If this movie doesn't break you, nothing will. It's not just this scene, it's the buildup of the entire film.

@carolinewilson8048

2 жыл бұрын

Yep - Agree the buildup to this scene. I knew when the doctor said that they tried all of the drugs and they weren't working that it would be terminal. I cried many times in this movie.

@chavaunjones3857

2 жыл бұрын

Sophie's Choice....the choice scene. Literally never seen the movie...only that scene. And it broke me.

@jonathanschlack7210

Жыл бұрын

Yeah. I cried when Emma died.

@diannaboss4167

Жыл бұрын

True

@berta7019

Жыл бұрын

😥😥😥💔

That last part when she delivers that 'There's nothing harder' and delivers almost a combination of a pained cry and a laugh that comes out at how surprised at how overwhelmed she is in that moment is the most nuanced, real emotion in a moment like that. I've had multiple relatives, including two grandparents and my father die of cancer. And when I tell you that emotion came out of at least one person in the room when all of them died, it's not an exaggeration. You think you will be relieved. And it's like for a second you are, then the reality and finality of it all hits you like a punch in the chest. And you aren't ready like you thought you'd be. You're not ready at all. I have no idea how an actress could pull out such a nuanced emotion like that and make it feel 100% real. But she absolutely nailed it.

@andrewgreenberg9204

2 ай бұрын

That's exactly how I felt when my mother died of cancer. I had convinced myself that it would be a relief when she went, and in some ways it was, but on the other hand, the finality of it is just crushing. I really don't understand why I ever watch this scene again as it's been almost 18 years and it literally brings it right back. Shirley MacLaine nailed this as well as she possibly could have.

Ай бұрын

It’s real

Sally Field playing a grieving mother in Steel Magnolias and Shirley Maclaine as one in Terms of Endearment kill me 😢

When two people who have always been at odds reach out to each other in grief. What an acting masterclass.

I sometimes can't understand why we must endure such profound grief in our lives. When my dad passed away, I felt like the air was sucked out of my body. Time heals the pain, and I look forward to seeing my dad and deceased loved ones again. We will live for eternity.

“There’s nothing harder” is a great and true line.

@kalebchavez3279

2 жыл бұрын

I always thought she said.. "Nothing hurt her.."...

The way the director filmed this scene is genius. From the moment the nurse says, "she's gone," the camera NEVER goes back to Emma. In most films with a death scene, after they die, you always get one shot of them, like a final sendoff. But to not show Emma again after her death, we, the viewer, also feel the terrible loss. We do not get closure. We realize that... we are not going to see this person, ever again, and we are better able to feel what the characters are feeling. It's why this death scene is so much more emotional than others. It's a small thing, I guess, but it's always struck me how very effective it makes the scene.

The look in Debra Winger’s eyes.. that little flint when she knows she’s dying. Perfection. And Shirley’s reaction. Two amazing actresses.

This moment haunts me, because if you’ve been there you know .

People commenting that it's not like fighting cancer in real life, one, it's a movie. It's two hours, and this is the last 10 minutes. Two, the fact that I saw it in the theater in 1984, and that it's 2022 and I still sob uncontrollably at the last 10 minutes, without treatments and machines, shows its brilliance. It's more about the character's reactions to her diagnosis.

@pamspencer5733

Жыл бұрын

Exactly Grace to others until the very end ! They didn't deserve her& they know it💔

I love how Flap holds and comforts Aurora. Despite all the turmoil between them, they needed each other in that moment.

@ronaldbaldwin4505

2 жыл бұрын

I've always thought that was what made this scene even more special.

@GinaSigillito

Жыл бұрын

To me that’s best part of this scene.

