This is why it's so important to observe how people behave in different environments. For example if you're dating someone, pay attention to what kind of person they are around their friends, at work, with their family, etc. Don't only fixate on how they act when they are with you.

@TonyKimCre

Жыл бұрын

All sides of the personal must be observed!

@derrickrose5933

Жыл бұрын

Facts

@rayelliott8141

Жыл бұрын

AND under stress. That's a fail proof trigger for any personality type

@Raj-cl7he

Жыл бұрын

Well said

@shaolinqueen3684

Жыл бұрын

I learned this by observing my ex.

As a teacher of adults I do this every time and people tend to tell me the whole story of their life because they feel they can trust me, just listening them. Something interesting I noticed while I listen patiently it's all the colors and "jewelry" they wear, I think the symbols they carry with them every day means a lot for people and about them.

@miriamhavard7621

8 ай бұрын

I'm intrigued. Tell me more!

@RichPoorGrl

6 ай бұрын

You sound very empathetic

@susiebrown6646

5 ай бұрын

Listening to ppl, and mirroring are two different things.

Mirroring is natural and instinctual, it's how children learn how to talk as infants, everyone does it to some extent

@shaolinqueen3684

Жыл бұрын

Well it's survival. But when adults do it, it seems pretentious and being a copy cat. It seems phony.

@tkc403

10 ай бұрын

Mirror neurons

@chrismccaffrey8256

7 ай бұрын

​@@shaolinqueen3684i think maybe youre looking at those who do it intentionally or really obviously.

@ianconstruction

6 ай бұрын

Your comment is the most correct understanding meaning of mirroring, You are an intelligent person

@BaxstabberzZ

6 ай бұрын

​@@shaolinqueen3684I think you're mixing up mirroring with mimicking. If you are mirroring correctly, nobody picks up on it.

I like authentic people

@ayushchauhan5010

7 ай бұрын

No, you like people that are like you. I'm sure you wouldn't fancy an authentic nazi.

@isidredicus6159

6 ай бұрын

Same...I don't want someone to act

@carnivorous_vegan

6 ай бұрын

You wont last long in this world thinking that its all rainbows and cookies and sunshine. People wear masks. Very layered masks. The second you accept that is the second you can start moving forward with your life.

@ibabechanel

6 ай бұрын

The world doesn’t.

@Barakoft

6 ай бұрын

Against my more cynical judgement… I feel the same way

Your book (The Art of Seduction) is beyond awesome, Mr. Greene 💚

the mirror effect is a way to play along the status quo, it does not give you good things always, what you should learn is suggestion, because if you suggest that something is good people start to perceive it as good. and you can do this with many things. this is truly the art of seduction, it's how you flirt, you suggest pleasurable things, you put thoughts into their head that they will think about and that will create feelings. thing is you can't just suggest anything to anyone, there is a bit of preparation to make someone more receptive to it, and that's being on their side.

Authentic, real people are so rare nowadays

Once I learned this I couldn't unsee it. Thinking back about it I've fallen for it many times by different people

I appreciate that he made sure to include the opposite of positive mirroring. That thing is dangerous. Thank you.

@Zocratezz

6 ай бұрын

Can you please elaborate on why the opposite is dangerous?

In the brevity of our earthly sojourn, we must never lose sight of the fact that life is an audition for eternity. And how we act in the sight of the Eternal Playwright is far more important than all our thespian skills in the sight of mortal man. Facts!

What you think about humanity reflects your own inner world. Not everyone is narcisisstic just because you are... As humans we want to feel seen and understood. If someone seems similar and could be a potential soulmate of course you are drawn to that. People have to be more careful with hard words like Narcissism.

@user-yu7qp8qj7k

3 ай бұрын

Calm yourself to except this vision of exceptional insight. Yes we have this ability tho not proud of it it provides us with a sense of assurance to go forward. This sense of privilege must be curbed as to not offend or hurt . Extreme narcissists do not know this boundary. DoNot compare yourself with them. Trust in the child inside of you, the one that truly loves you ❤

Your right. I knew when i was doing it and i realized what i was doing. I actually worked on it and got good at it. I got to a point where i said Troy, you can actually take advantage of people and the day i realized this, was the day that i knew, i was a good person and had values to help people instand of concentrating only on money.

I noticed myself mirroring people , I always thought it was a weakness.

@MJ98.

