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@MaHyang

4 жыл бұрын

Hey INFJs out there, don't be too hard to yourself.

@dikshabhatnagar4115

4 жыл бұрын

" I am a single Dingle" Hahahaha😉

@dikshabhatnagar4115

4 жыл бұрын

" Put it down , not like on a desk, but like inward " So INFJ of you to explain ;)

@thesoliloquist1940

4 жыл бұрын

I know a great INFJ therapist in windsor maryland if anyone is around there

@phoenixrobinson1509

4 жыл бұрын

Now that was a heck of a video!!! 👉🏻👍🏻 Thank you James

I hate it when people underestimate me. At the same time, I don't want people to have such high expectations of me because I don't think that I'm good enough to live up to their expectations.

@TheGalacticGrizzly

4 жыл бұрын

Get out of my head! REEEEE!!!

@sosinlethyug1051

4 жыл бұрын

Sameeeee

@presentlybikepacking2535

4 жыл бұрын

Yet, you know you are good enough. It is a crazy loop to be in.

@aidadenisa8553

4 жыл бұрын

Are you me?

@Crustdaddii

4 жыл бұрын

I genuinely feel this

"It's like you don't even respect your own ability to achieve things" well...ooops

@taylorjade6918

4 жыл бұрын

Oh...right. :(

@yacinedamak4903

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah , i mean is our self esteem is necessarily and exclusively related to accomplishment ?..

@michellecottrell3553

4 жыл бұрын

That's me

@estherbednar3260

4 жыл бұрын

This is exactly the line I was going to highlight too. Just... bam.

@mehlodyy

4 жыл бұрын

@@estherbednar3260 that really hit, didn't it😭

idk if anyone else feels this way but I love when frank lets us know a commercial is coming

@ritasilva3121

3 жыл бұрын

Haha...me too

@user-jx8tb8jx5y

2 жыл бұрын

yes same it makes me feel like he respects me

Personally I know I am good enough however all my managers throughout the years have told me I lack confidence and I’m like wtf I am just a calm person I don’t want to play the wolf of the Wall street at work .... I can say from experience that INFJs don’t feel good enough because the world doesn’t put value on our ideas/personalities and we’re like ok I’ll go back to my dark room and cry about it

@violetvisionz7330

4 жыл бұрын

INTJ here but I can relate

@ozywomandius2290

4 жыл бұрын

Word

@presentlybikepacking2535

4 жыл бұрын

Geez...I finally found my people. I’m dealing w/ that right now. And when i do stick up for myself instead of being railroaded, I feel gross and regretful.

@danielcongleton2878

4 жыл бұрын

I think it's more that I will work impossibly hard for people I respect, but not impossibly hard for myself. I think people confuse that for lacking confidence in myself, when in reality I see myself as a servant leader, and a lack of understanding on what i really want when I'm leading. The only way I found to push myself internally is to find people I want to emulate, and figure out how to get closer to that image of a person in myself.

@DSchae2165

4 жыл бұрын

yes, exactly

"Single dingle." - FJ, the greatest linguist of our age

@taylorjade6918

4 жыл бұрын

In other news, he also used airy-fairy, which is legitimately a word no one ever uses! 😍

@tknot06

4 жыл бұрын

Love it❤

@nobodyknows3260

4 жыл бұрын

😆

This is literally what I've been trying to communicate to my therapist for months

@taylorjade6918

4 жыл бұрын

Now you have a video to show them! 😍

@presentlybikepacking2535

4 жыл бұрын

It’s also sad that your therapist doesn’t understand this about you. I have had the same issues w/ previous therapists.

@nobodyknows3260

4 жыл бұрын

@@ravishingtwinkle3811 Well, that's not helpful at all. That's like the most standard thing to say.

@heathermcdougall2399

4 жыл бұрын

@@presentlybikepacking2535 Don't go to therapists as an INFJ - we're only 1% of the population. Now, the chance so f your therapist helping you are exactly 99% against. maybe you're quirky and don't want to be? Tough. You are quirky at best, a weirdo at worst. Now exploit your quirky best.

