The #1 BIGGEST MISTAKE New Writers Make

There's one big mistake I often see many new writers make… a mistake that can ruin your whole story and end your author career before it even begins. (No exaggeration.) This mistake has destroyed many writers who could have been great, if they had just done this ONE THING differently. What is this mistake? That's the big question we are unpacking and addressing in today's new episode of The Kate And Abbie Show! Join the discussion as we dig into this costly mistake that new writers make and what to do instead so that you write a spellbinding story that will impact readers around the world!
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  • @Trassel242
    @Trassel2428 ай бұрын

    I think Neil Gaiman said it best: “The only goal of a first draft is that it exists. You can improve bad writing, but you can’t fix it if it’s never been written.” Paraphrased, but hopefully you get what he meant even in my bad retelling of it. Another bit of good advice I read somewhere was “don’t worry about if people will like your story, focus on if you yourself like it”.

  • @Kailandra29

    @Kailandra29

    7 ай бұрын

    This is one of the reasons I am a big proponent of Becca Syme and her strengths-based approach to writer coaching in her Write Better-Faster Academy - some people, with specific strengths, absolutely can (and need to, to produce at their best) "edit" a blank page, but so much advice for writers tells them they are wrong. If you're familiar with Gallup's CliftonStrengths, people with Intellection in their top 5 (of course, depending on the rest of their top 5) *need* to think about their story/words, and do it a *lot*, before they start writing. The biggest piece of advice I have for writers, as a published writer, is that writing advice is not one size fits all, and to not be afraid to discount advice if it's not working for you... Especially if you are making forward momentum and producing. All writers are just not the same, and what could be the worst advice for one person might be the best advice for another person. The writing arena in particular is filled with a lot of very damaging "should"s that feed into the paralysis people can have and emphasize that they are wrong (when they aren't).

  • @lisaneedham4302

    @lisaneedham4302

    6 ай бұрын

    If I stopped writing when I was happy with my stories, I would never stop writing. I am never never happy in the slightest 😥

  • @neofulcrum5013

    @neofulcrum5013

    6 ай бұрын

    Even having one person like it is a win for me

  • @zephyrias

    @zephyrias

    6 ай бұрын

    @@neofulcrum5013agreed!

  • @abelturner2999
    @abelturner29998 ай бұрын

    I'm writing a five part series. I began knowing I'd probably scrap everything I wrote for the rough drafts so that one day I can tell these stories with the skill they deserve. It's a long road. Understanding that failure to write well at the beginning and that effort will pave the way for excellence has been one of the most important lessons I learned.

  • @VibingMeike

    @VibingMeike

    8 ай бұрын

    I started with the same knowledge (even though it kinda hurt haha) but seeing yourself, your skills and your story develop naturally is so rewarding

  • @abelturner2999

    @abelturner2999

    8 ай бұрын

    @@VibingMeike It feels so vindicating

  • @PurpleWaffle1

    @PurpleWaffle1

    8 ай бұрын

    @@abelturner2999Are your books published? If so, what are they called? :)

  • @jesus1stmylawislove

    @jesus1stmylawislove

    8 ай бұрын

    ​@@VibingMeike * _sUPERnaturally_ ! :) #writerfortheAuthor 👑✏️†

  • @LoayAlKhuzaei65

    @LoayAlKhuzaei65

    8 ай бұрын

    Thinking outside the box is considered as a real mistake by some classical people, until they see the results....

  • @Scarlett_Horror
    @Scarlett_Horror8 ай бұрын

    Love the advice "You can't sit in the seat of the critic and the creator at the same time."

  • @mantonythe1st

    @mantonythe1st

    7 ай бұрын

    True, that's great advice, because I just realised I do that constantly with my own work, and that's literally the EXACT reason I don't get any writing done 😅

  • @laluenbaires
    @laluenbaires8 ай бұрын

    I clicked on this video with the thought "ok, let's see what I'm doing wrong" and here was the answer: obsessing about what I'm doing wrong! Thank you so much for posting this, it really helped. I'm writing my first novel, I'll be participating in NaNoWriMo and now I'm gonna tell myself to enjoy it and stop obsessing. Thank you guys!

  • @kenzashenna

    @kenzashenna

    7 ай бұрын

    ​@CraigDavidson-ir2tw creep

  • @narrativedude
    @narrativedude8 ай бұрын

    “Analysis Paralysis…” is genuinely a problem. I always have to ask myself what is causing that fear and either deal with it or learn how to ignore it. I used to think beating fear meant beating it, but as I’ve aged, I’ve learned that fear only has power when I pay attention. Once I learn to ignore it, it often withers. Granted not every fear falls into this category, but more fears than I thought do.

  • @princessthyemis

    @princessthyemis

    8 ай бұрын

    Ohhh that's so great I've never thought of that before ❤

  • @EmbraceTerror

    @EmbraceTerror

    8 ай бұрын

    Yeah, uninformed anxious fear versus in danger because of someone intentionally sabotaging something you enjoy or do.

  • @willatkins-wc1br

    @willatkins-wc1br

    8 ай бұрын

    I completely understand what you're saying and you make a pretty good point about analysis paralysis.

