7938

    @anyaboscovich7938

    Жыл бұрын

    Well. It's the cost of living in our society. In my city, $100k / year is barely enough to survive. Expect to live in a tiny home. Not be able to have time off. I can barely take care of myself

  • @wangariwairimu1st

    @wangariwairimu1st

    Жыл бұрын

    @@anyaboscovich7938 fully understandable...in this capitalism systems people are literally paying to live!

  • @iLilith11

    @iLilith11

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@anyaboscovich7938 100K a year wow 😅😮😮 that's tons of money 💰... I'm shocked you say that's barely enough... 😑

  • @anyaboscovich7938

    @anyaboscovich7938

    Жыл бұрын

    @@iLilith11 a 500sq foot home in my city is an easy 520k lol. A home that isn't water dmged, or in a crime area. Rent for the same is an easy $1700/mth. Nvm trying to buy groceries, education, save for down payment. Babies? Retirement? Pipedream. Lol

  • @muhammadakram4303
    @muhammadakram4303 Жыл бұрын

    Hats off for the Lady for facing death boldly. Otherwise we mortals have inherent fear of death. Thank you DW for making such an exclusive documentary ❤❤❤.

  • @realstud7552
    @realstud7552 Жыл бұрын

    RIP Regina

  • @sundayhare9323
    @sundayhare9323 Жыл бұрын

    I am at this moment in EOL Doula training. Thank you for this video. It is beautiful and full of so many of the moments that I am learning are so importaint to the Client. I am so happy that Regina had Martina to talk to about her feelings and process. Part of the total pain approach that is so important to companion/doula care.

  • @DWDocumentary

    @DWDocumentary

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts on this :)

  • @kristensorensen2219
    @kristensorensen2219 Жыл бұрын

    My 91 year old mom has COPD too. She is at home because I'm here too. This is a disturbing sales job for relying on the government. This woman is in better shape than my mom. Stop running away from the end. It catches everyone. Too bad the party isn't held for the living while they are still alive.🤷

  • @NS-xt5wv
    @NS-xt5wv Жыл бұрын

    Such a wonderful, selfless lady, full of bravery and positive attitude 💖 That’s the way to go 🥹

  • @hammurabigaming9730

    @hammurabigaming9730

    Жыл бұрын

    Let’s see how many subscribers I can gain from this comment currently at 85 Goal 100

  • @uamiable
    @uamiable Жыл бұрын

    What a successful death, what a woman! Such acceptance and ease. 🙏

  • @Maria-rn9vj
    @Maria-rn9vj Жыл бұрын

    So heartbreaking ..😔

  • @davidnl1579
    @davidnl157910 ай бұрын

    I’m Polynesian and we house our elderly till end of life. Guess different ethnicities have a different way of loving their parents. We make sure our elderly parents/grandparents are loved and we are around till they pass on.

  • @LifeofWalk
    @LifeofWalk Жыл бұрын

    I want to live before I die

  • @krazYFaic
    @krazYFaic Жыл бұрын

    I wish we could talk more openly about death. Instead, we try to avoid any discussion and so no solution is found other than just to let people waste away and, in many cases, suffer until the end. We disguise it as "love" but I see it as selfishness. It's saying, "Just suffer there in your incurable state for months or years because I'd be hurt for a few days if you're gone.". This is a start, but I wish we could all die at our own time of choosing with dignity.

  • @elainegoad9777
    @elainegoad9777 Жыл бұрын

    Nice she has a "volunteer" visitor friend because a volunteer cares. If a person is paid, it's their job. I did visiting pet therapy during the 1990's and had 4 therapy dogs that brought such joy to residents in long term care facilities.

  • @mohammedsaysrashid3587
    @mohammedsaysrashid3587 Жыл бұрын

    Another wonderful documentary video shared by an excellent DW documentary channel...shows humanity's deals through humanity perspective & humanity kindness to the ward's elder individuals beneath the population.. 7:00

  • @joycedurham1729
    @joycedurham1729 Жыл бұрын

    Beautiful documentary

  • @DWDocumentary

    @DWDocumentary

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment. Be sure to check out our channel for more content.

  • @W1433LA
    @W1433LA8 ай бұрын

    Rest in peace sweet angel ❤

  • @abhikghosh6110
    @abhikghosh6110 Жыл бұрын

    It's so amazing all this is covered by healthcare insurance. Lucky Europe.

