imagine calling people snowflake but get offended when people insult you.

@toastykitty1448

3 ай бұрын

Ain’t that the majority of people who call others ‘snowflakes’? They can ‘dish it’ but can’t take it.

@HeoBaby24

2 ай бұрын

@@toastykitty1448 yah that's what i said. she calling people snowflake but she's also getting all upset and offended when they continue dishing it out

@DocMartn253

2 ай бұрын

@@HeoBaby24 toastykittys statement went right over your head.

"Dragged harder than a toddler in a gorilla enclosure" is a wild comment to make 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭

The part that boils my piss in particular is that OP dances around the topic. The whole "they can't invite their boyfriend/girlfriend" line, the dancing around their gender thing, all of it is cowardice. She already knows she's in the wrong, but she wants to see if she can trick anyone by being vague about the truth

@lindah3803

3 ай бұрын

There's also the dress code: Women have to wear dresses,Men must wear suits.

@EclipseSeth

3 ай бұрын

She thinks that she is right as long as "politics" are not involved (sorry, I don't understand why people call it politics when it's just gender rights). Her fiancee is a red neck it seems, so she has the same opinions.

@gardenmedia1701

2 ай бұрын

I dont even care about all that obvious stuff, it's the fact she still had a huge grudge against the cousin despite them doing literally nothing the entire time. She crafted a conspiracy just because she was called out for being mean. THEN she threatened her own mother ontop of that! I net she did exactly what that one person said to do and threatened to hide the grandkids which is why the mother broke down. Image having to bully your own mother just because you dont want to say sorry for being a jerk.

@brycethebattlephoenix3720

2 ай бұрын

And my husband's brother "shares my value's"

I have bpd and can confirm one of our symptoms is "smashing wedding cakes"

@PeriwinklePig

3 ай бұрын

I imagine it goes down like a cat who knocks objects off of a shelf.

@NotAnIlluminatiSpy

3 ай бұрын

I hear you also have a very complex relationship with beaches.

She went out of her to invite other people right in front of her cousin. She wanted to have drama

@Raaslen

3 ай бұрын

Yep, she wanted to make a statement, she just didn't like that the rest of her family was actually decent people, unlike her.

She could have just said she didn't want to have them there because of how she was treated, not telling people her cousin is having a "mental" breakdown when they're just transgender

@M.W.2

3 ай бұрын

Bigots aren't often smart about it.

@SSFighter1701

3 ай бұрын

Exactly! The way OP went about her communication practically cornered the cousin and created the drama OP supposedly didn’t want…

@RoseKoneko

2 ай бұрын

Except the only response of what she’s done is that this one time when she was under twelve she pulled the heads off of her barbies. She kept telling about how this literal child would act… like a child. She’s had several posts to give an example, her only adult event was her cousin’s transition. She could have discreetly mailed the invitations, she specifically wanted to hurt her cousin by handing them out.

@gardenmedia1701

2 ай бұрын

She went so far as to threaten her own mother just so she didnt have to say sorry for being a jerk.

Op was the asshole through and through but I lost my mind when a comment said “get your money up transphobic Brokey.” I cackled and had to triple check my mute was on via my work phone 😂

Honestly op deserves to get justified roasted, for trickle-truthing, hiding the truth, deadnamig her cousin, misgender her cousin and taking the aunt's money while doing all of this to her cousin, Like everything else was already terrible enough but to put the cherry on top you took the money from your cousin's mom while doing/behaving like this towards them?!? Nope i feel no sympathy for op at all it's one thing not wanting someone at your wedding, but all of this and you took money from the cousin's parent while doing it, wow just wow.

@vanzy01

3 ай бұрын

💯👍🏿

@RedHatGuyYT

3 ай бұрын

yeah but doesn't brigading break both youtube and reddit tos?

@RequiemPoete

3 ай бұрын

What's brigrading.

@DraknusX

3 ай бұрын

@@RequiemPoete Brigading is the practice of purposely coordinating a bunch of people from one subreddit to go to a post on another subreddit and fill it with shit, usually hate comments, but sometimes just troll comments. It's generally frowned upon and violates the rules of most major subreddits. That being said, it's not considered brigading if people are just linking to another post from the OP and others are reacting to that post. A lot of time people throw the word around claiming they were brigaded when people are actually just following their post history and responding to that, which may be the case here.

