My dad had two totes full of brand new single shoes- he was an amputee. In my city, now that he's gone, there's a shoe exchange for amputees. That's exactly why he saved them, in hopes of finding someone who could use them.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

I love that! I actually brought that up in one of my other videos when I came across several shoes that I couldn't find pairs to. I wondered if amputees ever need just one shoe. A lot of people said that they usually will still get both shoes because most of the time they have a prosthetic that they put the other shoe on, but I suppose there are still those that only need the one shoe.

@drfreud65

4 ай бұрын

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp the thing about prosthetics is that you must keep your weight very stable- they told my dad he had to keep his weight within 5 lbs of the weight he was when he was fitted for it. Otherwise, it doesn't fit correctly and chafes the stump. Dad couldn't keep his weight stable, so he was using crutches until he had a stroke in his 70's and had to use a mobility chair. It also depends on where the amputation is. I've got a friend who was amputated so close to his hip that he can't wear a prosthetic.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

I didn't know that. That's very interesting. Thanks for sharing!

@elainelittauauthor2218

3 ай бұрын

Interesting...I never considered this.

“Mom, I am doing a process” 😂😂

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

😄

You swimming in the pillows was the funniest thing to watch 😂 The home owner really could organize a pillow fight with the whole neighborhood! 😊

@sellyourhomenowbook

4 ай бұрын

😂 it was a pillow fight. Bonnie's the best.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

The part of the video that I'm missing right before that was me calling for my mom who is upstairs to come help me dig out of the mess and she wasn't responding, but after I swam over the pillows and went upstairs, I found that she was stuck behind her own wall of things. That's the part I wish I could have included in the video that I'm now missing in that corrupted file. Oh well. At least I had a portion of it still.🤷‍♀️😊

@LadyAurora10

4 ай бұрын

​@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp that's hilarious! 😂

@marloespeters8404

4 ай бұрын

Ooh both stuck in and behind stuff .... Hilarious but also sad

@colinecleans

4 ай бұрын

Hahaha!! It really makes it less overwhelming when you can have some fun too 😅 ​@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

Cognitive overload could be so reduced by labelling the bags and boxes. I carry wide painter's tape and a magic marker and slap a label on as soon as I designate a category for a box or bag. Essential when working with a big team as well, to cut down on questions like "Which identical black bag is garbage and which is clothes?" I'm also autistic and amazed by your endurance for social interaction while keeping up all this decision-making, Bonnie!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

That definitely could have helped in this situation. I think I got so focused on just getting through stuff quickly and didn't stop to think about the fact that I could make it a lot easier on myself by labeling the bags.😅 I did label the boxes after we put stuff in them and stacked them so that she knew what was in each box without having to open it up, but didn't think about that during the sorting process. Definitely something to keep in mind for the future.😊👍

@weeepsalotts723

Ай бұрын

Even multiple color bags, or just a specific color for trash could help cut down on questions but also give the home owner a sense of peace that no one will throw away the wrong bag by mistake. It costs a little more and means you can't reuse bags as you empty them, as easily, but it can be worth the expense.

You are doing an excellent job. I know many people may think sorting it all but not getting rid of anything is useless, but this is huge first step in the process for the home owner. She’s letting you into her home, touching her stuff, and she’ll see the multiples of everything she has. And it’s getting everything up off the floor, consolidated, organized, making a path for fire and safety. If she were open to seeing a therapist, maybe she would eventually let you take the next step…letting go of some of the stuff. You have a heart of gold ❤🇨🇦

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

I agree it does help to have everything in one place. I think the biggest struggle here is that she has limited time to get through all of this so that she isn't evicted (I think end of May is the deadline) and I don't think she is making progress quick enough. She kept canceling or wanting to reschedule things, so it was a struggle to get things organized enough for her to really go through and make the best decisions. I'll actually talk more about some of the sad realities of this situation on my next video. Hoarding disorder is a seriously rough thing for both the hoarder and their family. It's been eye-opening to witness it firsthand. She is getting therapy, but I'm afraid it's not the kind she really needs...more like talk therapy rather than CBT which I understand is the best treatment for hoarding disorder. So, we will see what happens. I have other jobs I'm working on, but my mom is still keeping tabs on the situation and hopefully she will be ready for me to come back in May to help with one last push to keep her from being evicted.

