I am 62 years old. I moved to L.A. in 1982 to become a rock star. I learned that the music industry was not something I was cut out for. It took me 3 years to learn that I could be happy playing locally (first Ohio then Oregon) and teaching. I’m privileged and fortunate to find that out. Discovering what doesn’t work is as important as discovering what does work. “This doesn’t work for me” is not failure. It is success.

@ProgRockDan1

Жыл бұрын

Yes so true

@donnamoon8769

Жыл бұрын

I lived in Los Angeles for around a year. My industry was fashion. I worked Downtown Los Angeles and lived in North Hollywood. At first was fun. Fashion has a similar energetic feel and people wanting to be part of the "it" designers. I found out fast Los Angeles is not a great place to try to live a decent life. Yep, I met celebrities and saw many walking around like David Hasselhoff. After a while that wears off too. I moved back to bland Irvine, CA and changed careers.

@danicalundin1871

Жыл бұрын

I had that experience with a very reputable art school. I burned out and realized it was kind of making me miserable. I'm happy to say I still draw, when I feel like it... In ways I feel like drawing.

@lindydomanick8498

Жыл бұрын

Profoundly True statement!!! Would be such a blessing to be able to learn that when you're young!

@BetrayerSlayerMusic

Жыл бұрын

Yep.

A musician friend of mine told me, just because you didn't get signed to a label, had a hit, or went on tour, doesn't mean you were not a success. You played out and were part of a scene. Most of all, you play music and it makes you happy. Even now, whether I'm playing on a stage or in my room, I'm thankful for the ability and the opportunity to just play.

@therewiredradioshow8219

Жыл бұрын

Great comment.

@ericholub3289

8 ай бұрын

The biggest mistake musicians make is making music for others. I'd rather look at it like your making music for yourself and hope others join you in the fun! I I agree 100%. Just see it as a gift to be able to enjoy you're own communion with the music you make. Release it to the world and just hope a few enjoy it as much as you do.

I’m a disabled truck driver and an old man now. I’ve been playing guitar for most of my life and writing songs for nearly 50 years. I started publishing my work six years ago and I couldn’t be a touring musician. Im very happy doing it from home. It’s a wonderful thing having people all around the world listening to my music.

@ProgRockDan1

Жыл бұрын

Yes me2

@terrybelanger8535

Жыл бұрын

Jamey Murphy, I appreciate your contribution and will look up the music you have created. Your example of sharing your work with the world is what we need the most.

@jameymurphy1024

Жыл бұрын

@@terrybelanger8535 Thanks Terry

@Glensully

Жыл бұрын

Writer get paid more anyway.

I'm a classical musician, and I've been sober since 2000, and still... Touring is a GRIND. I love the concerts, and l enjoy the people I meet. That said, the long hours of travel followed by the immense high of a great show and then the letdown of an empty hotel room... This is such a deadly combination. And no one wants to hear you complain, or empathize with your struggle, because you are living the dream. I'm so fortunate to have started with a commitment to sobriety. I'm so fortunate that my girlfriend comes with me 95% of the time. Touring alone is just asking for addiction to sex, substances, or cell phones.

@LomaxQ

Жыл бұрын

I love how you mention cell phones as a problem. All the good things can be addictions on the extremes.

@katemcgee1984

Жыл бұрын

This is the truth. I just got back on the road after a couple years away and HOLY SHIT does it take a toll on the mind and spirit but especially the body.

@deusexaethera

Жыл бұрын

An empty hotel room seems like it would be a welcome respite from the chaos of a performance. Maybe that's just because my brain is chronically hypersensitive and I get overwhelmed easily.

@warrenbutterfield4208

Жыл бұрын

You might try seeing if you can get as much of your idle time spent visiting beautiful churches… Yes to pray and reflect, museums, historical things, anything of serious interest when you travel. It’s no different for me as a businessman it might even be easier because there’s no ‘concert’ to give, presentations, meetings have sparse applause. My father was a famous musician he traveled sporadically because he played mostly symphonic music, jazz and studio gigs. He did spend too much time reading the damn New York Times in the hotel rooms. I can’t wait to get out of a hotel room I spend as much time as I can seeing things even museums in some cities at night. You pick your poison And poisoning your mind, body and soul with good things actually works to your advantage. It’s good to have a companion on the road especially someone who loves you so you have a big plus there.

@GrishaKrivchenia

Жыл бұрын

@@deusexaethera At first it is a substantial relief... Night after night, a strange kind of loneliness sets in for me. It could be a matter of temperament.

The problem isn’t artistic ambition. The problem is the corporate music industry. Screw those guys.

@wesleyalan9179

Жыл бұрын

The music industry is the Devil

@bouzoukiman5000

Жыл бұрын

They suck but it's up to the artist to get the business in order and keep from being screwed. It has been done even if the execs don't like it

@nicgundy

Жыл бұрын

Bing Pot!!! also iykyk that reference I made

@sodvar5047

Жыл бұрын

"The #1 mistake bands make is that they think they can outsmart the system" Steve Albini

@elektrolyte

Жыл бұрын

Frank Zappa penned some very memorable lyrics about the Music Execs!! LOL

I got close to this lifestyle, I was abroad, I was recording, gigging miles away from my family and friends. My mental health deteriorated drastically and I had to return home, the remaining band members scornfully punished me for potentially ruining their careers but some fifteen years later I’m glad I returned home. Now I’m in a band that plays for fun and it’s much better for me. I wasn’t strong enough for what I wanted, but I realised this early and saved myself. It’s not for everyone. I’m happy now.

@deborahwilson2734

Жыл бұрын

You were strong enough to know what you needed, physically and mentally. Good on you! Much happiness for your future!

Excellent video! The unmistakable smell of the hard truth. I was in original bands for years with my best friends. We gave it our best shot, toured and released records, created music that we loved, but never "made it". To support my musical "career", I worked in senior's care homes. I used to see guys who played guitar and sang coming into to entertain for birthday parties and pub nights. "I could do that" I thought. And now I do. I play over 30 gigs a month and I love it. There is very little ego involved and I get to make people happy. Though I didn't see it at the time, looking back it's all too clear: Not being successful in the music biz was the best thing that (n)ever happened to me.

When I was a teen, Pink Floyd’s Welcome to the Machine was released. After the ubiquity of Dark Side of the Moon, I was impressed at the raw openness with which the band exposed the “machinations” and grist of the music industry. Ironically, PF released The Wall just a few years later and further explored the topic from a psychological impact on the artist’s perspective. Your video is an excellent synopsis of the same topics for modern audiences. Outstanding.