@gardenmedia1701

2 ай бұрын

Honestly, it's the fact she held a grudge about that one barbie doll for over a decade and she couldnt come up with another reason to justify her "they crazy " argument. She even threatened her own mom instead of just apologizing. Which I'm guessing was worse than she let on. (Probably threatened to hide the grand kids.) I guess she thought if she apologized, nobody would belive her, like she didnt belive her cousin when they apologized to her. I wonder if she even told her cousin how she felt before then? Probably not. Which means they probably didnt apologize because of they didnt get invited to the wedding but because it's the 1st they're hearing about the grudge in nearly a decade of no contact. 😅

OP whent out of her way to get a shovel and started to diggin a hole, and then, when the hole was too deep for her to get out of it, she started accusing someone else of pushing her into the hole. Unsatisfied with all that, OP started to fill the hole with water, and then complained she was drowning.

@DiaDaDemon2455

3 ай бұрын

The best comment I've read today

My god, this woman is insufferable. Nothing is ever her fault. Perpetually a victim. Constantly passive aggressive. Deflect, deflect, deflect. Lie, lie, lie. 🙄

@vanzy01

3 ай бұрын

💯👍🏿

@experiencedotaku171

3 ай бұрын

​@@vanzy01question. Are you op's cousin?

@SSFighter1701

3 ай бұрын

@@experiencedotaku171Why? OP is definitely making this a bigger issue than it is.

@experiencedotaku171

3 ай бұрын

@@SSFighter1701 the Vanzy person is replying to every comment against op so i thought it'll be hilarious if that's op's cousin who found this video who's agreeing with everyone My defence: I like twists in stories

@SSFighter1701

3 ай бұрын

@@experiencedotaku171 Ah ok i gotcha

Pleaseeeee post more stories of op’s being in the wrong. They’re the best.

Okay Ngl for the first 11 minutes I could hear OP out but when she saw the cousin transitioning as her having a mental breakdown I was like, “okay here we go”

OP: "I don't want drama" (Proceeds to create the catalyst for drama) (Wedding gets cancelled) OP: OMG! this is all my cousin's fault

@Kumo5980

17 күн бұрын

Man don’t be surprised The finance dumped her over this drama Because the in laws would be like “the hells going on over there?!” Because the wedding cancellation this close really would sparks families talking

I’m four minutes in all of the behaviors she’s listed are so ridiculously spot on for a young kid dealing with gender dysphoria that this feels like rage bait… “she burst into tears when my mom gifted her a dress and wouldn’t tell anyone why,” sounds like the poor kid probably couldn’t figure out why they felt that way yet either and didn’t know how to express that. Trans kids, especially ones raised in homes where people who are different are never really discussed, often grow up without the vocabulary to express how they’re feeling. It’s just this overwhelming sense of “I feel wrong in my skin” and they don’t know how to identify that emotion, so they don’t know how to regulate it. It leads to them lashing out. A similar thing happens with children who receive really late autism diagnoses- they didn’t know what was wrong, so they never learned how to regulate it, and they don’t have the coping skills to navigate sensory overwhelm, so they can often seem lash out at people around them when they’re struggling. Children are still learning how to regulate their own emotions, they’re far from masters. I understand OP was a child too when this went down, but she’s an adult now. It sounds like her cousin did a whole lot of growing up while she did none.

@RequiemPoete

3 ай бұрын

About to say. I'm Cis male, with no degree in psychology, but even to me, "ripping the heads off barbie dolls, crying for no apparent reason at being g gifted a dress AND being upset at the beach ( where you'll be in some of the most gendered clothes ever) to me SCREAMS:"Hey? I'm going crazy being in this false skin!"

I wonder why OP never mentioned when the supposed 'drama' of the cousin happened? If this happened when they were between 6 and 12, this would make OP look very bad.

@RepellentJeff

3 ай бұрын

As if she doesn’t look reprehensible enough already? That would just be the cherry on top, at this point. 😂

@vanzy01

3 ай бұрын

💯👍🏿

@mylw4387

3 ай бұрын

She very briefly mentioned that her cousin moved away when they were both 12, so this must have happened between the ages of 6-12

@Only1199

3 ай бұрын

It either happened between those ages or maybe even younger seeing as how the cousin moved away at 12. The cousin has seemingly grown up, Op on the other hand still acts like a grouchy teenager

@gardenmedia1701

2 ай бұрын

Not to mention they had threatened their own mother, that I suspect had more to it than "stop choosing my cousin over me."

