The Reality of Foster Care | Courtney Price-Dukes | TEDxNewmanUniversity

Learn what it means to live the "Hard-knock Life". Every foster child has their own unique story. The lack of foster families is having a devastating effect on children in the foster care system. Courtney uses the popular character "Annie" to illustrate how she is not just a fictional situation portrayed on our screens, but it is the reality for many children in our world today. Learn what it means to live the "Hard-knock Life". Every foster child has their own unique story. The lack of foster families is having a devastating effect on children in the foster care system. Courtney uses the popular character "Annie" to illustrate how she is not just a fictional situation portrayed on our screens, but it is the reality for many children in our world today. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @PierreEpage
    @PierreEpage2 жыл бұрын

    "You may not be able to fix the broken system... but your only job is to hold the hand of the one that is being wounded by its brokenness. Foster children don't need excuses; foster children need advocates"

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes! :)

  • @autumnrosemaurer7967
    @autumnrosemaurer79673 жыл бұрын

    as a former foster kid, thank you for doing the work within the community.

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    Autumn, thank you for watching! :)

  • @serengeti4027

    @serengeti4027

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@courtneyprice-dukes7705 I love you for doing this talk so much. I was in care too. I moved around a lot, left school, haven't gotten the happy ending yet. I'm working on changing things and my mental health though. Starting to see some light. Again, thank you so much for doing this. There is very little representation for us anywhere, yet the statistics and outcomes for us are very bad let's be honest. One more time, thank you so much for choosing to do this. ❤

  • @EverydayTechLabs

    @EverydayTechLabs

    Жыл бұрын

    Hey Autumn . as a fellow foster kid I hope your doing best as you can .it's traumatic and I thank the maker of this video as well

  • @SurvivorOfChildAbuse886

    @SurvivorOfChildAbuse886

    Жыл бұрын

    @kai burke I wish I was in 23 homes in a matter of a year and a half

  • @taylorparadee7013
    @taylorparadee70132 жыл бұрын

    The foster care system is the worst thing I’ve experienced yet in my entire life

  • @thelovelylife7451

    @thelovelylife7451

    2 жыл бұрын

    May I ask about your experience?

  • @livingthedreamhomestead1589
    @livingthedreamhomestead15892 жыл бұрын

    My husband and I are 3 weeks away from getting out first kids. We are choosing 8-18 to try and keep at least a few of them out of group homes. I have so much love to give. I myself was also a foster kid and spent a lot of my childhood in and out of homes of either state or family or friends. It's such a scary situation. I got pretty lucky with the homes I was in but it's still traumatic to go through. I used the materialistic one a lot. I don't have enough stuff to give them. But I'm learning all they really need is love and support. Even if we get them at 18 they will always have a home to come back too. Thank you so much for sharing this. It made me cry but I hope I can make a difference in someone's life. Sending hugs.

  • @kathleenjohnston3582

    @kathleenjohnston3582

    2 жыл бұрын

    How’s it going?

  • @jocelynford4209

    @jocelynford4209

    10 ай бұрын

    ❤❤❤

  • @yaheibenevolencedivine3950
    @yaheibenevolencedivine3950 Жыл бұрын

    I was a foster child who was given thorazine at 3yrs old until i was a zombie. Got adopted by a family who only wanted my baby sister and had to take me as part of the deal to not split us up. I am 45 now and all my life ive felt lonely. I always tell people i raised myself. Ive dealt with so many obstacles which i why i am resilient but people can be dismissive and say i have bad luck. I often think of suicide because the world made me feel like i was a mistake. No cliche can change how i feel when all my life i tried encouraging myself that i matter. Life has been showing me i dont. Also i am not on drugs nor am i a alcoholic. Its just coming to terms of my reality which alot of times i no longer want to be in....Gratitude to this amazing queen who overcame her foster care life and bless whoever helped her as adoptive parents. They did well, like my adoptive mother(R.i.P) did well with my sisters. I am more happy for them than for myself.

  • @jocelynford4209

    @jocelynford4209

    10 ай бұрын

    🫂❤

  • @monicagrabham9059

    @monicagrabham9059

    7 ай бұрын

    ❤ I’m so very sorry that this was and is your life. No cliche from me but I do pray that your life improves.