@NoName-fo7mz

Жыл бұрын

Lol cringe

@Agent-wi7hu

Жыл бұрын

@@NoName-fo7mz hehe

@coronabong6664

Жыл бұрын

I think bands should be allowed one miserable album or to make miserable music till they make it but when they still make professionally miserable music like Pink Floyd and Radiohead they should be forced to stop by law

@Agent-wi7hu

Жыл бұрын

@@coronabong6664 hehe lofl

@Friendlyman3

Жыл бұрын

@@coronabong6664 lol

1:54 That's one of the most poignant documentary moments I've ever seen. That image of Dave and Taylor at Wembley, completely ecstatic and entirely shattered. With that line, "Dave Grohl has endured the double tragedy of being both the drummer who lost his frontman and the frontman who lost his drummer." Mary Spender, Brava!

@johnrogers9481

Жыл бұрын

Yes...heavy!

@deangullberry2420

Жыл бұрын

A bit of a coincidence, wouldn't you think?

@thomasdupont7186

Жыл бұрын

oh yeah...SO powerful.

@dougman23

Жыл бұрын

Within the same band, consider Pat Smear. He came up as the guitarist of the LA punk pioneers The Germs, whose singer, Darby Crash, killed himself; was a member (albeit new) of Nirvana when Kurt killed himself; then joined Dave's Foo Fighters, dipped out because it was getting too crazy for his own mental health, then rejoined, only to suffer through the tragic and untimely death of another bandmate.

@NoName-fo7mz

Жыл бұрын

@@dougman23 nobody cares about pat smear lol

“Life on the road isn’t for everyone” i think the drummer for The Grateful Dead said that in his book. I had friends in a couple of nationally famous bands back in the early 60’s and wanted to follow them so bad and low and behold i got the chance, major label contract, records and all that. Didn’t happen for me and the band. For years i kept at it, still dreaming and then in my forties i chucked the day job and hit the road playing professionally. Lasted 5 years. It wasn’t me. My dream bit me in the ass because i was’t in tune with myself. I wan’t a road warrior and i wasn’t a very competent writer. So i left the road, left the club scene and went back to the place where i started long ago in ‘61. Just a guitar, some audio toys, a recorder just for giggles. Many of my friends are burnt out, club rats or dead. I have four cats. Life is good.

@sonicimperium

Жыл бұрын

Sure you didn't.

@MaestroKatProductions

Жыл бұрын

@@sonicimperium idk, looking thru the dude's channel (I see playlists with rockabilly and gardening vids), part of me think it might be legit tho

@josepardo3683

Жыл бұрын

Life is good indeed my brother. You have to always stay true to yourself. Peace.

@derace1987

Жыл бұрын

I'm not in a band but that applies to every job where you have to travel. I started a new job a few years ago where i had to travel a lot. I thought it will be absolutely awesome. 4 years later I couldn't cope with it anymore and had to quit. Most people think traveling all the time is great but for most or at least many people it's not the right thing. It can be exhausting both mentally and physically

@irishmusico

Жыл бұрын

Good for you John. I think we all had the dream. I ended up in a pub band and then another and another. I chucked the job too. Still doing it 40 years later. I never made the big time but as I take stock and think about it I think I did ok. Playing 5/6 times a week for the last 25 years and I still love it. My job took me to a beautiful island where I now live and play for holiday makers. First time I heard the Beatles at 15 I wanted to do what they did. I am not a big time musician but I am a full time one. Life is indeed good.

The "being scared of losing it once you've made it" definitely resonated.

RIP Taylor Hawkins. The mental health aspects of touring are a very important thing that so often goes unaddressed. Thank you for shining some light on this.

@Onemore59

Жыл бұрын

DAVE wouldn't let him off the tour. Taylor said he couldn't do it. DAVE said F.U. , get behind your kit. Now the Crocodile Tears tour and raking in the sympathy cash. DISPICABLE DAVE.

@Onemore59

Жыл бұрын

Yah. You should tell us about what exactly led up to Taylors death. That is pretty important to your trite comment.

@ladybuggs11

Жыл бұрын

@@Onemore59 Charity is raking in cash. Why do you think he was taking the pain meds he was taking? An enlarged heart for a few years, and a high altitude in Colombia that required his heart to work harder. A bad recipe. Dave wouldn’t let him? Pat walked away.

@deathbeforedecaf7755

Жыл бұрын

@@Onemore59 yeah you’re looking for someone to blame rather than accept he both wanted to keep going at that level and couldn’t keep up at the same time. Dave’s alive so of course he’s the one to blame rather than accept he’s also struggling to keep going and that he was just as close to succumbing to a similar fate. Get a freaking clue!🙄

@Onemore59

Жыл бұрын

DAVE WOULDN'T LET TAYLOR OFF THE TOUR

When I was between the ages 16-22 I was in a band that eventually was scouted by Columbia Records (early 2000's). We were taken out and treated like stars for a brief moment in time. We waned to be road dogs, and we were at the age where we could be, but we only managed to do two month long tours around the US. Eventually they decided that they'd have someone write music for us, because our songs just werent good enough. When we heard that we pulled away and just broke up soon after that. Just seeing the kind of money thrown around with performers that I'd never heard of (and havent seen since) was wild. I'm so glad, now, that we didn't continue in that direction as I feel like I would have gone the same direction as Kurt if I'd gotten even a smidgen of his fame. Mental health is so much more important the "success". Now music is a hobby, and I've become all those people I thought had given up as a kid, but I'm so much happier than I'd have been had I stuck with that band.

@andrewmanara5289

Жыл бұрын

Out of curiosity, what band were you in?

@patrickjordan2233

Жыл бұрын

🎯👍 Kudos for finding your own road. 🙏 I found being in a couple bands fronted by narcissists (1 capable, 1 not so much..) that because of my comp skills/repertoire exposure, "fill-in" subbing satisfied my "performance jones" and the bulk of my time is writing and recording for an audience of 1... Much, much happier now... Good for you!

@trinitytunes

Жыл бұрын

Great talk Mary. So many overlook the dark side and pressures of fame....it all must be balanced...can't wait to see you in concert one day..😇

@meestuinier4486

Жыл бұрын

@@andrewmanara5289 I would like to know too :)

@DeeEllEff

Жыл бұрын

@@patrickjordan2233 Maybe the trick for any artist is to create/perform for an “audience of 1” and just see if results resonate with others. I think Ms Eilish has figured that out, although it may be an audience of 2 with her brother because of their artistic connection.

I've lost three former bandmates to suicide, and have been helping another away from taking his own life. Thank you for tackling this vital issue.

@sonicimperium

Жыл бұрын

Sure you did.

@TheFourHorseman888

Жыл бұрын

@@sonicimperium I lost my close friend/lead singer and guitarist on may 14th right before we started practicing again. he had just turned 20. these things can be very real

@sonicimperium

Жыл бұрын

@@TheFourHorseman888 Lay off the dope.

@ned1621

Жыл бұрын

@@sonicimperium How do you know? You don't know this person, depression and suicide is a serious issue, Please don't make light of it... And be a human..

