Fully embrace vulnerability! Have the courage to be imperfect! Do things without guarantees of success. Feeling worthiness is the key! Let go of who you think you should be and just be! You are good enough! You are worthy of love and belonging! You are enough!

@dreamchaser6381

Жыл бұрын

what risks did you take ? cheat on your husband without getting caught? LOL

The way she speaks makes you feel like she's having a conversation with you one on one. Very enjoyable.

@xabierpombo8704

7 жыл бұрын

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@lesleyelalami2562

3 жыл бұрын

Soul connection.

@changeeyecolor3891

3 жыл бұрын

👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

@FlorDeFerro

2 жыл бұрын

and not vulnerable, I'd say.

@sarahharb0

Жыл бұрын

Lyy

As a perfectionist, I need to listen to this every day. There is so much important material in this talk, it is hard to take it all in at one hearing. She only sneaks in the truth, however, that children who grow up to believe they are worthy of love and belonging, are raised by parents who give them that message. The rest of us are severely wounded and need deep and ongoing healing. Practicing gratitude and vulnerability is not so easy for those of us with this wound, but powerful medicine.

@lauralunaazul

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@carshapeter1397

Жыл бұрын

So true, thanks for sharing Sharon

@johnmarte8083

Жыл бұрын

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@nancyewood

Жыл бұрын

@dreyfalex: Each one of us is unique, though, and that's the point that makes all the difference -- I grew up being raised by parents who loved me, nurtured me, supported me, and gave me the most wonderful life they possibly could (and it was estimable, since my Father was in the U.S. Army and we traveled overseas, and I was exposed to the good, honorable, artful, beautiful, and loving things in life) -- but I still have experienced the woundedness and need for deep and ongoing healing that you describe -- and I’m 75 -- But perhaps it came to me from another lifetime... perhaps I took the pain on to be inspired and moved to seek the experience for myself so I could become aware of and learn how to share the way through it with you and others in like pain… the shame... we never know. The Universe is 'waaay bigger than you -- we -- imagine, and the storylines and possibilities are WAAAAY HUGER than you’ve likely imagined. Watch a bunch of NDE videos on YT, and begin to get the Bigger Picture and see what the real story is -- thru each other unique person’s eyes and experience -- each and every story is different -- unique (look it up!) -- NONE OTHER EXACTLY LIKE IT -- and yet, It Still All Comes Down To LOVE, no matter the road and experiences we've followed to get ourselves there...

I'm here October 10 2022 and I have to say this woman speaks beautifully. Her choice of words and diction is top notch. I'm glad she didn't beat around the bush making pointless quotes and referencing other people or their works, she just hits the nail on the head. I can listen to her speak for hours, She's very commendable

"You know what, you're imperfect and you're wired for struggle, but you're worthy of Love and Belonging." -Dr Brene Brown

@docbeepsjb

5 жыл бұрын

Powerful...❤️👊🏾

@david_oliveira71

4 жыл бұрын

Wonderful.

@mitchellmckervey734

3 жыл бұрын

She is so wonderful. This changed my way of thinking. Love her.

@changeeyecolor3891

3 жыл бұрын

👍👍👍👍👍

@alliparker4084

2 жыл бұрын

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“Blame: a way to discharge pain and discomfort” it shed lights on why some people in my life were so harsh.

I love how the way she concludes. "That's all I have" captures the essence of the struggle between shame and self acceptance wonderfully.

@wontanajj7820

2 жыл бұрын

do the little thing in your life that for poor people that help your feeling make you feel worthty that anti depress or you pray for other with your pure heart that you can

The words of this woman has helped me constantly through my three years of depression. I know her words will help me again in the future. Keep this video in your watch later; it will always help.

@xabierpombo8704

7 жыл бұрын

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@xabierpombo8704

7 жыл бұрын

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@mavismorely3305

6 жыл бұрын

did u find out you are gay?

@lauralunaazul

4 жыл бұрын

Listen to Louise L Hay, she help me a lot in my worst moments, :)

@mrsmundenusd495LarnedKS

Жыл бұрын

Same! Love her.