  • @PaniCogito90

    @PaniCogito90

    4 ай бұрын

    Have you tried EMDR therapy for treating your trauma? All the best with your life, hope you're doing better now

  • @seanchristinalopp7792
    @seanchristinalopp7792 Жыл бұрын

    I hope all those who have become foster parents are still sticking it out. I know how hard it is... my family adopted five children and helped countless more in the past twenty years. I am the youngest birth child of my family and I love my adopted siblings so much. My mom is going on 60 and still fostering/adopting. She is my hero! It was really hard to raise children with trauma, but I wouldn't change it for anything. Because of my adopted siblings who inspired me, I became a Respite Care and Foster Nanny for twelve years then a behavioral health peer supporter for children, then a community health worker and even now I am a foster child Advocate... I hope to carry on the legacy of my own parents and become a foster parent in the near future.

  • @jocelynford4209

    @jocelynford4209

    10 ай бұрын

    That is amazing what your family has done for so many children and to hear that you are carrying on their legacy! God Bless You All! 👏🏾❤❤❤

  • @SarahBaird-io2tn
    @SarahBaird-io2tn3 жыл бұрын

    I've been debating becoming a foster parent. This sealed the deal. I'm so excited to show love to these children!

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sarah, that is so exciting!! Congratulations :)

  • @lighteningsnips

    @lighteningsnips

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are such a kind, lovely person for doing this :)

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    @@lighteningsnips Thank you so much :). There is always work to be done, and I am just simply doing my part. Stay well!

  • @alinakenzhegariyeva2760

    @alinakenzhegariyeva2760

    Жыл бұрын

    how’s it going? well done!

  • @NH-lf1wu

    @NH-lf1wu

    Жыл бұрын

    It's been one whole year since your comment. Have you been able to adopt yet? How is going, if you have been successful? 😇

  • @lisamariekerr8083
    @lisamariekerr80832 жыл бұрын

    As a former foster kid, I am so thankful that I found this.I relate to all of this and it has helped me. I know I'm not alone in how I've felt and still at times feel. Thank you, Courtney.

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Hey, Lisamarie! You are not alone :). I am so glad that this talk was able to provide a bit of healing for you. Your story has power. Please take care of yourself and remember that you are worthy of love and life.

  • @EverydayTechLabs
    @EverydayTechLabs Жыл бұрын

    I'm still messed up from the system.i was in over 33 homes that I can count . I was in there from 2008 till 2017. I'm trying do my best. One of my foster brothers murdered a woman. And another got shot in the Back of the head for his past tho he was starting to do better. And many other brothers and sisters in bad situations. Very few doing well. But we gotta stay strong. I hope to be a foster dad one day.

  • @sophiasoutherland5248
    @sophiasoutherland52483 жыл бұрын

    I’m a foster kid and this was exactly what I felt. I can relate to this so much.

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hey, Sophia! I have learned that a lot of people can relate to the situation. For some reason, it isn't discussed. I hope that one day the world can stray away from the media portrayals and listen to testimonials of those around them :)

  • @bogartmotomoto8222

    @bogartmotomoto8222

    Жыл бұрын

    Im hoping for the very bestt ❤❤❤. Would you mind if I ask you, do you think that a poor foster care a justification for abortion ?

  • @ladyd3806
    @ladyd3806 Жыл бұрын

    Powerful message that resonated with me on so many levels. I have 17 years of lived experience, but I lived to tell about it in a self-published book, "It's Time to Turn Up! No More Trauma." The hard knock life analogy struck a cord because its a metaphor included in my Special Message from the Author. Thank you for sharing!

  • @trey8479
    @trey8479 Жыл бұрын

    As a former foster kid when she said they’re just trying hold themselves together

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes. Some days that is all we can do. WE got this! Stay well

  • @verafroman4452
    @verafroman4452 Жыл бұрын

    I was a foster child and I have no good things to say about the foster care system. I was in foster care for 9 years, and in those 9 years I was moved 7 times. I was 7 years old when I was put in one and then just bounced around like a ball that no one wanted. As I got older I just started doing my own things. I didn’t care what I put them through because they didn’t care what they put me through. The foster parents that I was stuck with , were no better than my own parents. Just money hungry people, banking on kids.

  • @jocelynford4209

    @jocelynford4209

    10 ай бұрын

    Ugh so sorry to hear this. Always know you matter and in this world, someone does care about and for you. 🫂❤

  • @verafroman4452

    @verafroman4452

    10 ай бұрын

    @@jocelynford4209 thank you

  • @BLE000
    @BLE000 Жыл бұрын

    So incredibly proud of you. It’s been on my heart since I was quite young to become a foster parent. I am in the beginning process now. Thank you for sharing your story, insights, and love. ♥️

  • @psychicdiva4907
    @psychicdiva49072 жыл бұрын

    As a current foster parent, I can see why there’s such hesitation. I am doing it because it’s a calling and the kids need us. You will need to put yourself second to take this role on and do it right. But it’s worth it.

