This is a tough one. The man I was married to abused me in every way. We divorced. I have to pay him half my salary for the rest of my life. So every two weeks the wound reopens.

@lvshope

Ай бұрын

Praying for you, dear one.

@terriwerning3477

Ай бұрын

Whew. That’s really rough.

@stevecarter5874

Ай бұрын

i am so sorry for what that stirs up every two. holding space and lifting you up right now. praying you sense the Lords nearness…

@bradleykimmons

21 күн бұрын

I have an idea!

I stopped and started this one many times to absorb it. I completely related to walking on eggshells, having to read a room, manage people, and continuous adapting to the point of exhaustion. Much to be angry about. The last 6 years have been committed to working through all of that, making a lot of progress and feeling much more peace, but still having more to do. It's a long, long process.

Wow! Thank you John & Steve for sharing this powerful message. My experienced is similar at a church. I say I have forgiven the people that have hurt me but mind keeps playing all these scenarios of crossing paths with them, what would do and say. The pain is still there after 3 years. Saving this message.🙏🏻♥️

I could so relate to Steve about learning to read a room after growing up with anger, minimizing offences against me, swallowing the disappointment of hurts borne. I'm so uplifted by the story of your resolution with your father before he died. God's grace and love prevailed.

Thank you. I so needed this clarification. I grew up in a similar situation and this resonates so deeply with me. It's how I ended up in a narcissistic marriage, and only recently realized that was the case. Being in the situation everyday is rough. I need to turn it over to Jesus. It's time to let go of the fear, shame and judgment, pray for my partner, deal with my own unforgiveness, and not brightside, but speak the truth in love.

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your heart - we are so glad this spoke to you. May Jesus guide your journey - Bucky

AFTER BEING A MEMBER AT WILLOW CREEK FOR 13 YEARS, I FELT ANGER TOWARD THE END. DECEIVED. I HAVE MOVED ON, BUT, IT STILL HURTS.

Great conversation about anger... when we feel wronged, it is easy for anger to rise inside us, but the old saw about counting to ten before saying anything can be helpful. And... saying a prayer while counting to ten can be very helpful.

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

Prayers are powerful even while counting. Thank you for your insights Bless you

good morning ☀️whew, let God. Took a while for forgiveness to come and to leave it at Jesus’ feet and remind myself it’s not about me, to let it go, to die to myself. There is peace when I remove me and let God. 💕🍃

Love does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered (1 Corinthians 13). This is the heart of Jesus' teaching. I must revisit this every day.

I couldn’t. He did. I let Him. ❤️

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

So encouraging - He is our strength and protection. God Bless - Bucky

I can’t. He can. I think I’ll let Him🙌✝️

Sit with feelings, perseverance in prayer.

Sorry John, it’s not just for you. Steve is narrating very closely what I’m up against now. My 90 year old mother is being terrorized by my 70 year old alcoholic brother who lives with her but she refuses to put constraints on him. Therefore, I’m the most available person to enter into the fray to try to protect her. I have very much wanted to wash my hands of it - but how could I live with this version of myself? This episode was extremely timely for me - thank you.

So relate to all of this Thx John and Steve for your vulnerability and transparency. Helps to know I’m not crazy:)!

◇"I can't. He can. I think I'll let him." Thank you! I needed this right now. Oh the blessing of Jesus is my champion.PTL! thank You Jesus♡

Wow!! Powerful! Thank you for putting words to my emotions and feelings. Thank you Steve and John.🙏

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

Thanks for listening - we are glad it spoke to you Bucky

Forgiveness is a solo experience. I love that

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

So true - we are glad you were blessed - Bucky

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

So glad it spoke to you - Be Blessed - Bucky

Such a glorious thing to see the beauty of friends who have walked through mutual pain and understand their continual need to plumb the power of love and the power of forgiveness. Coming from a family racked by mental illness, I've had a lot to process and forgive over the course of my life, especially around anger. So that insightful comment, "anytime I find myself getting hysterical it's usually historical" is on my "I never want to forget this quote" board. A hard thing for me was to deal with over my early adult years was trying to reason and be rational with someone who could not (and sometimes would not) be either. And I realized how much I had needed to always figure out things on my own as I grew up and always wanted to fix things and make sure everyone else was okay without even considering how I was. It was very helpful to think about how easy it is for us to learn how to spiritually bypass or minimize the reality of what is true. So thankful I began learning how to be with God in truth in order to forgive and heal. And it is a continual process throughout life as anger arises in the midst. So thankful for this conversation. Thank you for sharing your shared journey and friendship - it speaks volumes.

