Getting your ex back has to do with .1 no contact .2 mentality. If you believe you can never get your ex back then you most likely never will. They have to see you’re the type of person they don’t want to lose for good! You’re amazing and they saw that once, let them see it again ❤️

@aaronk3788

4 жыл бұрын

faaaq! thanks Joel, I needed that. Now I can get back to work! Peace, love and happiness for all!

"baaby I can't live without you" oscar worthy delivery Craig

@StrikeforceJedi

4 жыл бұрын

Lol

@juliefrecker3811

4 жыл бұрын

Lol yes that was good. Good advice. Keep your level of excitement lower.

this video is critical pay attention ive watched it at least 5 times coach craig really does want to see you succeed its not about ignoring your ex its about taking the time to rebuild your confidence and putting yourself in the best position to show the one you love that with or without them that youll grow and continue to be a better person and itd be in their best interest to hop on the growth train ;)

@carloscabrera5311

7 жыл бұрын

Ruins of Alph thank you. I needed that..lol

@sarasahadeo2701

5 жыл бұрын

I was in a relationship with this guy for four years. Then one day he bought another woman to his house after being with me two weeks before. He never told me it was over or anything like that. I think that was the worst time of my life. I couldnt understand how he could do something like that. When I tried talking to him he didnt want to talk to me or see me. So I didnt bother him again. Then after a year he came back and said he was sorry for what he did to me and wanted to get back together. So I decide to give him another chance. Even tho I love him I did not trust him again. So recentlly we had an agument and he told me its over. So I said its ok and I havent contacted him since. I just had this feeling he was just using me for his selfish reasons. Thats how I came across your videos and these videos really help me alot. So thank you so much. For now I am going to let everything go. Thanks again.

@davidtuiono1755

5 жыл бұрын

what if she kinda pushed you to agree to want to break up and then you agreed to break up. Do you still use no contact?

@Steve00077

4 жыл бұрын

David of course. She is dumping you when she does that. Nobody acts that way unless they want to end the relationship.

@kemaichijou8999

3 жыл бұрын

Yes this videos is the most important one watch it 10 x

You go into detail and depth that other "coaches" don't. You talk about the "why". You go 7 layers deep. And I cannot tell you how much I appreciate this. THANK YOU Craig.

@Outsider_aa

5 жыл бұрын

he and Margaret are the absolute best

Trying so hard to do no contact but it’s absolutely killing me!! I’ve never been in this situation before and it’s mind blowing!! So hard to focus and function but these videos are definitely helping! Thank you so much!!

@iconicsavage2327

4 жыл бұрын

Update ?

@SpyOnDeck

2 ай бұрын

Update?

Craig You seem like a genuine dude that really cares about helping people! Thoughts and prayers for you and Margaret’s family she was one of a kind and truly heaven sent.

The master of breakups and relationships ... Great video as usual. Thank you!

I've been reading a lot about this stuff. It's so important to follow these rules. It will make you or break you. Very good advice, Craig. :)

Wow! one great video.....I will win the academy award for being indifferent .. thanks again Craig. We are all so lucky to have found you and Margaret.

Canada here. Thank you again Coach Craig for a exception tutorial video. This one has to one of your very best. Keep up the good work my friend. Cheers, Rob Jelinski

You say you regressed....but after hearing the story you shared...it gave me HUGE insight. Thank you 🙏🏼

Agree i don’t want his darn friendship And I’m not going to be a 2nd option

@StrikeforceJedi

4 жыл бұрын

Same here. When I go back to move the couch this thurs, I'm going to be very clear that I'm looking for a partner, not a friend.

Craig is absolutely on another level!

"We can be friends and she'll see what a super catch I am and..." Nope. That, my friend, is a bigger sucker bet than trying to fill an inside straight flush.

thank u coach Craig...was firm with my plan for no contact...he texted me and invited me for dinner after 9 days ... we became friends ...shud say reunited finally can sleep well and felt forgiven... fingers crossed on our relationship though but at least we are in good terms with him again... thank you coach Craig for everything...your videos were with me for almost 1 month and a half... coz I keep on breaking it since the break up you helped me a lot coach and ur vids comforted me ...what m trying to say is well we are successful...we did it !!! thanks a lot ..more power..Godbless !!

Who gives this video a 👎, this is amazing advise !! Thanks coach craig!

Thank you ! Coach Craig .. Love this topic you are alway on point and you always have an answer to my problem. ❣️

I like how you emphasize the fact that we should not INITIATE contact with our exes, as opposed to flat out ignoring them. This is a very good distinction between what a lot of coaches out there are endorsing about the NC rule.

@sshuteandrew

6 жыл бұрын

It makes no sense to ignore a person that you want Back. What kind of message does that send them? People need to use common sense when listening to online advice!!!

@HuskyMoving

6 жыл бұрын

Stacey, any word from your ex?

@sshuteandrew

6 жыл бұрын

I feel like he’s warming up- we see each other occasionally and he’s not seeing anyone else. He’s still having doubts- I can tell bc he’s not opening up emotionally. He’s not ready but I’m OK with that. I’m focusing on myself and my growth. Finding my happiness within and not conditional on his hot/cold behavior. For the first time in my life I feel happy alone. That’s a major victory to me. I’m excited about the things that are unfolding....continuing to be patient, hopeful and believing in my happily ever after.