  • @RamdomNonesense
    @RamdomNonesense7 ай бұрын

    The being scared to make mistakes thing really hit close to home. I've been really scared of writing bad stories, so much so that I haven't written at all recently. It feels like there's been so much pressure, like "oh, what if someone reads this and doesn't like it!" Whenever I talk to people about my ideas they're never as excited, or I didn't explain it well and I'll no longer want to write. Now I really wanna write and make mistakes! I've been drawing all my life and getting better but writing is newer to me and I don't have as much experience. I'll always miss the days when I was drawing as a little kid not having such high standards for myself, just having fun. With the knowledge I know now I hope I can try to write like that. Sorry for the minnie novel lol

  • @vultureiraq1168

    @vultureiraq1168

    7 ай бұрын

    I agree , when u put perfectionism and expectations in the mix , things can stop being fun.

  • @peacelivingstone
    @peacelivingstone8 ай бұрын

    I think this problem is caused mostly by beginner writers struggling to with the idea that their story has to be pleasing to the reader, and it has to be that way from the beginning, like from the moment they put pen to paper and start writing, it has to be appealing. I think it's that sense of judging one's self by how they envision the reader to react to their "flaws" that makes that anxiety so crippling.

  • @VibingMeike

    @VibingMeike

    8 ай бұрын

    Realising the first draft might be a huge mess and you can edit later whenever has helped me so much

  • @peacelivingstone

    @peacelivingstone

    8 ай бұрын

    @@VibingMeike couldn't agree more. This podcast has really helped me in dealing with my biggest problem in writing so far.

  • @jesus1stmylawislove

    @jesus1stmylawislove

    8 ай бұрын

    " You don't write A Book - you _live_ this Story with Us " - Love, your character *this* Ladies & Gents is my GAMECHANGER!!🃏🔥 It's real for us.. we have the whole MOVIES Rent free - eh right but then yeah.. there's this grammatic & striving to be perfect problem .. steals A WHOLE LOT of our fantasy isn't that true .. * Also you're so right. YET, and especially for us writers who only write what we want to be written.. but then and that's the point : Still what's written needs to be 'read' one day and, now all Together i think agree.. we wish our writings to sound good. And trust me, i've learned in your head it can never be so special. Why? You not only know your next step.. you're also completely aware of your writing STYLE .. no Surprises - no "magic" and that's awful . - That Moment though ; you're "breaking silence" and no, not you re reading it for the 100th time my lil novel ninja - i mean listen it on AUDIO , your Book is A "WHOLE NEW STORY " . I promise. That day trying with an audio system, i actually listend.. that bich listend that's right 💀 without editing every bit of A second. . for the first time ever . (unless it's like Launguage wrong-wrong 💀 ) NO.. honestly i listend.. i had fun :) AND was surprised.. with that Interpretation of this computer - narrator person 💀 - AS I SHOULD. Remember your reader not only doesn't think like the author - he won't even _read_ your work like you did.. thinkin of all these tiny "trash parts" you'd better throw away to infinity . Don't mind all that.. it's only in your MIND. Readers can't read our mind - 🥁💀 Yo i was able to LET GO. Who wrote this was it me? Wait it's casually okay when brought OUT 💀. Don't bother to understand how A reader reads your words they're not their Thoughts. Anyways.. * this all comes from someone who would brutally - bully *BURRY* their every single WORD 🏺💀. it's not that deep. just don't get in that rabbit hole of endless trying to be their "Wonderland" - Make *Yourself* wonder. And yes you are wonderful.

  • @peacelivingstone

    @peacelivingstone

    8 ай бұрын

    @@jesus1stmylawislove that's so true. You literally summed up my entire situation just a couple weeks ago. Like, I was in this rut where I was literally so careful with each word because I was thinking of how the reader will read into it that I completely lost the zing that comes with writing for the love of it. Thanks man👍👍👍

  • @isaiahmcclure8894

    @isaiahmcclure8894

    7 ай бұрын

    Every artist is their own worst critic

  • @karenelliott6309
    @karenelliott63098 ай бұрын

    Analysis paralysis. Yep. The more I learn (which is important info), the more I realize I hadn’t considered, the more I say “Oh no…I don’t have a good enough hook or inciting incident or (fill in the blank).” So, I end up endlessly journaling ideas, other possible backstories, other possible characters, etc., & never end up with any flow toward an actual chapter, much less a full book. Oh my!

  • @WindStrike334
    @WindStrike3348 ай бұрын

    I never refer to the stuff I'm actively writing as mistakes; instead, I prefer to call them "iterations". I know for a fact that, as I get more stuff onto the page and it's able to sit over time, I'll find a way to improve it in the next iteration. About the only time I refer to something as "a mistake" is writing myself into a corner, then trying to figure out where it went wrong, and doing some degree of backtracking and scrapping. But even then, if I'd never made that attempt, I likely never would've found the "right way" out. Good video and good advice! It's good to make mistakes; I learn better from screwing up than I do succeeding, often times.

  • @OlettaLiano
    @OlettaLiano8 ай бұрын

    I totally agree. Don't make the mistake of worrying about making mistakes. Especially on the first draft. First drafts are more of an idea pad. Just get the words down as fast as you write and don't edit anything until the first draft is finished. Then put it away for a few weeks and start writing something else. After a few weeks you can look at what you've written with fresh eyes.