@sonicimperium

Жыл бұрын

@@ned1621 Nah, it's just another reflection of how weak and controlled people have gotten. Stop watching tv and feeling sorry for yourself.

I'm happy you mentioned our adored pop heroes who recently died and the demands they faced with their careers...I heard at the time of his death Prince was working on a project w silicon valley people to digitally archive all his raw studio material so he could create new royalty assignments and pay more to all the artists he's work with on his albums. Even after all those years he saw the value of his music to his fellow collaborators and it was a huge ambition of his during his final years...he had to fight for that vision himself not with any corporate support from the labels--in fact they wanted to keep his material for themselves. These are small collectives of individuals taking on corporate behemoths.

Mary, This is just so well said and done. I am a musician. There are so many individuals who want this career. Pretty close to no one shares the information like you did in this video. This video and more need to be done to explain why most don't make no matter their talent and why there's so much death. Well done 👏 Mary.

@ProgRockDan1

Жыл бұрын

Yes so well said

What an intelligent, well crafted and empathic piece. Brava.

@avedic

Жыл бұрын

It really is an excellent video. It made me think of one person in particular: Daniel Johns, formerly of Silverchair. Daniel is one of my favorite humans ever. The album Diorama changed my life...it's a 10/10 perfect album. People who only know stuff from Frogstomp...are missing out in a BIG way. But....Daniel is still alive, somehow. He's dealt with _immense_ depression and anxiety and illness and addiction for 20 years now. I've often been worried I'd wake up to find out he'd killed himself or overdosed. He actually just posted, on his channel, the first interview he's done in ages....dealing directly with all this. It's super candid and honest and difficult to watch at times. Daniel is a once in a generation talent....a musical creative genius.....and the industry of it all damn near killed him. And it still might. Thankfully he's stopped touring altogether and only works in the studio now. Thankfully he can afford to do that. But he's still got some pretty intense demons weighing on him....especially severe anxiety and addiction to drugs and alcohol. I want the best for him. He's already changed my life with his music. But people like him have a level of ambition, including creative ambition, that is orders of magnitude beyond most people. idk....I'm kinda ranting a bit now. This all just made me think of him in particular. Because if I HAD to wager.....I honestly might bet that he won't be alive in 5 years. And that's a scary thought. Life is too hard sometimes.... On the totally other side of the coin...................another of my all time favorite artists is Aurora. She is a mesmerizing creative force. If you don't know her, stop everything and go watch her live concert at Nidarosdomen Cathedral. That concert legit changed my life. But Aurora, quite the opposite of Daniel Johns, has approached her fame and touring and the pressures of the industry with THE BEST mindset I've ever seen. Her approach is honestly the healthiest way to go about being a touring artist today. Not everyone can pull off what she has....she's quite unlike most people, in a lot of ways. But she's an excellent role model for people like us to aspire to.....

@michelledawnharpist

Жыл бұрын

agreed! and very thought provoking!

@gregbowerman9222

Жыл бұрын

a very well done report.

@cthomashalversen8604

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. We'll prepared and presented.

@rootcellarmusicstudiorobku519

Жыл бұрын

@@avedic Aurora is amazing. what a talent and she's always enjoying herself and doing creative things.

Great video. I accomplished my childhood dream of becoming a fighter pilot and I held this job for many years. I often felt like a star, standing at my jet at an airshow with a line of people wanting to meet me. But it was a tortured life that I wish I never lived. Every day was survival, not only to keep from dying in an extremely dangerous job, but knowing just a single failure would make me lose my job. People often told me how lucky I was, but I felt the exact opposite.

This blew my mind... I really did not realize the huge amount of both physical and mental pressure that professional artists have to bear. Thank you so much. This video needs to be spread 🙏

@choiceblade

Жыл бұрын

Ditto

@ProgRockDan1

Жыл бұрын

Yes this made it so real

@traviscue2099

Жыл бұрын

Not to mention the vast majority of bands/musicians touring are broke. They come home after tour, barely any money earned and they go back to working full time jobs until they save enough money to go on tour again. So the endure all that, yet to gain nothing but debt can add to the mental pressure.

Great job presenting this topic! Thank you Mary!

As a "retired" gigging musician, I quit playing in bands and just jam at home and have fun. The grind of playing in multiple bands at once turned my into a drug addict. My back was destroyed from constantly moving my drums. But I didn't quit. My bands just kind of fizzled out. And I was grateful.

@seansturgill4869

Жыл бұрын

Ok. I don't know why, but I read your comment in Joe Walsh's speaking voice and it was awesome!

@MLGB0Yz

Жыл бұрын

You could’ve just had other people move stuff for you. But I do think jamming at home is the best. Too bad I’m homeless and all my equipment is in a storage unit

@blaumausfrau

Жыл бұрын

This is a very smart woman. I wish you would talk about what she thinks is going to happen to the music industry in five years 10 years or even 20 years. There of been people that have suggested that we really don’t need giant labels anymore. At least not labels like Sony union in Warner Music Group they have 5000 people plus. But here’s the big question the $64,000 question. Do they write the songs. In most cases know. Do they perform the songs. In most cases no. Do they produce the songs. In most cases no. And here’s the last really important question did they find an audience for the song? Well most people would say yes but the answer is really no ! All they do is go to radio stations at least in the past and now streaming sites presently and say will you expose my artist will you popularize my artist? The fact is is that they don’t make the music and they don’t find an audience for the music there’s a reason why too and people like George Howard a Berklee school of music one of the most admired musical professors at one of the most prestigious musical schools has explained why. There’s far too many things to go into here but I wanted to say that this woman Dash Mary spender is a very bright lady. She talks a lot about the ups and downs of the music industry but the fact is that the music industry has no chance of growing or flourishing at least for musicians and created people unless musicians form a union Which day of thus far for reasons no one knows form a union and insist that they get treated fairly in a transparent industry. There is no transparency in this current music industry and no fairness

@ruled_by_pluto

Жыл бұрын

do you think if musicians were paid better, less of us would encounter these problems? it seems like the stress of overworking is what leads to so many addictions

@465marko

Жыл бұрын

Better to end up grateful than dead. But I guess those aren't mutually exclusive, as evidenced by the Grateful Dead.

