Sarcasm will save your life, I’m telling you.

@SonjaElizabethTeal

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, Ma'am

@Covers-and-Commentary

5 жыл бұрын

Lmao

@Covers-and-Commentary

5 жыл бұрын

Im too blunt i need to learn this art

@OliviaBaeBy

5 жыл бұрын

@@Covers-and-Commentary You can mix it in lol

@jenniferedmond2897

5 жыл бұрын

I stand for this ministry.

White women love to ask, "is that your real hair?" To shade black women. If I'm wearing weave, I say, "no. It's really good for adding length and volume", you should try it for volume".

@kawaiikoibito3268

5 жыл бұрын

I love this response💗 do you have good responses for when men ask this question?

@KDbelieves

5 жыл бұрын

@@allisonmcinnis5929 and Kawaii Koibito. When it comes to men the best thing to do is answer it honestly and be unbothered. You can't shade them based on looks because men aren't centered around looks as much as women. Honestly, this is one of the biggest reasons why black women should stop wearing weave or wear weave that looks like it's their hair. White women LOVE extensions, but no one ask them if it's their real hair because they wear extensions that match their real hair.

@KDbelieves

5 жыл бұрын

@@kawaiikoibito3268 Look at my previous response.

@kawaiikoibito3268

5 жыл бұрын

@@KDbelieves I agree with you but shading men on looks can help too I think a biggest misconception is that men don't worry about looks as much as women (which is true to an extent) but I've seen men get insecure and flusterd when criticize for their looks

@KDbelieves

5 жыл бұрын

@@kawaiikoibito3268 I get what you mean, of course if you see a flaw like them balding or if they have a bird chest, call it out.

If someone says you look pretty for a dark skinned girl- smile, say thank you and then say it back to them. For example say to them ‘ohhhh thanks. You also look pretty for a white/Asian girl’ or ‘you are attractive for a white/Asian guy’.

@pink_magical_girl

5 жыл бұрын

Brilliant!

@silkyfeather5254

5 жыл бұрын

You look young for a white woman

@msliberated3899

5 жыл бұрын

🙌🏾

@chamham6734

5 жыл бұрын

@@silkyfeather5254 💀💀😂

@ashleycrystal9719

5 жыл бұрын

Silky Feather I’m Dead 💀💀😂😂😂😂

I hate that a really nice feminine black woman is considered “fake” by many people. White and Asian women can be overly friendly and bubbly but when a black women has this personality some people feel we have a motive or something. I’ve even had people say about me “with her happy ass” as if it’s a bad thing. 😔

@nononsensea9068

5 жыл бұрын

I understand . Some people use to ask me why am I so smiley all the time. It gets annoyed because I’m a happy person why can’t I show it 🙄

@anaananab

5 жыл бұрын

@@nononsensea9068 But when we don't have a smile plastered on our face 24/7 like an archaic statue, then we're the mad black women who should lighten up and smile more. It's crazy in these streets. Keep smiling and do whatever feels genuine to your soul.

@Tan87ful

5 жыл бұрын

Good point

@whereyougoiwillgo.744

5 жыл бұрын

I agree. I love being a happy person. My husband, kids and friends always tell me to never change. I refuse to be miserable.

@zoraxye4325

5 жыл бұрын

Being happy while black....smh Let us live!

One thing I have noticed is that when BW navigate In predominantly non-Black communities is how certain WW will reach over random BWs without saying "excuse me". They probably do this to be territorial and to express social dominance, because anytime someone invades your personal space buffer zone, that is aggressive. So when this happens on occasion, trip them out & calmly smile and say, " Am I in your way?" They usually get flustered and say "No", to which you can reply "Ok, I wasn't sure, because you were reaching over me". It embarasses the hell out of them, because it puts their tacky manners on blast, and they usually apologize or say "excuse me" and slink away.

@daimonaethomas8194

4 жыл бұрын

Yourboss Ismyslave thank you Eye needed this cause ppl used to do this and this is a good response besides mine which would have been get up in a hurry bump into them and be like oh you fell didn’t see you there if you weren’t reaching over me or said excuse me you may not have fell

@miar.1570

4 жыл бұрын

Yourboss Ismyslave Thank you! I didn't know how to handle this without getting the weaponized tears.

@katsterling2226

4 жыл бұрын

Yourboss Ismyslave FACTS. The easiest thing to do is to expose their poor manners.

@katsterling2226

4 жыл бұрын

One of my other favs... SHOPPING CART buffer!!! They ALWAYS INVADE YOUR SPACE🙅🏽‍♀️😳🤬Sooooooo... even if I have a 1 tiny item... I bring a cart to the register to put BEHIND me. They will be perch on your shoulder like a hawk ! Deep down they CLEARLY LOVE US! Or why be soooo close? Stalk Much? Cringe !! And yeah... never saw it not happen. Whew ... ok..Ladies grab a 🛒 😉🤣🤣🤚🏽ww give me 3-4 feet.

@katsterling2226

4 жыл бұрын

Aaaaaaahhhhh and NOWWWWW PEOPLE HAVE TO PRACTICE WHAT IVE BEEN SAYING .... BACK UP N GIVE ME 3feet...aka Social Distancing! Enjoy Life Everyone😘😘😘😘🤚🏽3ft..😘😘😘😘

I've learned this from my mother who has always worked in corporate america surrounded by catty white women and white men. I just did this to a white man in walmart. I accidentally knocked over something off a shelf, i was going to pick it up but i took my time cuz i was still shopping. This white man got all red in the face, crossed the aisle, picked it up, let it drop hard on the shelf while giving me a nasty look. I said "oh excuse me can you tell me what aisle the fabric softener is in?" He looked at me and said " i dnt work here!" I said "Really?? Ohh Hmm... You oughta see if they're hiring? Pointing at what he picked up all while smiling an laughing and walked away so fast before he could respond.

@whatsonhermind1768

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@PortraitofAsha

5 жыл бұрын

Oh ma gawwww. That's epic! I'm crying 😂😂😂

@lynnmorris8659

5 жыл бұрын

You got him good!!! I would have been on the floor laughing!😂😂😂😂😂

@nonagem8285

5 жыл бұрын

@@lynnmorris8659 i had to! the look he gave me was so nasty.

@nonagem8285

5 жыл бұрын

😁😎

This is why black parents need to stop the 'because I said so' to their children when they speak and encourage them how to use their words and articulate their thoughts. This would actually help black people when it comes to these situations.

@DailyPositiveAffirmatives

5 жыл бұрын

This is exactly an often missed point in child rearing in the black community. Tolerating back talk and teaching your child to put others in their place is not the same thing! An adult should question authority in certain contexts.

@nowthatsacookie

4 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@Nisha_94

4 жыл бұрын

YOU ARE SO RIGHT.

@daimonaethomas8194

4 жыл бұрын

Hilary Osborne but back talk isn’t always back talk either sometimes kids are defending their stance and an adult doesn’t give them room too

@daimonaethomas8194

4 жыл бұрын

But Eye get both points made

I did that to an old white lady at the dollar tree the other day. She said is there a separator I don’t want my stuff touching her stuff. I laughed out loud and said sweetie I had no intentions on paying for your stuff.

@StephLashea

4 жыл бұрын

LOL, That's a good one!