@ascertainedartistry8881

4 жыл бұрын

It’s okay brother my therapist struggles to understand me too. Don’t stress about who you are. Who you are is exactly who you’re meant to be & who you strive to be is exactly who you will become. Your therapist & my therapist will understand us.

"You have to sacrifice looking around at other people and just look at yourself." I got it guys! We all have to hermit ourselves from everyone and everything!

@angel-garcia.

4 жыл бұрын

GENIUS!!!

@iamtargetedindividual5763

4 жыл бұрын

@@angel-garcia. exatly

@janiceordinario4990

4 жыл бұрын

Like that would help

@fluffyclouds555

4 жыл бұрын

Well I’m friggin killing it you guys. I just won hermit of the year at my house

@melissaphillis7247

4 жыл бұрын

I'm there

"Comparison is the thief of joy." -- Teddy Roosevelt

You are literally the male equivalent of the person I want to be, and you’re telling me I could be all of that and still not think I’m good enough. Kinda want to go jump of a cliff rn, but maybe I’ll try making a chart instead. “Tuesday: wanted to jump off a cliff. Wednesday: only wanted to jump off a bridge. Ah yes, Improvement. “ I want to be cured of a craving for something I cannot find and of the shame of never finding it. - TS Eliot

@presentlybikepacking2535

4 жыл бұрын

Jenna, great quote! Shame is a big one.

@jeanaallison7236

4 жыл бұрын

⚘🌞 u made my day

@danam5272

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you...lovely quote.

@comrukiye

4 жыл бұрын

I literally laughed out loud to this comment It's like.. I wrote this..

@fluffyclouds555

4 жыл бұрын

That quote just burned a hole in my heart. It captures my whole life story. Gonna go get it tattooed on my forehead. K bye

I’ve gotten to the point where I’m actually very proud of who I’ve become and what I’ve achieved, I just feel devalued by those around me. No one else seems to recognize my talents or appreciate me. Is that normal? It’s like my talents are “hidden.” They are the things that people just take for granted and don’t value.

@wentropy

4 жыл бұрын

I relate to this! I feel like a phony when I toot my own horn so to speak. I notice people who are my equal, because I can see this now, getting ahead. For me, it's because I don't know how to sell myself and I don't know how to schmooze.

@presentlybikepacking2535

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly! That’s the loop in our heads, tho. I know that, but knowing doesn’t make it disappear. Self affirmation every day really has helped.

@DSchae2165

4 жыл бұрын

I've been experiencing the same thing. It's like no one wants what I have to offer with my 5 decades of experience.

@nobodyknows3260

4 жыл бұрын

People don't usually go out of their way to recognize other's talents. They think about themselves mostly, and they strive to compete with others. They usually choose to be around people that are more convenient for them, not the most talented or honest. At least that's what I noticed. INFJs do the opposite, they take the time to appreciate others, so we think everyone does that. That's why we think other people should do the same, but they don't. That doesn't mean you're not good enough.

@christinemccoy4471

4 жыл бұрын

Lindsey B I relate thanks for posting

Apparently all of us weren’t feeling good at this moment. Thanks FJ

@survibharadwaj1559

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. True.

You're the part of my brain that actually can put into words how it feels.

As an INFJ, I was battling with the "not good enough" for 30 years. After watching a ton of lectures from Jordan Peterson I have finally succeeded in not looking at others for comparison. Now I compare myself with yesterdays me. If I improve from day to day, any little thing counts, I am being successful.

@hanee8049

4 жыл бұрын

Can you give some link for a good video from Jordan Peterson?

@lyngs

4 жыл бұрын

@@hanee8049 Better if you just search for "Jordan Peterson Life Advice" here. Then watch what seems relevant to you or binge every thing you can find. I have not watched any thing with him that was not worth watching. The examples he can give to explain stuff is amazing.