Do you like how she’s dancing around the fact that she didn’t want her there because she was trans? It sounds so much better than “because of her illness “ why the dress comment especially?

It's so funny how they keep blaming the cousin for everything and insist that they're actively going out their way to sabotage her day, when it doesn't seem like the cousin said or did anything aside from reject the invite lmaoo OP needs to get a grip

Notice how OP only says that her cousin "Changed her Apparence" but amost never tells us just what the change was. She was trying to make herself look like the victim.

how she was blaming her cousin for everything was pissing me off cause they quite literally did nothing wrong

@vanzy01

3 ай бұрын

💯👍🏿

@ae1103

21 күн бұрын

They barely did anything at all LMAOO. OP was sabotaging herself

she didnt think her cousin is posting mental health stuff because theyre aware that they struggled with some kind of mental illness in childhood?????

@boredpersonstory553

2 ай бұрын

OP didn't say she was smart and I don't think her family would object that

@blood4funfetti

2 ай бұрын

@@boredpersonstory553 tf did you just say to me 😭

@boredpersonstory553

2 ай бұрын

@@blood4funfetti 🤣 just saying OP isn't the brightness bulbs in the box

@blood4funfetti

2 ай бұрын

@@boredpersonstory553 Ok

So what if the cousin at the time changed her look, her name and dated a guy, so what if the cousin reinvented herself, yeah the cousin may have used to have been a brat but people change as they get older, OP just comes off as jealous that the cousin changed and grew up and op is stuck being a grouchy teenager. OP can’t expect to exclude one person but still expect others to come especially those close to the person excluded then throw a temper tantrum when they refuse to attend. Doesn’t want her cousin attending but happy to take aunts money, the greed of op is unbound.

When they kept insisting that their cousin was female every chance they got I knew they were being a major bigot

@RandomTrinidadian

3 ай бұрын

Also... she only says her cousin "Changed her Appareance" but state just what that change was.

@Raaslen

3 ай бұрын

That and always getting defensive when people mentioned anithing about sexuality.

I'm trans and LOL, why is the Op so scared a person expressing themselves in a harmless way??? The trans cousin is literally just living their life and OP is so pissed.

The meltdowns and “ruining her life” examples are mild at absolutely worst. Even without the potential mental health and gender dysphoria aspects to cousin’s story creating more nuance to OP’s YTA judgment, that she’s assuming adult cousin will act the exact same way as 12 year old cousin is insane. Edit: the comment about cousin always being a brat and STILL pointedly misgendering them, on top of blaming them for ruining her day when in reality she just couldn’t afford it. Like. REALLY OP?!?!!

"Get your money up, transphobic brokey" damn 💀

@vanzy01

3 ай бұрын

😂

'You only apologized to me because you weren't invited to my wedding!' 'And you're only apologizing to me for not inviting me to the wedding because you won't be able to afford it if you don't.'

as a trans guy myself, this is extremely common for transmascs and nonbinaries to be regarded as mentally ill women as opposed to the genders we are

@RequiemPoete

3 ай бұрын

brigadier. But isn't that true? If we allow trans men to exist, how will I, a conservative man, include you into my fetishized view of trans women so I can still claim to be a heterosexual male.

@lemonz0880

3 ай бұрын

That's so fked. you don't deserve that mess.

@DiaDaDemon2455

3 ай бұрын

Dude, sending hugs your way. If you're comfortable with that.

@mantelumgamingloilol123

2 ай бұрын

What’s a transmasc Edit: nvm I figured it out

@elleharkness8254

2 ай бұрын

Yay! Another person who uses trans guy. ...hi.

The second she said 'transgenderism', that pretty much confirmed her bigotry. I've literally never heard anyone use that word except transphobes. That along with calling them a 'Tomboy' pretty much sealed her fate.

