0:00 Intro 0:30 Defining both aesthetics 4:00 Courtney C's viral tik tok 11:28 "Black enough" & relatable dysfunction 12:14 Summer Walker 14:30 Dani Leigh 18:00 Looking down on "ghetto" black people 19:56 Baby mama shaming 21:28 Class, street culture & promotional change 30:56 Closing statements Chrissie Online chrissieonline.com/ Chrissie’s Mailing List bit.ly/ChrissieMailingList Become a Member bit.ly/JoinChrissieYT Donate www.cash.app/$ChrissieYT www.paypal.me/divinedarkskin Inquiries AskChrissie@gmail.com

@Kat3369

2 жыл бұрын

Best video ever!!

@rayofirst8885

2 жыл бұрын

No need for the time stamp...no skipping with all these gems...had to watch this twice!

@Iamregina33

2 жыл бұрын

Love the video🥰🥰🥰🌹

@candyyyyyyyyy2222

2 жыл бұрын

I love this format !

@daniellavormawor2503

2 жыл бұрын

DANI LEGHI is not mixed with black!

The fact that they consider leisure as “acting white” … it’s the hood mind for me 🤦🏾‍♀️

@primppoutnycbytokyokho

2 жыл бұрын

Yessss

@rhiyoncegold8087

2 жыл бұрын

It's so sad 😞, if you're classy without the known designer labels and not wearing purple weave then you're acting white. They are basically saying if you want the best in life it's only deserving of other race but not us is extremely dysfunctional.

@Charlie_socharming

2 жыл бұрын

@@rhiyoncegold8087 right! Like do they realize what they’re speaking over their lives and their children

@rhiyoncegold8087

2 жыл бұрын

@@Charlie_socharming I remember doing a school project and I got lunch in NYC with a classmate and I got broccoli Rabe and she says why I'm eating white people food and I said to her vegetables are not exclusive to white people.Thats when I realized how bad the dysfunction is.

@eritrawit

2 жыл бұрын

Right lol

The "hood-rich aesthetic" is over sexualized and masculine. There is also an emphasis on luxury brands that do nothing for the community.

@FairyDragon9

2 жыл бұрын

Very good points.

@TeaWitcher

2 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY. More bw need to stand up and think for themselves. Don't waste money no matter how comfortable u are on 'luxury' brands who literally 90% of time have nothing but wyt ppl on their ads. Trying to prove shit that nobody cares about. I create my own luxury and am kept without these brands. Even if i had many luxury items in my closet i wouldn't be promoting it as the end all be all.

@jojoone1099

2 жыл бұрын

@@TeaWitcher Yep. Wearing huge logos are tacky, free advertising for people who wanted NOTHING to do with us years ago.

@fatherbewithme

2 жыл бұрын

Right

@taydrabrookshire347

2 жыл бұрын

I bet a lot of that stuff is phony and staged using rented items. Real luxury is whatever makes YOU happy, not trying too hard to impress others.

If it ain't "ghetto", it ain't black 🤦🏿‍♀️. We really telling on ourselves.

@Lele_Condo

2 жыл бұрын

Right 🤦🏾‍♀️

@LovinCosmetics

2 жыл бұрын

Yesss!

@alextroy9202

2 жыл бұрын

They have internalized a lot of the bs

@glowshow8930

2 жыл бұрын

Ooo see this comment said it all, still having to prove worth through material things are killing me

@Alyssaj1236

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯

People just called her anti-black because she was talking proper and not buying into the “hood rich” look. Not everyone wants to have to get bbl’s, a full face of makeup, shake their butt, and host the club every weekend just to make money being an instagram influencer. Some girls just want to be rich and unbothered while living a relaxed, calm, normal lifestyle. Like she said, if you don’t get it then you don’t get it!

@onesocialengineer

2 жыл бұрын

Yup! Some people just won’t get it. Oh well. 🤷🏽‍♀️

@KnottyZah

2 жыл бұрын

That part..

@ellerocvisionz

2 жыл бұрын

But then they criticize bbl surgery and all those things u really can’t win in this world so just do u for real cuz no matter which way u go they gonna run they mouth

@destinyd.7660

2 жыл бұрын

Yesss!!!!!

@MeganAllen1738

2 жыл бұрын

How could they attack her for having her own personal goals & aspirations??? The audacity for me

The other difference is that BW in luxury tend to be non-celebrities. It hits too close to home. The imagery can make too much of an impact on the everyday woman. It makes people uncomfortable.

@CPT_B

2 жыл бұрын

It makes broke dusties the most uncomfortable of all!

@happyholidays8230

2 жыл бұрын

This right here!

@siesies000

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly, they don't want the average bw to think she can achieve it... she can though, get your education/trade(w/ little to no debt), learn to invest, marry well(especially if you want children), keep your credit good, don't try to save the hood or raise a man, don't squander money use it for resting, travel, and self care.

@EbonyHoopGyal

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t get those who support celebrity culture this much like… we can all have money not just like 18 couples 😭

@jorjao3319

2 жыл бұрын

Why shouldn't black Americans be proud to be born in the USA?

Ciara with Future= Hood Rich Ciara with Russell= luxury

@haryel5058

2 жыл бұрын

That’s so true !!!

@RNM-bu4rj

2 жыл бұрын

Perfect example!!!

@Sheba-jw3uu

2 жыл бұрын

Girlllll yes 😂

@halfnaija

2 жыл бұрын

Ciara was rich before Future and was never hood.

@amaris7619

2 жыл бұрын

Perfect!!!!

My luxury is being affluent enough to eat whole, healthy foods, having a meditation room w/aroma therapy piped in. A high end yoga mat. Time to be in the gym with a trainer as often as I want. A facial and mani/pedi once a week. I never have and never will wear my “luxury“ on my sleeve. My luxury is a stress-free, healthy lifestyle.

@sunflowerlovesbees

2 жыл бұрын

this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@LuvliexXJazzieXx

2 жыл бұрын

AMEN 😭❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

@Ceilingkatwatchesus

2 жыл бұрын

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

@LortsJailsus

2 жыл бұрын

Lol

@Tanniab09

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

There’s more than 1 way to be a black woman. We should stop putting ourselves in boxes.

@fmc2973

2 жыл бұрын

This! Don't we have enough division......I'm exhausted

@TC4loveandlife

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@ninibugg6203

2 жыл бұрын

Right! if someone wants to go with the "Hood Aesthetic" or the "Black Woman in Luxury Aesthetic", then so what? That's why I find it hard to get invested in these sorts of KZread channels.

@mamadoeshow1665

2 жыл бұрын

It’s everywhere now… black girls can’t be apart of any aesthetic without it being some bs. Just do what you want, they gonna judge us regardless.

@texasranger793

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

I love black women in luxury, especially seeing black women in exotic locations.

@bnadira212

2 жыл бұрын

Ok! 👏🏾

@kekelah7857

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

@ernestjimmy4537

2 жыл бұрын

Good for u bro

@amab1853

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I love to see it

@AA-td1yw

2 жыл бұрын

Black women are literally everywhere

The hood rich aesthetic is still too centered around misogyny and the ride or die trauma love that so many people are obsessed with. Also, it has fake feminist undertones as well. The fact that so many black women become uncomfortable with seeing black women have luxury without suffering for it is so disturbing.

@siesies000

2 жыл бұрын

Truth, it's all about BMW

@EbonyHoopGyal

2 жыл бұрын

It is fake feminism bc let’s be honest are any of them aiming to uplift Black women or girls? Or do they constantly make fun, judge, and degrade us too

@sheritownsend7525

2 жыл бұрын

That's because the hood rich aesthetics culture involve women who are Black male identified.

@dianasohn2515

2 жыл бұрын

Facts a culture black men made through hip hop

@NoName-sp5dp

2 жыл бұрын

@Londyn Marie 💕 when was Megan a mammy? She's Married and has never defended a bm over a bw

The reason this irritates Black people so much is because it represents FREEDOM for Black women. The hood aesthetic still involves struggle and being used by men, nobody wants to see Black women elevate because that means we can’t mule. It REALLY pisses our community off to see us not struggle or be treated well.

@Spokentruths725

2 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately I realized this is true. Even some women in our families think if they had to go through that then we should too. Its sick.

@daisykisses8803

2 жыл бұрын

@@Spokentruths725 it is. It’s a generational mindset in our community that needs to be broken. Many of our mothers and grandmothers have this mentality because they had to be strong and struggle during their younger times in society. Black women don’t have to do that anymore. And we shouldn’t feel bad for not wanting that.

@Spokentruths725

2 жыл бұрын

@@daisykisses8803 definitely should not! I agree with you!

@JustLilKeko

Жыл бұрын

It's one of those things I understand but don't understand. I'm in my early twenties and the only two people in my community I can go to is my big sis and my Nana because outside of them from the most people they are grown folk telling me to go the hardest way or that how I'm moving is wrong because it ain't the way I'm "supposed" to move. Even though I'm moving to avoid the same pitfall they know are pitfalls (or should at least) they went through. Literally just was talking about how younger black women don't have anyone in our community really to go to because ain't nobody wanna act like they have our backs. (This was especially the case when I bring up topics like domestic abuse where most older black folk I talk to find some way to pin the blame on the victim with little care for nuisance or how abuse affect the brain. It's disheartening as all get out. (Especially as someone who was ostracized from the black community because of my interest and mode of speech (to the point I actually changed how a talked but it honestly didn't change much)) Anyway sorry for the lack of cohesion I'm never really good at expressing myself on these sort of topics because it just gets me so upset to be honest. Like how we survived was the wisdom of the elder to the younger and now I can't even just y'all enough to be like "yo he's hitting me" or "what should I do after college"

@expressyourself8000

5 ай бұрын

💯

I am over here wondering what Courtney said wrong. Who wants to be another rapper's baby momma? Idc how rich he is. Hard pass.