  • @TheAuthoress6427
    @TheAuthoress64278 ай бұрын

    Hi Abbie! I am a eleven year old female who is into writing books. I'm in chapter four of my recent book, Arrow. I am really gratefull for this video because it can help me write more. Thank you for making these amazing content! Love from the Philippines ❤❤❤

  • @NotThisAnonymous

    @NotThisAnonymous

    7 ай бұрын

    Good luck on your book!

  • @TheAuthoress6427

    @TheAuthoress6427

    7 ай бұрын

    @@NotThisAnonymous Thank you so much! 😊

  • @isaiahmcclure8894

    @isaiahmcclure8894

    7 ай бұрын

    Let us know when it publishes! I'm interested in picking up a copy. I teach primary school and Anytime one of my students sell their art work or writing I always try to invest and encourage those students to keep them motivated, practicing and doing their art. Keep it up!

  • @TheAuthoress6427

    @TheAuthoress6427

    7 ай бұрын

    @@isaiahmcclure8894 Thank you! It might publish in two years, depending on how many chapters I'm going to write

  • @NotThisAnonymous

    @NotThisAnonymous

    7 ай бұрын

    @@TheAuthoress6427 You’re welcome 😊

  • @marilynmccormick3731
    @marilynmccormick37316 ай бұрын

    I wrote my first novel in the nanowrimo challenge 2023 and did 5600 words. I really loved doing it and I love my story. One thing that surprised me was that I didn't know what my main character was going to do next, which seemed strange, since I was in charge of writing what would happen next!. I was half way through the story before I knew what my ending would be, and then when it came to me I was so excited. It was almost like I was reading someone else's story instead of writing it.

  • @glendaolsen9158

    @glendaolsen9158

    3 ай бұрын

    Yes, that is great! Another fun experience is knowing the ending first & discovering how your characters get there. ❤

  • @deecarter8847
    @deecarter88478 ай бұрын

    "whether or not you write well, write bravely." - bill stout

  • @aresaurelian
    @aresaurelian8 ай бұрын

    Excellent points. There are no rules to writing. There are some guidelines in how to make sure the text gets the desired effect. Mistakes are only mistakes when we realize the unexpected result had unwanted effect. But that is part of the creative process and learning new ways in conveying art, emotion, information, and stories to a reader. We invent and discover new things by daring to write whatever we feel like in the moment. Smiling, relaxing, and just letting all the little moments fill the pages. That is a wonderful experience. Not worrying about guides, mistakes. Just lean into desired effects. We can reach the hearts of our audience in any way we like. Thank you for this pearl of wisdom, Katie, and Abbie Emmons. 📝

  • @BKPrice
    @BKPrice8 ай бұрын

    Yep, I'd say this is, roughly speaking, the biggest thing that has held me back in writing. It's not even that I can't stand to make mistakes in the writing at the time, but that if I make mistakes in the beginning and discover better information later in the story, going back and fixing those holes would be so hard to do that I tend to feel like I have to know everything I can possibly know from the start. Couple that with my discovery writing method on my initial draft and I have a recipe for stagnation. I've been trying to teach myself some of these things currently. I find it hard to get through the initial draft because that's where I coalesce my disparate ideas, and that's a naturally chaotic and messy process. I tend to write something clunky and obsess over that. I want to be at the point where I just write through the clunkiness, get the scenes down, and move forward as I understand more and more of the story, knowing that the next draft will effectively be the first draft, possibly completely different based on the knowledge I have accumulated through the initial draft. I also find myself getting obsessed with perfection in my organization techniques as well. I organize my book using Obsidian, with a ton of add-ons, and I can make rather pretty pages with lots of information. I spend way too much time trying to find good art as illustration props in the documents, hunting out music tracks to link to on the character page, and setting up databases with every possible character trait or whatever when I should be taking what I have, dumping it on there, and prettifying the data as I refine it through writing.

  • @willatkins-wc1br

    @willatkins-wc1br

    8 ай бұрын

    Elaborate further, please.

  • @BKPrice

    @BKPrice

    8 ай бұрын

    I talked about a couple of different points, so I'm not certain which one you want elaborated, but I'll attempt to do it all. I am a discovery writer. That means I start writing prose initially. There may be some planning or idea gathering beforehand, but I typically just start writing and see where it takes me. I find it leads to a more organic story, where I don't go into it with too many presuppositions and I can see what works and what doesn't from the ground level. But it also means the story will change drastically as I go along, and I find it difficult not to go back and start again so that I can get the new info in from the start, because that might lead me in an even different direction. I face the same issue even with the tools I use, as I don't start out with a full understanding of each character. That comes as I go through the discovery draft. But I find myself agonizing over incomplete information, and having to update character and location databases and information sheet layouts as I determine new information. This is entirely a neurosis of my own making, but not having the full information I want right from the start has frequently kept me from going through the process that gets it. I just need to hunker down and get through my discovery draft, then take the new information into a new draft.