@nyasiawhite1325

4 жыл бұрын

YESSS 💪🏾

@nicbocci1694

3 жыл бұрын

oohh, sick burn👍🏽🤣

@kickballfever

3 жыл бұрын

I thought maybe the old lady was paranoid about the Rona. Noticed your comment is from a year ago and now I think the old lady was just paranoid, period.

@jewellavie

2 жыл бұрын

Good one 😂😂😂

One tactic that I really like is playing dumb and making them explain themselves. "Why would you do that?/Why would you say that to me?" It redirects attention to their comments or behaviors and makes you seem more like the victim.

@Original-Michiko

5 жыл бұрын

Elizabeth Gatsby Yup 😂 they expect you to get upset off bat so they never think of having to explain themselves. I do it and watch them stumble over themselves.

@KristaaRae

5 жыл бұрын

Yes!! And to say it in a sweet, soft voice helps

@beautifulllb9493

5 жыл бұрын

White people 101

@Bloombaby99

4 жыл бұрын

@@beautifulllb9493 Exactly. A classic white woman tactic.

@fittomakeup3991

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

I’m a British Born Black woman and I feel passive aggressiveness is a British Forté lol I usually use dry humour as a way to be shady, or if someone makes a dig at me, I may even agree and somewhat use their comment as ammo to shade them. I remember a woman I work with was Outraged at Princess Eugenie getting married on a Friday. Saying how it’s cheap and goes against tradition etc I said, “what’s wrong with getting married on a Friday? Nothing wrong with saving a bit of money” And she said “well it’s alright for a commoner to get married on a Friday but not royalty.” - but said in a way to suggest that i’m the commoner. I responded and said “yes, that’s true. A weekday would be perfect for both of us then.” She scoffed and said “absolutely not.” And left it as that ☺️ Naomi Campbell is a perfect example of a black woman who throws shade with grace.

@chabbie

5 жыл бұрын

I’m black British too and this made me chuckle! Sarcasm/passive aggressiveness is pretty much second nature and basically taught in schools in England. I can just imagine her face 🤣 We’re all commoners love, get off your imaginary high horse. No silver spoon? Then shut the heck up 🤣🤣🤣

@julissareign5942

5 жыл бұрын

Naomi campbell is a bitch😂

@TheThriftQueen

5 жыл бұрын

naturallybronzed xo Naomi is queen! I love how she does it too!lol And been doing it for years checking weak bitches 🤣🤣🤣

@LittleMissDeeDee

5 жыл бұрын

Chantal exactly! We work in the same office Monday-Friday, mate! But she has a reputation of being on her high horse. I think going to boarding school and growing up with children from wealthy families has spoilt her a little (or dare I say A LOT). Her dream is to own a 6 bedroom house in Windsor - right next door to the Queen I imagine 🤣🙄

@LittleMissDeeDee

5 жыл бұрын

Julissa Reign yes - but it’s great LOL when warranted 😆

I told a white manager she was being very aggressive and I didn’t feel comfortable speaking with her alone. I kept repeating, “I don’t feel comfortable, you’re being aggressive” We found another manager as a witness and she apologized for her behavior.

@ImehSmith

3 жыл бұрын

👍👍👍😝😝

@CroatanWolf44

3 жыл бұрын

Love to see it

I had an older white lady cashier try to go to the bathroom right before she checked my groceries out & I was the last in her line. So I pointed it out to her that no one was behind me & she put her open hand in my face & said "I'm counting" I smiled & asked the cashier next to her to get the manager. He came & I smiled at him & asked him "how are you " & proceed to tell him what happened & she tried to play that confused I'm the victim role talking about " I didn't know I did that & I don't want a problem " I finally looked at her again smiling & said "darling it's about your rudeness, you put your hand in my face, no conversation is needed, please just do your job" her boss agreed with me. apologized to me.

@gigif169

7 ай бұрын

Well done

Kenya Moore and Omarosa are amazing at this.

@WhitneyKM

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, I agree.

@mrs.kramer4387

5 жыл бұрын

LOL YES. This is why I love/hate Kenya.

@SunRayBabyJ

4 жыл бұрын

Yesss they are

@TyCChronicles

4 жыл бұрын

Phaedra Parks too

@milenewentacem

4 жыл бұрын

@Jasmin Royal Aquarius and Gemini women. Naomi is Gemini... like Chrissi

Im a college student (math major) and I work as a waitress. I’m really quiet and outspoken. So I think the other females at my restaurant think they can comment on me or attack me for no reason simply cuz they have an attitude all the time or are unhappy with their lives. I NEVER comment back. Which does give people the impression that they can say what they want to me. But one time I got tired of it. The girl (late 20s two kids) told me “shut your mouth little girl you’re only 20 don’t come in here thinking you can say shit” I said simply, with a quiet tone, a little sarcasm, and a smile “yeah I’m 20...getting an education. I’ll be out of your hair soon because I’m not going to stay working at a restaurant into my late 20s. I got a degree to finish” (literally no offense to anyone I just had to say this to her cuz she’s always complains about not being able to pay rent or but her son soccer gear) but her jaw just dropped and she had no response.

@staceywill8831

5 жыл бұрын

Lol! Love it. I was in a similar situation. I had the come back in my head but was too shy to say it

@TiaMcGregor

5 жыл бұрын

HAHA!!

@vonbook1973

5 жыл бұрын

Bloop!!! Mic drop! 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

@fittomakeup3991

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂👏👏👏

I'm going to have to work on that "not hitting below the belt part", my words are venomous, I go straight for the kill.

@vharwood5643

5 жыл бұрын

Same.

@PortraitofAsha

5 жыл бұрын

Same.

@ninasamone87

5 жыл бұрын

Lol

@blackamethyst721

5 жыл бұрын

Stephanie Simon Same lol

@susiebear3316

5 жыл бұрын

I am quick to hit below the belt especially when I make it clear that I am not a willing participant in the bullshit and people keep on trying to test me

One more: When doing common courtesies such as holding the door for someone, and the person dos not say thank you or acknowledge the courtesy, say "You're welcome." in an upward inflection but still maintain a slightly accusatory tone. Again, a smile is key. This happened a lot when I worked in an office and it seemed that everyone was thanked for doing helpful little things *except* for me. Another thing to do in these spaces is to character build. Always be seen as someone who is nothing but helpful, ladylike and thoughtful to the *right* people in the *right* places. It makes a difference.

@nydea4realbaby

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, I started doing this and it took some people off guard. Now I try not to hold doors. One old racist women even said that I'm not gonna pay you for that..

@JayAntoinette

5 жыл бұрын

@@nydea4realbaby I stopped going out of my way to hold doors for people too but still do other little things. It's interesting. When you stop doing said niceties or expect just a small ounce of a "thanks", you're made to feel some type of way.. what a rude woman... and people wonder why others aren't as polite or conscientious of others. Old white women are something else.

@LittleMissDeeDee

5 жыл бұрын

I found this comment really interesting. It really highlights the cultural difference from country to country. In the UK, you are scorned and somewhat ostracized if you are someone who doesn’t acknowledge niceties like having the door opened for you. It’s not a race or gender thing - it’s cultural. I must admit, when I travelled to the states and realised this isn’t practiced everywhere, I found it so infuriating that someone would let a door shut in another persons face. Stranger or not.... hmm 🤔

@JayAntoinette

5 жыл бұрын

@@LittleMissDeeDee That is interesting. I can say certainly that it can also be regional. I'm from the east coast, so people tend to be more rude and a bit cold. Whereas, maybe some place like the south, people tend to be warmer and friendlier. Key words being *tend to be* but as we all know...