I could listen to her talk for hours ! She is such a great speaker.

@tylermcknight3650

3 жыл бұрын

You should read her book Daring Greatly!!

WOW! Ironically I used the word Wholeheartedly on a video years ago at my brother's wedding. I had no idea others would make fun of me for using that word. I let that experience affect my self image for years. Thank you for this research story. You created a breakthrough in my life today. I live wholeheartedly and choose to speak authentically and lovingly embrace times when people, even family, make fun of me or don't quite get me! Thank you for giving me back the permission to be me.

@hazelgreen1001

4 жыл бұрын

Wow! Inspiring words. Always be true to yourself x

@filmneye

Жыл бұрын

It takes courage to live wholeheartedly and to speak your Truth, be your authentic self. I try to be my authentic self, which defies the Asian stereotypes that Society puts on my race, and is not met with acceptance by a lot of White folks. But I've gotta be me, so I forge onwards, and keep breaking those stereotypes!

@bonnierobinson8684

Жыл бұрын

If you get here, give me a call. Callie, Mandie, Jeannie or Bobbie! 💗💗💗💗

@nancyewood

Жыл бұрын

Ohh, jvyoga, it makes me so happy to hear that you finally found relief and expanded awareness for yourself thru Brené's words (me too today)!! And the ironic part is -- see how loving and FAR AHEAD you actually were, instead of the "behind and less-than" as you imagined then... Great congratulations, and wishing you even more happiness to come...

@user-ne5gz3rq2t

6 ай бұрын

I have the same issues of family not always getting me. I live wholeheartedly as well.

Vulnerability is not always good. It can be detrimental with the wrong people. For people who appreciate it and understand how it help the connection, then yes!

@jayraldcruzada8356

Жыл бұрын

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Жыл бұрын

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@suzannahjames5264

Жыл бұрын

Yes , I’m one of them..

@babar06

Жыл бұрын

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@Morid13Rocks

Жыл бұрын

Keep reading and listening to Brene 😊 she shares about who deserves your vulnerability in ways that encourage you to hold your boundaries and your worth

"They were willing to let go of who they thought they should be, in order to be who they were." Incredible, yet much easier said than done.

That was nine years ago and it still feels like cutting edge clarity on something that underpins everything we do and are. Brilliant.

Having parents who couldn’t show that to themselves meant they raised children who didn’t know how to show it to themselves either, parenting is such a massive contributor to this.

This is so so deep. I can’t believe this was 12 years ago. We could all use this lesson today. Much of our issues is coming from our lack of self of awareness.

If you're reading this you are loved, you are beautiful, you are strong, and someone out here in this big ole world thinks you are amazing. Thank you for being you!

@O0001

3 жыл бұрын

I wish.

We accept the love we think we deserve.

Pov: your therapist send you here

@BeatrizOliveira-cn5kp

8 күн бұрын

Same 😅

To be called a story teller is, in fact, a huge compliment.

I can't believe this is from 2010! It is so perfectly true today.

@Wamagirii

5 жыл бұрын

I heard of her only today from another talk. 2010? Its 2019.....her talk will forever remain relevant

@smit1807

5 жыл бұрын

This is because this message is as relevant today as it would have been in 1750. This is at our core as a species.

@lauralunaazul

4 жыл бұрын

2010 isnt many years ago, really.

I am the person that LOVES ALL my emotions. I wallow AND Celebrate....I like the highs and the lows and I can tell you that MOST people think I'm crazy - when I tell them to 'embrace, the sorrow' and "THAT is LIFE happening in your life"...I think that we do not want to feel and I cannot figure out WHY. Thank you for a little bit of clarity. I give (as a gift) your TED talk to my friends. When they need it.

@susannakpetersen

3 жыл бұрын

You're not alone I feel exactly the same way. feel all the things and love all the things. It helps you to have empathy for others as well.

@misskeisha4820

2 жыл бұрын

that’s a really brave way to live life, i hope i’ll have that one day for myself as well

I've watched this so many times. It doesn't get old. Love this Ted talk.

