Thank you... Lovely video

I feel exactly the way you do. I am female, divorced, no children no family and a very limited circle of acquaintances. I went through a divorce 4 years ago and moved 1400 miles away to a totally new city right before COVID hit. To say I was in a black hole might be a vast understatement. I have lovely true friends who live in other states. But they don’t call to say let’s go to a movie or a concert or dinner. I am just now crawling out of that hole and what seems to be working for me is dance classes. I am taking salsa with a great group of people and I am finding laughter, growth, fun and exercise. There does not seem to be a clique. And for the first time in four years, I did not spend the Fourth of July alone. We all went out to dinner and it was the most fun I’ve had since moving here. I know I am outgoing when I know people but at first, I have this huge shy streak that rears it’s ugly head. I make plans. And I just don’t go. Sad. It’s my own fault. I am always surprised, although I shouldn’t be……that my neighbors have parties and bar-b-q’s and they don’t think to invite me. They know my situation and yet there are cob webs on my phone. I do not have the answer. I do not drink so going to bars is just not my jam. But I do think that classes are the way to go. And I know there are tons from which to choose. Pickle ball to painting. Pottery to print making. I just have to make the effort. I even had (old fashioned!) business cards made so when I am at a class, I can hand out my card and ask someone to meet me for coffee. The very important thing is that we MUST make a great effort to cultivate these friendships. If you look at the literature, mortality and morbidity are vastly affected by loneliness. Scary. If any of you live in Knoxville, please…..let’s meet for coffee.

I don’t think we will collectively change until we are forced to. We will always choose comfort. The bottom line is that we need to need each other again. We are reliant upon strangers and enormous supply chains that fully remove the necessity for relationships and interaction with nature. So it won’t be until the current system collapses to some degree before we are forced to rely on each other again. Although we shouldn’t wait for that. Now, on another hand we do need each other and we are seeing the dramatic effects of loneliness that make it obvious. The problem is that we can survive now without close tribal bonds. Excuse me if I’m rambling I’m a bit high on cannabis. The answer is something along the lines of community living that functions more on a local level. I wonder if maybe we can create some type of AA but for lonely peope Above all I’m so sorry for the pain of your loneliness brother I wish I could show you the astonishing light of your own being to make everything at peace

I've been lonely for years now and I have tried to get to know people but I don't know how

@thegratefulhiker

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I know it can be difficult, as it is for me too. I am an introvert, which makes it a bit more challenging. The best thing I have done is to think about what I really love (fitness and sports) and join groups revolving around those things (I am part of a men's workout group and I also played several seasons in a kickball league). What do you like to do and what have you tried?

@teaganashmore1971

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Im 15 I like art and music I'm in a singing group and I love to play video games by myself

Hello, I came across your video about the Smokies because I will be visiting next month and wanted to find some new spots to explore. I just love it there! Any more suggestions? Btw, just curious, how did your speed dating go?