@julier1616

3 ай бұрын

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpYes, people with hoarding disorders don’t seem to do well with absolute deadlines and pressure. It took years for them to get like this and it takes years to acknowledge they have a problem and learn how to overcome it. I have a couple family members that suffer from this. For them it is because of trauma and loss. I didn’t mean to come across as judging or be critical. I only mean to say thank you for trying to help. It’s unfortunate this case has a hard deadline and eviction.

Every time I watch a video in this series, I am AMAZED at how much stuff Julie has accumulated! I hope this is the first step on the road to recovery for her.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

Well, stay tuned for the next video because I will share how things have gone so far as I am probably done helping there unless there are some significant changes over the next five or six weeks while I'm working on other projects.

OMG! I'm dying! 😂 I think your daughter and my kids came from the same mold. Exasperating, irritating, enjoyable, and loving all at the same time. My daughter and I are dumb together all the time. Thank you for sharing the sarcasm and shenanigans!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

I'm so glad the majority of people actually understand our banter and can see that we do love each other. It is definitely not a typical mother/daughter relationship, but I find Kaylee hilarious and I have so much fun being around her...even if she does want to beat the crap out of me with whatever the heck that thing was... haha! And I also love that you share a similar dumb humor with your kids.😄

@koc4787

3 ай бұрын

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 🤣My daughter was being a stinker when we were shopping one time in her Jr year of high school. She asked me why I don't love her and I said, "because you're not a boy." (We have 3 boys, 1 girl) She knew I was kidding and dropped to the floor laughing so hard but the lady next to us gave me the dirtiest look. It's 10 years later and that is still a huge joke between my daughter and I. I love that girl!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

@@koc4787 Your story sounds very familiar...probably because we have had almost the exact same conversation. Seriously! That's so funny! I like shocking people who don't know we are joking. 🤣🤣🤣

In England they have an expression for people like Kayley: Cheeky. Not really naughty but teasing and making fun in a little "off" way. I LOVE her humor. "Wearable" and "shoeable". Cool. I can force myself to kneed dough and make bread that way, but I prefer to put it in a mashine. Flour on my hands gives me goosebumps all over

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

She is a little cheeky. 😍 Oh my gosh, yes, I forgot about flour. That's another one that gives me the heebie-jeebies. It's not as bad as chalk, but still...yikes!

@4455thor

4 ай бұрын

​@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpI'm really good at bringing in the memory of things NOT to touch. My number one is Jellyfish - yikes.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank goodness I've never been stung by a jellyfish. 🤞

@4455thor

3 ай бұрын

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp there are two types of jelly fish, the white and the red ones. The white ones are just jelly. the other ones are like stinging nettles. I like neither.

@dawnsanfilippo6357

5 күн бұрын

Did she say "Do you want a variety of wholesomeness? 😅 That was funny! Its great to see you two work together.

"You only smile when you hurt me.." pretty much define every teenager 😂 But, Mom, she's here among this mountain of a pile of stuff in someone's basement helping you out. So, she LOVES YOU and loves spending time with you. You did a great job as a mom! ❤ You two did an angel's work in there. 🙏

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

2 ай бұрын

Lol! Yeah, she makes me laugh...even if I pretend otherwise. 😁

I’ve recently come across your channel via Mack’s channel and I must say I am so impressed with your generosity, selflessness and honesty. You are an inspiration and the world would be a better place if there were more people like you in it. Greetings from Ireland ❤😘.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Aw, thank you so much!❤️🙏

If perseverance came with awards, the trophy would be yours!

Clearly the shoes were overwhelming and I like your daughter's sense of humor 😊

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Haha... thank you!

Exactly 💯, I helped my neighbor clean his apartment, because it was the right 👍🏾 thing to do, and only someone who'd help, myself ❤ and didn't want him to be evicted because of. He wasn't able to, and appreciative to this day. He keeps it clean everyday since😂❤😂😊 that's what it's about... paying it forward with kindness 🌷 I've done like yourself,in my community ❤️ it keeps me from my own depression and anxiety 😔 helping others 😂 ❤, watching you to get added tips..thank you 👍🏾 for inspiring ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing, Shettikka! I love hearing stories of people helping each other. 🥰🙏

I have so much empathy for the woman who owns all this stuff. Hoping she is able to use this momentum to create some big changes in her life with the appropriate supports and help. Great job Bonnie.

