Omg the supermarket shopping 😭😭 It's the cause of most of the conflict within our system and also the greatest cause of what we call the push/pull dynamic. You explained exactly what happens for us. Usually we also end up walking in circles and picking stuff up, putting it back, standing in an aisle dissociated and not knowing what to do - and then this draws attention from security 🙈 You describing it has made us feel so validated, so thank you! 🥰

I feel this so much. After 6 years on and off in therapy for anxiety, recurrent depression, and being diagnosed with ASD, I finally came to terms with the reality of my childhood trauma and I'm finally doing trauma-informed therapy, through which I've come to realise the degree of my dissociation and lack of integration. Something that is very exhausting is to have conflicting wants and wishes as a constant theme inside your head; there is always some part of me that won't be quite satisfied with the current choice, and I have to deal with that push and pull which takes an energy I don't necessarily have. It can happen when I need and want to work and there is this other part that wants to play and couldn't be bothered about work at all. The thing is that all of this takes

I really just want to raise awareness for what dissociation ACTUALLY feels like in real life. Hopefully you get this message. Real Dissociative Identity Disorder is NOTHING like the way movies depict it to be, nor is it anything like the way most KZreadr portray it to be and thats so unfair for those kinds of Narcissists to do to this population of people who are actually suffering from this disorder. There are alot of fakers in this community and the reality is much darker and lame than most people even understand thanks to all the Narcissism in the world who are basically just trying to further the damage they've already done to this community. In simplest terms, it feels like being a computer with normal processing speed, until you're about 20 or 30 and then suddenly your computer can barely process anything because there are too many tabs open yet from my perspective was unaware until my late 20's. Memory shuts down and even the simplest task is nearly impossible and takes a million years just like when a computer is old and breaks down. There are so many glitches in reality similar to schizoaffective disorder and you basically become infantile. Thats the cold hard reality of this disorder. Its not fun at all and it is certainly not an advantage in any way shape or form. You really cant even understand multiple perspectives because in reality none of the alters can share emotional information or perspective taking because they're dissociated from eachother just like galaxies are too far away from eachother to communicate properly. People try to make this disorder seem more functional and useful than it actually is and im tired of hearing that non sense. Its absolute hell. Dr. Collin Ross said that patients with DID have up to 3 times as much psychosis as people with schizophrenia... So, its not as functional as the Narcissists portray it to be in media. I hope this helps anyone who ACTUALLY has this disorder... 🤬🤯😑😱🤗🙄😮‍💨😳😵‍💫

like for children - its empowering as well, because it empowers them to make choices and feel like they have some power over their life. For those who have not been able to make things safe for themselves, a feeling of control over their life is a powerful and positive thing. Sometimes like for children, if you do need to do something that can't be followed being able to say you can choose between A and B, so at least they still have some control over their situation even if they can't have exactly what they want.

Grocery shopping is such a bother. We often get home and don't want ANY of the things we bought. And if I try to force myself to eat something I don't want, I feel sick. Sometimes I eat all vegetarian, sometimes I eat a whole steak. We're all over the place!!!

Nooo not options! We want different things and then get stuck and then don't eat anything 😅. We need to have a simple plan worked out in advance and then stick to it rigidly (well that's an exaggeration but for things like breakfast it's not far off the reality)

MY DID affected my whole life. And now Im just finding out.. Im 65 and I messed up my whole life. I can't work. I feel tormented.

Shopping is a nightmare

Thank you for the video! I'm currently becoming more aware of how the others influence our day to day life so the timing couldn't be more perfect! I can't even begin to count how many times I've walked from one part of a store to the complete other side and back because I felt I had to get a product there, only to realise I didn't want that at all or had to explain we already owned a similar thing at home. Acknowledging the others' needs and, if possible, negociating when we notice the influence does help a lot. Thanks! Watching your videos has helped us to accept ourselves more and to find ways to grow together.

This is sooooo helpful. I've experienced almost constant fluctuations of need vs. want and had always written it off as me just being too indecisive. And not seeing this demonstrated on the more "famous" OSDD and DID channels, I continued to write it off. More recently, I've started doing the work to understand these parts and their needs and wants as separate from my own, and validating that actually helps me feel less anxious about it.

Thank you for this video. It’s so easy to get caught up in the whole “their experiences vs ours” from online presences and it really ends up with “I’m lying to myself and others. This isn’t real!”

This was really interesting because I’m very rigid about my food but the more rigid I am the more the 4 year old pudding fiend comes out and ruins my diet 😔 I’m trying to be less rigid but it’s super hard to let myself have things. I’m also scared of when they go out and buy stuff because I don’t want to be a hoarder. I did notice going out and buying my parts clothing made them happier. I’ve always thought about influence as the others taking away my choices but you have reframed it for me as allowing them to have their own choices. Thank you 🙏

I tried to explain what I now know is a chronic level of depersonalization as always having only one foot in. Always ready to step the rest of the way out, to escape.

Maybe that is why I suddenly got full on headache/migraine/nausea yesterday as I was about to leave the house to visit parents who can be triggering for various parts. I thought we were okay to visit yesterday, but my body and brain shut down for two hours (totally passed out asleep) for no known medical reason when I thought we were doing okay!

Accessoiries is also a good thing to ask: "Which jewelry, which hair bands or clips, ... do you want to wear today? If any at all?"

Hi Dr.Lloyd,I have been in therapy for 40 years.I have DID.I live in Australia and have found your videos fairly recently.Thank you

Hi...I'm new to your channel...I have watched almost all of your videos...thank you for sharing...I am much older and have been diagnosed with DID...I stay to myself so I have no friends or family...finding you on you tube lets me feel connected to something and I can have some comfort in knowing that there are others...your content is amazing and I am so happy you put it all out there...Thank you

This is great, thank you! Such a simple thing I'd never even thought of, somehow. I have about ~20 other alters (some of which are fragments, but they still have some influence) and it is VERY difficult to clearly communicate preferences and suggestions between each other due to all of the varying likes and dislikes. It's also difficult for some of us to even want to communicate with the others, not just because of amnesiac walls, but because they just simply don't feel like it/want to/are scared to. So this is an amazing tool. I do this with my child alters, and it's a lot easier with them because small children are generally pretty easy to please; they know what they want and don't want very concretely most of the time. Our teenage and adult alters (and even a spiritual protector of ours!) are MUCH more indecisive and will absolutely benefit from being shown this kind of simple empathy.

as someone who is questioning their mental health diagnoses (or lack thereof), i really appreciate all your videos while i wait. it's nice to hear from a professional that i'm not "crazy" and that some of these things that i do are symptoms of something bigger. definitely something to bring up to my drs when i'm assigned one (i recently moved)

I recently started doing this when it comes to food sometimes, but in particular when it comes to what tea I have in the evening. In a way, it's how they communicate their feelings and needs to me.