Having your own place gives you such a great sense of peace and quiet that you'll never want to go back. Living with a roommate or your parents for too long can lead to you having resentment towards them, but once you get out and get your own spot your relationship with your family improves as a result because you have time and space away from one another. I know times are hard right now, but if you can make it happen go for it.

@ezzards3882

Жыл бұрын

I getting my own place some time next month. I been living with my parents since 19, I paid bills through our the house, I am 34.. time me to go now.

@landonprice5656

4 ай бұрын

Working in maintenance 4sho there is nothing like having own.

I hated roommates I mean hated them,When I got my own place extreme peace and quiet a whole new world, you also have to watch who you bring over make sure she's mentally sane.

It's a must if you don't get along with parents/roommates. Eventually, you get tired of them, they get tired of you. Nothing personal, it's just the lack of space/privacy. There's always deals to be found in real-estate to where you can make it fit your situation but what I recommend is at least touring 2 + apartments or homes because there are some desperate landlords out there that don't want to tell you someone died there or there were some previous infestations. Just a heads-up

@glenfaust2714

Жыл бұрын

Indeed. My family is big on watching the news. I'm talking 3 or 4 televisons blasting CNN all day. It was intense. I'm currently in Poland, but im from the USA. Life is good when you got that privacy, but it's even better when you got autonomy

@thebest12700

Жыл бұрын

man, me and my best friend almost fell out over that shit lol its not worth it! i refuse to live with my brother too because i know it would get bad. living alone is the way to go and it'll save your relationships with friends/family. many fall out after living together because its just not meant to be most of the time.

A man's own place is a part of his own sovereignty.

The “power of solitude” great point OG Rom !! Every young man needs to hear this message. And it don’t matter if it’s a high end mansion or a small apartment. “It’s Yours and you control it”

Bought my own place a couple years ago after saving up and living with my parents most of my life at age 30. My home a lot of times is like my Hyperbolic Time Chamber (Dragonball Z fans will get it). I’m a heavy thinker and planner so it’s my key place where I go in and get my mind right to take on the world. There’s a certain shift in your mind that takes place when you attain your own freedom that’s unexplainable. A confidence, there’s nothing like it. It’s also nice to be able to entertain women and prioritize them as you see fit.

@coreysrevenge286

Жыл бұрын

Nigga weebed out with the DBZ ref😭 thats great news though. Now complete the cycle of becoming a man. Get in the gym, learn to fight, etc etc. be dangerous yet tame etc. money and stability and knowing about women are 2 components.

@ktryushi4744

Жыл бұрын

@@coreysrevenge286 you sound insecure as hell and you’re projecting him on your own insecurities. Who cares? If he lives with parents house, does he harm people? Stfu and let him do what he wants…No one give a shit about your advice nigga. It’s not your life it’s his life, he choose what he wants to be nigga. Be a good boy and stop judging people.

jus moved into my first apartment in december.. best decision i made

@leroystrokesmen5666

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations brother... enjoy your sanity

Man. I’m 23, have my own spot single no kids. Military. Stable. My brother, 26, still lives at home, has a child, works with my dad. I can tell you, mentally, it’s taking a toll on him.

You know this topic hits me in the feels brother Rom. In 2019 after leaving me ex girlfriend I was homeless in Boston and then spend 3 months in a homeless shelter. Moved into a 5 bedroom apartment with other veterans like myself and even though I had my own room I had zero peace. During the pandemic I worked as a janitor for the VA and bust my A$$ to get a better job and save money and now I’m in Georgia and been living in a 2 bedroom 1 bath house and the peace of mind is off the carts. Rule 1: My home my rules. Rule 2: Come in my home uninvited and you will be talking to my S&W M&P 9mm compact named Harry Potter who’s best friends are the Deadly Hollows😂😂😂 Rule 3: Respect me and my place at ALL TIMES!!! Young brothers if you want true peace of mind get your own place. It’s the greatest feeling ever to be King of your domain. Great Topic brother Rom.

Real talk, my BM moved out of my town house in Feb of this year, My whole mentality and energy changed when she moved out even my friends noticed. My best friend even said to me it’s like you are yourself for the first time. You explained in the video what happened to me. Fellas listen to Uncle Rom on this you really need ya own spot you feel feel and carry yourself like a king. Damn wait til I get the fish tank I want game over

@MsJoyce31202

Жыл бұрын

❤️

I remember starting out back in the day, my spot didn't have any furniture. This older woman I used to mess with told me straight up, "you got 4 walls and a roof that no one can disturb you". After that she proceeded to get loose.