@melaniehutchinson5306

4 ай бұрын

Hey Bonnie… do you label the boxes as you go?

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

I hope so, too. Yes, I did label all the boxes with a date so that she knows when that label was from.

@carolg.6838

4 ай бұрын

It has to be difficult for Julie. When I open my bins and boxes, sometimes I am relieved to see what is in it. Ok, no bad memories in this box, or I might identify something that has an easy decision to keep or give, or something that I was looking for. So far I have only gotten a few things out the door.

That’s a thousand dollars just in pillows, if not more. Man. I like the “member of the free cleaning community” for the intro today.

@dirtbagdeacon

4 ай бұрын

I thought the same thing when I saw the pillow short! Throw pillows are $$$$$

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, she has a small fortune just in pillows.🤔

@SparrowStockwell

4 ай бұрын

Excellent work, Bonnie!

I got inspired by this video. 1) Cleaning out my walk-in closet today 2) emptied & sorted junk drawer. Searching dollar store 4 an organizer. 3)Our city wide Cleanup is in April, so the shed is going 2 get purged and organized. Thanks for your inspiration. I'll tune in again soon. Your Oregon Viewer. 😊

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

Yay! I love to hear that! 🥰

I watch you for 1/2hour….then i go through my house and find afew things to pitch. Repeat. And my house is already decluttered. But your videos inspire me to find even more things to get rid of!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

11 күн бұрын

I love to hear that!😁❤️

Bonnie I just couldn’t! I salute you, I had second hand stress just from watching and I am a messy person. You are a trooper xx

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

😁🙏

Bed, Bat & Beyond sounds like a winner. I’m in!!

@dirtbagdeacon

4 ай бұрын

My dad came up with Bed Bath and Beyoncé a long time ago, which NGL would be amazing. You're getting your towels and curtains and turn the corner and there's Beyoncé singing and dancing. What about Bed, Bats, and Beyond? The store slowly becomes a haunted gothic castle the further back you go?

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

I like both these ideas. Why would Beyonce not want to spend her entire day at a store singing and dancing?😁 And I also love your second idea. That's actually right up my daughter's alley so she could help me start it. She loves horror movies and could do some cool things with that store.😂

This is an awesome video. I enjoyed seeing you with your daughter. That was alot of stuff to get through and you did a great job. I'm looking forward to you helping Mira again. ❤ to all of you free cleaners out there. You give us all hope

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

I have a friend that has a "pillow room" in his home. Seriously! He probably has that many pillows in there. It is so cool, and comfy, to go there and listen to all kinds of music in candlelight. It is an immediate stress reliever. I'm quite sure he made it for his lady guests, like me, to cuddle up. I just got a kick out of it, and we talked for hours. We still do. I think there should be a program that donates large lots of pillows like that to make their own pillow rooms. I laugh younger in cheek, but honestly it would be excellent for mental health. Some therapist could likely benefit from such! I've been binging your shows and really like the organization. But. I mostly like how you talk about the hoarding being often from trauma. My home is in the worse shape ever. Listening to you, it is making sense, bc I have had a 6 surgeries in 3 years. The pain in between was terrible, as was the recovery. It has been truly traumatic. And, it is showing in my home and storage building. Just saying ... thank you for sharing your thoughts and knowledge! May God's blessings be upon you as continue this "ministry😊" with a true "servants heart❤" for those in need!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Oh my goodness! A new business idea. Instead of all of the event centers that are popping up everywhere (at least here in Utah), we could have Pillow Palaces where there are just different rooms of different colored pillows and different textures of pillows where people come to spend an hour in a room with beautiful pillows. There would need to be a good way to sanitize them after each session, but I'm loving the thought of this... haha! Also, yes, I can imagine that you would be a little traumatized after that many surgeries in a row and not being able to do things the way you used to. I'm so sorry you are dealing with that!

