Being an autistic parent of an autistic son can be very isolating, especially since we moved last summer. I appreciate hearing you say this. It's reassuring to know there are others out there with families like mine experiencing similar experiences. ❤

@niebieskimotyl3308

2 жыл бұрын

It is so much. I've moved with my son to the new small city just before pandemic and lockdown in 2020. I've been so isolated, now I'm happy I can talk to kindergarden teacher who is nice, warm person and knows my son the most of all people other than me

@whitneymason406

2 жыл бұрын

@@niebieskimotyl3308 it is hard! Thanks for sharing it's nice to know I'm not alone! 💞

@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023

6 ай бұрын

​@@whitneymason406 , there are lots of us online. I have found the KZread channels of autistic and/or ADHD parents a great comfort. * solidarity fist bump * from an AutDHD parent of one AutDHD and one ADHD adult

Thank you ❤ I discovered I was autistic at 29 which led me to realizing my daughter is also autistic. It’s a struggle every day and I constantly wish I could do better for my daughter. I’m struggling so much just to get by for myself.

Like I said on the premiere, thank you. Being an autistic mom to 2 autistic kids(4 & 2) is so hard some days. I’ve been in burnout for a few months now and I do feel like I’m finally starting to process those feelings that have been holding me down. I really hope I can break through soon. The only thing that has really kept me recharged enough so I can get through the day lately is my 4yo will sit in my lap and start snoring. Which is literally her way of saying close your eyes for a few minutes mom, take a little nap, I’ll stay here with you so you know I’m safe and I’ll watch brother. Those few minutes of her being my heated weighted blanket are some of the best moments of my life right now. Watching this video was a great reminder that I’m not alone or the only one. I’m constantly alone with my kids, I don’t have any friends with special needs kids, my husband works 60 hours a week so that we can afford for me to stay home… The list of things that make me feel lonely is so long. Having a video like this is really helpful and comforting. So again, I say thank you.

@whitneymason406

2 жыл бұрын

I feel ya! ❤

@MomontheSpectrum

2 жыл бұрын

💞

@sueannevangalen5186

2 жыл бұрын

That is so sweet! I mean the story of your daughter crawling onto your lap. Sometimes they want to take care of us. 🥰

@ThatPaintingLass

2 жыл бұрын

@@sueannevangalen5186 she sure does. 🙂

Absolutely brilliant video Taylor -really helpful and really well done, thank you.

@MomontheSpectrum

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Martin. I felt a lot of this for you after the messages you sent my way! You're a real life superhero!

@martinhughes007

2 жыл бұрын

@@MomontheSpectrum aww that’s so very kind of you 😊 our journey has been so very difficult, but there’s always hope.

Thank you so much for this video I definitely needed to hear this and I bet alot of other people did too ❤. I'm autistic and I'm getting my daughter evaluated for autism but it's not for another year. It's been a rough week and today is no better. I'm on the verge of a meltdown, like today everything is way too much for me. This video made my day ❤ and reminded myself that I need to take care of myself too. You are helping so many people and an amazing person, thank you for all that you do!

@MomontheSpectrum

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Jessica. Thanks for your comment. Hang in there. Sending hugs. Or fist bumps if hugs are uncomfortable. 💞

I like your videos, Taylor, probably because I feel like we have something in common. I am a mom on spectrum with two kids, one on spectrum (16) and one who is ND and LGBT (19). I am not officially diagnosed as it is really hard in my country for adults, but according to all various tests I found, it is just completely clear. I am also on medication for anxiety and panic disorder for around 16 years and I suffer depressions all my life. Not to make it easier, I had to leave my husband after both our kids were born, because I realized I don't love him, and it was no way to stay with him anymore as I was unable to sleep with him and he needed that ... We even tried some counseling, but in the end we separated and divorced. I did all I could so that we at least live on the same street, stay friends as much as we can and share care for our children as I wanted to protect them from harm as much as possible. I can tell you, living this on "my own" (as my mom died before my second child was born for severe Alzheimer illness), it is REALLY sometimes very very tough. I got actually used to various melt-downs, in my case usually rather some kind of inner tantrums which end up with complete shut-down and kind of depression or emotional "emptiness" for hours or days. But ... I always try to search for ways to find the happiness in life for both, me and my beloved kids. Thank you for this channel and all what you put in it! Sending love ❤☺

Love all of these your videos are brilliant

That's so important to feel the feelings. I've got so much, I pushed them away for years because I wanted to be strong for my son, and they're just pooping up unexpectedly. I'm now allowing them in safe space and talk about my true feelings with people who are mature enough to understand and not judge. Mostly other mums who gone through hard times. My best friend is 30 years older and has got a grownup son. Mine is just 6 but we've been through a lot, with my parents dying, moving out of the country, and no other parent to help at all, just blaming me for everything.