I've always liked everyone I lived with less. I accepted the fact that even if the overall situation is chill some things are just going to be counterproductive to be around. You might be in shape and eating right but have roommates that are actively destroying their own health. These types of things say alot about someone's mental state. Once I notice certain things about people that show that they just don't care about themselves even, I generally keep interaction with them to a minimum. It's just disgust if they are aware of something and don't do anything to fix it, can't even be around that for long. Eventually they will get angry and passive agressive about things and at that point I'm out of there. I noticed this is the trend with most people I'm around so I finally got a little raggedy apartment {looking to upgrade at the end of the year) and its the best thing ever.

Told my mom & older brother that it was nice living with them my whole life but I gotta go, I’m 28. Going to starting looking at apartments early February 2023. So excited!

Left at 19. Moved back in with my mother when I was 23 to finish college. I can say I have invested and saved to “buy a house”. Cause I’m done renting brotha 💯

I agree uncle Rom, having your own place is extremely important! I have friends who live with their girlfriend, and as soon as they get into a little disagreement she kicks him out.

@marlobx7442

Жыл бұрын

Maaaaannn Listen

I live with my parents until last year when my father passed. I'm the youngest and I had elderly parents that I had to care for. I have my own place and let me tell you, I furnished it to my liking, I call the shots and it feels good to come home to peace.

Great insight, as always. Cant have a peace of mind without having your own place especially if you are over 27 imho. Even if you live with someone and/or have a family, ownership(property in your name) is key. I own my home and having somewhere I can be alone (at times) to gather my thoughts, plan my next move(s) or even just meditate and listen to my own heartbeat is priceless! Having your own is one of the first steps to conquering your world. Thanks for the message. 🤝

My father has a saying grown mean gone having your own definitely gives you control it means you pay the cost to be the boss

I finally got my own place and it feels great! Nobody lives with me and I love the peace. Speaking of which PEACE and blessings, Uncle Rom!

Got my own spot in Oceanside,CA living 15mins from the beach. Single and living my best life. God is GREAT!!!!

@RomWills

Жыл бұрын

💯

Facts every man needs his own territory. I can’t wait until I get enough money to get my own place .

I’m so glad that I moved out of my toxic family house. As I was growing up, I had to deal with a control freak mother who keeps telling me how I should live my life and if I don’t do the things that she demanded, she will use a shame tactic against me. In addition, she wants me to live closer to her as I moved to a city 4 hours away from her. Because of how my parents raised me, I don’t really exhibit an assertive personality as my family would constantly punish me for showing the slightest aggression. Overall, I will def make sure that my boundaries are not violated by my family since they caused so much trauma in my life (to the point where I don’t want to live at their house ever again)!

Yes sir! I stayed with my mother right after I graduated college for a few years. So thankful to have my own spot. Its going on four years I have been living here. An I can tell you my entire mindset has changed since I lived at home. I can tell you this when women come over they are impressed and realize they aren't dealing with some of the men they usually see. Every man should work toward getting their own spot!

Unc Rom, thank you for this, was the further motivation as it's many years too late and i'll be 30 next year. By ending of Feb 2023 (six months from now), I will strive to flee the nest and get my own place. This is a personal target I am setting for myself.

It’s part of the basics of being an adult. It’s also goes in conjunction with the rising and transforming Uncle Rom advises his audience to strive for.

I just got ny keys minutes ago… funny how this popped up on my feed haha

@Yeen_

Жыл бұрын

🤝🏾 congratulations yo

@DialloMoore503

Жыл бұрын

Congrats!

@user-ke7mn3sv4d

Жыл бұрын

@@Yeen_ appreciate that

@user-ke7mn3sv4d

Жыл бұрын

@@DialloMoore503 thank you

I have been sleeping on my sister sofa for the past two years while I have been in school. I have helped her with her kids. The basic jobs out there don't pay enough. Now I'm at the point where I can freelance and earn money while I apply to developer and UX developer jobs. Don't forget your education guys.

To the ones who still lives with your parents, stack your money. I can’t stress that enough. Save and Invest wisely. You’ll know when it’s time to go.

@moonguy30

7 ай бұрын

Thanks for saying this!

@hooddiee

Ай бұрын

Amen

This what I realized this year. I moved into an apartment with friends from high-school. 4 of us. All into playing games, similar interests and goals. But overtime everyone would lack at something. Cleaning. Problems at the job. And because we know each other we have always been able to work it out but even though we have a stronger circle now because of those experiences, it's shown me I really do want my own space so I never have to deal with that again. I used to say I never want to live alone but I could do it now if necessary

Big brother Rom this really resonates with me. About 2 years ago I separated from my spouse after 17 years together and I had to start back from scratch. I had to move back with my Mom. During that time I stacked money and worked on myself, primarily body game and mindset. Being a little bit older I had to swallow my pride and grind. It wasn't easy because I was used to doing things how I felt. Fast forward I moved into a great apartment. The peace I feel now is priceless 💯

@marlobx7442

Жыл бұрын

💯

Very important message Brother Rom… I advise guys to never live with a woman unless you have to.. everything you mentioned in the video is 100% true… women who have homes will tempt you with unlimited sex or things will financially be feasible to live with them.. none of those things are true unless she’s on Section 8 or some rental assistance program or strictly a roommate & even that comes with problems. It doesn’t matter if you pay majority of the bills, in their mind it’s still her place & she can do what she likes & invite whoever she wants to invite over including other men… you cannot exercise control, leadership or dominance in a woman’s house, the most you can be is a glorified help meet at best.. she always has the final say & pleading with someone who makes financial decisions based upon emotional spending habits is a loosing battle…

@RomWills

2 жыл бұрын

Real talk.

