Lonnie, sometime the reason why people don’t like you…….. has nothing to do with you……and everything to do with how they feel about themselves. You remind them of what they are not.

@munab3666

2 жыл бұрын

FACTS 👏🏾👏🏾

@shanice_a

2 жыл бұрын

💯 FACTS !!

@dianangoma4474

2 жыл бұрын

Woow this is deep

@479Derick

2 жыл бұрын

Agree, it has nothing to do with you but them!!!!

@TheRedScareIsAlive

2 жыл бұрын

This ☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾

I love Loni honesty and sensitivity!! Who cares if they don't like you... You ARE who God created you to be love!

@ch3ls3a_____57

2 жыл бұрын

That’s right 💯

@Sphaatikhaa

2 жыл бұрын

Loni, you are a beautiful person--don't ever let the haters get you down.

@borneo_

2 жыл бұрын

My eyes got teary I relate so much🥲

@MH-vw9ni

2 жыл бұрын

But she did bring a lot of it on herself. You can't be an ass to people an expect them to like you.

@SheShineBright

2 жыл бұрын

@@MH-vw9ni I hear you. I empathize because we could all see ourselves in her as well. Where we may feel like why doesn't this person like me ??? I guess my stance is "we ARE who we are... The good, bad and ugly" and we should stand in that and not care what anyone thinks of us. At the end of the day we're all a work in progress. Some ppl may Like us for whatever reason and vice versa..

Adrienne has grown to be such a compassionate communicator. ♥️

@missnlahi

2 жыл бұрын

She really has.

@Shenieta

2 жыл бұрын

Yes ❤

I used to ask why don’t people like me I’ve always been the introverted friend in my group and all my friends were out going and everyone liked them and people just hated me for no reason. It used to hurt my feelings because I’m so nice but as I got older I learned to not break my back trying to be a people pleaser and I’ve been happy ever since

@sweet-tbaby7125

2 жыл бұрын

People just suck in general.

@ajemroberts3903

2 жыл бұрын

Similar for me. Y phone just won’t ring? I extend myself, I call, wish people happy birthday. And I realize in the last couple mths, they don’t call me. None. Except my neighbor where we just bought our house, I’m building trying to build a relationship with her while being myself. I don’t want to be around anyone I can’t be myself with, or I don’t want to put in the work with someone I can’t be myself with. Of course it’s hurtful but I am not going to change who I am. I’m not overweight, I don’t know Loni & Antasia people are just idk 🤷🏾‍♀️.

@rachel28denise

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely! I feel the same way.

@b.e.francis1272

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

@erinmarieee23

2 жыл бұрын

Same!! I suffer from trying to be a people pleaser too, and I’ll always remember my therapist told me “you could be the juiciest, most delicious, most beautiful orange in the world, and there will still be someone who doesn’t like oranges.” Another thing she said that has really stuck with me is “what other people think of you is none of your business” because I used to stress out A LOT over the idea of people judging me.

"I like you Loni" I feel like that's what Tamera would've said❤️

@Denise-ob8dk

2 жыл бұрын

Lol yep with that little arm motion.

@eliap620

2 жыл бұрын

I miss her 😭

@BriaBarrows

2 жыл бұрын

Facts

@ashleybranch3254

2 жыл бұрын

I heard her voice when I read this comment 😍

@Tan87ful

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. :)) 👏🏽👏🏽💯💯

I'm proud of who I am with autism and I won't let negative people get the best of me because I'm more positive everyday!!!! Thank you Loni

@KK-rh7wt

2 жыл бұрын

You are God's creation.

@superben790

2 жыл бұрын

@@brooklyn0992 thank you so much

@superben790

2 жыл бұрын

@@KK-rh7wt I agree

@ah1996ah

2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@adacosta4728

2 жыл бұрын

I want my son to gain this confidence

I needed to hear this!! I asked myself the same question Loni!!!! I’ve come to the realization I refuse to force myself on anyone again!!! If my friendship aren’t built organically I will not invest in them anymore.

@JourneyWithDawn

2 жыл бұрын

I love your content!!

@drknow1997

2 жыл бұрын

Well said. I’m done being in one-sides friendships.

@MomTheEbayer101

2 жыл бұрын

@@JourneyWithDawn Thank you! ❤️

@MomTheEbayer101

2 жыл бұрын

@@drknow1997 Absolutely!!

@rehanna6594

2 жыл бұрын

I've realized that I can only be me, and I've decided that is what I'm going to do.

The best advice I've ever heard was this "if you live your life trying to please everyone else you will lose your identity." That was so profound for me!

@ddacoe0

2 жыл бұрын

Yep!!!

One of my hardest conversations I had to have was "why am I always the friend that calls and texts people but no one ever checks up on me?" Made me realize things had to change and I should stop putting more effort into people than they put into me.

@jerrihandy256

2 жыл бұрын

This! I stepped away from everyone and it took almost a month for people to notice. I go hard for anyone that comes into my life and no one ever does the same for me. It's so hard to understand that for me. I'm with Loni here. 😥

@LisaLisaCJ

2 жыл бұрын

@@jerrihandy256 shoot I stepped away and they still don’t call me lol

@sheniquelewis4969

2 жыл бұрын

Omg this is what i am going through and i said to myself to stop it

@jerrihandy256

2 жыл бұрын

@@LisaLisaCJ That's just them showing their true colors 🙁 I'm only investing time into people that value me from now on

@LisaLisaCJ

2 жыл бұрын

@@jerrihandy256 when I tell you this pandemic year has been the most quiet and eye opening experience……

When Loni said “ why do people not like me?” I teared up when Loni teared up. I have been trying so hard in my life to push through and make myself likeable and loveable by everyone and when people didn’t like me, i took it personally because i wanted people to like me. But then as i grew older i realized that it’s okay if not everyone liked you. It’s okay that not everyone loves you. As long as you know you’re doing something right in your life and you stick to it, and you love yourself, its all that matters. I love you Loni. I like you, i love you, inside and out! I have been a fan to this show for 8 years, and i have loved you since season one! You are amazing Loni, and believe me you, there are so many other people that love you too Loni. I love youuu xx

@want2thinkfree

2 жыл бұрын

I felt that so deeply and intensely

@thelavenderlife

2 жыл бұрын

Well Fared! You are loved and never let anyone take that away from you. I have been struggling with the same question that Loni posed. But as I get older, I realized…as long as I love me then that’s all that matters.