What an awesome family you guys are, that your mum and your daughter both come to help. I love your guys humour. Wow this home has me feeling overwhelmed just watching. The volume of belongings...you did so well just to categorize them and I'm hoping the owner will have the courage to use this new space to sort through things and let some more stuff go. Looking forward to seeing you at Mira's place! Yay!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you! ❤️🙏

Hoping Julie is doing well. There was so much stuff in this series. Thank you for what you do! You and Kaylee make me laugh every time you are working together. Very similar to myself & my daughter. Joking & laughs make it fun!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you! I love finding people who understand our dumb humor. We have a pretty unconventional relationship, but it works for us. I love my daughter to pieces...even if she does think about beating the crap out of me with whatever that thing was.😂😂

I think you and the crew have done enough for now. You have done the entire home and you have cleaned, organised, removed, as much as you can. Up to Julie where this goes next.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Exactly. I will actually talk a lot more about that very thing in the next one as it will be the final one in this series and I'm going to be a bit more candid about my experience.

Your perseverance and patience are amazing. I appreciate all the hard work you do to help others.❤

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

Awwww, i totally get your banter together. My son is 'on the spectrum' with A.D.H.D & autism. He is probably the funniest person i know & has me in stitches all the time. Sometimes people dont get our relationship & may view him as being disrespectful. But he is anything but! Hes extremely loving and kind, even though he will be 30 soon, and has moved away with his girlfriend, he still calls me every day to chat & check on me. He visits often & i visit him & his lovely girlfriend. There was a time that i was so worried about him. He barely left the house and had zero self confidence. But he is so happy now and a young man i am very proud of. Please let me assure you, that patience (which you obviously have) and love (also obvious) between you two, and good communication, will conquer any problems. You are so lucky to have each other. 😊 So if anyone doesn't 'get it', that is their problem not yours. Sorry to waffle on. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I think what you do is incredible btw. So kind. Sending you lots & lots of love from the U.K. ❤❤❤xx

@lisabullock5864

3 ай бұрын

Same situation here. I actually had to come watch the video after the author posted about the responses she had had about this video. It all looks and sounds pretty familiar. When every thing is hard the dark humour can be the only think that saves you

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

I love you guys so much for understanding and getting our banter together. I love my daughter so much and find her absolutely hilarious! She is one of my favorite people to be around because she always has me laughing! So, thank you for being part of our "tribe."❤️🙏😊

@angiepanaexx

3 ай бұрын

@@lisabullock5864 absolutely! Sending you a hug too! 🤗 X

@angiepanaexx

3 ай бұрын

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp you are so welcome hun. 🤗🩷Xxx

Ty for the continued help from your family members!! Not a shoe person either!! 😮😢😊😅❤ God bless. Continued prayers for this family on the decluttering journey

Amazing job too All!! Soooo much stuff to go through, its overwhelming for anyone. Im sure the family is grateful for your help!! ❤🕉️

What an amazing job organizing everything ❤ Pillows everywhere. 😮 What a beautiful collection of them 😍 God bless all you do ❤

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much 🤗

Awwwww ❤ you mentioned me again! Thank you so much!!! I got over 400 new subscribers for your mentioning!! You’re so awesome!! One day maybe I’ll come help you clean haha I promise not throw pillows at you 😂

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

I'm so happy you got so many new subscribers! And if you do ever come help me, I would totally let you throw pillows at me. I don't mind.🤷‍♀️😁

Great job with all of this, I look forward to seeing you help Mira 💕💕💕

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

Thank you! 🤗

I love your daughter’s sense of humor.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 күн бұрын

I'm so glad. I do, too. Some people really don't get it and think that she's being disrespectful, but she makes me laugh every time I'm around her.😄

The amount of work you do is truly breathtaking.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you!

Your whole family is awesome! The odd shoes actually make sense if one considers what a hard time the homeowner has with getting rid of stuff. That poor lady! I hope she will be able to literally and emotionally see clearly after her house is straightened out.