@ameenahsf

5 жыл бұрын

@@LittleMissDeeDee yes and its regional too. I live in the south and (up until recently because people are moving over in droves) it was unfathomable for a man to not hold the door for women or young not do so for older people etc. General manners were an expectation. Went to the east coast and that was the first time I got yelled at for waiting on what I assumed was going to be a man to open the door for me 😂 learnt my lesson quick!

What I do is use large words, a sweet but stern tone, and a smile when cutting people off. A lot of times they're stuck trying to figure out that one word while understanding to get tf out of my face.

@Lidiroyal

5 жыл бұрын

beautiful blacksoul I do this too!!

@Zeldarw104

5 жыл бұрын

yes! Get the funk outta my face! Love-it.👈🏾

@melissah6881

5 жыл бұрын

The large words tactic is my favorite. Once, I had a women ask me "why are you using big words".

@goddessshawn1923

5 жыл бұрын

@Lessa harvey....😂😂

@beautifulblacksoul8611

5 жыл бұрын

@@melissah6881 I love that little dumb look they get. Makes my smile genuine as I wait for them to move along. 😂

I've done this to a white guy on my job. He would knit pick on everything I was doing. So I just started smiling and laughing at him. He couldn't do or say nothing, and this older black man came to my defense and started confronting him. Never knew there was a name for, but I was tired and was gonna fake til made it.

@Tan87ful

5 жыл бұрын

Damn. I like your approach towards that guy. I’ve dealt with that too on the job

@hunny585

4 жыл бұрын

wowww greatt idea girllll xxx

This can be so difficult for black women, because our culture doesn’t encourage passive aggression, only directness, confrontation, and aggression. It not to say that those characteristics aren’t needed, it’s just that it isn’t a part of the larger cultural landscape. We have to learn how to code switch in that way.

@tajam4769

5 жыл бұрын

You misunderstand. This is to be used in scenarios where if you were to react outright you risk losing your job or cops being called and looking like an aggressor. This is perfect advice.

@yoruba21

4 жыл бұрын

I need to learn how to be passive aggressive.

@Melcatsite

9 ай бұрын

Trying to learn this, about to start a new job with mostly white coworkers.

I had a very aggressive colleague who would act as though she was my superior and give me orders in front of our co-workers, like very rudely demand: go get me that file! and the others would like anticipate what my reaction would be. The first couple of times I really didn't know how to react, then one time I decided to try a strategy to confuse her. I gave a very polite reply like: 'Sure, I'll do that in a minute' and totally ignore her. She sat fixating me it was almost scary, while I played on my computer, ate my lunch. Every time she repeated: I need those files, I would be like: "in a minute, dear" and continue with what I was doing. It was a comical situation. I admit I need to practice keeping cool

@glorfindelchocolateflowery6392

3 жыл бұрын

Wow your brave

@ImehSmith

3 жыл бұрын

😝😝😝👍👍👍👍

@KrissyFizzle

Жыл бұрын

🤣😭😭😭😭

@candiedsugarxo4462

Жыл бұрын

Girl I wish I could lol I need practice hiding my annoyance.

@squidy6785

8 ай бұрын

You can also say, "Please?", directly after her rude demands. To remind her to have some manners.

I’m saving this video for feature reference. I was dealing with a guy who would dismiss my feelings, and when I voiced my concerns, he tried to play into the “angry black woman” narrative. I actually thought I was very calm and collected about it. I didn’t yell, or have an “attitude”. He said it was a joke but it wasn’t. That’s how he felt about black women as a whole. There are some people who will try to continue that whole narrative even when you’re not being the stereotype. I’m going to do my BEST to watch my mannerisms and demeanor so that I don’t deal with people who will try to use my blackness against me. Edit: Actually Chrissie, I’d love a part two of this!

@dequetta_lashae

5 жыл бұрын

I’m going through the same thing with my soon to be ex husband

@MsFlamingFlamer

5 жыл бұрын

Royaltydeaux write him up to HR

@UnknownUnknown-yl1lt

5 жыл бұрын

@@dequetta_lashae Same..its exhausting.

@deej5608

5 жыл бұрын

@@PicassoBabyDC WELL SAID

@queenlcq7901

5 жыл бұрын

Girlllllllll.....let me telllllllll you! that's their favorite thing to say..... why do you have an attitude or why are you angry?? Even if you are just talking. and you have an opposed opinion or an opinion at all, you're being aggressive. these men are crazy. just laugh at them because they want you to get upset. that's why they say it...to be right..to make you look like a stereotype and control you...its soo sickening smh..and I know its difficult to stay calm because it's annoying when someone tells you that are upset and you're not. but come up with something because they will pull you out of character and try to ruin your day. it makes them happy.

I'm shy and introverted person. I'm also sensitive when people are rude towards me so I kinda get emotional. I haven't mastered keeping my emotion together sometime.

@Babygirlj12

5 жыл бұрын

I'm shy and introverted as well, not so emotional though. It's hard for me to think quick on me feet, so that come back always comes to me after the fact.

@brklyn2922

5 жыл бұрын

When I start to get emotional or teary eyed, I pinch myself and it works for me.

@littleplanetgal4142

5 жыл бұрын

Same I'm shy and kinda sensitive but I'll be damn before someone tries me.

@bubblegumprincess6362

5 жыл бұрын

Me too sis. Being introverted and overly emotional can be a set back at times. 😪

@jurikowhy359

5 жыл бұрын

I’m a introvert too, but my problem is that I’m afraid I’ll go too far and end up in a fight. I can’t hold back on the curse words when I’m 😡

I was in David Bridals picking up my dress and shoes for my baby sister's wedding I was a bridesmaid and the worker asked me was I putting my items on layaway and I said this is David's bridal the clothes in here are not that expensive no I don't need to put them on layaway and there was a young lady behind me and she just started cracking up and miss cashier turned so red I loved every minute of it, I guess because I was black I couldn't afford to buy a dress and a pair of shoes I had to put them on layaway they kill me with that s*** lol🤣🤣🤣

@nicolenicole2198

5 жыл бұрын

Nice clap back sis 💪

@tammyschannel8809

5 жыл бұрын

@@nicolenicole2198 Thank you sweetie ❤️💕🖤💖

@UnknownUnknown-yl1lt

5 жыл бұрын

😂🤣😂

@missauntietom

5 жыл бұрын

@@nicolenicole2198 yeah, I agree that was a good one

@kscript9127

5 жыл бұрын

I went through something like this. I was at the supermarket with a cart full of food/wine/ice all kind of the stuff and the white lady cashier seemed annoyed to even ring up my items. I had about $200 worth of items. Once she’s finished ringing up my items she loudly says “you got food stamps?” I was appalled. She asked no one else this question. I proudly said “no I don’t have food stamps, master card please”. I wish I would have said more but I was so happy to prove her wrong. This is exactly why I stopped getting food stamps as soon as I got a decent job. Every time I am paying for food white folks behind me check to see what I’m paying with.