  • @psychicdiva4907

    @psychicdiva4907

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Mariah Fox I am an ordinary person - but I encourage you to follow your own calling if fostering is what you’ll do. Read the poem “The Starfish” it will put it all into perspective. 💜

  • @TeaCup1940

    @TeaCup1940

    Жыл бұрын

    As a parent you also need to put yourself second, and if more would, there would be less need for foster parents.

  • @michellehood3345

    @michellehood3345

    8 ай бұрын

    ​@@TeaCup1940I agree

  • @EdB7666
    @EdB7666 Жыл бұрын

    A friend of my work colleague died in a car accident a year ago, and his only son, who was just 16 years old and a university student and whose mom died of blood cancer five years ago, has been put into the system until they find someone to adopt him. My colleague tried to adopt him but he could not bear the university expenses, being the only earning member in the family, he also has to look after his family's upkeep. For few months with our small contributions, he managed to keep him out of system but unfortunately the social worker did not seem to be convinced with his care and took the boy and put himinto the system. Since then he is not being able to contact him. We hope and pray that, he finds some angel although its just a matter of a year. I hope he survives there comes out stronger. He has already gone through so much of trauma at such tender age Thankyou for sharing this video. I am so overwhelmed to see the experiences shared by the folks here😞. Hats off. More power to you all.

  • @jennyblairmcd
    @jennyblairmcd3 жыл бұрын

    Bravo Courtney!!! Thank you for sharing your story and your wisdom. What an amazing accomplishment to be sharing on Tedx... All the best to you in all of your future endeavors.

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much! :)

  • @coreyneil8763
    @coreyneil87633 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for giving this talk.

  • @adriannespring8598
    @adriannespring85983 жыл бұрын

    Epic clarity with the situation!!!

  • @theconjuringgypsy
    @theconjuringgypsy3 ай бұрын

    Foster care for me was filled with emotional, psychological, and verbal abuse. From both the social workers, judges, and the parents

  • @donnareason2256
    @donnareason22563 жыл бұрын

    I really resonate with this and omg I love annie as my foster mum had drink problem like Annie's foster mom n foster dad brought me around like his trophy n abused me

  • @Mweems007
    @Mweems0072 жыл бұрын

    It just amazing me how many empty chairs for this serious talk about children in this cruel system.

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hey, Mel! :) Due to Covid restrictions, we were only allowed to invite 5 guest. I wish I was able to present to a full house, but we wanted to be as safe as possible. I am so glad it is continuing to touch others almost a year later :)

  • @meganhobza
    @meganhobza2 жыл бұрын

    My heart is full. Well done, Courtney!!!

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Hi, Megan! Thank you so much for listening. I am glad that I was able to leave an impact on you :)

  • @coreyneil8763
    @coreyneil87633 жыл бұрын

    Moved me to tears.

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    I am glad that I was able to leave an impact, Cory :)

  • @staceywilliams6152
    @staceywilliams61523 жыл бұрын

    Powerful and inspiring! Thank you for sharing, Courtney.

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi, Stacey! Thank you so much for watching :)

  • @billiesue331
    @billiesue3312 жыл бұрын

    Beautifully spoken! 💜

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for watching, Billie :)

  • @kerissaarmstead329
    @kerissaarmstead3292 жыл бұрын

    You are so inspiring! Thank you for sharing your story and for challenging us all to give back

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Hi, Kerissa! Thank you so much for listening to my talk. I will continue to use my story to help those in the foster care system feel seen and heard :). Stay well!

  • @matthewbanks1640
    @matthewbanks16403 жыл бұрын

    Good Job Courtney! Miss you!

  • @emilyarmstrong709
    @emilyarmstrong7093 жыл бұрын

    Love this!!

  • @tralayned3872
    @tralayned38723 жыл бұрын

    I own a new child placing agency and I will be using this video to help encourage people to foster children.

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello! I am so glad to hear this. Thank you for watching :)

  • @ramonam9251

    @ramonam9251

    2 жыл бұрын

    Please treat foster parents with dignity, not like second class citizens

  • @michaelg3074
    @michaelg30743 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this.

