My mom hates this song and your other one "boy" because she thinks that it influenced me to come out but like WTF!!!! How?!?! Someone singing about themself doesn't make someone go "oh wow, being trans must be so fun, let me try" It's shitty and anyone who's trans understands. Dysphoria is hell, and no one would WANT to go through that. I love this song because it reminds me that I'm not alone. Also I was always masculine. From when I was like 3 people always thought I was a boy. I thought it was flattering but my mom would always correct them and I would get embarrassed and later I would tell her I wished I was a boy and she would say just because you look like one doesn't mean you want to be one. I said no... I look like one because I am one. She never understood and she still doesn't, 10 years later. Thank you Tom, you're amazing.

@Mark-s747

3 жыл бұрын

This is great, ya you are one just know that I understand, when people call me a boy it's a gift, I just wish that i could start life over and tell them I'm a boy so that ik wouldn't be living a lie.

@frankology

3 жыл бұрын

Agh this comment hit me hard. My parents think I'm copying someone I saw on TV, but I'm not. This is who I am.

@Travel_and_kittens

2 жыл бұрын

Does she understand now, three years later?

@SylviaRustyFae

Жыл бұрын

@@Travel_and_kittens Some parents nvr come around. Others may come around but for mental health reasons we still cant be around them. Others cease existence before they cud even come around. Fact is, while we always hope for things to have improved with the biofamilial relationships; we must remember that other familial relationships can and will exist. Chosen family is far and away superior to biofamily, bcuz you know they all have unconditional love and acceptance for you. So, even if anyone doesnt have supportive biofamily even after many yrs; just know that your chosen family isnt the second best option, its the far better option than toxicity and bigotry and whatevs else your family wrought on you

@Raven_Rave9

8 ай бұрын

My parents think that I’m also being influenced as well, from people around me and stuff, which I’m not, I’ve felt this way ever since I was four or five, and now I’ve found myself again, I’m happy again, not depressed in some strangers body that I don’t recognise in photos or in the mirror

this is absolutely beautiful

@tomhenrik8187

8 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

@njsdf5857

6 жыл бұрын

hey Noah

@noahdavis2927

5 жыл бұрын

Sup

@Popplebop

5 жыл бұрын

HinNoahhhhhhhhhhh

Welp...I SAID I WASNT GONNA CRY DAMNIT!

Oh man, when I first heard this song I had just realized I was FtM and it didn't impact me much but coming back to it and hearing it I cried

This relates to me so much. Thank you for your music.

@tomhenrik8187

8 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, I'm glad you like it :)

Dude, this is so awesome! How are you not on TV?! Keep it up man, you have amazing talent.

@tomhenrik8187

7 жыл бұрын

Thanks ;) *blush*

I am 13 and watched this then, i came out to my parents and some friends that im a ftm all your songs inspired me. Thank You this song is the best keep doing what you are doing.

@SylviaRustyFae

5 жыл бұрын

@Travel_and_kittens

2 жыл бұрын

And how are you doing these days? Did it go alright?

@dcmerek

2 жыл бұрын

@@Travel_and_kittens Well my parents still don’t call me by my preferred name or pronouns they call me “it” and they call me NickyD which I hate and it’s a combination of my birth first and middle name. They still call me their little girl or my daughter. I’m 17 now and have been on Testosterone for 2 years but they said I can’t get any surgery until I’m 18 and they won’t help pay for it or anything in that matter. My brother is good but still messes up sometimes. Not to mention I live in Texas so that makes it a little worse. I want to move to Queensland, Aus. For Uni but my dad wants me to go to his “dream school” which I don’t want to. I think that’s about it for now. Thank you for asking.

@dcmerek

2 жыл бұрын

If I had to say on a scale of 1 to 10 how supportive my parents are my mom is like a 6 and a half and my dad is like a 5. My dad is extremely homophobic and calls all gays the F word and my mom calls lesbians the d word. They only support me because I am their child I guess. It also didn’t help when I came out and told the my dad just said “No” and my mom said “you know I love you but you know you are going to hell right”? We are not religious.

@Travel_and_kittens

2 жыл бұрын

@@dcmerek Well, that doesn't sound really pleasant if I'm to be honest... I live in Israel so all the surgeries are free and I'm on HRT for about a year now, but soon I'll turn 18 and be able to actually go through them. And after reading your response (thanks for responding, by the way) I appreciate how accepting my parents and school are, I hope your parents will accept you soon. Just out of curiosity (sorry if it's offensive in any way), how is it like to live in Texas as a trans person? Because I heard some really bad experiences...