@bubblesactivated

2 жыл бұрын

They don’t want us to want more for ourselves…we have to accept anything that is given to us..and i personally believe because we have been subjugated for so long and making something out of nothing they feel we don’t need more…but truth be told, if you ask those BW what they needed or would they change anything they went through they’d say i wouldn’t do it…some will lie for ego but nobody wants to struggle and be a baby mama…they would do it over again if they could

@chrissymarsha2282

2 жыл бұрын

@@bubblesactivated yuppp … the part where you said we have to accept anything given to us. It made me think of Jayda Wayda and how she expects her man to cheat and saying “all men cheat”. SMH.

@chynnajade1

2 жыл бұрын

@@bubblesactivated So, true and it’s like if you’re requiring them to treat you well you’re out of your mind.

@shirley444

Жыл бұрын

The thing is was….. Courtney herself is still a rappers baby mama. And not even for a good rapper. For a guy from Travis porter

Let me tell y'all. I'm Nigerian American. Chrissie is right. That is not afro centric luxury. African men with money have their wives and daughters decked out and shopping overseas. They live in compounds and have drivers. That is what we come from.

@19GENESE13

2 жыл бұрын

My old pal loves in Accra with her husband and son on their compound with a full staff.

@chiamaka_okafor

2 жыл бұрын

As a Nigerian I second your statement. Men like Obi Cubanna and E Money fly their wives out and take care of them.

@theeladyj

2 жыл бұрын

I see it all the time

@Re-branded

2 жыл бұрын

Spot on….Flying First-class steady as they travel..Some even on private Jets or have yatchs in their backyards lapping in luxury like no man!s business….all from Daddy’s purse of course e.g Femi Otedola’s kids,and there are loads of them,from the North,South,East and West.

@Smith888d

2 жыл бұрын

Yes lol. My family super wealthy over there. When I visited we had drivers and live in house help. Anything you want you send a message to one of the young street boys and it’s yours. My cousins are all in Canada and UK as situation in Lagos is bad.

The moment you don't identify with the black community you're trying to be whyte. Some of us love witchy, goth, even dark academia... it's a creative way to express different elements of self; I enjoy Tchaikovsky, while having tea on a sunday morning after meditation. 🎻🌹

@clearlyclaire5825

2 жыл бұрын

Love the witchy vibes too ;)

@luluholmes307

2 жыл бұрын

Finally someone said it .. no disrespect to Issa Rae but her show is not shocking .. we’ve seen many Oreos, in the community when someone gone show us goth/ grunge/ vintage BW without being demonized 🧐

@Mindful.Movement.01

2 жыл бұрын

Witchy and hoodoo shit till the day I die baby 😎. Best decision I’ve ever made was getting away from 20 plus years of “the church and Christianity” . I feel so free since my spiritual awakening and embarking on this journey two years in. #greenwitch #kitchenwitch #whitemagic. Yes I’m a black “witch”

@come_on_barbie_123

2 жыл бұрын

Get forget we can do girl next door too! But exactly!

@jorjao3319

2 жыл бұрын

Why shouldn't black Americans be proud to be born in the USA?

I will NEVER forget how a Black woman doctor was telling us how she was engaged. And, going into detail about the wedding being planned in Maui. She was cut off by a broke hood chick who had to make her presence known by telling that she was also engaged. All the Black women at the desk leaned in to hear all the details of her upcoming wedding to a broke a** loser and how it was going to be catered by a liquor store her cousin works at. HER story was more interesting and relatable to most of the Black women present. SAD!

@kiaj.d.5855

2 жыл бұрын

Wow!!! That’s crazy!!

@jpmackey1607

2 жыл бұрын

Wow. 😳

@MIGHTYBENCH4812

2 жыл бұрын

That is so sad. My face scrunched up so hard reading parts of the second story. Smh.

@bee6684

2 жыл бұрын

Such a shame

@jasminf1281

2 жыл бұрын

This why I Trail lightly ! Keep my personal life & business to myself...🤦🏽‍♀️

I immediately understood what Courtney was talking about. When I was in college I use to work at a lot of luxury stores it’s just a different lifestyle. Many young women would come in with these big ass engagement rings on their fingers and they were around my age. I was jealous because I was stressed about life meanwhile their biggest issue was wanting to exchange or return a $4000 jacket or getting something gifts wrapped. Even the stay-at-home moms had expensive baby strollers, Starbucks, lulu-lemons, designer coats, and lovely handbags. You knew damn well they didn’t have a job! Some of the older woman gave me advice but it was obvious they came from a different world. Like all of their lives they’ve had stability. Honestly working in those luxury stores changed my view on dating completely.

@moiethereal9634

2 жыл бұрын

what advice would they give you that would be interesting to hear

@starship900

2 жыл бұрын

@@moiethereal9634 Try to travel more get out an see the world. You never know who you could meet. This one lady met her husband as a flight attendant. Always put yourself first and don’t change for no one. From listening to the older ladies conversations. It seems like when the relationships didn’t work out they had their lifestyles, children, and families to fall back on.

@ladyzinada5341

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sure it did

@mimia.4810

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! It's a completely different life. Just the other day, my mother and I were driving by a well off neighborhood with big houses and we saw a group of white women seemingly care-free in the middle of the day just pushing their strollers around. Not having to be at work, being home with their children, living in a safe neighborhood, having the time in the day to go out for fresh air and exercise. It may seem like a pretty basic thing, but for most of us black women this is only a dream. Most Black women live a completely different reality. A reality in which we're pushing strollers late a night through dangerous neighbors after picking up our babies from day care after we had to work a double shift to pay bills because we are single moms or because we are married to broke men. A reality in which we suffer from obesity because we don't have the time for self care and exercise. It's just sad.

@DC-sh7ud

2 жыл бұрын

Same thing with me! I worked at a high end jewelry store in college and one by one I saw all my white co workers get engaged. They would give me life tips, but I mostly learned about living a better life by their actions.

Black women like willow smith and myself will get called ‘ acting white’ for our taste in music . But we wear a bald head and Afro. While the ones calling us wyte will have on blonde hair or European lace fronts 🙃😭

@siesies000

2 жыл бұрын

👏👏

@Sheba-jw3uu

2 жыл бұрын

Yessssss I 💯

@pagethreemodel

2 жыл бұрын

Loool this is SO true!

@themostbeautifulisraw4561

2 жыл бұрын

Male it make sense!

@doxxed4796

2 жыл бұрын

Preach 🗣🗣

Yes! There’s a major difference. The glorification of being a “baby mama” incorporated with the aesthetic of having a toddler *accessory* is diminishing the wholesome purpose of this movement!

@theeladyj

2 жыл бұрын

great point

@morgantheestallion2763

2 жыл бұрын

Personally I don’t think anyone glorifies being a baby mama because it has a negative connotation and a lot of people look down on it

@luluholmes307

2 жыл бұрын

@@morgantheestallion2763 I believe it’s a age difference the older moms didn’t .. but the younger ones today trying to put a gold plate on it. And then again the single mom hate has also sky rocketed as well..

@luluholmes307

2 жыл бұрын

@@theeladyj yeah all programming one way or another

@morgantheestallion2763

2 жыл бұрын

@@theeladyj I don’t think they are promoting single motherhood although they are all famous single moms,It wasn’t intentional all of them where in public committed relationships that simply did not work out I truly believe they thought they were going to have a family with their baby daddies

Those who believe black women in luxury is us « wanting to act/be white » have never set foot in Africa I will tell you that much. The standard for luxury and femininity was set there.

@serenitysbubble2384

2 жыл бұрын

Erm its high I mean my Nigerian mother in law is too much my goodness she has servants disinger bags always at the spa. I am at aub peasants level compared to her😂😂😂

@AnaSpeirs

2 жыл бұрын

The standard was set where?? Lmao Delusion.

@bunnywavyxx9524

2 жыл бұрын

@@AnaSpeirs They said what they said. If you're confused reread their comment. Luxury means multiple homes overseas, mansions on the mainland, flying your wive and daughters for expensive outings. Letting them buy anything. Owning cars and yachts for the summer time. Femininity, NOT weaves and wigs, long fake nails and lashes but traditional dress and positive attitude. That's luxury in all of Africa. IN fact that's luxury EVERYWHERE but black America.

@LangBellsChannel

2 жыл бұрын

There was king in Africa who even made his slaves wear gold.

@LangBellsChannel

2 жыл бұрын

@@AnaSpeirs where do you think most of the world's gold and diamonds come from?

What these people do not understand is that some of us black women can literally NOT relate to the hood rich aesthetic .That doesn’t make us any less black. Not all black people are born in poverty or relate to a hood lifestyle.

@Tomi_janet15

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@ayeelmaogaming3181

2 жыл бұрын

I grew up in the suburbs, so I definitely don’t relate

@beautifullEternal

2 жыл бұрын

Here in Europe, the ghetto aesthetic comes straight from the US. We don't have that here naturally. Let the poor whites play with that. I dun want it.