@MrsBuitenbeentje

2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️🫂

@Sarah-zg2iq

2 жыл бұрын

Such a lovely message! 💙 Yes, been there done that..I’ve learned that no matter what you do..some people choose not to like you and yes that’s okay. We can’t and don’t have to please everyone. If you stay true to yourself, the right people will connect in a natural way and that’s less exhausting! I love Loni too, she is amazing! 🧡

@penseyfrancis464

2 жыл бұрын

What's more important is that they respect you.

Oh my word, Adrienne's word at the end had me WEEPING!! Wow. She is sooo right. Her letting go of the man who didn't love her, opened up the door to a man who loves her wholeheartedly. Garcelle facing the rejection head on opened up the doors to her whole career. I choose to let go of my insecurities, fear and hang ups and I embrace the huge purpose God has for mee! Wow...

@neeshespieces

2 жыл бұрын

Amen and amen.

@maggiemaseko1718

2 жыл бұрын

Amen!!!!

@mrsimaniackerman

2 жыл бұрын

Shoot! Thank you for this comment, I listened to the end and Adrienne’s word… so good!!!!!

@canwejustloveeachother2550

2 жыл бұрын

I want the best for Adrienne. Israel isn't her husband, aside from paper

@inspirationalempressoflove220

2 жыл бұрын

@Lia....Whew....This whole comment you said....🙌💓🙌 Same here girl....same here....I felt everything they shared in this clip down in my soul....and by the time Adrienne made her final comment at the end I was in tears too. 😢They took us to church on this clip....Real Talk. 👍💕💕

Hearing Loni cry like that hurt me. She's a beautiful woman inside and out.

Thank you Loni for sharing that vulnerable moment💓 "Why doesn't anyone like me?" It's such a difficult question that holds alot of weight and keeps you in an endless cycle. I've got to stop this, we all do! Don't try to please people, please God.

@coyabhouseworth8568

2 жыл бұрын

Amen

@HollywoodStalksMe

2 жыл бұрын

Don't believe the sadness in those women! They are not what they talk about it's all just for the attention, love yourself yes yet don't believe these women as they claim to be

@cw2424

2 жыл бұрын

💯

@rohiniguiland4873

2 жыл бұрын

I asked that question to my dad once and he said you were not put on this earth to live up to anyones expectations but yours and God. He followed it up with the people who truly love don't really have expectations. He said I love you baby simply because you are mine. 🥰

@cw2424

2 жыл бұрын

@@rohiniguiland4873 WOW my dad said the same thing to me your dad is awesome just like my daddy those were his exact words to me Wow GOD Bless you & yours 🤗🙏🏽❤

Loni...my Pastor says, if everyone likes you, you're doing something wrong. YOU DON'T WANT EVERYONE TO LIKE YOU!

@penielgirma6164

2 жыл бұрын

AMEN TO THAT, Jesus said that if the world didn't like him then they won't like you (if you are a Christ follower)🙌🔥🔥

@keishas6162

2 жыл бұрын

@@penielgirma6164 Amen!

@cryptoqueen8438

2 жыл бұрын

Truth

@mrsbdubc2174

2 жыл бұрын

Amen! We were not put on this earth for people to like us but to serve in our purpose and to worship God.

@dehende07

2 жыл бұрын

PERIODTTT 💯

Loni, for every person that doesn't like you, there are hundreds of us who LOVE you.

@heavensent8771

2 жыл бұрын

So true, I love me some Loni!

"If I'm honest, at times, I didn't even think he liked me" man that hurts and I know it too well. You go from Adrienne's thought to Loni's cos now you're wondering why.

@Bethlehem_Bekele

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🏽

Because of Loni I started meditating. Because of Adrienne I understand that I will not find my purpose that God has handcrafted for me until I am my authentic self. Because of Garcielle, I realized that we do have just one life, do we want to live it not being ourselves? This resonated and I love the growth and enlightenment of the ladies! 🙌🏽 Love from the Chi 💜

@Kayyyoxh

2 жыл бұрын

Yeesss girl!

@addictiveone4616

2 жыл бұрын

Love this for you!🙌🏾🙌🏾

@MsDee409

2 жыл бұрын

I ❤ This. Love these life lessons. I'm taking it ALL in!!

@thegoldenbowl5217

2 жыл бұрын

You didn’t know this before watching the clip?

@journeywithme_erika1890

2 жыл бұрын

Love this!

This show has been revitalized! I was honestly worried about if they would make it much longer after the remote Covid season, but the perspectives seem to come from a deeper and more genuine place! Loni isn’t relying on tired Woodrow stories, but speaking from honest experiences and it’s so great to see. Garcelle is also the perfect addition!

@JoslynJoy

2 жыл бұрын

YES‼️‼️

@thecuteshuttletransportati7025

2 жыл бұрын

Why would the be cancelled because of COVID

@nancykerrigan

2 жыл бұрын

I don't understand why they don't have an audience when practically all the talk shows do. Like just rewrite them to be vaxed or have them be tested before they get in. There would've been a wonderful moment after Adrienne said something about the importance of loving herself more than her partner potentially loving her.

