The Big Secret - Season 1 Episode 1 [Full Episode] | BET Africa
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Secrets, lies and confessions. A BET Original where guests join Khanyi Mbau in revealing the hidden truth behind some of their top secrets in attempt to bring healing and catharsis.
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Jehova 😢khanyi we thank you for this show
The emotional intelligence shown by Khanyi is incredible. She’s the perfect presenter and facilitator for this show 👏🏾🙌🏾👏🏾🙌🏾
@estermkhize8142
3 жыл бұрын
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@mdumiseninsibande3071
Жыл бұрын
I will let know once we get out of bed.
The way he hugged Khanyi made me lose it 😭 😢. He’s such a beautiful soul and I wish him nothing but healing 🙏🏿.
The mother is dead inside, didnt show any emotions. I hope she finds her own healing and that nurturing God given instincts feelings of a mother be revived .So this guy can also be healed
the way he glowed when he spoked about his children
I'm sorry my brother ♥, May God heal every broken part of you and restore it completely In Jesus Name Amen
He needed a hug not a handshake, the way he hugged Khanyi!
@jeswazwadi7049
3 жыл бұрын
right his mum did not even hug him! shame ! and what pissed me off was her defending herself for leaving and saying"you were not that young when i left" had she not have a drinking problem the divorce would not have happened
@B_Reigns
2 жыл бұрын
@@jeswazwadi7049 it’s heartbreaking
@B_Reigns
2 жыл бұрын
I wanted to cry 💔
People they keep saying wooow khanyi is intelligent . Well she always been just because some people they were judging her appearance then her intelligence. Thanks for the show skhokholishasi
His brother is in deep pain than his mother.... Hope he finds all the help he needs. Khanyi u are the best presenter 🥰🥰
Dear khanyi mbau,sweetheart this is for you,you were born for this...thank you for showing support an love to the guy..your presenting skill shows your respect and love to the victim..I really applaud you..job well done mama❤❤❤❤🙌🙌🙌🙌
@Mbalings
3 жыл бұрын
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A sad story indeed, life though, we are going through things maaan. Big up to Khanyi Mbau, your presenting skills is on another level girl, keep it up!!
As a mother to a young boy this brought me to tears.
Agh man this is so sad. I hope this man gets all the healing and comfort he needs.
I've never been a fan of Khanyi but I liked her immediately on this new show, and she did a fantastic job. To my brother you did a good thing by coming out and tell your family. I pray GOD heals you in the mighty name of our Lord JESUS CHRIST aphelise nalo confusion ekuwe.🙏🏾
Hand shakes ? Oh JESUS, teach black people how to be affectionate towards their loved ones. Amen.I will pray for this young man. The devil is a liar ! You Lord will restore His purity and heal him in ways no human can. I pray that you restore the years eaten by locusts where his peace is concerned. And that us as a generation get to experience his gifts and celebrate him.
@sifisomdumbe7980
3 жыл бұрын
Amen :)
@letumilephaahla452
2 жыл бұрын
Amen and thank you for this comment.
one of mystudents used to go through this ,done by the step dad and the never knew anything,it damaged that boy ,a grade 7 boy! people are sick out here😥💔
@nancyromencia2875
3 жыл бұрын
7 years old😬
@sweetrose6477
3 жыл бұрын
Wat happened
Honestly he is very right when he said divorce destroys everything…the devil uses it not only to destroy the couple but also to mess the kids,is just sad
I think he liked role playing bcz he needed his mom around at that time... Kodwa the mom is so cold😭
Oh when he spoke about his kids, my heart melted. .... Even though it's not often discussed but being bi is okay and normal. Even though how he's story started is heartbreaking, he should know that it's okay to be bi and he shouldn't feel bad or ashamed about it.
Wow Khanyi's composure and how she talks in the show is amazing🙌
It's humbling to see a respectful side of Khanyi, well mannered to the elders with empathy, wow. I am amazed,
@relaxationnetwork4509
3 жыл бұрын
go watch her interview with MACG
@tannekabrown
3 жыл бұрын
She’s always been like this, a very humble respectful soul
@novablack1934
Жыл бұрын
Khanyi has always been dope, I met her once and she was soo lovely.