@briannahayes1822

2 жыл бұрын

@@theeladyj they are probably only telling you that your not black because you don’t act like the stereotype black people that they think all black people act like

@MySweetAriane

2 жыл бұрын

Yes thank you

Black women in luxury has made me feel so comfortable being myself. In HS I was always judged for being “bougie” or “wanting to be white” .. dysfunction is tiring

@FashAveGirl

2 жыл бұрын

Yes or “you talk white” no I annunciate my words. You should too😊

@bougiepeaches5497

2 жыл бұрын

Me too sis like I don't want to live in this dysfunctional hood lifestyle, I want to live in this luxury, childfree, peaceful lifestyle

@shanellerosado63

2 жыл бұрын

Fr, i don’t have any friends in my inner city community because i had to distance from all the hood girls. It’s hard out here

@fivestarfuego

2 жыл бұрын

OMG same I’m literally getting made fun of now lmao. I love pink and pretty pastel colors and lots of ppl especially my family members think it’s “too kiddy”. I go to an all blk school so other blk girls at my school have that hood rich aesthetic and I hate that look bc it’s so tacky but yet they get so much attention and surround themselves around blk boys who are mad colorist and mean as heck 😭😭

@blackwomanblackluxury8503

2 жыл бұрын

I'm still fielding this from other BP especially since I'm darkskin. Been fielding it for forever I thank God for my momma cause she made sure I knew I deserved wtf I have and will continue to have.

So sick of the "you wanna be like yt women" argument 🙄 it's an aesthetic argument: classy/elegant rich vs flashy/new money rich.

@levelingup2036

2 жыл бұрын

These are the same girls that praise the Kardashians though smh

@kittykatz4001

2 жыл бұрын

I’m glad hood ppl don’t like the BWIL aesthetic. But they need to shut up about attacking it.

@Mkym365

2 жыл бұрын

@@kittykatz4001 Exactly!!!!

Let's be honest, the "hood rich" aesthetic has an age limit. I'm 43 years old. Aint no way I would look right walking around trying to look like I date a 23 year old rapper with baby hair glued on my forehead. If I'm considered "acting white" because I have a couple of pairs of lululemon, so be it.

@diaryofamadblackfemcel2094

2 жыл бұрын

then what about that cash doll girl 😩

@arriibacon531

Жыл бұрын

@@diaryofamadblackfemcel2094 she's in her 20s 😭😭😭😭

@ajh.4131

Жыл бұрын

Nah, it’s an individual thing because there are DEFINITELY women in their 40’s, 50’s and beyond still dressing “hood rich”.

@olir6910

2 ай бұрын

Heck no I've seen hood rich grandmas

It’s the fact so many people wanna make being ghetto a quality of being black but then cry the second a black person is stereotyped.

@telajames8416

2 жыл бұрын

@@ladybug3380 exactly like shouldn't we want better for ourselves shouldn't we want to live life's we can actually be happy with instead of living up to societies expectations of us

This is exactly how I feel about this out into one video....sad black women can't participate in the classy luxury movement without being accused of being white.....let black women come in different aspects!!

@PrincessYonna1

2 жыл бұрын

Other bw are jealous of classy bw

@fsmithh

2 жыл бұрын

It’s so pathetic. The subtle Black woman in luxury aesthetics is way more feminine people don’t understand. Whenever I posted about going Horseback riding bc I grew up doing that and it’s just something I enjoy people wanna say I‘m trying to be white ahahah meanwhile these girls are wearing blonde wigs and trying to appease sugar daddies …it’s so annoying let me be let us be and mind your own

@jay_baby_lacy3911

2 жыл бұрын

I don't think it's the look, more than the attitude. Some luxury black woman, are directly imitating white women, and not just with a hairstyle, but with a voice, and mannerisms, and that's when it gets weird. There's nothing wrong with enjoying horse back riding or being classy, but do you really need to adopt white culture to do it. I mean she's talking about wanting to wear "Lulu lemon"🤣 like if white people have culture that's it right there. I think it's okay to create a black classy woman aesthetic, and we don't need Starbucks and lulu to do it.

@anais937

2 жыл бұрын

@@jay_baby_lacy3911 never mentioned that we needed Starbucks and lululemon to achieve some type of luxury status. I said that black women can participate in anything including things that are traditionally done by white people like go to lululemon and not want to be or imitate white people at all

@Sheba-jw3uu

2 жыл бұрын

@@PrincessYonna1 yesssss girl I would get called white 🤣 for being in professional ballet 🩰

My goal is to be a black girl in luxury. I love to see black girls enjoying their life traveling the world, eating great food, and buying luxury items. ❤️

@chic187

2 жыл бұрын

Yes me too

@sapphic7779

2 жыл бұрын

same but i don't really like luxury items like gucci etc more of a baddie on a budget but still living that life yk

@chocolategoddess9564

2 жыл бұрын

Me tooo!!!!!! The black girl in luxury movement is giving me motivation to finish nursing school! Lol.

@Coco_xoxo

2 жыл бұрын

@@sapphic7779 it’s okay you can do subtle luxury items that are more about eating better, living better, and self-care

@PrincessYonna1

2 жыл бұрын

Me to. I just buy designers like Kate spade and Michael kors until I can afford Gucci and my favorite saint laurant

I am a Nigerian, and I find it really weird when African American women want the struggle life, because most Nigerian girls from a young age are thought that the man is the provider, so we let them PROVIDE!!! Women are not meant to stress themselves.

@durranofthetower7306

2 жыл бұрын

Same here o! These men never jam Naija girls.

@Chukwuagozigom

2 жыл бұрын

@@durranofthetower7306 😂😂

@Chukwuagozigom

2 жыл бұрын

@D L like??? Why would I want to do it all by myself when I can get help?

@durranofthetower7306

2 жыл бұрын

@@Chukwuagozigom Like I literally wasn't raised to do it all.

@dreamlover5569

2 жыл бұрын

I'm also Nigerian and I hate when Naija girls come into AA spaces and act like our shit don't stink. We have issues too. Lots of Nigerian mothers living in the US work hard and deal with abusive husbands. Lots of our Naija mothers in the US had kids when they were too young and struggled. We are not perfect.

As a black woman who's a college student, I can say this without shame, "Damn. I hate working hard. I wanna go to sleep. I'm stick of feeling weak in the knees and it's only 2:00PM."

@themostbeautifulisraw4561

2 жыл бұрын

Sis listen

@aishabowboa7198

2 жыл бұрын

Honestly. I find going to sleep keeps my problems at bay🥴😭😭

@ziarahhh3004

2 жыл бұрын

@D L I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the “ I don’t need a man” mentality. But what happens in our community is that they take that mentality after have a baby with a man and struggling throughout the relationship. If you don’t need a man then don’t bother having kids with one etc. I want my own stuff to show I work hard in the future. I don’t want kids not a struggling relationship to prove my point after all that. To each their own

@Strangerz-R-Us

2 жыл бұрын

Same sis, same😩

@zxcccccc1

2 жыл бұрын

What's wrong with staying home and raising your own children.

Can we please leave these girls/ women alone if you’re not ghetto and tacky with luxury you’re too bougie smh. Honestly I like this aesthetic because it’s the direct response of what many people on this platform are trying to do. And I feel like they don’t like the aesthetic because it has to do with black women being truly happy and bettering themselves.

@PrincessYonna1

2 жыл бұрын

Bw don’t dislike name brand and expensive luxury items it’s all they brag about all these bags that they glorify , expensive nails and hair, bw like that stuff, it’s just that bw in luxury aesthetic is more feminine and delicate. They look divested and care free and many bw are jealous of them , they feel like that’s only reserved for other races of women. The hood rich aesthetic has never been talked about because it’s struggling, getting it out the mud, being masculine, and being with men from the hood and just being flashy. They’re more flashy then the bw in luxury. I feel like it’s a lot of jealousy

@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye

2 жыл бұрын

Bettering yourself is not the same thing as flexing on the gram and I think that’s the point. Most people with real fulfilled, happy, even luxurious lives don’t spend ALL their time trying to make sure everyone else knows they are - and that goes for all women, men, etc. if you’re on the gram bragging more than you’re out in the world giving back and helping, you’re not really bettering yourself, you’re just flexing and trying to look better than the next chick - and there’s always a next chick.

@sheritownsend7525

2 жыл бұрын

I think that these pictures of luxury are showing DSBW has a lot to do with it, too.

@joyandbeauty2024

2 жыл бұрын

@@PrincessYonna1 yep u said it, the bw in luxury aesthetic is more feminine and delicate that’s exactly what it is, and that’s why it’s not relatable to the bw who only like and identify with the ghetto/ratchet aesthetic bcus most of the hood rich promotion is promoting those bw in a extreme/abnormal way mixing in masculinity with hyper sexualization, the numerous tattoos, long nails & lashes, long and/or colored lace fronts, and scantily clad clothing is all not traditional / delicate femininity it’s not soft femininity and it’s all exaggerated and that’s why those women who’re hood don’t relate to the counter promotion bcus it’s not hard enough for them it doesn’t have the exaggerated aesthetic that is promoted with the hood rich aesthetic.

@ZEBEEtheoriginal

2 жыл бұрын

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

Honestly, I think the main core of the problem with the black women in luxury movement is jealousy. Some women don’t have the confidence or feel they will never have the opportunity to be in this type of space, so they attack it and say “you think you’re better than us”- meanwhile, Ari calls y’all broke and basic every chance she gets but she doesn’t think she’s better than you? Oh, ok then girl 😒

@Bloombaby99

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@cierrareynolds9616

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!!!!!!!