Wow Bonnie! An immense task! You did really well and I wish I had your persistence and patience! ❤😊

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thanks so much! 😊

I think I might have already said this, but seeing the basement really brought home to me just how much stuff Julie has. It's absolutely mind blowing. It's going to take months to get through it all and I worry she might get fatigued with it all and still be adding to the hoard. You have worked so amazingly hard with all this I just hope Julie can appreciate that and keep at it.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

I will actually talk a lot about how things ended up in my next video because I think, unless there are some serious changes in her mindset, I can't really do much more to help. She has got to get more stuff out of the house. It is really, really sad to see the reality of these situations and how it can feel like nothing is going to change. I have a lot of empathy for both her and her family because this is a seriously hard mental illness.😪

You are amazing and so nice of your daughter to come and help too! Some of the shoes were clearly worn while others looked new. Nothing worse than missing a match for a shoe you like.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you. What's funny is I don't think she's actually worn any of these shoes. And I think she went on binge shopping sprees and bought all of them and then they got buried in all of this mess. That's the saddest part about this is that it seems she bought a lot of stuff for that dopamine hit, but has never actually used it or done anything with it. It breaks my heart because her mind is so broken.😪

Wow you are doing a fantastic job well done your simple the best ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much 😊

Another sorting tour de force! It is miraculous what you can do, Bonnie!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

🙏

Amazing job! You work so hard Bonnie!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

🙏❤️

“Oh look more shoes”

AMAZING your daughter and mum has helped you take on an enormous task and you are all inspirational I’ve so enjoyed your videos so thank you so so much . Eva from Scotland xxx

Cleaning out moms house and our own stuff. It is overwhelming but nearly done

Beautiful lady you had your hands full on this one. This looks amazing God bless you 🙏❤️

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much 🤗

Wow!! That was a lot of stuff!! Great sorting job y'all!!🌟💜🌟💜🌟💜🌟💜🌟😍👍👍

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you 🤗

You did fantastically! I was so amazed at the end how much floor space you made. I bet the banter with your daughter made the day go easier! I liked your humour and seeing how slowly the non-sped up sorting actually goes! Well done- the house is looking so much better.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!❤️

Wow! So much stuff. I have to admit that it causes me a lot of anxiety to see all the mountains of stuff and I wouldn’t know where to start. Great job Bonnie! I would think it would be very helpful for Julie to see just how much of each thing she has. Hopefully she realizes this now and can turn the page to a new attitude about stuff.

That is wild on how many shoes there are there she has enough to start a shoe store 100% and Pillows. Anna In Ohio

The plug is worn out and needs to be replaced. You're doing amazing as a cleaner and a mother. You have far more patience then I. ❤❤❤

Good morning 🌄🌞 blessings ☕ awesome job 👏🏾👍🏾😊

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

Good morning!

Your daughter is hilarious 😂 good comeback “you don’t know about you illegitimate brother”

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

😁

My mom is a shoe hoarder. In fact it is clothing in general. When we moved my parents out of a rental house and into another one closer to us, my niece and I found a pile of shoes almost 4ft tall. Most of them weren't in this good of shape. A lot were moldy and falling apart. When we tried to get rid of the moldy shoes she had a HUGE hissy fit, insisting they could be cleaned and worn. We had he sit down and try on about 6 pair that disintegrated before they got on her feet. My dad ended up having to take her out of the house while we got rid of them. 19 bags of nasty shoes.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

That is heartbreaking. 😞It's really sad when hoarding gets to the point where even garbage becomes valuable to a person. I was thankful that at least almost everything in this house was in pretty good condition.

@frealafgb

4 ай бұрын

I can relate to this. Have been helping a friend who I think has difficulty with compulsive shopping and hoarding. Her apartment was very mouldy and a lot of her hoarded clothing and shoes that had never been worn were mouldy and in piles mixed with trash. It made the cleanup so much easier when we tried to make an agreement that if it was really mouldy we would throw it away, so we really only tried to clean and save the ones that she got upset over. Many of the mouldy items she was able to see as trash eventually - although we built up to that and skipped a lot of stuff to start with I didn't try to fight her on it - I just said we could try to clean things, skipped it, or even just put them away dirty and moved on. There was so much that it was about pushing on with easy decisions and coming back to anything hard another time when it might seem less hard. We made huge progress following Dana K White's steps about trash, easy stuff that has a home already, and donating. And I talked about the container concept a lot.... straightforward stuff like all the clothing needed to fit into the cupboards and drawers and couldn't be in extra bags on the floor (I blamed the mould, which helped). And we actually got there in the end ❤ but I think that gentle, factual/non emotional process, and skipping hard things really helped her make big changes without too many tears. Hopefully you found a way as well over time.. its so hard though especially when the hoarding gets so bad. Helping people with hoarding disorder is so hard and doesn't always seem logical I think, but can definitely feel a huge sense of victory when you start to see some floor and wall!!🎉