HUMBLE IS THE SAFEST PLACE AND I NEVER STOP LEARNING

Amazing that this was in 2010 because it sounds even more timely in 2023.

Vulnerability for me is laying your heart and your flaws at someone’s feet and hoping to (whatever you believe in) that they don’t stomp all over it... and then being ok within yourself if they do. Being able to love yourself enough to know that that behaviour is fear and pain, not malicious intent. For the most part.

I watched this on netflix last night and i think I'm starting to have my own breakdown. Never realized how my lack of outward vulnerability has completely shaped my life today. I'm definitely one of those that would fall into the category of struggling with connection and acceptance.

As a Social Worker, as a mother a partner and a person this hit me to my core!! I have my shield and sword out at all times never wanting others to know I'm vulnerable and how many times have I shouted blame at others. Thank you Brene' today is a new day I see things differently and will begin to move forward with grace, openess and a large HEART

I absolutely enjoyed this wonderful speaker! Very rare on TedX talks. Wonderful speaker, insightful, provocative thinking. Absolutely great.

That stuff about telling your therapist I don’t wanna talk about family, past tense childhood trauma, looool I’ve gone here for one thing and one thing only STRATEGY. 😂😂😂😂

It's true, as a college student, i've been vulnerable to my roommates, which changed my life in what i believe of connection. I was drawn so much closer when my roommates and I shared our darkest hurting secrets. From experience, I agree with her message.

Being vulnerable shows strength and confidence

Listened to 17 minutes of the talk so far, You are absolutely right, WHen I lost my parents, dog, aunt etc and was so over whelmed forever it seemed with grief, I knew the only reason I grieved so profoundly was because I loved so deeply. And even though it was hard, I would never lessen my love to spare my grief. You are the only one I have heard recognizing this .

12:46 > "I know that vulnerability is kind of the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness - but it appears it's also the birthplace of joy of creativity of belonging of love - and I, I think, I have a problem -, and, I just, I need some help, and I said, but here's the thing, no family stuff, no childhood shit, I just - I just need some strategies!" Brilliant - let me cut and paste that one...

@downhomegirl5

3 жыл бұрын

I think Coach Craig Kenneth is the best on KZread just thought I'd share.🌞

This was 2010 and 12 years after I have red and witnessed this message spreading around the world. Stil though, we are the same society. And this still touched me deeply as it would have 12 years ago. Thank you.

Brene, I read your books and saw your Netflix special, and just barely coming back to see this original Ted Talk you did. I know you don't read the comments because everyone knows it's a recipe for disaster, but I still have to tell you that you changed my life. Your book Daring Greatly opened the door for me to understand a lot of things about myself, and I will be forever grateful to you for your openness, vulnerability and willingness to be real and raw.

@reelsoon

4 жыл бұрын

Found this because I'm reading Daring Greatly right now😁

@patrickconnolly9807

3 жыл бұрын

she doesn't read her comments because this is ted talk's channel not hers.

@isaacwaring9263

3 жыл бұрын

In her Netflix special on Courage, Brene describes reading the comments under the original publication of this video and the damage it did to her because of the terrible things people said about her. Your kind response is a sweet contrast to those venomous replies.

@SW-rr7nl

3 жыл бұрын

Even if she doesn't. Your comment helped me find the Netflix show.. thank you

@annakozlowski3071

3 жыл бұрын

Love it ... “ be real be raw”

one of the best descriptions of human nature ive heard

Love this specially when she talks about children it’s ok to say you are imperfect you are still worthy. Don’t compare yourself to others, you are only hurting yourself

@anthonypat2197

Жыл бұрын

Hello beautiful beautiful Nancy

Great job! I've got to the same conclusion after healing myself from depression. As you said, when we shut ourselves down refusing to be vulnerable and "seen" by others, we also shut our source of joy at the same time. I think we, as human beings, are obsessed with a sense of perfection which doesn't exist - despite being widely advertised -. We think we can improve Nature by controlling Her but are not humble enough to admit that our Nature is perfect and that the only imperfection is in our failure to understand that what we perceive as chaos or "imperfection" is a mere comparison that our mind makes between what is real and what we ought to be real and acceptable according to cultural or religious standards. I think it's time to change that and we shouldn't just love our children, we should also be completely honest with them because we are all imperfect (from a human point of view) and that's the beauty of existence itself!