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for watching, Michael :)

  • @tessacollins5883
    @tessacollins58832 жыл бұрын

    Great, thank you.

  • @nicolebrown622
    @nicolebrown6222 жыл бұрын

    So odd, that I was also a foster kid for 11 years of my life being tossed back to my mom and back into foster care. Annie was also my favorite movie when I was a kid, wishing for my own daddy Warbucks. I only realized as I got older how much she related to me. I found it ironic that I wanted to be her. Two “almost” adoptions and placed back into foster care.

  • @kasim9931
    @kasim99313 жыл бұрын

    Everyone deserves true love and care! Especially children.. Faces of future..

  • @Amy-ms6wj
    @Amy-ms6wj2 жыл бұрын

    You are such a beautiful soul. This video has really helped me make the jump into foster care. I kept seeing videos of foster kids going into big houses saying "wow, this house is amazing!" And I'm here with an apartment, thinking a child won't like my place. I was an addict for a while, and have a felony on my record from 7 years ago. I kept thinking the system won't accept me...but I have to try. This is something I've been wanting to do for so long. I know what it's like to feel unloved, to be abused by my father, to feel like I have no one. I've also been homeless. I can relate with these children in so many ways...and more than anything else, I know I would never give up on them. I know I can be someone to change their lives. I just have to believe in myself. I have to try...and your video, reminding me that materials are just that...they will come and go...but empathy and love will remain forever. I CAN do this. I can change their lives, and in turn they'll change mine. Thank you so very much for speaking up. ❤️You gave me hope.

  • @PrincessDie187

    @PrincessDie187

    Жыл бұрын

    You'll do great

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Amy, Ahhhh! I want to give you a big hug. You are 100% right. You CAN change their lives. I am sorry about all of the adversity that you have had to face during your life thus far. I love that you are not allowing it to hinder you. Instead, you are letting it be fuel to go out and help others overcome similar obstacles. If you ask me, that makes YOU a beautiful soul.

  • @sapheriaemani6491
    @sapheriaemani64912 жыл бұрын

    This video speaks volume !!!

  • @tarahurst8722
    @tarahurst8722 Жыл бұрын

    Wow, this was so good. Thank you for sharing, and you are a phenomenal speaker. I am getting involved with the foster care system even though i have always been scared of it and intimidated. Thanks for this encouragement and testimony. The Bible says to do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

  • @zoes1723
    @zoes17237 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for this I’m about to be certified to become a foster Mom really soon and I am grateful!!!! 🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾

  • @connieheitz8982
    @connieheitz89823 жыл бұрын

    What a great speaker!!!

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much, Connie :)

  • @connieheitz8982

    @connieheitz8982

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@courtneyprice-dukes7705 your so welcome!!! You are truly a great speaker!!!

  • @zamskycrane
    @zamskycrane2 жыл бұрын

    I cannot take in a foster child, but I am working as a Casa {court appointment special advocate} it is very rewarding to advocate for a child.

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes!! I love to hear this. Another impactful way to help children. Thank you for the work that you do :)

  • @courtneygroh8560
    @courtneygroh85602 жыл бұрын

    amazing job

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much :)

  • @briannabrice555
    @briannabrice5552 жыл бұрын

    This was the most genuine and most life saving speech !listening to her made me feel for the first time in my life that someone actually understands the reality of being a foster child .Really it's hurt because kids need love and protection and so kids get ripped from the ones they love and a lot of times kids still love the people who have mistreated them and it's hurts to get ripped away and put into a system like your another number .and foster kids never get the love they need and want because even when someone is so good to them there instincts are to not trust it because if their own parents are willing to love and still abuse them they know that anyone is capable of being abusive because a lot of foster kids have seen the worst of people and the worst of situations so nothing really can really help except that someone that understands and shows love no matter what !I every word she said was so real and touching grateful I came across this ❤️

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Briana, First, I want to thank you for taking time to watch my talk. I am so glad that you were able to have a moment of feeling seen and heard. All anyone wants in to be understood. While we don't have the same story, I want you to know that I hear and see you. I 100% agree with what you were saying. The foster care system is a flawed system. With my voice, I hope to promote some positive change. Your story is valid. Take care :)

  • @jocelynford4209

    @jocelynford4209

    10 ай бұрын

    ❤❤❤

  • @Maryam7580
    @Maryam75802 жыл бұрын

    I love the last part. I am creating a way so that I can get involved. But the “attachment” part have been weighing on me. Thank you for explaining that to me. These kids need that attachment. It’s not for me. 🧡

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely! :)

  • @TheOzziep09

    @TheOzziep09

    Жыл бұрын

    Just remember to always give your best. We leave an imprint in the lives of people that come across our paths. Just think of how you would like to be remembered. Best of luck!!

