Chapters: 03:56 Switched Milk Story 12:06 Spaghetti Slurping Story 22:37 Husband into SIL Story 33:41 Husband Cheats Sometimes Story 44:57 Date Gone Wrong Story 59:26 Terrible Toast Story 01:13:27 Accidental Outing Story 01:23:10 Wrong Ring Story 01:31:27 Gym Bro Love Story

@liveitupalltheway

2 жыл бұрын

THANK UOU!

@juliaelveena1705

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my fricken god THANK YOU!!! I was just about to ask you guys to put chapter marks cause although i love hearing your voices sometimes I’m in a rush and really wanna hear the next story before i have to run out the door🤣❤️

@katmunoz9943

2 жыл бұрын

God sent

@ashleys5978

Жыл бұрын

io non sono mai stata soo casa mia owri è uww w forget to of the iday w

@ashleys5978

Жыл бұрын

towpe ia weeioiowpwwweeoewp epew owwww w is a good friend friend friend of of po of pwo wowwpw i miei i petuoi wtuoi was eeowwp wo de i i miss you we wowww sonooo geek oend s and all all the other other girls and i miei genitori sono separati da una pweeppw wewwr ioo

For the second story, both Morgan and the guest explained how they have to wear AirPods with white noise because they’re sensitive to sounds, but still don’t understand why the woman from the story could be making other people feel uncomfortable around her chewing ?

@ashsun144

2 жыл бұрын

I think Morgan agreed with OP but wanted to make the host comfortable with sharing her opinions! I agree haha but I think Morgan did see OP’s take and agreed originally

@ashsun144

2 жыл бұрын

*wanted to make her guest feel comfortable, oops! Not host

@ghostsontrains7629

Жыл бұрын

sensory issues. somepeople get real fucked up over chewing (edit i missunderstood the comment i agree with you💀)

@vianeyboruel504

Жыл бұрын

​@@ashsun144yeah i hope in the future Morgan sticks more to her guns and realized that disagreeing with her co-host (invited because it doesn't happen with her regulars) will only make for an even better conversation.

@user-sn5pl3ff3i

5 ай бұрын

@@ashsun144maybe she should stop being a doormat and give her opinion. Who cares what the guest thinks?

i’m autistic and i have sensory issues so the slurping thing would literally cause me extreme distress, so in that situation we would not even try to eat together. i think he’s not the asshole because he’s raised the concern and asked her to maybe compromise with him and she refuses and then later lies. i feel like walking out was the nicest thing he could’ve done in that situation

@alyssamarie8635

2 жыл бұрын

I was thinking misophonia too - eating noises drive me INSANE so it would bother me too if someone was slurping really loudly

@Dagothae

2 жыл бұрын

@@alyssamarie8635 fr, that's what I was gonna say!

@christinesantos2346

2 жыл бұрын

@@alyssamarie8635 I commenteed this up earlier! My mom and I have this. And I don’t mind noises but things like slurping and scraping (things that are pretty much avoidable) make me want to jump out of my skin and gag sometimes

@dannaaay7542

2 жыл бұрын

I'm autistic too and I have the same problem. The sound of people eating makes my skin crawl. Some people just don't get the degree of distress these things can cause a person, but you'd hope that your own partner, the person who loves you and is closest to you, would be a little more understanding, especially when the change he asked for was so small (just ordering another dish).

@emilybaldie9237

2 жыл бұрын

Yea it might sound dumb but I actually might start crying if someone’s slurping next to me like that. Also she just didn’t listen to his concerns at all. If he was making fun of her and putting her down for doing it I don’t agree with that, but if he was asking her to eat more quietly because it made him extremely uncomfortable, she should have at least tried to meet him in the middle.

Nah, I'm siding with OP in the second story. Being a woman that eats with "confidence" and not "ladylike" has nothing to do with eating like a toddler. You can order a huge plate of spaghetti, enjoy it, and manage to eat without making slurping noises. Like OP said, in some cultures that acceptable and even polite, but not in the culture they were raised. It would fucking annoy me to be eating at a restaurant and be force to listen someone slurping their fucking food.

@Jonatiikaa15

2 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY, it has nothing to do with being a woman that eats with confidence like ?????????? i wouldn't date a guy that eats like that either

@NaturallyNavi

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!!! I was like what does this have to do with ‘being lady like’? She eats like a toddler… enough said

@cookieyis

2 жыл бұрын

YEEEEESS!!! that thing sounded very pickme 👀

@sangeeta

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I feel like Victoria made a LOT of big assumptions and drew conclusions like that from literally nowhere. It’s not a feminist issue!! And if completely dismisses any feelings or anxieties or boundaries set by OP.

@beepbeep3959

2 жыл бұрын

yes!! I was so shocked when they said YTA

My thing with the second one, like he literally warned her that he won't eat in public with her if she eats pasta, she ignored it then lied to him about her plan to order pasta so he had every right to walk out. Also what part of telling the waitress that he isn't gonna order anything and standing to leave is making a scene? Like her loud ass slurping is making a scene he made no sounds other than to tell the waitress he wasn't getting anything. That's on her. PERIOD

@racaririchard572

2 жыл бұрын

The 4th one like if she doesnt care that he sleeps with other women then it's not cheating (at least not my definition) because for me cheating is if your relationship is monogamous. It kinda seems like quilt (but also not quilt) when he brings a gift after every trip to "justify" his actions, like clearly for them its an arrangement hense the not quilty part ( if that makes sense) because she knows already that he does this and doesnt care. If she wants that relationship then have that relationship no matter what others say or believe

@jeevyn_boparai

2 жыл бұрын

@@racaririchard572 no hate, but this comment is about the second story. Your talking about the 4th one….

@racaririchard572

2 жыл бұрын

@@jeevyn_boparai I know I just didn't want to different comments but also not make this one too long

I don’t like that Victoria defended the second story as “she’s paying to be there”, that’s like saying you paid for a movie ticket so you can talk through the entire movie and ruin the experience for everyone else in the theater

@frankencherry

2 жыл бұрын

There is a clear difference between eating at a restaurant and watching a movie. It is a very written rule regardless of culture to not talk during a movie at a theater. Many theaters even place a commercial before the movie starts to not talk during the movie. Personally I don't like it when people smack their lips or do gross saliva sounds when they eat but due to different cultures I understand it's rude to judge someone with how they eat. He did address the problem to her but she made it clear that is how they eat and the partner decided to still stay with her. It is a him problem at that point.

@LemonSte

2 жыл бұрын

Speaking as someone who is also autistic like Victoria - while obviously being a messy eater is not always an ableism issue, and plenty of people are messy eaters, I can understand her defensiveness on this issue since plenty of disabled and neurodiverse people do things that inconvenience or disturb abled/neurotypical people, but are just part of our functioning and not something we can help. I have autism, ADHD and suspected tourettes - I flap my hands, I pace, I have vocal tics, I have trouble coping at social functions for more than a few hours. I also only learned to use a knife and fork maybe 8 years ago because I eat such a small range of foods and have such bad dexterity - I used to totally panic at the idea of eating spaghetti or noodles in public for the exact reasons laid out in the story. I've had to let go of my insecurities about all of these things and just embrace the no-bullshit attitude Victoria also has to survive in my body 🤷 I'm lucky that as I've matured I've been able to mask most of these things and most people have no idea I'm not "normal", but I shouldn't have to have done that just to not be ostracized.

@MattTerrell-gc9vw

3 ай бұрын

Talking during a movie disrupts the movie for others as in they may miss something. It literally takes away from others who also paid to be there. Her slurping her food takes nothing from others. They're still able to eat their food.

Also y'all sphagetti girl is an adult. She was warned, he set a boundary, and she lied to pull the same frankly uncivilized shit... nah he is in the right. And its not a gender thing. As a fem presenting non binary person, if I was with a dude who slurped I wouldn't be with him very long.

@mariadoe9684

2 жыл бұрын

THIS! I hated when the brought up the behavioral standards for women, like yes we do have a pressure to act "femenine" but having manners is a commonly agreed thing, not an unfair patriarchal expectation, specially when eating out in public. Like he said, it's disgusting hearing someone else slurping or eating loudly.

@jocelyncable4242

2 жыл бұрын

Omg that story drove me nuts! It’s also about respectful to the people around you! I would’ve walked out on her as well

@HollyDog

2 жыл бұрын

@@mariadoe9684 100% agreed. The girl knowing how to eat doesn't have anything to do with femininity and masculinity. Like, many masculine men know manners. Manners on the table is not exclusive to femininity. It annoys me when people bring social issues to excuse dumb behavior. It's not that deep to bring the whole patriarchy combo. The girl in the story is a child, she has 0 manners & throws tantrum when corrected.