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing that experience. I love Dana K. White's method of tackling easy stuff first to just get those decision-making muscles primed. 💪 Sadly, I'm not sure that she is making decisions quickly enough to make the deadline so that she doesn't get evicted. Every time I would think we were making some good progress, it seemed we took two steps back and had to start over again. I will talk about this in my next video, but I will basically wrap up my experience at this house because I think I've pretty much done all I can do and have turned things back over to the family. It breaks my heart, but I can't force her to get rid of things and it's sad that she can't see that she's going to lose it ALL unless she gets rid of SOME now. 😞

@frealafgb

3 ай бұрын

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I really hope it turns out okay but I can understand why it wouldn't. It's such a hard thing to overcome even with so much help and support. You've done your best and worked a miracle. Nothing more you can do than that.

A job well done! Thanks for sharing the footage of your interactions with your daughter! Looking forward to the next video!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

Thank you!😊

You are such a fine person, Bonnie! I like you very much! 🥰🥰

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

You are so nice. Thank you!❤️❤️😊🙏

You are such a patient person ,I would taken all the boxes and bags with shoes dump them all in the living room for the owner to deal with them and then I would go back down to the basement 😂😂😂😂

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

That's kind of what we did the last week we were there, but we couldn't dump it out in the living room because that has been re-cluttered to the point it barely looks like we did anything, 😞 so we used the newly cleaned out piano room to have her sort through clothes and shoes.

Bravo 👏 for your labors! I wouldn't even consider doing a job like that. Just would trigger too many negative thoughts and emotions and I'd be a massive wreck for my own family to deal with at the end of the day. I'm all for making a mess go away and cleaning and actually enjoy that but just to make other stacks and piles of stuff that isn't going away, just sorted and moved to a new pile or stack, nope. Not doing that. 😢

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

I will be talking a lot more candidly about this whole experience in my next video/ last video of this series because it has been a very interesting and different experience than any of the other homes I have cleaned, for sure. It's been a huge learning experience and I definitely have a lot of empathy for those with hoarding disorder and their families. It is a seriously hard mental illness.😞

👞 👟 👠 I found a match! I found a match!! Nope no match 😂

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂

Progress is progress!!!❤❤❤

Wow weeee! You are a sorting machine! Good work

You totally just unlocked my memory with The Shoe People! Holy cow, that was deeply hidden in my brain 🤣🤯

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

I actually know nothing about The Shoe People. I was just thinking about a "shoe person" in my head and wondered if there was some kind of picture out there of a shoe person, and then I stumbled across The Shoe People. I don't remember the show at all even though apparently it was in 1987. It must not have been on TV very long because I have no memory of it. It was just funny that I actually found a picture to go along with the dumb thought in my head.😅

Looking forward to you and Mirs

Great job. Unbelievable amount of shoes.

Thank you Bonnie for the fun interaction and showing the struggles of SHOES! It was Paperwork for my decluttering journey. It don't matter what the item is it still can be just as hard to sort. The Struggle is real! Finding a solution to organize is the hardest part of clearing the spaces. My journey is not easy without the help and support. KZread has helped me through my decluttering Journey, and Thanks to Bonnie and others videos, I was getting it done one room at a time. I am so proud of the homeowner and the co-operation with their decluttering journey. There is so many emotions that come with this process and it is hard to deal with it at times. They will be Super Hero's in the end. Please be kind to Bonnie and all that is involved. This is not an easy thing to do. They deserve respect during this time of change. As for myself, I am working my Garage.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

I'm so glad you are getting on top of everything with a little help from your KZread Friends...haha! It was so nice to meet you in person and work with you and I can't wait to show people what you've been working on in a future video.