@pancakearcade

2 ай бұрын

fr. the only people who say "transgenderism" are transphobes or us trans folks when we're making fun of transphobes, and it's clear where op falls by her treatment of alex and the way she talks about their identity

@gardenmedia1701

2 ай бұрын

Well, theres also people who just dont know. I faught online with a bunch of idiots about how stupid it is to get pissed off about people using cisgender "because it's not my pronoun." When they dont even know what pronouns are. And I used transgenderism then, until someone pointed out to me why that's a stupid term.

the number of times OP addressed her cousin female despite them changing their name and shaving their hair is astounding. It's preeeetty obvious what OP's feelings were lmao

Castiel fangirl? I had to go back and listen again. If you know anything about Supernatural fandom the amount of fanfic out there...this person is hilariously clueless

@verakrot

2 ай бұрын

Being spn fan and transphobic is so funny to me. It's like this show accidentally got their target audience instead of classic fandom crowd

@catsncrows

2 ай бұрын

@@verakrot Ikr? My brain had a small meltdown because I was listening to this while I was doing chores. I was waitaminute what?!

So you are judging your cousin based on what she did as a kid? People change and she apologised. It's your choice as it's your wedding, but you should accept that people won't be happy with her not being invited.

@icycookie810

3 ай бұрын

Also from the examples they gave as their cousin being awful as a kid sounded like to me at least a kid going through what was probably major body dysmorphia, getting upset as a dress cause it reminded them they weren’t born in the body they wanted, not wanting to have “girly toys” and going out of their way to destroy them, and wanting to go to the beach but at the same time not wanting to as they would be put into a feminine bathing suit most likely

@notareallifetiger4817

3 ай бұрын

@@icycookie810omg I’m trans too and I didn’t even catch that but you’re so right!!

She always starts the drama ....but op was the one who handed out invites in person in front of her . Op starts blaming everyone but herself....too poor to get married ... Really . You can go to the court house and then use that money for a party ...he'll make it pot luck . You're getting married for love . Having a nice wedding is wonderful, but if you're not willing to go in to debt then don't ask others to pay for it . She's knows she is in the wrong or she wouldn't have danced around the issue. She's the one who is mentally ill and bratty

Contrary to popular opinion you don't have to agree with it, but at least treat your cousin with respect and accept their choices. And, don't have a wedding you can't afford 🤦🏽‍♂️ That OP's a train wreck

@oonachestnut509

3 ай бұрын

Right! She's holding a grudge for something that happened 13 years ago. She also keeps saying she's mentally ill but hasn't been around her to know. I think she's saying she's mentally ill because of her sexuality also. Op is just wrong all around.

@vanzy01

3 ай бұрын

💯👍🏿

@HeoBaby24

3 ай бұрын

seriously. she hates barbies. she hates dresses and for some reason that's her being mentally ill?

Listening to the update: she’s still calling Alex mentally ill, Alex has barely said anything through all these posts and yet it’s their fault? This OP is so self centered and I think the fiancé started to see the truth about who he was going to marry. If I was OPs mother wouldn’t fund it either. She made a comment about how the mother taught her BUT clearly Op didn’t listen and chose to be a transphobic asshole.

OP's lesson here should've been: "Play stupid games, win stupid prizes." But, she's so woefully unapologetic, ignorant, and selfish that I doubt it sunk in.

OP wrote Harry Potter

Op is a horrible person. Hope the fiance figures this out and leaves. Also she becomes the black sheep of the family.

@pancakearcade

2 ай бұрын

considering she said her fiancé's brother "shares similar values to [her & her fiancé]," i highly doubt her fiancé is going anywhere, despite her toxic behavior

I know a kid who is trans - and they were very angry before they admitted that they were trans. Once that they admitted that their actual gender was different from their biological sex they lost all that anger. I wonder how the OP would feel if everyone insisted she was a male when she knew she was a woman? But everyone insisted on calling her 'he', used the wrong name and insisted that they never wear dresses? Oh, and called her severely mentally ill when she insisted that she was female? OP is a huge AH and a whiner.

@douglasluiz2225

3 ай бұрын

You know a kid that needs therapy point. Stop this madness and stop abusing kids

@MrXhojn

3 ай бұрын

​@@douglasluiz2225...Until that therapist recommends the kid be allowed to start transitioning because it's the currently recommended course of action by the APA. Then you'll never take that kid back to therapy because you "know better".

@Only1199

3 ай бұрын

@@douglasluiz2225How is Schweighsr abusing kids?