@IHeartGameplay

2 жыл бұрын

I'd like also like to add that in some cultures slurping is a sign or respect, and I don't want it to come off as if I'm like "NO NEVER" because that'd be culturally insensitive but like... it's not accepted in the west, and not in Italy so it's like... she's just being very very rude and disrespectful to everyone around. Also as an autistic person the noise is just terrible but that's like a me thing.

@nickid7117

2 жыл бұрын

Mf thank you 🙏 preach it

The 2nd story is 100% NTA. There’s a huge difference between being a messy eater and being a slob. If she’s slurping her noodles so loud to the point that other people are looking at her and whispering about it then that’s just plain gross.

@test-kf2zv

2 жыл бұрын

There's also a difference between breaking a glass or dropping a spoon and constantly eating loudly. That said, I think OP and this woman just aren't meant to be together. She is a loud eater. He is not. It bothers him. She's never going to change, he's never going to change, and while it may seem like a small thing, if it affects what they do together, then it has become a bigger issue. (Also, as a very feminist woman, I don't think this is a gender issue. It's an etiquette issue.)

@miajanay9161

2 жыл бұрын

@@test-kf2zv Couldn’t have said it better👏🏾

@nadirimyers6643

2 жыл бұрын

Idk where she from but in some cultures it’s rude not to slurp the noodles and that don’t make her a slop cus she’s slurping lol. A slob to me is someone chewing with they mouth open and getting food all over they clothes and self like a baby lol

@miajanay9161

2 жыл бұрын

@@nadirimyers6643 that could be true but even besides that he tried to ovoid the issue by not going out with her when she orders spaghetti and she lied🤷🏾‍♀️ and if shes slurping the noddles that hard she’s more than likely getting sauce all over herself

@addyd2616

2 жыл бұрын

literally. and she knows it bothers him but doesn’t even try to eat in a less sloppy way. it’s not about gender atp it’s just about her being inconsiderate

I’m so happy that I everyone seems to agree with me about the second story, I was kinda taken aback at your take. In a relationship there’s compromise. He finds something she does annoying and gross but puts up with it so he obviously does like her. He drew a line and she lied to him and crossed it. That’s not cool and I’d be upset too.

@jsizzlefish

Жыл бұрын

I suspect if the genders were switched, they wouldn't have had the same reaction, imo

@vianeyboruel504

Жыл бұрын

I couldn't agree more, blatant biases

@bjbackmon7431

Жыл бұрын

Yeah as someone who is also a loud slurper I thought she was being an asshole. Like yeah shouldn’t be embarrassed by what people think but also have the curtesy to think of others feelings in public spaces not everyone enjoys to hear that sound when they’re eating and it’s not a big deal to just order something else.

@taeminislove

11 ай бұрын

I also don't think that him walking out was him "making a scene" lmao. She told him one thing and did another. It was the consequence she had to deal with for lying.

I think my least favorite thing about having guests on without Justin, Lauren, or Alejandra as well is that Morgan tends to concede wayyyyy to much to a guest’s point even if it’s a terrible take. I can see how she probably doesn’t want to come off as rude or make things awkward but this podcast is about hot takes. It’s okay if she disagrees with the guest.

@minxymoo2325

10 ай бұрын

What terrible take did she concede to?

@queenbtravels

7 ай бұрын

@@minxymoo2325 the one about the noodle slurping - she was on the NTA side but started caving when Victoria was super against it

@rainaelizabeth2603

6 ай бұрын

Yesss!! This so much. I feel like this guest had some really silly outlooks in life. Like unpractical outlooks. Not all, but. Some. Definitely some… like I’m sorry, if you’re slurping so loud the patrons are looking at you, it’s loud. And that’s rude unless in an Asian country. Does make me wonder if the girl was Asian tho.

@user-sn5pl3ff3i

5 ай бұрын

@@minxymoo2325 the second take on this podcast and when she had that one guest on that thought it was OK to leave a baby in the car to go inside for 10 minutes

I’m really shocked at your takes on the 2nd story. “Taking up space” and “being a powerful woman” does not mean to be an asshole and have no common courtesy to the people around you. Especially after Morgan just talked about her sensory issues. As someone with ADHD, if someone was slurping next to me, I’d be so fucking pissed. And if I was the OP, that would be a deal breaker. In fact, I’ve broken the deal for far less than that.

@luzandreahc

2 жыл бұрын

I've noticed that morgan tends to get swayed by whoever guest she has that's not a regular like justin, alejandra, etc. I love this podcast to bits but these new guests (aside from the therapists) have not been it

@duncanbowman5498

2 жыл бұрын

@@luzandreahc Yea, that was the problem with all the hate morgans been getting recently, she sides with her guest s even when there takes are bordering on abilist and using femisnism is situations where it hurts the perception of feminism. Having good table manners and being forced to act feminine are completely different. Everyone should be held to the same standards, and using feminism to say that the guy is the asshole in this situation kinda pulling attention away from actual issues like pay inequality and sexism in the work world. Morgan went along with these statements with little to no pushback which angered a lot of people for different reasons. To be fair, I do Identify as a man so take my thoughts how you will, but I think Morgans response to these issues has come off as her sticking her head in the sand instead of addressing them. Im sure she is taking the criticism into account, but it doesn't seem that way with her response.

@e.ghetti6710

2 жыл бұрын

YES! I literally gasped when I heard their take on it

@duncanbowman5498

2 жыл бұрын

@@e.ghetti6710 Yea, I am a really messy eater and my sister can’t stand it, so when we are both eating at the same place. I will consciously try my best to correct that behavior. It’s just polite to take other’s feelings into account, especially with something as easy as eating cleaner

@YasmineB2468

2 жыл бұрын

100% agree. I’m confused as to how being a powerful woman is equal to being rude AF.

Story 2: All the manners and eating stuff aside, she lied to her partner with the intention of getting the spaghetti once they sat down at the restaurant knowing that it would not only make him uncomfortable, but force the issue on whether he was willing to stand up to her. That's a kind of entrapment, really, and it's not something you should ever want your partner to do. She could have just done take-out and enjoyed the food while not subjecting him to being in public while she ate it. She probably could have done delivery with a food delivery app too. Nope, she wanted to press the issue, which is why she deceived him.

@Felorina

2 жыл бұрын

@@bmachinena7268 How is he “always trying to control what she eats” by asking her to have good table manners? He literally said she can eat whatever but he wont eat noodles with her in public because she chooses to eat so disgustingly. If a whole restaurant is being bothered by how loud and sloppily she eats, it’s safe to say he isn’t the problem. It’s not hard to adapt and learn new table manners, it’s part of growing up and being an adult.

@LunaC_literaturecoach

2 жыл бұрын

@@bmachinena7268 Fine, she doesn't have to change her manners and adapt, and he told her to go eat out with her friends because he was uncomfortable. But she still chose to lie to him and embarrass him again, how's that fair or mature?

@Felorina

2 жыл бұрын

@@bmachinena7268 Regardless of what YOU think about it, she still lied to him knowing how he felt about it. Lying for sure isn’t cultural, it’s just immature and spiteful. She obviously doesn’t care about her partners feelings even after he communicated how he felt to her multiple times. Not the AH and most people in the comments agree.

@Felorina

2 жыл бұрын

@@bmachinena7268 Okay so what that he’s embarrassed? People are allowed to be embarrassed. He didn’t say she couldn’t eat what she wanted, he just didn’t want to eat noodles with her in public. If she cared about him, why couldn’t she just do that one little thing of eating nicer? The fact that you can blow over everything she did wrong and only focus on his “wrongs” ( even ones your assuming and making up ) tells me that no mater what you are going to see him as being at fault simply because he’s a man. He communicated like an adult, chose to let her do what she wants ( without having to partake in it) like and adult, and she lied and chose to be a brat. He chose to leave because he doesn’t have to put up with that behavior if he doesn’t want to. The end… and still not the AH lol

@malifex9922

2 жыл бұрын

@@bmachinena7268 She lied to him and tricked him. This isn't about culture. This is about her not giving a shit if she betrays her boyfriend's trust. You're right that he should break up with her, but its on her, not on him.

Hot take ( and non-binary person here); but Gender neutrality isn’t just eliminating ‘pink and blue’ and making your child wear greys and beiges. It’s actually teaching your child that colors aren’t assigned to gender. Eliminating those colors from their wardrobe or anything that isn’t stereotypically ‘feminine and masculine’ only reinforces the gender norms.

@lani9688

2 жыл бұрын

AGREEDDD. I hate the idea of just completely eliminating or avoiding things that are associated with gender roles as a way of “fighting” them because all it does is reinforce the idea that those things DO have gender roles attached to them. Its better to teach your child if they want to do, wear, say, whatever something, they can without having to worry about societal pressures. Regardless of what it is

@emilyward4388

2 жыл бұрын

This!!! My son wears pink, purple, all the colors! This beige and grey world lately is annoying… I’m all about some beige and greys and blacks and my son wears it a lot BUT he also wears color. Color is good for children’s brain development

@viviennewenning3571

2 жыл бұрын

Thats what I thought.