  • @Godstyx

    @Godstyx

    7 ай бұрын

    You just described my entire life 😭 I use obsidian too

  • @K.C-2049

    @K.C-2049

    7 ай бұрын

    @@BKPrice I'm glad to see this comment because I do the same thing! I always start with a quite basic central idea, and then let it evolve naturally chapter by chapter. I find it more enjoyable that way, whereas if I have everything planned out it feels like just a plodding process to explain it all. and you can always go back and add in/delete things if you discover something new that's a bit inconsistent to what you already wrote, but more often I find myself pleasantly surprised by a new development having a totally coincidental coherence to what I've established lol

  • @RudyCoxWriter
    @RudyCoxWriter7 ай бұрын

    “You can’t sit in the seat of the critic and creator at the same time.” - Thank you for sharing this. Lightbulb moment as an artist for me. ✨

  • @AuroraRose_Andromeda
    @AuroraRose_Andromeda8 ай бұрын

    Thank you both. This is me on so many levels. I feel my stories could have been on shelves years ago, but fear of mistakes and more keeps me from that. I wish it didn't. Afraid of making mistakes, failure. afraid of what others will think or feel after others belittled my writing. Fear of self-doubt big time. I keep editing over and over trying to improve and make better than I had, over doing it big time. Rather than just finish and be done. I feel that is why my stories sit on my bookshelves in binders. Fear controls.

  • @willatkins-wc1br

    @willatkins-wc1br

    8 ай бұрын

    Chase what you desire, believe in yourself, and embrace the writing spirit. Believe in what sparks your writing creativity and you might start getting books on the shelves.

  • @artsyanne1192
    @artsyanne11928 ай бұрын

    I’ve always struggled with being profoundly afraid of making mistakes, so this podcast really helps. It’s so true that the only way to get better at something is to just dive in and actually do it. I’m reminded of a meme I saw recently that said, “Be willing to suck at something long enough to get good at it.” Thanks, Kate and Abbie!

  • @roko5391
    @roko53916 ай бұрын

    You always made me cry. I really needed to hear that DON'T BE AFRAID OF MAKING MISTAKES wow

  • @Artsyastet

    @Artsyastet

    11 күн бұрын

    Same 😅 i make too many mistakes and then blame myself cuz it's my fault that made that mistake.

  • @Air_Serpent
    @Air_Serpent5 ай бұрын

    I used to watch this channel and I found it to be the only writing channel that explained the concepts in a way that I could concretely understand. I'm glad to see Abbie even having ads.

  • @beabea3121
    @beabea31216 ай бұрын

    I needed to hear this girls. I way over judge and analyze my work and it causes me to get into a snag. And the way you compare it to making bread because I do that too made a lot of sense to me. Thank you ladies!

  • @katemuntean4917
    @katemuntean49177 ай бұрын

    Y'all will never know how much I NEEDED to hear this! Thank you so much.

  • @writerducky2589
    @writerducky25897 ай бұрын

    Around 11:00 I think that's an important distinction. I know the times I feel the most discouraged is when I write something I feel happy with then come back a few days later and go, this is terrible. Whereas if it's "terrible" from the start I can go, lol, yeah, I know it's bad, I'll just fix it later. Or maybe I'll even come back to the bad part later and find, oh, this is actually much better than I thought. Thanks for these discussions😊❤

  • @enki354
    @enki3547 ай бұрын

    Abbie expresses her passion for writing by gesticulating.

  • @morchstarmoo1450
    @morchstarmoo14508 ай бұрын

    Analysis paralysis totally halted me writing my last chapter. I'd tried to many plans of that chapter and when I went to my writing group to ask for help, they gave me the best way to defeat my villain. A simple straightforward solution. I'd gone into overdrive trying to reinvent the wheel so to speak. I'd made it too complicated and got myself scared to go with a route that would be satisfactory for them. I'd recommend talking with other writers to get rid of some analysis paralysis.

  • @One_Flew_West
    @One_Flew_West8 ай бұрын

    Excellent podcast, thank you so much. I loved what you said about not being a creator and a critic at the same time. That really hit home. My biggest problem at the moment is thinking that I am not cut out for being a writer because any criticism I get hurts so much, and I don't see how I can overcome this. What I write so personal to me, and I am terrified of being judged, either on my story or general ability. Anyway, thank you so much for all the videos from you both. They have gotten me to write 20 chapters in one month. I can't believe I've gotten this far, but it's in huge thanks to you both. Xxx

  • @Artsyastet

    @Artsyastet

    11 күн бұрын

    I have 12 chapters their all horrible and I hate them 🙂.

  • @simonedegroot905
    @simonedegroot9058 ай бұрын

    3:10 timeskip to the thing they're trying to adress Quick note: *Mistakes are subjective.* You might think starting your story on a slow morning might be a mistake, but that works amazingly well for other authors. Figure out what you do and don't like. There's no mistakes when being creative, only discovery and progress

  • @Maggie_writes

    @Maggie_writes

    8 ай бұрын

    Ty!

  • @simonedegroot905

    @simonedegroot905

    8 ай бұрын

    @@Maggie_writes Ofc, good luck with your writing!

  • @sophiafujiwara-281

    @sophiafujiwara-281

    8 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this I was just waiting until I saw tour comment❤

  • @jerryriveramuniz

    @jerryriveramuniz

    8 ай бұрын

    Thank you❤

  • @aliciamoncada8988

    @aliciamoncada8988

    8 ай бұрын

    Thank you for posting the time stamp.