@MomontheSpectrum

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you have found someone who will listen without judgment! So important.

What a great video. I really took onboard all the information and I think it really helps to know that as a parent carer I'm not forgotten. My son is non verbally autistic with severe learning difficulties and SPD. I too suspect I'm on the spectrum yet have no formal diagnosis yet. Thank you I found this very helpful

@MomontheSpectrum

2 жыл бұрын

You’re very welcome. 💓

My nine-year-old son is non-speaking and autistic. He can make sounds like humming and even say some words on occasion, and he sings quite a lot. But he doesn't really use words to communicate. It happens and it's getting more frequent but he's still called non-speaking for now. When I go into his room in the morning to wake him up for school and say "Good morning, sweetie," he replies with, "Ah wah een ah oh hm-hm-hm" (which is probably an attempt to repeat some line from some TV show he's seen a hundred times). I think to myself, "I'll bet there's not one parent within a hundred miles of here who gets greeted in the morning like that." Then I rub the top of his head, kiss him on the hair and feel really special. This isn't really a self care tip but it helps with the gratitude to reframe one's thinking. I used to sometimes think things like, "I've been a mother for x number of years and I have yet to be called mommy by my child" because I'd heard other mothers say that that's when motherhood started to feel real to them, when their child called them "mommy." But that just made me feel sort of sad. So yeah, that's all I wanted to add. Reframe your thinking about a non-speaking child. That was a good tip about not making comparisons to other parents. P.S. I was sorry to miss the premiere (I was on my way out the door to pick my kids up from school). But I got to it when we got home. I liked it and needed it today ❤️

@MomontheSpectrum

2 жыл бұрын

Missed you today - but also it was totally spontaneous :) thank you for your comment. It's a very sweet viewpoint.

I’m watching your videos, and learning a lot. I have some thoughts about looking at people when having conversations. I have synesthesia, and the kind I have causes me to hear sounds when I see things, especially facial expressions. So if I’m talking to someone and looking at their face, the sounds from what I see interfere with the words they’re saying and it takes a lot of concentration to follow the conversation. If I look away, I can concentrate better on what they’re saying because there are no other distracting sounds. Just a weird bit of recent insight.

Love this! Thank you for sharing.

I have two children that are autistic and I haven't been tested but think I might be. I have one daughter and one son. My daughter is 14 going to be 15 and is sometimes hyper but laid back. My son is almost 11 and also has CP so he is on a different level than my daughter is.

I am in tears because finally I feel seen …

I just wanted to thank you for your channel and for the care you show to/for everyone😊. I am a parent of a wonderful son who has Asperger's Syndrome, he was diagnosed at around 6 years old and is now 25 years old, has an honours degree, a good job in his field and is getting on with his life as best he can, but, I am still so worried for him and heartbroken as he has been hurt by interactions with others at school and at jobs that he has had and it is causing him a lot of emotional pain, self-doubt and anxiety. My family and I, all try to help, and have suggested therapy but he is scared as he finds it difficult to open up and discuss his feelings, although he does speak to me. I, just wanted to say this as being a mother/parent is a lifelong job and we have to, as you have kindly reminded us, look after ourselves so we can care for others. Something, I haven't done very well in my life but, know I need to try to do.

@MomontheSpectrum

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your sweet comment. I hope you will take a small step forward in restoring care for yourself! It sounds like you have offered a world of support and care for your son. He is lucky to have you. 💓

@jacklynazure689

2 жыл бұрын

@@MomontheSpectrum Thank you so much for your very kind words😊 God bless🙏🏾

I’m not crying, you’re crying xD

@MomontheSpectrum

2 жыл бұрын

💞

My husband and I often tag team our exercise time out, but when my husband has been away I've done the same with my best friend: we'll meet up at a park with a packed lunch 1 mum watches the kids while the other goes for a solo walk, we have lunch together & then the other mum goes for a walk. I have also utilised after school care programs and holiday programs

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I love your videos. I'm autistic, and I moved from another country to the DFW area. My daughter moved to college, and I have a lot of free time. I'm available to help mothers when they feel overwhelmed with their kids, but I don't know how to connect to the DFW autistic mothers community.

@MomontheSpectrum

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Check out Ausome moms group on Facebook. It’s DFW autism mammas! I believe the link is in this video description.