I sent this song to my friend Evan who is ftm. it and he loved it so much :)

@tomhenrikftm-englishchanne5248

7 жыл бұрын

I'm glad he liked it :)

@Popplebop

5 жыл бұрын

Are u real?

@ghosty9279

3 жыл бұрын

MY NAME IS EVAN AND I'M FTM--

@Team_Tapestry

3 жыл бұрын

okay its four years since this was posted but one of my names is Evan and I think I got second hand euphoria from this holy heck- that and the 'he' oml

Seeing pictures of me without my haircut, it feels weird, and just like how you amazingly described. This song is beautiful and relatable!

@corneliabrohl8365

3 жыл бұрын

I can definitely relate

this is a great song. you sound great man. i just recently realized i am ftm trans and this song is helping me so much. i saw at least your other song "boy" and that one is awesome too. keep being you and making awesome music :)

@narutokakashi9248

6 жыл бұрын

Mier Browne same

“What should of been my life...” Omg I’ve never related to something more

Thank you for your song. I start singing with you and crying. Thank you.

@tomhenrik8187

8 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! That means a lot to me!

@vifolge

8 жыл бұрын

I would like to learn your song, Tom. I study playing piano and violin, are you interesting in sharing of your song in Ukraine?

@tomhenrik8187

8 жыл бұрын

That sounds like a nice idea. You can tell me more about it: amsds91@gmail.com

Dude you sound absolutely amazing singing this, like god damn I'm honestly jealous of how good you sound

amazing this song is incredible. I relate so much. keep being awesome dude your music is great

@tomhenrik8187

7 жыл бұрын

Its Logan Thanks ;)

Honestly going through this battle right now. Song like this help me keep the strength to at least be real to myself at least. I hope to be honest with everyone in my life one day

@SylviaRustyFae

Жыл бұрын

***hugs from the future*** Update on winnin the war?

I think I've never heard a more emotional song. I love it!

Got me singing this shit quietly to myself in class and trying not to cry

This is beautiful. You've got a real talent

@tomhenrik8187

7 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much :)

I heard this song for the first time around two years ago, but I don’t think I really grasped exactly what it meant until... well, now. I’m FtM, and although I’m still not out of the closet, I _finally_ cut my hair, own a binder, and dress like a male. I don’t even recognize myself in my old photos sometimes. It’s almost like my brain disassociated myself from who I used to be. Just a few minutes ago, I was looking through my dad’s Instagram. Years upon years of pictures of me, but as a female. I legitimately teared up because I feel like I’m killing that girl who I used to be, but that same girl was nothing more than a lie. Then, I remembered hearing this song. Came back to it. It’s beautiful. Your lyrics perfectly captured the feeling of reflecting on one’s past self.

That was inspiring. I can relate so much. Thanks for uploading this song!

@tomhenrik8187

7 жыл бұрын

Thank you, I'm glad you like it :)

I can't listen to that without crying because it is relateable on so many levels

I love this song so much. I looked back at pictures of myself from a year ago... I’ve changed so much. Back then it was long hair, dresses, and makeup everyday. Now it’s short hair and binding whenever I get the chance. That girl in the photograph, “she’s” so unrecognizable.

This is beautiful. I can relate so much. Keep being awesome!!

@tomhenrik8187

7 жыл бұрын

:D Thanks! I'll try ;)

This is amazing. You are such a great singer! You have real talent. Keep up the great work!

I need this on Spotify to add to my Playlist

I don’t have words besides “brilliant”. This needs to be recorded. Everyone needs to hear your music.

Revisiting this song 4 years later. Proud to say I’m proud to be me and shouldn’t have tried to hide it!

I came out in August of 2016, and this song meant so much to me even when I wasn’t always accepted by those around me. I cut my hair and started wearing more masculine clothes that summer, and at one point I looked in the mirror and actually recognized myself. It made me break down in tears and convinced me to finally come out. I’m coming up on my 7 year anniversary of coming out and my 4 year anniversary of starting T. Thank you again for writing this ❤️

who would dislike this perfect song?!

Yeah I feel the same way as a MtF looking back at my childhood photos. Ugh. I don't even know what I was thinking back then.

This is a very beautiful song! I feel the same way, although my mom wont let me cut my hair. Nice video :P

@Desmodontinae10

7 жыл бұрын

Kyleah Stonelake Why do you folks all care so much about what your moms say? I'd say if you want to cut your hair, go cut it

Hey man, I just discovered your music recently, and I'm obsessed! I can relate so much. -Brandon

@hawkeyetux3859

7 жыл бұрын

And by the way your voice is awesome!