  • @igor-yp1xv
    @igor-yp1xv Жыл бұрын

    Wish everybody get the chance to say good bye like this. Very poignant.

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    Understanding the issues and how far towards the wrong path we've diverted. Decreasing our footprint and growing resilient to failures of civilizations that fell when refusing to acknowledge mistakes. History isn't for decoration but a tool to better our world.

  • @jayk5549
    @jayk5549 Жыл бұрын

    Beautiful

  • @MonikaBardell
    @MonikaBardell Жыл бұрын

    Its true, there realy is no practical help and your kids get uncomfy when you wanna talk about it.

  • @rayrous8229
    @rayrous8229 Жыл бұрын

    I've been thinking about being an end of life companion. I wonder how much training I need in the states. ?

  • @ronalddesiderio7625
    @ronalddesiderio7625 Жыл бұрын

    Life. Enjoy the ride till the end❤

  • @kforest2745
    @kforest2745 Жыл бұрын

    Respect nature and there is no fear that simple

  • @UnworthySubject

    @UnworthySubject

    Жыл бұрын

    All creatures big and small

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    It's time to understand of the opportunities we have in our grasp. The will of the people is stronger than that of the government that's placed there to help lead the country. Let's not forget the world is watching. It'll be interesting to see how we go forward in such a pivotal moment. Never underestimate greed.

  • @janetginty1847
    @janetginty184710 ай бұрын

    I don't want to have my family involved but i live on my own and I have copd i dread getting worse and I know i will

  • @DrDMM23
    @DrDMM23 Жыл бұрын

    Her kids just abandoned her like that? 😐

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    We should at the very least figure out a way to better understand ourselves. Growing up with a small friend group might feel safe but it can delay our growth. Depending on how we view the world and our hobbies. We might find ourselves inside a bubble that will only become harder to leave as time goes by.

  • @saul.t.2.969
    @saul.t.2.969 Жыл бұрын

    I really liked this video. But, I’d really like to know the name of the organization. In America it’s very hard to get the spelling of the ‘End of life’ company. I’d really like to contact the organization.

  • @barbarapiazza-georgi3831

    @barbarapiazza-georgi3831

    Жыл бұрын

    It's a branch of the Order of Malta. The documentary said Malteser International, but that can't be true, since that branch is based in Germany but only works abroad. Malteser Deutschland has a "Hospizarbeit" program, that must be the one. You can google it. But it's specific to Germany, and all in German.... Unfortunately, AFAIK the USA branch of the Order of Malta does not do hospice work. But there are other organisations you can explore.

  • @ROYAL_REBEL
    @ROYAL_REBEL Жыл бұрын

    This is so poignant. 😥

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    Seems like thinking for ourselves is a thing of the past. We've allowed ourselves to be fed lies instead of being leaders. Those in positions of "power" need that nudge to correct themselves. We all fall short but with the proper understanding, marvelous achievements are possible.

  • @kenzierocks1240
    @kenzierocks12407 ай бұрын

    I just watched this. Did I understand her daughter to tell her mother “I dare to not live my life” as in “I dare to not be inconvenienced” - I had to go back a couple of times because at first I understood it as she knows her mother is dying so there’s no way she can go live her life. If I’m now understanding correctly, what a selfishly detached daughter! Creating additional worry for her dying mother. The Bible at 2 Timothy 3:1-5 speaks about what the world will be like in the last days and one of the indications is about having no natural affection. With the condition that this world is in, I’m convinced we’re living in the last days.

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    This is what makes or breaks a country. Internal conflicts tear nations in half and sometimes create completely new nations. We've gone through similar situations in history. There's nothing that stands in the way of change if people in "positions of power" take issues seriously.

  • @michaelfried3123
    @michaelfried3123 Жыл бұрын

    Rage at the dying of the light...

  • @TheStockwell

    @TheStockwell

    Жыл бұрын

    So spoke Dylan Thomas who, rather than raging at anything, drank himself to death at age 39. Irony can be so ironic!

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    Working isn't about filling large corporations pockets. It's about helping increase our understanding of the life we live. How the world is connected and changing rapidly. How we can reduce our footprint by cooperating and understanding instead of hostile takeovers and unfounded rethoric.