Shirley MacLaine deserved two Oscars for this scene alone. Such a master class of subdued emotion and then, when she says: Somehow I thought when she finally went, that it would be relief. Instant heartbreak. Such a perfectly well-delivered line. 😢😢

The hug between the two "enemies" is what breaks me

The little wave goodbye 😭

@mariemg34

26 күн бұрын

I've seen this movie dozens of times and never noticed the wave 😭😭

@lisas4483

14 күн бұрын

The wave gets me crying every time

There's two types of people. People that cry during this scene. And people that cry in private so their friends can't bust their chops

This is a brilliant scene, full of emotion and heartbreak. But the scene that gets to me the most is the one in which Miss Winger pleads with her son not to feel guilty after she's gone because, despite his adolescent actions, she knows he really loves her. I've never watched that scene and remained dry-eyed.

@AMN320

Жыл бұрын

Oh I completely agree! I always always remember that scene

@pamspencer5733

Жыл бұрын

Reminds me of my Mother with my little brother! She was dying in hospital & he was so difficult child! He had guilt his whole life😓

I went through this with my mom. There is no relief, and there is nothing harder.

@jacobflores6559

10 ай бұрын

Yes same here did the same thing with my mom next month in September it’s going to be three years and it still hard

@user-sh2hi8mo5b

3 ай бұрын

I will not be watching this again. It reopened old wounds.

This scene and the one were her little boy is crying when he is saying goodbye is heart breaking.

With Shirley and Jack and Debra receiving all the rightfully deserved accolades for this movie, Jeff daniels is somehow lost in the fray. He was amazing on this movie. This scene always hits me hard. After all MacLaines and daniels characters had been at odds throughout the movie and then she hugged him here. Very moving

"I thought it would be a relief" We all do.... its not.

@kdohertygizbur

2 жыл бұрын

My Sweet Lil Darling 😔

Unfortunately, I too have lost a child in a similar way, and how Shirley has depicted in this scene is immeasurably on-point as to how that feels, and it is true: There's nothing harder.

@stephaniela6150

2 жыл бұрын

I know this is terribly inadequate, but I’m so sorry for your loss. One of my dearest friends lost his adult daughter to cancer. As a mother, I can’t fathom what you experience, but your strength is exceptional. 🌻

@Lola_Loren

2 жыл бұрын

My heart aches for you. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Everytime I watch this movie I cry. The acting is second to none. Absolute classic.

@mrsurfer2655

2 жыл бұрын

You know i actually broke up with a girl cause she said they were all horrible people and the death was deserved.

Watching the youngest kid cry broke our hearts, little Teddy.

They truly do NOT make films like this anymore.

@user-cr8dq7sc6h

6 ай бұрын

Any movie made before the 2020s had true emotion and more realism. Now almost every film you see is some woke reboot or sequel.

Ай бұрын

Facts. Another great movie was “Jack the Bear” where Danny Devito also starred in where I can’t find anywhere to stream, buy or rent

@dnasty312

Ай бұрын

That is a GREAT MOVIE. Danny's finest work

Heartbreaking. Her one and only child. Her only and proper true love. And she goes through the pain of losing her. Very unfair for any parent to lose their child.

@pamspencer5733

Жыл бұрын

The daughter has to say goodbye to her young babies! That's worse!

If this scene doesn’t bring you to tears, then you have a heart of stone

This scene broke my heart!

This scene gets me more. I lost my dad from cancer this past New Years and watching how Shirley MacLaine reacts to Emma's death is an accurate reflection of that day when we lost him. RIP Dad 🙏❤🕊

God this scene. Shirley MacLaine is just insane here.

I remember something telling me to go and water the plants in another room, and then, I felt something different so I returned back to my Dad’s room, where he was dying, finding out he passed away… the whole room was deafeningly quiet that we no longer felt his presence. We cried of course, and felt kinda relieved bc he’s out of pain and suffering from cancer and chemotherapy. It hit me hard for few years, and still does from time to time.

This scene always makes me cry but I cry even harder when I watch Emma say goodbye to Tommy and Teddy.

@tamarak9393

7 ай бұрын

That scene gets me every time.

