I think the single biggest thing that makes people feel ugly is clothing today. We are expected to fit the clothes instead of expecting the clothes to fit us. All the try ons are exhausting and humiliating, really. If only the experience was going to a tailor or seamstress and having a garment created to make uniquely you look and feel good.

"When I'm mentally not 100%, I do not listen to a word my brain tells me." - I adore this, and the explanation that followed.

The funny thing is: i don't see the flaws you pointed out on yourself. I don't see your head being small, your shoulders being wide and your ears sticking out that much. You just look perfectly fine to me... Sometimes we just convince ourselves that we have THAT imperfection when in reality we're perfectly fine and nobody sees that imperfection other than ourselves

Most self esteem crush comes from parents...

I am tall and thin, but my experience has been one of beint shamed for not being curvy enough. It came from other girls/women, mostly. I think no matter what we do, others will try to tear us down.

@kitekatka18

7 ай бұрын

You are beautiful!

@notjustirene

7 ай бұрын

Exactly. And if people don’t try to tear you down for your looks, it will be for some other reason. Some people are just not nice.

@Call-me-Al

7 ай бұрын

There's no winning, doesn't matter what you look like there will always be so many people eager to talk shit about your looks just because they can.

@littlevoice_11

7 ай бұрын

I'm short and thin. People always comment on me negatively. They even shout in the street horrid things😢 Body acceptance for curves seems in be improving. But skinny-shaming is everywhere

@chiaradelia829

7 ай бұрын

Same experience since I was a little girl, for sure I can't understand how it feels to have a “non-conforming” body, but I can understand being under the radar for how you look: you're too skinny, do you even eat, but do you live by eating air, or even I can't believe you are this skinny and that you eat, so you must be lying….and so on. And I feel like this are also comments that come from society and stigma, and beauty standards.

I have a mantra: I am beautiful I am smart I am loveable Just because your brain says it doesn't mean it is true. Always be kind to yourself.

The only people i find ugly are the ones who are hurtful towards others. No matter how good looking their physical appearance may look.

This is such a joyously uplifting video, Jenny! I’m basically in a phase of talking rubbish about myself in all ways…despite the fact that many people compliment me by saying they love my quirky outfits and that they think I look cute. I am addressing the underlying dissatisfaction with my overall life that often contributes to my self opinion. I’m sure grief has something to do with my attitude, as my mother passed away six months ago.

We are not our bodies. The body is so temporary. It is a vehicle that our consciousness drives in this lifetime; and like any car, we eventually put it in park and walk away from it. There were a few exercises in the book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels that taught detachment from thoughts and body which I liked. It helped me to realize that I am not my body, nor the thoughts about my body.

Jenny!!! You have no idea what a life saver you are with these videos in the Ugly Series. Honestly, they're my favorite. You are such a beauty icon, so gorgeous and unique and edgy, I mean you're a whole era of beauty and fashion all in yourself ☺️ Just knowing that someone so flawless struggles with the same occasional doubts and "I look bleh" kind of days, it's actually a comfort to me. Seeing how triumphant you are never ceases to amaze me! Thank you for your words of wisdom, I cherish them and guard them on my journey to being a happier more self confident me. Nothing brings sunshine to my day like a Jenny Mustard video!! LOTS OF HUGS!!!!🤗💖💖💖💖

@allisonmae3445

7 ай бұрын

100% agree Jenny has inspired confidence in me and style!

This video could not have found me at a better time. I’m 27 years old. I’ve always been short and curvy. My thighs and stomach protrude more than the rest of my body. I’ve struggled with hormonal acne since I was 9 years old. My ethnicity means bodily hair grows faster than “normal” and I’m constantly looking in the mirror imagining how I can “fix” all of these things. The rounded bulbous tip of my nose. My round face. My eyes that sink into my cheeks…And yet all of these things I’m believing about myself are how I am harming myself.

@MyDisposition

4 ай бұрын

You are beautiful, you are smart, you are loveable

So glad you touched on people saying ‘you look so young for your age’ and that it’s actually not always taken as a positive. I’ve had so many negative experiences with people saying this or something similar for almost a decade now and it’s completely decimated my self- confidence. It makes me anxious to go to bars, pubs etc - literally anywhere where you need to be an adult. People just can’t fathom why and how that insults me but it has had an incredibly huge negative impact on me.