  • @MichelHabib
    @MichelHabib7 ай бұрын

    I have been learning about writing, for quite some time, especially from your channel, and it's overwhelming. Especially when I am trying to apply everything I learned in one shot, whenever I am at the chapter writing session. I feel that there is so much to consider and apply, and that really distracts me, blocks me eventually. But now, watching this, it all comes into place. I can now breathe and write whatever I have on my mind, I am not afraid, I can make mistakes, I can write with my instinct. I can then revisit, re-write, focus on what I learned, point by point. Creative First, Critic Second, alternating them. Girls, you are brilliant, thank you for such a tip that is so simple and so profound at the same time. I am a big fan already, and now I am bigger and bigger fan. ❤👏👏

  • @Xhinulee-zv5bo
    @Xhinulee-zv5bo8 ай бұрын

    I am Going through all these problems, but not anymore. Thanks to you guys you always filled me with a lot of positive energy. You solved a lot of my problems and it's a great thing. Your work is so admiring keep going going on.

  • @baby_grogu
    @baby_grogu8 ай бұрын

    I agree self doubt is a big struggle for a lot of people. I enjoy your guys enthusiasm and positivity. It really means a lot!

  • @ayoimiideoshikanlu8505
    @ayoimiideoshikanlu85058 ай бұрын

    I am shocked I was so early to the upload! This was JUST what I needed! I was working on my book and struggling with this first draft, but the comment about choosing between being the creative or the critic, really hit home. I’m excited to rework my mindset and dive back in! THANK YOU!!!

  • @SapphireTempestCandleOfStories
    @SapphireTempestCandleOfStories8 ай бұрын

    This is definitely the thing that held me back in my script writing. Thank you both for uploading this, I always enjoy listening to your advice. Also, I love Abbie's sweater, I just simply adore the designs on those sets.

  • @marandaed4335
    @marandaed43358 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much! Trying to go strong with writing this fairytale story even when i see the flaws and everything in plot and so much things that seem to be missing! I'm even trying to worldbuild and making things up is so much fun but not easy at all!

  • @ouryarnwhirled
    @ouryarnwhirled8 ай бұрын

    Everyday is a learning experience. So glad you brought this to light. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us.

  • @loveheartstopper418
    @loveheartstopper4188 ай бұрын

    Abbie!! I just got your new book, The OtherWorld from my friends for my b day and I love it so much!!!!! 💖💖

  • @OtakuOG
    @OtakuOG7 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video! I needed to see this and now I have more motivation to make it to the end of my first draft! Appreciate it!

  • @bookishwriter9460
    @bookishwriter94607 ай бұрын

    Yeah, I edit too much while writing. I just feel like when I don't change a big thing right away but have it in the back of my head and write the story as if I had already changed it and then when I edit it it turns out that change doesn't even work, my characters just won't do that thing or I realize it will make a plot hole, then everything will be a huge mess because I wrote the story as if it worked. And I always use reading and mini editing the chapter I wrote last before starting a new writing session. It helps me get into it. I think editing on the go is kind of part of the process, but I will be more mindfull to when I go overboard. Which mostly happens when I watch a "first chapter mistakes every fantasy writer makes" videos or something of the sort that makes me go back too far. So I guess I'll just put those into a "watch when editing" playlist and then actually wait till then. I think what I might try is to make a list of big, plot relevant things that need changing and then edit them after I finished the act they are part of. Then I will know what works before going into the next act but it won't take me out of my process as much because there will be a designated time for editing.

  • @medievaldruidess
    @medievaldruidess8 ай бұрын

    Kate's smile is so comforting and reasurring. If you haven't seen her meditation videos, you should, because it will bring a whole new element of peace to your life. Love you Kate and Abbie

  • @KAEmmons

    @KAEmmons

    8 ай бұрын

    Your comment warmed my heart, dear friend. I feel so blessed to create for you! Blessings, light and love back to you 🙏💗

  • @aikaium
    @aikaiumАй бұрын

    This is so true. I only recently have begun changing my mindset about mistakes and forcing myself to make everything perfect. Perfectionism can really kill your self-confidence. It did, for me. I've struggled with it for a long time, but thankfully it's better now, and I've been able to actually enjoy writing so, so much more. It really took time to change my mindset, but it can be done!

  • @SecondFloor2311
    @SecondFloor23118 ай бұрын

    This video came at the absolute perfect time!! Thank you both so much!

  • @nicodiangelo6788

    @nicodiangelo6788

    8 ай бұрын

    Wait how do u join the discordddd

  • @SecondFloor2311

    @SecondFloor2311

    8 ай бұрын

    @@nicodiangelo6788 by joining her ptrn (at any tier) you get access to that server as well [hope you get it cause my comment keeps getting deleted if I write the name out]

  • @laurenwyatt
    @laurenwyatt8 ай бұрын

    This hit so close to home haha. Right before you said it I thought... "I hope it's not related to some internal conflicts and insecurities I have". But this is very helpful to hear and well worded ❤

  • @TheIzzo123
    @TheIzzo1237 ай бұрын

    It was really helpful. I was always fighting with those self judgments inside of me. So many times i was starting to write story and in the very beginning starting to like disapproving the way i write. This video definitely helped me🫡Thank you so much for inspiration and keep it up💪

  • @unicorntomboy9736
    @unicorntomboy97368 ай бұрын

    I have made plenty of mistakes in my work over the past five years, but I've slowly but surely gotten better over that time (largely thanks to creative writing school). Now I am working on my grimdark novel which is awesome. I recently studied the 1915 novella 'The Metamorphosis' which is a source of inspiration for my novel with its themes of nihilism, which is a core theme of my book.