  • @LynnS-zf6db
    @LynnS-zf6db9 ай бұрын

    This was a really good ted talk on this topic. A lot of foster care ted talks will make good points but have a few things in them that give the ick. This one was great all the way through!

  • @thehyve3540
    @thehyve35402 жыл бұрын

    Just contacted someone today in hopes of taking the next steps to becoming a foster parent. I’m feeling so called and my house and heart will be open.

  • @thehyve3540

    @thehyve3540

    2 жыл бұрын

    I have orientation tomorrow!

  • @magik2432

    @magik2432

    Жыл бұрын

    You are amazing good luck

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Hey! Thank you for being a change-maker in the lives of foster children. :) You got this.

  • @sonic2008loq
    @sonic2008loq2 жыл бұрын

    Good Thing I'm Still With My Birth Parents. Thank God

  • @donnareason2256
    @donnareason22563 жыл бұрын

    I had 15 placements in my 1st year of life and when told system at age 15yrs was being abused and foster parents admitted to abuse was told I still had to stay there till I was 18 yrs old and that they will get help for the parents but nothing for me

  • @courtneyligman6101

    @courtneyligman6101

    3 жыл бұрын

    I’m sorry you went through so many homes. Hope you found you forever home.

  • @mixadvertisting1408

    @mixadvertisting1408

    3 жыл бұрын

    You can sue them. Look into this. Pls

  • @donnareason2256

    @donnareason2256

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@mixadvertisting1408 I dont even know where to start to sue n who would I be suing and I'm 38 yes old naw surely it's to late to do that

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi, Donna- I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you. There are so many flaws in the system that I can't wait to be resolved. You deserved better. I am sorry that the system failed you with that situation.

  • @charleneknottsrubini2220
    @charleneknottsrubini22202 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant

  • @donnareason2256
    @donnareason22563 жыл бұрын

    Naw a days the criteria for being approved to foster is ridiculous when lots dont have much but they will love the children more than those who got the big house n money for anything

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree. There is a lot of work that needs to be done in the system. For that reason, it is important to make sure that we are using our voices :)

  • @divineknowledge4607
    @divineknowledge46072 жыл бұрын

    I'm working on adopting my new born granddaughter that is in foster care. The foster mother has been making up lies left and right. And DCFS has been believing them because she only one of a few foster parents capable of special medical needs premies. I document everything and give it to the lawyer appointed to me, which helps. But this foster parent sees a big paycheck leaving her or she has even laid hints that she wants to adopt a baby since she can't have one, and already has a boy. DCFS has never made a claim or complained about anything, Just her. And when this is over I am saying every single thing I ever wanted to in one session to her!

  • @Datzneat
    @Datzneat Жыл бұрын

    Courtney is a hero.

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for your kind words. I just want to use my story to help shine a light on those who feel unseen.

  • @Datzneat

    @Datzneat

    Жыл бұрын

    @@courtneyprice-dukes7705 I've always wondered how powerful our voice could be if we all acted as one big foster family. Maybe someday. I see you.

  • @StephanieTips
    @StephanieTips2 жыл бұрын

    I've always wanted to foster and possibly even foster to adopt but all I keep thinking is: what if I foster and the kids will eventually be reunited with their original family? Won't the fact that they've bonded with me and have to leave hurt them? Is this truly a good thing, to bring them into a home environment they'll eventually have to leave, growting attached to someone only to leave them in the end?

  • @psychicdiva4907

    @psychicdiva4907

    2 жыл бұрын

    It’s better than leaving them in a group setting or state setting. It’s like Velcro parenting. We attach so they can learn to love and then they get pulled away. The kids need us. (Currently fostering)

  • @StephanieTips

    @StephanieTips

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@psychicdiva4907 is it really? If you say so then I'll definitely consider once I'm older

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi Stefania- This is a great question. In fact, it is a question that a lot of potential foster parents ruminate over. In my personal opinion, as someone who went through the foster care system, I think that it is important to show foster children healthy living environments and relationships. Hopefully, during that time, their family is taking the proper stops for reunification. That is always the goal. During that time, it is vital that they have support and safety from a loving source. I hope this makes sense :)

  • @StephanieTips

    @StephanieTips

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@courtneyprice-dukes7705 yes it makes perfect sense! I'm glad foster kids find that helpful and I'll try my best to offer that!