6 ай бұрын

Use your weakness to outsmart

@aquagal8645

3 ай бұрын

It is not a strength. It's always good relating to people with out mirroring them reflecting your authenticity...IMO. I find it rather irritating when people mirror my body language..

@JennyB957

3 ай бұрын

@aquagal8645 not to that extreme .

Act for long enough and you’ll be sick of it, you’ll forget who you really are. I’d say be yourself for as long as you can

Mirror effect sounds like something from NLP (Neuro linguistic programming)

@sairanikhatimam

Жыл бұрын

NLP copied it from the study of body language.

@Daniela.777

7 ай бұрын

Yes, it's a way of building rapport

@TracyLifewave333

5 ай бұрын

So is it a bad thing or acceptable 🤔?

I love finding this out because now when I talk to people I watch for this mirroring action either I do it or they do it and that’s really good

That’s what’s made me successful in the restaurant business. Playing a role for the entire shift. Customers don’t really give a shit about me and that’s OK, because they love my character and they give me that money boy-eeeee

Es un genio, tenemos el honor de vivir en la misma época porque serás recordado por milenios. Lo que haces es un gran avance el el estudio del conocimiento de la naturaleza humana. Sabemos más de otras especies que de la nuestra Cuando estemos avanzados será por este conocimiento a fondo

When someone mirrors me, I couldn't help but notice it and it became very obvious to the point the conversation became awkward , to me.

@shoeberrypie

Жыл бұрын

That’s true a lot of the time! Good acting is when you can’t tell the other person is acting. There’s got to be a balance between mirroring and internal consistency, else the person seems either manipulative or simply a pushover.

@twincitydezray

Жыл бұрын

It's only awkward if you think that the fact that you're noticing it is awkward. Perspective.

@TonyKimCre

Жыл бұрын

Years ago I unintentionally mirrored crossing my hands over my chest like the client, he called me out. I must have subconsciously done it by learning from Lee Iacoccas book to use psychology

@lijo1830

Жыл бұрын

it shouldn't be artificial. i think if u really are interested in a person and what they are talking about, we unconsciously mirror them

@Kal-El207

Жыл бұрын

Sure. Y’all always try to act like you can never be duped or tricked or hypnotized or anything. You’re just SO AWARE and could never fall into a trap. Of course not. You’re much too smart for any of that.

Suggestion to KZread manager of Robert: Please add the title or link of the full videos of every short. Thank you

Is this why toxic people be a group of friend that toxic too?

@JO_2Swole

Жыл бұрын

No it’s influence if you have a group of friends that does pushup and you’re the only one not doing it you’ll be left out and if you hangout with a group of people you’ll obviously be influeinced by each other

@michaelrobles7538

Жыл бұрын

Hmmmmm.. Something to think about🤔

@krukrok5218

Жыл бұрын

Read the whole chapter of mirror effect. Comprehend before asking again.

@ladymarycrawley6613

Жыл бұрын

“Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are."

@rosegelindon2561

Жыл бұрын

Hey I know what you mean you know what years years how I saved my money not mayabang sometimes I want to share what I have Life is too short

Notice how RG immediately plugs his book after stating “we are all narcissists..”; this was subtle genius and not only did it reinforce his statement for me, but also made me chuckle. Greene is like the Stanley Kubrick of self-help.

@timetraveller267

Жыл бұрын

God no he's like a narcissist smiling at your face whilst taking your cash

it freaks me out when I see others mirroring me

@shaolinqueen3684

Жыл бұрын

Same. It's giving cosplaying and mockery

@lilyr6755

10 ай бұрын

If it's an evil crazy demonic pissed nasty funky lust etc little negative energy spirits, etc super karmic, then it is. My karmic twin flame soul mate in was happy wish dram fulfilled, but it was sad to find out it was karmic became warlock in all lifetimes wanted power, etc lies & my brothers too jealous. Lower ego power cyphen abuse so can get supply. I don't need, empath earth angel but I am stuck dying slowly now empty heart broken & empty plenty trying to lose my life spark, humanity, ifr heartbroken angel queen crown etc priestess crown. Idk how to keep now. Given buch away. I need to hermit refil with God & the word etc. So idk think I was a narcasist dang, but ig yes cuz did think of it before cuz ego we alk want or way or the highway, but I'm the 🪞 mirror to immitare in the love & good traits, not the bad & not them when they are evil etc.

@nightghost4174

10 ай бұрын

Reminds of the Black Swan movie

@mynewlife1911

10 ай бұрын

That’s a good thing bc it is freaky to be mirrored.