  • @everafterbookchat
    @everafterbookchat8 ай бұрын

    You know what, I am so so grateful for this video. Thank you so much!

  • @TheOneSoulMate_
    @TheOneSoulMate_7 ай бұрын

    Great advice. I’ve been thinking about writing for years but I always end it before it starts. Always what seems to be a rational excuse why I’m not qualified or experience in this field. Thank you for making this video. I hadn’t looked at this journey from that point of view.

  • @jvjvjvjv982
    @jvjvjvjv9826 ай бұрын

    I’m writing a book called “Hunter”. I’m only on my second chapter, but your videos have been very helpful! I’m slightly new to your channel, so I don’t know if you’ve posted a video about this, but if you could post a video talking about something along the lines of ‘how to make the reader cry’, then that would be more than helpful for me 💖. Love your videos!

  • @awesomecool3280

    @awesomecool3280

    5 ай бұрын

    Interesting I'm gonna write a book called hunter. I'm a fast writer 😂 jk jk good luck on your book

  • @llareia
    @llareia7 ай бұрын

    Thank you, this is the message I needed to hear!

  • @jacobcastro8026
    @jacobcastro80263 ай бұрын

    I literally had this doubt moment yesterday. I'm thankful for this video.

  • @janinawittkopp4995
    @janinawittkopp49958 ай бұрын

    You are amazing, and helpful and encouraging ❤

  • @Liliz.
    @Liliz.7 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much Abbie and Kate. I was so scared to continue the book I was writing and dropped it for more than 6 months because I thought everything was not going right. Suddenly I want to pick up and start writing the book after watching your video. Your motivation also linked to other aspects of my life that I've been having issues with. I feel grateful upon stumbling on this video

  • @jarmoliebrand2005
    @jarmoliebrand20058 ай бұрын

    As a Star Wars fan, I’ll quote this from the game Jedi: Fallen Order “We will always struggle. But that IS the test. It’s the choice to keep fighting, that makes us who we are.”

  • @SydLovesToWrite
    @SydLovesToWrite8 ай бұрын

    Ooo yay! A video on Monday!😄

  • @BMiriamRhodes
    @BMiriamRhodes7 ай бұрын

    Oh my gosh I'm getting so excited to write again! I've been so blocked...your videos are helping me so much!

  • @priscila3037
    @priscila30378 ай бұрын

    It's been a while since I thought that way. Of course, I'm afraid of my self future, but analyzing everything, I grew a lot with this draft, and I loved it. Now, I'm leading with the wholes that I left behind, new ideas that appeared changing my perspective about characters and their relationships. I'm supposed to put the end soon. But I want to burn the latest part I wrote. It's the part after the amazing climax. I'll need help. And I'll try my best until the end. 😊🎉🎉 Hope I'll be able to read your books soon.

  • @74bassman
    @74bassman6 ай бұрын

    I think this is a great and very important video. It pertains not only to writing, but to life as a whole. I really needed this reminder, thanks a lot! Will try to keep this in mind as much as I can

  • @shakeebaqueen
    @shakeebaqueen4 ай бұрын

    Thank you both for this gif. 🎉 I really thought I was not being productive whilst writing self help, how-to and health guides, five years ago. I stopped writing after creating seven 40 page e-Books. I was overwhelmed with the thought of “am I manifesting the right things to help people.” I am big on what I bring forth into fruition with my thoughts, actions and words. I am back now! I started back November, 2023. I completed 8 ebooks, finally. It's been 2 months of a gorgeous and free journey! I did syke myself out again for a month, however. I kept critiquing, correcting and proofreading, until it became redundant. I'm up and running now, yet still figuring how to build my own stores, for digital downloads! Dropshipping is next in line. Any ways, thank you both! You gave the best insight on a true love of mines that I kept pushing to the back! Now it's water to my thirst and the food to nourish my thoughts. ❤

  • @JessicaJoeWriting
    @JessicaJoeWriting8 ай бұрын

    This is ridiculously inspiring. Thank you!!

  • @jessestaggs2136
    @jessestaggs21362 ай бұрын

    In every facet of my life, I've replaced the word mistake with the word lesson. In recognizing those mistakes as lessons, we grow, learn and become better for it.