Great advice on the no contact rule and how to respond when they contact you.👍🏼

Ohhhhh no. That story could have been me. Thanks for hitting us metaphorically on our heads😊. I have kept no contact for 5 weeks and he already reached out. As I have an anxious attachment, I do all in my power not to break the rule. I am so much happier now. I feel less anxious because I have myself back.

Wow, I can't thank you enough. These videos I have watched have really helped me. When I found out my ex was dating someone else I flipped out, I told her much I loved her and was there anything I could do to make it work. I am starting no contact today, I hope I didn't already blow it.

@furyborn.1409

4 жыл бұрын

PianoMan4Life1982 how did it go King?

No contact works! Craig doesn't lie on this. Let me explain; So my ex broke up with me 4 months ago, basically ghosted me (mind you, I knew NOTHING about N.C..). And I was sad, I reacted because I was hurt and texted way too much. Then, I started watching their videos here and finally mustered up the strength to do no contact...to work on myself and heal. 33 days later...I got a phone call. It was him. He said he just "wanted to make sure I was okay"...in my mind I was like wtf as soon as I started to let go he calls after having me blocked for months. So just for everyone else looking to do no contact, it works. I smiled and cried but since I did no contact, I had time to grow stronger and now I am not bowing at his feet and screaming I want you back! No, instead I just told him that I was doing good. Asked him how he was doing. It went well. I even cut the conversation short, not that I wanted to...but because I didn't want him to think ghosting me and popping up months later after I tried so hard will make me say I miss you so much! No, instead I kept my composure and kept my feelings in check. I remembered my own worth and the conversation ended well. Maybe he will call back, maybe he won't. But my changing what he expected me to do changed his thoughts. I followed Craigs advice and after more than 30days no contact but less than 45days he reached out on his own. Even told me he thought about me All the time. I was shook like I thought he didn't think of me at all because he never tried to reach out before no contact. Amazing lol...it was so hard at first when I began but work past the discomfort and heartache. It could work for you. There is something to it. Manifest your reality. If they call back good (maybe) and if not you rebuilt yourself in the no contact time. I am such a bigger fan of this channel now...🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

@l.k.1111

5 жыл бұрын

He used the "indirect-direct approach", btw..😇

@kagamitaiga9167

5 ай бұрын

awesome

I love taking notes from this guy !!

You are amazing :) thank u for everything you are doing ,it's so helpful

Craig...great work. I think one thing has been overlooked in many videos...the reason "types" for the breakup...and the reality of reattracting them. Did they breakup with the "situation/circumstances" or the "person" ? That's an important concept for us to understand when trying to rebuild a relationship. Also, I'm at a loss....initially, I broke up with her....but a week later, she came back to pick up remaining things, spent the night in my bed...then left the next day, after I went out of town that morning. It has been NC for several weeks..almost 3 months. I'm having to watch and attempt to interpret your information, but from both sides of the fence...AM I the one who broke it off, or is it in her mind...that she broke it off with me?...See my dilemna ??? Great work...best of all the info out there !

This is one of the best videos I’ve seen. Thanks Craig for sharing. You really break down the no contact rule, well.

@gebrieliarluicy2021

3 жыл бұрын

*Mes*sa*ge hi*m on Wh*at*sA*pp..

@gebrieliarluicy2021

3 жыл бұрын

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Once again coach Craig I think you're kind of solidifying my thoughts that nobody's going to be able to have a healthy relationship unless I go to college for

@PricelessBinkey1337

4 жыл бұрын

Too much b******* behind all this s*** like Jesus Christ I'm trying to have a relationship that doesn't have the stupid ass f****** mind games yeah I'm supposed to play these in order to have a healthy relationship this is what so f***** up about those society that we live in

This makes sense- I remember in the beginning when my ex pursued me and asked me out in the beginning of our relationship, he later told me I had him guessing and that he felt “off balance” w me bc he didn’t know what I was thinking or how I’d be...he said I was a mystery to him. And that is when he pursued me! Since our break up, I tried pleading, bargaining and then limited contact via text for 6 weeks...none of it worked. Now I am on strict NC and determined to stay here!!

@LaoSoftware

6 жыл бұрын

When my ex dumped me, I begged and pleaded for him to keep me. It didn't work. I felt embarrassed and lost my self-respect. It's been a month of NC. I still haven't heard from him. I fear he will never reach out again.

sucha a gooooood video... love ur sense of humor Coach.. 😍 Keep it up!

@CoachCraigKenneth

7 жыл бұрын

Thanks Farah :)

How do you know when your ex actually really does want to be with you, and not just want to know that they "have you" and lose interest again? I feel like you can never really trust them again and feel like you have to walk around being hard to get...

There are a lot of videos speaking to men trying to get women back- a lot of how women react and what they are looking for. Will you pretty please do videos explaining men’s reactions. Thank you!