@l.chambers1944

2 жыл бұрын

😫Speak on it!!

@riagreen9294

2 жыл бұрын

This!

@runawaypacman

2 жыл бұрын

Good point

The difference between these two groups or aesthetics is CLASS. Plain and simple. I wonder how the character of a Claire Huxtable would fair today. Middle class, married, non-ambiguous black woman, elegant. I’m old enough to remember when THAT was the goal and considered an excellent image. 100% Black WITH class. That’s still what I’m after.

@imagineaesthetic4122

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

@JL_Lux

2 жыл бұрын

Most people are but social media has given you the impression they aren’t. It’s annoying

@Ladyhotfire78

2 жыл бұрын

@@JL_Lux that’s a great point and reminder. Thank you. 👍🏽

@jamie1425

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely.

@StarringShameka

2 жыл бұрын

‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

I used to work at Nordstrom in the kids shoe department. One of my regulars was an affluent blk wmn married to a wht man. She was pregnant w her 3rd child and usually brought along the nanny.. I don't remember what hubby did, but he was never there bc he was at work (she usually came in the morning or afternoon, during the week) She didn't work and was always beautiful and just a kind down to earth person, despite her wealth. She dressed beautiful and classy. This is the type of blk wmn I had in mind as goals when I was young, not a bw that's engaged in struggle love, and stuck w no husband, parenting child(ren) alone, but having a bunch of Gucci bags. I guess it's bc my parents raised me to value quality in everything, including a mate, and not just on frivolous material things.🤷🏽‍♀️

@LM-he7eb

2 жыл бұрын

Doesn't even have to be with a white man. But, personally: Money doesn't have to buy my kids gucci. It has to allow them to study abroad, go on a skiing trip in Italy mid-february. Going on polo trip. Learning different languages. Learning different instruments. Being well-spoken. Increase their vocab, Have a qualified vocab. Have a library at home.

In my experience, "You must want to be a white woman" is code for "STAY IN YOUR PLACE."

The hood rich aesthetic doesn't look good in real life. It's cute for some pics but the Black women in luxury aesthetic is something you want in reality.

@charmaineespeut4627

2 жыл бұрын

@@catmouse2882 Some of us need to start embracing style and grace. Long lashes hide our beauty. Eyes are the window to the soul and we are covering them with huge lashes.

@thirdeyeopen2606

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! When you see a woman walking around like that in real life it screams prostitution or drag queen.

@trinilovely860

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. I definitely don't want to live hood rich.

@lesliefortune3641

2 жыл бұрын

Facts

@ladyzinada5341

2 жыл бұрын

Amen

I don't think most black women know what luxury means. Luxury is taking care of yourself! Luxury is having the time to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Luxury is being able to do what you want, when you want. Luxury is not working and hustling your years away so that you can have a Berkin bag and $500,000 in checking. It's having a Berkin and $500,000 (if that's what I want) and all I did this year was wake up at 10am and walk, host summer camp for my nieces and nephews, and try and eat meat only twice a week. Essentially, whatever the heck I've wanted to do all year because I deserve a life FREE OF STRESS and FULL OF LEISURE. I am worthy just because I want it! No need to be white! I am a woman and we all deserve a stress-free, luxurious life!

@TabJoy7

2 жыл бұрын

True luxury lifestyle!! Thank you! We've all been discussing the aesthetic, which I think is fine, I even made a comment about achieving the look on a budget, but the actual lifestyle! Honey! Give me freedom with provision any day over hustling with bling.

@lightuponlight6727

2 жыл бұрын

AMEN!! Now this was word.

I don't want to be a loud, hood rich black woman. I prefer to be the soft, classy, naturally quiet, wealthy black woman (similar to the Phylicia Rashad/Claire Huxtable and Debbie Allen mentality). I agree with Courtney.

@hainleysimpson1507

4 ай бұрын

Why are women like you so often in relationships already? Everytime I meet a woman who shares your mindset either, she is not interested in a relationship or not attracted to me or she already has a relationship. Anyway keep going you and women like you are helping to change the damage in the black community in the USaa and the wider diaspora.

That’s how I feel about people who are mad that Lori Harvey was a Miss Universe judge. That is awesome that those women have all those accolades, but why does Lori HAVE to struggle to be successful? Why can’t she make it from her fathers name? Y’all loved and supported Paris Hilton for years. Why can’t she be a black Paris Hilton? Hell, y’all still support KKW and she is famous from her dad as well. That is how she got contacts into that industry. Black women don’t always have to struggle y’all

@VictoriaWhitlock

2 жыл бұрын

Right. Black women should be allowed to benefit from nepotism and pretty privilege too.

@haryel5058

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with the nepotism but Lory has a mixed phenotype. That’s not your battle

@siesies000

2 жыл бұрын

👏👏

@siesies000

2 жыл бұрын

She's sooo popular we are going to have to start saying that Steve is lori Harvey's dad 🤣🤣

@VictoriaWhitlock

2 жыл бұрын

@@haryel5058 Yeah the average black woman does not look like her, but she is considered a black woman, so I feel like she's allowed to be included in some conversations

I always say that people do not like seeing unambiguous dark skin black women living stress free, being stay at home moms or living a life of luxury and having less stress. It’s like they’d rather see dark skin women struggling, not tending to herself etc. I think most people do not think we deserve it and that a luxury lifestyle is reserved for ambiguous or lighter skinned women only.

@ZA-lf4rz

2 жыл бұрын

@@travie786 yup you are correct

@nursegaines3519

2 жыл бұрын

So very true

@fatherbewithme

2 жыл бұрын

@@travie786 Yes colorist black ppl can't stand it, colorist blacks only wanna see Brown & Dark skinned sisters crying, fighting the power, struggling & being single baby Mama's with no man in sight

@LiterallyTho

2 жыл бұрын

BM keep reinforcing this way of thinking.

@ShamommyHempire

2 жыл бұрын

@@LiterallyTho black men are conditioned by the media to lust over mixed or racially ambiguous women.... And when it comes to the clubs in LA and Miami ( a KZreadr I follow was just talking about this because of cardi B letting those black women in) is the reason why these music artists are always surrounded by mixed women.... If you're not a certain shade or don't look like you're mixed with something they won't let you in, it doesn't have anything to do with how much money you have, they only want white, mixed or racially ambiguous people in the club with the black celebrities and it's mostly whites patrons in there, that's so they can keep the money flowing back to their families.... like "Doesn't matter if I'm not related to this white woman, this white woman getting close to this black man and making sure the money stays in a white person's hand is all that matters"

Some would say that this aesthetic is "white", but limiting elegance and simplicity to whites shows your inner view of the black community. I see many African women who are naturally elegant, so the Rich Hood aesthetic is nothing but an African American culture and not necessarily the nature of black women.

@tashacunningham8314

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed! Seems like anytime a black person is trying to be better it’s labeled as trying to be “ white”. As though being better is exclusive to white people.

@victoriousgray5479

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah exactly

@alextroy9202

2 жыл бұрын

I agree

@mafame6767

2 жыл бұрын

@Toxic I’m not African.. I'm just giving an example.. calm down

@Kedesh14

2 жыл бұрын

Facts

I’m starting to believe the hypocrisy with the luxury black girl aesthetic is rooted in sheer jealousy. We all know since forever black women will take on the mean girls/nice nasty role and we will view each other as competition. When it is a celebrity female or a rappers girlfriend or a NBA players baby mama you can be happy for her or say that she inspires you because her lifestyle is so far off from yours you can’t consider her competition. But, when it’s a non-famous black woman I feel that the hypocrisy is coming from a place of jealousy because you don’t have what this woman (who’s life is closer to yours) has and you can’t handle that. I also think it’s targeted more to darker skinned black women partly because colorism will make people hate you just because of your skin tone but more so a lot of high profiled influencers, KZreadrs that are dark skin women are married to/dating white men. Instead of recognizing that dating in the black community can be hard for dark skin black women it’s easier for people to say “she think she’s white” or “she wishes she was white”.

@Justteejayy

2 жыл бұрын

I also want to add a lot of women get by solely based on how they look. Saweetie cannot rap just like Danny Lee cannot sing but, they are where they are simply because of how they look. women that are jealous of darker skinned women living luxury lives solely because they believe their skin tone automatically makes them more prettier and therefore they feel they should live a certain lifestyle.

@MIGHTYBENCH4812

2 жыл бұрын

Idk. I think it’s deeper than jealousy. I feel like it’s rooted in centuries worth of black women being taught to be the “backbone” of the house/community and to build the man up and make him feel like a king despite his circumstances. So when black women choose that and it ultimately backfires it breeds anger and of course jealousy towards women who didn’t choose that. Alsoooo, black women are constantly told how unworthy they are of everything and how unobtainable the “good life” is for them. We have so much work to do but no one is really trying to have these conversations and learn to be/do better. Whew child and don’t let a woman have some kids (which only really seems to be a huge problem within the black community), she might as well hang it up. MEANWHILE these men also have children, but somehow it’s different.