Great job and alot of hard work! Amazing! I helped my daughter organize her pantry. She could barely get in there! Lol! It took us 2 days! I had her really think about all the stuff she had and was able to convince her to throw some stuff away. It looked better but I wish I could have done more.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Isn't it crazy the amount of time it can take to clean and organize one little area? I'm always shocked at how far off I am on my estimation of how long something will take. And I totally understand wanting to do more. It's a lot easier to do that with someone else's stuff because you want to just toss half of it. 😅I'm sure she appreciated the help.😊

Woke up Sunday and whoo-hoo, Beautiful Bonnie uploaded !!! I haven't even watched yet lmbo 😅😅😅

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

You're the best!😊❤️

Your daughter is hilarious. I had to replay several parts of the video 😂 🩵

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

She cracks me up. I also watched it several times even after I was done editing it because it's so funny to me. 😂I totally understand why a few people think she is being disrespectful, but this is just the way we banter. I always love spending time with her because she makes me laugh even if I do sound like I'm being stern with her sometimes. I'm never really upset. 😊

I am excited to see if you find the shoe matches somewhere else in the hoard. Would be so awesome if you do!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

Well, not to spoil any future videos, but I doubt I will be going back to this house. Some things have happened since to where I'm not sure I can still keep working there. I will talk about that more in my [probably] final video.

@dirtbagdeacon

4 ай бұрын

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp absolutely no worries. I know these situations can be hard and change quickly. Whatever happens, best wishes to you and the homeowner, it's come so far!

You are great 🎉

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

😊🙏

Love you and Haley (sp?) together! Reminds me of me and my daughters…. Totally laughing! Thanks! 😂

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Oh, I'm so glad! Yeah, I think she's pretty funny.😄❤️

Well done .Never seen so much stuff ❤

I hope Julie can get some counselling for her issues. If she could manage to part with any clothes, shoes and blankets there are plenty of people who would appreciate it if she could donate some things as well. I know this is very difficult for her and I am in no way finding fault. I think she is very brave to have started this process. Please do not apologise for your conversations with your daughter. You are both amazing people with such bright minds. Remember what other people think of you is none of your business. If you do not love them their opinion is of no consequence whatsoever. Whenever you can get the videos out is fine, you are a busy mum and it should be family first. Thanks from Canada.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you for your comments. I really hope she does get the help she needs to part with most of this stuff. The funny thing is, she used to help a lot of people in the same way that I do now and so I know there is that very compassionate side of her where she wants to help others. I'm not sure she is seeing the connection between giving some of this stuff away without selling it and blessing someone else's life because of her willingness to give up that item. It's such a hard mental illness to understand and to treat. And thank you for your comments about my interactions with my daughter. She's pretty special to me and it's not really a conventional type of relationship, but it works for us.😁

So much work and great result! 👍

I enjoyed your small talk, minor shenanigans etc.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

😁🙏

Wow!! Good job Bonnie and team. Tremendous amount of flammable material in that basement. I wonder if Julie appreciates how concerning this is for her family and her neighbors. 🎉I hope she can see her way clear to get rid of a huge amount.

@sheelfjohnson

4 ай бұрын

That's actually really good motivation for getting rid of stuff if you live in a wildfire- prone area. It helped me get rid of a lot after we had a close call. You look at all the extra stuff as fuel for fire.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

That's kind of how this all started was her neighbor being concerned about a fire since this is a duplex, and she should absolutely be concerned because, you're right, that is a lot of flammable material. And especially where the outlets seem to have an issue with things staying plugged in, if the plug is halfway hanging out, that is a huge fire risk! It is pretty scary.

@maryleeswope3353

4 ай бұрын

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp thank you for the extra insight Bonnie. It is a troubling situation. I think it must be extremely difficult to get the hoarder to see things differently...shift their long held perspective...even in the face of all the fire fuel and bad wiring. If they have been made clearly aware and continue to hang on to mega boxes of stuff, I don't know if I could go back. This is a very hard place to be, for you. My heart goes out to you. Wondering if the fire Marshall walked thru w her might change her mind.🙏

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

There is definitely something broken with the wiring in her brain right now and I don't think she can make good sound decisions. It's heartbreaking to watch. 🤔😕

You two remind me of my daughter and me. We are too much alike and bicker back and forth. 😂

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

😁👍

Amazing job as always Bonnie, don’t be disheartened! You have made a huge visible difference and a definite positive impact on the owners quality of life. Keep at it😊 take care, from the UK Xxx

What an amazing job you did!!