At my old job people were so uncomfortable and disappointed with me not fitting their preconceptions of a black woman. I always kept to myself and I code switched like crazy 😂 Yeen need to get to know me during lunch; I was about my labor and coins ✌🏾

@Tan87ful

5 жыл бұрын

Ana Banana exactly. I feel the same way at my current job as well as my past jobs. They want you to act like a stereotypical black woman but it’s smart not to act that way

@pinklady2994

5 жыл бұрын

White people love it when bw are walking stereotypes

@anaananab

5 жыл бұрын

@Lulu Lol, what a clever response. And omg I cannot tell you how many times older people have given me unwanted advice on the facial expressions I should wear.

@Alkemiss

4 жыл бұрын

How can I love this 🤣❤

My go to is telling people calm down and and laughing. It highlights how ridiculous they look.

@Tan87ful

5 жыл бұрын

True

@fittomakeup3991

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@pinkqueenscookie

4 жыл бұрын

Me too. Or I say please keep it professional at work. I have had someone explode and the administrator happed to come around the corner as she was screaming ratchet bitch to me hahaha. She was fired that week.

@AP-uc8rr

3 жыл бұрын

@@pinkqueenscookie why did she explode like that? Lol

@pinkqueenscookie

3 жыл бұрын

@@AP-uc8rr I am a special education teacher, my classroom was short staffed that day and my assistant brought the lunch bag down 15 minutes late. The lunch lady came back up to scream how disrespectful I was being, in the presence of sleeping children…who she woke up and scared. Truth be told I apologized but she wanted me to beg, so I laughed. That set her off and the cursing ensued.

These methods definitely work better than playing up the stereotype they wanna keep us in.

Can you make one about dealing with other black women like this especially the ratchet acting stereotypical ones? 🙄 Those who see other black women as a threat especially those who aren't loud mouths by nature.

@aishabowboa7198

5 жыл бұрын

Yessss. They think bc you're quiet you won't say anything and it gets me so upset

@lavellans

5 жыл бұрын

Being calm and collected is your saving grace. They usually assume being polite and professional means you are not assertive. Politely put them right back in their place. Loud women like this look a fool on their own when you are calm and don’t sink to their level. And keep your reputation positive with the people who matter.

@shamere1993

5 жыл бұрын

@Princess Dia Yes you hit the nail on the head! I hate to say it but I've had better experiences with white women than I've had with our own kind. I'm not saying white women haven't tried me but it's been nothing like what the black women have done. I wasn't raised in the hood and didn't resort to fighting, I was actually afraid to get in trouble though I have a very crazy side to me when provoked because I take it personally that I don't bother people and respect them and still some of those same people will go out of their way to do the opposite to me. I was shy and quiet growing up and had long relaxed hair( now I have my natural 4c hair), very intelligent, mature for my age and didn't use slang so many of the girls would pick on me for those reasons and some wanted to be my friend for those very same reasons. I definitely stood out and was constantly told this from adults of all races. It was because I wasn't the stereotype that I stood out in a positive way. My profile picture is actually Lauren London but when I had my real picture up here I constantly heard a lot of the things you said so I'll still take that compliment lol. I don't look too far off from her and I love to dress just like she is in this picture and yes I am black not biracial I'm what Chrissie considers "safe brown" for anyone who's wondering based off what I said. I took my picture down for the very reason Chrissie doesn't show her face. I don't need voicing my opinions about colorism affecting my everyday personal life/reputation not until I get myself to where I have more financial stability and protection.

@shamere1993

5 жыл бұрын

@@aishabowboa7198 Yes it's very triggering!

@shamere1993

5 жыл бұрын

@Princess Dia Yes girl the temptation of wanting to disown my race is so tempting at times and not due to self hate reasons but specifically because of how my own race treats me as if I'm not black because I act with class and dignity. We are a different breed! Let's not get on the ignorance that runs rapid in this community and crabs in the barrel mentality...

Lol, I went to a predominately white high school and I did this to much teacher, she asked me if I knew (insert common black name) and than I replied 'No I don't it's such a big world out here, do you know (common white persons name )? When I tell she was soo embarrassed, I actually use this tactic often. Good work Chrissie

This native American girl at my job asked me how much money I spent a month on weave. Now I transition my hairstyle a lot and a wear weave just as much as my natural hair and the weave I wear is often textured so well that people ask if it's my hair. I just smiled at her and said, "why? Are you my personal accountant now?" She tried to back track. "No I was just wondering because I want to buy a wig." Now mind you, how much money do YOU spend a month on weave, and how much money does THIS wig cost are 2 different questions. I smiled and answered, "it depends on the style and wear you buy it." And just left her there.

LOL OMG I DONT FEEL SAFE CALM DOWN

@ktg8670

5 жыл бұрын

LMAO...I'm DEFINITELY going to do this next time I'm in this situation. When Chrissie said this, I busted out laughing because for some strange reason, I imagined Carlton from Fresh Prince saying this!

@stanfatou2002

5 жыл бұрын

@@ktg8670 yass it's so funny! I love how dramatic it is lol I'm totally doing it

@ashleycrystal9719

5 жыл бұрын

Kimberely Groves Carlton 🤣🤣🤣

An old supervisor tried to run analytics on my productivity and said I only closed 82 cases the entire month of December. First I keep manual track of my work so I knew that was a lie. They tried to argue me down saying this is hard facts. spoke to her boss afterwards and I get an email from them the next morning talking about I actually closed 590. I said that's funny that was left out considering this was the topic for this meeting. Yet that information was presented so confidently. they got defensive like oh were just trying to help and thought I would appreciate her double checking. No bitch.

@julissareign5942

4 жыл бұрын

No bitch🤣🤣🤣🤣

My problem is that I don't have comebacks until it's too late. I always know the perfect thing to say RIGHT AFTER they're out of my face, smh. How do you overcome this? ugh

@marquel2211

5 жыл бұрын

This is so me and its annoying! 😂😂

@jurikowhy359

5 жыл бұрын

That’s me, except I’ll have a comeback the next week

@beesnees3070

5 жыл бұрын

sd4590 too emotional and not present. Be Present!

@MesRevesEnRose

3 жыл бұрын

Me... But best believe I'll be ready for the next time lol

@nicolem2877

3 жыл бұрын

Well don’t give them the satisfaction that they bothered you. At least you hv that!

One of my white coworkers during the Mike Brown protests asked me why are they looting it really concerns me because my stepson is in the national guard and all I said to her was How can I speak for any looters do u think I know them personally? And she started crying and made a complaint about me saying I was hostile towards her!

@simplybeautiful9885

4 жыл бұрын

This could have worked for you also; she asked you a question assuming, using your race alone, that you could identify with a looter simply because they were black - falls under racism. Becky might have needed a few sensitivity classes sponsored by your employer.

@Memomommy

Жыл бұрын

Lmfaoooooooo wtf crazy

@tiffanygrey6204

4 ай бұрын

Next time you get a question like that say I’m not sure why.. but can you tell me why young boys result to shooting up schools when they feel misunderstood? That’s concerning to me as well

Had a "friend" who used to do this to me. Left her in 2018.

@Minikat93

5 жыл бұрын

Same here. Left her ashy ass in 2018

@reginalewis7225

5 жыл бұрын

Me tooo!!!

@haitiangal1361

5 жыл бұрын

Minikat93 ashy LMAOOO

@Zim24Diva

5 жыл бұрын

Pantherette Power Yes!! I also left my high school “friend” in 2018 along with a miserable former coworker turned “friend” who loved to project her issues onto me.