@DanaTheInsane

3 ай бұрын

@@douglasluiz2225 the only person here who needs therapy is you.

@DanaTheInsane

3 ай бұрын

@@douglasluiz2225 abuse is not letting your kid be who they are forcing them to be somebody else. I had to deal with that until I was 35 and I realize that what my mother wanted and who I was had nothing in common the only one hurting children is you.

Story 1: I get not liking something someone did as a kid but they (I got to the end and found they are likely non-binary) ain't a kid anymore get over it

"Get your money up, Transphobic Brokie" 😂😂😂

I haven’t seen too many comment (see: none at all) mentioning the intersectionality in the wedding OP’s bigotry regarding her trans and possibly mentally ill cousin, so I guess I’ll throw my two cents in. I’m no expert, though, just some guy with thumbs. Demonizing mental illness, esp personality disorders like BPD, shows you who people really are. Granted, OP was also a child and didn’t understand what was going on with her cousin either, but to have all the puzzle pieces as an adult (the cousin posting about BPD, seeming to have better relationships, and being trans) yet still somehow missing the picture?? There’s so many layers to the many problems there. Demanding surveillance on what you THINK has eViL biPoLaR diSeAsE as if they’re a menace to society solely by POSSIBLY being mentally ill?? Being transphobic and using BPD as your weapon against your trans cousin?? Comparing transition to a psychotic break?? The dramatic main character syndrome regarding the troubled child OP’s cousin used to be while also willfully leaving out details that she knows will look bad (bc they ARE bad)?? Like, I get it. Victim of childhood abuse by someone with NPD here and reporting for duty. I know personally how mental illness affects kids, just as many people do. It’s not easy to live with someone with BPD or NPD or with a Schizophrenic disorder or someone with OCD or autism or depression or anxiety or legitimately psychotic or sociopathic. The part that people refuse to give a fuck about is how disabled people get abused and/or killed out the fucking wahzoo; abused by our family, abused by our peers, abused by teachers and classmates, by doctors, by the police, and by the government. And it’s not just accepted, but encouraged. It’s revenge on us for being **checks notes** …unwell. Disabled POC, disabled queer people, disabled addicts, disabled vets, disabled women, disabled homeless people- all those people, whether from birth or by later circumstance, end up being abused because of their disability. Not to mention the other qualities that leads society to hate them. It must have taken that whole span of time between when they last met for OP’s cousin to either get treatment if they are indeed mentally ill in some way, or just to finally feel comfortable in themselves and begin transitioning (which speaking from experience again, can truly heal the things that made you a “troubled teenager” and lead you forwards into a content adulthood.) The root of truly becoming an ally to disabled people is accepting that 1. Disability isn’t criminal activity for fucks sake, 2. That yes, shocker, people can change, probably because they’re on meds and/or in therapy now, and even if you’re angry with them for how they’ve treated you… and 3. the worst one to people like OP: you’re not some exacter of revenge disguised as justice against “the evil psychos” lurking out in the world. Like my god people. At first I had wanted to maybe comment on the transphobia, but the rest of y’all have got it covered honestly. I think sometimes ppl don’t know what to say regarding mental illness and ableism, so I went for the details of how that damn OP went and showed us all a great example of intersectionality, seen here as transphobia and ableism combined.

@pancakearcade

2 ай бұрын

yeah, op really decided to show her entire ass with deadnaming and misgendering her cousin constantly AND being all 'well [alex] has The Evil BPD so [they'll] smash my cake and interrupt my vows' and showing she thinks folks w/ bpd are completely incapable of behaving themselves. and then her transphobic, ableist ass can't accept that she ruined her own wedding by being transphobic and ableist

Possible newest update: Fiancé broke up with OP after a two week cruise they already had planned prior to drama. Summed up, he couldn’t handle her “crazy” relatives

@Kumo5980

17 күн бұрын

Knew this would happen All because of she refuse to invite a relative that I can tell She just never liked her to begin with

Wow that op sucks. She continually calls her cousin she throughout the entire post. It was painful to listen to

OP danced around the topic so much. I hope she never has kids bc they'll ultimately get hurt by her and her husband.