@sirupsee4698

4 жыл бұрын

@@hanee8049 Peterson is supposed to have some pretty strange ideas about women though. Just FYI because your name sounds female

@lyngs

4 жыл бұрын

@ilkldme Give me some examples of why you think he is "trash".

@lyngs

4 жыл бұрын

@@sirupsee4698 That is some ridiculous label put on him by extreme broken feminists who can't see truth for their ignorant ideology. Watch the full 15 min. of this: kzread.info/dash/bejne/nZ5ruMl7nrS0hcY.html

I was just thinking about how I’m not good enough and how I should quit my uni architecture course. This came at the right time. Thank you so much Frank ☺️ Also can’t wait for the next livestream!!

@flouncymagoo9766

4 жыл бұрын

Architecture is soooo cool!

@lizl1407

4 жыл бұрын

Architecture is an extremely demanding major, I bet lots of students feel that way. If you love it I hope you will keep going (and if you don't love it I hope you will find something you love).

@holly7086

4 жыл бұрын

Liz L You don’t know how much your comment means to me thank you so much!! I really hope you do what you love too. It is very demanding and a lot of pressure but I will persevere with it!! Good luck to you too and I really appreciate it 💗😊

@xavierdomenico

2 жыл бұрын

Omg Im going to study architecture too, next year. (and I am assuming you're an INFJ)

Even though I'm an INTJ, I can relate to this a little. Hurray for childhood traumas and stifling environments🤦.

@paradigmshift7541

4 жыл бұрын

I relate a lot to INTJ videos, but am 100% INFJ.

@sorrychangedmyusername3594

4 жыл бұрын

I confuse myself as INTJ even as INFJ.

@TheGalacticGrizzly

4 жыл бұрын

I'm INFP, but I also really relate to this!

@xero6396

4 жыл бұрын

I relate to it a LOT. (INTP)

Perfect timing, FJ. I was “feeling” beaten down over the last few weeks at work bc my INFJ approach is so different than others. I want to make this job into a career, and my boss keeps asking me why and what and how come I do what I do. I know I’m good at my job. I also give 110%, which I need to stop doing and just do my job and be satisfied. Others that I directly manage tell me I’m doing a great job. I need to stop looking around and hoping my boss will give me the validation I THINK I need that he is not wired to give me. I will attempt to keep my head down and do what my Dad always said, “Do your best and let go of the rest”. That’s hard for a perfectionist people pleaser.

The green lamp reminds me of Daisy's green light at the end of the dock from The Great Gatsby as you speak. This goes for you, Frank James: "Gatsby believed in the green light, the orgastic future that year by year recedes before us. It eluded us then, but that's no matter--tomorrow we will run faster, stretch out our arms farther."

That's actually my mantra: head down barrel through. When I have a busy day, or things get overwhelming: head down barrel through.

Only channel who talks about my problems other don't even understand me

Frank, there's a reason why our type is collectively called "the sages." You personify it. I know a number of INFJs, myself among them, who simply never learned how to articulate our thoughts verbally. Thus, it can make us feel rather awkward in social situations. It makes dating uncomfortable, it can cause personal inadequacy, and it also makes existing personality disorders or mental health problems worse. Therapy is wonderful, but I simply don't hear this kind of logic coming from another INFJ this well. I believe that's why so many of us love and admire you so much. You're able to read and put into words what most of us merely conceptualize on paper or in our minds. I've also referred other types to your channel who are completely confused by how people like you and me process, interpret, and integrate new data. I sincerely believe that the INFJ is unique in terms of finding an acute meaning or a spiritual meaning in some sense for everything that happens to us. If we can't assign a meaning, then yes, we're in danger of falling into a deep inferiority complex. Simply put, we like things to make sense, especially in a well structured way. If that fails to happen, then the default reaction is to blame oneself. "There must be something I missed." "Why aren't I seeing any logic to this?" Sometimes we simply need to step back and acknowledge that not everything in life is necessarily meant to make sense! I believe that coming to terms with that is a critical part of growing emotionally within the INFJ paradigm. We have ideals for everything; when we don't meet them, we automatically believe it's our fault. In truth, it's not your fault; it's just life.