@allsmilez13

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!!

@dagistwithada

2 жыл бұрын

So true 👋👋🥰

“You could be 110 pounds , you could be light skin with long hair.” These are Loni’s biggest insecurities. I’m so sorry that fat phobia and colorism has affected you so badly, Loni.

@lubnan08

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Our society needs help.

@Tan87ful

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed 👏🏽👏🏽💯💯:(((

@bombasticnonsense4247

2 жыл бұрын

@@lubnan08 I agree. We need to encourage men, women, and children to put down the fork and go outside to exercise. Humans are not meant to be fat or morbidly obese.

@miricalholloway9413

2 жыл бұрын

Don’t agree she was just given a common example did y’all hear her she’s OK with herself and love her self…

@lubnan08

2 жыл бұрын

@@bombasticnonsense4247 agreed. Our bodies can't handle it and we have to make an effort to be in our best health.

Loni made me cry, her situation reminds me of my 11 yr old daughter. She feels like people don't like her because she is annoying, loud or talks too much. She barely has any friends and she feels lonely. I have told her to NEVER change who she is just so that people can like her, the right friends will come along and they will love her just the way she is. As a mother it still breaks my heart when she feels lonely and cries.

@mikanoel2953

2 жыл бұрын

Growing up I used to fear that people wouldn’t like me for being myself, so I was always insecure and doubted myself, I became a people pleaser. I still deal with this today at 26 years old. When I tell you I deeply admire people that don’t change for anyone and is true to themselves. I would think how free it must feel for them not having to worry about changing their personality and allowing the people that were meant for them to choose them. I hope your daughter doesn’t change to please other people and I know she will find true life long friends ❤️

@Light-cy1gp

2 жыл бұрын

@@mikanoel2953 hey 👋, im one of those people who is always true to herself and i really dont care if others like me or not but i have had so many people like me and its because i try to be close to Allaah, in islam we believe that when ur someone close to Allaah, u get so confident yet humble😊, i hope that helps. The purpose of life is to worship Allaah

@Simplykiebby

2 жыл бұрын

Tell your baby. Keep on being loud. Keep talking too much. Keep taking up space! Tell her don’t let anyone tell her it’s too much. People would rather have too much than too little

@ddacoe0

2 жыл бұрын

When those kids are older, they'll be jealous of how "loud" and outgoing and loved and confident your daughter will be!

@IcedLipGloss

2 жыл бұрын

@@ddacoe0 exactly!! i came here to say exactly that. please let her know that her personality is AN ASSET!!

The most unliked people usually end up being most successful because the ones that don’t like you, see in you, what you yourself don’t see. Stop conforming and keep standing out the way God intended.

@changibbons

2 жыл бұрын

Powerful!

@mandybae2524

2 жыл бұрын

AMEN 🙏🏾 Jesus was hated first

@keisharowland6176

2 жыл бұрын

Amen Amen and Amen

@gmcmim1

2 жыл бұрын

Well said.

@chaw3858

2 жыл бұрын

So so true

Loni is really hurt. Something is up. I feel like this season her tears are so close to the surface that on any mildly emotional topic she gets teary-eyed. Oh Loni sending you love and peace.

@majestyk8654

2 жыл бұрын

Loni was always an emotional person

@oliviafowler5192

2 жыл бұрын

I feel that she isn't as okay as she say she is. I pray that she finds strength in whatever she's dealing with. I watched this show for a while and she was not as emotional as she is now

@kayp2427

2 жыл бұрын

I agree I think her being in the midst of all the Hollywood beauty standards has been very hard for her. I understand!

@nzuzothwala9683

2 жыл бұрын

We're all going through something in these times. May we all find strength, sovereign wisdom and love in our lives 🌸

@candacetaylor27

2 жыл бұрын

She may be in a season of release.

Loni has such a sweet soul that people tend to not realize because she is always telling jokes and using her comedy to mask any insecurities, which is what a lot of people do (including myself). So it is always nice to see Loni's vulnerability on the show. It makes her so relatable to me.

@Youreapwhatyousew

2 жыл бұрын

Yup that’s how I am too..

@aena5995

2 жыл бұрын

i feel like shes kinda misunderstood i can so relate to this ugh

@amethystwolf24572

2 жыл бұрын

It's like no one learned from Robin Williams. When he died, everyone was astounded that he was suffering. They didn't understand that the show is just a show, it isn't the truth of that person.

Adrienne’s speech brought me to tears. This is something that I struggle with especially being such a hopeless romantic

I love Garcelle she is so classy and sophisticated. I love how intelligent and authentic she is.

@paulap365

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly, what a difference compared to some previous ones on the panel.

I love the direction The Real has been going in this season. The vulnerability and growth from Adrienne, Jeannie, and Loni has been so warming and encouraging every day. And Garcelle is SO refreshing. I had no idea I would love her addition as much as I do. Well done The Real team. 👏 Also, not in a rude way, but I’m so glad Amanda Seales branched off to find different networks that best serve her because I was concerned she would become a permanent host and change the dynamic of the show altogether. These current 4 women bring so much warmth and wisdom and I never want that to change. 💞🙏

@jasminew9324

2 жыл бұрын

I haven’t watched in awhile, did tamera leave?

@mnqolivia

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. This season has come together so well. So much more depth. Amanda's energy is warrior woman energy. Perfect for something else but not the best fit here.

@dagistwithada

2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you 😊

@lollolol6756

2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree. I really liked Amanda when she used to guest co-host, but when she finally did become a host, she brought a completely different energy. And, honestly, it really disrupted the whole dynamic and vibe of the show. Then they had to do the show on Zoom, and I really thought the show was a lost cause. But they really came back strong this season!