  • @psychicdiva4907

    @psychicdiva4907

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@StephanieTips yes I would read and watch some of the foster parent channels and go into it with your eyes open. I think Be the village is a good resource.

  • @k1baby__
    @k1baby__2 жыл бұрын

    As a foste kid this is true

  • @robertbusler68
    @robertbusler682 жыл бұрын

    Our system is so screwed up. I have been trying to adopt a child from my states foster care for the last 6 months. The states loves to drag their feet in getting my paperwork approved and love not communicating with me unless they want something else from me

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Hi, Robert I agree! The foster care system is so messy. Continue to stay persistent :)

  • @georgettefrey1065
    @georgettefrey10658 ай бұрын

    One of those buts is that the adults don't fit the requirements of the foster organizations which are predominantly Christian and have bias against non-Christians and LGBT families. While some states are better than others, it is an issue that needs dealt with.

  • @natalieellis8106
    @natalieellis81062 ай бұрын

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @renayhayles6883
    @renayhayles68832 ай бұрын

    😢

  • @Yaya-qh1dd
    @Yaya-qh1dd2 жыл бұрын

    I didn’t know that movie even existed..

  • @PixelKnight93
    @PixelKnight932 жыл бұрын

    Unfortenetly my childhood in fostercair bore way to many simularitys to annys the main diferense was that It came with daily beatings with seamingly no reason behind it. After geting out of that home I was stuck in a home that was ran more like a clinic then a home. And still noone gave a dam about me. But it didnt even end there not even thr scools caired as i was robed of a proper edjucation!

  • @thelovelylife7451

    @thelovelylife7451

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi, Jason! I am so sorry you endured so much. Is there anything you need right now at this moment? How can I help?

  • @Mushroom_dust
    @Mushroom_dust7 ай бұрын

    I would love to be a foster parent but it seems impossible there is lack of resources and information on how to go about it. Adoption, I have been told is near impossible due to the expenses and

  • @yvonnejensen1969
    @yvonnejensen19692 жыл бұрын

    More foster homes/non biological family homes the exact opposite of the answer to this horrible system.

  • @chellybabyme
    @chellybabyme Жыл бұрын

    Since such a great great number of children are removed (sold) without reason other than harvesting for federal dollars, the foster care system should shrink because awareness of the selling of children should stop the removal. One every TWO MINUTES.

  • @xmateinc
    @xmateinc2 жыл бұрын

    I got kicked from 2 adoptive families before 12 then got shuffled from group home, to foster home, to shelters, then to juvi, till the state of oregon just dumped me under a bridge. I don't know why the first adoptive family sent me back, I know the second was because I was an angry kid that refused to call my adoptive parent dad, and was just all around angry.

  • @eendje8383

    @eendje8383

    2 жыл бұрын

    I hope you are okay now. I wish you all the best!❤

  • @duncanmacleod2136

    @duncanmacleod2136

    2 жыл бұрын

    What did you do to land yourself in juvi?

  • @xmateinc

    @xmateinc

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@duncanmacleod2136 ran out of places to get put into. After awhile the state runs out of places to place you and puts you into juvi , as you're a ward of the state.

  • @duncanmacleod2136

    @duncanmacleod2136

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@xmateinc that’s crazy but what do you mean they just dumped you under a bridge. Are you saying that while you were under 18 they just dropped you off under a bridge?

  • @xmateinc

    @xmateinc

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@duncanmacleod2136 yes at alittle over 17 when I got kicked out of my last group home here in Oregon, my probation officer picked me up and told me I wasn't going to juvi and they had no where else to put me, and asked me where I wanted to get dropped off. I said I had no where since I had been a ward for 14 years. He then just proceeded to drop me off under the overpass bridge in downtown Eugene. Only time in my life I truly wanted to die.

  • @1969billy1970
    @1969billy1970Ай бұрын

    1988-1990

  • @Mageroeth
    @Mageroeth2 жыл бұрын

    Prolifers where you at?