@noodlepoodlegirl

Жыл бұрын

I can actually speak to this! I didn’t want my daughter growing up with any gendered pressures, so I was very neutral in terms of toys, clothes, room decor. I wanted her to choose what style represented her best, I essentially wanted her to choose which levels of femininity and masculinity she wanted, what she identified with. I’m happy to say that she is nine years old and she likes jeans, vintage and band T-shirts, a lot of black, no dresses and comfortable shoes. She has completely chosen her own style without any added pressure from me.(i’m a single mom.) She feels comfortable, confident, and beautiful and what she wears and how she presents herself. And that’s all that matters to me! I love her so much.

@AnaHaze777

Жыл бұрын

You are so right!!

I was trying to see her (guest) perspective but she lost me completely on the male model thing. Champions so hard for women to be whoever and whatever but if a guy saw modeling and was like, "I wanna do that." She's not here for him wanting to do what will make him happy. That's definitely a hot take.

@guggvcjhh3713

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely was such a weird take 😭

@rpstgag

2 жыл бұрын

I was so befuddled by that one too. That, plus the slurpy girlfriend take, leads me to believe this someone who thinks they're applying a critical feminist lens, but lacks the materialist analysis that's supposed to go with it. I think she has sliiiightly lost touch with the reality that women's shit can stink too. Women are capable of being wrong, being oppressive, being selfish or unfair... Acting socially sociopathic in the way that rich men are allowed to is not feminist.

@lillithreinshagen7685

Жыл бұрын

I was searching for this comment…

@xohoneyvee

Жыл бұрын

@@rpstgag exactly cause how tf did that second story became a whole “anti-men” speech like what?

@brianchampaigne5490

7 ай бұрын

Well it's pretty clear this woman hates men. She's taken every chance during this podcast to take a stab at them . As a man I know there's a time and a place especially with certain societal norms and or patriarchal constructs. But most the stuff she was carrying on about was her taking her personal experience and applying it to all men. Super weird to me.

how tf could the second guy be in the wrong? just cause shes paying to eat there doesn't mean everyone else is paying to hear her eat like an animal. 😭 loud eaters just need to stay home if cant control themselves for an hour 😭

@HayleySulfridge

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! That’s like saying you can be loud in a movie theater because you bought a ticket, like other people didn’t 🤣

@xohoneyvee

Жыл бұрын

Literally as soon as I heard the guest admit that she was a food stealer, I already knew it was going to be some bad takes from them but not Morgan

@alexshaw8167

Жыл бұрын

@@xohoneyvee from the intro I can already tell I’m not going to love the vibes on this one. Probably why I skipped watching it 8 months ago 😂

@xohoneyvee

Жыл бұрын

@@alexshaw8167 when she said she was a proud food thief I already knew what direction it was going

@cathrynmarie4333

11 ай бұрын

this. everyone is paying to be there. that’s such an entitled thought process to believe that you can eat disgustingly because you’re paying to be there. I would be put into a tailspin if I saw a HUMAN BEING (take out the gender, we are humans? these are societal normals for humans and some are there for a reason!) eating spaghetti like that id go into a tail spin

I feel like the issue with the second story is that she lied about what she was going to order (knowing he wouldn’t go if she told the truth), so I would say definitely NTA.

@des1279

2 жыл бұрын

Yea also like grow up and learn to eat properly I HATE when people slurp spaghetti so I’d definitely be the person at the table next to them looking at her lmao it literally makes my stomach churn to hear it and I wouldn’t enjoy my meal. Also yea she lied and was being stubborn, she’s annoying

@Briana12906

2 жыл бұрын

Right and I think the argument of “accept someone as they are” when it comes to common sense manners in public only goes so far. Like what if your partner farts and burps loudly every time you go out to a restaurant. Am I not supposed to feel embarrassed and say something? I think it’s reasonable to expect someone to at least have enough manners so that people aren’t staring at you in disgust every single time you go out.

@aliciapicon4750

2 жыл бұрын

The problem I have is he set a clear boundary, gave alternatives & didn’t say she could never eat spaghetti just not with him & she not only went against it but lied about it. If your partner can’t respect a simple, smalllll boundary what about a potential big one?

@Rmrz06.

2 жыл бұрын

As someone who gets angry (I'm in therapy😂😅) at apunds especially eating sounds and wishes death upon those who make pigs sounds while eating....he is NTA LMAO & Morgan same...I cannot wear white even though I look so good in it!!

@patriciadioknoia8822

2 жыл бұрын

I feel like if he's sensitive to eating sounds he should tell her. If she still doesn't respect that then he should dump her

Nahhh bad table manners can go on for a lifetime and be carried on to future children. It’s not cute to have bad table manners, regardless of genders or socials norms

@shrutikoli7174

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly... It's just annoying... I don't know how were they siding the girlfriend

@motherofbadgers7276

2 жыл бұрын

Also what about people that have misophonia? I just can't stand it, I get like angry and I know that's not their fault but I won't entertain that as a partner

@shrutikoli7174

2 жыл бұрын

@@motherofbadgers7276 i can understand if someone has a condition.... But being inconsiderate on purpose is so not done

@neferefel

2 жыл бұрын

I don't have any special condition and I can't stand loud chewing noise too.

@briannahatcher9422

2 жыл бұрын

@@aduckofsomesort !!!!! Super common on this pod in general honestly

"She's PAYING to be there [so she can do whatever she wants]." - No. 🚩🚩

@briannad9155

2 жыл бұрын

I know. If someone went to a movie theater and paid for a ticket, they aren’t allowed to talk on the phone for the entire movie because they paid to be there. It’s the same thing here.

@rpstgag

2 жыл бұрын

@@briannad9155 YES! I think it's a pretty widely accepted and enlightened belief that spending money in public does not buy you the right to do literally whatever & ruin experiences for other people (who are ALSO paying). I was pretty taken aback to hear that out of the mouth of someone who clearly thinks of themselves as a feminist of some kind. Like girl what? Are you Elon Musk? Are you Zuckerberg? Wtf do you mean "she's PAYING!" like that in any way makes being an obnoxious shithead justifiable?

@pan.beautey

Жыл бұрын

preach

@hunterbarry5754

Жыл бұрын

There’s a case to be made that she actually hates men based off this podcast. Having said that, it doesn’t matter. Our comments will get ignored and she’ll be on again in a couple of months

@Sofiasdaydreams

Жыл бұрын

@@hunterbarry5754 if you don’t like the guest then don’t listen to the ones with the guests you don’t like! It’s TWO hot takes, if you don’t like someone’s opinion, don’t listen

I am not a fan of this guest. Nothing makes her happy and she blames the men in every story. Everyone keeps mentioning the second story and I agree. He wasn't the asshole. He had a concern, then a conversation, then she lied, and then he calmly left the situation. What more was he supposed to do? Then the guest goes on to contradict herself over and over again regarding her opinion of what men do right or wrong. The thing that sent me over the edge was after all the stuff she was spouting about men making more than women and how that's messed up, she says she won't date male models because that is the only field where men make less than women. Then what the hell do you want? Trust me. I'm not a huge fan of most men either, but this episode was just absolutely hating on and bashing men for existing. They face stigma and stereotypes they have to grapple with too. Just like how you talked about women struggling with their own self esteem regarding their appearances, clearly men struggle with their self esteem regarding finances. Both of those things are enforced by societal norms that we are all trying to overcome. I don't know this guest's past with men, but clearly they hurt her. But she really does need to gain some perspective.

@danganryanne9499

2 жыл бұрын

Yes I do agree that some man or men could’ve hurt her and I’ve also seen a pattern in men hating guests, I don’t know if you seen the one with Tefi or Olivia but they were both terrible in their takes And strangely enough, I only agreed to one of their takes each, and the story was pretty obvious in who was the jerk so..

@TM-et4tq

2 жыл бұрын

Her vocal fry drove me insane too

@chrissyb6647

2 жыл бұрын

I think what she was saying about the male model is she wouldn’t want to date a male model who complains about/is insecure about how much they make when they chose to go into a field that doesn’t pay them much? Idrk I thought it was kinda weird but I understand what she was saying after a while

@briannad9155

2 жыл бұрын

@@chrissyb6647 but then shouldn’t that also apply to women if they get into a field that’s known for paying women less. Should women who become pilots not be given sympathy because they’re entering a field where they know men make more than women?