@shannont5049

2 жыл бұрын

@@lollolol6756 and not to mention her constant hostility to Jeannie was always noticeable and made everyone at the table stiff.

This is what I wish I had heard from my parents "everyone is not going to like you and it's ok". As a little black girl in an all white school and neighborhood, I worked overtime to be accepted and as an adult is still having adverse effects but I'm a great work in progress, Amen. The Real is doing so well because of content like this...Be you boo, be you!

@plantbasedunicorn7995

2 жыл бұрын

I’m proud of you 🥰🥰🤗🤗 keep going 💞❤️

@NyabyizaJudith

2 жыл бұрын

Proud of you sister❤️❤️

God..what Loni said hit HAAAAAARRRRDDDD..i’ve struggled my whole life for people to like me or love (even some people from my family) until I realized that the only person i need to love me is ME..ladies love yourselves deeply and other people won’t matter ♥️♥️♥️

I can totally relate to this conversation..

“No, I’m being me, not a stereotype of what you believe I should be” Adrienne bailon! That’s the quote right there!!! Hit the nail right on the head…

This is shadow work, and such a breakthrough moment. I love seeing this type of authenticity and dialogue, so inspiring and uplifting. Love you Loni, you’re so full of life and she really makes the show REAL!!!

@queeniejmelanin

2 жыл бұрын

I haven't sat down and watch the show for years... This was so beautiful to see. Especially since I was reflecting my own life journey. Seeing someone like Loni Love being vulnerable in national tv... Most of the time big darker black women are never portrayed more than an mean and angry person. This clip was motivation to see all 3 of them open up about this (especially since I grew up watching all of them on tv)

When Loni said "I don't want to do this." Is very important and relatable because when having these conversations, most times you do not want to talk about deep stuff but pushing through and doing it, it can help so much.

Loni has cried in almost every episode this season, I get the feeling she's going through alot internally

@paulap365

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!! get to the Root of the problem..

@MsMak03

2 жыл бұрын

I think her mindfulness has brought her to a place of awareness about her experiences. There is nothing wrong with showing emotion

@BriaBarrows

2 жыл бұрын

Therapy would be helpful🙏🏾

@BriaBarrows

2 жыл бұрын

@@MsMak03 this!

@paulap365

2 жыл бұрын

@@MsMak03 you are right " nothing wrong in showing Emotions", but when it's very often. One has to get to the root cause. Then the healing can begin. Just another prospective, be open.

Wow, what Adrienne said really resonated with me. We must learn to first love ourselves. 💕

@along58

2 жыл бұрын

@Kaylin Carey girl same here. Going on 10 years

@wendyfan8071

2 жыл бұрын

@@along58 your not the only one 🙂

@mapulemampuru6584

Жыл бұрын

Aaw man 💔

I think this is my favorite conversation they’ve ever had.

What a full circle moment for Loni, hence her book title: “I tried to change, so You don’t have to” ❤️✨

Loni and Adrienne hit so close to home for me! I was with a guy whose friends DID NOT LIKE ME because of how quiet I can be. I felt like I had to change myself in more ways than one until I didn’t like who I was. So glad I’m not in that place anymore!

@LisaLisaCJ

2 жыл бұрын

My son is married to a very quiet woman. His friends and most of the family ( both sides) don’t like her because it feels rude and uncomfortable.Which is not. It’s who she is. You don’t have to change for anyone. You know what? Those same people still won’t like you if you do change

@rae-jp6440

2 жыл бұрын

I wish I can like your comments 100 times. Especially the latter part.

@LisaLisaCJ

2 жыл бұрын

And I was taught quiet people were suspect and untrustworthy. But you know people are who they are. And it’s ok

@ArinsSecret

2 жыл бұрын

I’m the same way, I keep to myself and for whatever reason that makes people uncomfortable. From “friends” to even managers want to pull you aside and ask all these questions. One supervisor asked why I didn’t talk , I told her because I didn’t have anything to say 🤷🏾‍♀️ that took her aback and she always remembered that conversation. Fortunately, I learned at a young age to not care and to continue to do me because I could never please everyone else so I might as well be happy with myself.

@ritaevergreen7234

2 жыл бұрын

@@LisaLisaCJ I’ve never heard of being taught quiet people were suspect coming from someone who is quiet and observant at first. I kinda laugh a bit inside because I never understood that idea when people say that. Like has this really happened to people? Like something happens to them because someone was quiet? Like I’m very used to people being loud and still plotting thing behind ones back so I always thought it’s never quiet people, like that would be too obvious.

I adopted this mantra when I was little and still live by it today.... "What other people think of me is none of my business! "

@TRJE114

2 жыл бұрын

Mow, PUT that on a tshirt and sell it!

@mygodisawesome6121

2 жыл бұрын

I’m stealing that😂 Love it!

“You’re not everyone’s cup of tea” Amen to that! 💖 Learning to always be my authentic self because those who love you.. will love you for YOU! Not everyone needs to like who you are and that is ok! Don’t live your life trying to please everyone, that’s something I’ve also had to remind myself!

What a powerful conversation!! This is the type a Real I’m here for.

I felt so alone until Loni said she struggles with that as well. My parents push me to make friends and get out more but I've reached my breaking point, it started in my teens when I stopped caring about who people want me to be. And it's like what Adrienne said. You gotta love yourself first. *Always* Thank yall for this topic.

Aw Loni I completely understand you 😭💔

@morganmorrison5246

2 жыл бұрын

Hello there How're you doing?

This clip is life changing on so many levels. I could play it over and over....You ALL were on point. Points noted: Don't let anyone break your spirit because after all is said and done, nothing will ever be enough for everyone. Work on being your authentic self every day cause this one life is not a rehearsal.