@gaurav3290

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your understanding 🙂

@sandraviegas7298

10 ай бұрын

I love your way of thinking about it!

The "no family stuff, no childhood sh!t" comment was great. I've said those same exact words before. Great talk. I can't wait to share this with my husband. Thank you.

Dr. Brown sharing her own vulnerability is what kept me watching. The authentic teachers are the ones who open up to let others see that they understand because they have been in the same place. That creates connection because of the commonality. She doesn't come across as trying to "fix us", but rather as showing us through her own experiences what really works.

I was told this would change my life and as a person who has suffered massive heartbreak and felt feelings of vulnerability, I would have to say that this has changed my perspective on everything for the better.

@nancybirsch-celli9404

Жыл бұрын

Bless you Connor.

The risk involved to be vulnerable. Fearless Love is my life's mantra. To love fearlessly. I know I have hidden behind my buddhist practices and used them as an armour, a way of NOT connecting, a way of protecting. I know that many of you have done the same. And BLESS YOU, the individual who risks look of being foolish and risks being wrong, when everyone else has their armour so perfectly oiled and shined. Bless the sangha which embraces and supports their comrades through such a dance.

Came here recommended by my therapist. I'm actually learning a lot from this. Thanks.

You can tell this woman is a Sherlock Holmes, noticing every detail! & look at her matching shirt and background with her name! Loved every word Mrs. Brown 🤎

Believing I am enough begins with being compassionate with ourselves. That begins with observing instead of judging. We all have within us unconditional love. When we are still we can hear its whispering voice behind our loud ego. Observing the ego quiets it allowing us to feel the love. Love tells me "I am enough!"

As a perfectionist and a person with a big fear of rejection it was a hard pill to swallow. Her words went straight into the bottom of my heart. So so true. Where the trust are there the risk are. We have to be courage in order to fulfill our best with joy and love. Thank you so so much for that precious sharing.

This talk is essentially about self worth, which from my experience, is mostly an issue in individualistic societies. Brene said that you cannot love others until you love yourself, I believe its the other way round. Only when you love everyone indiscriminately, like your brothers and sisters, as is common in many non western cultures, will you stop discriminating against yourself. If you are harsh on others, you'll be need harsh on yourself. I see everyone as my brothers and sisters and feel need to look out for everyone, friend or stranger, it's the way I've been brought up. When you are kind to everyone, without checking if they really deserve it, then in the same way, given that you are also a person, you should be kind to yourself. This way of thinking comes from a well known saying in the poorer, more communal parts of the middle east "your self has a right upon you".

@dmt7674

Ай бұрын

This is difficult for people who abandon themselves to take care of other people

"Our job is to look and say, you know what, you're imperfect and you're wired for struggle, but you're worthy of love and belonging." YES

Hallelujah! Someone speaking profound (yet common) sense, succinctly and with warmth of spirit and generosity. Well done Brene Brown.

This a fantastic speech!. I cried a few times!..thank you Brenne

SIx years of research condensed into 20 insightful minutes of wisdom for the soul. Thank you for sharing.

Realizing being vulnerable keeps you open and humble. Holding in emotions can cause pinned up anger and cause you to shut down or burst out. Being vulnerable allows one to grow and learn more about themselves and those around them.

Forever my favorite Ted Talk. So grateful for coming across this when I did. I can listen to this over & over. ❤

Thanks to Brené Brown for coming into my life right when I needed her. Twenty-four hours ago I had never heard this name. Then I came across it in three or four completely different situations. I got the message. Thank you.

@gaurav3290

2 жыл бұрын

Hey, how are you now after 10 years of this comment ?

"you are worthy of love and belonging". dedicated to Mei. 🙏

She is a great speaker. I really love her way of speaking. It's very soothing.