Sees "INFJ not feeling good enough" Cries out "finally!!!!!!"

The most perfect timing for this video - EVER. I was journalling and then noticed I was getting more stressed and anxious as I journalled, and it's because I over-analyze everything using an emotional lens, and also use broad and vague statements like "I want a better life" without even knowing what that MEANS in practical terms. This exercise of just writing facts sounds so helpful - thank you FJ!!!!

@anasenior8201

4 жыл бұрын

Sof can honestly relate to this. The same thing happens to me

@sof9546

4 жыл бұрын

Ahhh glad to know I'm not alone!

Sometimes the feeling of being not enough is the only feeling we have as an INFJ. Psychologist say we are more focus on pleasing other people that we forget our selves. Are we really born to be someone else crying shoulder or someone who save them so that we can feel we are good and enough?

Holy potatoes! How do you always manage to make a video I need in the present moment?! 🤯

@sorrychangedmyusername3594

4 жыл бұрын

Same Thought.

@shantilove3768

4 жыл бұрын

I was thinking that too. Perfect timing.

I recognize so much in this video! I'm always telling myself that I'm objectively doing worse than others. But then I realized I can't look at it objectively because 1. I only compare myself to the people doing better than me, not to all my peers, and 2. I can't be objective because I know of my own struggles and advantages, but I don't know those things about others. And then it's easy to assume that everything comes easy to others, while I'm sitting here bitching and whining that everything is so hard. This, and realizing everyone has their own journey and goes on their own pace, has helped tremendously with not being too hard on myself.

Today I was thinking about this and somehow found this video. I’ve always felt that way. A lot of times I ask myself why can’t I be like them? Is there something wrong with me? It feels like most things come naturally for others whereas I have to do great amounts of effort. It’s like I see everyone as better than me for some reason. Like they know how to play life and I just don’t know the instructions. I’ve never met anyone who feels that way and I’m glad to know there are people out there who feel it too.

As an INFJ, this comparison with others is a double-edged sword for me, because, on the flip side of what you said, this comparison is where I get my inspiration from! When I look at my guitar skill I always compare it to other better guitarists that inspire me and that keep pushing me forward. But when I look at someone better than me and don't get inspired... well now in trouble...

It’s like we don’t know how to “people” so we just emulate those we admire around us. I actually do this every single day with writing. Mostly task based but it makes me feel productive and I can see that I am actually progressing. Love the videos!

INFJs love self improvement and this is the perfect way to acknowledge yourself as making progress towards something instead if beating yourself up on why it's not done and why it hasn't reached the perfect point you wanted it to be. Thanks FJ!

ENFJ Girl here. Your vids are helping me dial in how to understand my guy friend who is a confirmed INFJ. He recently moved to start over and "reinvent himself" in a new place with a new job. He has voiced that he wants to do the self improvement stuff, but is hesitant. I don't push it. I won't push it. It seems to me that he has built up experience in tapping into Se for setting goals though his mental image of what is supposed to be dogs him. When he is in the right state, I'm directing him to you. He has high aspirations for doing good in communities. Competitive jiu jitsu fighter, plays Cello and Ukelele, working as a security guard and dreaming up how to start a non-profit locally for those less fortunate. I'm totally digging you INFJs. LOL! As a fellow xNFJ, make peace with not being correct. Not being correct is natural like water flowing around rocks in a river. Be the water, not the other rock that rolls down and stays in one place. I believe in you.

"improved to still not good enough" oof took the words out of my mouth

I set very high standers for myself, never feeling good enough. However, I am doing this to myself. I never compare myself to others nor am I envious, I am my worst enemy.