Yessir. Every MAN that's tryna make a way for himself MUST have his own launchpad. Salute OG Rom.. Great topic

I always have this in the back of my mind. Living with your parents when you're an adult is annoying. They still treat you like that kid, which also is reinforced on to you as well. I'm in the process in moving out and I'm 100% positive I'm going to be a different man like what you said in the video, a sense of having control in your life.

23 I was staying with my girl at her moms place got kicked out stayed with my grandparents for about 8 months, got my own place at 24 best decision I ever made! Shout out big ROM giving endless GAME! And motivating a n*gga thru them struggles!💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽

I'm a young entrepeneur. I moved out to a luxurious apartment at tne age of 23, now I'm 25. To my young guys reading this, it makes the online dating game easier if you can casually entail you got your own place. I mean, I've had girls call out they're just looking to hook up.

@Trey-jk2eg

Жыл бұрын

Care to explain some of your avenues of making money to afford a luxury apartment?

@glenfaust2714

Жыл бұрын

@Trey Hey boss. Sure. It massively depends depending on the person. For some, I'd recommend selling on Amazon, Etsy, & eBay. But, some people are more skilled workers - they have that sort of knack where they're masterful marketers. For example, my marketer makes 5% of my sales & a $2500 fee for just managing my FB sales. He has at about 24 clients. Or, if you're more hands on - I recommend mowing lawns. Two boys in my old neighborhood paid for their entire college education doing it during COVID. Charged $55 for half an acre. Each 1 mowed took 35 minutes and they did about 12 to 17 lawns a day,

@glenfaust2714

Жыл бұрын

FB advertising not sales*

@Trey-jk2eg

Жыл бұрын

@@glenfaust2714 Thanks for the information boss, I have been researching on how to create income from online selling and it seems like advertising/marketing plays a major role in profit.

No man should have any roommates You a grown man u ain’t in college

@jackf.clarke8167

10 ай бұрын

FACTS

Needed to see and hear this

A man needs his own house or apartment.

Real advice true advice. Just moved out at 28 and it’s a game changer. Just drop the “I have my own place” in dating apps and it’s completely different how girls reply. Also, appreciate the video being to the point and not full of “sponsors” like many other KZread channels.

Yeap just finished building my house and I am super excited after getting tired of apartment drama

It's important. But it's damn-sure a struggle these days

I definitely feel what you are saying brother. Having your own place is important. This is why I feel like you are the best male dating coach on KZread. You truly put things in perspective from a holistic, spiritual perspective and go in depth. You don’t just speak purely on the physical or surface level things. And you debunk some of what I’ve heard other coaches speak about. With that being said, I don’t actually have my own place, but I have one hell of a plan to get there. The reason why I don’t currently is because I just didn’t think it would make sense for me to do it economically based on what I was making and how much rent was in the area I live in. I currently live in Sunrise, FL which is about 10-15 minutes west of Fort Lauderdale. Anyone who lives in or has lived in South Florida knows it is one of the more expensive places to live in the US. I was working at a grocery warehouse where I would average 800 a week and 1000 a week with about 60 hours. I would have been able to get my own place but I would barely be making it by my standards. I personally feel that I’m broke if I’m not able to save at least 1,000 per month after all bills and expenses are paid allocating about 300 in spending money. I would’ve probably have a few hundred after all bills and expenses based on my income. That and to me, it didn’t make any sense to spend first, last and security to go rent when the prices are so exorbitant down here and steadily going up, especially considering that I’m a veteran and I have the VA home loan at my disposal. I wouldn’t be ready for that 1,000 dollar emergency and I would be in the poor house if something like that happened. Looking at these factors, I’ve decided not to rent down here but to just save. And I decided to use my post 9/11 GI bill to pay for my CDL, which I recently got. This is going to benefit me in several ways. I’ll be able to save on rent by sleeping in my truck and living on the road. My plan is to save at least 1,000 a month for a period of 9 months. And when I do want to come home, I can just get a cheap hotel for a few days. Next, I’ll also be able to make more money and much more after getting about half a year of experience over the road. With that type of experience, I can make a high 5 figure income and 6 figures with even more experience. Especially if I become an owner/operator. In addition to that, I will be working on my credit score during those 9 months or so, which will put me in position to use my VA home loan and purchase something. The requirements for the VA home loan aren’t like that of a traditional home loan. They are much more lenient. I plan on using that to purchase a multifamily home. That way I can rent it out and at the very least, have my mortgage partially paid by someone else. Been doing some reading on real estate and I feel that’s a great route to take. As long as I live in one of the units I can use the VA home loan for it. I feel like it’s going to be very hard to purchase a multi family unit in a high demand market like South Florida, so I’ve decided that I would love to Georgia. Been to Georgia many times and I like it. I can see myself living there. I looked at 3 different cities across Georgia. I looked at Macon, Columbus and Savannah. And the real estate prices are a lot more friendly than South Florida. Furthermore, I’ve read books on passive income and will continue to educate myself even more so that I can have other sources coming in as well. The way I see, I see no point in getting my own place down here in South Florida based on what I was making. Even buying property doesn’t make sense to me at this time. I can get a 3-4 bedroom house in Georgia for the same price as maybe a 2 bedroom condo in South Florida. That’s my plan. I’m not ruling out moving back to South Florida, but I feel I need to be making at least 200,000 before I move back. That’s my plan though. I am 33 years old and have no wife, girlfriend or kids and I feel this is a great plan considering those circumstances.