@FullyLovingYourself

2 жыл бұрын

This

@keyahninaylor4974

Жыл бұрын

Facts

I don't think a lot of people even realize their dissonance. If you think being wealthy and luxurious is white then maybe you should do some introspection. I've always loved luxuriousness, people want to force black women to be in one box so bad and it's a box that constantly brings us pain. Summer will get more support then Courtney and that's ridiculous too me. No one cares about these struggle love addicts we just want more representation that shows the differences in our community. I want to peace, I want a man and I want a family. I want to be loved and taken care of and I want my children to be loved and taken care of. The limited hood luxury doesn't offer you that. I hate that anything not hood makes you look anti black, it's anti black to think that all black women have want the same thing and esp something that is detrimental to their well being. She said whole foods with a country accent and automatically she is anti black? Tictok is embarrassing.

@Luxebarbie

2 жыл бұрын

They never see 80k on white male designer bags as white lol

@chiamaka_okafor

2 жыл бұрын

This is a word!! I'm sick and tired of everyone thinking that everything is about white people. No, us black women just want to loved and live a luxurious life.

@senoracheapee1864

2 жыл бұрын

100%!! And what other group allows and encourages the lowest performing and most dysfunctional sector of their population to set the standards for the collective?

@deasyastarr

2 жыл бұрын

@@senoracheapee1864 exactly none!!! They keep the dysfunctional parts out of the limelight and they criticize degeneracy. I hope Chrissie does a video on how much our people love to laugh at our pain so much that it basically represents blk people as a comedic struggle bus. But it’s deemed antiblack to say that we need to stop making light of our collective degeneracy.

@Introvertsan

2 жыл бұрын

Yep thinking all black women need to be hood and ghetto is very anti-black as that does not represent all black people or what black women want or care for

OMG YES! Sometimes I feel like I don't relate to a lot of BW in my age range because many of them aspire to this "hood rich BM/BD" culture and I don't want that for myself. It's hard to make friends sometimes lol.

@Mindful.Movement.01

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. You’re not alone. You’re just unique and different in your own way and that’s ok.

@TinyGlamz

2 жыл бұрын

Girl I understand you. I feel the same

@Tajrej

2 жыл бұрын

Yes girl I totally agree. It’s really really hard when you married to a white man. Everyone looks down you on smh

@sheritownsend7525

2 жыл бұрын

Hang in there. There's a whole world out there with people like you. The more you frequent different spaces, the more likely you are to find them.

@Sheba-jw3uu

2 жыл бұрын

Yesss

To be honest, I welcome the pushback. This means that black women can start separating themselves from things that do not serve us. I see a great divide amongst black women coming and it is long overdue. Black women do not have to fit in a finite box to be black. Your version of black and my version of black are not the same but each can be validated by those who identify with it.

@TheLightShines

2 жыл бұрын

If that's you in your profile pic, you are gorgeous

@Hi_Tamera

2 жыл бұрын

🎯🎯🎯

@onesocialengineer

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@PrincessYonna1

2 жыл бұрын

I want the separation to be made .

@brittanywilliams8653

2 жыл бұрын

@@PrincessYonna1 So do I.

I’ve been called an Oreo, white girl wannabe, and a weird. The black community that identify with hood/street culture is being black has always been baffling to me. I’m from the hood and never identified with those behaviors as being black or something I’d want to repeat.

I’m glad you touched on how both groups can be very classist/elitist and none are promoted for Black liberation. But for some reason only the Black girl luxury spaces are expected to be the Panthers. Also, the luxury/leisure/self care movements don’t center Black men. So that’s why they’re mad too

@tacrewgirl

2 жыл бұрын

THIS

@ChrissiesWay

2 жыл бұрын

Bingo.

@siesies000

2 жыл бұрын

The main gripe is the BMW

@MsTomas086

2 жыл бұрын

It doesn't centre around black men bingo.

@robinmahan101

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!! It doesn't center around black men. In addition, it expands your options to other races of men. Unlike the hood aesthetics which limits you to hood dudes.

I went vegan when I was 20 and boy I wish I had a dollar for every time I was called white girl, boujee, in black spaces lol even though I also wore my Afro proudly. It’s weird. Apparently you had to be “hood” to be black.

@zaire-aniyarobinson2928

2 жыл бұрын

Surprisingly, I’ve seen more ppl who wear their natural hair being called “white” off of reasons for the way the talk, diet, dating choices and music they like

@themostbeautifulisraw4561

2 жыл бұрын

Same here sis. I got called whitewashed for eating a salad and yogurt 🙄🤦🏾‍♀️ like I’m sorry I care about my health

@MVPA-io5ee

2 жыл бұрын

What is boujee?

@Xtheearthchildx

2 жыл бұрын

@@themostbeautifulisraw4561 right like I don’t want high cholesterol and heart disease guys lol

@Xtheearthchildx

2 жыл бұрын

@@zaire-aniyarobinson2928 right! What’s up with that ?

This has "crab in a bucket" vibes. There is noting wrong with black women in luxury/leisure lifestyle. The hood rich lifestyle is definitely a problem for black women. Deprogramming is a must!

@LisaF777

2 жыл бұрын

Yh the hood asthetic is so tacky. Especially all the loud designer wear

FACT: Money is NOT the point, it’s the dysfunction! Anyone who fights for/defends their shortcomings, will win them!

@pashmina781

2 жыл бұрын

Stupid people win stupid prizes! 💯

@danielledaniels9848

2 жыл бұрын

@@pashmina781 it is sad and true.

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@yazzy6860

2 жыл бұрын

This is awesome! Keep it up! We need see that we can be so much more and that it’s a great thing not a white thing.

@Miss992vee

2 жыл бұрын

Gooooo girl ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@Princesswithaspikedtiara

2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful 💕

@themostbeautifulisraw4561

2 жыл бұрын

Yes girl

@tali3521

2 жыл бұрын

This is beautiful and VERY feminine focused. I love it. Good luck to you. You're dope as hell 🙌 💅🏾

Even in the comments , Jayda said « We’re black , let’s be black and act black » What the F that mean ??? For me, black woman in luxury is.. Black ? I agree with Courtney. I am looking for a peaceful , restful , being taking care Life. Don’t want a baby mama drama or hood aesthetic. We definitely have to unlearn that all the greatest things are white. Like being passionate , romantic , sensual having good grammar, learning new ways of life, traveling , discovering new types of food and read. We have to do better, it’s really sad

@RockyR

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah Jaydas second comment was cringe af... like huh

@ladyzinada5341

2 жыл бұрын

Agree

@talkswithjas7959

2 жыл бұрын

Jayda and them are ghetto. That’s the difference. Courtney tried to be nice about it, but there’s nothing glamorous about drag queen makeup, ridiculously long lace fronts , bbl’s, excessive tattoos and being a single mom.

@RockyR

2 жыл бұрын

@Deja Henry agree!!!

Wow I love this video. I am a black woman who lives in “ luxury” I am a stay at home mother of 3. I live a upper middle class life and my husband is white. I had my first child when I was 22 with a “ typical stereotype” black man. After having my first child I knew I my child’s father could not provide me the life style I wanted. (He was all over the place) he wanted me to “struggle” with him and basically be one of those overly worked black woman. I can feel the energy from some other black woman looking at me like “who does she think she is living like a white woman” and I also feel like I get looks from some of the white people in my neighborhood because I am the only black person living in my neighborhood. I don’t really care what anyone else has to say about my life. My family is healthy and happy.

@cierrareynolds9616

2 жыл бұрын

Good for you girl. I commend you for leaving that first relationship and get what you want and deserve ❤.

@LisaF777

2 жыл бұрын

Yes love it ✨

@msessenceofreality

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate right now as a single mom of 1, dating a white male. I dont care. I love this man. But, some people will have a problem with it like anything else. I'll say how I became a single mom, couod have been prevented if I didnt allow certain doors to be opened. I did not consent to intercourse or pregnancy that was intentional on his part, but I wasnt firm on defending nyself and turning away from him. I had (some resistence). If that makes sense. That man is 11 years older as well.

@zxcccccc1

2 жыл бұрын

Middle aged Doula, I make $ from your community, girl keep living.

@keepitpushing3000

2 жыл бұрын

Aww how did you and your husband meet ?

I personally do not consider the “hood rich” aesthetic luxurious or elegant. I see it as gawdy and tacky. It’s equivalent to pearls on a pig. Yep! I said it and I was brought up in the hoods of Philly. Thankfully, that world is a distant memory.

@TabJoy7

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 People act like the hood-rich aesthetic is central to blackness and it is absolutely not! And as you just stated, it most definitely is not elegant nor classy. This isn't a dig on black culture. It's recognizing an aspect of black culture that is steeped in degeneracy and acknowledging the difference between that and a classy, elegant, luxurious aspect of blackness. And these aren't the only two represeations of blackness.... There are many, but Hood-rich and BWIL are the two we are discussing now.

@mzsbrown2844

2 жыл бұрын

@Toxic I said what I said. You have your opinion and I have mine. As for my pig comment, It wasn’t towards black women in general. I’m referring to WW as well. Think of Jersey Shores and Mib Wives - the same applies. It was towards the mentality. The individuals I am referencing dress up the outside but still carry themselves with ratchet tendencies. Call me snooty but that isn’t the aesthetic I am aiming for.

The saddest part is Jayda could and can revamp her entire persona into something much larger because she came from a well to do family, she has her own money/endeavors and I read and heard from blogs that she even got Lil Baby’s career started by paying for his studio time. Instead she allows her potential to be wasted. Hopefully she wakes up soon.

@manyrubies

2 жыл бұрын

All that for him to cheat on her

@rhiannn8664

2 жыл бұрын

@@manyrubies and make it a part of his weekly regimens

@ProductBae

2 жыл бұрын

Oh wow didn’t know this but sounds about right unfortunately

@ChrissiesWay

2 жыл бұрын

Whoa, I didn’t know this about Jayda. Thanks for sharing.