Khanyi is a great presenter..
Now this is what we call family. 🙏♥️
The way he hugged Khanyi 😭😭😭
So brave of you my friend. Good unto you for living your truth.
my brother everyone have a deep secret so never worry about what people will say but to tell people about your secret it will not be a secret anymore, and no one will use your secret against you.
sexual abuse is a dangerous thing. perpetrators should be hung. This tore my heart to pieces. Sending you love my brother.
I felt the brothers shock💔💔💔 may the good Lord heal you mebroe
Khanyi is pretty🔥 her presentation skills. She's good
Great Show!! You guys are tackling real issues!!
Some spirits are transfered through touch. Judas kissed Jesus, transffering death. Pastors lay hands on people and transmit various spirits to people. This man is now stuck in his childhood in terms of his sexuality because some one transfered homosexuality to him. What he needs to confront in theraphy might be that he felt the deed by that person was wrong but it awoke 'real feelings' feelings he didn't fully allow himself to feel to this day.
@hopebuhali3887
2 жыл бұрын
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Strength to you my brother.You have a loving family ,I trust they will support you.
This guy is so well spoken hey.🙆🏽♀️
Khanyi you are deep when it comes listening
KHANYI MBAU!! Mama, You PERFECTED your hosting. You were born for this. So charismatic, so passionate and all. You killed it. Looking forward to the next episodes.🤗
🥺oh God heal us as a nation....this land is sick
I think the should also be a show where victims confront perpetrators not all are in jail not all have. Am disgusted by individuals who take advantage of the vulnerable. What a humble family❤
Well done khanyi mbau...That hugg 🙌🙌🙌
That was child abuse in every angle. Never feel was your fault. I’m glad you rose above the water . Thanks for sharing I hope and pray you getting proper therapy . And again try not to mind bantu bazothini syndrome remember you helping young people out there to seek help A.S.P all the best Razo
He's such a beautiful soul
@B_Reigns
2 жыл бұрын
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His brother though 🤗💕
@godswill3188
3 жыл бұрын
Yah kunzima
The fact that your child is innocent then a perpetrator comes and take away the child s innocence and they now develop confusion because of that evil man before that they were fine😡😡😡😡
I'm in tears
He needs counseling. His decision to be gay/bisexual is influenced by the childhood trauma. He is confused about who he truly is. I hope the show provides the help he so desperately needs
@sphindz
3 жыл бұрын
That was my exact takeaway from watching. I felt Khanyi and the show just want to have people air out their secrets and aren't invested in the aftermath. This man needs counselling :(
@Christy_Shongwe
3 жыл бұрын
@@sphindz That's very typical of these shows and it's damaging.
@sphindz
3 жыл бұрын
@@Christy_Shongwe It’s very disheartening 🥺
So sorry brother,this can happen to anyone anytime because you didn't call it. Am even crying right now thinking and looking to my boy as his still young the challenge his going to face in this journey of life. Brother please support him, I like the fact of you guys love each other😂😂😂
Heart breaking story goodness me hope he finds peace and healing 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾♥️
I like the way Khanyi does the show very humble, calm and collected she listens very well, the story is very heartbreaking now the poor guy is confused, but I think now he's getting into a healing process,
@gloriaberger515
2 жыл бұрын
Well done Khanyi
My brother u are a man amongst the man.God will heal all ur wounds in Jesus s name. AMEN.
I'm truly hurt by this... 😭Stay strong and keep your faith
So proud of him ❤️ And his family Blessings
Wow! Khanyi you did good💖💖💖
Why would people judge him for this? This is not acceptable to anyone regardless of what gender you are, it's rape and unfortunately it happens to us men and we are scared to come out and talk about it because we are scared of how we will be viewed...Even if he wanted to tell his mom that he is "gay/bisexual" we don't have a right to judge another person's lifestyle!
Joh💔💔💔 trying so hard not to cry🥺🥺
Khanyi looks beautiful here 💕💕
It's Brotherhood love for me.
This was really great! I love the show! I pray that the man finds healing and gets the support he needs.