Sheesh she's really doing everything in her power to obfuscate the fact that she is just transphobic and doesn't want her cousin there because it "goes against her values". I haven't even finished yet, but it's so obvious just how much she's leaving out. Also, who gets upset about someone posting about mental health awareness?? That floored me

@Joeylikesgames-ku9mx

Ай бұрын

Yea if you notice during one of the updates the op makes sure to refer to alex as "female cousin" in sentences were saying what gender they are has no effect on the context other than it being a possible dig at the cousin

I get this is a small thing, but the poster of this video ALSO used the wrong pronouns for the title of this video and the introduction.

@uwetheiss970

3 ай бұрын

That got me confused at first. I thought it is about a transwomen. Only after the first part I got it is the other way around.

Op handled this in a way that basically said f### u right to the cousins face and expected it to go well with the cousin and the family

Had she just left it at being abused when they were kids it would have helped her cause but she couldnt sht up huh 😂😅

this CastielFangirl brings shame on all castiel fangirls. this is sickening lmao

@fangirl3086

2 ай бұрын

My thoughts exactly! Cas and Misha would never!

@Only1199

2 ай бұрын

Definitely OP’s alt account lmao

1. You don’t have to invite specific people to your wedding, but you gotta accept the consequences. It’s like being trans as well. There’s still transphobic people out there and that comes with being trans whether you like it or not. It’s your decision in the end 2. If you’re gonna be transphobic, can you maybe not hide behind “well they did this back in preschool”. You just sound fake. As a trans person, I’d rather deal with someone whose outwardly transphobic

@jackchop1576

3 ай бұрын

Sounds like her cousin is a personal hero of yours. I'm not sure how you can feel included by bullying people that don't want you somewhere into being forced into inviting you but whatever works for you.

@etherialrose7990

3 ай бұрын

@@jackchop1576The only people asking for Op to invite the cousin is op’s mom and the mom and siblings of the cousin. Op clearly doesn’t want the cousin there and shouldn’t be forced to invite her by family member but it seems like the reason she’s leaving out Alex is because she hates them. It seems everyone else in the family is accepting of the cousins identity except op.

@vanzy01

3 ай бұрын

💯👍🏿

@Only1199

3 ай бұрын

@@etherialrose7990then op shouldn’t be accepting funding from mommy and aunty if she doesn’t want to be forced to invite someone she clearly hates to a wedding she can’t afford to fund on her own. Oh but that’s right she can’t afford her wedding without their financial assistance.

@etherialrose7990

3 ай бұрын

@@Only1199 Mom was a super asshole for threatening to withhold funds but she’s a bigger asshole for not sticking to her guns when confronted by her daughter. She has the backbone of wet tissue paper

Damn, op in story 1 is nuts. I mean, she has the right to invite, uninvite or just straight up not invite whoever she wants. And mum and aunt shouldn't try forcing it, regardless of OPs reasons. But at the same time, she cant expect to get away scot free either for how she treats her cousin and why. Unpopular opinion, but i think reddit is going to far here as well. In a perfect world, everyone would accept everyone, but this world isnt perfect. I honestly think that if you dont accept something, you should at least be able to tolerate it. but you can't force it. If you do try to force it, it breeds even more resentment, fueling the anger of both sides even more

@MrXhojn

3 ай бұрын

I'm pretty sure her family were being reasonable. The aunt just watched her kid get humiliated by OP in front of the entire family by publicly excluding them, deadnaming them, calling them mentally unstable, and just other nasty shit. At that point, the aunt's response seems calm.

@Eldritch-1

3 ай бұрын

She's taking money from her cousins mom and then excludes the cousin? definitely an ahole move and they should just get marrried at city hall instead of being leeches.

Op acts like a kid

Somebody had a problem when they were a kid. There’s a whole lot more here going on then meet the eye

Idk. I have a lot of thoughts about this…

I wouldn't even bother inviting a single person I don't want to my wedding. Why is this family and reddit so hell bent on bullying OP in story 1 into inviting someone she hates??

@Kris-wo4pj

3 ай бұрын

Cuz shes being a bigot. Its obvious shes also crazy. The cousin was 5-12 get over it. Theyre all in their 20s. Yet shes acting like her cousin is 12 again. Also shes calling a trans person mental for being trans and going by a name she prefers.