I just want to thank you for sharing this. My husband is an INFJ, and I'm an INTJ, so this is something we've talked about dozens of times that has always been confusing for me. I feel like he constantly compares himself to others (many of whom we share little in common with), and he always finds himself wanting (which boggles my mind because, objectively, he's great in so many areas that I genuinely can't understand what faults/failures he's seeing that I'm missing-- his trajectory has always been "up," but progress is slow and kind of looks like the stock market. It's up and down with an upward lean). It's been very difficult for me to understand his feelings of insufficiency, and this really helped me understand more fully. Thank you again!

As an INFJ, I relate to this soooooo much! 🤯 living that single dingle life!

The more I think about it... Isn't this a problem that's pretty much rooted deep within our souls? I mean I can only speak for myself, but this looking around, comparing oneself to others and adapting onseself to what our surroundings (and therefore we!) perceive to be good - for me this started from childhood on, really. I don't remember a time where I was or felt free to just 'be'...it's kinda sad but then again, I dont even know if it's the same for other INFJs or if this makes any sense at all. I can only say for me this started way back in the old days of being a toddler probably haha :D and now with 21 years I still am like that.

i’ve literally never felt proud of myself for anything in my entire life yet looking back i know i’ve accomplished a lot.

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 omg how did you know, Frank??! 😵 I was sitting alone mulling over whether or not to apply for a job knowing deep down I didn't have all the essential skills for it, I open up KZread and then found your video 😲 yknow what? I'm gonna go for it. Thanks Frank!

@ArcaneGinger

4 жыл бұрын

Good Luck!! ^-^

With the whole writing down your progress instead of getting caught up in the emotional aspect of it, that also works for me when I get a bit depressed. A lot of times I will look back at the bad things I have done or the embarrassing things that have happened. If I stop myself and start to think of other people’s perspective or what it really effected, it’s easier to realize that I didn’t do anything that terrible, and that even if I did, I can still make up for it because it’s not the end of the world

I adore you for literally voicing every concern I have in my head. I once cried for 45 minutes saying I was not good enough. well, if hat doesn't prove how much of an INFJ I am, I can tell you other things lol

Stop the competition, stop the self-improvement delusion, stop the over-consumption, stop solipsism, start asking yourself : am I a real person, am I kind, am I contributing to a community or forming one, am I humble and insightful, am I a honorable and righteous person, ask yourself about your actions.... are they true... are they kind.... are they necessary... do they make me happy.... do they make everybody happy.... do they produce win win situations.... 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞

@christinemccoy4471

4 жыл бұрын

Joseph Beekman I agree

People might be very envious of your hair. You've got it going on this morning! Good height, symmetrical on the sides... Good morning, thanks for the video. :)

I love how you break things down, it’s like you’re speaking directly to me and my INFJ train of thoughts 💭 Subjective standards ✍🏽💪🏽

I heard a large swath of this video as "Stay off social media." More seriously, I don't let myself spend time on social media when I go through one of those storms.

@timetraveller3076

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah I don't even install some social media just because they are popular but without any true meanings or benefits

@debhadden205

4 жыл бұрын

My family does not understand me when I tell them social media is poison for me but life is so much better since I left.

@KCornwall

4 жыл бұрын

I'd be off of social media yesterday if I didn't have a business that relies on it. 😒 Such a good point.

@destree6348

4 жыл бұрын

I am so glad I never got into any social media... I mean I guess KZread counts lol

@marcusmiles4234

4 жыл бұрын

Personally, I get on Instagram once a week for about an hour or so and then delete it, not to download it again until the next week. Works really well for me

this really hits home, all too true and how easy it is to go off and live in your own head but in a way where you almost sort of dissociate from actual reality of sensing...all the lower functions you mention I was like “aww man ugh, yeah I’ve got to do that...” and moving from “I’ve got to” to “I am doing” that...and even finding out what “That” is for me...maybe it’s Faith No More’s “Epic” ...”it said, what is it?”

ok but can we take a second and admire this... beautiful.... hair?