@Jonathan-mf3nl

10 ай бұрын

those people aren’t good at it, that’s why you noticed

The acting is life

Am I the only one who feels disturbed if someone mirrors me?

@Zocratezz

6 ай бұрын

And that is exactly what people should take into consideration, when they decide to mirror someone. There is a possibility for that mirror to be shattered when the truth comes out in any shape or form. I would personally feel disturbed too, if someone did that to me, which is the same reason it feels wrong to do it onto another. I would much rather be a truthful person in a world full of actors

@goddesslov3338

6 ай бұрын

Omg yessssss , like just mentally disturbed 🥴

@topgtom

5 ай бұрын

Then you notice it and become self conscious so you change your body language and watch as they continue to copy you and now you can’t focus on anything else

@violetd3487

5 ай бұрын

Yes, I feel disturbed everytime it happens. I change my posture or body language.

@heythere6983

5 ай бұрын

Well narcissists have mental disorders and have no sense of self. They mirror bc they don’t know who they are and use others people to validate themselves and feel normal. So I’d say your reaction is a healthy understanding that someone is being manipulative or fake

Sometimes it’s a trauma response. Children learn to appease their parents for survival.

You can be authentic and still match energy.

When someone mirrors me, I run. It's a turnoff and it feels manipulative. 😮

@parnelpospahala6087

10 ай бұрын

I think it feels that way because it is manipulative. Severely narcissistic people do it all the time.

@jaythenihilist4689

8 ай бұрын

Stop

@Predictable1

8 ай бұрын

I feel like they're a "try-hard" or ass kisser when they do that lol . An instant turn off

@user-go8zo8vy8x

7 ай бұрын

When you noticed it, then ppl did it wrong on you. If you do it right, it shouldnt be noticable @@Predictable1

@drutubeGodsChosenVessel

6 ай бұрын

I knew I wasn't buggin

To be honest, I can easily recognize it when other people copy me and my body language etc and I hate it

As an introvert, if someone mirror me and stay silent, i would be happy to see that and mind my own business....

@HARI-nm2iz

Жыл бұрын

👍

@ivbolt

Жыл бұрын

😆

@shaolinqueen3684

Жыл бұрын

Brilliant!

@vinitagrin4916

Жыл бұрын

Hahaha 😅

@BaxstabberzZ

6 ай бұрын

That is indeed how it works. :p I love to chat but if you aren't saying anything to me I'm happy to sit in silence too.

this book is awesome. so much to learn from it

Robert Greene is a ⭐️. However, we are not all narcissists (NPD). We all have some narcissistic traits but not necessarily 5 - 9/9 per American DCM-5 and European ICD-11.

People need to understand that this acting is not fake, it's more of an expression. You're treating someone a certain way, or behaving a certain way, with the intention to give them an idea about what you're trying to communicate through your body language and your words.

@ThatGuy-vk2fe

7 ай бұрын

You can do that while being authentic. 😅

@naturalselection69

6 ай бұрын

@@ThatGuy-vk2feyou literally cant

@cicholasnage

6 ай бұрын

​​@@ThatGuy-vk2fe well, are _you_ authentic? if you think you are, trust me, you're not. To some extent, everyone have to put on an outer layer. To gain social approval, to mix in, to match others' vibes, to read the room, to be more social. The only *truly* authentic people are the likes of those with mental complications like autism.

@BaxstabberzZ

6 ай бұрын

​@@ThatGuy-vk2feIf I did I wouldn't have subconsciously picked up mirroring.

@ThatGuy-vk2fe

6 ай бұрын

Guys, people mimic in order to fit in. Especially the neurodiverse, it's our way of joining in especially when we don't understand the social context.😅

i think a "friend" has crossed into manipulation as she copies me its got to be different - it feels condescending. Learning to move on .

Just what I needed. Dealing with difficult personalities at work but love my job otherwise. Acting gives me permission to not be offended. WOW, great! Thanks, mister. P

Think of it as “practicing different perspectives” through the body. You can be confident that you are being AUTHENTIC to your curiosity of others.

Thank you Robert Greene

I like to call it "mimic" I'm in sales and find it gives"space" to be themselves ❤

I'll get into it again

Basic rapport from NLP. ❤ works like magic.

A therapist did this to me in our session. It was obvious and I won’t go back again.

@MASTER.SON.