@ellenbartlett7933

5 жыл бұрын

Agreed, yes please

@its_stardust

5 жыл бұрын

Yes! Get Margaret up in here about this lol

@reutmelzer669

4 жыл бұрын

Was just about to write the same! It sounds all of the successful stories are about the woman who run after her ex. The other side should be focused as well.

@NomadUrpagi

4 жыл бұрын

Mens reactions are pretty straightforward

@redwhiteblue774

4 жыл бұрын

Do you only cater for men?

just have to say…. So true. When I wanted him back, he started with allllll these feelings and blame and I couldn’t handle it I just wanted it to be over. Pay close attention - be calm - be patient with your ex and woo them again !!

This was very very helpful. Thank you!

I love You Craig, You really help to manage my anxiety. Thank You! :)

@StrikeforceJedi

4 жыл бұрын

Right? I listen to him and Margaret all the time. They help relieve my anxiety and put me at ease.

This is an excellent video. I won't take the Ford Escort. Thanks Coach Craig! Glad I saw this video!

7 weeks now since I've reached out, 4 weeks since she has. Going no contact is still hard and I don't want it but it's kind of fun in a strange way. See how long I can go until we get back together or if it all falls apart for good. She's the one who dumped me so she needs to earn me back.

@TomBrady2008

4 жыл бұрын

Matty Matt same boat man 5 weeks today. For me this is the second break up. Was with this girl for 4.5 years. The first time i was still going to school with her so i got to see her, and talk to her. She was not interested in talking or anything till I asked her if we could talk. She told me she didnt want to talk. I told her, “fine, im done and i will move on. I left class right after that and 10 minutes later she texted me asking to talk. I did everything wrong that time around, showing my weakness, begging, etc. this time around was not as terrible as that time. But I have been no contact since the day she broke it off. I work with her dad whom i am very close with which is another difficulty in the situation. I dont talk to him about anything but work. Currently im pursuing the career i have been wanting to for some time, cant wait to get out of my current job. I learned that you should never work with your gfs family! Her birthday was 2 weeks ago and i stayed silent! This is extremely painful to experience but im learning from it and wont ever give my power away in a relationship again. My birthday is next month. We will see if she reaches out. If she wants any sort of reconciliation, she is going to have to work for it! Thats what i did wrong the first time. I didn’t make her respect me. Keep me updated on your situation, i am intrigued on a outcome. Best of luck to you man

@TomBrady2008

4 жыл бұрын

Not a dam peep from her. I don’t think she will talk to me ever again. Never how I wanted it to be, but im at the point where i don’t give a shit anymore especially because of how she treated me. It is easier to see why I wasn’t happy in the relationship now than 2 months ago. She prob fuckin some other dude, good for her i got my turn.

@TomBrady2008

4 жыл бұрын

Im better than that, taking at least a year to myself. I disregarded myself for 4 years.

@eppeep42

4 жыл бұрын

@@HAPPYPANDA53 thanks for the update. Im sorry. I have been broken up with my ex for 31 days now. Together for 2 yrs. Its the 2nd time, first time was in september last year for a few weeks. She dumped me. I did everything wrong the week during break up, but since then about 25 days NC now. Extremely painful, because i love her...

@jenniferharris9078

4 жыл бұрын

Why did she break up with you? Update

This was one great video!! Literally everything you need to know in one video! Shared and saved!

@gebrieliarluicy2021

3 жыл бұрын

""I no of a man who can real"ly help you get what you want... But he ch"arg"es only $300 to help you ma"nif"est what you want""

@gebrieliarluicy2021

3 жыл бұрын

*Mes*sa*ge hi*m on Wh*at*sA*pp..

@gebrieliarluicy2021

3 жыл бұрын

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2 days no contact ugggg after 4 months of his so called I don't know.......as time slowly passes for me I know I'm not as important as I thought 18 years married would make me to him. The other women was a complete shock to me........if I can even make it to 30 days I hope at that point my self worth will be able to just let it go .....thank you your videos have been a tremendous comfort.....and I listen to your videos as I lay down for the night ....thank you..........i laughed myself to sleep last night when you were talking about checking Facebook and so on......(not that I do that lol)

Hi Craig, Thank you for all your sessions which I listen to every day morning afternoon and night... Who is breaking up who the cheater or the cheated

This is gold. No contact puts them in the position of chasing you. It works .

@mattykay1137

5 жыл бұрын

Serby Drobnjakovic Not for everyone

@SerbyWafflesTech

5 жыл бұрын

@@mattykay1137 for everyone trust me. If it doesn't work then they don't care about you. So it's pointless.

@mattykay1137

5 жыл бұрын

Serby Drobnjakovic Yes that’s very true I do think that’s my position She doesn’t care abt me 😌 That’s ok It’s her problem I’m doing my very best too move on

When is the right time to speak your true feelings? Once you are in a relationship again?

My ex and I broke up in January and found out he moved away to another state in June without telling me. I told him I wanted to discuss somethings before he move away, then he replied saying he will come back to visit his parents in December. First of all, I do not want to see and/or talk to him at all if that’s his intention of coming back. I got plans for him and he will be shocked.