@sunlightcakebatter

2 жыл бұрын

She’s a lesbian now lol

As a lesbian: the girl who outed her girlfriend is ABSOLUTELY the asshole. She has known for *years* that her partner's parents are incredibly homophobic. No amount of insecurity and personal upset justifies putting another gay person, especially not your fucking partner, in that kind of danger. It is *nobody's* place but an individual's to have that conversation with their family. OP should have had a conversation with her partner about the joint dinner before ever telling her parents that they were dating, and since OP's family is understanding she should have explained her partner's situation to them -- I'm sure they would have been very accommodating of the situation. If it's such a big issue to OP that her girlfriend isn't in a position to come out to her family, then OP is responsible for having that conversation *with her partner in private*.

@NameName-yj7lp

2 жыл бұрын

YES THAYS WHAT I WAS SAYIN DID THE OP TALK TO HER GF??? Like shit this is a HUGE thing to her and her life

About the second story... my grandpa used to say "You can marry someone from different religion but never of different manners". She is a child and she eats like a child and if they have kids, they will never be taught manners. I honestly sympathies with the guy and I would have actually broken up with her already, honestly. I can't stand people who eat loudly & he did try to make her understand it bothered him, and she still lied & try to get her way. Very annoying.

@leighaneil5991

2 жыл бұрын

And then she got upset at him for “embarrassing” her for leaving but yet he told her multiple times when she eats obnoxiously it embarrasses him. So why should he care… She’s really rude and yes has no manners.

@rebecaprommel6893

2 жыл бұрын

I agree, they got it so wrong on the second story…

@summerava5674

2 жыл бұрын

@satelizer f 🤣

@HollyDog

2 жыл бұрын

@@rebecaprommel6893 Yeah, like i give a pass to Morgan because she was siding with the boyfriend but she wanted to avoid getting confrontational with the guest & be diplomatic. But the whole "if she eats loudly she's confident" didn't connect with me. She has no manners, period. If you ask 85% of people, they'll agree is gross when someone eats loudly like that.

@HollyDog

2 жыл бұрын

@satelizer f Exactly. It was small where she only just had do not order noodles or just not slurped them like a child. He even tried to teach her HOW TO EAT the noodle with spoon & the gf refused & then she threw a tantrum in another room. That's no woman, that's a child.

I have a few issues with this cohost, 1) Just because you pay money to be somewhere, doesn’t mean you can behave any way you want. 2) She complained about the guy not asking questions about the woman’s career but then a few minutes later she said that she doesn’t ask questions on dates and people “misinterpret” that as her being uninterested. Like yeah no shit. The hypocrisy is an issue as well. And 3) 19 and 17 is only a two year age gap. It’s not predatory and it’s frankly not a big difference in maturity either. It’s amazing what a little Tik Tok fame will do to someone….

@melinamartinez3170

2 жыл бұрын

The whole male model thing too omg

@hunterbarry5754

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I forgot about that, it’s almost like she harbors some kind of resentment towards men. I don’t think it’s too far fetched to say that. But hey I’m not a viral Tik Tok star so wtf do I know

@e.ghetti6710

2 жыл бұрын

yeah I didn't mind her as a guest in Drew's podcast but in this episode I couldn't stand her and her takes...

@jayvon96

Жыл бұрын

I mean in retrospect - if you're 19 isn't it icky to say: "my girlfriend is in high school still"

@hunterbarry5754

Жыл бұрын

Not when the age gap is only two years, no. If it was a 14 or 15 year old that’s a different story. There’s also plenty of 17 yr old college students and 18 yr old high school seniors.

Spaghetti story: for me, personally, if my partner was such a messy eater that would be a deal breaker. There are just some things that I find disgusting and unfortunately I'm surrounded by a family of messy eaters so i have a lot of experience dealing with that. The guy tried to point it out to his gf and problem solve, but instead she literally lied and blindsided him. I totally understand the standard we have with women and manners is kinda arbitrary, and I myself am a kinda messy eater. However, I do think being a messy eater is common. So if this guy finds it messy to the point of being gross (and says that people look) I think it's really that bad.

@christinesantos2346

2 жыл бұрын

It would be a deal breaker for me as well. My mom and I have this thing called misophonia and like noises like slurping make me sooo uncomfortable like sometimes I hve to get up and gag. It’s just how I am it makes me uncomfortable in my skin. I just think it’s not to hard to not slurp. I know it’s a societal standard but cmon it’s really not hard

@ludmilamaiolini6811

2 жыл бұрын

I think the GF refusing the slightest compromise and tricking OP into going out to eat spaghetti with her made her the asshole. She refused all attempts at communication

@calmaconejo

2 жыл бұрын

Right! He did say people look and comment a lot. So, I do think its bad and wouldn't stand for it, specially after having discussed it with my partner and them just ignoring my feelings.

@woman_of_mayhem

2 жыл бұрын

My husband is a pig when he eats and how much food he shoves into his mouth is so embarrassing so when we eat out I can’t even look at him when we eat… I’ve said multiple times his foods not going anywhere and he can slow down and taste his food but he brushed me off. So now we only eat out together once every 3-4 months other wise I’ll just go with the kids or my mom.

@srtatropicalia

2 жыл бұрын

@@christinesantos2346 never heard of this issue you have, but i have something similar! I always throw up very easily, anything from sounds to smells to hearing people burp just gets me gagging. I just always guessed it had something to do with my ocd, as some other smells also trigger my cleaning compulsions

Morgan you should know better than to say that cheating happens when someone is neglected. No. It happens because people will do you how they wanna do you no matter how good of a partner you are. ‘Building a strong foundation’ has neverrrrrrrr prevented someone from cheating

@Amanda_616

2 жыл бұрын

Agree...but, in her defense, I have always read that women specifically cheat due to feelings of neglect/loneliness/lack of support. Men on the other hand...some are just straight up dogs (no offense to dogs).

@hunterbarry5754

2 жыл бұрын

It’s not that black and white, plenty of women cheat despite their partner giving them an amazing life. Just look at will and jada smith. Jada slept with her sons friend, raw.

@karsonchristianson5046

2 жыл бұрын

Great take

@karsonchristianson5046

2 жыл бұрын

@@Amanda_616 male or female y'all are both dogs if you cheat

@jayneirajames792

2 жыл бұрын

This! When I heard her say that it’s almost like blaming the partner that was cheated on. A person can have absolutely everything in a relationship and still cheat. Just like a partner can get absolutely nothing out a relationship and not cheat

Liked the guest until she said she would eat other peoples food and only replace it if that person was 'pressed' over it. Its not yours, the least you can do is replace it immediately and not do it again.

@emmahodgson9995

2 жыл бұрын

All the recent guests seem to have some shitty takes, it ruins the ep when they're supposed to be judging if a person is TA or not and then say something that shows they're the asshole

@billie2896

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed, this guest is such a hypocrite and really inconsiderate 🗑🚮

@Boymom2839

2 жыл бұрын

Y'all are never happy lol😂😂😂😂

@emmahodgson9995

2 жыл бұрын

@@Boymom2839 idk I'm really happy when it's just morgan and her close friends and family (and partner obv), that's what made me love the podcast in the first place, just nice people with a good amount of life experience giving good advice. The last few guests have just not been as nuanced or open to experiences that aren't their own. But that's just my opinion at the end of the day :/

@sangeeta

2 жыл бұрын

@@Boymom2839 I’ve personally liked all the guests so far at least a little bit but this episode just had negative bad vibes.

the second story i 100% would stare at someone if they’re ruining my dining experience by slurping so hard thats grossy gross gross

@user-bd6gr1lg8p

2 жыл бұрын

me too, and actually I would ask the waiter to do something too

I really wish Victoria had chosen her wording when speaking about queerness more carefully. I agree with the sentiment behind what she says, but it is so important when speaking on a platform to word things carefully. A lot of what she says about queerness implies that there is choice involved in one's own sexuality. When she means to talk about how we socialize people regarding sexuality she misses the mark with her wording in my opinion.

@Dagothae

2 жыл бұрын

@@ilikedarknes3351 You get my point! I feel Non-queer people would just interpret what she said very differently than other queer people would.

@victoriaparis

2 жыл бұрын

This is so valid! Will work on more conscious and intentional wording 💗

@bjbackmon7431

Жыл бұрын

Yeah it rubbed kinda the wrong way when she kept saying “this is why I don’t date guys anymore” on my head I just was like or you know stop dating shitty guys lol not all men are out to get ya

@Dagothae

Жыл бұрын

@@bjbackmon7431 I think it Definitely fine if you're attracted to multiple genders to only choose to act on your attraction to one of them if that's what you want for your life. What I didn't like was that she kind of spoke about her attraction as if that was the choice she made when in reality she chose her actions. You can't change who you're attracted to but you can definitely choose who you like to pursue. Also just not dating shitty men isn't as easy as it sounds, a lot of people don't show you how shitty they can be until you've already invested a lot of time in them, it seems like she just has better luck with women

I'd be down to listen to Justin talk about space

@jessicavalladares1932

2 жыл бұрын

Space episode

No one wants a partner with absolutely no table manners period. It’s also rude that she said she wouldn’t order spaghetti and did… shows that she doesn’t care for what her partner asks of her. Not one bit.