Жыл бұрын

Well I see why you need a therapist. People often mirror each other unconsciously. It's not always intentional or manipulative.

@robbylebotha

Жыл бұрын

@@MASTER.SON. why would you assume she's not capable of discerning that. She didn't say how the therapist went about it. You obviously didn't read her comment to understand what she said, your read it to defend this theory from your idol perhaps. She's grown enough to know people mimick each other naturally and that the therapist was doing it unnaturally and she didn't like it, so she's not going back. Simple as that. Absolutely none of that give any indication of her needing therapy or if so for what, for you to make such a statement.

@shaolinqueen3684

Жыл бұрын

Maybe she wants you to see you in her as some form of self reflection. It is weird and off putting though.

My Narcissistic Level is a bit Over this Book I could Almost Revise this Book my Dear "Mr. Sir"...😅 (I am Quoting a line from the movie 🕳 Holes) I love reading this and the feeling of Power raised so much that I find it Comical to see how skilled I am. I think is quite scary for some if you think about it...and exhausting more than liberating 😅❤

He's changing my life

He is so right when he says that "public acting" is "liberating" somehow!!(and we need it as humans for our brains!)!

Love it! ❤🎉

Which is exactly how celebrities are coached for interviews or public appearances, of course someone is going to ask about the upskirt pic or addiction problems but you learn to handle it or act (even when you don't want to)

Family member and ex have that frozen poker face slightly smiling but not expression and not speaking just mirrored ppl and yes hypnotized mostly

I really enjoy these shorts, very useful insights

Wow so beautiful lines ..

Compare with Dr. Drew's book. Now it goes to a whole new level.

That’s a long time sales strategy

When someone copies my mannerisms and words from my vocabulary I feel sorry for them for how empty they are of themselves then feel the need to copy my every move as if it will help them in any way.

JUST BE YOUR GENUINE SELF WHILE DISPLAYING UPLIFTING CHARACTER TRAITS THAT YOU HAVE. LIKE SHARING A THOUGHT OR IDEA TO BUILD A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP.

Kind of when you don't want to rock the boat so you go along with it.

ADHDer are the best actors. Although it's been exhausting to mask for so many years.

Im absolutely agree 👍💯 with you ❤️

I love your knowledge and wisdom Docotor, you seems like a really good man. Supporting you from Spain 👏👏👏👏

Green gives half good advice that people should follow and half advice for psychopaths trying to manipulate people… Don’t know if I’ll ever know how I should feel about him 😅

@louismorris7946

Жыл бұрын

Take the good advice and apply it to your life as for the bad advice its good for you to be aware of it especially if someone is trying to use it against you.its not a bad thing to be aware of the schemes of bad or dangerous people it can help prevent you from being caught in the traps others may set for you.it never hurts to be aware of the schemes of the devil it will help prepare you to resist him an not be seduced by him.if you look at his information in this light i think you will see the good in all of it.

@marsjokes

Жыл бұрын

Knife is a knife regardless if it's used for preparing food, as a gardening tool, or for killings

@Zack-bl2gg

Жыл бұрын

@@marsjokes Probably the best way I’ve heard that explained

@taramattieroopnarine356

Жыл бұрын

Is this people pleasing, we should have a mind of our own.

@vinitagrin4916

Жыл бұрын

Ikr! I felt the same. It’s good knowledge to watch out for the manipulators. But they have the advantage of this knowledge as well.

Yes and thanks for sharing your work and being such a fun partner

Ty

I have your book, it is awesome

Good info to have.

Incredible

Works great in sales

Sometimes a find myself mirroring people and I get very anxious :(

When you're mirroring me, it's annoying af. The only time it's not is when the other person is a friend or family and you're both in on the mirroring.

@jacklan4103

8 ай бұрын

I think when you're mirroring people you have to do it subtly without making it seem obvious. Humans generally operate subconsciously most of the time, so doing it subtly allows you to tap into their subconscious mind. That's what I got from the laws of seduction.

It is liberating ❤❤

This is an important piece of media

I agree. We all have at some point a fraction (or whatever you may call it) of narcissistic tendencies or traits in us.

The Mirror Effect is not to be confused with the Mirror Principle, although they do share some similarities in terms of matching wavelengths.

We copy others behaviour instant!