This speaks directly to me. I’m 42 and have worked as a professional musician most of my adult life. I tried taking my own life twice in 2020 but just after the second attempt found some inner strength somehow. I’ve had to completely reevaluate my life and I’m extremely fortunate to have come out the other side, and in a strong position now. I’m grateful for the support I received regarding my mental health but there’s still a way to go in my opinion. Hopefully there will be more awareness and support moving forward for musicians (and anyone for that matter) suffering with their mental health. No one in any profession deserves to experience this so I am fully committed to giving back now by supporting and helping those in need. Peace, love and respect ✌🏻

@leonid4468

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing that. Really powerful, and a testament to something that often flies in the face of cultural expectations, and much needed not only for musicians (though it's far too common for us, and other artists.... probably because much of our work is about seeing the world as it is which is sometimes horrifying, and as it could be, which is sometimes depressing AND also ideally hopeful, but it's also so frequently a thankless task...we all NEED art, but don't value artists of every level enough), but everybody, every human in general needs to hear: it's OK to be vulnerable. In fact, it's VITAL to be a REAL person, and understanding and help should always be forthcoming for those in need, and those in need should ALWAYS feel OK seeking it. I'm very happy you have created some positive movement for yourself, and my thoughts are with you. You are one of the beacons needed right now, and I wish and hope all the best not only for you, but those you may help as well. PLUR to you my friend.

@leonid4468

Жыл бұрын

And I've just started listening to some of your work...Zenith Glow- "In Your Wake"?! LOVE it!! Amazing chordal tonality, great tone in general, SOLID chops, awesome harmonies, and I really, really dig the lyrics and how you sing them (I noticed hints of this classic vocal quality and little vocal things that might go unnoticed by the general public, but that I've heard in lots of great New Wave and other Britrock stuff, like Robert Smith, Morrisey, Dave Gahan, Simon Le Bon, Damon Albarn and many others, but you kept it very original and made it your own sound...then I realized you actually are from the UK!)...just solid writing and performing. Also listened to your cover of "Cherub Rock"...badass! In other words, you got SKILLS my friend! Subscribed for SURE!! And can't wait to listen to the rest, especially the rest of your originals and that cover of "Mayonnaise" (another of my favorite tunes) and all the rest for that matter! The world is far better off with you in it! 😃

@thomasdupont7186

Жыл бұрын

What was the name or your band(s) ? Oh ok... Nevermind...

@alexmackenziemusic1323

Жыл бұрын

@@thomasdupont7186 Zenith Glow

@thomasdupont7186

Жыл бұрын

@@alexmackenziemusic1323 yes I saw that, went to your page.

Thank you for speaking on this, you are absolutely necessary. The best way I've been able to cope with the depression of being away from home, friends, and family for so long is to understand that every gig I get is a blessing, and every person in the audience is there for a reason. It's not about you, it's for them. Real humility goes a long way. If you keep this in mind, I wouldn't necessarily say it gets easier, but it does gets more worthwhile. I cannot stress how important it is to love people. Make literally everyone around you seen and heard, whether they're the artist headlining a festival, the sound guy, or the janitor. The joy you get from peace with God and peace with all man in the midst of hardship, mental breakdown, crying before a set, is the only way to get through it in my experience. Life is beautiful, but it doesn't always seem that way. Let's be active reminders for the people around us and the artists that we support. It's now our turn to hold up the world of music, let's give it a great name, let's make it a great place to be.

@melvynobrien6193

Жыл бұрын

LOL.

@andrewjeffries8721

Жыл бұрын

Right on, Kevin! While an artist gets their fun by playing and pleasing the audience it also gives them the opportunity to talk to and listen to people. And that is one gift of minitry that is underrated: listen to them. Give them a chance to be heard.

@WintaAssefa

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, Kevin. Greetings from an Ethiopian artist/musician 😊

What a truly sad and disturbing video. I’ve been playing music most of my life. Played with a few bands, played a bunch of gigs, recorded some records, wrote hundreds of songs, but never once considered do this “as my job”. I have a lot a respect for those that do, but I know myself too well and it would have not ended well for me. Thanks for bringing this to light!

Both Krist Novoselic and Kim Thyil mentioned the dark side of fame in their recent video with Rick Beato. Also, Krist revealed that Kurt was far more ambitious than he acted like and that Krist would often catch Kurt in this hypocrisy.

@dnyce6278

Жыл бұрын

The musing of a has been that went along for the ride? 😑

@CFCMahomet

Жыл бұрын

@@dnyce6278 really? Dave Grohl, Steve Albini and their manager at Gold Mountain along with Kurt’s guitar tech and Scott Litt (mixed Nirvana records) said the same.

@johnchristopher3032

Жыл бұрын

@@dnyce6278 Has been. Better than a never was who never did nothin ever.

@jeremylitherland300

Жыл бұрын

I do not know any ambitious people that killed themselves. I personally know many people that did commit suicide. None were ambitious. Kurt was murdered.

@dnyce6278

Жыл бұрын

@john Christopher why would you assume that I ever wanted to be a rockstar? There are plenty of other ways to be successful in life, ways that lead to a sustained career.

I have watched literally hundreds of music related videos on YT over the last 5 years. This is far far the best. Having struggled with mental health, I am so grateful for the way you put this video together. Thank you so much.

@sallhame

Жыл бұрын

I have also watches hundreds of music related videos on YT, and have never been disappointed by Mary Spender. For the first time I hit the subscribe button.

I don't know why or how the KZread gods were working today but I have only just found your channel and I am going on a serious deep dive of your videos Mary! Absolutely loving your work and nodding to 100% of the words!! I am also a full-time vehemently passionate independent musician and am sponging what you are spilling over here on the channel - it's lovely to hear of another (especially British female) musician being successful and KILLING it with the content, music and business! 🙋‍♀❤ 🎶

As a professional drummer, i really had to confront my ambition and disabilities. It was hard, i took a drums teaching job (ended up loving it) And now i find myself able to be ambitious again. I started a KZread channel and trying to balance everything. So thank you for starting that conversation. I feel less alone 😊

Mary, thank you for talking about this. When you're burned out; Taking time for your personal well being is a necessity for everyone.

I’ve worked in the record business; I represent artists (photographers) and everything you say here in spot on. Well written, well said and something every musician and artists should hear and understand. ✌🏻

@RadioStayRockBrazilTV

Жыл бұрын

Agree with you 1000 percent Norma !!!!

@iamnobody2

Жыл бұрын

mazzy, love ya brother!

Your videos just get better and better Mary. It speaks of your generous heart that you are willing to do so much to help others!

@franka2743

Жыл бұрын

Keep in mind that she too was working for herself $$$, like record companies promoters agents and so on.

@jamesnayr1660

Жыл бұрын

@@franka2743 Typical negative reply of someone who would never do anything for free. She is earning from KZread now but ever thought about all the videos she did before she built up a following - through hard, unpaid work? and this information is still free for you when many in the industry would charge for it. What is you contribution?

That was an exceptional intelligent, serious and open statement about the unseen costs of the music business. Makes you an even nicer person and musician in my mind 🙂

@levicashrocker

Жыл бұрын

I had a recording studio in the 90s and a band named Rein Santion came in. They had just been dropped from Subpop records ( same time as Nirvana). They had pised away all the money the record company gave them and Subpop dropped em.. They were awesome but a wreck. Now they're still going but on a Street corner in Nashvillle. I definitely would have died if I was a rockstar. Thank God I'm just a normal dude still having fun playing at 61.