@hopeak3634

2 жыл бұрын

It’s really sad. She became a multi- millionaire at 20 just to become someone’s baby mama. Also she comes from “hood rich” her father was a well known drug-dealer in Georgia. He made millions and funded their lifestyle when they were kids. Her sister talked about their whole lives on her Instagram live. Her sister had a drug dealer boy friend in college and he funded Jayda first business.

Jayda sounds like she’s the type to tell proper speaking BW , “you wanna be white”.

@Iloona974

2 жыл бұрын

Speaking standard English is proper to these people

I've always been teased for being lame. The older I get the more I realize that I'm not lame. I'm just not ratchet 🤣

@purpleviolet9046

2 жыл бұрын

This one!

@LisePlansandJournals

Жыл бұрын

🎯

@ajh.4131

Жыл бұрын

And that’s all that matters. Self awareness will set you free 😂✌🏾

I'm personally sick of the hood aesthetic: baby mama-ism, hood struggle, and praise of debauchery and ignorance. I love seeing black women enjoying the best in exotic locations. We deserve it just as much as everyone else!

There is a difference and I don’t see why the BW in luxury are vilified more over the Hood Rich aesthetic, yet I see the similarities as well. I completely agree with Courtney and didn’t think any less of hood rich aesthetic. Whole Foods speaks to healthy eating, lululemon is athletic wear - physical fitness, and at 2pm - during work hours completely went over a lot of BW heads. Luxury is not just designer, its taking care of yourself - eating better, in shape, and not overworked. What is wrong with that??? Hood Rich reminds me of struggle and hustle culture. Thank you for this Chrissie.

@deenadream

2 жыл бұрын

💯

@rhiyoncegold8087

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly 💯

@softersideofc.c.5655

2 жыл бұрын

Hood rich is just what it is " STill IN THE HOOD"

@onigiri2136

2 жыл бұрын

Wow! You hit the nail on the head. I was just watching a video by The Universe Guru and she said the best way to look expensive is to take care of your health.

@candiedsugarxo4462

2 жыл бұрын

@@onigiri2136 love her

Jayda was ignorant af for saying she was trying to be white. Some women focus on elevating their money but really need to elevate their minds.

I have never and will never associate with nothing about the hood rich aesthetic . I don't want struggle love. Struggle kids. A struggle life.

The Hood Rich Aesthetic 🤑 really makes those luxury brands look like cheap Fashion Nova clothes. IMO 🤷🏾‍♀️

@CPT_B

2 жыл бұрын

Agree. LV and Gucci went from being perceived as high fashion to being seen as "ghetto fabulous" thanks to every trash rapper who put those brands in their videos and songs

@meyasymone3646

2 жыл бұрын

Yesss omg I thought I was the only one that thought this‼️it reminds me of when a woman who holds the “ ghetto fabulous” energy wears something classy, it comes off really cheap looking and like it doesn’t fit her personal aesthetic or vibes. Even the wigs/braids and the colors of their hair. I’m not shaming these women because they are beautiful but I have to admit this. Idk why but when I saw Lori Harvey with red/burgundy hair today she looked so feminine to me, but when I see the IG baddies wear it just seems so…annoying? Weird? Hood aesthetic? Extra? Not unique? Idk the word to use or describe it tbh bare with me💀 I feel like a lot of what people wear lies in the energy they hold

@201stars

2 жыл бұрын

This SCREAMS rainbow clothing that be in the hood.

@H_NNY

2 жыл бұрын

@@201stars that’s why I loved dots back in the 00’s. It was a classier version of rainbow. I was so sad when they shut it down.

@sheekayza4222

2 жыл бұрын

And that’s why these designers don’t like hip hop artists wearing their clothes, that’s not their target audience at all.

I prefer the aesthetic of the old money black woman. The ones who grew up in upper middle/high class backgrounds, were in Jack and Jill, Links, Junior League, D9, etc. They wear luxury brands without obvious logos, classic, understated styles. Edit: Think Claire Huxtable

@steve20032

2 жыл бұрын

I prefer that aesthetic (look) but cannot STAND the classism in those groups. It's horrible.

@complicatedcoco1082

2 жыл бұрын

@@steve20032 agreed.

@complicatedcoco1082

2 жыл бұрын

@🐞Ladybug I wish people stop trying to “push” or “glorify” an aesthetic period. I think all aesthetics should be able to co-exist and black women can choose whichever aesthetic they want, whether that be “hood-rich” or “black woman luxury” rich, whatever.

@kmariamv

2 жыл бұрын

@@steve20032 classism exists in all cultures at some point we just have to accept it

@Iloona974

2 жыл бұрын

@@steve20032 you can’t avoid classism. I don’t mind their classism but those groups are known to be colorist, you cannot claim to Black when you hate the skintone of the majority of Black people.

The thing about the hood aesthetic is that you’re still feeding into an anti black system most of the clothing brands, birkins, cars are still going outside of the black community

@Black_pearl_adrift

2 жыл бұрын

@@azchanna I don't think black capitalism is the *best* solution, but its one of the few we've got that actually puts money where its supposed to go.

@myasmith1820

2 жыл бұрын

This! Black capitalism isn’t good but at least we will be supporting our own people.

@kittykatz4001

2 жыл бұрын

@@azchanna Blk male billionaires sent creating a college found for Blk kids either, so 🤷🏽‍♀️

I'm 31 waiting till marriage and some people make fun of me for it, but one thing I don't regret is not being a single baby momma. Life is gooooodd

@MsDisneylandlover

2 жыл бұрын

I am almost 38 march 31st and still waiting to get married one-day smh.

@LisePlansandJournals

Жыл бұрын

🥳

The issue is being "black" has a definition to us. If someone doesn't fit that definition, its "anti black/trying to be white". And we bully people who want to live another way. Which is why many people aspire to be one way and not many ways. It's tiring. We shouldn't aspire to live a dysfunctional life.

@sharitastinson109

2 жыл бұрын

THIS 🔥🔥🔥🔥you are dead on!!!!

@Igbobabexoxo

2 жыл бұрын

Since I’ve been in America I haven’t been “black” yet I’m 100% Nigerian because I don’t fit into a box lol This is so true, I come from a whole different , boujie, and elitist culture (which is not my fault and I’m not ashamed of it), but I’m not dysfunctional and that’s why I was singled out

@msessenceofreality

2 жыл бұрын

But Nicki Minaj can say "Nappy Headed" in her music

I just really want women to find an identity outside of motherhood. Like that is fantastic and all. But my goodness. The “Whole Foods Mom” aesthetic is just that. You don’t know what that woman is going through behind closed doors. Motherhood is HARD. Especially when you make it your sole personality trait.

@chidenisee

2 жыл бұрын

All of this. I waited until 39 to birth my son by myself. How I wanted to do it. I have money and support and this shit still hard af. I don't regret it at all because this was my choice because of health reasons but I would definitely suggest to any one if you not 💯 teady don't do it.

@myasmith1820

2 жыл бұрын

It is so important to have a personality other than mom. Mothers are beautiful and amazing but they are humans too.

@FormerlyKnown1

2 жыл бұрын

I disagree, and I wish ppl would just let ppl have their goals. If one's goal is to be a mom, it takes a culmination of "life skills" too long to elaborate or list (period)

@jayg.2419

2 жыл бұрын

Hats off to moms because I get that it’s hard. I, like many BW, came from a tough background and I was part of the “60%”. I was so worried about the cycle repeating itself with my kids that I refused to have them. I ended up spending half my life in therapy before I could even function like a sane human being so motherhood wasn’t happening here. Sending love to all the struggling moms out there. You’re more courageous than you’ll ever know ❤️

@Goosebumps1395

2 жыл бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Being ghetto is not blackness. I see it as tacky and yucky

@Nessa20011

2 жыл бұрын

@Toxic Being less fortunate ≠ ghetto. You can be poor and not dress/act tacky

@natsuki7325

2 жыл бұрын

@@Nessa20011 exactly

@itsbeyondme5560

2 жыл бұрын

@@Nessa20011 True. Very true

As a black European, I never identified with the 'hood rich' aesthetic. It just flat out looks and is labeled as cheap here. I'm from Paris and you clearly see the difference in style. Luxury and quality but also simplicity and sophistication are very much valued so 'less' is often seen as better here. Whenever I'm in the states with my black friends from Paris people immediately point out that we have a different 'look' which is definitely the women in luxury look.

It’s almost like BW don’t want to see other BW getting on their “high horse” or “forgetting where they came from”. Like BW can be more than the typical stereotype. A lot of these bw are giving very much “crabs in a bucket”.

@bee6684

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!!!! So heart breaking

@ajh.4131

Жыл бұрын

I wish someone WOULD tell me I forgot where I came from. I’d have to simply reply, “I’ll never forget where I came from because it gave me the motivation I needed to live a better life.” 🤷🏾‍♀️

I also would like to add that bw were not only caping for Dani Leigh because she was going through some relatable baby momma ass bs but because those bw are black male identified and felt the need to cape for an exotical since bm be caping for exoticals Future dark skinned bm Eliza reign did not get supported although she was going through the same relatable baby momma bs and we all know why. Summer Walker even threw shade at Eliza in defense of future but was quick to cape for Dani Leigh Shit is REAALLL weird and sad around this bih 🥴

@siesies000

2 жыл бұрын

Truth, they think their salvation is being as close to a bm as possible.