I love your videos, your amazing, I find you helpful and soothing. Xx

I just wanted to thank Craig for these vids really helped me out! when my ex did contact me kinda didnt know what to do but dont let the anexity get to you and treat it like your good with or without them. Found myslef again and am working things out with my ex Thanks craig

@gebrieliarluicy2021

3 жыл бұрын

""I no of a man who can real"ly help you get what you want... But he ch"arg"es only $300 to help you ma"nif"est what you want"" .

@gebrieliarluicy2021

3 жыл бұрын

*Mes*sa*ge hi*m on Wh*at*sA*pp.. .

@gebrieliarluicy2021

3 жыл бұрын

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Craig, you have saved my life man. You are getting me through this “break” that my girlfriend wanted. I do not contact her at all. She calls me to see how I am doing about every three or four days. I keep the conversation short less than 10 minutes and only talk about fun light things. I never talk about the relationship.

@ssickkenn8990

4 жыл бұрын

Jose Ramos I recommend you don’t talk to her at all. No contact doesn’t mean that you just don’t contact her, it’s no contact between the 2 of you. If you want her back, talking every other day or so is just not going to let her miss you enough. Especially for anything more than 2 minutes if it’s nothing important or in your favor. Just a tip.

@JoseRamos-zc6sr

4 жыл бұрын

Kenya Hughes Thank you. But I have heard Craig say not to ignore her texts or calls. Even during no contact. He does say to keep the conversation light and fun and short.

Craig, you don’t know how badly I needed to hear 9:48. Every no contact video I see assumes that the proverbial door was left open, and I panicked every time I heard it because I said something that politely closed the door to walk away with dignity. I haven’t heard anyone say what you said at 9:48. It’s been nearly two months since, and just hearing that helped because I was kicking myself for not telling her “contact me if you change your mind.” Even better when you said you WANT her to think you’ll never contact her again. Don’t know how I didn’t see this video before. So unbelievably comforting. Thank you thank you thank you. Edit: I kept watching the video. “You probably made them feel trapped, you probably acted insecure...” Craig this is your best video. You’re addressing my situation and giving me the OK to move forward with the knowledge that she can still come back, and that this was all part of the process even if not. Thank you.

@gebrieliarluicy2021

3 жыл бұрын

""I no of a man who can real"ly help you get what you want... But he ch"arg"es only $300 to help you ma"nif"est what you want""

@gebrieliarluicy2021

3 жыл бұрын

*Mes*sa*ge hi*m on Wh*at*sA*pp..

@gebrieliarluicy2021

3 жыл бұрын

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Hi Craig I've only just discovered you...you are amazing. Are your videos mainly aimed at the man getting the woman back??

Thanks for all the AWESOME ADVICE Craig!!!! Do you have a video about no contact, but when there is a child involved? How to use the "no contact", but also be able to co-parent? I am trying to get my daughter's mom back in my life and I am extremely confused...

I love no contact , I will make Bollywood movie of no contact and I will cast the role in it my self and Craig will be directing that movie and Victoria will be producer and Margaret (rip)will be writer. We all love Margaret ❤

This video is so excellent

This knowledge has to be passed on to the future generations! One day there shall be only securely attached people walking this earth!❤

This is the video that I finally decided to subscribe. Your other videos aren't my personality style but what you said in this one bonded with other youtube advice therapy I am choosing and you were to the point. I appreciate it. I am very broke with 20 dollars to my name getting out of this mess. How much is your skype or any options available as I make income and try to get more help

Wow. Thank you for all the amazing insight and helping me to understand so that i have the tools to become a better woman and hopefully partner once more but forever hopefully next time. Courtney *Birmingham, AL* xo

I’ve been in NC for about 5 months now except for one text regarding some insurance paperwork about a month ago and it’s been 9 months since the breakup. I thought I was finally getting over him but yesterday and today have proved otherwise. I just want to move on already and stop thinking about him!😫😫😫 Also, yesterday and today I’ve been contemplating breaking NC, so I came here for encouragement and to stop myself from doing it. Thanks for the videos.

X wife contacted me today after 2 weeks....i was lost...so before i did anything i found your vid and i was so happy i did....i replyed shortly after. just as my dinner hr was over......short replyes and after 2 text i ended the text saying dinner was over half to go........i feel i did this very well.....great vids.....

I’m still stuck with trying to figure out who dumped who?!

I'm going thru a break up now craig and I'm loving all the great advice.

@CoachCraigKenneth

7 жыл бұрын

Thank you Jade, if you ever want my help personally sign up for a coaching. I'm happy to help :)

@ilaitiakamikamica6055

6 жыл бұрын

Coach Craig Kenneth Hi Coach love your work

@juhichaudhary3657

Жыл бұрын

@@CoachCraigKenneth can you please do this video from female perspective as well? If the dumpee is woman? As you have talked a lot about what is attractive to women… but what about men?

I feel like I was made to thrive in reattracing her. I never feel the need to talk about the breakup, my first instinct was to have fun and try to get some closeness going on

been following you craig alot, going thru a hard breakup right now and your videos have brought some serious relief to my anxiety. when you talk about no contact until they do, even if it's a her birthday or holidays? wouldn't it seem like I just dont care at all? I ask cause her birthday is coming up in 2 months and unsure if I should message her at all and say happy birthday, from what I've watched on your videos I shouldn't I just want to be sure that I'm doing the right thing. thanks again craig for the videos.