He needs counseling man...hey..yes family will and can be there, but he needs healing...self finding
Um in tears
Nice family. ..wish mcedi was my brother 😊
What a beautiful family. It pains me to see that it's as though mama doesn't understand the depth, maybe because of her age she doesn't think male rape is real. I'm regarding this to how she chuckled when she heard it for the first time, I felt like she was saying oh ok I thought it was something big. the brother got it. But over all they are such a beautiful family, I hope even the mother of his kids will be supportive. Peace
Khanyi is a perfect presenter🔥🔥
@B_Reigns
2 жыл бұрын
True❤️
So sad so sorri wat u went thru broda i hope u wl overcome by getting out of ur chest , wl pray for healing .💪
Eishhh men also go through hell.... Our society is rotten shame
@hlengiwemasondo2858
3 жыл бұрын
Sadly its happening to the whole world tjo
Wow this is a good show my brother Arnold wish u all the best.
I jus cried such a cute Guy 😢
Wishing him a big healing..
The mother should've hugged him😕
KHANYI you are best for this show ❤
My heart is shattered...
May God give you strength bro
This is quite informative and big up to Khanyi. She is great
@B_Reigns
2 жыл бұрын
She’s the perfect person for this job
Am sorry my brother I pray god comfort and heal your heart 🙏🏾
I love this family ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Ai this woman didn't even show emotions, to hold her child comforting him. Giving him a handshake as of they just sealed a business deal. And she's forcing him to be what she wants him to be, instead of helping him find himself and be okay with who he chooses to be.
@ptladi3962
3 жыл бұрын
You know most old Africans don't show emotions, its not tht she doesn't feel something
@phamzalee5025
3 жыл бұрын
@@ptladi3962 not showing them amounts to not caring....h9w did she comfort him while he was a baby, but it makes she left them with their father.
@macyo1491
3 жыл бұрын
@@ptladi3962 on the mark. Its more of it shows your weakness in a sense & ppl/children will take advantage of you. Thats the mentality most African parents have. For my son i usually say i love you, give him a hug b4 heading to bed but he knows he doesn't mess with me coz i do crack the whip
You can tell by the mother’s face and the fact that the parents divorced party because of her drinking, I hold her responsible for these people’s childhood trauma
These things are so real. Molestation took place when he was way too young but look at what happened to him later. So these things are very spiritual, the spirit of homosexuality entered him and we live in a world where we entertain these things we say that's how they were born. No, God does not make a mistake.
My heart bled...so hurting
Strength to this man
@B_Reigns
2 жыл бұрын
I hope he finds healing ❤️
So heartbreaking 💔
I love Khanyi so much❤.I would tell Khanyi my secrets
@B_Reigns
2 жыл бұрын
Samesss❤️
Mmh Nkosi ngabantwana bethu
Ngibuhlungu ngo Arnold thumbs up kumfowabo ukhombisa azomeseka ngempela lomama ayi ungathi akezwa buhlungu ngenvane yakhe u Arnold uzozikhethela yena impilo afuna ukuyiphila akazukhethelwa uma wakhe udinga icounselling ukuze aqhubeke nempilo ayifunayo stay safe brother appreciate your effort God Bless u 👏👏👏💪💪💪🙆🙆😭😭🙊🙊
Its heart breaking. 😭😭
this world we live in is fucked up, even your own so called family will betray you in ways you would never imagine and it hurts. I bet those are one of thee reasons a lot of people become depressed and suffer from anxiety because this world the people are acting as if there is no God to fear. YES we sin but there are things we should know not to do. And people think that others are just trying to look for attention when they say they are depressed and shit. A SHOUT OUT TO ALL WITH WHATEVER IS BOTHERING THEM,ALWAYS AND ALWAYS TURN TO CHRIST ATLEAST TRY TO.