Even when you're quiet, loud, happy or sad, its still you, and thats the full circle on humans. Loni I love you, and how you present yourself, this segment was honest and truly Real. ❤️

Lonnie seems like she's still in the midst of working through this pain. Hopefully one day she will get to the point where discussing it does not still make her emotional. One day hopefully she will give zero *ucks what other people say or feel about her. Live YOUR life for YOU not other people!!

@Menooy22

2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes you cry for the person you were

@penielgirma6164

2 жыл бұрын

I agree and disagree. It's okay for her to get emotional over this, crying is a healthy way of letting it out.

@leabeauty837

2 жыл бұрын

I agree, her reaction seemed a bit extreme to be something of the past

@aaronbynum8968

2 жыл бұрын

Shes just a deeply sensitive person who hides its behind humor we all have our ways of doing it

@leabeauty837

2 жыл бұрын

@@aaronbynum8968 Honestly, it's getting a bit much. I can remember recently she cried over a very minor conversation to do with Denzel. I was like girllll it ain't that deep. I genuinely hope she's alright.

We love you Loni, there will always be miserable people who hate you for no reason and it's not you.

@Daredami

2 жыл бұрын

Always!

The reason why I love this show is because everyone can relate to their different personalities. I identify with Loni And I love her because she's funny, smart and genuine. It's true, not everyone is going to like you, but there's also million of people they will. Loni is the heart of the show ❤️

Lonnie. I feel your sadness 😔. I totally relate to what you're saying. I'm driven and ambitious and have always been put down for it. I've never fit in. Had to cut off every fake relationship in my life, including relatives! And I've never felt better 😌. I'm not hood enough. It's awkward too. Haters always try to remind me about my blk girl hair, as a way to attempt to undress me in public. They attack my heritage & my very being. It's always something about me, that an oddball in the room envies. It's hurtful. We just have to be genuine and keep it moving!! 💯

This was a great conversation! Being a black woman and not being “hood” in my town is hard. I’m genuinely not like that but not opposed to people who are. But they just don’t like me because I’m “too quiet “ or they think I’m being stuck up when I’m just shy and more reserved until we get to know each other more.

@kirarae21

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. I’m really quiet and shy and people constantly mistake that for being stuck up. It’s hard always feeling like you’re misunderstood.

@victoriamciver9900

2 жыл бұрын

@@kirarae21 Ik how you feel I am the Exact same way stay strong sis ik it hurts

@MomoManimi

2 жыл бұрын

Saaame. Even my family doesn't get me. And I don't get them.

@janifleming

2 жыл бұрын

That's exactly how it is where I'm from. I'm from one of the smaller islands in the Caribbean and Idk if its because its a small island but everyone just expects you to act a certain way and I don't. My accent isn't as strong as the average person here either so if you don't act or speak a certain way or do certain things they assume you're an outsider or treat you like one.. so when i say i was born and raised in Anguilla but my accent isn't strong or I'm rather reserved and quiet, they will genuinely argue with me and say i can't be an Anguillian because I dont do this or sound this way. And they ostrasize you alot sometimes because of it. Its so frustrating and makes me feel even more self conscious. I lived in the UK for 3 years and aside from not having my family there, in terms of being able to be myself without anyone judging or ostrasizing me for being a little different, I felt far more at home there than on my own island, which says alot.

@schenellemagee3748

2 жыл бұрын

You just described my entire life. I'm now 50 years old, and still dealing with people who judge me because I'm introverted and am more open in small group situations 🙄

Loni got me crying this season more than ever. I felt like on past seasons loni would avoid talking about her life and just make jokes in fear of getting too emotional. But now I think she has finally decided to open up and just be the emotional cancer she is and not feel ashamed of it!!! Yasss Loni you are shining this season and I love it 👏🏾🥰. Thank you for just being you ❤️❤️❤️

@elizabethcalderon8490

2 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏

@Exploringwithisha

2 жыл бұрын

Noticed that as well so happy she started speaking up more again love this for her !!

@ifeoluwaoyinlola7046

2 жыл бұрын

Love to see it. It’s the beginning of one’s journey to truly accepting themselves

@politereminder6284

2 жыл бұрын

Cancer?

@quickpstuts412

2 жыл бұрын

@@politereminder6284 That’s her zodiac sign.

Loni, that’s something we July babies go through and we have to let that go of people not caring for us and needing to know why! Adrienne, loving someone who doesn’t love you back is definitely thee worst feeling ever! Garcelle, asking God to show you what you are supposed to be doing is definitely the my question to him right now! I love you ladies!💞

This is the first time I’ve ever resonated with Loni. Felt real.

I’m at the point to where I just DONT CARE .Them not liking me is THEIR issue ,not mine .Their dislike should not stop the world from spinning .And 10 times out of 10 they don’t like YOU because it emphasizes something that THEY don’t have themselves .Whether it be your kindness ,your physical attraction ,your talent .Something that you possess that they don’t have BOTHERS them .Hope that helps guys .People just have jealous evil hearts .Be vigilant.

@thegoldenbowl5217

2 жыл бұрын

And it also could be that the person they don’t like really is a delusional bitch... I’ve met TONS of unaware people like this where I stayed or tried to steer away from, then they would wonder why I’m trying to avoid them... people can be unaware of their toxicity and not realize that the problem is THEM

@alezandradavila2581

2 жыл бұрын

I agree

@Puttar03

2 жыл бұрын

@@thegoldenbowl5217 Qkkk

@jc_80

2 жыл бұрын

@@thegoldenbowl5217 I find some toxic people have been repulsed by my positivity and have actively tried to wear me down and break my spirit to make themselves feel better, has happened throughout all stages of my life. Usually an alpha female that feels threatened then strategises on how to turn everyone against you and isolate you.Tends to be women especially when you’re out and about and they just glare at you in the most hateful manner and you’ve never even met them in your life and you think to yourself what have I ever done to you? I look pass them and continue with my day. Sad that people would rather destroy someone and leave them broken instead of seeking the courage to better themselves and work on their insecurities

@jc_80

2 жыл бұрын

@@thegoldenbowl5217 I had a horrible person at work that couldn’t understand why I would go out to lunch a lot instead of sitting by them!