@Mysteriuminiquitatis1998

7 ай бұрын

I definitely get this feeling as well. It makes me feel like people don’t take me as seriously because I look very young for my age. I’m currently 25 but look like I’m about…16. Kinda sucks tbh

I've never really felt beautiful. I guess I got this idea of me being ugly in early puberty, when my body started changing, but even before that I remember thinking that I look a bit "different". I have a rather wide face, thick eyebrows, quite a lot of body hair, small chin, freckles. I've never liked all that. At the same time, I've never liked makeup, creams, all those "girly" things that I thought I should do but they always felt so foreign. Another thing is how my body started (and still is) changing when I started doing more sports a few years ago. My shoulders got noticeably wide, arms and legs more muscular - and first I had to embrace all that, then later learn how to be patient and not overdo things in order to look even more muscular and fit. It's just a never ending cycle of displeasure. However, this change also gave me an insight into how strong I can be, what my body is capable of - and that is more important and valuable than how I look and if others find me good-looking. When people say I look beautiful I don't believe them - I know that I don't. But at least now I'm more ok with that.

Recovering from an eating disorder I love videos like this it’s so hard changing expectations for clothes and buying clothes that fit me now that look good on me now .

@kitekatka18

7 ай бұрын

That is hard work! You are doing great! Keep moving forward, step by step. You are beautiful!

I fel pretty when I feel confident. I feel confident when I'm well rested, have enough time to exercise, do some hobbies, wearing comfortable clothes (they don't need to be loose-fitting, just something I don't need to often pull up/down, adjust, scratchy etc) and some kind of bright or glossy lip color. I often like to wear things other people don't dear to wear. Maybe the clothes will make some people think, humor someone, or make someone else feel confident enough to also wear what they want. Even if there are flaws, I think about them in the sense that I find many "flaws" beautiful in other people, and if they can feel more confident seeing my flaws, I have done something useful today too.

I love that your thumbnails remained cinematic over time! They are awesome! 🔥

I'm postpartum, so yes, I look and feel chubby and not like my usual skinny self. haha. People have been saying, "You look great!" but I really don't, but I am doing my best with what I have right now. I know I'll be back to normal after a few more months. I am a vain person and usually love how I look! I have imperfections about myself I do love though!

@kitekatka18

7 ай бұрын

Great message! It is about how we feel more than how we look I think. You just brought a person on this planet. You better feel like a million bucks!

@Call-me-Al

7 ай бұрын

Pretty sure they mean that you look great while pregnant, that you carry the pregnancy weight and shape well. You may feel gross because being pregnant is bloody uncomfortable and very different from the normal you, but they're focused on just what you look like in this state rather than what you actually feel like. As in they're sincere about what they're saying, you two are just using different criteria: they're comparing pregnant you vs pregnancy possibilities, while you're comparing yourself with normal non-pregnant you. They are using a different POV.

Making videos and being an influencer must be very hard, you have to look at yourself so much, and mostly with a the thought "should I post this" / "is this good enough" running through you. This message is great, and I am so happy that I only have to look at myself briefly once or twice a day just to check if my shirt is tucked in, or if I missed a strand of hair in a bun. I purposefully never take the time to look at my face or body to scan for possible flaws.

Aww thanks Jenny this was a truly beautiful video ❤

thank you for this video, beautiful Jenny! 😊

Thank you. Just thank you. I needed to hear that today♥️

Your ears are perfect

Thanks Jenny Mustard!

Thank you so much for this video Jenny !

I love you Jenny Mustard! Thank you for sharing a safe space for people who feel like outsiders 💚 I feel like an absolute freak but this video made me feel completely comfortable and at ease with myself and my appearance! This helped me continue to embrace my interests and stuff

Your UGLY series videos always lift me up and somehow end up feeling gorgeous, all the love from Mexico 💘🌞

Your point on our eyes lying to us sometimes is one of the most powerful things I’ve heard! Thank you ❤

What a spectacular video! Thank you.

Your videos help me so much In remembering to not be so mean to myself ❤ thank you Jenny for being a fresh ray of sun on this tough groggy Monday 😊

Thank you só much for this, Jenny🥰 So loving and uplifting I especially recognize the part where you mention the ‘I look awesome’ one day, and ‘i look terrible’ one or two day’s later- phenomenon…and i really love your advice on that one. So thank you again, love your vid’s!🫶🏼I think you’re an amazing and beautiful person, both inside and out. (It really shines through ✨)😘

I needed this video today - thank you!

Thank you for your message- it is always appreciated and needed!

i really needed to hear this today. thank you!❤

Loved this video! I feel much better about myself

Jenny, I was having a hard couple of days being self conscious about quirk things about myself. Found not only the best answers but support on this video. Thanks for sharing this way of seeing the world. ❤

love all the advice ❤

I completely agree with everything you said in this video. I really needed to hear that! I would like to become kinder to myself. Thank you!

You are a gem with your thoughtful comments. Having entered into seniorhood, new word (or crone? which is a term I kind of enjoy) so many new thoughts arrive with the changes and invisibleness that occurs from aging, reminders about being satisfied, grateful and watchful of thoughts, are always welcome.