@ethanposey2451

5 жыл бұрын

Update?

No contact rules in my opinion Everyone has a different situation, so starting no contact while is pretty simple there are things u can do before no contact like letting her know you want her, example: on the last time I had a conversation with her before going no contact, I told her I lover her and I knew she don't feel the same way and that I was going to move on, than I went no contact.. If no contact works with time she will remember the last thing you told her, it's important what he said, do not initiate contact for whatever reason, for me this is very hard because we have a son and we live in the same building so we see each other ofter, but I will try to avoid her, and I will not initiate contact with her, we have a schedule for when I pick up my son so I won't have to text her when I pick him like I been doing lately. This going to be hard for me because lately I been feeling very attached to her, but it's my only option, whether this works or not it'll help me move on or get her back regardless. Am doing no contact. Also improve your look, everything is about looks. The better you look the more she will notice your change and begin to wonder about you. So improve your style and this will help you be more confident as well, start going to the gym and getting in shape this will help you a lot too. And most importantly if you struggle badly with thoughts of her and stalking her and she just doesn't get out ur head, listen to motivational speeches and topics on this no contact to keep head clear and meditate. Work on moving on because there is chance that you won't get her back.

In my case I broke up 1 week ago, and he is trying to see me, text me. I can not ignore him 100 percent, and now he wants to see me tomorrow. But I told him that,am not ready, as the wound didn't still cure. So what shall I do in this case ? Thanks in advance for your reply

Hi Craig, loving the videos. Can you do a Video on The Bonding Chemicals released in the Brain that you were talking about in this video. And More Videos with kids involved in a Broken Home, and how it will affect them in later life. Thanks.

@PaddyOfReilly007

6 жыл бұрын

Can you also do one about How to Bonde with an Avoidant. or How to Make an Avoidant Bonde with you. Thanks.

My ex broked up with me when she was in USA. We are from Ecuador and I remember she told me "I hope I don't regret breaking up with you" . She's coming back to Ecuador soon. And a few weeks ago she texted me on whatsapp and I kept the conversation short. Then she liked my instagram photo that I uploaded last year. And finally a few days ago she Liked again another pic and she commented " Cool You look very beautiful" and I didn't replay back.So all of that signs makes me thing she wants to get back with me, also makes me thing she misses me, Its very confusing. I miss her to. I got this feeling that after she's done all of this I need to contact her to ask her out. Help Craig!! Help me Guys.!!

Wish I watched this sooner. I settled for friendship hoping to develop into something more. Of course nothing came of it. She split up with me before we got serious, but we moved fast before the split. Now we rarely talk to the point I forced myself to move on.

@scrotiemcboogerballs2133

5 жыл бұрын

Update?

I'm in a long distance relationship and my ex sent me a long heart felt message stating he wanted to break up. Nothing stating anything about me doing something to cause it... but more so him feeling lost in what he wants.( I know situations that were brought up before the break up that would bring such emotions to him) Regardless of the reason, i didn't message him back ever because I wanted to be in the right head and heart space. It's been almost 2 weeks now I don't know if I need to send him something to not be an ass or if I go on with the no contact rule. Advice needed !

It would be helpful to know the difference if the one using the direct/indirect were the man who ghosted then sends a message to say hello out of the blue over a year later to see how the woman is and how work's going (even though he knows she is taking time off). Thank you, Craig.

I have been watching your videos Craig for probably a month now maybe more. Sadly I didn't find them until I made a lot of mistakes. I let him put me in the friend zone because I was so desperate to keep him in my life. I went through a lot of emotions and I struggle to go to work every day. We were long distance and most of our time together was on the phone after work. I have had so many emotions including wanting to die. I was fantasizing about it. I still watch even though it's been three months and there is not really a sign he will come back to me the way I want him to. He has always kept in touch but he refuses to call me because we fought about sex all the time. (the lack of it for various reasons ofc) I told him the sex was just a bonus what we had was a connection that neither of us understood. He refuses to go back. Said he let me go so I could be happy. He however has not moved on either. I like to think that the emails are his way of showing me he still loves me. He even admitted to missing me..something he has not said in many months. He used to say how can I miss you when we talk every day? That always stung. When I tried to give him space he thought I was ignoring him but really I was just trying to stay busy thinking it would make him miss me and be happier that I wasn't crowding him. I think we have a lot of issues to work out so I continue to sort of talk it out via email. Is this relationship hopeless or am I giving him what he wants which is the friendship thing he asked for so he can eventually phase me out? I would skype or email but honestly I can't afford you. Thank you for the videos. It helps soothe my anxiety attachment style

Love this video! Very helpful!