  • @lungilenyathi
    @lungilenyathi Жыл бұрын

    That’s truly a portable oxygen tank. I have to take a walk and go shopping with my client with half a metre cylinder of a tank …

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    We should be listening to what's being said instead of feeding on hate media tries to build up. These countries are well educated with insane amounts of understanding of geopolitics. Making educated decisions that benefit the region. The laws in these developing countries continue to be worked on and change has been increasingly supported by the population.

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    When we try to explain situations with information we've gathered. Bots and paid trolls come with useless statements that contain no information. With the intent to discredit what's being said. Always seeking how money will help our interests or future connections. The opponents tactics are always being refined and re-engineered. It's a game we must acknowledge takes place all around us and is built against the general public.

  • @JeffBilkins
    @JeffBilkins Жыл бұрын

    Here in the Netherlands you can setup a 'living testament' at the notary to establish and document your end of life arrangements. From basic stuff like if you'd want to be reanimated at all, or to assign people to legally represent you if you're incapacitated, but also the procedure to decide to 'pull the plug'. I can be though to define such things but it can save a lot of problems and suffering when the time is close.

  • @gerryhouska2859

    @gerryhouska2859

    Жыл бұрын

    In Australia this is called "Future Directive" and yes, I have one.

  • @JeffBilkins

    @JeffBilkins

    Жыл бұрын

    @@gerryhouska2859 "Future Directive" is a pretty good name for it.

  • @linehempel162

    @linehempel162

    3 ай бұрын

    You are incredibly lucky

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    Greed and envy persuade us to want. To undermine and deter anyone from having an equal life to ours because of differences. Different opinions, different beliefs which are insignificant since we're all human beings. When these poisonous thoughts are allowed to manifest themselves into our daily lifes and dreams it can desensitize us and cause us to ignore the most basic of human rights.

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    Workers are herds of farm animals to employers. What kind of living conditions can we expect in the future when we're seen as undesirables. Supressing discussions of poverty crisis until finally hitting home. Doesn't matter who we follow or what beliefs we carry. We've all been born into this world. Allowing ourselves to be pushed by a few should never be an option.

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    I've been seeing different ways in which past civilizations since the beginning of recorded history have advanced and how the ruling class would treat and use subjects. The same tactics can be seen today in various degrees all depending where you look.

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    Better working conditions are in fact a possibility. Time isn't valued the same when a small group controls majority of wealth. This wealth isn't spread evenly. Reducing the majority to fight each other over the crumbs these "Elite" allow to trickle down. The game will never stop transforming its increased hostility towards the general public.

  • @juliavanrun-kilic1744
    @juliavanrun-kilic1744 Жыл бұрын

    💝🙏🏻

  • @williamwilson6499
    @williamwilson6499 Жыл бұрын

    This is why you should never smoke, kids. Emphysema is a bish.

  • @globalcitizen49
    @globalcitizen49 Жыл бұрын

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    Populations can't survive when cooperation is punished and competition is seen as a threat. Undermining countries efforts for growth to ensure our positions. This isn't as much of an issue for them as it is for us. All they need to do is continue their efforts. While we'd need to take drastic measures to contain problems created when refusing to brainstorm before making policies.

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    Some folks are lost in the game of power and prestige, while others want possessions and material objects they think define us. It's important to reach out and not take part in the build up of hate towards our friends around the world. Wouldn't be surprised if some E.U. nations decided to take a neutral stance in upcoming conflicts.

  • @hidiyakikliuka2792
    @hidiyakikliuka2792 Жыл бұрын

    You call this people Enlighten,and realistic. In third world nations, they beg to live more,but I think they don't have the quality of life this Germans had,and readily able to die or leave

  • @UnworthySubject

    @UnworthySubject

    Жыл бұрын

    The game is made to make us believe lies. I'm glad you are seeing the world and how it truly works. God help you on your path.

  • @laurabiancadragomir7354
    @laurabiancadragomir7354 Жыл бұрын

    ❤❤❤

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    It's interesting how we call for democracy around the world. Some countries in question have made significant progress in terms of human rights unlike some western "democracies".

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    What's all that worth to countries with no infrastructure? With no way for wealth creation inside the country. Exploiting countries resources while shaping their government and laws to our own liking shouldn't be the norm. When countries are forced to choose : live under our feet or on the same level looking slightly up: It's an easy choice for most.