@leighaneil5991

2 жыл бұрын

And she was sooo embarrassed he left her in the restaurant yet he’s told her multiple times her eating obnoxiously embarrasses him

@shalynhickem9216

2 жыл бұрын

@@leighaneil5991 playing Mind games with him the whole time

@XNephroditeX

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah , i don't know why Victoria was defending the girlfriend so much. It's not that hard to not eat like a 2 year old. If my boyfriend was eating like a viking I'd be embarrassed too tbh

@bbdrgn

2 жыл бұрын

@@XNephroditeX because some people just don't have the capability and if you're that worried about your partners eating don't date. That's on you. He clearly has other issues. But I do agree that she's wrong for lying. But he's fucking dramatic.

@mika628

2 жыл бұрын

@@bbdrgn she's wrong for lying, wrong for ruining other people's experience, wrong for yelling at him for "embarrassing" her even though she didn't care at all about embarrassing him. All he did was ask that she not slurp her food while eating this one dish around him and she couldn't even compromise on that.

love you Morgan, but I feel like y’all missed the point with the second story. He set a boundary and she broke it. she even went an extra mile to lie to his face even after he’s explained how her behaviour makes him feel.

I think the second story is a toxic case of "This is who I am. You should accept me for me" Relationships require compromise. Both people are meant to grow. You love someone for who they are, for sure. But it's impossible for two people to coexist together without adjustments. The partner lied about something the OP has expressed made them uncomfortable. There aren't many reasons I can think of that would make it impossible for the partner to have eaten more quietly.

This episode was lacking a lot of the compassion and self awareness that Justin and other guests bring to the table. Victoria's takes are a little too hot for me.

@nickid7117

2 жыл бұрын

Yes yes 🙌

@rpstgag

2 жыл бұрын

I'm relieved that I'm not the only one who feels this way! 😩 The whole time I'm just like "mmmmmmm she's coming off like an entitled, bourgeois person who gets away with anti-social behavior by selectively misappropriating feminist language." The quintessential example of GirlBossFeminism™

@nickid7117

2 жыл бұрын

@@rpstgag YOU SAID IT BEST

@HayleySulfridge

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! It’s one thing to say it’s not up to women to make men comfortable, it’s another entirely to justify shitty actions because it’s a woman doing them.

@keeliemcclellan1589

2 жыл бұрын

@@rpstgag yes!! She seemed to be contradicting herself a lot too. Glad I’m not the only one who thought this

I kid you not, when I heard that husband’s toast I was so shocked I smacked my hand over my mouth so hard I almost hurt myself. If there’s one thing this man had, it’s the audacity.

@nathaliecordova9668

2 жыл бұрын

LMAOOO I agree !!

@TeethHoarderr

2 жыл бұрын

YESSS WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT IT???

@ItsNicoleAnderson

2 жыл бұрын

Girl I screamed! WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL IS WRONG WITH THAT MAN?!!!?!

@ItsNicoleAnderson

2 жыл бұрын

If anyone has the link to the story please drop it in the comments!!

@nicolab1708

2 жыл бұрын

Just so cruel of him. What a bully 😣

I think men grew to resent Victoria because she's EXHAUSTING! I'm a proud, independent woman and I rolled my eyes so hard in this episode at all of her "takes"

@vianeyboruel504

Жыл бұрын

Yesss! ...like ...what?!

@HolisticallyNish

Жыл бұрын

I think you’re just projecting/ feeling attacked because she actually is an independent women not beholden to any man. You sound like you’ve got some internalized misogyny, which join the club. But her takes are far from exhausting.

@vianeyboruel504

Жыл бұрын

@@HolisticallyNish they got better on the second half of the episode but her sexism is blatant

@HolisticallyNish

Жыл бұрын

@@vianeyboruel504 Lol what’s wrong with disliking men that are garbage?? I mean truly I watched the whole episode after reading the comments and the only thing I disliked about it was Victorias vocal fry.

@vianeyboruel504

Жыл бұрын

@@HolisticallyNish funny her voice isn't annoying to me at all, talk about internalized misogyny.

As someone who has misophonia: certain sounds cause me SO much distress that I become EXTREMELY agitated and anxious, even furious. Slurping triggers many people's misophonia and a lot of other people with sensory issues have a problem with it as well, so no, the dude is NTA (even though there were no mentions of sensory issues or misophonia etc.). He discussed the problem beforehand and the girlfriend made a promise she then refused to keep. She is acting like a child, refusing to fix the problem or even compromise. Also, to be honest- I think it's a little... hypocritical that Morgan and the guest say "I wouldn't wanna embarrass my partner ever" yet they don't consider that the girlfriend also embarrassed her partner by refusing to fix her terrible table manners. Lol.

@chelseydowd7444

2 жыл бұрын

My husband also has this. When he was growing up his kid sister used to make this sound with her mouth and it used to drive him insane. His parents never understood why he got so agitated over it. But still to this day he is like this. I think aside from the distress it caused him the fact that his parents knew she did it on purpose to get him to blow a gasket yet didn’t punish her out even more salt in the wound.

@amyellis3612

2 жыл бұрын

yes! i have this. i went through a phase when i was 12 of literally not being able to eat dinner with my family bc of the eating noises they made, it made me so uncomfortable, like i wanted to rip my skin off uncomfortable, and also would make me irrationally angry or sad. even now, certain eating noises or other noises make me want to cry. i totally get op, even if they don't have auditory issues, it's a matter of her manipulating him (she promised to not get spaghetti and then got it, when she felt like she had him in place where he couldn't move) and its totally unfair of her to be so ignorant of his feelings and the people around them!

@ErieRosewood

Жыл бұрын

my brother eats cereal like ops girlfriends. he chews super loud sometimes with his mouth open, slurps the milk, etc. it was distressing and disgusting as both my mom and i have misophonia (eating sounds are my trigger more so than my mom). my mom and I literally banned him from eating it in our vicinity. op is nta for doing the same.

spaghetti slurping story: as someone who cannot STAND IT when people eat loudly, i fully understand how that guy feels. and i don’t think we need an audio. the fact that she eats loudly enough to cause other people to stare and whisper about it, for me, gives enough info. it must be BAD for him to be talking about it the way he does. also, had it been the man who was the messy/loud eater, i think without question it would’ve been seen as gross and slobbish. but because it was a girl, it’s all “yeah you go girl get in that food and screw everyone else”. if people don’t think girls should put up with slobbish boyfriends, then it should go the other way too. definitely a bit of a double standard there imo

@summerava5674

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯💯💯💯

@vianeyboruel504

Жыл бұрын

100% full equality

The discussion around the slurping at a restaurant was EXREMELY bad. I hate to say this but it really sounds like some millennial/ gen Z self question-all-tradition bs in the service of simple selfishness. It's not being confident or just taking up space to disregard table manners to the point where people around you who ALSO paid to be there are disturbed. If you want to put your elbows on the table or whatever and bother no none else fine, but them saying the man is ridiculous for being embarrassed on her behalf is insane. When someone is behaving like an ass and bothering people around them but are too much of an ass to realize it, yeah, a normal person will be embarrassed. She had so many suggestions and opportunities to avoid the situation but she intentionally got him trapped in it by going back on what she said about ordering lasagna. He was right to leave. She's the AH

binge watching all of these for like the third time. and i gotta say the episodes with people morgan actually knows and is friends with r way better. i swear the guests never have a brain (with the exception of drew and sarah who were repeat guests, they’re great)

In the 2nd story the OP's gf is reeking of red flags. -Going by their response to the op, they act like something as easy as eating a little better or decently is impossible. -They lied so easily to the partners face over something as simple as an order, knowing fully well what would happen of they didn't. - They acted purely like an entitled brat when they screamed over and over and only demand an apology w out hearing no other arguments as if they're in the right. Even if you're in the right, hearing out what your partner has to say is basic communication skill 101. What if they form other bad habits and end up acting out in this same exact way?

The 3rd story made my jaw dropped especially after she said that she’s in Indonesia (i’m indonesian too). Sadly, I’m not surprised by the reaction of the in-laws because here many people still don’t treat women equally & they make it seem like it’s always the women’s fault if the husband cheats . Divorce is still taboo too in Indonesia & it will be hard on her especially since she doesn’t have any job at the moment. Argh it’s so heartbreaking

it’s weird that she’s trying to make it like a gender thing for the second story, like “as a women…,” immediately no. no adult, man or woman, should be slurping/eating noisily enough to attract the attention of an ENTIRE restaurant. op made it SUPER clear that he wouldn’t go out with her if she ordered spaghetti again and if i were him, i’d have left her there, too. sorry, not sorry.