  • @AllHandlesIChooseAreTaken
    @AllHandlesIChooseAreTaken8 ай бұрын

    Hi @AbbieEmmons, is there a video that explains how to write as a group? Thanks 🙏

  • @TiffanyTeaLeaves
    @TiffanyTeaLeaves8 ай бұрын

    I’m in the brainstorming stage of a memoir, but I’m also asking big questions of the reader, asking them to consider questions they likely wouldn’t want to think about if not confronted with them in the book. I know I need to find a way to “show not tell” before I can earn the right to ask big questions of them. I know this need to make them care first. I’m trying to think about myself and the others in my story and develop character profiles as if this was a novel. Honestly, I’ve not really started, but I’ve “pre started” in starting to fill out the character profile worksheets you offer. Here is my question. Is there a method to figuring out what “style” to write a story, in the same way the way there is a method to finding a characters misbelief, or inciting incidents? What I mean by style is should I narrate it, as in the movie stand by me, or should it be set up like an interview as in movies like titanic? Can part of it be fiction? Like if I start the book slightly bin the future and use a court proceeding or conversations with lawyers lead the true memoir? Should it be clever journaling as in Griffin and Sabine? Or do I need to just try one, see how it feels, and go from there? Basically, is trying to figure it out an excuse to not start, or should I spend time working it out because there is a “way” to think about it in a productive way?

  • @cicjose6016
    @cicjose60168 ай бұрын

    Abbie! I've been struggling with my health and managed to start writing something whilst i was sick, now i am one chapter down and yes i dont like what ive written but i did read a lot whilst sick and I dont feel what Ive written is bad anymore but i still dont have the direction I want it to go, i have the things i want to happen but im hoping with the recent poor health i can continue be happy with what i write from now on so i can continue the journey

  • @thea-rose
    @thea-rose8 ай бұрын

    This video made me feel like I was sitting down with two very good friends enjoying a cup of coffee while they gave me the advice I really, really needed to hear right now. Thank you so much for this video and for all the knowledge and advice you share with the world.

  • @kissedbyarose35
    @kissedbyarose357 ай бұрын

    Love you videos, but! Could you please work on one that delves into the don'ts of what's copy-written, when you can and can't use other artists creations for inspiration, what toes the line between inspiration and what is legally considered theft of work, etc!:) you're so good with explanation, I feel as though you'd help so many new writers avoid mistakes we may be unaware of.

  • @angelicanavarro5311
    @angelicanavarro53118 ай бұрын

    I am stuck in the loop of I love what I’m writing and when I get a little ways through my intrusive thought comes in to say that my idea is dumb. This was helpful and I want to work on getting that intruder out of my head

  • @hexusziggurat
    @hexusziggurat8 ай бұрын

    Great vid Kate and Abbie!

  • @glenchaney5170
    @glenchaney51703 ай бұрын

    My grandfather used to say happiness is gained through success but nothing is learned through success. Failure is the instrument that teaches. When someone fails they ask alot of why questions allowing for knowledge growth.

  • @pampuckett6163
    @pampuckett61638 ай бұрын

    I am one with a lot of self doubt - thank you! Great video

  • @alfred8936
    @alfred89366 ай бұрын

    Another one of the biggest mistakes new authors make: not reading enough

  • @Ghostrob2023
    @Ghostrob20238 ай бұрын

    Good afternoon, Abbie! Thanks for posting and sharing this new video with interesting and inspirational tips to go by. You look beautiful, Abbie and your sister looks very nice, plus I've missed watching your Writers Life Wednesday videos on here, Abbie. Are you still doing them? Have a wonderful week to you and your sister.

  • @worthfightingfor2299
    @worthfightingfor22998 ай бұрын

    SO good! This isn't just for new writers, that's for sure!

  • @MogMonster87
    @MogMonster878 ай бұрын

    I’ve really been struggling with this, I’m always trying to write the perfect sentence to the point that I haven’t got much done and I can’t seem to shut off the critical side of my brain while I’m being creative. It feels like a paralysis tbh it’s frustrating

  • @KZ-np8fz
    @KZ-np8fz6 ай бұрын

    Richard Bach has many great quotes on writing. A professional writer is just an amateur who didn't quit. I believe he had an teacher or prefessional give him advice when he didn't think there would be an audience for his books. The teacher told him there is always someone who will want to read what you write. Some books are beloved by everyone. Of course all writers want to be well received, well reviewed... but there are books I've liked that others haven't. Some authors writing style I connect with more as a reader and some author I struggle to connect with and just don't enjoy. It doesn't necessarily mean an author is a bad writer.

  • @juicygrape2088
    @juicygrape20885 ай бұрын

    I am not a full-on writer, just started fanfic of my favorite series since I was bedridden and bored, and now here I am searching wildly for these teachings like imma be publishing a whole book😆💖 I just did like a 2k word count and I was already spent🙇‍♂️ It felt so satisfying slowly giving shape to the ideas, but finding the right words and structure really is frustrating, and I just started lol😆

  • @starklingspars8956
    @starklingspars89568 ай бұрын

    That drum roll wasn't bad . I played the drums in school. I didn't expect you to say what the mistake was. It made me laugh ..and relieved 🤣 I've been paralyzed with fear ATM. This so relevant to me. Thanks 🙏🌷

  • @Nazzybedancin
    @Nazzybedancin8 ай бұрын

    This video really made me think about my story I'm making. Im now gonna go 100% and keep going no matter what

  • @oliviasolano1182
    @oliviasolano11828 ай бұрын

    I need more Ask Abbie’s!!! 😅😩📖

  • @JoleCannon
    @JoleCannon8 ай бұрын

    This is great. I'm lucky that I studied as a math and history major. In history it's not a mistake, it's just not clear. How can I make it clearer. This has helped me as a writer and focus on where to improve instead of stating they are mistakes.