@juliefrecker3811

4 жыл бұрын

Very important information. Accidentally broke no contact at same place same time. I said hi on my way out. Been almost one year. Going back to no contact. Wont settle for the Ford. Lol

Love this guy...I guess I found you a bit too late.. I'm 40 yo and suffering for my girl. I sent her flowers twice already and letters....not easy. Lots of other coaches preach the same No-contact-rule and I was thinking that that it would apply even if she contacts me. Thanks for clarifying that IF, she contacts me I should answer her and not show I'm excited about it. We are playing that game right now of who's got the most interesting day by using IG stories...I notice she watches my stories..all of them...today It will be the first day that I will ignore and not watch her stories...it is SO HARD... I want to press that button so bad....shes on vacation in Italy and I want to see what is happening. This is hard.

I still dont get the logic or psychology behind it. I mean if your gf broke up with you she already accepted that loss especially when they said they dont want to hear from you or see you ever again. Unless they're being pretentious.

absolutely brilliant

Thanks voor your advice Coach and all the effort you put in your videos. There is only one thing I don't realy understand. I always hear from a lot of experts (including you) that we shouldn't contact her and so on but at the same time "she will see on social media by her stalking for example, that we're doing great". Does that mean that we just don't contact that person but at the same time don't delete them from our social media. I always thought that the most effective way was when we realy delete that person from all our platforms especially when she "wants to be friends"?

My ex was getting cold but didnt ultimately end it. We kind of had a blow up over the phone one night. She said she didnt feel the same way about us anymore, and the next day i returned her house key, got the few things of mine from her house. I told her that if we were meant to be we will find our way back to each other..if not, we should go our seperate ways. My question is, do i stay in no contact until she contacts me? I ultimately decided to go no contact and left, but it was her, who was pulling away.

How do I cause a fear in him that he'll lose me, to not feel so secure that he has me???

What if the woman breaks it off because of something the man did? Using no contact could ruin his chances since she has felt betrayed in someway.

@josephcelestine1945

4 жыл бұрын

Veronica Hamilton The idea is to make contact on and off until she heals and you finish up in good terms then express you love her and want to work it out, then go no contact.

Hey, I could really need some help, Ive been dating this girl for about 6-7 month, we traveled through new zealand with a van for a month and lived together for the past 5 month. She always told me I was her soulmate and her best friend. Now a month ago she went home during the holidays, where she apparently had a lot of stress with her family and friends, she told me she would stay until the end of january. My anxiety got the best of me and I started to panic. We had a couple little fights, but always in the end we said that we are glad that we talked about it and that she loved me and misses me more then anything. 2 days after the last fight she wanted a break. I was scared but didnt beg or cry or anything to her I initiated no contact and told me to contact me when she changed her mind. a week later she just texted me its over. I was crushed but kept my cool and once again told her that i loved her and contact me when she changes her mind. This was 2 weeks ago. I have all her stuff in my appartment and she is coming back in 1-2 weeks. Do you think we still have a chance? Can I still save this,? We really were like soulmates....

thanks Craig! u are amazing and ur patience ,sincerity and clarity makes understand the things easily and makes so much sense. I wish I could have watched you right after I broked up with her. I kinda feeling good, especially when I am going to bed but feeling void as I open my eyes in the morning and go sad for a while in the afternoon.

:( It's very har, we just broke up last week. She ended it. A woke up every morning crying. I always talk to her before sleeping because I was really feeling terrible. I told her if she can talk to me if I'm sad, she agreed. How stupid am I right??? She texted me yesterday, she told me not to drink too much. I didn't ignore her, I told her that I won't. But now after watching your video, I am seeing things clearly. I am thankful that I found you sir. I told her I love her and that I want to work things out with her and I'll try to contact if she changes her mind. I won't reach out again, I wont initiate contact. If she texts me again, I'll try to handle it cooler. "You life is a movie, you are the star of your own movie, not her" -Craig

So in the case if they contact you , with an indirect/direct approach . And they have a bf already .. how do you go about that ? Do you ask them to meet up ? Or do you not ?

I want to start, looking for someone new as a friend or as a partner.... I m separated from my husband, is that possible I can look for someone else...how to know I can trust?

how we should put a relationship in ours terms, how it is done?

hey coach, i have a question. say someone's ex broke up with him a few months ago, then they dont talk for a month (as stated by another coach, but you do not agree with this method). the dumper, a girl, starts calling/texting him, then he start calling/texting her, then he takes her out on a couple of dates, then she says she just wants to be friends. that is when the dumpee initiates a REAL no contact (none of that 21 to 30 days bs) after telling her him cannot be friends with her. in this situation, the guy implements no contact for the 2nd time, but the CORRECT way based on your work. when you mention one must conduct no contact with his or her partner, do you mean ALWAYS right away after the break-up, or can it ALSO be done down the road as in the hypothetical situation mentioned above, (due to the possibility someone has yet to encounter your channel to get the correct info)? thanks and keep up the good work.

Hi Craig, great video :) but you only talk to men :) there is no video that talks to women and what they should do if their ex contacts them. It must be different scenario right ?? cause men do use women for sex as you mention in other videos, so if you are a woman and your ex starts getting back for sex it does not mean you are back together ... it can end up being a situation where he comes back again and again for sex casually where you as a woman bonds again and in the end you get attached again when the guy comes and goes freely .... can you please do a video for women on the exact scenario you talk here ? Meaning what to do if your ex (guy) comes back with an indirect - direct contact and how to handle pleaseee??