@emmabanks2516

7 ай бұрын

Oh man, how the older boy doesn't say I love you and Emma tells him to not beat himself up over it in the future 😭😭

wow...shirley maclain never had to do another scene or movie..her place in cinema history was cemented on this 2 min.

Such great acting in that death scene, so realistic

One of the most incredible acting scenes I've seen. Brings me to tears every time....

Aurora's premonition about Flap ruining Emma' s life came true.

One of the best musical scores in cinema history

@organboi

Жыл бұрын

Not really. Not even close.

@AaronAlterman

Жыл бұрын

@@organboi some people have lower standards, that’s okay

The only film that makes me cry uncontrollably.

Ай бұрын

Just finished watching it again after watching it when I was like 12 I didn’t even understand or remembered anything about this movie until now, 37 and the movie hit home, this scene was so powerful…also made me cry

What a fantastic film a tear jerker for the generations to come💔must be a pain to lose your child seeing how she saw her daughter come into this world and watched her grow up from a little loving girl into a beautiful woman live her life then die so young a pain a mother who loses her child can only feel i hope i never have to feel this way God bless to all the parents who lost their child😭❤👏🏼

Why am I watching this... I'm not emotionally stable to handle it. It's like I need to torture myself...

17 years ago I saw my wife die in the hospital. Today I watched this for the first time since. It was difficult but it does get better over time. You won’t always have that incredible grief but you won’t forget them. They are always tucked away in your heart.

you watch Shirley Mac Laine and you just forget she is acting it out. She is so utterly realistic. She could fall easily to the trap of caricature but she just pulled it off so extraordinarily. Yes, there are many many similar scenes like this one in many other movies but only a very very few number of them are as astonishing as this one. Kudos to James L. Brooks' extraordinary direction that Shirley and Debra were guided so well, and virtually the rest of the cast. So hail Shirley! You do deserve your Best Actress Oscar!!!! 👏👏👏👏👏

That hug for her nemesis, flap makes me so emotinal. They had been bickering throughout the movie .

it never gets better in my opinion... :( I MISS YOU MOM!!!

@meekashabazz6135

3 жыл бұрын

Never” gets better. Ever 😢

@eddievastag7818

3 жыл бұрын

@@meekashabazz6135 nope, thats why i cannot stand when people say, oh it gets better.... yea ok. i just pay no mind to them cause there ignorant and dont know obviously unless there going through the same thing.

@rachelwyatt6030

3 жыл бұрын

I miss my mom too!!

@eddievastag7818

3 жыл бұрын

@@rachelwyatt6030 (hugs)

@rachelwyatt6030

3 жыл бұрын

@@eddievastag7818 🙏 to you and I hope that you have a good day. I’m really sorry about your mother! I completely understand the heartache.

When she and flap hug I cry everytime. Aurora never liked him. They bicker throughout the movie. But, were there for each other during this scene

I remember I was around 21 when I took my mother to see this movie. It was the hardest scene from a movie we ever watched. Just watching the clip I'm crying, and it takes a lot for to cry at the movies or even at home by myself.

I was diagnosed with prostate cancer about 3 months in ago. One of the main characteristics I've noticed in myself is how tired I stay physically and emotionally. I think this farigue comes from being in a state of fear so much of the time. When the oncologist first gave me the diagnosis, I was throttled straight up. And the examination room in that huge hospital suddenly became silent. The Dr. was talking to me but made no sound.

@byzantineladybug9471

8 ай бұрын

I am hoping you have supportive people in your life as you navigate through this difficult diagnosis ❤🙏

@reenieescamilla6132

8 ай бұрын

Yesss..it’s exactly like that. 🥺

@jonathanmcvay4499

8 ай бұрын

Timothy, I’m praying you find the strength to face whatever happens.

@jonathanmcvay4499

8 ай бұрын

@@reenieescamilla6132praying you find the strength and fortitude for whatever comes.

This scene and Jack Nicholson consoling her at the hotel on the stairway.