@starwarssatan5588

Жыл бұрын

@@levicashrocker you realize Kurt was murdered, right?

@auntjenifer7774

Жыл бұрын

🤢😳🤣

@levicashrocker

Жыл бұрын

@@starwarssatan5588 of course..i was just commenting on the horrible lifestyle it requires to do that night after night.

I’ve spent much of my life - I’m 70 - hanging around the blues scene here in St. Louis, and spent a number of years writing interviews for the local papers. The people who seem to last the longest and can stay sane seem to be the ones who see the music as a craft that they practice, and keep it partitioned from their “real self,” whatever it is they do and think off stage. People like Doc Watson, Leo Kottke, Jerry Jeff Walker, Chris Smither, Bugs Henderson, John Hammond - the musicians’ musicians - are some of the finest people I ever met. But from what I’ve seen when a person bases his “sense of identity” with what self-validation he gets from “stardom” he’s headed for a death match with reality. So maybe the question one should ask oneself is “Am I good enough to earn respect from the musicians I respect?”

@jpanbe

Жыл бұрын

exactly, when you're yearning for the recognition of a big audience, but underneath that, you actually need something else (more real/tangible), but you don't see or feel that anymore, 'cause you're only focused on the fame..

@suburbanindie

Жыл бұрын

It's much much easier than that. Does the musician do heroin? It's about a 1/1 ratio of suicides being heroin addicts.

@cjeff3549

Жыл бұрын

@@suburbanindie why do you think they turn to heroin? It’s not simple at all.

@Jaden48108

Жыл бұрын

I lived near St. Louis for eight years and well acquainted with the blues scene having experienced it. It's very rich. Almost proprietary in its own way. The musicians there just like doing what they do and as long as they can keep it going all the better. Life is full of tragedies no matter what level of recognition comes your way. The only thing that matters is if you get knocked down to have the knowledge that it's not the end of the world. Once you accept that concept it's easier to get back up.

Thank you so much for this and other blogs that address the reality of being a musician/ artist! Intelligent & thought provoking conversation. I admire your diligence and independence, I’m a 67yo retiree. In my youth i wanted to be a pro musician ( Bass). It never happened, life changed, but i still love listening to good music, especially, prog rock & Jazz ( Lee Ritenour, Fourplay etc) Your vlogs on these subjects are GOLDEN & should be mandatory watching & listening too by any aspiring musician to equip them for what is to come. Despite it all, music is still food for the sole ❤️👏🏻❤️

Mary, I love your content and the paths you take with it. I am beyond thrilled that you made this video and aired out what has been an unspoken topic amongst music creators for ages. Absolutely brilliant video. Thank you!

Mary , I am almost 68 and I started my little record label in 1983 with me on it . No compromise . Small tours . Sanity . Musicians must figure away around the industry .

I really don't know what to say. In my view with this you've gone from a massively interesting musician with insightful experiences to an empathetic and relatable voice that hits home on important topics. This hits close to home for me and I really appreciate the hours and hours of time you took to prepare this and present it so compellingly. Thank you very much.

@stewartmproductions

Жыл бұрын

Agree fully. It hits home.

@gossamyr

Жыл бұрын

Very well said and I agree 100%

Even though I love creating music, it’s almost like a torture. We are a different breed, blessed and cursed at the same time but I wouldn’t have it any other way.. excellent post Mary

You are a great writer, presenter, producer AND singer/songwriter. You have so much to fall back on; remember that. I really like how you explain things. You make my life richer. Thank you. But also know that if you ever stop making videos because that endeavor wasn't serving you well, I will be happy for you; I won't in any way feel you let me down.

Thank you, Mary. I am a musician and a mental health counselor. My own daughter attempted suicide in 2019 at the age of 15 due to a combination of the affects from being sexually assaulted at 13 by neighborhood boys, and the influences of so called friends on social media. By only the grace of God, she survived and is a proponent of suicide prevention now at 18. More people need to speak up. I am constantly reminded of the massive weight of anxiety and depression in our world population right now. Suicide numbers are at an all time high. The overwhelming hopelessness felt by adolescents and young adults is a heavy weight that feels unbearable. There are solutions. This is senseless death that is preventable. Thank you for being part of the solution. Just one more reason I am a fan.

@davebutler3905

Жыл бұрын

Well done helping her stay afloat. I wouldn't want to be young at this time in human history. It's so crazy. Best wishes to you and yours!

@THandP_org

Жыл бұрын

@Jonathan Orris I am so glad she is still here with you, and kudos for your ability to see the causes honestly and supporting her through it all. May you and your daughter be the change your community needs, and may you both receive all the support you need.

The music industry still hasn’t away from being like the hardware store during the gold rush. The gold searchers payed too much for shovels in advance and were cheated when they wanted to sell the little gold they found. The music industry still has that rip off mentality.

@ENigma-um8zw

Жыл бұрын

Hell hath no fury like the jealousy of a suit wearing Executive.

@joshkaye5303

Жыл бұрын

Spot on!

@gabe_s_videos

Жыл бұрын

That's just capitalism.

@PrisonerD

Жыл бұрын

@@gabe_s_videos Not really - I can’t think of too many startups (which is ultimately what young artists are) who would would accept terms where they would give away sole rights to their IP, and 85% of their turnover to their investors when looking to raise the capital to scale their business. Further to that, they also have to pay back any investment made (aka advances) out of the remaining 15% of turnover, not the 85% already taken by the investors? The hardware store during the gold rush is a pretty apt analogy.

Well said. I have been a drummer for 45 years - and have chosen to teach (my full time passion for 32 years). The biggest reason for my decision to not "be in a band and tour" echoes many of the points you brought up in this video. After playing in bands, late nights, little sleep, not eating well, etc (for almost 2 decades) - I found the more stable idea of controllable hours to be not only appealing, but absolutely necessary for me to live a healthier life. Thanks for posting your thoughts and experience...much appreciation. Happy drumming... :). "Mr Ed" Round Rock Drums

@Chopper140

Жыл бұрын

Justifying never becoming famous?

Thank you for sharing, Mary. These are serious issues that need to be talked about more frequently, thank you!

Tour manager for 8 years with punk, indudtrial and metal. Have heard many wise words and honest admissions, but you nailed it on so many levels. Let me just say thank you.

Wonderfully put. I would add that in my experience as a performing musician as both a session player and artist for the last 20 years. What I have found to be the key, is constantly defining and being open to redefining what “making it” is to you. Being open to letting that vision mature along with yourself is EVERYTHING for your mental health. It’s no different then a small child saying he/she wants to be an astronaut when he/she grows up and later realizes what that really means is he/she enjoys writing space fiction stories for children’s books or teaching astronomy to a high school class. Unfortunately so many musicians are allowed to become astronauts before they have time to mature into being school teachers because the industry see’s dollar signs on the young artists naivety.