I met this girl on fb shes from Georgia im from Philadelphia we clicked instantly she was always texting me 90% of it was her we started to ft and i remember after a face time she hung and text me that she just wanted to let me know she really likes me, i fell for her right there, but only said i feel the same. Over the years ive done much work on myself. Some time went on its been about month now, she told her mom about me her best friend and we even set a plan for me to come see her in March for mg my vacation she would say how she cant wait to see me and cant wait till i get there it felt so good. Then New years came and a few days later everything changed she said shes not sure about the long distance, i told her we knew it would be hard but we can do it i basically told her we shouldn't give up. But she wasn't responding to anything i was saying so i backed off. A week later my birthday hit on the 10th and she said nothing to me . I have to admit I really didn't care too much about that I just figured she didn't wanna send mixed feelings. A mont went by we havemt talked at all i sent a few messages literally 2 in that time saying i hope shes ok and to take her time and figure out what she wants to do. Then last week i told your ghosting me and it doesn't feel great. She responded that she didn't know what to say. I told her just talk to me. And she responded with the same, thing as in the beginning there is so much unknown and risk. And i told her your going to have that anyway. She didn't respond until the next morning when she said she is sorry but she just can't do it. My heart was broken, and i let her know that in a way. But i told i would respect her decision and let her go even though i didn't want to and i gave some push back just no alot. I don't know why i care so much for a girl i never met and only talk to for a month but her gone now os the worst pain i felt in years. Anyway she ended up unfollowing me on ig, undded me on snap, bu i could still follow her but i did it right back, and took her off fb which idt she wanted it to go that far but it did, the next day i messaged her on ig and said i didn't want it to end like this it didn't make any sence, She said please jusy stop and leave it alone we never even met or anything jusy leave it alone, at this point i no im pissing her off and she's done, but i told her how can i just back off when i promised her i wouldn't do that and she said i better not, but hey that last month so idk, im chocked up problem is we are so far i think she's just going to for get me and not miss me, im going crazy here . He profile is set to private i can see what shes doing i can only see if shes active or not because of the last message i sent, which was i just want her to be happy and ill aways be here for her, its been a week and some change now im in no contact i know i have stay focused on myself im also a KZreadr with a pretty decent following so she can always see what I'm doing. Idk i have know one to talk to i feel crazy telling people about how i feel because i never met her and we only talked for a month. But man twe connected on so many levels the spark was there it was nuts now its gone.

Great video as always Craig 🙂 Soooo... here is my case. Been looking ur videos for a month. She broke up a month ago. I was a wreck for a day then decided to bounce and get better. Then, following the advice of another coach I decided to play the good flirty friend and make her laugh. At some point I realised...its "kinda" working but shes not experiencing any separation anxiety. She doesnt have that nothing burger yet. She told me she was impressed how strong I was and she had a renewed sense of respect for me and all. BUT. Im not satisfied. I want her to see what its like. So tond her i needed space stayed silent for a week and today I contacted her telling her I see myself forced to refuse her friendship offer. I said Im worth more than that I dont want to place myself in the friendzone and I wish her the best. This was 2years relationship also its long distance shes in her country im in France. We know each others since 8 years shes crazy about me Im just not interested in being friend again in fact I never was. She didnt take it well shes probably crying right now. I think she is experiencing the break up for real now. My only concern is that this whole thing is a big bet from me. She might be able to redirect her feelings on whichever douchebags online who is gonna be nice enough to her and listening to her crap. Its gonna be easy to manipulate her or make me pass for an asshole lol. I wasnt perfect and so wasnt she. I want her crawling back 😂 anyway... We texted a bit after I told her she was a wreck and realised she lost me. I was a bit cold but not angry or bitter I was just explaining my reasons. One of them was " i cant pretend to be friend with someone I have feelings for". Hope it wasnt a turn off to say that. It sure wasnt hypocrite i always say what i think it leads to lots if problem lol. Anyway thanks to you and Margaret for your job. Sadly im poor i cant afford coaching session I would like someone answering me though 😂 even someone from the comment section. Good luck everyone though.

What if I broke up with my husband of 31 years for a good reason, and he begged me back right off the bat, but now he says he’s met someone and now the ball is back n his court? I truly love him and I just hoped that he would take the time to make some changes while I did the same. So now we’re both playing the no contact rule game. What do I do?

Hey Craig. my question is... can NC just wear off in the very first week ? because she asked me if i wake up in time for work (long distance) once and once how i was feeling ..

any videos on what we can do once the ex breaks no contact? any suggestions? thank you. I will schedule something with Craig but wanted to see if there was any advice or actions when no contact is broken by the ex?

It’s been 1 week since I started a no contact. Can I ask a question? I wanted to text my ex’s mom: “I am wishing for you and Alex’s health and safety. I know you guys live in downtown San Diego and some violent protests can saturate city downtowns. I am hoping you guys’ safety wouldn’t be compromised.” I don’t know if I should send this or not since I don’t want to restart my no contact rule and just want to give my ex the space and time he wanted from me. Please, help.