@RomWills

2 жыл бұрын

As long as you are working towards your own place that's all that matters. Some men are content to live on others their whole life.

@BoooRadley

Жыл бұрын

Rent is a scam. You're doing the right thing

@gatman18

Жыл бұрын

@@BoooRadley my point exactly💯

Striving for it unc 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Uncle Rom you speaking straight facts like always. Me personally I just brought my first house last year when I was 26 years old. Things differently changed my perspective and how I operated in society and with people after gaining my own space.

@yanickp9973

11 ай бұрын

Congrats bro!! May I ask what do you do for work? I’m currently 24 and looking for a job, do you have any advice?

@MauGeez

10 ай бұрын

@@yanickp9973 thank you man. Ima counselor in mental health and substance abuse. I am working towards finishing my masters degree and becoming a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC). The best I can tell you to do is find your passion or something you love to do that will turn into a career. Take it day by day and take baby steps towards your goals to avoid burn out and overstimulation. Also, take a break when you need it.

Not gone lie. ROM has an interesting way of uploading videos that hit me right where I need to be hit.

Always on point. So much wisdom.

Thanks for the reminder uncle Rom. Stay blessed.

Ive been followin you for 2 years now.. im from South Africa.. you truly are a blessing!

Big Factz 🔥 Drop Salut 👑 Rom 💯 💯

Got mines at 22 I’ll be in there next week 🎉 now I can run my territory how I want it I won’t tolerate disrespect or take shit from nobody independence is key fellas

24 and still live at home but have $50,000 saved up so I should probably move out

@andryckfranco3801

2 жыл бұрын

Would have done you better to move out earlier and establish sovereignty sooner, but nevertheless you should move out, not probably.

@andryckfranco3801

2 жыл бұрын

That’s a home down payment right there

@DialloMoore503

Жыл бұрын

Congrats!

@cloud23games

7 ай бұрын

dang congrats I wish I had more money like that

Truth brother

Another one of my favorite videos

Thanks so much, Uncle Rom!!..Also thanks for that How Ladies See You on demand video. There were a lot of nuggets.

@RomWills

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for your support.

Priceless...

Alot of men have to bow to people because they living in someone else house.

I wish this video was longer! Facts!

daym that's some intro!

Just did it OG 💯💪🏿🤞🏿

@RomWills

Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

Everywhere you go you have to have your own spot💯

Thanks!

This is 💯…most live with their parents trying to strategically move out because rent has gone up

Nothing like a peace of mind.

One of my relatives has wanted me to move back to her house and live in the top half of her house. Her pitch to me is that I would save a lot of money, which is true. But there are a lot of cons for sure. I would become there servent/errand boy. We have had an up and down relationship for years. They don't understand why I really don't want to go back there just to save money. I really don't want to move there just to save money and lose my dignity.

Even Superman got the Fortress of Solitude,The Farm, and a apartment in Metropolis.

Brother I fucking love you. Thank you for your content

That's nice unk

No lies told

Great video Unc. I did a similar video on this topic on my channel.

@RomWills

2 жыл бұрын

Stay on them on that topic. Men need to work on their sovereignty.

What’s more important first a car or your own home ?, both is ideal

Had to move back into my parents at 29 smh

Deep

100%

I move out at age of 32 I own my home now

Can you talk about how important education and training is are to men.

@RomWills

Жыл бұрын

Go through my archives.

😊

💎💎💎💎

In your own crib you can walk around butt booty nekkit and scratch your balls.