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    Our attention span has been severely altered to the point where information passes right by. We look but don't see, we hear but don't listen. We've become autonomous by design. This goes all the way back to schools and how we undervalue our teachers. The molders of our societies have been exhausted and worked to brink of failure. They've become autonomous themselves leading to an endless cycle.

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    The statements and accusations we hear about countries we call undemocratic are laughable. The insignificant issues we argue over are designed to keep us distracted from the real issues we face as nations. Makes one wonder how any politician in the west still has their job.

  • @sallyclay1974
    @sallyclay1974 Жыл бұрын

    Typos put and to

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    The arming of Ukraine was to ensure five E.U. nations stay. It was stated these nations investments into their security was necessary to maintain current global order. Ukraine is a tool to secure E.U. which is the last unipolar lifeline. - The Future of U.S. Foreign Policy: Conversation with Vice President Joe Biden

  • @gregorymalchuk272
    @gregorymalchuk272 Жыл бұрын

    I don't get why she wasn't put on the lung transplant list.

  • @ronleight9341

    @ronleight9341

    Жыл бұрын

    They would never survive the operation.

  • @liberoAquila

    @liberoAquila

    Жыл бұрын

    In Europe if you are old you get "written off" by the government.

  • @dubinatub1
    @dubinatub1 Жыл бұрын

    Professional distance,,, oh dear if this is true drive a truck

  • @49ccMopedWorld
    @49ccMopedWorld Жыл бұрын

    Gewoon hupakee...

  • @UnworthySubject
    @UnworthySubject Жыл бұрын

    The only democracies we bring are those that unite when outside powers want to intervene. Taking up arms against imperialist that intervene on sovereign land. We place sanctions on countries refusing to submit and obey as puppets then wonder why our interests and partners keep drifting further away towards a multi polar world.

  • @sallyclay1974
    @sallyclay1974 Жыл бұрын

    Because of technology, we can keep people on iLife support lingering between life and death. I think people who r terminal, should have an injection, to pug them yo sleep. Y prolong the inevitable ? They r suffering!

  • @skeptigal2785
    @skeptigal2785 Жыл бұрын

    Is this a job in America? Of course not!

  • @PastaMakerCordy-qy4uz

    @PastaMakerCordy-qy4uz

    10 сағат бұрын

    Yes it is.

  • @scorpion8375
    @scorpion8375 Жыл бұрын

    I can't imagine living with that thing in my head that soon I will die... Everything will end. And you have months or weeks... Terrible! As an atheist I'm accepting that fact that my story will end with my experiences - my genes will however still be there but me as me... That will end. Now I understand why peyat the end turn to imaginary things such as god's and religions... They are terrified... And loads of people are becoming lonely at the end. I understand why people turn to religion in their last moments but I cannot understand how some people using that religion to use those scared and terrified people at the end of their lives with their bullshit... Just my thoughts watching this...

  • @youngdegenerate1002

    @youngdegenerate1002

    Жыл бұрын

    Every night I go to sleep I say to myself I'm happy and I'm okay dying. It's same as being born

  • @scorpion8375

    @scorpion8375

    Жыл бұрын

    @@youngdegenerate1002 I thinkz that's the deepest answer anyone ever replied to me. Thank you, fellow human being. I will remember that answer for the rest of my life.

  • @iamanempoweredone6064
    @iamanempoweredone6064 Жыл бұрын

    This is a case for euthanasia

  • @moneyobsessed

    @moneyobsessed

    Жыл бұрын

    Euthanasia will come after our debt based welfare society will bankrupt. Baby boomers will reap the price for their actions, at least once

  • @Austin8thGenTexan

    @Austin8thGenTexan

    Жыл бұрын

    Quite the opposite, actually.

  • @kimkeck6266

    @kimkeck6266

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Austin8thGenTexan profoundly said!!🌺❤️✌️🇺🇸🌎🙏🙏🙏

  • @kirbles

    @kirbles

    Жыл бұрын

    The right to end one's life as one chooses is very important certainly, but I think the video also shows that people can drift off gracefully via natural means if they are made comfortable

  • @CalvinK300

    @CalvinK300

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Austin8thGenTexan I agree with you.

  • @lark6spur
    @lark6spur Жыл бұрын

    Add Americans to that list!

  • @jdmmg4904
    @jdmmg4904 Жыл бұрын