Perfect timing as per usual Jenny. I've recently put on a little weight due to a health condition and am currently quite sick. I know this is why I feel not only physically terrible, but also absolutely hideous. I know it will pass, but it's still reassuring to hear someone else say it.

I fell last week and landed on my face giving my self a black eye. I also found out i have the flu. So I'm feeling quite down now. I'm also 5 feet tall with a wide waist. I don't fit the beauty ideal at all. Kathy B

You are so beautiful, Jenny! Thank you so much for this.

Love. Love. Love. Thank you.

You are so lovely…thank you for your content💕

What a lovely video Jenny!! Also, my copy of Okay Days has arrived at the library so I am very excited to pick it up and show it off on my bookstagram haha x

didn't feel the best today but this video made me smile. Thank you ❤ love your wholesome content

Thank you for this intelligent and uplifting message!

I am on my own camino on believing that i am truly beautiful ❤❤❤ loved this video

Oh, I love that you love your ears! I have the same kind of ears, and you just inspired me to show them with statement earrings!

I found your channel through the videos on how to dress for your body type. I remember clicking and thinking that I know already what you will say. But you said things that I never heard before. You took consideration of many different things for the body and talked a lot about how you don't have to ''hide'' your body to make it look better. I watch these videos at least once a year mainly because it reminds me to stop hating my body for the way it is and that my features are something that someone else would wish to have. Also I grew up in the ''heroic chic'' and later with SATC ''Smoke so you won't eat'' period and I am pretty sure it is the reason many women have body issues. We grew up being told that you need to use substances to stop eating to fit in the smallest size no matter what! Happy that we finally get more representation for fuller body types, different skin tones, different styles. Thank you for once again making an uplifting and beautiful, realistic video!

Thanks for these videos! It’s a great reminder to stop picking on our physicall appearance and be kind to ourselves

Thank you so much for this video and message You're incredible and I really like you Thank you for making the difference

Excellent video.

Oh thank you. This made me cry! We are all unique and beautiful. Thank you for reminding us all ❤ you are truly beautiful inside and out x

First of all, Jenny, that green makes you looks SO amazing. When you talked about how we don't see ourselves the way we really are, I remembered a moment that dramatically changed my life. When I was 30 I was asked to model for a few amateur photographers. They liked my extraordinary hair. I never had my photos taken by a real photographer and so I said yes. When I received the pictures I was going through them and there was this moment when I thought: "wow, this woman is really beautiful. I wish I looked like her. But...wait. I AM her!" Having a chance to see myself with someone else's eyes was literally eye opening for me. Also, have you ever noticed that when people consider someone beautiful, that person looks nothing like them. Different color type, body type, eye color etc. Only very few people consider beautiful someone who looks very similar to them. But when they do, that's when you know they are comfortable with who they are and with their looks. I'm happy to say that I'm one of those people now :-)

As a woman nearing 68, I often feel sad when I look in the mirror…I, too, have to just ignore those feelings! You are adorable with no makeup!

Love this series, and great timing for this video xxx So much wisdom. Let’s all celebrate our uniqueness, and accept ourselves with all our quirks/supposed ‘flaws’ xxx

I have been trying to remember this KZreadrs name for like 2 weeks and am so happy I just refound her!! Such a lovely human!

Important message. Very important now that the 90s seem to have their big comeback. Good to mention, how absurd heroin chic is or just in general to have a favorite "type" in every decade, like people have to fit into a cookie cutter.

@woldsee8221

7 ай бұрын

And also, I love how you highlight your special parts like your ears and rocking your natural haircolor. I like how you represent the light "nordish" look without needing spraytan and big eyebrows and always wearing mascara and stuff like that. Because realisticly us paler girls look like that. You kind of "normalize" blonde eyelashes, you know. :)

Idk why, but I had to cry on this. I think it were your words that every single one of us is stunning. Without any exception. I agree! I loved your words. Thank you so much 🫶

Thank you for the message at the end: every single one of us is GORGEOUS ❤

Thank you! I wish your book was sold in the US!! Your gorgeous and I appreciate what you have had to say about social media and our standards in society⭐️

love u sm queen

I’ve recently discovered your channel and I love love love love everything about it! You’re such an inspiration at so many levels! 🤍

Thanks for mentioning the backhanded compliment. I was a huge supporter of your browless look back in the day because it just was such a cool look. The backhanded compliment sure was present in your comments section back in the day. I agree that social media has helped make people consider many more different body types as desirable to be than the fashion industry that preceded social media, which only largely featured one aesthetic at a time. This development showcases very well that cruelty is the bad tasting flipside of the tastemakers' business. Regarding the topic of so-called flaws: in the software industry, people know that the purpose you have for a certain software decides whether some trait is considered a bug or a feature. Influencers who tell you how to best hide so-called flaws just don't dare telling you that you could just as well turn them into a feature of your personal style. Think e.g. Sophia Hadjipanteli who has turned her unibrow into her signature look. Quirky perhaps but liberating regardless and that's how it should be. Your blank canvas is really stunning. What do I tell myself? I need to get a haircut. It's that time of the quarter again ;-)

thank you !!! you are so charming and a great coach for us all , we as women need to fill pretty in are own skin 👠🥾👞