  • @MrGadfly772
    @MrGadfly7723 ай бұрын

    Thank you... Writing is very scary, you feel more vulnerable with it than other forms of art. It's your thoughts on a page; there for everyone to see and criticize.

  • @the_bookish_took5348
    @the_bookish_took53488 ай бұрын

    Love this!!!

  • @ximenalindsey5075
    @ximenalindsey5075Ай бұрын

    I'm catching this a little late in the game, but as a recording artist, I find that mistakes often open things up for more creativity. For instance, an accidentally-flubbed guitar chord can have an other-worldly sound that takes a song to the next level.

  • @heatherwind
    @heatherwind8 ай бұрын

    "You can't sit in the seat of the Critic and the Creator at the same time..." WOW that hit me where I live.

  • @catherinerichardson5958
    @catherinerichardson59588 ай бұрын

    every time I write a story outline, I'm set this is the road I want to go down, and then I can't get my mind back in the same space so I just add the outline to my research files, I used to see my simple mistakes as falling as a writer, however, I have learned in my personal life, The life is too short, just go for it, and if you fall flat on your face, just get back up and keep going.

  • @arjunheart5859
    @arjunheart58598 ай бұрын

    So... You have to start your own hero's journey of writing.

  • @mattiOTX
    @mattiOTX7 ай бұрын

    Mistakes are thing I know I should not do and did on accident, like forgetting to capitalize the start of a sentence. Everything else is just making an attempt to bring my story to life. I might keep or throw things out, I might move it around. Otherwise most everything you do is not a mistake because a mistake means something you explicitly understand and know not to do and did anyway without intention.

  • @yetialive10
    @yetialive104 ай бұрын

    Thank you

  • @LilyCWfan22
    @LilyCWfan228 ай бұрын

    Is this on Spotify yet?

  • @jermainerucker2027
    @jermainerucker20278 ай бұрын

    Thanks for this video. I’ve been picking at my novel going “that’s not right, can’t use that.” Sometimes you need to tell your brain to shut up and just put pen to paper. That’s how you get to Carnegie hall… You practice.

  • @savannah6722
    @savannah67228 ай бұрын

    How do you co-write a book?

  • @kevingluys3063
    @kevingluys30638 ай бұрын

    I needed this

  • @Fyrehart97
    @Fyrehart978 ай бұрын

    I can't remember where I saw it, but I read the five points Gene Roddenberry outlined for writers on the orginal series of Star Trek, like it was part of the writers Bible. Seeing these made me get up off my butt to start writing. I think four and five were basically "Don't let the fact you're not a scientist stop you from writing about science" and "don't let the fact you don't have a law degree stop you from writing a court drama" and those two points really resonated with me. Because I love that show and I go back and watch it again every once in awhile. But the episodes are often quite flawed. They don't adhere to logic sometimes, they've been proven wrong as our understanding of science has changed over the last fifty years and some of the ideas are quite frankly outdated. But those writers wrote some absolutely timeless fiction. As badly as some of the production design has aged, a lot of the writing still resonates with people today. Every one of those writers took a chance with that show and it absolutely paid off. Not one of those episodes were perfect, but I love all of it. So, I no longer worry whether I'm qualified to write something, I just try it and find out.

  • @aliajaffer3427
    @aliajaffer34277 ай бұрын

    What books do you read and how often you read

  • @jameshpotato2675
    @jameshpotato26758 ай бұрын

    I HATE HOW RIGHT YOU ARE

  • @kiaratheotaku6257
    @kiaratheotaku62578 ай бұрын

    I’m writing a story with a small community of people for god know how long. The group split and the story slowed to a halt (life, tragedy, health) and I know the beginning and end, but, the middle is where I am stuck on how I’m going to get point A leading to point B.

  • @starwing2814
    @starwing28147 ай бұрын

    I've been struggling with analysis paralysis for years. I guess I'm afraid to trust myself🥺

  • @kat.ex3909
    @kat.ex39097 ай бұрын

    Im working on a graphic novel and am still stuck on the outline after a year working on this story and i just hesitate thumbnailing scenes or outlining the first chapters in fear it wont be good enough

  • @JessicaJoeWriting
    @JessicaJoeWriting8 ай бұрын

    "The Last Line is the Starting Line of The Process" Holyyyyyyyyyyy. !!!

  • @hashirahmad8747
    @hashirahmad87478 ай бұрын

    How to write a powerful negative role for a beautiful Lady and her defeat as well? Please help me 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @admeta_asteria
    @admeta_asteriaАй бұрын

    i literally think I'm in analysis paralysis watching every video Abbie has ever made 🤣

  • @ellenmargrethelarsen80
    @ellenmargrethelarsen805 ай бұрын

    Takk!

  • @Steve-vf7se
    @Steve-vf7se6 ай бұрын

    I love to write my own book. Creating new stories and fantasies, love that. Mistakes that new writers do? Didn't know. But in my opinion, writers like marvel comics do the best to create new characters. I love drawing it too