@etherialrose7990

3 ай бұрын

I don’t think Reddit is insistent on her inviting the cousin, they’re just pointing out that the OP is being bigoted towards the cousin in some fashion. Also specifying the gender based dress code is a bit weird if she isn’t being bigoted towards the cousin

@Kris-wo4pj

3 ай бұрын

Shes being a bigot and shes lying on reddit. Everyone is going to drag her for it.

@vanzy01

3 ай бұрын

Opie wants her money but don't want to invite her aunt child. She's just a bridezilla who don't want to pay for her own wedding.

@M.W.2

3 ай бұрын

Op can invite who she wants but it's sketchy of her to try to hard to be covert bigot, telling Reddit is a mental illness and BPD because someone is trans. I would let her share a few days with someone with true BPD to put things into perspective

Idk Tbere have been other stories where ppl have not invited others to the wedding,and reddit has whole heartedly supported them idk whats the differences here

@MrBell-iq3sm

3 ай бұрын

Because the not inviting part itself is the least important aspect of these stories. It's just the surface.

@PeriwinklePig

3 ай бұрын

The reasoning behind it. Other ops usually had more reasonable justifications for not inviting certain people, often because of the relative's behavior (ie, addiction, unchecked mental illness, entitlement, etc) whereas this OP seems to be bigoted towards their trans cousin, and bigotry just isn't a good look. Also, whilst OP tries to paint their cousin as unstable to justify it, their pussy-footing around certain questions regarding the cousins gender identity, paint their transitioning as them suffering from "BDP," and the fact the most concrete bad behavior they mention was from when they were _children_ makes them seem... unreliable.

@vanzy01

3 ай бұрын

​@@PeriwinklePig💯👍🏿

@Only1199

3 ай бұрын

Difference is those OP’s still had semblance of contact with those people, op in this hasn’t spoken to the cousin but stalks her social media, and is taking money from her mom and aunt to fund a wedding she can’t afford without help and refused to downscale said wedding even if mom and aunt withdrew funding.

@HeoBaby24

3 ай бұрын

big difference those op had actually good reason op barely speaks to the cousins and had no reason

I think you have the right to invite who you want to your wedding where you messed up is you had other people helping you pay for your wedding as far as whether or not you like your cousin because she’s a transgender or not is neither here nor there is your wedding. You can invite who you want. That’s the purpose of the whole thing to the people that love and want to spend that special day with don’t pay attention to other people who are in their feelings because they feel like you don’t like transgender whether you like them or not that’s your prerogative and you do not have to explain it to anyone, I don’t see anyone questioning white people that don’t like Black people

whats an op

@SecretVoices25

3 ай бұрын

Original poster

Honestly, aunt should have never offered financial assistance knowing that her sister and the OP did not approve of the aunts trans child. The mom sounds like a real massive hypocrite for raising the OP in a certain religion with certain beliefs and then expecting her to just drop all that because it’s her sister’s kid. Well, that’s not how it works. OPs mom has now lost her sister forever because her daughter believed what the mom taught her

@HeoBaby24

3 ай бұрын

i think the aunt didn't know that they didn't like rhe cousin.till that gathering.

So delusional.

OP's only mistake as far as I can see is expecting the best out of people which is expecting everyone to understand when she openly uninvited her cousin. She should've secretly try to find any family member that wouldn't take her cousin's side to act as secret security or/and plan to hire security before openly inviting everyone. And if the (added) security is in question, she can just tell people it's for their own protection. And if she wants her family to follow dress codes, she should ask them if they could follow her wedding's dress codes and that it's just only her wedding, nowhere else. "Could you do this for me please?"

@vaseline69

Ай бұрын

or perhaps she shouldn't have spent weeks dead naming the cousin and expecting a trans man to wear a dress

ok, jk rowling.

@Leviathan399

Ай бұрын

Wow what a diss

It's genuinely nice to find a youtube channle you like is supportive and respectful of the trans and NB community, taking care not to dead name or misgender (it shouldn't have to be a suprise but unfortunately I'm from the UK, so transphobia is the baseline)

NTA she only wants to go to your wedding to keep up her reputation she could have talked and vistied you before

Well I don’t like transgender as well but I won’t judge a person I just have different views

@Eldritch-1

3 ай бұрын

I don't like bigots and judge them relentlessly

@SXLLYSTRXNG

2 ай бұрын

Ew. Just eww… don’t be surprised when people don’t wanna associate with u dude

@izumiuchiha1234

2 ай бұрын

@@SXLLYSTRXNG lol I don’t even hate transgender I think it’s illogical! But that’s my views but here you are with your butt hurt and crying, you guys are a cult hating someone for having opinions!!!

