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This poor guy obviously needs help. I hate that people are hating on him.

I’d love to know where these couples are now, 12 years later

That is/was a toxic marriage. That wife is a narcissistic bully.

Calling him a wimp was awful. She is emotionally abusive to him. A woman experiencing this would not be ridiculed and this poor guy shouldn’t

@aprililes8355

Ай бұрын

Absolutely agree!!

@MrDedvalson

24 күн бұрын

He is a wimp!

@donnafalls6378

12 күн бұрын

Some men want to be dominated by a woman. The reason? Well, Dr. PHIL brought up the.....keeps John from having to think!!! Part of this is he doesn't have to use his brain! Laziness? She does pretty much everything? Sounds like it. So when things go south he can just blame her!!! Also, I grew up with a controlling mother. No father around. Now my mother wasn't as bad as Rochelle. I was used to being told what to do, How to do it, Where to do it, When to do it. And there was no questioning her or else you would go through hell!!! My mother didn't care about your opinion. My mother never bat down or apologize or admitted.Fault so you just quit trying. I grew up that way so that's how my other relationships ended up being ..until.... I got jobs and my bosses started talking to me, They did not like my mother and they told me why. But I remember in high school that I used to tell my friends how I never wanted to grow up to be like my mother. I hated that woman much of the time. I did not know how to act any other way until I saw other people acting differently. I grew up at home mostly alone. My brothers were working to supportt the family. Again, I really had no socialization. Out of high school.I had poor socialization skills. I was used to being told what to do and with my mother again was used to not saying anything but just doing whatever she said. I had to learn, relearn how to live in society. I talked to friends, I started going to church, and observing how people related to each other And of course it was so different than what I grew up with. I think that there is the possibility that John does not love his wife. Who knows. But he must be getting something positive. ???? Or he wants to leave and doesn't have the guts to do it. Who's bringing in the money? Would he be able to make it on his own financially ?? other or anything else??? Could he actually make it without her? He obviously would have to have a new normal but he may not be able to handle a new normal. And my question is, why is she so cotton picking controlling? Where did this come from? Why is this woman acting like this? She learned it from somewhere most likely? . Are her parents like this?

Why are they directing it all at him when she is the one who is a narcissistic bully? If he were treating her like that people would have sympathy and understanding for her

@philippamcqueen5430

5 ай бұрын

Completely right thier...tines have changed since then...thiers no 'man up' rules anymore..he's afraid of her..he couldn't speak up to her..couldn't watch it all as they went about things completely wrong

@yogalyfe

4 ай бұрын

I think they're just trying to have him accept this isn't normal and he doesn't deserve to be treated that way. They most likely think she's a lost cause so they're focusing on him.

@karahupp4589

2 ай бұрын

They already spent an episode on her! Now they are trying to get him to wake up. At least that’s my understanding of it.

“ Don’t breathe like that”!😂 REDICULOUS!! 😵‍💫

Do they have children? Could you imagine watching your father be treated that way? And im sure her behavior doesnt end with him. Someone in my life treats her partner this way and it makes me so uncomfortable to be around them. She is so lucky to have such an incredible husband and i do not understand how she can treat him that way.

@donnaturbide4573

3 ай бұрын

I wonder what he does for work

For a 2001 oprah episode, the energy gives 80s early 90s oprah when that show was more dramatic

@MaryjaneLove

6 ай бұрын

. -&& 90s and 2000s was the best episodes of oprah from the book club to the angel network from Erin kramp and George Dawson . . My God my God ii miss Oprah . . .❤❤❤❤

That’s so mean that they keep calling him names .::

19:08 This is why Oprah and Dr. Phil are awesome 💗 They help us cut through the crap and see ourselves more clearly 🙏🫶

I wonder if they’re still married today.

@dwoychick

17 күн бұрын

I would bet the ranch on it that they are.

People were so disrespectful to John.

Notice how the wife holds his hand with an iron fist

Awesome interview I love Dr. Phil and opera together

I would like to see the first episode with John and Rochelle!

He may have experienced this in his childhood, it’s a trauma bond. If he doesn’t want to change this, then we should just leave him to it.

I can’t believe this lady has the guts to show her face 😂

I dont think he loves her! It’s a trauma bond, like between a hostage and a kidnapper 😮

@anythingandeverythingABCLife

Ай бұрын

people need to stop using that description, the stockholm syndrome. patty hearst, the first "stockholm" victim, the one that robbed the bank with her kidnappers, said that she hates that term, that she always knew she was in danger, always knew her kidnappers were her kidnappers; she only went along because she needed to stay alive, not because she was relating to her kidnappers

If this was reversed and a man was treating a woman this way, everyone would be OUTRAGED! This is disgusting behavior. His wife is psychotic!!!

The way Wendy looked at her husband in the audience before they went on stage spoke volumes.

You're fully alive and fully yourself when you can live by your own rules .. have your lovers and have your friends, but keep them separate from your own goals and dreams.

Well, if someone treats my like that, my affection would be frozen too! ( her comment on the sleeping part)

No judging here. Learned a thing or two from this interview/show. Love to all!❤

t.agree with the lady in red saying that he is a very strong man. The problem is that he just doesn't have really good boundaries

Those controllers should ask themselfs what kind a sick version of a partner they like! Cause on thing is for sure: this is not the real person! It’s like you have a lot of money and people are nice too you because of the money! You don’t know who is real and who is fake!! I love, when people have the freedom of choice and still choose you!! That would make me feel much better than putting pressure on people to do what I want!! ✌🏻

Brilliant. 👏👏👏👏

Wow so mean 😢

Thank you ❤

. &&&& that wife is stuck in her ways and thats so sad . . . nevertheless ii would love an update on this couple . . . ❤️💯

Gosh I remember this show so clearly. Wonder what happened to these two? 🤔

I’m sorry i just have to say that this is completely ridiculous… he needs to run away from her fast !!!