Frank, About a month ago, one of your videos randomly came up in my KZread feed. I had taken the 16 personalities test and gotten INFJ as a result, but never researched much about it and definitely hadn't looked it up on KZread. Still, your video showed up and I had to watch... And watch another and another. I was blown away that someone else knew what it felt like to fade into the background of busier social situations and feeling like nobody cared if I contributed, despite desperately wanting to be engaged. It helped so much to know that someone else often found themselves trapped in their imagination having day-nightmares of worst case scenarios and to feel like a "Freakazoid" as you've call it for doing so. Even seeing someone else who is interested in a wide variety of things (baseball, playing guitar and bass, writing, accounting) like me has been encouraging. I still have a lot of progress to make, but your sharing of your life experiences, thoughts and feelings, has really helped me step back and start processing things more clearly. I'm realizing that the ways that I am different don't make me inferior at all. I'm not supposed to be the perfect match for everyone, and not everyone is going to like or understand me, but that's okay. It doesn't mean I'm a failure. Keep sharing. Don't burn this down. You're making a difference in the lives of a lot of people who have felt isolated for a long time, and one day they'll be able to pay it forward!

A superb theme!!! We arw good enough! We are. We just spot judgmental attitude of others so easily.. and "they" spot us, being affected by their valuations.. they suck!

This video just pop out in the right moment as always. I think I've unconsciously adopted this mechanism when I started university and everything started getting better at the time - I didn't feel anymore as 'not that good' or mediocre, I actually thought I could do anything if I worked hard for it. Sadly other life problems (or maybe just other infj's difficulties lol) turned up and I forgot everything I learned, letting myself wallow in sadness, unable to look to the future with confidence.

thank u so much :( just had an anxiety attack. i never feel worthy of anything

@slavomiraschneidereit6762

4 жыл бұрын

Same 😓

Ouch. This video hits differently. It's just so hard to ignore the fact that others are better. I can feel as confident and proud of myself as I want, as soon as I realise that I could have done better, and that someone else actually did, I can't help but being disappointed. I don't want to, I try so hard to not do so, but I crave recognition from others so much. Not from others in general, but from a selected few. Those few, which I feel like don't give me any recognition (you always want what you can't have). And I know that I would do everything, change the sense of earths rotation, just to hear this "wow, you did very well, I am proud of you. You were exceptional". I just...reaally want to be the best for those people and for myself. And I often feel like none of those people (me included) don't give me the affirmation I'd need. But I am working on it. :) I try to be more conscious about my achievements and also, actually realise that people are telling me that I am doing good. Even some of those particular persons (I just was telling myself things like "nah, he doesn't mean it like that. He says that to everyone. I just were lucky").

I use to struggle a lot with this ( once in a while I still do) . I decided to take up journaling which I found super helpful with releasing tension and anxiety .

@ozywomandius2290

4 жыл бұрын

Floral Moral agree, it opens a door to another world.

I just keep doing my Dauchsy Self Love meditation. I do love myself but for some reason I need all the self love I can get in this world!! It's starting to feel crazy because I just love myself so much. It's wierd. People compliment me a lot. It's uncomfortable. Because we can't build anything together because different wavelengths. It's just disconnection every day. It's brutal. Makes me feel guilty and rejected. It's just being on a unique wavelength. Which is awesome. But the other wavelengths often suck big time so we want to do more to help others or we are constantly fending off judgement or attack as others try to pull us onto theirs. Or we just feel guilty. I find I have to have faith in myself and in others and let go. Life is there to help them. And have faith in life/universe too. Affirmations and practice.

Well, this hit home.