  • @freemind6393

    @freemind6393

    2 жыл бұрын

    🤔...🦗

  • @roberthegwood3031

    @roberthegwood3031

    Жыл бұрын

    Right here. Just starting the process to foster then adopt a teen boy only a few months from aging out. He is my heart and he has already told me he wants me to be his dad. I am a blessed man. I only wish I had the means to adopt a couple more. I can’t make a difference for every starfish stranded on the shore, but God willing I will make a difference for this one.

  • @lilas1999
    @lilas19998 ай бұрын

    Beautiful baby you were😍

  • @schoolworkaccount3887
    @schoolworkaccount388710 ай бұрын

    I would like to foster but I don’t know if I can deal with very badly behaved children. I don’t think I have enough patience. I can’t even deal with my annoying and sibling…

  • @rubenxjr3742
    @rubenxjr37422 жыл бұрын

    We’re the lost children that god blessed 🙏🏼

  • @beatanowak3679
    @beatanowak3679 Жыл бұрын

    Do foster parents buy lifie insurance policies just in case so their foster children are financially protected

  • @midnightgt46
    @midnightgt462 жыл бұрын

    im curently in foster care about to age out soon im scared tbh

  • @thelovelylife7451

    @thelovelylife7451

    2 жыл бұрын

    Do you feel like they do nothing to prepare you for the “real world” so-to-say? I’m surprised they don’t have job interviewing skills, resume building, or placement! My apologies for naïveté. I have no knowledge pertaining to the system

  • @midnightgt46

    @midnightgt46

    2 жыл бұрын

    ​@@thelovelylife7451 eh say so is a thing and independent living is basically teaches you stuff about jobs taxes and credit and what not but the reason why i am sacred is because i have serious depression and also slight anger issues by slight i mean i don't get upset often but if u say or do a certain thing that brings up trauma which is rare for anyone to do i go into a fit of rage somehow i managed to keep my composure when a customer threw a drink on me because it was the wrong drink but still im more worried about my mental health and staying out of trouble than anything else by this point

  • @roberthegwood3031

    @roberthegwood3031

    Жыл бұрын

    @@midnightgt46 You are not wrong to be concerned. The statistics on kids aging out are far from comforting. Find yourself a network…like a good church and burrow in. I am trying to foster to adopt an older teen not too far from aging out who has similar trauma issues. I cannot offer much in the way of help since I am committed to the kid I’m trying to adopt already. But I can be a person who will listen if you need it. Just message me. Sometimes just a listening heart…and a little consul are enough to get you over a hump. There are more than you know who would be there for you…finding them can be hard. At a minimum, just do the next right/good thing you are able to do. Build your network, find your feet, build your life…and if you can, one day you can be the hand that reaches out to another young person like you.

  • @1969billy1970
    @1969billy1970Ай бұрын

    All Different Don't Project A child's childhood especially if they have had foster step and or non traditional family model(s). Especially if they ARE DIFFERENT from your own. IE MORE THAN Two Step Parent(s), Foster Parents and or Non Parents.

  • @micheledavis495
    @micheledavis4952 жыл бұрын

    Often kids are placed with people who have no skills to assist the child. And it's not just foster parents that are bad it's schools community centers they don't know how to comfort wear another hat ..they don't want to ..

  • @kassyroblesss
    @kassyroblesss2 жыл бұрын

    Whats her name? I’m doing my senior project on foster care

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hey, Kassy- My name is Courtney Price-Dukes :)

  • @damiendemers7495

    @damiendemers7495

    Жыл бұрын

    @@courtneyprice-dukes7705 Hi! I loved your speech and would like to chat with you and ask for some advice about what I’m going through, is that okay?

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    @@damiendemers7495 Hi, Damien! Of course. I would love to chat with you.

  • @ttcameron6390
    @ttcameron63902 жыл бұрын

    Best system in the world huh? 20,000 under our ruling now will skyrocket

  • @michellehood3345
    @michellehood33458 ай бұрын

    Id like to hear some success stories...

  • @amadiamarie8691
    @amadiamarie86912 жыл бұрын

    Alot of the foster parents are sickos themselves

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    2 жыл бұрын

    This is true. That is why it is important to pass along information to those that would serve as great Foster Parents.

  • @marymccarthy9023
    @marymccarthy90232 жыл бұрын

    Y

  • @lighteningsnips
    @lighteningsnips2 жыл бұрын

    People should stop having children that they're unwilling to take care of.