Adrienne’s spoke to my spirit i think every woman goes thru that with at least a few men where our love is unrequited and we need to know when to leave ☹️

Loni, it's their lost. Don't take it personal, don't lose what makes you, YOU for people that aren't worth being in your life.

@teetawn9454

2 жыл бұрын

Amen. It is their loss. Better is coming if we give it God.

I’m in South Africa and I’ve been watching this show since 2017. I haven’t found anything not to like about Loni. She’s kind, beautiful, funny, smart and so much more. I love you Loni and keep being you. That’s enough.

I left a job where I was hated and treated badly. Now I'm at a job where they praise me everyday and i know what that is worth now because of what I've been through. Find the lesson in everything.

@jenb955

2 жыл бұрын

I’m in the same boat as you. I’m currently at a job where one person dislikes me and talks about me behind my back. It’s hard to be at my job

@Menooy22

2 жыл бұрын

@@jenb955 Have you addressed them yet?

@jenb955

2 жыл бұрын

Yes but it seems like it has just made it worse. The person doesn’t know I know what is said behind my back which makes it harder to confront because I don’t want my other coworker to be upset I snitched

@sweetpeaj1952

2 жыл бұрын

Congrats🙂

@imabewhoiam7135

2 жыл бұрын

I,too,left a job where they TRIED to dog me out.I went to all the higher ups and was told that they knew the problem was management.They told me they were working on it.Three years later i cleaned my locker out,put my badge on her desk and walked out.I so wanted to curse my boss dafuq out but I didn’t.I walked away like the lady I am and from what I’m being told the turnover rate in that department is even higher.Know your worth!

It takes so much courage for loni to cry on national tv and telling her insecurities. Loni your helping me to open up with my own issues, thank you!

@msmiami212

2 жыл бұрын

Loni stays crying lol but agreed

@Karen-qc2xo

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with all of what u said....Your all so beautiful inside and out!! U cant please everyone...when u do ...u lose yourself because u cant be yourself....then u hate your life because your pleasing everyone else...your living your life for everyone else...

We are at the beginning of the season and Loni has already cried so many times. It just shows how deep the conversation are this season and how honest and open the ladies are being. I love it

True, "you're not everyone's cup of tea" ❤ I have to let this sink in.

Loni's story was truly inspiring. In fact, Ade and Loni's story hit home.

@djennielaguerre7935

2 жыл бұрын

me too sister

@MrsHarder08

2 жыл бұрын

Adrienne's story definitely hit home. I was once in love with a guy who just didn't like me and I felt it. He would come to me for sex and sexual favors and completely ignore me on other days as if I did not exist. Such a horrible feeling.

@PSALMSOFSONGS

2 жыл бұрын

@@MrsHarder08 yes. It's a horrible feeling. 😫 But in the midst of me feeling that way, God allowed me to see why it hurt so bad. I had a void that i THOUGHT a man could fill. Whatever that man did against me it crushed me to the core. Then, God showed me that I didn't love myself. Whatever a man "offers" you supposed to be an add-on, not a necessity. When you really, really love and value yourself, if a man leaves you'll be OK because you've already possessed what you wanted. Periodt! So next time, Queen, fall in love with yourself. You are your own necessity.

@PSALMSOFSONGS

2 жыл бұрын

@@djennielaguerre7935 ❤❤🥺

@TheStylinstar

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, kudos to them for going deep. Garcelle was all surface 😒

Loni you hit the nail on the head for most of us but the truth is some folks are just not going to like us for no apparent reason at all 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thank you Loni!!!❤️ I was sitting here asking myself this question. Sometimes I feel like I don’t fit in the family I was born into. I won’t go along with the disfunction that exists in our family and they don’t like me for it. It hurts, a lot. 😢 but I need to find away to love myself no matter what.

These are real questions that we all ask ourselves..I appreciate them for being so honest and vulnerable.

Only a crazy person wouldn't like Loni. She is genuinely a good person who constantly shows she wants the best for all the people she loves.

@irakaye

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! I hope she reads this. ❤️

@symonesotica6246

2 жыл бұрын

I can't stand Loni. She's not even funny

@ferdynand2402

2 жыл бұрын

Probably she's talking about Tamar?

@krazykunt8963

2 жыл бұрын

This lady went in on Tamar before. Sorry but she seems pretty fake to me anything to get a check to buy a new portable fryer to fry her some chicken when she gets “emotional”

@fal5813

2 жыл бұрын

@Symone Black I think she is ABSOLUTELY funny so yeah, to each his own

Loni you're funny, your character says it all. Never let those people put you in that position 💯 this is who you are and don't let anybody else tell you otherwise. I love you sis 😘😘😘you can't make everyone happy no matter how hard you try..

This was the thing that I needed this morning. I struggle with self love and acceptance of myself and this spoke volumes to me. Thank you guys for being this vulnerable ❤️

i cried cause i relate to adrienne's story about her ex not even liking her at times....he was my first bf too so that made things even harder.

The hardest convo I had with myself is that many that people (Particularly Blackmen) may not want me based of the color of my skin and lack of a booty. That many will try to use me use me use me for sex, finance, and Convenience. But I’ve learned to avoid these situations. pay attention to the red flags 🚩, let it be known what your looking for, set your boundaries, and most of all put God first.