@Lorob854

2 жыл бұрын

Seriously !!! This isn’t for “friends” to do to each other that’s crazy. I totally get it

I love this video. I definitely use nice nasty all the time. I actually used it a couple of months and it got this woman fired. We had a verbal exchange and I guess my calm tone and demeanor made her angrier. At one point in the conversation I told her she really needed to calm down, and I guess they made her more upset. So she eventually threatened to “ kick my ass.” Nobody heard me, but they damn sure heard her threat. I then wrote down everything that happened and what was said ending it by saying that I did not feel comfortable working with this woman and that I didn’t feel safe. I also wrote that I didn’t want to have to continue working with someone that I have to constantly look over my shoulder worrying if I’m going to get my ass kicked during or after work. So they fired her ass by the end of that week.

@beesnees3070

5 жыл бұрын

ninasamone87 was that Starbucks?

@ninasamone87

5 жыл бұрын

Bees Nees- No, it wasn’t in a customer service establishment. It was in a corporate establishment with attorneys which made the situation even more crazy on her end.

@ninasamone87

5 жыл бұрын

cheekybaby LMAO!... I’m way too old to be involved in physical altercations. Besides, I wouldn’t have to, because she’s one of those chics who’s all bark and no bite. I grew up with a lot of chics like that in the hood. You know...the ones that swear up and down there going to do something, but don’t do a damn thing...lol

@TheUrbanPrude

4 жыл бұрын

I can relate.

@ImehSmith

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤔👍👍👍

I’ve learned this technique while working in retail. Came in handy because that customer can’t turn around and report me for being rude. Also it makes them look stupid.

@ImehSmith

3 жыл бұрын

OKAAAY🤣🤣👍👍👍

My grandma used to call me this Miss Nice Nasty

GIRL...hit the nail on the head. I'm in a predominantly WM career and my two go to phrases are " I feel targeted" and/or "I'm uncomfortable and cannot be productive today with this type of environment" 7years strong same employer😃😃😃

I was a RA In college. One time we had to prepare some food for the residents in the dorm. I was washing my hands and this white coworker of mine decided to rinse her hand on top of mine since there was one sink. I went off on her. I was loud and she just stood there like “calm down”. I noticed that people went to her asking her what happened instead of me. I wish I handled it differently with a nice nasty response. Because it made me look belligerent even though I had every reason to be upset.

I'm an introvert who hates confrontations. So I'm either nice or very direct/nasty with my words (when you cross the line). Most of the time I stay calm, ignore and make sure they know I don't care..

I work in Construction it's White Male Dominated. They don't think about trying me.....

@lavellans

5 жыл бұрын

Power to you Sis!

@scrubbingoffinternet5221

5 жыл бұрын

Stay strong my sister. I left the trades due to the sexism/racism

@BeulahRWalker

5 жыл бұрын

sovereign blackwoman it’s very challenging.

I feel like as a french speaker, there is an advantage in using the "vous" and keep distancing yourself using eloquent word, making the other person feel inadequate and rude

@aprilflowers7015

5 жыл бұрын

I love that you guys have 'Tu' and 'Vous' to differentiate informal from formal. There's no ambiguity.

@felixfreckleshyunjinmoleye6243

5 жыл бұрын

@@aprilflowers7015 I love it to, I usually uses ''vous'' to speak with people I don't know until they allow me to use ''tu'' but if I don't like their demeanor I will keep on using ''vous'' to make it clear I don't want to get close in any shape or form with them

@nancym3041

4 жыл бұрын

French gang ✌🏾

@lester2588

4 жыл бұрын

Yassss! We have the same in Spanish (tú/sited) and it’s an awesome tool to use at times 😉😎

The best revenge is to go for their pockets. Never fight them physically. Make sure you document any and everything with time stamps and witnesses. You can sue any company for not taking the right to protect their employees against work retaliation, work bullying or even work harassment. Especially if there's cameras around. Then you go to HR and plead the case. If you lose your job you can still sue. Go to corporate and report them. Corporate does not play! They cant afford a law suit for defamation of character or even racism. Black woman know your legal rights within the work environment. Many aren't expecting us to stick up for ourselves. Hunnnty, when other peoples pockets are hurt, they take it personal. Lol as they should.

Love this! Nice Nasty is not my strength. I'm that person that tries to ignore people, but it ends up backfiring on me because as you said, they will still pick at you.

@PortraitofAsha

5 жыл бұрын

C'est ma vie. I tried to steer clear but they still took advantage. I left the job.

@lavellans

5 жыл бұрын

I am the same. I’d prefer not to deal with nasty people at all. I am not a pushover, and can absolutely hurt people, but what is the point of being mean back. I hope to perfect nice nasty and just finish them off quickz

@Londya

5 жыл бұрын

Same

@MesRevesEnRose

3 жыл бұрын

Some people you have to nip their attitude/behavior in the nub so it doesn't become a problem later.

I’m so glad you posted this video. Being a black woman working in an office, I have always encountered women, black women specifically, who constantly throw passive aggressive statements my way. It’s incredibly frustrating and I never know how to address them without me coming off to others as abrasive or ghetto. I know what I’d like to say, but I know that I would be fired quickly after. Please continue making content that uplifts and inform black women. We desperately need it to keep from losing our confidence and minds.

@mlovely9829

5 жыл бұрын

Lol 😂😂😂😂😂😂 you are the best

I’ve been doing this for years. I remember I did it when a mixed woman was debating with me. I flipped it on her and the men in the debate started defending me. Long story short, she got upset and blocked everyone. I guess she didn’t expect the men not to take up for her especially against a black woman

@TiaMcGregor

5 жыл бұрын

This exact thing happened to me the other day with a white woman on fb! she posted some really homophobic AND racist thing-- and i swearrrr she posted it JUST so she would seem edgy or whatever to the white men who inevitably commented agreeing w her. I got into it with her....after a few comments back and forth she essentially cries online...starts calling me hostile and saying the "world is broken" and then deleted her entire facebook!!! I couldnt believe i made her delete her whole fb. I was worried i was too mean, but during the whole convo i kept my cool and was just writing facts...and all the men she was trying to impress found her inability to debate + the weakness of deleting her fb to be super embarrassing.

I was having issues with a White Latina very passive aggressive and manipulative coworker who had it out for me. She has the managers by the ear and is usual able to use that to her advantage and get her way. This is how I handled the whole issue from start to finish. Number one: I never underestimated her or let my guard down around her. The girl is a snitch and always watching her targets for something she can run back to the managers with. Number two: I NEVER talked shit about her to anyone. This was even after I learned that she was talking about me. Whenever anyone else started bitching about her I just stayed silent. Number three: I made it a point to say hi to her every day in a sweet voice when others were around, and never rolled my eyes at her, cut her off, or sucked my teeth at her. Number four: I let her win a few battles in order to make her assume I am the weak one because I knew she would get cocky and slip up. Number five: This is the most important of all. I make it a point to engage with management and coworkers in a charming way that makes them assume I’m this really sweet innocent lady. When we chit chat and they ask me about my personal life, I will respond with how I finally tried a new recipe or restaurant I have been looking forward to, or how I’m thinking of taking up some random innocent sounding hobby. NEVER talk with coworkers/managers about your real personal life no matter how well you get along with them or how chill they may seem. She finally lost her cool and snapped at me in front of everyone when a manager assigned her to do a task that admittedly is tedious and time consuming. She tried to pawn it off on me. My response was to look at her in the eye with a concerned look on my face and say loud enough for others to hear. “You seemed a bit stressed. I’m currently too busy with my own work load to really lend a hand, but maybe you should talk to the boss and let her know you may not be the best for the job, and maybe you van be assigned something a bit more ummm…. Simple?” She was mad as hell but others were watching so she quickly apologized with some excuse about having a bad day and squeezed out a few crocodile tears. To her surprise, mine too, others quickly protectively around me to see if I was ok and a male coworker took her to go wait in another room. I overheard heard him say “whatever, you are always on her ass and she has never done anything to you. You need to get it together” She has hardly looked me in the eye since and I still keep my guard up when it comes to her.