@tomhenrik8187

7 жыл бұрын

Hey Brandon :) Thank you so much :) I'm flattered!

This song represents my life I'm about to cry rn... I havent cried in years... Good job man keep up the amazing work

I love this so much.... I relate to it so much. You are very talented!!

@tomhenrik8187

7 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot :)

@punksandpoodles

7 жыл бұрын

Hey quick question. Can I make a flash animation kinda thing with this song? Giving you full credit of course.

@tomhenrik8187

7 жыл бұрын

Doodlingtohell Sure you can, if you mention me and if I have the pleasure of seeing it when it's done ;) :D

@punksandpoodles

7 жыл бұрын

Alright thank you so much! :D I'll tell you when it's done. :)

@tomhenrik8187

7 жыл бұрын

Doodlingtohell Awesome :D Looking forward to it :)

man it's been so long since this came out and still one of my favorite songs

lyrics are great btw

I have recently figured out my gender identity as ftm, and these sorts of songs are extremely helpful

Ive been listening to this song for 2 years, and it gave me the strength to come out at school

i sent this song to my aunt and she said she liked it an that she loves me and that's one less person I have to worry about but her reaction was the best and i absolutely love her

Tom, would you ever redo this cover? I love, love this song, but am so curious to hear this with an updated version.

This is how I feel when I go downstairs to the living room and see the mantel with all the pictures. Well, it was until I hid them all around the house so I didn’t have to look at them. Ha ha haha.

Your voice is so nice!! This song is amazing too!! Please keep making songs cause you're awesome!

@tomhenrik8187

8 жыл бұрын

+Kim Meijboom Thanks a lot! I'm planning to :-)

@kmeijboom1661

8 жыл бұрын

+Tom_Henrik_S Great! Do you have got the music sheets of your song? I want to learn it, cause it's a really beautiful song :-)

@tomhenrik8187

8 жыл бұрын

I'm afraid I didn't write it down - I'm not really good at writing sheet music. I can try to write down the main chords when I find some time though.

this is such a great and relatable song. I love it. you are very talented

im a trans woman and im happy that he is a stranger in a photography...i love your song...can i put in myu future documatary ..in some scenes, is very ispiring..thank you

@tomhenrik8187

3 жыл бұрын

Feel free to do so, just credit me somewhere and it's fine :)

I had to cry we hen I heard this the first time. It's so beautiful.

2020 be like “she weres a mask the perfect girl” Side note! I love the song not making fun of it at all!!! It has helped me a lot!!! It’s just a joke

I'm singing this for the talent show....... Honestly terrified but whatever. I know the coming out was the hard part. My life starts now. Thanks, I needed this song. You're great, keep inspiring people.

I'm so glad I came across your music! Beautiful and full of truth and inspiration! Thank you!

I just found this today. It’s pride month, and I recently came out as genderfluid (though I mostly use they/them and he/him pronouns) I know the girl I used to be is dead, she actually was right when she said she’d never make it to high school. It’s just a matter of my family seeing it too, that the person they see now is the real me. I’m not great but I’m better, I’ve got my first binder ordered, my friends are calling me by Calem, and I’m going to cut my hair shorter soon. But this helped me see there really is a light at the end of this stupid dysphoric tunnel

Don't mind me, just going through all the videos I used to obsess over when I thought I was just a Really Good Ally™

You have a beautiful voice ^^

@tomhenrik8187

6 жыл бұрын

Grisha Teaser Thanks :)

Here once again ravin about this song that still brings tears to my eyes, but now... Now those tears flow freely thanks to bein able to truly freely be me, and best of all; theyre tears of cathartic joy. Was just reminded of this song cuz i was listenin to one of Dylan's days of bein a girl vids where she listened to and danced along to their egg self singing. Her spec bit that made me think of this song was when they said "Personally, I've never met that boy, but he seems like a really sweet kid". That quote just oozes with stranger in a photograph vibes heh

art

So beautiful

you're my hero. It's beautiful.. Can i ask you something please? so, i'm french, and, i would like to write a song about my identity, but i can compose a music but, i'm so bad for the lyrics... And, it's really important to me. can we talk about that?