I am a ENFP and I looooooove your videos. They make me laugh and make me think.❤️ Your INFJ videos really resonates with me. Especially this one. I feel like I am at a therapy session.🙏🏾 I love it. Thank you for your wisdom! You are my friend in my head. Lol (I know that sounds crazy, but you are!) 😂

@thesoliloquist1940

4 жыл бұрын

The E and I versions of the other letters think the same right?

Amen to journaling your emotional state regularly! I did that for over a year, assigning a numerical value. Turns out I was happier than I thought I was. Those negative feelings overshadow the positive if we don’t keep an eye on things. Keeping your head down can feel impossible if the comparison habit is lifelong, but awareness of it to begin with is a great start. Great video. 👍🏼

As an INFJ type 3, this rings really really true :( For INFJ's, one of the most important things we can do is develop our own Fi rather than relying on Fe so much.

I try not to compare to others but i really put a high standard for myself to achieve so yeah that makes me feel im not good enough

@Jenna_Joseph

4 жыл бұрын

sana lll Saaaaaaaaaaaame

@tamielizabethallaway2413

4 жыл бұрын

Yep! I compare myself, to the person the voice inside TELLS me that I should be... And if and when I make it, the voice then expects and wants better and better!

@sanalll2875

4 жыл бұрын

@@tamielizabethallaway2413 Yes true!! Also I can't take compliments.When I hear one I think "No, I'm not that good."

@tamielizabethallaway2413

4 жыл бұрын

@@sanalll2875 yeah, i think "oh that's nice thank you" nice of them to say it, but I don't agree! I wrote my own comment actually, above (further up in comments) talking about that very thing! 😘

@sanalll2875

4 жыл бұрын

@@tamielizabethallaway2413 I saw the comment now and yes that voice really makes us doubt everything we do. But we should not forget that we always try to give our best for every little thing so this is what really matters. 💓

I've been feeling down lately, and you really hit the nail on the head with this video, man. Thank you for helping me understand why I feel this way.

I can’t tell you how much I relate to your videos. I’m in my final semester of my degree and I was literally just sitting here thinking, “what if I did this whole thing by luck?” and this popped up. Thanks for making these🙏

Thankyou so much . I really needed this. "You are incharge of your own life". Well said. Keeping track of your goals in terms of facts & figures is really helpful.

Literally woke up this morning with this exact thought in my mind. It was nice to see this video, thanks Frank. Emily

“It’s getting better all the time, it can’t get no worse” 👀

Frank. I’ve been subscribed since you had less than 1000. Still here. I don’t watch all your videos, but I’ve seen a lot of them. I like this type of video the best. Im much older than you and I relate to what you are laying down here, and I will say you are doing just fine my friend.

Thank you for this, especially today! I needed to hear this. I am going to get a log started right away.

This spoke to me so hard! Thank you for explaining this so so well! You deserve the success with you’re change so much. Been here when you were at 5k 😊🙏

Thanks frank for the great advice- that I’ve somehow managed to overlook, I’ve been having difficulty typing my personality but I think this really helped open my eyes. Wishing u every happiness!

you really uploaded this at a great time!! i needed this video a lot

Omg I honestly NEEDED THIS TODAY!!!!

This video arrived at just the right time for me. Thanks, James.

🎉 *Congratulations* 🎉 I subscribed at 7K+ and now, FJ, you get that many views in 4hrs over one vid! You now have 190K+ and are still going strong... We appreciate you!

I love your videos! I feel like they have been really helping me to better understand myself. Keep up the good work!

Great advice for anyone that doesn’t feel good enough 👏

hi frank. just wanted to let u know that ur channel helped me the most and the way u explain everything is really what I'm looking for and this is the only channel for me that delivers the idea in a really smart way for me to understand. THANKS MAN you're doing amazing

Great video, thankyou. Don't ever doubt that your videos are great and really help ppl

you always know what to say and how to say it, thank you bro

I've been in a funk for the past while, needed this. Thank you FJ!

Your videos help me so much. It helps me realize so many things and now I understand myself more. Thank you.