@unrepentantjaegerist7236

5 жыл бұрын

I think you're my hero

@thelastshallbefirst6036

5 жыл бұрын

Bravo!!!!👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

@babytt8487

5 жыл бұрын

MyRedmamba LATINA WOMEN ARE NOTORIOUS FOR HATING ON BLACK WOMEN! HONESTLY!

@stanfatou2002

5 жыл бұрын

That was Awsome

@MesRevesEnRose

3 жыл бұрын

Lol I do this. But I go even further. When that person is rude to others, I will go and comfort the others and let them rant about her. Then when it happens to someone else, I go and comfort them and say "she even did this to X person last week". Basically, I build bad will around the person (and make sure everyone knows of their track record) but good will around myself. I learned that when there is a bully at work, they are usually also mean to others and you can use that to your advantage.

One way that I’ve used it, is some women were gawking, whispering and snickering at me and what I did was I smiled, waved and said, ‘hey, how are you doing’. Then my husband chimes in and said, ‘oh, do you know them?’ I said, ‘ No, but they were staring at me like they know me, so I figured I’d say hello’. And they shrunk to each other, feeling defeated. And ever since, i haven’t had a problem with stares.

i remember when the district manager and h.r came to fire me...white lady and black lady respectively....I knew it was coming so I didn't blink when h.r told me I was terminated ..effective immediately ....so I said ok...and sat there...as I began to get up the d.m (who looked pissed that I wasn't devastated) stops me and goes and one more thing....she couldn't finish....I said "aht aht aht u said 'immediately' " in a sweet reprimanding tone. boy she turned red as a rocket and damn near almost broke her ankle trying to come after me....everybody in the office laughed 🤣🤣🤣

Here are my favorites to use... “I’m very confused by your tone? Are you being hostile? Kindly clarify what you are trying to say to me”. “Oh let me put this in a way you can understand...”

I work with a WW in my job and at a time I was struggling with my new job responsibilities and training conflicts. We were at the same position at the time and she wanted me to treat her as my superior, any time I didn’t she gave me the nice nasty attitude. When we had a meeting to plan/divide our job responsibilities, she tried to call me out constantly being passive aggressive (and me properly defending myself) and finally she says “I want these duties because sometimes you don’t do them” And I had already had a conversation with management about this issue. I said “I totally understand your frustrations and I have had a hard time but that’s why we’re here, to plan our workloads better. My plan in the future is to get better at those so yes, I would still like those duties.” She turned BEET red and there was an awkward silence. The boss could sense the tension and after that she still tried me a couple more times (purposely leaving me out of lunch orders, arguing about comprehension of a task) and once I demonstrated that it didn’t bother me and continued that mirroring tactic, now she’s OH so cool with me. 😂

I did this today at work with a difficult resident and it made him look ridiculous in front of everybody. Nice Nasty works wonders. 💕👠

@UnknownUnknown-yl1lt

5 жыл бұрын

What happened?

@kawaiikoibito3268

5 жыл бұрын

Tell us what y'all said

@VintageAfro91

5 жыл бұрын

So basically this resident was throwing a hissy fit because we didn’t change his light bulb in his kitchen and we explained to him that we had one maintenance guy and he had to deal with emergencies earlier like fixing hot water heaters. He then made a comment “on feeding my family is important to me I need light.” And then I asked him “is the light the only thing sir? Is it the stove or the fridge?” He got quiet then and left.

Funny thing happened to me at happy hour! A guy walked up to me and said and I quote, “ you have got to be the ugliest woman I have ever seen.” Well I turned to him and said, “Awww... thank you I will take that as a compliment because out of all the women in here you chose to say something to me! There must be something extraordinarily attractive about me for you to come over to me!” Have a good evening!!! Funny thing he was sooo embarrassed that he left! I received numerous drinks from males in the establishment as well as women coming up to me saying, I want to just like you when I grow up!!!”

Excellent video Chrissie! Another nice nasty tip : sometimes people will try and pass off offensive statements about BW as a joke. In that case black women remain calm and sweet 😊 keep smiling and gently ask "I don't understand this joke can you explain it to me / be more specific ?" Effect guaranteed! (P.s : I am not a native English speaker, plz don't mind the mistakes)

@staciamj1

5 жыл бұрын

I like this, great idea

@TiaMcGregor

5 жыл бұрын

A white man tried to hit on me once by showing me a "funny pic of him at Halloween". It was him as kanye west in blackface. I was shocked and did as you said in this comment. Kept calmly asking what was funny about it, finally he yelled at me "IF U DONT GET WHY ITS FUNNY I'M NOT GONNA WASTE MY TIME EXPLAINING IT TO YOU". Maybe he thought cause i was mixed i would be ok with it, or maybe he would have done that to a full black girl too-- BUT he definitely did NOT like my response lol.

@eveeve3337

5 жыл бұрын

@@TiaMcGregor it always makes them lose their shit lol

@kawaiikoibito3268

3 жыл бұрын

@@eveeve3337 I love this!! 2 years later I still love it LOL

Lol i had a white male temporary supervisor who was negging me especially hard (he was contacting me by phone even after the work was finished to make me help him with HIS tasks). Then I started replying to him coldly and he asked “do I have to talk about this to our boss?” to try me and I said “yes, I don’t feel comfortable, I want talk to Stephen (my boss, he has a daughter my age)”. That supervisor dude quickly snapped out of it 😂

@noranjoku7651

Ай бұрын

That’s so weird. Good thing you were confident in yourself because he sounded lazy or like he had ulterior motives even using the threat of talking to your boss when you did nothing wrong. Stay safe

I worked with a woman in a restaurant as a server and she mastered the Nice & Nasty and it works. Blacks arent allowed to get upset and angry like other races. I debate and talk about race all the time especially online and I cant tell you how many people (mostly white)lost their minds when they couldn't get a rise our of me. We lose ground and respect when we lose our heads.

I think imma need a 5 part series on this ! It sucks I feel bullied at work by boss and she’s black ! I almost quit last summer ! So yea I’m all ears

@lila8008

5 жыл бұрын

How are things now? 💗

@therealdynasmith

5 жыл бұрын

Lilia still sucks still feel bullied smh I’m maintaining

@therealdynasmith

5 жыл бұрын

Helen Player I’m in fuck it mode at this point I realized on some level it’s jealousy, I’ve lost 35 lbs since this video and. It’s only got worse but I’m at a point where I’ve compartmentalized their fuckery and it don’t bother me as much ....

Not a class on shading Becky!😂😂😂

@The.Whoever

5 жыл бұрын

Why not? Becky is always shading and attacking us even when we're minding our own business.