@liltawna12345

2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you had this convo with yourself. It's a tough reality for many BW- specifically darker skinned BW. I must admit, I fell down the rabbit hole of bingeing these "dating coaches". A lot of them spew so much negative, harmful and deceitful rhetoric about us being 'less attractive' or 'least desirable' and 'most aggressive' or 'masculine'. The absolute worst part is the million of subscribers agreeing with them... even the ones with darkskinned mothers themselves. The truth is, while so many BM seemingly couldn't care less about us, there is soo many more with good values and genuine appreciation for BW. Super difficult to navigate through dating considering media depictions of a baddie (fat butts and boobs w/ the tiny waist). These few women do NOT represent BW as a whole. Regular Darkskin women are just as desirable. You are just as desirable. The right one exists and will find you in due time

@og1082

2 жыл бұрын

If they (particularly Blackmen) or any other person chooses not deal with you based on things that you had no control over...... then is that really someone you would want in your life ? I'm glad you're able to see signs and flags now.

@ayanahill9034

2 жыл бұрын

“Pay attention to the red flags” really speaks volume.. something Im working on, along with setting boundaries and not feeling bad about it.

@minianoiz6492

2 жыл бұрын

Amen to that, beautiful sister. I'm alllll the way with you! 👑❤

@reejeanawilliams8310

2 жыл бұрын

Great Job!

"I know me & I like who I am" ❤️❤️❤️🙌🙌🙌

I’ve had to learn this in different stages of my life, Loni. I’m actually in that stage again as a woman headed into my forties. As I’m growing and going through changes, not everyone has been willing to see me or embrace me, who I really am. It hurts to realize that but life goes on and I have to move with it. Not everyone will get YOU or grow with you, etc. and it’s okay! Just make room for the people who will come into your life and embrace/ love you and release the dead weight.

@teetawn9454

2 жыл бұрын

True

Oh, I stumbled upon a gemstone conversation!!! This was for me I love how Loni explained her situation. I can totally identify with her. I'm finally truly coming into my own self awareness and loving me. Every one will not like you or get you and that's ok as long as you are happy with yourself. You'll be misjudged and misunderstood and sometimes rejected. I've learned to say so what and move on make amends when and where you can, but never allow anyone to steal your joy and make you miserable. Be happy and love you!!! You owe it to yourself!!

Adrienne's honesty hit a nerve😪❤️. It's so painful to get to a point where you have to choose yourself over someone you love!

@a.sydney5036

2 жыл бұрын

Think she was talking about her ex-fiance. That's a REALLY hard conversation to have...to eventually break off an engagement? Wow.

I feel Loni 100% especially when it’s your own “friends” who treat you differently than their other friends or older family members who don’t bother to have a bond with you. It hurts and I’m still learning how to work through it.

@fredrika27

2 жыл бұрын

@k f Omg, this hit home so much. I grew up a foster and ALWAYS felt like I was never wanted or really loved. I over compensated to prove that I was just as good only to be chastised when I showed up the biological kids! Some of us are invisible to our families into our adulthoods. It's a hard fact. What's worse is that we have to walk alone our whole lives. When we ask those loved ones why we are treated so poorly, we are gaslit! Just ugliness on so many levels. This is when I walk away and take my son with me. He deserves better. He's 20 now. I tell him why we don't put up with family abuse: we take pride in who we are, respect ourselves and treat ourselves and others like human beings! Those who don't, Don deserve our love.

Hey Loni! You’re a very warm, brave and inspiring woman. You also have a very likable personality, in fact for some it might be intimidating. So stay strong in that, and in your person. Even people that love you, sometimes might not like certain things you might do, but they accept you and like and love you for who you are. You’re a great person! Bask in it and enjoy it❤️❤️

The tears are flowing! Loni, I can relate to your story is so many ways. Thank you for your transparency!

I gave up a piece of my soul for a man that didn't even like me but didn't have the guts to tell me BEFORE wasting my time. I've always been too embarrassed to admit that to myself, but Adrienne took the words out of my mouth. Completely changed and tried to keep up with a man who just tolerated me and lowkey didn't even like me.

@TRJE114

2 жыл бұрын

So powerful and honest.

@bellaapple2166

2 жыл бұрын

I did the same thing and trust me I wish I could go back and change that. It was the most humiliating time of my life I was very young and I had to learn to forgive myself. I had to really learn to unapologetically love myself.💓

@agathachris9722

2 жыл бұрын

You've just set yourself free.

@sorayahhugy1993

2 жыл бұрын

How do you know someone doesn’t like you? And also why does that person stay with you if they don’t? Some people make no sense! Wasting people time

@anoelsilliw5256

2 жыл бұрын

@@sorayahhugy1993 He "chased" after me in the beginning and once he got bored he lost interest but wouldn't break up with me. I knew he lost interest though because we weren't having conversations that we did in the beginning, we weren't going out anywhere anymore, we would just hangout with his friends or by ourselves. The effort to actually date and maintain an actual relationship had dwindled on his part and i felt like i was carrying that relationship on my back.. like Adrienne said "trying to make it happen and it just wasn't going to." I straight asked him once why he fell back with "chasing me" and he outright admitted that he already caught me and knew I wasn't going anywhere so why try anymore...he said it in a joking way but he was being serious as a heart attack, and looking back he was more than likely being passive aggressive. I felt like sex (he was my first unfortunately) was the only thing keeping us together and once we broke up I realized I wanted physical intimacy with him so much because I was in an emotional drought from his lack of interest. I felt like he was tolerating me because he just didn't have the balls to leave me sooner than he did and it was embarrassing to think I cried and begged him to stay with me when he didn't even like me anymore. We got into one fight, not even a major one, and he used that as a scapegoat to leave and then proceeded to tell everybody that I was crazy and that's why he left. It definitely traumatized me but I'm happy to hear that I'm not the only one that has had an experience with a partner who didn't like them, as weird as that is. I'm with you, if you don't like the person, why the hell are you with them in the first place? In my case it was because he was bored when we met, enjoyed the first month of our relationship, got bored again, and just didn't have the nerve to break things off by being honest with me and telling me he didn't like me anymore. Instead he dragged it out because he was waiting until he could find a way out (petty argument), which is why he stayed with me so long even though he didn't like me. Still don't make sense 😂

It’s crazy because I love hearing Loni’s perspective on everything. She’s so real, to a different degree. And she’s beautiful and I hate ppl for being so mean for no reason!