@TOFFEETASTICC

2 жыл бұрын

Some BW even caped for Khloe Kardashian too when Third Trimester got another woman pregnant even AFTER Khloe and her Kartrashian family attempted to blackball Jordyn Woods.

@shaycarter353

2 жыл бұрын

Black women are their own worst enemies it’s actually sick at this point.

@luluholmes307

2 жыл бұрын

@@siesies000 sis said salvation 😂😂😂 I’m done

@Mindful.Movement.01

2 жыл бұрын

Yea it was sick and embarrassing as fuck

Black women love the “hood rich,” aesthetic because the black men they want like the “hood rich,” aesthetic. It’s so comical that in our community anytime someone wants to subscribe to something different, you are acting white. Do black ppl not understand how problematic that statement is…. Probably not, because it keeps getting used. I’m with Courtney, I rather be pulling up at Whole Foods at 2pm getting groceries for dinner.

@queenbbeaute2654

2 жыл бұрын

Yup black male identified females 😂 aka pick mes

@vanessabell7154

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

I can’t even count how many times people have called me stuck up and high maintenance for wanting and expecting certain things. Any time a bw doesn’t want struggle, we’re deemed as “trying to be white”. I went to a predominately elementary, middle, and high school; I also am an hbcu graduate so honey there is nothing white about me. The bigger issue is why do we have to be subjected to struggle, pain, and turmoil. I’m 23, but I refuse to support another negative trope that can be associated with us as bw. The things that the Cardi B’s and other ambiguous women get away with are things we can’t do as bw, specifically dsbw. They can be ratchet as much as they please and will still get chose because they fit the phenotype of the preference that a lot of these men want. I have enough common sense to know that I’m not offered the same privileges. I’ll continue to be “high maintenance” because that obviously keeps the dusties away.

@shakhira.

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@purple00k

2 жыл бұрын

Yesss

@MzDC202

2 жыл бұрын

👏🏽👏🏽

@vanessabell7154

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations from graduating from college especially HBCU. I'm proud of you 👏🏾👏🏾🎉🙌🏾

@80sbabyproductions

2 жыл бұрын

Yes Ma’am! Here’s to the non phased, know who they are, REAL woke black people 🥂

I’m a single mother to my ONE child and don’t subscribe to the “hood rich” luxury aesthetic. Even with my 8 year old, at 31, I’ve managed to make wise career choices and investments. So I am wealthier than most black women, childless or not, that are my age. I have family that love calling myself and my daughter “boujee”. I took her to Paris last year for her birthday and to this day, they go on and on about how I “do too much” and why can’t I just “chill.” I recently purchased my 3rd home and they go on and on about that too. It’s like they have an issue with me living well and being able to afford my child the same thing. I’m picky about certain foods we eat, our appearance and our overall emotional health and wellness. To be honest, I get a lot of sly comments from the childless women as well. Most of them wondering how I’m able to have luxury, travel frequently, own properties, etc. when I have a kid I’m raising on my own. I say all that to say: LIVE AND LET LIVE. If there are folks who enjoy the hood aesthetic, who am I to discourage them and take time to pick out the differences? My cousin is one who loves the hood rich aesthetic. However, she is also very comfortable/well off at a young age and has her priorities together. As a black community, we’re too divisive over little nuances such as this. Why does it matter about the aesthetic? I like to see black women living in luxury and accumulating wealth no matter the aesthetic.

@themostbeautifulisraw4561

2 жыл бұрын

Please keep doing thAt for your daughter. Black girls deserve to see it and experience it.

@doll.ov.poetrii4682

2 жыл бұрын

Block and delete your family, ma'am. They are hardcore haters!!

It's gonna take awhile to change the mindset of black women.

@doll.ov.poetrii4682

2 жыл бұрын

I'm already noticing a slight shift. On the regular, I'm seeing more black women (brown/dark skinned in particular) putting more effort into their physical appearance, walking around looking blessed, refreshed, and not stressed, and demonstrating that that know their worth; including myself! We have a long way to go and everyone can't be saved, but we're definitely getting somewhere!❤💅

I love how you support black women wearing their natural hair. Black women with 4c hair in luxury is rare to see

Exactly! There is something wrong with the glorification of the struggling and stressed baby mama. Be a WIFE to a man that will honor you, take care of his children, and strive to protect and provide for his family.- Now that’s luxury!

@queenbbeaute2654

2 жыл бұрын

Don't tell them a thing let them d!e alone or with the pookie and ray rays 😂

@vanessabell7154

2 жыл бұрын

@@queenbbeaute2654 😂😂😂

It’s still unbelievable to me that seeing black women in luxury actually offends people. Of all the places to draw the line with black women’s image, this is what people don’t want to see?

I understand where Courtney is coming from. She wants a more refined and understated approach.

@ladyzinada5341

2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad she initiated the conversation. Well needed.

This video is very interesting for us unambiguous black (dark) women in Europe. Because all the black women who navigate the world of luxury, whether the result of hard work, entrepreneurial success, family inheritance or marriage, are 90% dark-skinned black women. And no one in the community is shocked by this. On the contrary, it's the aesthetically rich black hood women who really shock and are criticized as being "ghetto".

The black community has always sacrificed black women at the altar of our combined dysfunction as a way of denying all the issues we haven’t resolved. I’m so glad that there are channels like yours trying to help us deprogram the MK ultra mindset that black women have been living in. Thank you very much.

I'm so glad that someone pointed out the difference between "hood rich" and black girls in luxury aesthetic. I don't subscribe to the hood rich aesthetic at all but don't knock the girls that do. The "hood rich" look has completely taken over the black girls in luxury movement and I'm really annoyed. 9/10 the "hood rich" women are sugar baby wannabes and I just don't vibe with that. I'm trying to be a well-kept, business owner trophy wife. Some of ya'll don't see the vision and that's ok.

@chiamaka_okafor

2 жыл бұрын

Heavy on the business owner trophy wife👏👏💅🏼

@Speakup117

2 жыл бұрын

Lmao there's no difference between sugar babies/tricks/hoes/escorts/trophy wives. But ok

@DestinyxWorship

2 жыл бұрын

@@Speakup117 that’s what I said. Ppl too quick to judge until it’s them.

@lisafloren9159

2 жыл бұрын

@@Speakup117 LoL 😂😃😃 you wrong on one point. Wives carry weight. Sugerbabies and hoes carry are disposable.

@Bloombaby99

2 жыл бұрын

Amen and Amen! 💪🏾👏🏾🍾🍷

I always watch with such delight as you say wth needs to be said. I roll my eyes and suck my teeth so damn hard when they automatically go to “Oh you wanna be white” insult. I’ve been called white pretty much all my life just for having different interests while being black lol I hate to see it

@CPT_B

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Such an insult that proper English, self control, class, and femininity are seen as something for every other race of women

@levelingup2036

2 жыл бұрын

When they say that I’m assuming they think black women don’t have class. It’s the generalizing all black women assuming we are all hood and speak Ebonics.

@jayg.2419

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Dating out, being politically conservative, wearing pearls, having a season ticket to the symphony and flying first class have made me the black sheep of my family. Well, I’m a happy unbothered black sheep, lol

@darlin9153

2 жыл бұрын

After years of being an outcast to my "own group" and not being a preference, I have just come to accept it. The reality is that I was not born in that environment. I am not comfortable in that environment and won't pretend to be. 🤷🏽‍♀️

@EbonyHoopGyal

2 жыл бұрын

Same and the yt ppl still call me the n word and all that so I just keep to myself mostly.

Also as a unmarried mother, I 100% agree with this message. I am reading psychology books to heal myself of trauma, and BW are experiencing Stockholm syndrome at the hands of the Black CONmunity.

My mother is a fair skinned classy and educated black woman. She never wore fake hair, acrylic nails, or loud colors and she always wore knee length dresses and heels. Less was more for my mother. As a child my father who is darker skinned, hood rich AND educated (which was confusing for me as a child) always criticized me for being too black bc I wanted to fit in with other black girls that I believed looked like me. I wanted fake nails, braids or weave, urban clothing etc. It was not fun having to identify with who you are when you don't know if it's colorism or classism that you're battling. As an adult I wear my natural hair, nails and I tend to wear brands that are luxury but not flashy. I now realize that my dad didn't critize me and compare me to my mother to degrade me but he was simply trying to get me to embrace my inner class and beauty. Black is beautiful no matter the color. We must embrace our eccentricities. 🦄🦁💞

@loveyb3347

2 жыл бұрын

Braids come from our culture though. Long nails have 0 to do with being ghetto.

@purpleviolet9046

2 жыл бұрын

Right like I’m not the hood rich aesthetic but I have no problem changing my looks with weaves 🤷‍♀️

90’s black leading ladies in Hollywood aesthetic for me! They just showed up. 😍Even if the weave/wigs were bone straight they looked natural! Black women don’t have to do much to show our beauty, in fact when we do EXTRA it does the opposite. 🧐 anyway, HAPPY HOLIDAYS Y’ALL! ❄️

@bryanna_renaee

2 жыл бұрын

I loooove to emulate that style. Those women looked great!

@usagitsukino9909

2 жыл бұрын

“Waiting to exhale” is a good example of this simplistic beauty that I miss ( in popular culture).