Oh my gosh Bonnie! This is so overwhelming to me!you are such a great person!!!😊

WOW-you’re all amazing!👏🏻

Omg ye worked on Valentines Day that’s love of the job 🥰 or madness 😂 With so much stuff I’m not surprised you kept changing how you were going to organise it. Bonnie you are absolutely amazing to help anyone in this situation. I would have cried so many times with so many emotions. With the stuff ye didn’t sell was it donated or did it come back into the house. The space you made in the basement was brilliant. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇‍♀️👏👍💪🙏💐👢🩴👞👟🥾🥿👡👠🕶👓

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

To answer your question about the stuff being donated, I actually couldn't tell you because I wasn't able to go back the next week like I was supposed to to finish things up and get my final footage because she woke up sick the morning that I was supposed to go and so I wasn't able to see if things actually got taken to the thrift store or if they came back into the house. Sadly, my guess is that they never made it to the thrift store, but I hope I'm wrong. I will talk a lot more candidly about this whole experience in my next video as I think there is not anything more I can do to help this woman until she gets some serious therapy. It's really, really sad.😞

Your banter with your kid is hilarious 😂 That was my favorite part of this series.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

2 ай бұрын

I'm glad you think so because others were quite offended by it and I thought she was being disrespectful.🤔😅 I definitely would not have put it in my video if I thought she was being disrespectful. This is just the way we are, and I love spending time with her! This one was also my favorite video of this series because of my daughter. I laughed all the way through the editing process.🤣

God Bless you! What a feat. Great job!!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

You're an angel Bonnie!!

Thanks for another great video of decluttering. I feel a little bit better after watching your video. I have such a mess at my house. You’re giving me encouragement that I can clean it up one trash bag at a time.

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Aw, I'm so glad!🤗❤️

Thanks for the video!! Loved it

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

So glad!😊❤️

Wow!! That is a lot of sorting.

I love the interactions you have with your daughter - it sounds like my daughter and myself!!! ❤

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

😄🙏

Your relationship with your daughter, is awesome. 😊

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

I think so too! Thank you!❤️

❤bless you beautiful mess!😢 your a great mother !!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, Carolyn!😊❤️🙏

Good video!!!

You & your daughter are rockstars!! Love your humor too!! ❤😂

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you!😄❤️

We need a shirt with oh more pillows 😊 you did such a good job with your daughter and mom! Thank you so much for this video and the motivation to declutter my house more ❤

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

😁🙏

I love organizing, and you do it so well, but I have to tell you that this house gave me anxiety and I could barely get through the entire video. I just felt like I was suffocating. Good job again, Bonnie!

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

I love, love, love organizing, but it does get frustrating when I can't complete a job because there are so many missing "parts" (i.e. matches to shoes). This entire experience has really tested my patience, but I also have a lot of empathy towards the homeowner and know that she really needs some serious therapy to actually be successful at this. I have done as much as I think I can do and now it will be up to her and her family.🤔

Nothing weird at all about your conversations! Just funny in the ha ha ha way. :) If people don't like it, that's THEIR problem. It's certainly not yours! You do you. 💜💜

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

You're the best! Thank you!

You are doing awesome. Myself, I prefer to sort like items and toss trash then start the storing of all sorted items.

Tobin the cat is so cute.

Your daughter sounds just like my grandchildren. Its the new age funny. They love the ridiculous.. Everything you're sorting looks very nice. Just a lot of stuff. Wish I lived in that area, for the yard sale. Hauling it all out of a basement is a lot work. Glad you have help with that. 💜💛💙

You are so amazing!!! I would not have the patience 😂 And I thought you & your daughter were adorable together!!! 💜

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!!😁

I love your daughter

@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

3 ай бұрын

Thanks! I think she's pretty funny.😁❤️

WOW 😮😮😮