A woman being controlled they wouldnt call her a woss ,now men being controlled is serious topic ,even on this dhow doctor phil calling him a wuss,its hard to for a controlled person to get brzve and srand up to the controller,a man on dr.phil in 2023 would bever be czlled weak or wuss

This is appalling hello gender equality this man is a victim of abuse !calling him a wuss would never be ok nowadays its uncomfortable to watch the victim blaming

@karahupp4589

2 ай бұрын

Omg calm down😂 they spent a whole episode ripping her apart and letting her know how horrible she was.

@lynseycassidy5506

2 ай бұрын

@@karahupp4589 I am calm its called an opinion 🤣

Clapping for her show why

I believe the controlling partner trained their controlled partner believe that only they make a good decision! So the controlled partner is afraid to make decisions because the controlling partner will destroy every idea of a decision!!

"As a matter of fact he's ALL CAPS ! " 😂😂

Amazing now in 2024 I have been married twice and both times it didn’t last. I tried both times to be the best person ever. I would NEVER have spoken to my husband like that…

Saying “ Daddy does it wrong” in front of the kids, is terribly wrong!! It teaches those kids not to respect their Dad/ parental alienation. also called ABUSE - 😮

He chooses to stay.

I would hope he has come to his senses by now and left her … anyone know???

I love the lady in Red, she is strong

What about getting surprised by your partner?! Instead of controlling anything and anyone✌🏻

Stairs at night: easy fix. Fridge in the bedroom.

Hello

It’s amazing the things we would NOT tolerate from friends/coworkers etc ever, are so readily accepted from a spouse… smh

don’t want to come home any more and I didn’t. I hit critical mass!

I wish I could get the answer to the question: "Do you want to be right or happy?" Because that implies to me, give in. You shouldn't always have to give in to be happy. Just like you were telling John! So, I'm confused🤔

They control their partners because they don't know how to love , period

Where is John’s mother?

This story is mind blowing! This man suffers from Stockholm Syndrome or what?! He makes me feel very uncomfortable, he seams so weak. Not to mention the controlling wife is 100% obnoxious

lol Dr Phil didn’t like being controlled a couple of times here either.

This is great and all but iyanla vanzant would of got to the root cause of why they behave this way. Childhood traumas etc.

They should think about what it’s like to being on your own or single parenting

I think he's hurting and tramatized that's y he's allowing her to do wateva she wants

Cohesive control

He should not allow her to treat him this way - that's the reason why everyone is confronting him, they want him to stand up for himself and stop the abuse coz she's a lost cause.

👍👍💖

If they are happy, who am I to say it's wrong?

Read that she a realtor and he is an agent and works for him

There is no best Oparh.

I wonder about his mother and his upbtringing

I can understand the soda part because it’s so bad for you but there’s a way to approach it but he is a wimp lol

@drama2u

16 күн бұрын

It was never about the soda nor the balloons.

Manipulation is the word, not control

She treats him like a child. I’ve not watched the whole thing yet, but I’d guess the husband is very conflict averse. He also may have a very controlling mother. My ex married a woman who leads him around by the nose. It’s sad.

He looks like Tom Cruise

Maybe he enjoys being controlled

Dr Phil don’t understand narcissistic abuse

They are still married.

I want to see what Iyanla Van Zant would say to these 2 people.dear lord!!!

He can't cope on his own

Let's face it, if the roles were reversed these days and he was doing that to her he wud be labelled as the biggest scum bag on the planet

My ex wife tried this, that is why she is an ex because I use not wiling to keep putting up with this.😮

I got no pay off

I think they were far too hard on this young lady. Dr Phil was very harsh.

Way too many commercials to watch.

@drama2u

16 күн бұрын

What commercials?

When I liked Oprah …….

I wonder if they're still married

@user-db9eh6si8w

5 ай бұрын

They checked back with them like over a decade ago. They were still married then. A couple with no children. By choice. Apperantley the advice helped them. Curious to know if they're together today too :-)

I don't think his heart is into it at all wants to be controlled 😢

He should threaten divorce unless she gets help.

Brit here: What's O and 400?

@amelialouisa8541

6 ай бұрын

0 as in he's won nothing and 400 how many times she's gotten her way. A score basically

@Claire-cc7lb

5 ай бұрын

Means she’s won every argument, he’s given in every time

@TwentyTwo_22_

5 ай бұрын

@@Claire-cc7lb Thank you Claire, I get it now! x

Doctor Phil was out of line, there's a way to help the couple without bashing the wives

He sounds alot like women who have been abused by their partner. He has lost his sense of self as separate from the wife. I think it probably happened over time.

30 cases of cola and a lifetime of Diabetes II. Soda is gone from my house. Watch .... The Game Changers. Stop the sugar if you have any sense at all.

Oprah and this audience belittling him is discusting

Total mental abuse.

Smdh 😖🤪🥴

God says it's love to allow someone to dominate you. Ask Christ the King!

@virginiasanchis1717

Ай бұрын

😳

Operah and Phil are revolting human beings!!!

@jazzyqueue

6 ай бұрын

No u

@helenhart4368

6 ай бұрын

Maybe you don’t get the point because you can’t see past the cringe from a modern day perspective.

@robertpryorjr4033

6 ай бұрын

Pathetic

@robertpryorjr4033

6 ай бұрын

Really?

@suzettemyers6058

2 ай бұрын

Why are you watching?