Thank you for making this post Mary!❤️

That video is brilliant! thank you Mary!

This 11 min video gave me a heap of negative flashbacks from past touring days that I’d likely forgotten about due to now having a more happy and grounded way of life. Ambition is definitely a double edged sword. Find the balance! Fantastic video Mary, keep it up!

@blablabla2076

Жыл бұрын

It's super nice if you can find that life partner and start the settled in lifestyle. I mean really thats what we get into music for in the first place right? To be recognized so that we can do what? Meet somebody we want to F**K and hopefully marry them and then leave all this touring shit behind lol. Then there's people like me hopelessly single and doomed to die on the road.

Love you Mary! Thank you so much for highlighting this part of the touring grind... It's definitely taken its toll on so many of the musicians (both famous and not) that I've loved and it's definitely something that needs to be addressed by all of us in the community...

Love not only your music and musical talent, but love your approach to the broad range of subjects you cover - this subject in particular. Thank you. Wishing you health and all the best!

Great, great post. I saw Nirvana twice in 93. You knew what you were witnessing was special. Even as late as it was in their tenure. Kurt destroyed his Jaguar during the first show. While simply laying the new one down during the second gig. I have yet to see another band with that same energy that just "hits you." God Rest Kurt and Trevor. Now playing in the great gig in the sky. Genius is a gift and a curse. The late Pete Ham God rest of Badfinger realized this and took his life because of it. Even Buddy Holly got screwed by Decca. And why The Beatles stopped touring and Brian Wilson holed up in his house. This whole mirror is touched on in the film "Almost Famous."

This is one of your best videos yet, Mary. Thank you for talking about this.

You’re doing something new, I feel. I appreciate this type of video essay, commentary; whatever you want to call it. This is good. You’re calm, relatable, sympathetic, and genuine. Definitely do this for as long as you wish, but never longer than you want.

Thank you for this video. YT recommended something amazing this time. I'm 2 minutes in and I've subbed, you have the exact vibe that I LOVE.

This is an important video. Thank you for making it and being so transparent.

I was in a band long forgotten. My bass player moved on to found a multiplatinum award-winning alternative rock band. My drummer toured globally with a major label signed prog rock group. Not a day goes by where I don't think about what an adrenaline rush it would've been to play shows in front of tens of thousands of people. But you're right Mary, it certainly comes at a sacrifice. Good video.

@gerryfromthevoid8986

Жыл бұрын

What band did your bass player move on to?

@sonicimperium

Жыл бұрын

Sure you did.

@mikecorey8370

Жыл бұрын

It wasn't easy playing around here. Especially if you were doing originals. The 70's and 80's had a lot of places to play, but you had to bring your own crowd. The 90's and early 2's were easier, only because I was out playing for fun. What was the band's name?

@jerroldshelton9367

Жыл бұрын

You wrote: "Not a day goes by where I don't think about what an adrenaline rush it would've been to play shows in front of tens of thousands of people." I've played "in front of tens of thousands" at evangelistic crusades held in baseball stadiums back in the 1990s. There wasn't anything about doing it which gave me an "adrenaline rush." In all honesty, I didn't like that big venue / big crowd thing all that much, for a long list of reasons, "Your mileage may vary," as the saying goes. For me, I don't think I've got much interest in playing to more than about 2,000 people at a time. Anything bigger seems more like a mob to me than an audience.

@DaveTaste

Жыл бұрын

Of course you did.

A great video. Kurt's death shook me deeply. I was 14 and rock stars have never been the same to me since. I was/am friends with a band that was on a major label and on the edge of almost crossing into actual fame and it was nothing like people fantasized about (positively or negatively). A band that went on tour with one of the biggest bands in the world at the time, and was eating Hot Pockets for breakfast because that's all there was money for. The label threw them away like trash and still made it nearly impossible for them to continue (which they thankfully have managed to do in a capacity). Having seen that and experienced some fraction of "micro fame" makes me a lot happier to just be able to live off of my art and aspire to no more than maybe just living fairly above average. I aspire to more, but understand what "more" can mean, so I approach with caution. For musicians, this is why I like the idea of circumventing the traditional music industry entirely. The "Suits" are often useless and wasteful. Back to my friends, in your case, you are very wise to be blazing your own path. I hope you continue to have success and avoid those industry scum that talk big and deliver in the complete opposite direction.

@StockportJambo

Жыл бұрын

Marillion are a great example. In the 80s, they had chart success. Played stadiums, and all over the world. Didn't make much money, but they were noticed. It led directly to a fractious breakup with their lead singer at the time, over precisely the album/tour/album/tour merry go round the suits put you on. They replaced him & carried on, but after two more albums they were dropped by their record label EMI. So they formed their own record label. Self published. Asked their loyal fans to preorder albums before they were made, and fund tours. They are credited with 'inventing' crowd-funding as a concept. Now, after 19 albums, and regular sell-out tours and 'weekends', they are comfortably off. Radio doesn't play them. They get no mainstream attention or exposure at all, that you would get with a record label, but it doesn't matter. They can take three years to craft an album, and it's fine. They're not loaded, but not skint either. All financed by a small but loyal worldwide fanbase. They call it "a better way of life" and it's hard to argue with that.

This is incredibly well done. Thank you for putting this together.

This is such an eye-opening video. I love playing music and songwriting, but I'm glad I found a new path where I can still make music on my spare time and not feeling overwhelmed by it.

This is the kind of content KZread needs more of, and I'm so glad the algorithm slipped this video into my recommended pile this morning. It's so refreshing to see someone talk in detail about something they clearly know a lot about and to have the confidence to do it without trying to be a quirky social media personality or having to rely on that annoying hyper-paced editing style that seems to be mandatory on this platform now. Really great job.

@iamgreen2964

Жыл бұрын

youtube doesn't want this, youtube wants money, that's why they allow Russia to steal this and many, many other videos, put on the RT channel, claim it's theirs, all while youtube just close their eyes because Russia means a huge market with lots, lots of money comming in! As long as there is such videos, I'll keep using it for lack of other sources but the truth is, youtube is dying.

I’ve been in bands, visual arts, and film for over 20yrs. Still doing music as a soloist. So much of what happens to artists is just from not being grounded humans and from not being educated/educating themselves on the different ways the industry works. If one goes in with a realistic view of the business and understanding of self (physical and mental limits, etc etc), I think you’ll be fine. The grind life isn’t for everyone either. Being away from loved ones for long periods of time is hard. I’ve driven trucks and worked in the oilfield for years and it’s similar. Lots of people medicate and eat like crap. Others have a solid regimen of diet and exercise they practice on the road. It’s always a choice and a challenge when the nature of the work is at redline. Good luck to us all to find a way to keep our paths illuminated. Godspeed.