You can tell how not vulnerable she was when she mentioned she didn't want to talk about sensitive subjects. She also refers heavily to control which is the opposite of being vulnerable. Therapists are meant to guide you into finding the answers of your life within yourself as oppose to adopting theories of life from someone else. Hence why they ask more questions than answer any with true conviction.

So right on Brene. To me the the biggest challenge we have is to learn to love who we are. Big job!! Not easy, however, necessary. I love to listen n learn from your incredible wisdom and willingness to be right in your face honest!! Makes my heart sing. Lov ya for sure n grateful for willingness to let it all hang out!! 😍😘😄😂😂

"let go of who you think you should be and be who you are" thank you!

I listened to this some weeks ago because my therapist told me to. I came back today because something happened and now i have to make myself vulnerable and it's scary. I guess I should call on my courage though.

This presentation was an eye opening piece of just how you can live your life with more spirit, determination and passion.The research into vulnerability has opened a whole new spectrum which could really change your life. Delivered with skill, humor and a genuine voice..This is one of the most illuminating talks I have ever had the pleasure of discovering. Now it's off to buy the books! Thank you for a truly thought provoking presentation!

02:03 Connection is essential, but shame can unravel it. 04:38 Believing in self-worth leads to love and belonging 07:27 People who live with a deep sense of worthiness have courage, compassion and connection 10:32 Living wholeheartedly means embracing vulnerability 13:11 We numb vulnerability. 15:41 Numbing emotions is harmful 18:15 Teach children they're worthy of love and belonging

Here on 01/10/2024 and watching this talk again. It really hit me and my heart and is helping me go through my issues and improving my life.

So the ONLY pathway to joy, authenticity, belonging. is embracing vulnerability, not to numb it... Thank you Brene😍

"i am enough" goes back to her point about worthiness. we don't strive for connection if we don't feel worthy of it. once we believe in our own worthiness then we can truly be vulnerable and experience the full richness of life. not everyone has an existential concept of life. sometime they just want to get to the end of the day.

Wow, here I am looking for a good video in authenticity in Social Work (for my students) and I found myself watching, and listening to this woman who is describing my struggle. I am a story teller who is afraid of writing the stories because I am not sure about the "worthiness" of it. Specifically, the story of First Generations Puerto Rican women coming to the USA. Who cares for these stories? Anyway, the relationship between the sense of belonging, vulnerability and worthiness is very real.

@ZiddersRooFurry

9 жыл бұрын

I would read it :)

@selmaberrios2549

9 жыл бұрын

Agradecida, grateful. Selma

@nomadchica

8 жыл бұрын

Selma Berrios I would read them! :)

@devgene

7 жыл бұрын

i would read it

@selmaberrios2549

7 жыл бұрын

devgene Thank you for vote of confidence. Health to you

90% of TED talks seem to qualify for the word "best." I have to rank this talk as one of the "best of the best." I think almost everyone I know would find Brené Brown's presentation well worth watching. Thanks!

Such inspirational and important work. I have to say that if a person fails Dr Brene Brown's rules for trust (BRAVING), being vulnerable with them may not be safe.

this ted talk was a link in my lecture. I bawled my eyes out. It just made so much sense and kind of called me out a few times. You are a great storyteller and I think about this a lot. This gave me a whole new perspective or answer that I've been wondering. Thankyiou

I love this woman more every time I watch this talk (which is at least a dozen times). Thank you! When I watched this for the first time it stopped me in my tracks, because it is so true, and so important. I keep returning to it, and watching it again and again. There are so many important ideas here, and I keep trying to absorb them, and the more I understand what she is saying, the bigger this message gets.

My favorite talk ever. I don't rewatch stuff but I rewatch this

connection and vulnerability are the things, i believe, we struggle with most of the time.

Every single piece of this universe is sending me this message: vulnerability is not weakeness. I just need to believe and practice. Thank you, Brené, for sharing a piece of your soul.

I was glued to this from start to finish. Love the message, the delivery and the speaker. Start with an attitude of gratitude. Amen to that!

I understand when people say this speech lacks in many way, but please, also consider that, to some people, just to know that there are others like them, talking about what they live is enough to change some of them. Even though this wasn't as descriptive or deep some of you would've liked, it's still helpful material.