They Didn't Like Each Other But This Scene They Hug Each Other 😢😢

It gets me every time

I experience that grief, that I can not almost breathe no matter how hard I tried.

@brookehanley3659

8 ай бұрын

Shirley did portray that oh so well in the scene. I always felt Debra was robbed of the Oscar but maybe not. They were both excellent though

Oh god I could not control myself at the movies. God did I lose it. Boy did I lose it

I watched this before having children of my own, and after having children of my own. The emotions it creates now are just too powerful for me to be able to watch it. I don't want to live that reality but what is depicted does teach you to cherish every second. Utterly heartbreaking.

Just lost my best friend who meant the world to me 2 days ago. It is the worst thing in the world, I have never been so sad. I’ve had sadness in my life before but never like this.

@josephhernandez1885

2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss

I watched it only once and I think I won’t watch it again. Every scene is engraved in my life so much that I don’t want to evaluate again those emotions. It was as hard as I got as an movie watcher. Nothing sadder than this movie. All actors brilliant.

The score of this movie provokes a lot of emotion for me

@greggriffin8020

8 ай бұрын

The music in this movie is great.

When she waves... 😥

@sskoog

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah. Something about that glassy-eyed look really disturbs me. Like, I don't think it takes away from the scene any, but it's... I just don't know. As if she's seeing something she doesn't want, or understand. Like she's losing herself. (Which is, I suppose, the point.)

I cry everytime.

There’s only 2 movies that can’t bring me to tears, #1 an imitation of life 1959 version. The ending when Sarah Jane comes back crying in front of her mother’s coffin. And this scene right here. Shirley MacLaine was beyond phenomenal in this movie.?

@melv5566

Жыл бұрын

Omg same and saw both with my professors not a dry eye in class

@kidzbop38isstraightfire92

Жыл бұрын

So this movie and another one about death can't bring you to tears? But every other movie can? Does that include Juwanna Mann?

I always cryy crryyyyy with this Movie.. shirley mclane you’re big!!!!!! 😢😢😭😭

This whole movie leads up to this scene, if I'm having trouble having a much needed cry about the losses and issues I have experienced in my life, all I need to do is watch this. Tears me up every time.

@theemeraldpalace9080

Жыл бұрын

Same here!

I cry every time I watch this movie.

@danielkeane6462

Жыл бұрын

Every.single.time. 😰🙆‍♂️🫣🤷‍♂️

@lisas4483

14 күн бұрын

Me too. Every time.

After having lost so many people dear and close to me between the first time I saw the film and now, that I rewatched this scene, it hits a lot harder this time around…

I have never saw any movie where the musical score is as amaxing as this one.

I have stage 4 metastatic breast cancer. It was already spread by the time it was noticed. I’m 40. My Mom is 62. It spread to my lungs, bones, lymph nodes and a small tumour on one of my adrenal glands. I am Estrogen receptor and progesterone receptor positive and HER2 negative. I’m being put into forced menopause and on hormone blockers etc to shrink the tumours and they are hoping I have years in me yet. I also have to get bone strengthening infusions. Of course when you get a stage 4 diagnosis you put one foot in the grave but there is so much available in treatments today. Still, I worry that one day the treatments will stop working (they always eventually do…it’s just different amounts of time for everyone)….and I am scared of how my Mom is going to feel. I have three siblings through my Dad but I’m Moms only baby and I’m so scared of the pain it’s going to cause her. My mind keeps going back to this movie. I’m so scared of her feeling this pain.

@keepingitreal5533

Жыл бұрын

Comforting, healing thoughts go out to you and your family 🙏🏾 ❤💙🌄

@killjoy350

Жыл бұрын

Cancer cannot survive in an alkaline environment. Take LOTS of alkaline supplements and the cancer will die...