@nickid7117

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Her outrage was misplaced lol Gender not related stop trying to make fetch happen

@xohoneyvee

Жыл бұрын

I didn’t even have to taught growing up about how you should chew and eat your food. It jsut came naturally, so it’s so mind boggling that ppl are like that that it’s such a deal breaker

I don’t think pansexuality should be a default, there shouldn’t BE a default sexuality. Part of ridding the stigma and roles against queer people vs straight people, dismantling the “default” is also necessary.

@AnaHaze777

Жыл бұрын

I think what she’s saying is a child should have all the options, instead of it automatically being assumed to be just straight. I don’t think she meant everyone should be pansexual, I think she just meant that it should begin with any and all options and attractions. Hopefully that made sense, I’m not the best as explaining things

@vianeyboruel504

Жыл бұрын

I'm pan...and i don't think it can be a default...people are attracted to what they're attracted to...even that changes over time. We can be open to new things but we can't force ourselves to enjoy the new things

Okay but why isn’t anyone talking about the first story? Like that OP could sue HER flat her mate after getting evidence of how she leaves mess, ruins your stuff or literally steals your important documents for YOU DOING A CHOICE TO BETTER YOUR LIFE. Because yes, having more money is a fucking advantage.

I don’t like when people say that someone cheats because they feel neglected in the relationship. It implies the blame is somehow on the non cheating partner. Sure, sometimes that’s why, but normally it boils down to the cheater’s insecurity of some kind. Really enjoyed all the takes in this episode though! Just wanted to pop in on that

@TwoHotTakes

2 жыл бұрын

This is actually from Dr. Gottman’s book I read and his research. Can predict divorce with 95% accuracy based on his studies even.

2nd story: There was a similar story on a different podcast where the girlfriend got up and left the restaurant because her boyfriend was being loud and messy. She was praised in the comments for putting her foot down because "He's a grown man and should know how to behave in a restaurant." and that she should "leave him and find someone who has enough manners to behave properly in public."

Love you Morgan and this podcast it's truly makes my day and I'm always looking forward to it but... I have to disagree with you on spaghetti story. If op is telling the truth eating so loudly that they are disturbing other people meal then it's not okay. If they were at Macdonald whatever but they were at a nice Italian place. Imagine trying to eat at a nice restaurant and hearing everyone talking about you and your parents and feeling constant eyes on you .I don't think Op is embarrassed for their partner but for the other people they're disturbing. This reminds me of another story you read about a guy who brought a baby to a nice restaurant and then proceeded to chance it's diaper on the table. I think OP is nta he also tried talking to his girlfriend a couple of times and gave her options and even tried to teach her different ways of eating. OP also warned them not to order spaghetti again and she mislead him and did anyway and he STILL respectfully got up and waiting in the car and when they got home she wouldn't even hear his side without an apology. I really do think this is a sex issue it's a common decenty issue as a women if the roles were reverse I would have the same opinion. Morgan I know you're a very kind person and maybe with realizing it you tend to side with your guests but don't to be afraid to be out spoken it's oay to disagree with your guests. It is called two hot takes after all 😏😏😏

@hailey.hah01

2 жыл бұрын

This comment is perfect 😍 agree completely

@talynhastime9343

2 жыл бұрын

Victoria for that story had real “Main Character Syndrome”.

@FabiolaGonzalez-xu7zr

2 жыл бұрын

It’s honestly becoming a very annoying trend on Morgan’s side that she agrees with her guests on everything even if their take is bad. It’s been addressed by other subscribers and even they addressed it on the do overs. Sometimes they have such bad double standards when it comes to men and pregnant women or just make men hating comments.

@tassaneesamitchart8521

2 жыл бұрын

100%

For the spaghetti slurping story. The thing isn't about not embarrassing someone with your noises, it's about being rude to people who are guests at a restaurant not the owners of the restaurant. Just because you pay for a meal, it doesn't mean that now you can act and eat however you want. It's disrespectful towards the other patrons, the owners didn't open a restaurant to have the ambiance be just loud slurping. He's embarrassed because she was being rude to them. Sure you can eat however you want in your own house but if it's not your restaurant, then it's not yours to act however you like.

Sensory issues are not the same as insecurities. I’d literally do the same as I have with my dad my entire life and I nudge my bf when he’s chewing so loud bc I genuinely can’t stand it it makes me *involuntarily* angry and upset. My dad does it in public as well extremely loud and it’s embarrassing asf so I literally agree

@maddy0831

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve literally also left restaurants over it bc I don’t wanna ruin the meal with my issues

JUSTICE FOR JUSTIN! We need a 👏🏻SPACE 👏🏻EPISODE 👏🏻😂❤️

Not you trying to reason for cheaters. Neglect makes you cheat ??? If you don't feel like you aren't getting enough attention then leave. Don't break the construct of monogamy, just leave. You save everyone involved future issues with trust.

Story 2: There's a HUGE difference between not eating one noodle at a time ~daintily~ and slurping SO LOUD that other guests are disturbed. Idk the way y'all worded it made it seem like he's trying to control her when it literally boils down to basic table manners. I wouldn't date a guy who eats like a 5 year old either. It's not about OP expecting his gf to be feminine and dainty it's about common sense

@lialee162

2 жыл бұрын

💯 I think the cohost tried to make it too much about genders rather than that the issue comes down to normal table manners

A space episode actually sounds so cool? There's so much stuff to do with that

@LamiDown

2 жыл бұрын

I’d love to hear an episode with Justin talking about space lol

The story about the ring was so weird to me. Today my bf of 5 year's youngest sister got engaged, long story as is. And we had a whole talk about engagement rings because he always wants me to have the best and always says he'll get me the most expensive diamond ring he can. Lol well thats when I broke it that I don't even like diamonds lol. I then went ring searching to show him what I'd be interested in. A cute, dainty moss agate ring, with a rose gold band. He seen it and even he said that was way better than what he had ever thought of lol. Communication matters, if he wanted to he would.

@Raintree1012

2 жыл бұрын

Omg I just got engaged with almost the same ring you’re describing! The ring my fiancé had initially picked out was silver and diamonds still beautiful but not me. I am very much in love with my Moss Agate ring.

@brayaunnaklimas8129

2 жыл бұрын

@@Raintree1012 congratulations!!

There's a difference between "being confident and taking up space" and being an inconvenience to others.

Ooh the ring story..... That one hit home... My fiance told me recently how he got my ring... He was looking around for a ring and couldn't find anything.... So he told his mom about it and she told him he could have his great grandmother's ring. He was so happy that he didn't have to put any more effort into finding a ring or had to pay money for it. He did get it cleaned. it's a nice ring but it's just not my style. I just don't wear it and leave it in the safe. So I really understand the reddit story, the lack of effort is what pisses me of the most

I am gonna go with NTA for the second story. On THT we talk about what triggers other people. Hearing someone slurp their food like that would not only make me loose my appetite for the dinner, but I’d have an aversion from eating pasta ever again. I am very sensitive with food. It’s not like she’s being harmed by not eating her pasta like a three year old. It makes absolutely no difference to the taste of the food to eat it with class. I would have literally gone home and never gone out to eat Italian food with my partner again.

@cathrynmarie4333

2 жыл бұрын

Oh, and I am 100% here for an entire episode where Justin talks about space, and all of the things he is interested in. We have been introduced to everyone, but I feel like I know the least about Justin, and hearing his fascination about space always makes me smile.

@ellaabbey1570

2 жыл бұрын

In your own home it's different eat how you want but at a restaurant it's the time to have class and pretend your fancy even if you aren't

Someone might wanna tell Victoria that pooping four times a day is not healthy lmao. I make fruit bowls for a grocery store and I know first hand if you binge on too much fruit on a regular basis it can actually mess up your stomach and make you sick.