I just started watching episodes of The Real!!! This is a phenomenal show!!! I think it is a form of therapy for us all!!! Thank you ladies for doing a great job on highlighting everyday concerns and emotions!!!

Love how these women have come to understand that they are ok just the way they are and the last thing you should do is change who you are for someone else.

I especially appreciate how much Loni has opened up over the years I’ve watched the Real. I see you. I’m grateful for your realness.

As I got older, I realize that I don't need other people validation. I aim to please God, and nothing else matters. I, choose to make the rest of my life, the best of my life. 💯 Much love to the ladies of The Real #1 fan from Delaware ❤

Great topic ladies as usual… With all that said: I’m going to start a meditation routine, not trying to change others, and find my true purpose. So glad you all are so open and willing to share. Thank you and God Bless

I’ve learned in life that even the most seemingly confident people care what others think at some degree. We’d be surprised at how much we’re more alike than different. That person that seems to have everything together is probably going through many of the same things as you. We need to be more kind to each other.

These ladies went deep, really felt for Loni and she gave some great advice. Not everyone is going to like you and that's okay, you cannot let them break your spirit. I also love the part about it does not matter what your age is, you are still learning and evolving like Adrienne pointed out. Side note I am loving the set decor for the holidays.

its always so crazy how i always relate with Adrienne

@LeFKay

2 жыл бұрын

Me too 🙏🏾

@BriaBarrows

2 жыл бұрын

Same and Garcelle

i look to these women as my friends, please dont ever stop these chats

I asked myself this yesterday Loni. People straight up saying I'm good and kind but they just don't like me. Thanks for sharing Loni. Yes, I'm young and learning to stand up for myself and keeping my boundaries. That part Adrienne, just opening up and letting God have his way.

Growing up as a plus sized girl I understand loni perfectly this is a REAL conversation 🙏

@mygodisawesome6121

2 жыл бұрын

Awwww

Hearing Loni's story brought tears to my eyes... I have had so many of these moments asking myself this exact question. I am diagnosed ADHD and admittedly, that makes me a little odd. Some of the answers I've gotten with self reflection is "You're too much, you may see this as being yourself but sometimes people don't understand your high energy. Approach grounded and listen to other people." "You have shaky boundaries, do not be so giving and sharing all your deepest secrets with someone if you don't know them." This has helped me immensely, I have calmed down alot and set better boundaries 😊 Like Loni said, it's okay if I'm not everyone's cup of tea, all I can do is work on myself and be happy with myself 💖

@carlitosway1330

2 жыл бұрын

🤣

@jessicamerced9116

2 жыл бұрын

@@carlitosway1330 thankyou 😊

@morganmorrison5246

2 жыл бұрын

Hello there How're you doing?

@morganmorrison5246

2 жыл бұрын

@@jessicamerced9116 Hope you're safe due to the weather over there ?

@CyndiShiMusic

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Jessica for sharing your diagnosis. I have lots of energy too and at work I’ve been labeled as too much or hyper. It would bother me and I would try to change my behaviors. I was diagnosed with adhd a few days ago and it really put my mind at ease because now I know where a lot of my behaviors stem from. I am now making a conscious effort to not care about what others think.

I feel you Loni. I asked myself the same question. Thank you for sharing it with us. This what I believe in STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF.

Yasss AMEN Lonni!!! I’ve learned and am still learning to accept myself! To love who I AM! Everyone is not going to like me and that’s okay! I’m have to be the woman who God has called me to be not who human beings want me to be 💯💯💯🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

I don't normally leave a message but I love that u posed this question and I'm glad u are sharing your weaknesses. Thank you very much

Damn....first Adrian stuck the knife in and then Loni twisted it. This really hit home for me. It feels good to know that celebrities go through the same trials and tribulations as us! Thank you all for sharing this!!

Love the genuine conversation. It’s what a lot of people go through everyday.

I love how vulnerable and deep their conversations go! I can relate with both Loni & Garcelle ! Those are questions I have asked myself

Loni talking about trying to be what ppl wanted her to be is such an important point, because that’s actually one of the things that makes me “dislike” ppl. I can tell when someone is being themselves and when they’re “putting on”. I bet once she got to that place of excepting who she is, she realized how much the ppl around her loved her for her!

I'm the kind of person that believes that God sends you signs and signals that will resonate in order for you to find your purpose and path in life. For a lot of people, myself included, I might've not been searching for this video but I needed to watch it, and I'm grateful I did. I find it so inspiring that Loni allowed herself to be emotional when talking about this.

Girl chat has helped me become a better version of myself for the last 5? Ishhh years. I’m so inspired by you ladies ! Thank you for putting yourselves out there for us ladies. I have learned so much from each and every one of y’all’s opinions. Love you all individually and collectively. So beautiful to see. Reminds me of me and my group of girlfriends how diff in personalities we are but how even more GREAT it is when we come together.

“Rejection is apart of our lives.” We need to engrave this on our children’s minds. This generation is to soft and I can attest to that :) 💙