I just love you! Everything you say makes so much sense in this huge world of “I don’t know”. If that makes any sense.... but it makes sense to me, so ok. Thank you for sharing your gifts. It’s greatly appreciated. 😊

thank you so much FJ, ive always felt this way my entire life and the only advice i got was “compare yourself to yourself from yesterday” and it never worked for me

The tracking thing is such a good idea. This is exactly what I needed to hear!

This came right when I needed it, Frank. As an INFJ who has just started pursuing my own art and sharing it on KZread, the comparison piece is rough. Thanks so much for sharing some wisdom.

Excellent video topic, Frank! I watched it this morning and it helped me all day - focusing on the subjective. I gotta tell you, it was incredibly helpful and just the shot in the arm that was needed.

It really helps me to force myself think more logical instead of emotionally. To kind of take myself out of me and see myself as a third person and think what actionable, realistic daily steps can I take to achieve my goal? Then tracking it so I can see improvement through numbers instead of emotional comparison. Routine is so key for me --- if I have no routine with same daily time then I'm lost in my overthinking/emotions. Thank you Frank!!!

I just have to say, thanks for still being the same amazing FJ. I fell off from watching for a while (you were under 10K subs) but I'm back and I still love the videos and I'm still sure your me as a dude. Thank you sir for being amazingly you.

I need to hear this one today. Thanks FJ!!

Good video topic, Frankie. 😎 I know it’s only Tuesday but I have been struuuuuggling with this already this week. Glad to hear your thoughts on the matter!

your videos make me feel so understood (for obvious reasons) and I don't think I've ever felt so heard. I'm glad I found your channel today

Before I saw this on my recommend page/notifications, I randomly had this thought, “I’m just scared that I’ll finally find someone that is good enough for me but I’m not good enough for them”. Wow, thanks for these videos Frank !!! They help a lot (:

wow i truly needed this video. thank you so much. i've made a list of things i need to actually apply to my life in order to change my negative thought patterns.

Hit home with me!! One of your best vids so far FJ! Multiple nail-on-head moments in this one... I gotta put my head down and be more sensory about my approach to goals. Goes along perfectly with the chapter I'm listening to right now of "barking up the wrong tree" which I also highly recommend for INFJs... or... anyone. When you mentioned wanting to be the best and that there's always someone better I realized of course this is absolutely true - and the really funny thing is that as an INFJ frankly I wouldn't WANT to be the best. I'm afraid that would put me in the limelight and would be incongruent with my values of being humble and putting myself second. So it's this inner conflict of wanting to be really really good but never wanting to be the best LOL

I needed this so much. I have such a problem of comparing myself to others -- even if I achieve something I also feel like "oh it was just luck I guess... I didn't do it the right way like they did" thank you for this insight!!!

you're so cool, I like your way of looking at things, analyzing, giving some pieces of advice.. thank you so much for help

The last thing I would instinctively do is write down the facts and track them. Which is why it's exactly what I needed to hear! Thanks Frank

You beautiful, wise man! A super huge thank you! This helped me snap out of my self-critising rut and gave me the inspiration I needed to finish my assignment

Thanks FJ! Yep, you have to walk your own path and/or be the captain of your own ship (if I may mix metaphors). Thanks for providing the context behind these metaphors.

This is the advice I needed now. My whole life I compared myself with others, especially these days I've been feeling down because of this. Thanks FJ!! :)

I have been considering giving up on a lot of things lately until this video and someone else I just found (so I can't remember their name yet). I will try this out. Thank you, FJ.

This video couldn't have been more timely. I took a leave from uni because of my anxiety and depression. It's been a rough road with all the therapy and changing my thinking. However, am 4 months into it and noticed that my mood is so much better. Once I learnt to not give into my negative subconscious thoughts I started to truly recover. Thank you Frank your videos never fail to make me laugh and smile! :)

Thank you. You've validated my emotional state right now. I really needed this. Btw, hope we can collab one day.