@ngozikim

2 жыл бұрын

@@usagitsukino9909 exactly! I’ve never seen anyone look as classy as Angela Bassett when she lit that dusty’s car on fire. 🤣😍

@ngozikim

2 жыл бұрын

@@bryanna_renaee yes they did! 😍

I think hood rich aesthetic is more accessible to black women as opposed to black girl luxury which seems really hard to attain. This is why women tend to be less attracted to black girl luxury. But it could also low-key be an insecurity based off the worry that you might never be good enough or lucky enough to attain black girl luxury.

@1991-present

2 жыл бұрын

Women in luxury isn’t less attainable, it’s just less eye catching and more understated. But people love attention too much. They want to be seen. Its a class issue. Poorer people often attempt to display their value through conspicuous consumption.( I.e. Overtly bright designer clothes, jewellery tattoos etc) I.E the old money/new money dichotomy.

@luciidity_

2 жыл бұрын

Right? And yet (since they *both* need some money spent to pull off) I'd argue that BWIL aesthetic is even easier to attain for the average BW than hood rich: no exaggerated hourglass figure; 40" rainbow weave; long acrylics and caterpillar lashes; large chains; or ripped bodycon dresses required.

@TabJoy7

2 жыл бұрын

Regarding personal image, you can achieve the BWIL aesthetic on a thrift store budget. My mother taught us how to shop despite limited resources. And while many cannot afford to travel to exotic locales, it is now easier than ever to engage in self-care and leisure activities while on a slim budget. Resourcefulness and good money management can make a huge difference in lifestyle.

@TabJoy7

2 жыл бұрын

@@monie3558 I completely agree with you about emulating an entire lifestyle. That's where I hope people aren't going wrong.... Spending money they don't have trying to live a lifestyle they can't afford. Now that is problematic. My comment was responding to the idea that it's harder for black women to achieve the BWIL aesthetic (look and feel). Most black women can't afford the hood-rich life, nor the BWIL lifestyle as most black women don't have access to this level of wealth. My point is that even if a woman can't afford the lifestyle, she can emulate the look via her clothes and other adornments as well as the way she carries herself. Which is what many bw do with the hood-rich aesthetic. So, I'm saying they can do the same thing with the luxury aesthetic. And it isn't about occasionally treating yourself. My focus was on replicating an aesthetic (a look/vibe/ideal/insert similar here). I've seen and know many women who look "expensive" (or at least pretty close to it) without having to spend a ton on labels. And to be honest, most of the wealthy people I know don't look very extravagant in their day-to-day lives. Many dress well, but for those who care about fashion, I would describe them as classy more than extravagant. And these are non-celebrity/entertainer multi-millionaires, not the average American, but I feel like there tends to be a difference.

Some back people are sooo closed-minded. We do not all have to look, act, speak, or live the same. 🙄 AND WE ARE NOT ALL FROM THE HOOD!!!

@mrmindful5437

2 жыл бұрын

And people from the hood do not want to stay there

While struggling and poverty aren't moral failures, they aren't badges of honor, either. We are taught not to feel worthy of the finer things in life unless we "suffered" for it. Why do you think we glorify our athletes and musicians who make it known, loud and proud, that they came from the hood? This is why the "hood rich" aesthetic is so popular.

I agree with Courtney. We are allowed to be different than this force fed aesthetic and I’m quite sick of it too!

Girl, this is the same question I keep asking…once it’s hood/ghetto…I want NO PART OF IT. I don’t want to be around that lifestyle... at all. Let me be the classy, working, PRIVATE, prude chick. I don’t care who calls me a yt woman …why Bc I want better?! ( and that statement alone let’s you know the type of crowd you’re dealing with). Yea, GO TO HELL with that mess! I promise you if you feel like you’re too good for certain things, your best bet is that you probably are!

@SimplyShakeila

2 жыл бұрын

I so agree with everything said 🥂

@jay_baby_lacy3911

2 жыл бұрын

Why do you consider it ghetto though ? Isn't going against your culture, a little anti black. The people that made it ghetto is white people, and because they think it's not appropriate, now you want no parts of it..... don't you find that interesting. Doesn't it make you feel weird that if white people thought it was fine, then you would think it was fine. Black people are not ghetto because of a hairstyle or clothing item.... I understand the distaste for big hair and overbearing makeup, but lulu lemon and Starbucks isn't going to save you. Black woman deserve better.

@clarkjefferson7732

2 жыл бұрын

@@jay_baby_lacy3911 I personally don't think all black culture is ghetto and do those parts I'll part take in. But some of it is ghetto and that's what I leave alone.

@jay_baby_lacy3911

2 жыл бұрын

@@clarkjefferson7732 I mean obviously we don't need to take part in everything in the culture. However we need to be conscious of not feeding into black woman hatred, because of choices of their appearance. I think living in a white society, we tend to place value on white things, not saying Luxury is white, I'm speaking in general, and we place the things that we associate with being black as ghetto and unworthy.

@larissa5323

2 жыл бұрын

@@jay_baby_lacy3911 Did you watch the video or just talking just to talk?

Preach!! My ex was the definition of this exact struggle. Cheating on me while having 2 kids by 2 diff women. I’m SO so glad I dodged that bullet and later met the king I have now who has introduced me to a life of leisure and luxury. Seeing the black and white differences between their mentalities was a shocking realization and wake up call for me to level up my mentality and expectations as it relates to the black man. The bar has been set.

@OngezwaDumel

2 жыл бұрын

Omg. Same.

@vvinahooper4157

2 жыл бұрын

Is your new partner black or white ?

@Teannaschannel

2 жыл бұрын

@@vvinahooper4157 100% black

@vvinahooper4157

2 жыл бұрын

Great I feel the same about my new partner he was raised by his father and I see a lot of different than my past partner who lived with his mother and sisters (he didn’t respect women)

@Teannaschannel

2 жыл бұрын

@@vvinahooper4157 wow that’s crazy! You’d think he would especially being around so many women growing up

I don’t identify w/the “blk woman struggle” so I feel conflicted. I’m over 40,w/o children and w/o ain’t sh*t man. We aren’t a monolith; I refuse to be boxed and packaged to be more palatable for YTs or Blks. I enjoy the blk women in lux movement because that has been something I’ve lived my entire life. I travel, I’m educated and I’m also a trust fund beneficiary. None of that make me closer to Eurocentric-ism. Moreover, I’m all about self care, preservation and avoiding struggle at all cost. 😂

On the topic of Danileigh, her baby is stunning and appears to be darker than her so……. Send up prayers for that little girl because her mother is a colorist and her father is………. Dababy.

@chiamaka_okafor

2 жыл бұрын

Yep! The baby is a victim😞

@doll.ov.poetrii4682

2 жыл бұрын

So sad, that poor baby girl!😢

@Lulu060986

2 жыл бұрын

So true !Poor baby😞🙏🏾

The hood rich aesthetic is tacky to me.

@CPT_B

2 жыл бұрын

A lot of money to look so cheap

@ImNotImpressed01

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Tons of logos, 12 inch nails, Crayola hair, drag queen makeup... I'm just not into it. Especially all at once. It's tacky and too, too much.

There's nothing appealing about being in a toxic relationship and aspiring to be a baby mother to a serial impregnater. We as a society need to educate each other on the importance of being in a healthy relationship with someone you can build a solid foundation with, get married to, and eventually have a family with. It breaks my heart to see many of us in unhealthy relationships that do nothing but drain the life out of us and leave many of us feeling depressed, stressed, and strung out. We all deserve to be happy, but most of all, we all deserve to have healthy relationships in every aspect of our lives.

I'm a licensed professional and I had a very successful career prior to my marriage (yes I could return to it if I ever needed to). Having said that, since I began my career I always noted how the older very successful Black mothers in my company lived. Some were married some were not, but all of them with babies and toddlers were getting up at the crack of dawn so that they could drop their kids off and make it to work by 9ish. We had many, many discussions on the subject, and they all wished that their husbands/boyfriends/exes could support the family so that they could stay at home with their babies (at least until they started preschool or kindergarten). I knew that I wanted to be able to be a stay at home mom just like my mother had been. Therefore, I knew I would have to make my marriage choices accordingly. If you want a certain life, you HAVE to make choices that are conducive to achieving that life and there is nothing wrong with that. Desiring to raise your own babies in comfort is not a white thing and I don't see how anyone could misinterpret what Courtney was saying.

Wait, I never thought about that. Blonde straight hair is considered hood, but expensive athletic wear is considered white.

@soybeans8139

2 жыл бұрын

@Victoria Whitlock I know it’s really strange. On a lighter note that expensive athletic wear is worth every penny.

@VictoriaWhitlock

2 жыл бұрын

@@soybeans8139 It really is. Yeah Lululemon is nice but I heard there are some dupes of the same quality

@soybeans8139

2 жыл бұрын

@@VictoriaWhitlock okay, thank you . I’ll be on the lookout.

Imagine thinking a woman wanting a non-celebrity hood rich lifestyle automatically wants to be white. I love the subtle luxury aesthetic Courtney described. It’s what I saw growing up in the black couples my parents are friends with. Saying she wants to be white actually reflects negatively on black women because how is it that we can’t have lululemon and Whole Foods?

As a black Canadian , raised in Africa I think people have difficulties in North America with classes. Also we still don’t want to accept people who have different opinions and take it personally. 🙂

@definitelydoing

2 жыл бұрын

Africa is a continent. What country were you raised in, that don't have 'difficulties with classes,' apparently?

The next time someone says they're taking your "Black Card", don't immediately get defensive, just sit there and think about what that means (pros and cons).