@tomhenrik8187

8 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much :) Sure we can. I always like cooperating with other people. Just pm me about the song once you're ready, I would love to help you with the lyrics if you like. All the best, Tom

@MattPMusic

8 жыл бұрын

Thank's a lot ! "pm me" i don't konw how.. I've you got a facebook page or anything else more easy for talking ? I've song, miss lyrics now. :')

"Ahora ella es solo una extraña en la fotografía, solo una extraña" Cada que veo las fotos viejas me siento tan identificado, y es tan real cuando dice cosas como "ella era solo una ilusión, una hermosa mentira" o "incluso si toma años reconciliarme con quien solía ser, pero la veo y sonrío porque ahora somos libres" me siento tan tranquilo

This is AMAZING. So much depth to the song, it made me tear up. Ahhh, keep it up, you're doing so great and helping others along the way. >w

I love this song so much.

So relatable...

This song is so so good. Relatable and written to the highest possible skill. Sounds like something out of a musical also (don't know why I associate this to be similar to Jonathan Larson's style of writing). One of my favourite songs to this day. You also have a lovely voice. Well done Tom.

I was 12 when i first heard this song and it still resonates so much with me and makes me cry even now at 17. Looking forward to the day I can move out as i have to be closeted around my parents. Unfortunately that might have to wait until after college. I just know that 12 year old me would be so happy to see the young man im becoming and how far ive come. We both deserve happiness and the freedom to be ourselves. And i cant help but feel like that same scared and hurt little boy i was dealing with transphobia from my parents as i feel myself slipping around them lately. its beginning to be too much for me to not be able to be myself at home. Especially during the summer since im at home most of the time.

I cried to this, damn emotions. Another one added to my playlist of yours. ☺💕

Kann mir das Lied so oft anhören :D echt der Hammer! Spiele mit den Gedanken es zu Covern muss aber noch nen bisschen üben :D.

Damn. This hits exactly how I feel. The exact words.. I'm not ashamed to say I cried. This is one of the most beautiful things I've heard in my entire life. Please keep making music. This is amazing.

I love your songs so much! I would actually love to hear this song redone now that your voice is so much deeper. That would be awesome!

@tomhenrik8187

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks :)Sounds like a nice idea actually :)

wow! du bist so der WAHNSINN!!! :-D

@tomhenrik8187

8 жыл бұрын

Aww Danke Colin :) Wenn ich jetzt dann im Krankenstand bin werd ich mir endlich deine Lied Texte vornehmen :) Hab sie eh schon kurz überflogen und find sie total super!!! :D

@elideangeli5098

6 жыл бұрын

WARTE!!! SPRECHEN SIE DEUTSCH?? WAS?!?!?! Now I really want to meet you bc an ftm that speaks German and English must be my twin!! (And my german needs a lot of work)

@casey3889

5 жыл бұрын

@@elideangeli5098 i know this comment is really old but just saying, in this context it's a little unnatural to use "sie". On the internet most people use "du" with each other :)

Listening to this because im sad my dad doesnt accept me, thank you for making this :)))

Oh my god, I am in love with this song!!!! Thanks for making it. :)

@tomhenrik8187

7 жыл бұрын

KartoffelWal You're welcome I guess ;)

I'm crying,you have a pure talent. I'm trying to find my gender,but it's so hard

Oh god. This overwhelmed me

this song... gorgeous!!

one of my new fav songs, just found it!

Beautiful text that says it all :) keep it up man!

This songs Is beautiful and your voice is so easy to sing along with.

Emotional, awesome, left me speechless

I love everything about this. Fantastic job.

Love these lyrics, beautifully melancholy

omigosh, its like a little broadway song and I love it

This is so good :D

Great work on the lyrics and piano!

"And even tho it hurts sometimes to look back on these days'' *cries*

Beautiful.

Ich stell mir dieses Lied so schön mit so nem Chor dazu gesungen vor :)

Waaaah I could have right this song 😭😭 It makes me cry it's too beautiful

This song is so awesome

I adore you’re music it relates perfectly to how I feel.I plan to sing it to my parents when I decide to come out to them

Can I take a shot at trying to learn this? Music helps me vent and I absolutely love this extrememly relatable song

@tomhenrik8187

6 жыл бұрын

Knight of Thyme Sure :) Go for it! If you need lyrics and sheets just email me at tomhenrikftm@gmail.com and I can send you what I have :)

So beautiful...

This made me cry

Gott das ist so schön...Ich sitze grade in der Cafeteria der Schule und heul fast...

This is so awesome!

this songs great

I can't believe I lived so long without this song.

Holy shit this is so beautiful I love it

This song....its sounds so sweet so beautiful...thank you....im now gonna go cry....

oh god i love ur voice and ur songs

I relate so much ;w;

You have an amazing voice!

Deine stimmliche Veränderung haut komplett rein!

This is absolutely beautiful 😊