@racquellhernandez8120

2 жыл бұрын

Lmao ya I thought that would be common sense haha too much of a good thing isn’t good for you

@wioi

Жыл бұрын

4 times a day to only once a week is all healthy and good. A dozen doctors told me that already

The Spaghetti story is a great example of how sometimes the whole "yas girl don't let any man tell you what to do" mindset is sometimes very misplaced. I think if the roles were reversed, we would be laughing about how much of a manchild the guy has to be to not be able to just eat like you have manners when in public. There is a difference between being kinda messy, and literally disturbing others around you by being rude and low class. Think about any time you've been in a restaurant, have you just looked or whispered about a person who is just a little messy? No. You probably wouldn't even notice. If people are noticing, this girl is literally being loud and obnoxious with her food. There is a very real problem a lot of people have where they cannot stand eating noises, and if you're eating so loud everyone in the restaurant can hear you, you're doing something wrong. Like OP said, these are usually places that have loud ambiance. It's not "omg yes queen" that this girl is being hardheaded about learning basic manners, especially over something that is just completely unnecessary like, why do you NEED to eat like a pig in a trough? Why if it's causing such horrible embarrassment for your partner would you not even try, especially when it's such a normal thing she should already be doing. If your issue is that he requested she stop, and told her how he feels about it, maybe she should have just learned some basic manners on her own or from her parents. I really don't think he's the bad guy for communicating this when he should never had to in the first place. Like, if she just came over and didn't know how to wipe her ass after dropping a loaf, and he tried to explain to her why she needs to, is he the bad guy for not wanting a gf with poopoo panties from not knowing a basic part of hygiene? That's better than just dumping someone and being like "sorry u eat loud", but now I guess he has to do that or get over it.

@bbdrgn

2 жыл бұрын

No one would read all this. But as someone who is a messy eater and Idk how to fix it. You're wrong no one should be bothered on either side. You just sound misogynistic and like an incel "if it was a man he would be treated different!" Like no... people should just be able to eat and exist without their PARTNER being incredibly judgemental simply due to what strangers think? He needs to take the time to look at what his issues with her ACTUALLY are

@Alexis-pi5il

2 жыл бұрын

@@bbdrgn you sound very stupid lmao some people have different boundaries and it’s reasonable to not want to do something that makes then uncomfortable. Plus they made a good point, we shouldn’t always just be like “yas girl”. People are wrong sometimes and should be held accountable. This story tho really isn’t that deep get over yourself they don’t sound like an incel you just can’t handle any sort of criticism to your fragile ego.

@nickid7117

2 жыл бұрын

Totally Agree - he was NTA

@bbdrgn

2 жыл бұрын

@@nickid7117 he was. He should dump her instead of humiliating her over something I GARUNTEE woth certainty no one gave a shit about and all the whispering was purely his weird paranoia. She's his fucking partner. He shouldn't care. The fact he does means he needs to dump her as this is emotional abuse. "I will isolate you, humiliate you and make sure we do EVERYTHING my way just because I don't like that you made a noise while eating" that's what he has established. His way only. And it's not his way or the high way, it's his way or I'm going to do something to make sure I hurt you. Like he needs his head checked. And anyone agreeing with this comment is an incel.

@briannad9155

2 жыл бұрын

@@bbdrgn dude. If you’re gonna eat in public at a restaurant you need to be civilized. Other people are paying to eat in the same place, not just you. The world doesn’t revolve around you to the point where you get to upset other people’s meals. There’s a difference between being a messy eater and being so loud that other people around you stop and stare. You’re free to “exist” all you want. But you can “exist” eating in your own home if you’re gonna cause a disturbance. If I were screaming in a restaurant next to your table, you’d get upset wouldn’t you? It’s the same concept.

On the second story I have to disagree, it’s not really about the spaghetti slurping it’s that she’s being dismissive of her boyfriends boundaries . He said hey I have a problem is there this behavior can change . Gave alternatives and tried to make compromises and she shot him down at every turn . When he reclarified his boundaries she lied , broke that boundary and then got mad when he followed through and refused to communicate after . That’s not okay

The spaghetti story them saying is more of a you problem because they are insecure with themselves is the dumbest thing I ever heard. People eating with their mouth open and just chewing loudly is one of the most disgusting thing ever. Victoria saying this is one of the reasons she stopped dating men is just dumb lol. This is not a man or woman thing lol. Anybody would agree that if it was switched around and it was the guy that didn’t have table manners it would still be annoying and disgusting.

with peace and love, victoria is not it.

@victorywalkingtours8843

Жыл бұрын

She's so immature. Admitting to stealing food, siding with the 🐖 🐷, JFC.

@noprogressionisregression6854

Жыл бұрын

So, I haven't noticed that Morgan has not had her back on. And I realize probably no one's going to read this cuz it's so old but I mean I'm so glad someone set it because between all of the lights and literally is, I cannot stand this valley girl thing. And then on top of that, like you said, she admits to stealing food. Never says that she sees it as wrong. Seems to want to blame people for her mistakes. No thank you..

@victoriawardrope

6 ай бұрын

THANK YOU!! finally someone just said it 😭🫶🏼

About the guy who left his gf at the restaurant because she ordered spaghetti. Well, imo he did not leave her there because she ordered that, I think it's the fact that he made it clear before going and she AGREED not to do it knowing very well that she's lying. If she knew that his request makes her uncomfortable and crosses a line for her, she might as well said that it won't work for her. Also, why do we care is she's a woman or not. I would feel the same way about any person. However yes, at this point he could have broken up with her before moving in together. BUT, if it's becoming and issue for her as well, she's also free to decide that he's not a match for her. Why do we see her as a victim in this? No one here is a victim and both of them are free to break up or at least set boundaries.

@danganryanne9499

2 жыл бұрын

Well we need the female victim because the man is always at fault and should be punished /S

The proposal: She sent PHOTOS of the types of rings she wanted and he couldn't put enough effort into getting something she would like. Ring cleanings are also literally free at most jewelers. She's not being materialistic or ungrateful- she's rightfully upset that her partner ignored her ideas and didn't put an ounce of effort into making her happy.

Yayyy you’re back! 🙌🏼 I’ve been looking forward to another episode for what feels like a lifetime! Glad you’re feeling better and have realised how important you are to all of us, we love and appreciate you Morgan 🥰

I have never seen so many people get so worked up over slurping spaghetti XD

@mferrariish

Жыл бұрын

Trust me, I really wish I wouldn’t care because it would make my life so much easier. Been in therapy for years and the noise triggers me so much I feel irrational rage. Misophonia is real and at the end of the day I control my actions bc I can’t control others but why can’t other people learn basic table manners?

These last two guests you have had on are all hating on men and how much they suck and you never argue back. Like the second story he put a boundary, you always argue that boundaries should be respected or is that only if the female put the boundary down? Cause honestly if my husband ate like he's explaining I wouldn't eat with him publicly either. And the pay gap argument is ridiculous ofource there is pay gaps but in most civilised countries men and women that have worked the same time at a company and has equal experience will earn the same, maybe USA isn't part of that yet.

Hey Morgan as a fellow brain I'd like to let you know that hypersensitivity is also a symptom of ADHD. Not everyone has it but I do. I hate crowded places and super loud noises that aren't from music and even then I can't listen to really loud music without having a panic attack. Wishing you the best on your test and hoping you find a way to cope with your symptoms whatever they may be. ❤️❤️❤️

@LeahSessions

Жыл бұрын

I have all of these triggers with my adult ADHD also. (Diagnosed at 41 when my daughter was assessed)

@sappholily

3 ай бұрын

i was gonna say the same as someone with autism and adhd !

I think for the spaghetti story it’s 100% NTA. Just as you said it would be super embarrassing for someone not to tip, it’s super embarrassing to be with someone who’s being absolutely disgusting when they’re eating, to the point that other tables are noticing and talking about it. If other tables are mentioning it, it’s BAD. I have issues with sound with food as well and I wouldn’t even be able to eat if someone was doing that, I’d be too busy trying not to gag or throw up

The restaurant story: He is clearly NOT the Ah, I have really bad issues with noises especially chewing and drinking and I would honestly go insane if someone did that even if it’s really quiet. So for him to raise the issue and maybe tone it down a bit, because she is clearly aware of it, and for her to just ignore it and lie to him about it when he has clearly set some boundaries makes her the AH.

@lilyjane570

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. As someone who was just told recently my eating noises have been bothering and grossing out my partner for months I was so glad he told me and thought "oh god who else heard and might be bothered?!" Yeah its not world ending but also an easy change im happy to do to be polite to those around me. When im home alone ill eat however I want but i have been practicing more mindfulness in social settings and with the people I love.

The minimum wage of $7.25 for seasonal/teen/dependent workers is not justified. They should not be doing the same work for that little money. It's greedy and unfair. Also, they could be getting a job to help their parent/parents with the bill. If the base wage is $15 they should get $15. I never understood "oh I struggled so they should struggle too," it's selfish and boomer mentality to not want to improve the lives of the future generations.

@QTpatootie95

2 жыл бұрын

There’s no universe where a teen should be helping a parent financially, that money should be theirs and we shouldn’t incentivize minors to work as it is, but in terms of valued labor I agree it’s bullshit to pay kids less.