@izumiuchiha1234

2 ай бұрын

@@SXLLYSTRXNG lol I just have an opinion but you still hating on me ?

@vaseline69

Ай бұрын

@@izumiuchiha1234 its not an opinion, it is bigotry, would you support someone if they simply said I don't like black people

I hope she doesn't invite her at all. If she doesn't want the cousin at her wedding that's her choice. And why would Rose be so determined to be somewhere she isn't wanted. Just proves OPs point about how her cousin makes stuff about herself

@notareallifetiger4817

3 ай бұрын

Lmao did you even watch the vid

@HeoBaby24

3 ай бұрын

tell me you deaf without telling me your deaf and your transphobic too because one alex never demanded that op invite him. he just apologized and walked away op the one who decided to make this a drama. and if you actually listen alex decline the invite because shocker he doesn't want to be around a transphobic bigot who literally said that they should be braindead.

@cheesypizzasauce

3 ай бұрын

@@notareallifetiger4817 sure did and my point still stands, her wedding = her choice. How entitled do you have to be to think you can decide what someone does at THEIR wedding

@notareallifetiger4817

3 ай бұрын

@@cheesypizzasauce then you have awful reading comprehension because that was NOT what was in the vid nor was it the drive behind OP’s motivations.

@SXLLYSTRXNG

3 ай бұрын

OH BOY clearly u missed the part where the cousin says they don’t even wanna go but OP is still trashing them & being an AH, she sabotaged her own wedding

How is she wrong again?

So the cuz treats op like shit and at events that were for op the cuz made the about them not op. Then cuz comes out as trans and op is just supposed to forget all the shit the cuz put op thru. I'm on op side. Op has not seen the changes the cuz made and only apologized when cuz didn't get an invite seem like bullshit to me.

Well the op having the wedding debacle with the cousin isn't wrong when she said that her cousin has mental illness if she thinks think that she's a man. I'd be worried about her causing some type of scene too

Based OP

My favorite thing about people who say the word snowflake is they usually can’t take insults well

Actions have consequences but you're entitled to your beliefs. You can't be bullied into believing something you don't believe in. If you think transgenderism is mental illness. It's your thing.

NTA OP.

@SpencerMckenithWilliams

3 ай бұрын

Wanted to vote YTA but you're all fascists and now I'm mad y'all forced me to side with OP. Screw all of you

@Eldritch-1

3 ай бұрын

Absolutely the AH

@fangirl3086

2 ай бұрын

Lol okay bigot​@@SpencerMckenithWilliams

@Only1199

2 ай бұрын

YTA OP.

Day 156 of commenting to help secretvoices

@SecretVoices25

3 ай бұрын

Day 156 of commenting thank you for your support ❤️❤️❤️

Jesus Christ, I just can’t with this OP like seriously though. Just how insufferable can she be? So she thinks that posting about mental health awareness makes Alex to be someone who’s trying to sweep everything under the rug and is making him out to be some villain. Like girlie no, he’s coming to terms with his own mental health and learning to better cope with it. When he apologized for something that she had no control over as a kid, the way OP handled it pissed me off. The “This is the first time she ever apologized to me and how she tried to ruin stuff and I think she’s was just trying to manipulate me into getting her way like she always used to 🥺” line legit made me lose some braincells. It’s adorable how she’s throwing a temper tantrum over the fact everyone is not sharing the idea thought of Alex and calling OP out for her nasty behavior, even her mom. Her “reasons” for not wanting Alex at the wedding is nothing but excuses, just say you don’t like him or something 🤦‍♀️ I hope to god OP’s boyfriend grows a spine and leaves her toxic ass, total psycho

and god, i hope they have all LGBT+ children who know and identify as themselves from the beginning.

@levidinn7500

3 ай бұрын

More like "I hope at least one of them's infertile and both end up banned from adopting". Like this is how she treats her cousin, can you imagine how she'd treat her own child?

@ryanmackenzie6109

2 ай бұрын

​@@levidinn7500Yeah seriously, I'd be more satisfied if they didn't have access to any more queer people to harrass 😭