@SuperLifestream

Жыл бұрын

We do this naturally. We all act different around different people. Different environments mold different people and we all don't want to stand out as the black sheep, so its more conforming to the group

Necessary Life Skill: Learn 2 ‘Adapt IN ANY Environment’. It’s not about Self, rather identifying preferred commutative styles in your environment and adapt similarly. 🙏🏽❤️

NLP uses mirroring or matching to build rapport

This does work but ever since I learnt about this any time I’ve noticed someone doing it to me which is multiple times over the years (I start doing specific things to make sure that is what they’re doing and I’m not just imagining it) I immediately feel like I should be on my guard around that person so be warned it can have the opposite affect if the person is aware it’s what you’re doing!

👀 interesting. Thank you 😊

We're all narcissists?! Are you sure? How do you know?

@imeprezime8416

9 ай бұрын

Its in our genes

@kandels3195

9 ай бұрын

If you don’t put yourself first, how do you survive?

@BaxstabberzZ

6 ай бұрын

It's a stupid way of delivering that information. We all have the same brain set ups but in different ranges that change due to nature and nurture interacting. It's like saying, we all have nipples so we're all female. It's like no, we have the same parts but they function differently. Narcissists are admire seekers and disorderously seek being admired but let's ask yourself, who doesn't want to be loved? He's basically a pessimist.

Indeed.

Got to learn this 👍🏼

100% I had an ex who would act completely different depending on who he was talking with, an absolute shape shifter if ever there was one. Very persuasive in his language that would illicit a response from someone that they wanted. Wouldn't have me around his family and friends, almost like he didn't want me seeing what he was like around them

Truth

True.

Totally agree 💯

I also love the movement of your eyebrows and the expression in your eyes. Scream Ahhhhhhhh 😻😻🤣😜😘

Very interesting..

So who mimicks who? Do I mimick him while he's trying to mimick me both of us thinking we are mimicking the other?

@timetraveller267

Жыл бұрын

😂lol that sounds awkward

@sroth2021

10 ай бұрын

The submissive mirror the dominant so as not to suffer their ire.

@IvarTheBoneless40

9 ай бұрын

But yzouz need to be care with mirroring because if you take it to far like example even wering the same clotht and acting the same you can end up looking exactly like the person your mimicing, so caution

I cannot handle when people mirror me. I see it right away. Scares me.

❤roberttttttt

I think we’re all acting to a certain extent when we’re socializing. We act from the parts of ourselves that we feel comfortable showing to others. Some people are just more conscious of what they want to show and can express it more effectively.

Be yourself.

You are incredibly brillant, but you are sharing my hard earned secrets with the world!

This is true and funny to watch😅

So how do i do this while also being genuine with my values?

In neuroscience it’s called “mirror neurons”

i use the mirror effect a lot and even go beyond it, making an entire new personality to match my victim, make them be obsessed with me and i dont even need to act since i somehow dont feel like having a stable personality and can be anyone i want without problems so i kinda use this to my advantage

It's so easy to mirror other people's behavior when you care to learn about them.

Yes

What about a male interacting with a female. I don't think it generally works to mirror a females body language as a male. But you can mirror expressions I suppose. Just a thought.

@sandracastillo3317

Жыл бұрын

After i learned about the mirror effect i started to notice more and i tried to see if i could make the other person mirror me, because it is subconscious, Easiest is to grab your drink/water and take a sip if you are across from someone.

@SlimeOhIm

11 ай бұрын

@@sandracastillo3317isn’t that similar to them seeing you drink water and they’re like oh yeah actually I am thirty and either was reminded or thought of it because of that occurrence.

@sandracastillo3317

11 ай бұрын

@@SlimeOhIm It could be, however, now that i know about the mirroring effect, i have caught myself reaching ... was i thirsty...not particularly , it was a reflex. I also try to test it by seeing how many times i can get the other person to reach for their drink at dinner. I also noticed I don't know what to do if I have no drink and my friend was finishing her slowy.

The bulk of comments jump on his use of narcissism; he doesn't mean it as it's often used today as a perverted self-centeredness, but in the sense that we want interactions to integrate with our personal qualities and stylistic forms. It's taken me my entire life to drop my energetic intellectuality and be natural with a colloquial manner, to let people have a chance to rise up a rung or two rather than expect them to pump iron with Olympian mental strength. Be someone common, but with an extraordinary within shining through. Be this, because the extraordinary is in everyone, and only by everyone bringing it out will be change the world.

THE MIRROR EFFECTS 🙏😇💙❤️

Anybody else do this kinda shit just naturally and then stumble upon this dudes videos like “damn I’ve been doing this for years.”