@SupraSoulStar

5 жыл бұрын

Lol you have no idea what they put us through

@The.Whoever

5 жыл бұрын

@@SupraSoulStar Exactly. They are vicious! And we can't do or say anything in our own defense or we'll be accused of being the angry, jealous, crazy bw by everyone. Including bm. So if we can't beat them, let's join them and give them a taste of their own medicine. *ding, ding, ding! Class is in session!

@The.Whoever

5 жыл бұрын

@@TheKittiesKilll 😱💀 👏👏👏

@evaheve77

4 жыл бұрын

This is a video to understanding our emotions state of mind as of group of woman of colors, dealing with ever changing world of animals species around us, sir

This happened to me at Walmart the other day. An older white women was complimenting my children’s hair (which is a 3b curl pattern) and I say thank u but then she proceeds to start saying how much better it is then the other curly hair. And I said like mine? mind u I have my 4b fro out and proud. She backtracks n says oh no ur hair is beautiful. I said ok ended the conversation and proceeded to call corporate. The next day the manager calls me ( white woman) and attempts to defend the older whites woman by saying she didn’t mean that she’s really a nice person blah blah blah. I interrupted her and said no that comment was racist and inappropriate. The phone got really quiet on her end and she continued to apologize and say the woman Will be doing sensitivity training. I’m glad I didn’t start yelling at this old white woman. In the middle of the store bc I would have looked crazy. Now this is on her record and all her bosses know about it and corporate.

Chimamanda also knows how to handle herself in a very classy way.... I loved the way she answered the French journalist asked her if Nigeria had libraries..

1. Use sarcasm and be honest 2. Smile and eye contact 3. Be assertive

15:58 the phrase I learned from BBQ Becky (after she called the police on the brothers in the park in 2018) when the police showed up the first thing out her mouth was....."I'm being attacked" while crying fake tears. 🙄 So my line will be 😯 *gasp* "why are you attacking me?" Add in the surprised face with my hand over my heart for sincerity. 😈🤣🤣🤣

When I’m being attacked usually at work. I take a deep breath to steady my composure before any response. That’s how I manage to not give them a reaction. Always direct eye contact as well. When the exchange is done I also make a point of politely addressing the person whenever I see them ( good morning, good afternoon etc). It makes them so uncomfortable 🤣🤣🤣

My days always get better when Chrissie uploads

Naomi Campbell is another nice/nasty woman😂 She still keeps it cute though. I loveeee her !! 😍😍

There was a situation where I was getting tested for COVID19. The male nurse that was taking samples from my nose was complimenting me on my Louis Vuitton "inspired" face mask. His female co-worker was threatened by this and ask me if I got the mask from Louis Vuitton, which is basically her asking if it's fake which was rude, and I believe that her intentions were to embarrass me. I just responded by saying of course not. She ended up looking stupid because she either doesn't know the difference between real Louis Vuitton and inspired Louis Vuitton, or she's a grown ass mean girl.

Love how you chose omarosa automatically.😂🤣🥂

My oldest daughter. When she was only in middle school, realized I was well rehearsed in the "nasty-nice" conversations. She told me I should come up to the school and not her daddy, because I would know exactly how to "respond". I was glad I didn't need to explain the context to her.

@unrepentantjaegerist7236

5 жыл бұрын

Lol you have a cool daughter

Lesson 5. Stay on topic. Stick to the facts. Keep your composure. Composure. Composure. Composure. Composure. Composure. Composure. Composure Cool, calm and collected. This is the BEST strategy.

My mom always told me to ask questions like “ well , what do you mean by that ? I want to make sure I’m not misunderstanding you “ lol ‘

Hey Chrissie, I love your videos!! Can you also do an #askChrissie series? Where DSBW ask you questions, and well..you answer! Also, DSBW could send you photo/vido submission about their problems (Femininity, lifestyle, dating, style, weightloss, etx etc). Love you!!!!

@KL-bg8fi

5 жыл бұрын

Great idea.

@hijabimelanin4532

5 жыл бұрын

I love that idea

@puppyprincess2822

5 жыл бұрын

I would 💘 to see Chrissie kinda interact with her subscribers on a more personal level!

@puppyprincess2822

5 жыл бұрын

She could even do DSBW horror stories. Where her subscribers, followers, etc share their most deepest and horrified colorist, relationships, or nasty confrontations/ experiences.

@wearehere220

5 жыл бұрын

@@puppyprincess2822 Yes! That would be interesting.

With all the drama black women go through at work from all other demographics of people I am starting to realize maybe entrepreneurship is the route to go for me. I am tired of being degraded and stressed for a paycheck.

@margaritam.9118

4 жыл бұрын

Or we can work for a black-owned business ;)

Lesson 1. Smile ( in my case it would have to be a withering smile) "I didn't know you needed something, I didn't hear you say excuse me". Perfect. You won, Chrissie.

Rule Number 1: Never fall into the stereotype. Never live the narrative that they have pre-written for us. Keep it cute and classy ALWAYS

@vibrationawomanstouchrecor2870

2 жыл бұрын

Fuck their narrative

You're ABSOLUTELY right. This is me all day. I used to work in a very nice nasty aggressive environment that should have been a caring one. So, I learned to be even nicer nastier and it worked EVERYTIME. I really enjoyed going to work every day, ready for the challenge. You have to make your environment SUCCOMB to you. No one wants to come home from work everyday angry and upset , blood pressure up, because you're Being pushed around & walked on. FYI: never mix business and pleasure because if you have to go to work everyday prepared for this mess, being nice nasty everyday then the environment is very phony. If you go out with the job NEVER drink. Peace

I run into this ALOT with Hispanic women. My mom dealt with this alot too and it caused problems for her. I've gotten to the point where I do not put in applications at certain jobs because it is predominantly Hispanic women and I just KNOW they will give me problems, because they are envious of black women especially those who are feminine. This video is going to help give me my confidence back. Thank you!!🧡 oh yes and non black women DEFINITELY hate it women black women know how to use sarcasm because they think we can't. They expect for us to blow up.

@UltimateAccessory

Жыл бұрын

I’ve been at my job for 2 weeks and the person that’s giving me a problem the most is a Hispanic woman.

Great topic Chrissie! A lot of women nowadays tend to become over emotional when dealing with strangers who come at them sideways. Cut with your words, let it go and keep it moving. I try to go back and watch old episodes of Dynasty and Dallas for inspiration. Oooh those female characters were the most nice-nastiest women you'd ever want to meet😈

@Lidiroyal

5 жыл бұрын

ST AR do you the reboots? Or the original shows?

@Brooklyn_Muse

5 жыл бұрын

@@Lidiroyal I used to watch the originals with my mom when I was little😊

@ttothet1807

4 жыл бұрын

YES! Sue Ellen was the best ❤️❤️❤️

Yes Chrissie thank you for this. I need to learn how to be Nicesty. I'm evil loooool

@UnknownUnknown-yl1lt

5 жыл бұрын

Lol..me too. I always let my anger get the best of me and I end up being to harsh or hitting below the belt. I need to find a balance. I really needed this video.