@kidzbop38isstraightfire92

Жыл бұрын

​@@killjoy350 that is absolutely retarded. You don't think modern medicine wouldn't be bathing your body in alkalinity if it was that simple? Besides, how are you going to make a Proton Pump (a part of ATP generation) alkaline? You people kill me

@jgrayson839

Жыл бұрын

@@killjoy350 well looky here. the cure for cancer hidden right here in this Terms of Endearment comment thread.

@laurieeno2118

Жыл бұрын

What a beautiful heart you have, worried like that for your mother. I hope and pray you both have many good years ahead.

Shirley McClain was gorgeous.

Why are there no reactions to this film? This was THE tearjerker of its time. KZread Reactors, get on it.

@daijobuCreatives

4 ай бұрын

At the time when this film was released, this and the supermarket scene were considered some of the best work by Debra Winger, Shirley MacLaine, and director James L. Brooks. These scenes and the movie remain iconic and stood the test of time as references to similar scenes in movies that came later.

@paulnelson7525

Ай бұрын

Ashleigh Burton, Monday May 13th. I can't wait. There are lots of movies that haven't had reactions. On Golden Pond is another one.

I just lost my best friend to pancreatic cancer this past sunday afternoon, he was all i had left.... 😢

@REGGIEBOY2012

9 ай бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss. May God be with you.

@eddievastag7818

8 ай бұрын

​@@REGGIEBOY2012thankyou 😢

@glowgirl8171

7 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry . It's so hard. I hope you will someday find some peace.

@eddievastag7818

6 ай бұрын

​@@glowgirl8171I won't. Before this, iv been trying so hard. I can't explain it. But thank you.

@taroman7100

5 ай бұрын

There are no words to express loss. I know what it's like to lose a best friend words just seem to fail.

This is such a great movie 🥺

Great acting by everyone here, unreal. My sister died on May 13 2016, this was on a few weeks later. There is nothing harder

@taylorahern3755

3 жыл бұрын

❤❤❤

Shirley Mclaine amazing!!! 😭😭

This scene is always triggering because it gave me the memory of when my dad passed away at the hospital from cancer and heart failure. Aurora's grief was the same as mine that day when we lost him.

I lost my cat, Catarina in death by having to have her euthanized after an injury Oct. 18, 2020. Surely the loss of any human loved one is greater felt by others than the loss of a pet, as a human is meant to live forever and the pet is not meant to. The loss of one's human child, is felt even more so. But for we pet parents who have lost our pets through sickness or suffering which is not how they were ever meant to die, we agree with Aurora-there is nothing harder.

@blueseptember314

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed.

My mom cries every time she watches it. I got her to watch it with me a few years ago and it was no different.

@ladyyoyo7297

3 жыл бұрын

So does mine

This scene killed me

@carmenfalette5942

Жыл бұрын

There is nothing harder...😢

I’m going to say even if the book or the movie doesn’t really reveal the type of cancer that Emma eventually died from, she would have been diagnosed with stage four breast cancer. I lost my mom from the illness and end stage dementia. When I saw the film, again, I was completely engulfed in tears.

@taroman7100

5 ай бұрын

With all the kids she had and her lack of cleanliness is no surprise.

Ай бұрын

@@taroman7100it’s sad but happens in real life, it seems she was doing everything by herself, Dumb n dumber dude didn’t even help one bit, for example the scene when their newborn baby woke up crying at 3am because she was sick n had the croupe n the kids came running to wake up the parents about it, she immediately went to the baby’s aide while he wanted to go back to sleep and seemed bothered that they would even wake him up. He put her through so much, the lies and the cheating, the lack of love n care for her all into the end….it was too little too late

Shirley’s acting was great in this scene

I went to see it on opening night and have watched it dozens of times since. This scene gets me EVERY time still 😢😢

Why TF did I just do this to myself?

@brenda9410

Жыл бұрын

I'm asking myself the same thing😢

@mike4619

8 ай бұрын

Because you feel.