@B_Reigns
2 жыл бұрын
So sad💔
Well good for you my guy. Speaking your truth,it's ok
@B_Reigns
2 жыл бұрын
💔💔💔💔
As a boy mom I'm so hurt. 💔
just watched the story after a year and it's so toucing
I’m so emotional ryt now😢
I'm so sorry u went through that. Ai I don't know what to say tjo
This is really annoying and people should stop abusing kids😭
The man who sexually molested Arnold could have been sexually abused himself,by other men too. Therefore,the perpetrator is a victim of the continuous cycle of abuse. Arnold could have been a perpetrator too,but instead,he chosen speaking out,although lately so. My question is,did he experimented with other men as a result of the past psychological impact of the sexual molestation or he was bisexual even prior to the abuse? We should be careful not to appropriate a wrong impression that being a homosexual is triggered by same-gender abuse. Anorld said so himself:" WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE,I'M NOT STRAIGHT ",so he could have been bisexual even prior to the unfortunate incident. We don't have official police statistics of same-gender abuse & rape in this country,that on its own is problematic because it shows that this kind of abuse is underreported & mostly neglected. Sexual assault of young men by older men is far more prevalent in our society,the power dynamics between the victims & perpetrators creates an environment of shame & silence. Hence the majority of victims would never speak out,instead they would rather suffer in silence,become bullies & homophobic(most men who are overly homophobic towards gay men were sexually abused by other men) or become sexual molesters by raping either young boys or women. It is not even surprising that we have the highest GBV rates in the world. Our men are broken by other men,religion,culture,toxic & hyper masculinity create barriers for them to speak out & seek help. Arnold is a hero for facing his truth but he needs to differentiate his own sexuality with the past sexual abuse. If he was born a bisexual,he would have been still been bisexual even if he wasn't sexually abused by another man. I'm also saddened by the fact that after disclosing his past ordeal to his Mom & brother,he couldn't hug them. He was more comfortable to hug Khanyi than his own Mom & brother. They all need counseling.
@petermncobinkambule3793
3 жыл бұрын
You absolutely right there i come across such people and its so sad listening but all you have to do is offer counselling
@zukosame1178
3 жыл бұрын
I like how the brother came out and said growing up Arnold used to love role playing and he, Arnold, would want to be the mother during role playing. Therefore, I think he was bi because our families do actually pick up such behaviors from us.
@mmeshikgaphola419
3 жыл бұрын
I've heard his brother saying so too,which possibly means his sexuality & the sexual abused he encountered are not directly interwined. I'm saying so because there are men who were sexually abused by other men when they were young who didn't become gays or bisexuals. The devastating impact of sexual abuse,whether same-gender abuse or any form of sexual or emotional abuse has devastating long-term trauma that can completely change & affect a character of a person,forever. More so if the victim doesn't speak out earlier & seek help. We should also be cautious not to assume that every gay/bisexual man become a homosexual because they were sexually abused by other men. It is a dangerous mindset as it insinuates that gay/bisexual men are perverts & paedophiles who are secretly always on the lookout for a potential victims to sexually assault. It is the same misguided myths about lesbian women,some ignorant people believe they became lesbians because of failed relationship with men & that can be rectified through rape. We seriously need to learn,relearn & unlearn.
@petermncobinkambule3793
3 жыл бұрын
@@mmeshikgaphola419 you just took the words out of my mouth, well spoken and it's the truth
@molatelomoloto2818
3 жыл бұрын
Well said...His sexuality could’ve been the very same reason that he was molested because they tried to correct him😭😭
So heartbreaking we go thru a lot as individuals bt it takes the courage to come out in closet
@osekebs596
3 жыл бұрын
Very true
Khanyi is beautiful 🔥
This breaks my heart💔💔💔
@zanelentshangase3986
3 жыл бұрын
Not nice 😢
May God heal you.....
Usually divorce has an effect on children as they don’t want to understand why my family is not the same as my friend. dad is far or mom.It is a good thing to be there for your kids through it all,show them and tell them that you love them.Let them know that we are getting a divorce but there won’t be a change and make them feel that way.It doesn’t helping hidding it as in the end the truth will come out and it will have more unanswered questions and hatered as they grow up.
Cool
Ok am fed up with this family needs to do 123 kodwa you aired his business on telly couldn’t pay for 10 sessions nyana for counselling nxaa
@kimdube2440
3 жыл бұрын
So true
Heartbreaking💔
I need to secret confession online because m abroad