@gabe_s_videos

Жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly. While the business side of it can absolutely be unfair, the artist still has to accept the sacrifices they'll need to make to be professional artist: are you willing to work hard with little payoff for an indefinite amount of time? Are you willing to give up the possibility of a social life or family? Do you love your craft so much that you're willing to focus on it, eat, sleep, drink it 24/7 so you can call upon it at any given moment? If not, that's fine, you can still do it, but maybe just not for a living. I saw an interview with Anthony Kedis from RHCP recently and he said something I found kind of interesting: in order to be able to keep up with the physical demands of performing the way he does, he has to eat four hours before going onstage. He knows himself and his limitations well enough to know how to do what he wants to do as a performer without it negatively affecting him. There's a reason that band's been going nonstop for 40 years (though getting off of drugs PROBABLY helped).

@cuebj

Жыл бұрын

I read somewhere that the Commodores each went to college to major in different business skills relevant to running a band as a business. I saw a study about Beatles and Epstein as an example of business entrepreneur exercise. When Epstein died, the Beatles had to learn fast, didn't like the grown-up stuff, and behaved ike children (except McCartney who began to realise what they should do and had a helpful father-in-law but the others wanted to carry on as children). Mick Jagger is the great example - a serious sports player at school (trials for Kent County Cricket Club when Alan Knott and Derek Underwood were on trial) and a serious student at school - went to top university, London School of Economics, and dropped out to join Rolling Stones. When things went pear-shaped, he bit the bullet and took on the management business while Richards was indulging and the others were functioning as hired hands. Like Lennon when McCartney grew up, Richards was resentful for decades until he grew up and realised he owed all his earnings to Jagger growing up. It's difficult - the thing that makes so many creatives creative is the thing that stops them being sensible. It gets worse: there's usually a culture that they are not supposed to be sensible, check their tax returns, etc. I know someone who was brilliant at top drama school, got good acting jobs, chucked it in when it was made very clear that it had to dominate all his ambitions and family should come second to The Art. He put wife and, subsequently, children before The Art. The Art becomes a god that they must serve to the exclusion of all else

@transcendmeta

Жыл бұрын

@@cuebj see I think every band has the ability to tap in and be self aware enough to delegate certain business aspects to the ones who have the mentality to take on those types of task for the sake of the band. As far as a craft domination all ambitions…I still think that’s a choice. Like what can a person do to still partake in their art and still be balanced in other parts of their life that also require large amounts of time and energy? Then just be truthful answering that question and trying diff stuff out to see what’s sustainable. There’s always some nuance to whatever. Hanging it in the grey area can be a thing. I’m probably off the rails a bit now…

I think this might be the best KZread funnel I've ever watched. Bravo! Really well structured.

Thank you for this beautifully put together essay. The implications of this video reach so much wider than just music, but at the same time, encapsulate the industry’s issues quite well indeed.

As always, very clear, direct, and important. As a newcomer musician, it has been remarkable to see how difficult it is to get started and get going live, and the array of people needed to make that happen. I'm still doing it mostly alone, but hearing you talk about this resonates so much. Thank you, and we all need to support our local indie artists and their releases and live shows!

Mary, thank you SO much for this video and for sharing what I and so many other musicians/vocalists battle daily. Our lives can be very difficult, from the stifled creativity due to working a "real" job to the isolation we feel by being the only creative in our family or circle of friends. I am not ashamed at all to admit that you had me in tears the entire time. I play four instruments and have a 5 octave vocal range. Yet I drive 2 hours one way to work a normal job every day just to support my family. It is a constant mental health struggle and it is SO comforting hearing at least ONE person who understands. Again I say thank you ❤️

Very well done Mary, thank you.

Thankyou for this well thought out and very well delivered post!

Thank you for doing this. Often times being a “musician” isn’t a choice-we are compelled. Only musicians know this. So, as a musician trying to make a living, we have to say “yes” to just about anything which leads to awful situations.

@GunnerRDS

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, like 'yes' to taking an experimental gene therapy injection because your lead singer forces you to

@robertwest542

Жыл бұрын

Smart! Good research! Condensing lots of information with valued inferences. I am grateful for this

@davidbresett2098

Жыл бұрын

No you don't have to take every single opportunity.

@Halligan

Жыл бұрын

You don't have to always say yes. Read my reply further up. ^

I just found you on KZread, I’m so glad! This video is so profound, I have to admit I’ve never considered these realities experienced by the people who make our lives more enjoyable. Thank you for sharing.

Wow. Mary, this was both parts fantastic and sobering. Thank you for this.

Great job on this video Mary. It really puts things in perspective. Excellent job you're doing on your YT channel. Keep up the good work.

Spot on, Mary. I'm reminded why I checked out of "the business" all those years ago, but you put it into words, painting a full picture, in a way I was never able to. Thanks.

I love this, never heard a better explanation of the reality of the music industry. Superb work Mary. I know we all want to be a rock star but perhaps its not all its cracked up to be.

@ErwinvanAsperen

Жыл бұрын

This! This video is everything what Im trying to explain to people when they ask me why I never really went on going as the drummer of a famous singer.

Thanks for the great video. It was much needed

Creative people are often driven, passionate, self-critical, oversensitive, highly self-aware, people pleasers. Often they have ADHD making them hyper focused, hard-working and prone to exhaustion mentally and physically. They are also deficient in certain hormones, and addiction is often a result of dopamine deficiency. I think the word "ambition" overshadows these core personality traits that are so prevalent not just in ambitious musicians but creative people in all areas of life. Ambition, you could argue, could be replaced for "fanatical / dedicated / focused" (I remember seeing once a statement "Obsessed is what lazy people call the dedicated" - I like that one). The answer I feel has to come from within. Some people are able to recognize the changes that need to be made and some are unable to. Some dont want to - in fear of becoming something they cannot recognize or live with. This entire piece is really about the psychology of the creative personality so its interesting to see your take on it and yes - I see it in you of course.

Thank you for talking about this, Mary; issues like this are often swept under the rug and either discounted or often belittled. All we can do is keep talking about it and raise awareness. Bravo, well done. 🙂

Thank you Mary for this wonderful content!

Mary you are a breath of fresh air and make no mistake you are a growing voice changing the way people see music and the industry! Good on you girl!

@ProgRockDan1

Жыл бұрын

Yes indeed

@warrenbutterfield4208

Жыл бұрын

And by the way where did this stupid phrase “good on you” come from.? England? Sounds like you’re jackin’ it with yer buds In a bukake session… The phrase is ‘good for you’, you’re not dumping good all over somebody you don’t dump a bag of good all over someone. It’s not a commodity FFS

@benjohnstonmusic5131

Жыл бұрын

@@warrenbutterfield4208 lol different folks got different ways of talking over here sir

Thank you for the insight! Very comforting for those of us who tried our best.