@glowgirl8171

7 ай бұрын

Maybe you needed a vehicle for the release of pent up emotions. That's why I watched it

Oh this scene 😢

I'm in tears 😢😢😢

@corduerorose9747

6 ай бұрын

Emma knew she was about to say goodbye to her mother 😔💔

That was a very tough scene plus the music at the end. Opened up old wounds. Won't watch it again.

I know the feeling of pain from a death. My mom passed away March of 2022. The pain never goes away. This movie made me miss her more, we use to do things together by shopping, eating out and just having some laughs. Miss her soo much! Great movie!

@keepingitreal5533

Жыл бұрын

Bless you and your Mom ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Throughout the movie Flap is such a goober, but here I always feel sorry for him.

Omg such powerful acting and emotion 😢❤

Plus the build-up of the entire movie, wow.

@0:13 Emma does a little wave with her hand, always thought that this was her way of saying good-bye to her mother.

@DavidJMV61

2 ай бұрын

I've watched the movie countless times over the years & never realized that. Makes it even harder to watch...

No parent should have to watch their own child die.

@jeanmarienadal7268

3 жыл бұрын

Ahmad: So true.

@pamspencer5733

Жыл бұрын

No child should have to watch their Mother die!

Aw, she's saying i love you. And goodbye, my dears😂

Oh Lord, my girls and I are survivor's of DV and per that stranged specially with my darling firstborn. Besides their rescue and salvation, the other one thing I plead to the Lord is to never have to live this with either one of my girls. Fantastic movie, even more outstanding actors. "If this doesn't break you nothing will", real life drama is worse and all things considered that to the suffering in this world a child of ours would willingly chose eternal torture.... that would break me. God has been and will continue to be enough but again, I pray to never have to go through what this scene shows

@GodfatherAl102892

Жыл бұрын

We’ll said, amen.

A sad but tragic scene 🥺 😔 💔

I use to watch this when I was a kid and it was sad but it didn’t really faze me. It’s different now being a new mom. It’s so sad and if it can make my husband cry then you know it’s sad.

I know this feeling very well. You always think it’s going to be a relief…

@jeanmarienadal7268

4 жыл бұрын

519 Forestmonk: I believe is relative honestly.How so? Pain & hurt are and will always be two different things, thats why.Buts thats my opinion.2020.Still as for a mothers to mean, relate to die every day.🤧Oh lord this scene hurts so much.

Darn movies does it to me all the time! 😢

I wish my sister’s passing from cancer was this peaceful 😢

@pikachuuprising637

5 ай бұрын

My mother died from ovarian cancer. I wish it would have been as peaceful as this.

Still cry its emotional

Losing my mom 3 years ago to cancer this movie really hit home I used to be able to watch it now every time its on it really makes me cry

@Dana-rg8tn

Жыл бұрын

I’m so very sorry 😞

@jacobflores6559

Жыл бұрын

@@Dana-rg8tn thank you so much

@d.richard3979

Жыл бұрын

Peace be w/u as u continuously brave ur way thru the grief of losing ur mon. Definitely not for the faint of ❤️ ….neither is this awesome movie I’ve loved since seeing in ‘80s @ 10yrs old - loved it then, love it now. PS). “GIVE HER THE SHOT!”

Till this scene never knew how that felt like until it happens to yr family member..

I’m annoyed that no one’s reacted to this movie!!

@dnasty312

Ай бұрын

Ashleigh just did

@omarsandoval7107

Ай бұрын

@@dnasty312 I know! I had sent her a bunch of messages for a long time to react to it. She's actually the best person to have reacted to the movie. She got all the jokes and the correct feelings for the end of the movie!

❤THIS IS MY MOTHER PROTECT ME WHEN HER LAST MOMENTS FING NOT THERE IF only for a moment we remember God bless you all with Jesus

Flap face was more like in shock and didn’t know where to go wth his emotions..

@lordalessan

Ай бұрын

He probably feels guilty but deep down is relieved knowing Janice is in the horizon.

@stepcollazo8134

Ай бұрын

@@lordalessan nah hasent hit ‘em yet that she’s dead