@unrepentantjaegerist7236

5 жыл бұрын

You already are

I was waiting to be seated in the VIP area of a rooftop lounge with a wealthy older white man, his white friend and friend’s black girlfriend and sister. An older white lady and her husband passed by and she whispered “shit face” in my ear as they passed by. I looked at her with a confused smirk as I didn’t figure out she was referring to my skin color until they were already at the elevator. I decided to let it pass since she was far away already.. But imagine if I had reacted?! It would have been a bad look…she was just jealous anyway. LOL

If I’m interacting with someone who acts rude or bothered. I smile and ask are you okay? They are usually embarrassed and then they switch their energy.

@caramellove3946

3 жыл бұрын

Stealing this 🤣🤣🤣

Playing the victim when they get irate is genius 😂

Rando: I usually don't talk to black women Response: Don't start here, sweetheart. 🤭 👍

Omarosa is an Aquarius. We major in witticisms and thinking quickly on our feet.

@ninasamone87

5 жыл бұрын

Ricki McFarland, so true...lol

@precious3rare

5 жыл бұрын

So true about Aquarius! I hardly ever raise my voice, and I don’t curse. However, I do speak sarcastically when the situation calls for it.

@moonstonevenom1543

5 жыл бұрын

So are us Libras. Sarcasm is like a second language to us. 😂😂😂

@sibria

4 жыл бұрын

must not be all of us because I suck at it 😭

@avawilliams5827

4 жыл бұрын

My best friend is an Aquarius, this is 100% accurate

I saw this video when it first came out and I just rewatched it. After the first time watching it I found myself in two situations where in the end it was de-escalated, by non black men whom also then came in my defence! Both times I ended with saying ' wow that makes me feel uneasy' my arms held up and face in total shock. On the one occasion she, my white co worker, ended up turning bright red, head in her hands, saying sorry and having to leave the room! I was comforted and my co workers, who then and there expressed how wrong and out of hand it was. Trust me black women, its ok not to be 'strong' all the time, God gave us a range of emotions and capabilities learn how and when to tap into them. Correctly. Beneficially. Oh and I forgot to mention I am the Queen of Passive Aggressive Land and the Major of Sarcasm City ! Love from London, UK x x

This video was everything .... I wish someone had taught me this cause listening to you I realized white women have done ALL of these things to me and won in the end because I always responded with aggression. This should literally be a CLASS for black women

@avawilliams5827

4 жыл бұрын

Right.

For all the people who said Chrissie went down on Omarossa in her previous video, please rewatch because even then she praised how that lady knew how to play the game. I know it might be difficult for some people to understand but human beings are not 1D characters, they can have a lot of bad side and still do some things right. It's 2019, please stop with that black or white mentality, let's explore and exploite the grey's areas. Also, I apologize if I made any mistakes as English is not my first language

@eltinand1321

5 жыл бұрын

I remember the video and she did praise Omarosa. She used her look and demeanor as a great example of the way we should carry ourselves. I do love Omarosa though. I was super proud of her for being so strong and fierce but gracefully all the same.

Kill em with kindness ladies!!

Instead of being accusatory, I ask them questions. For example, if someone raises their voice. Instead of saying "you're being too loud" ask " wouldn't this conversation go better if your tone was lower?" and say it in a calm soft tone, and look at them like you're troubled or hurt. Also ask questions that lead them to a conclusion to your benefit. For example, when the woman in the office was huffing cause Chrissie didn't automatically move. You can also ask "wouldn't it be better to give me a heads up than anticipate I would read your mind?" And like Chrissie said smile or giggle while you say this. Accusing just makes them responsive and defensive. Asking them makes them think about what they are doing. Which leads them to embarrassment. I usually get an act of submission in some form when I do this.

“be strong and feminine at the same time”

I'm brownskinish so my color changes. Whenever I get dark, lighter black people go out their way to tell me I've gotten dark and that too much sun is unhealthy. I know they are not actually concerned about my health but are instead trying to make dark skin seem like a bad thing. When they say that, I smile and counter them with statistics about black people being more vitamin D deficient than other races and that psychologically people perceive richer toned skin as healthier and pale skin as sickly. I finish it off with a laugh and say something humorous like the darker the chocolate the richer the taste baby

@Anonymousthough

5 жыл бұрын

Nicole F haha that’s funny because my skin complexion is the same way. In the winter I am pale/light looking but when the summer/spring season kick in. I have a caramel skin color..

@Nicole-ei6dp

5 жыл бұрын

@@Anonymousthough lol same here 🍯🍫🍯🍫

Love your videos Chrissie, they are Informative, Straight Forward, and very inspiring. I love your videos thank you for educating our black women on the bullshit and helping them to soar to the top. Omarosa is a lawyer, and her clapbacks is lethal. Amen to Chrissie. I use to work at a Library, at my University and my boss was a nightmare. Oh my god, she was this crazy white lady and every student worker disliked her. She was litterally the type of boss who would ask us to do things for her and then she would turn around and talk about us to our supervisor Kristy. I let her slide because I wanted to see overtime how much was she going to reveal her true character. So on this particular day I go into her office and were having a discussion about possible changes she wants to make to the library. All of a sudden she just starts going off telling me that she don't like us and that were horrible people. So I respond with "Ok I'm sorry you feel that way." She immediately gets pissed off this woman turned so red, she literally looked like she was about to erupt. I immediately implement operation white woman crisis mode and start crying. All of a sudden here comes all of my coworkers and supervisors and they ask whats going on and I tell them Jen was being aggressive to me. All of them start cussing her out telling her leave him alone. Why are you messing with him. She was pissed off. But she never bothered me again and stayed clear of me period.

@chronicles6065

5 жыл бұрын

@Pooh Asia thanks

@Tan87ful

5 жыл бұрын

💯💯👏🏽👏🏽

High key just realized I’ve used this tactic before without even knowing😇👌🏾💕

@caramellove3946

3 жыл бұрын

Same

I have always been very aware of not being loud, ghetto, or "stereotypical" in any way. People at work actually comment on how calm I always seem. My issue is that I have a very expressive face. I don't have to say anything in a particular situation, and someone will say later on "Oh man the LOOK you gave her!" I need to work on not giving it away by my expression that I am pissed. Just continue to smile and sharpen my tongue....

So Chrissie just may be a genius. 😆

Yay!!! Let's get into it! Missed these videos 😍

I was once called aggressive for exuding confidence and not falling into this one black man's plight. He kept making comments signaling that he may have been interested in me, but he was very not classy with his advances. So I kept everything very direct. My response was, "It is because I'm black?" he gave me a blank stare and said "I don't like you"😂😬🤷🏾‍♀️.

i like omarosa. i look forward to the level up videos

@LilT9180

5 жыл бұрын

LilT Step 1 minute ago kzread.info/dash/bejne/hW193KOYfZfSaNY.html Omarosa Manigault Full Interview with Savannah Guthrie. Omarosa owned this interview! I am impressed. She controlled the interview and Savanna was so aggressive. This was a great example of how to handle someone that is testing you. Savannah is very confrontational and I love how classy and composed Omarosa was.

More videos on this subject! Keep the smile big and pretty ladies while you cutting them deep.🤗

Us brits have passive aggressiveness on lock loooool

@BrownSkinnedDiva95

4 жыл бұрын

So true Lol

@MesRevesEnRose

3 жыл бұрын

Yall are TOO much. Everyday is opposite day for the brits. Signed, a Canadian. 😂

@ashlove7330

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, I know I need to take notes from the Brits.

I really needed this Bc being a young black woman in the medical field is whew!

@Melcatsite

9 ай бұрын

Same!