“They kick me out of the band and I just don’t understand Just when things were going so grand They kicked me out of the band “ A line from a Commander Cody song . Great fun song . Personally it really happened to me and is probably why I’m still alive. The drug culture around music is seductive and deadly I wouldn’t have survived.

@johnnydelmar

Жыл бұрын

Hahaha, I don't believe it Da, da, ah, ah don't touch me Hey ray, hey sugar, tell them who we are Well, we're big rock singers We got golden fingers And we're loved everywhere we go ("That sounds like us") We sing about beauty and we sing about truth At ten thousand dollars a show (right) We take all kinds of pills that give us all kind of thrills But the thrill we've never known Is the thrill that'll getcha when you get your picture On the cover of the Rollin' Stone

@brianmccain6302

Жыл бұрын

Check out Bill Spooner's version(former member of the Tubes) on Mall to Mars album

@ericstearns170

Жыл бұрын

Commander Cody ref for the win!!!

As someone who works "on the other side of the glass" so to speak, I see sides of artists that aren't normally out there with everyone else, unless they have their entourage in the studio with them, you learn things about the artist that they wouldn't even divulge to their closest homeboy. Making and creating music is a very personal thing and part of the problem isn't just touring, it's the whole "manufacturing" of music. It's a grotesque machine that's just made to pump out music for the sake of money and fame rather than promoting artistry. The whole "The hip new thing" coming out every day with artists, singers, and bands is damaging to the art and the creation of it. So many dictators in the process of the creation of said art it loses its artistic value a lot of the time. But yea, when it comes to being on the side of the glass where the music is made and recorded and the faceless artist behind the board, you hear and see things that the world will NEVER hear or see... All the tears, all the joy, all the sadness, depression, and loneliness that come along with it all, the laughter, the happiness, the everything in between. The music industry is a very dark path no matter which side of the glass you work on. A lot of it is sad, but more than quite a bit of it can bring joy and happiness to people who were either thinking about ending their lives or were about to attempt it 5 minutes before hearing that song. Music is very powerful, very dangerous, and if in the wrong hands can be deadly. No matter where you are or what you're doing in the industry. So as I say to any client that comes through my studio that's in it for the fame and glory, I always advise to tread carefully, this industry will take you in, grind you up, and spit you back out as an empty husk after it consumes your soul to its very core.

This is tremendous content Mary. Thank you for posting this.

A lot of wisdom there Mary! Thank you.

Mary, thank you so much for this. I used to tour, trying to make it in various punk and alternative bands and I ended up walking away from music for close to 8 years. That was a mistake. But it just goes to show what even TRYING to make it in this industry does to someone's passion and joy in life.

This is an excellent description of the challenges that musicians face today. Good job, Mary!

Amazing video, well articulated and delivered.

amazing great share on all levels, thank you Mary!

Johnny made a record, Went straight up to number one, Suddenly everyone loved to hear him sing the song. Watching the world go by, surprising it goes so fast. Johnny looked around him and said, 'Well, I made the big time at last'. Don't you know, don't you know, Don't you know that you are a shooting star, Don't you know, oh, yeah, Don't you know that you are a shooting star, yeah, And all the world will love you just as long, As long as you are, a shooting star. Bad Company, Shooting Star. For me, this sums it all up. We all know fame and fortune can be a heavy thing, but honestly, we all think that just happens, "to that other guy. I can handle this." Well, to that other guy, YOU are the other guy. Thank you for doing this upload, Mary.

Never before have I heard someone put it so precisely and so perfectly. You have hit the nail on the head in so many ways! As young musicians we all get caught up in the rockstar thing. And to quote Taylor himself, I’m not a rockstar... I’m a musician. Thank you for making this video! I will be sharing it with a few younger musicians I know and (hopefully) waking them up before they too make the mistakes that I made many years ago. Cheers Mary! Keep up the good work!

Very well said, Mary. Thankfully, as you say, things are changing.

Great understanding of the music industry and the reality of many musicians experience. Beautifully written and clearly, succinctly and eloquently delivered.

Considering how hard life has been over the years, I count myself lucky that I didn't get tied up in the industry. I love music but looking back and knowing what I know about it now... I would never have survived. Thanks for all the really great content.

This was excellent. I quit the music industry after 15 years of touring and recording, having seen so many of my friends die or get beaten mentally to a pulp. I retreated to sanctuary of the forests in Northumberland, built a self sufficient off-grid house in those woods and reinvented myself as a woodsman. Now, 15 or so years later I have built a studio at the house and have recently begun playing and writing again, doing everything from here. I'm enjoying music again, but I never want to see a tour bus again as long as I live.

@timothyrioux5507

Жыл бұрын

I know a Northumberland near Stark N.H. if it's that Northumberland you are safe from the other humans.

@kezzstone7819

Жыл бұрын

@@timothyrioux5507 Northumberland, England. 👌😃

@timothyrioux5507

Жыл бұрын

You won't be surprised to learn that every English town name has been ripped off by a New England town in the U.S.

You have the most wonderful voice, soothing and distinct. Great channel!

Very thoughtful, Mary. Thank you.

I certainly feel this. Even though I've never broken through when I was performing I play some decent shows with support slots up to 500 cap, but if you become disconnected from the music you're performing night after night can be so damaging to mental health. I watched a frontman of one of my bands deteriate over just a 10 date UK tour as he was in a different mindset from when he wrote their record and reliving trauma that went into the record broke him and it pains me to be see anyone in that position let alone friends. Just look after yourselves and know what is best for you, even if it means stepping back for a bit

Great video, Mary. To break the destructive cycle, more discussion needs to happen about the rights of musicians. The "business" part of music is made for the benefit of everyone in the business but the artist. If you're FORCED to tour and subject yourself to the pain of being on the road just to make ends meet, there's a root cause.

Love this. Everything I've been saying to my musician friends is reflected here. So much of what we do is out of some fear of not being good enough and we can develop this extreme ambition to prove our worth to ourselves and others and have it destroy us. But if we learn to love ourselves, we can expand our visions of what success means to us and how we can meet our needs much more easily in a variety of ways and can start to let go of the pressure of others' expectations and even our own when they no longer serve us.

Thank you Mary - that is a thoughtful, compassionate and practical article. Kudos to you and please keep it up - to the extent you can manage.

A brilliant and important video Mary. You've tackled a delicate and sensitive subject with grace and dignity. I hope it becomes one of your most viewed.

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You see you make an interesting point there about view count which is in some way comparable to an artist chasing certain record sales. KZreadr at first wants 1m follower or view milestones then 10million and so on but I bet there comes a point you realise all you're competing with is endless others who have far more and for nothing really at the end of it. I'm sure the same satisfaction doesn't come when you make a video with content that you think your 10 million audience want from you to keep growing the brand as it does the satisfaction making a video you enjoy making for 50k subscribers. There's kind of no end to the increased time editing, equipment, recording etc all for what, more people to see your face