  • @bryceolsen3527

    @bryceolsen3527

    Жыл бұрын

    You wanna tell that to all the Republicans that want to stop allowing abortions simply because of their religious beliefs 😂

  • @susyb2817
    @susyb2817 Жыл бұрын

    I'm just wondering how many foster kids the speaker has taken in and also I do understand that some foster parents are not perfect however nothing is being suggested about what to do in reference to the people that caused this chaos and this damage to the children the abusive and neglective parents they're the real problem

  • @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    @courtneyprice-dukes7705

    Жыл бұрын

    Good Morning, Susy Thank you for watching my TedTalk. To answer your question, as someone who was a 21 year old college student at the time of this video, I was in no shape to take on foster children of my own...but I speak as someone who was in the foster care system. However, though I have not taken on the parental role yet, that did not stop me from volunteering and working alongside foster children and the legislators in Kansas to bring about change in the system. In fact, I worked as Miss Sedgwick County with my platform Aging Out to Aging Forward to expand the voices of foster youth and gather resources to help them be better acclimated for the future. As I mentioned in the talk, fostering a child is not the only way to help. If you listen to the end of the speech again, you will hear some first-step solutions to helping navigate working with the parents of the children :). For more information, there are plenty of online resources that can be found to explain more in-depth answers to your question. Please feel free to check out the Annie E. Casey Foundation to start.

  • @fernandogutierrez8577
    @fernandogutierrez85772 жыл бұрын

    América it's not United States.

  • @NewCreationInChrist896
    @NewCreationInChrist8963 жыл бұрын

    Seek God’s will daily. Proverbs 8:17💞

  • @Reneka-vx7ff
    @Reneka-vx7ff Жыл бұрын

    JESUS IS THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE ✝️🙏😇🙌👍💛💙💚

  • @craftingchipmunk3528
    @craftingchipmunk35282 жыл бұрын

    cười bể bụng bầu

  • @RoxieRHeart
    @RoxieRHeart2 жыл бұрын

    I'd like to foster but I have 2 dogs and I worry about them hurting my dogs, is that something that is common?

  • @noradenise

    @noradenise

    2 жыл бұрын

    many foster parents own dogs ..that are not hurt

  • @ramonam9251

    @ramonam9251

    2 жыл бұрын

    You can't be serious

  • @amymenjivar3489

    @amymenjivar3489

    Жыл бұрын

    @@ramonam9251 Some children, foster or not, do harm animals. Some dogs snap at children. Then, they can be quarantined. Your house could be closed. Her concern is valid. Doesn't mean can't foster but smart to be aware. Some animals also provide great comfort to kids. Some kids are afraid of animals...even a cat.

  • @rickstouffer6238
    @rickstouffer6238 Жыл бұрын

    Lies

  • @lactobacillusprobiotic7029

    @lactobacillusprobiotic7029

    Жыл бұрын

    Tell us your experience then.

  • @jennyli9012
    @jennyli90123 жыл бұрын

    no thanks. Childfree life FTW.

  • @jkrieger6832

    @jkrieger6832

    2 жыл бұрын

    Must be nice to be so privileged. Enjoy it. I'll pick up your slack.

  • @jennyli9012

    @jennyli9012

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@jkrieger6832 how is being childfree a privilege if everyone can do it?

  • @VMitch-ng7tg

    @VMitch-ng7tg

    2 жыл бұрын

    Dont let anyone tell you this is a poor choice. Being a mother comes naturally to me but if it doesn't to you focus your love on yourself.

  • @pjthrand2173

    @pjthrand2173

    2 жыл бұрын

    Why are you commenting here? Clearly, you missed the point of her talk. Not everyone can be a parent or wants to parent. Donate money to help or advocate OR FTW Share her message with others who are in a position to advocate and/or serve as adoptive or foster parents. Who knows? Maybe someone you may know who sits on a corporate/volunteer board or gives back to their community can help.

  • @thelovelylife7451

    @thelovelylife7451

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@jennyli9012 I think some people are just miserable. God has a plan for us all! So happy for you 💗

  • @hellacooook
    @hellacooook Жыл бұрын

    You never knew who’s life you could save👏foster kids and people will greatly benefit from mdma, it’s set to legalize April 2024. Mdma passed 2, phase-3 clinical trials proving it scientifically cures treatment resistant ptsd.

  • @jocelynford4209
    @jocelynford420910 ай бұрын

    Wow that was incredibly enlightening. I’m so glad she shared her story. It helps me to better understand what some unfortunately had to endure when living through the system. 😢❤🫂🙏🏾

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