It requires money to make money this is the best secert I have ever heard we don't make money we make multiple money.

I was meant to see this today. I am sitting here crying at the recognition of myself in what you've said.

Just revisited this and so appreciate Berne Brown for leveling the playing field for all us humans.

We struggle with it because we're afraid of being hurt. The survival strategies of a lifetime are embedded deeply.

This ted talks required us to take notes for those 20 mins duration. So much info!

Love this woman and her wonderful books. The Gifts of Imperfection is brilliant.

@Chris-dt5td

4 жыл бұрын

I believe it is good to accept that we are imperfect but that we can better ourselves.

@Becca6296

Жыл бұрын

Agreed

I love the idea of courage being telling the story of who I am with my whole heart. Collecting stories from people as research is something those of us in the arts & humanities have long understood as incredibly powerful. I applaud Dr. Brown's research and hope she continues on this path.

I first saw this ten years ago and not to be dramatic but it absolutely changed me. I’ve never forgotten it and I always send it to my loved ones that need the reminders.

I so liked this. Vulnerability really is the core of primitive instincts to be sharpened

Dr. brown your always a joy to see and hear plus a great healer keep up the good work we sure need it in these times. Thank you.

@downhomegirl5

3 жыл бұрын

And thanks for the pic 👍😂

I fine this information very real. The thoughts presented here should be shared on a massive scale for the betterment of all. Thank you Dr. Brown for your outstanding authenticity and personal vulnerability, you should know you are appreciated greatly!

@xabierpombo8704

7 жыл бұрын

elle S omomoo

Everybody needs a friend like her in their life.

Agree...great refuge in realizing we are a wave...not the ocean.

Wow. Such a wonderful honest talk. I was touched. Something Dr. Brown might consider, if she hasn't already, is the research on "attachment theory" - how early caregiver interactions affect how our nervous system forms - what we learn first are "ways of relating". This research shows the extent to which early secure, ambivalent or avoidant attachment orients us to ourselves and our world is a very basic way. Thought it's a relevant connection.

You know Brene I saw magic happen infront of my eyes when I followed you in living with wholeheart.I think not a single day passes without I questioning my worthiness, and after I stumbled upon you it became my textbook for life I cannot imagine living without it(again I might be afraid of being vulnerable without you).

Brene's talk is just tantalizing and amusing and a hodgepodge of thoughts and circumstances. It's a kaleidoscope of endless feelings. But Brene does have lovely hair.

This is one of the most important concepts a person can listen to. If they truly hear it, it can transform their life.

@hannahgrace4173

2 жыл бұрын

what’s the concept ?

I have probably watched this video close to 50 times. It's so valuable to hear, really hear this message. Of course, my favorite part is the last couple of minutes which gives you the "punch line". I love the positive message of how to accomplish having an effective life. Beautifully said.

One of my favorite TED talks.

12:59 this part right here!! From this point forward you changed it all! I used to watch women leaders and public speakers like you, and feel empty. I have always known that my soul’s purpose is to be a leader of women, but I didn’t have the sense of self to find my place to fulfill my purpose..then this! Then this! Then this Brenee Brown! You built my insides..well I did, but you gave me this!! I am fulfilling my soul’s purpose now and it has given me the opportunity to know the difference between happiness and joy. I will be carrying on your legacy wherever I am. Why, because I am enough and I want to pass along to others in the way you have, and let them finally find their knowing of being enough! ❤ Just as you have for me!

I love her talk. It’s okay to be vulnerable

This video has helped to make the conscious decision to be vulnerable about my feelings of shame with my therapist and for that I’m grateful ❤️

This presentation was a joy to watch from beginning to end. Incisive, intelligent, compassionate,warm and funny. I feel richer for having viewed. Thank you.

I always come back to this TedTalk 💕💕

Excellent - totally agree with what Dr. Brown has said. My experience has been when in a small group, one person's vulnerability can open the door for connections for all in the group. [note: the group has to be wiling and able to "hold" this - to sit with the discomfort of someone else's or our own vulnerability without fixing, saving, or rescuing.]