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

We are grateful for you and pray that you are strengthened - thank you for sharing - be blessed. Bucky

I truly appreciate that you came together to address this passage in scripture. You both have been influential in my family and/or my life during your tenure at the mutual church you served. You’ve helped define things I will be able to use for myself and share with the people I serve. Blessings, David

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

Thanks so much David we appreciate your comments

Never give up❤

This certainly resonates with me! I continue to pray about a very close family member to comeback! I won't stop praying about it or her!

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

Never give up - Pray without Ceasing Thessalonians 5:17 Bucky

Never give up. Amen.

Many great takeaways! I loved “slow it down” & of course “never give up”. Needed to hear this today!❤

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

We are glad that spoke to you and fed your soul! Thanks for sharing. Bucky

I have been struggling with the spiritual attacks that satan loves to send when I am truly trying to put these messages in practice. Anyone else?? Anyway, this message reasonates sooo much to me today! Thank you for your vulnerability, honesty, and courage.

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your heart and we are glad this helped you on your journey

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing we are so glad it spoke to you and helped you as you journey

The anger fantasy idea is so interesting. My fantasies are about stating my case and persuading them of how wrong they are by the sheer power of my logical and spiritual argument. If only they really understood, they would agree and repent…!

@traceyyeo5647

Ай бұрын

Praying for the peace beyond our understanding will come to you through our lord Jesus Christ who holds you and strengthens you everyday

NEVER STOP PRAYING!!! It took me 50 years to discover Celebrate Recovery and to finally decide in my head to forgive my childhood abuser, and then commit to it in my heart. I wanted so bad to forgive him personally, but we live a thousand miles apart and don't see each other anymore except at reunions where I can't get personal time with him. After praying for over 5 years, God provided a perfect opportunity - at the funeral of common family. It was a divine moment that neither of us will ever forget! Now we stay in touch and the healing is real. Praise GOD!

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your heart and your journey - God was with you each step. We are blessed by your testimony Bucky

This was for me, too, John. ❤

I love this! My anger comes from the fact my mom has dementia. I can’t be angry at her, but still the feelings are there and then I feel like a horrible person for getting angry/frustrated. His comment about the charge being a reminder that I need to surrender my feelings to God and to rely on God to get me through. He sustains me when I open up myself to him. Do y’all have thoughts about anger in situations like illness?

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. Your honesty is a part of remaining open to Jesus' peace. As I pray for you now, what immediately came to mind was Jesus' response when arriving at his friend, Lazarus' tomb. It's not described as anger, but Jesus' pain and hurt was so deep he wept. He understands every emotion you feel. He was betrayed. The crucifixion was so hard. I'm praying you continue to remain open to the One who understands you so well. - Brad

thank you

I think i have unforgiveness in my heart to my husband. I left my beautiful children with their dad cause of abuse but now i am trying to recognise i was a large part of that and i struggle to forgive myself and ive lost so much. I give this to you father thats all i can do. Thank you for this

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

Thanks so much for sharing your heart - we love you. God bless you

I can't. He can! I think I'll let Him.🕊🙏🏻

I can't, He can. I think I'll let Him.

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

Amen!!

I can't. He can. I think I'll let Him.

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

Continue to lean into Him - who can. What a beautiful reminder - Bucky

I wont give up. I'll keep asking.

@BecomeNew

Ай бұрын

So encouraging- pray without ceasing. Thessalonians 5:17. Bucky

What a great message today.

❤