Thanks for the video, you look beautiful in green and gold

7:16 Can you please tell us where you got this lovely jewelry or who the maker is??? It looks to be vintage-which I collect. I bought the vintage Givenchy buckle necklace that you wear & get many compliments on it. I’m one that really loves your style.❤ Thank you for this video, it came at the perfect time for me.🙏

Jenny, thank you for your words of love, grace & wisdom! I am a Russian Tilda-Swinton-like beauty )) As a teen and, later, a young adult I was always quite self-conscious of the fact that without make up I looked like I had no eyebrows and eyelashes. I would never leave the house without make up. I'm 42 now & I'm much more relaxed about my appearance: I'm ok when my face is make up free & I'm ok about my quite tall and non-curvy body. I started caring less about what people think with age because of the observation that everyone is really only focused on themselves, not me lol. I like myself just the way I am more and more with each day. Big hug to all of you, gorgeous ladies!

You are are one othe two woman I follow online,who are the exact opposit of my bodytype. It helps to see,that skinny doesn not mean, no body issues. You promote no diet, or celebrate weicht loss. Just one bodytype in a range of others. A good Training,observe, but not judging. See,we all are different and that is good. We dont have to be beautiful to be worthy of love!

Everything you pointed out that you see as a flaw is actually what makes you beautiful in my opinion! ❤

Respectfully I could barely listen to anything you said in this video because you look too stunning in this green jumper 😍😍😍

Tack Jenny. Nu känner jag mig vacker igen. Du är suverän ❤🤗🙏

Interesting vlog...I rarely like "compliments" from anyone...besides what am I to say? Thank you? Why? Because my thinking is that "they"are looking at me to Hard...But I will say your renovated space looks awesome...compliment? maybe but I don't have to worry about you saying "Thank you" LoL....its said and moving forward...☺

Heyy I always think about what other people think about me constantly worried about others opinions about me ... any help please

Personally I've never been able to participate in the body positivity mindset, so what I find very useful - whenever I look in the mirror and start picking my appearance apart - I forcefully remind myself that my appearance is the LEAST interesting thing about me, and constantly worrying about it is a waste of precious time and energy. My mind is what deserves to be taken care of and nourished. I'm finally fine with not liking the way I look all the time, my body is merely a shell for my gorgeous soul and tireless mind❤

You look gorgeous in emerald green I have great dimples and weird teeth. Beautiful eyes and 1/2my face aged more than the other. The solution. Smile. A lot.

TALL GIRL QUESTION- Where do you get tights/leggings and high socks from? I'm 174cm (5'9") and can never get any that are long enough.

@mirianakovachevic748

7 ай бұрын

I'm 174cm and I don't stick out in Montenegro. Both men and women are very tall here.

I honestly hate the way i look at the moment. But, its a working progress.

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We are our own harshest critics most of the time. 😕 Someone might make a passing comment and never think of it again, while we obsess over that comment for the rest of our lives. It's crazy. 😂

It is ok to feel ugly and BE ugly. We don’t own the world to be beautiful. Or feel beautiful. The need to be positive about ourselves all the time is exhausting. There’s just as much ugliness as there’s beauty in the world. Can we just accept that?

@AbsintheReverie

7 ай бұрын

I am unattractive. I wouldn't care as much if people didn't treat me poorly because of it.

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This society tries to convince us what is beautiful or not. Personally I don't found most of the so called sexy men or actors attractive. It is so easy for us to be influenced by society, no wander there is so much plastic surgery nowadays. What is important is our own opinion about ourselves, not what other people say about us. We should not depend on others opinion, because someone may say what beautiful u are, we feel good ; but someone else could say that we are ugly or unattractive and we feel bad. Just don't care about compliments and then u will not be offended.

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Do you know what’s funny? I have never noticed any of those flaws she mentioned about herself 😂

We live in Dark ages right now because uglyness is presented as beauty by those in power. For ordinary people that means loss of hope, it's a signal for even worse future.

Thank you girl

What a lovely and necessary video (as always! 🤎) I specially love the last topic, cause it perfectly aligns with something I already have as a personal rule: If I had a terrible night of sleep for whatever reason, or if I have been eating poorly / drinking less water in the past few days, what I see on the mirror is NOT true, it's just my body reminding me to love it and nurture it a little better

this video made me feel so much better about myself. thank you🤍

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