Why r u so good at your job

@CoachCraigKenneth

7 жыл бұрын

Lol

@Shh9319

6 жыл бұрын

Coach Craig Kenneth what if you broke up with my bf & you want him bk but u NEVER reached out to him & he contacted me 6weeks later but keeps coming bk & leaving so he contacts me & by text every 2 wks sometimes every 3wks & drunk texts me & u keep giving him the green light but he doesn’t try to c u. He’s very insecure so I try to act interested when he acts interested & says he misses me a lot but then he goes mia again & has done this for 7 months even followed you on social media & I’ve never checked or followed him bk but still nothing 😏this is so frustrating he doesn’t leave me alone but yet never asks to c me even tho I hint when he seems to say certain things... what can I do?? I never tell him how I feel I just respond bk to text & I flirt bk. Also he’s an Avoidant personality & has a lot of anxiety & depression & insecure. I’m Anxious attachment style. 😰I miss him & regret breaking up with him.

@cynthiab8377

3 жыл бұрын

Coach Craig Kenneth need your help here. My ex bf thought I dumped him during our argument but I didn’t, I reached out to him and explained trying to patch things back 1 week later but he refused and told me it’s over saying 3 times of break up is enough (although in reality is 2 times). I’ve done all the apologizing and explaining, doing favors, and when it all didn’t work after 2.5 months of efforts, I finally went NC for 1 week. Then I was caught in an accident, he instantly came over to help me last week (his family member told me he was nervous that night when he received my text that I got into an accident), I think he still cares for me a bit, but he doesn’t seem to want to talk when I tried to make small talks while he sends me home that night. I suggested let’s be friends, but my ex bf didn’t respond to it and has been ignoring my texts. What should I do now Craig, any chance to patch back? Please help & thanks.

You're absolutely amazing Coach Craig! ☺👍 Thank you so much for this video. But can all these tips be used in same scenario for a woman, who's bf of 1yr made the break-up move, saying he doesn't want a relationship. Plus this is the 2nd break-up within the 1yr relationship? Kindly advice. Thank you.

You say don't chase the person who broke it off but what if the dumper has no other options and was treated poorly?

Hi Craig, I got the indirect direct contact (telephone call) after 4 months, aaaaaand yes! I did the "oh yeah, oh yeah" jig complete with the air pump action. Good new I did present myself as jolly and happy to hear from her which I did say. She asked which part of the country I was in and wanted to know if I was in the capital. Why? so that if I was around and interested would go for an afternoon talk session with her at a place she had introduced me to as they were having one that day (forgive me for withholding details). I replied in a very "oh boy I forgot" kind of tone and mentioned I had planned to attend but forgot and now was out of town, which I was. Then as I did not want to quickly schedule a meet with her and did not earlier have the opportunity to give her the the "call me if you change your mind closing" I chose to try both and told her to please let me know when the next one is due (i.e. call me) and I will purpose to come to town attend it (off course to see her too) of which she replied she would in kind of a slight head tilt (I have a wild imagination - could not really see her) from the sound of it. She then added a little small talk added to which I gave short answers and let her know I was in the middle of something, thanked her for calling and said it was nice to hear from her and hang up. FYI I will not be contacting her (don't get me wrong I'm dying to do so) till she calls if she wants to. I came across your videos about a month ago by chance and got quite a bit of positive and very helpful coaching from them. I if its ok I can send you an email with the detail for you to analyze the sequence of event. Never know it might help someone else get to where I am.

I've messed up with trust issues from being lied to and when me and ex argued I always got worked up and went about it the wrong way. If asked for her honesty multiple times calmly and I never got anything back. She screen shots every message/email and sends to friends. I've had depression for years and affected our relationship. We have a daughter and now 3 weeks and I've tried contact her and see my daughter but no reply and she told my sister it was between us but won't talk. If we didn't have a daughter is understand but I'm slowly giving up

Can you make a video about what to do when both me and my ex work at the same job together?

Hello craig, your most of the topic are so undeniable to the state of mor proffessional level, by the way im from the phils, and i watch most important of your vid, and i just wondering if i could talk to even if im from the poorest county ??? Cause i have their most confusing question either . . Humbly saying all .. thanks

We broke up almost a month ago but we are still "in a relationship" on facebook. Should I put my status to single?

Hi Craig I hope this works ...once again I start to get close to some one, then wbam just stop hearing from them.. I'm.so hurt all building up .. I will do this...thank you for all videos

I don't know if you mention this in any of your videos but giving your ex another chance should be under the conditions that you ended in good terms regardless of who did the dumping or if it was mutual. So in that sense, I don't know why a bad/hostile breakup would even be considered in these scenarios

New subscriber here and I’ve just purchased “The Knowledge” ebooks. Craig, I have a very important question. A friend of mine is in the beginning stages of no contact with his ex, but then he was diagnosed with an STI since the no contact began. His Dr. said he needs to tell his partners about his diagnosis. Should he break no contact in order to inform his ex? (He’s fairly certain he contracted the STI from his ex-it is not HIV/AIDS) What if she wants to see a report of his diagnosis, should he keep breaking contact with her about this STI?