@sappholily

3 ай бұрын

i wasn't necessarily a fan of victoria, but she did clarify what she meant. she said (paraphrasing) "only for teens that are living under someone's roof would that *maybe* be justified, but even then, there are teens in the foster care system who should get a better paying wage". she wasn't advocating for teens to be paid dust, she was saying more along the lines of "in a perfect world where every kid lives with a financially stable family, 7.25/hour could work"

Good episode glad your back Morgan Story 2: there’s a time and place for everything. Regardless if this is your SO, family, or friend could you imagine sitting across from someone eating who just SLUUURRRRPSS their food. Hell no. I have a bit of anxiety, but people at nearby tables staring at us would give me an anxiety attack. This isn’t your home or someplace like McDonald’s. I’m assuming it’s a nice restaurant. Then lying about it. She could slurp her spaghetti on her own time. Which makes me think at that she’s doing it on purpose to embarrass him. This isn’t your eating with the wrong fork, holding your glass wrong. Your acting like a child who would have their behaviour corrected

@princesscat5259

2 жыл бұрын

Period! My exact thoughts.

About the 2. story. I'm kind of disapointed that they went for the " men are so unbeliveable, and why do a woman has to be elegant... " It doesn't matter. Men and woman should be civilized too. This is literally just table manners. I would be ashamed, with a partner who is this abnoctious.

My boyfriend is a MESSY eater and it gets on my last nerve to see sometimes however it’s mainly in private. When we go out to eat I have to tell him not to get messy sometimes but I feel like OP is NTA imo. I personally wouldn’t have left but I agree with you that I need to hear exactly how the slurps sound 🥴 I don’t eat loudly but slurps loud enough to get looks from other tables must be pretty loud ….

@AK-jd7td

2 жыл бұрын

OP is definitely NTA. She lied to him. Slurping pasta is bad manners.

The milk story has me absolutely wheezing.

Husband cheats story: if she’s actually okay with it and they’re getting tested/he’s careful then you do you girl 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

@briannad9155

2 жыл бұрын

Is it even cheating at that point? That just seems like an open marriage.

@courtneyh7842

2 жыл бұрын

@@briannad9155 I agree, that’s just what it’s titled

On the spaghetti slurping story - how different would the takes have been if the genders were reversed. If the man had zero table manners he would be labelled a slob and I’d imagine the advice would be that women shouldn’t put up with that so should leave but interestingly when the woman is the one doing it there seems to be more leniency and the man is seen as inferior for removing himself from a situation he wasn’t comfortable in. In my opinion it was an issue of general respect rather that the fact she slurps spaghetti, and that is something that goes both ways

@summerava5674

2 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY!

@summerava5674

2 жыл бұрын

you know these girls would’ve been shitting all over the slurper

@Aquaphor351

2 жыл бұрын

You're so right. I am very rarely of the "If the genders were reversed" camp, but Morgan absolutely has double standards for guys and girls. It's really odd that she can't see it.

Um excuse me if you’re offering anyone a free trip and they decline… ASK ME i won’t decline a free trip 😂

This guest was by far my least favourite you’ve had on. Her bias and negativity made it difficult to listen to her. I couldn’t make it to the end of this one. Love the podcast tho!!

@minp2001

2 жыл бұрын

By far one of the worst

@fromsami

Жыл бұрын

I could NOT stand her…

As someone with misophonia, I completely side with the guy from the second story. I wouldn’t have handled it well at all and it definitely would be the reason we break up. Nta for sure.

Can we have Nick Viall back to cohost? Honestly one of my favorite cohost you have had. This guy communicated. You didn’t have to push him to speak, mature opinions and really tried to look at the whole story not just focus on one thing.

I just have to say for the Spaghetti girl. At the very least if you are in a restaurant you should probably avoid slurping your spaghetti noodles. I can say this from personal experience when I once was seated next to a spaghetti slurper. and half of their sauce ended up on me and in my food because slurping noodles flings them around. Don't get me wrong I love to slurp a spaghetti noodle here and there. But there is a time and a place.

2nd story..mye set a clear boundary and communicated and she lied. He's NTA. Yea she paid to be there but so did everyone else who is there and don't want to hear eating sounds 🤢

I am a feminist and I also love to (actively) “EAT like a lady” “SIT like a lady” “WALK like a lady” because it makes me feel beautiful and it helps me feel so empowered. I embrace my soft and demure nature and I am no longer worried about if other people would find me weak or intellectually inferior because of my nature. There is so much power in femininity, in softness, in submissiveness. My life has changed so much since I came to accept and embrace this fact and I have NEVER been this happy. This is just a personal experience so it will differ from person to person, but I just wanted to share my story under this discussion. SOFT DOES NOT MEAN WEAK. You don’t have to acquire “masculine” traits to be heard. Your whispers and quiet tugs can move mountains, my dear sisters.

As a person with misophonia, particularly with slurping or smacking/ tongue sounds, the 2nd story got me. If I were in a restaurant and heard someone noisily slurping noodles I would be miserable. Being next to someone smacking kills me, I need to turn up music or talk so I don’t hear the sounds lol. OP is nta, he set his boundaries and she lied then crossed his 1 boundary.

As a bi person I literally never understood “coming out” and why everyone feels the need to put such an emphasis on it, making it seem like it’s something you HAVE to do. Straight people don’t come out to anyone “btw I’m straight guys!!!!” So why do I have to announce who I want to date? How is it ANYONES business but my own and my partners? I never came out to anyone, how you feel about it is your own problem not mine 🤷🏽‍♀️

@katrinascarlet5637

2 жыл бұрын

A young coworker came out to me and I could tell he was very anxious about it. "I can appreciate this is very important to you but I couldn't care less about the gender of who you bring into your bed." I've been told I'm too blunt and don't use the best words but he seemed relieved so I'll call it a win.

@danganryanne9499

2 жыл бұрын

I think because back then it was illegal to be gay/lesbian and so now we’re holding celebrations so we could give that person validation in being themselves, and some families don’t accept their kids if they’re queer so it might be a place of comfort of being with the ones that love and support you

@negracaribena

Жыл бұрын

Yup! I don’t really label my sexuality and I will usually just mention a non-heterosexual relationship that I’ve had if I want to mention it at all. It’s not coming out, it’s more like talking about my past dating history.

Victoria’s takes are very uncalled for and quite profound if you ask me. Comes off very rude and unethical and Morgan is feeding off of it..

@QTpatootie95

2 жыл бұрын

Do you know the definition of the word profound because it’s usage here is puzzling considering you’re critiquing the substance of her words.

@alexismarie3792

2 жыл бұрын

@@QTpatootie95 profound: (of a state, quality, or emotion) very great or intense. I don’t understand your comment?.. Her takes were profound.. 😂

@elisabethannastirrat2830

Жыл бұрын

I agree but I also think that Morgan may feel a little pressured to agree because of how the guest portrays her opinions. I feel a bit bad for Morgan as it can be awkward to not agree with someone after inviting them into your home, I think she may have felt a little uncomfortable 😔

@xohoneyvee

Жыл бұрын

@@elisabethannastirrat2830 thank you like it was obvious she was agreeing with the guy and leaning more into it but her guest said way otherwise. Usually when Morgan has a regular guest like her friends, bf, or dad, she’ll literally be so quick to disagree instead of feed into it

Haha on the subject of baby/kids clothes. I have a 4 year old son and a 3 year old daughter. When I found out I was going to have a daughter I was so nervous. I'm a very outdoorsy woman, I don't wear makeup and I have no idea how to do hair last a ponytail. Long story short I was adamantly opposed to all pink baby clothes. She has beautiful blue eyes and I loved dressing her in navy and bright blue clothing. Fast forward to her being a toddler and being able to choose her own clothing: loves pink, dresses, unicorns and ruffles. She now plays with her tonka trucks and runs around catching bugs in her hot pink ruffly dresses and she is every bit herself. Don't forget letting your child be who they are and respecting their preferences sometimes means a little girl in a lot of pink too.

I’m sorry but is she purposely missing all the points ???? Like the food: people have actual disorders. The Indonesian woman: SHE MORE LIKELY DID NOT FULLY CHOOSE who she married and had a child with. If the divorce court basically won’t let them have their own say, what makes you think the beginning of the marriage started in the right way??? Arranged marriage is huge there.

I think the biggest problem is that we DON’T ALREADY have lil segment where Justin talks about space

In 2nd story, OP handled the situation like a mature adult, unlike his toddler of a partner. Just replace “loud noodle slurping” with literally anything that annoys/bothers/offends you. He communicated his feelings clearly and set his boundaries , and she reacted by LYING and intentionally trying to make him uncomf. What else was he supposed to do at that point? She sounds like she’s got some real issues. Also, reacting by saying “this is why I don’t date men” is a lil sexist is it not? Still love yalls vids but this one had me fired up 😂

No! Slurping girl should be embarrassed because why do you get to feel how you feel and he doesn’t get to feel his feelings? I HATE the entitlement of who cares if im being disrespectful to my SO and the people in my surroundings. He didn’t make a show of it! He just told the waitress that he wouldn’t be needing anything and he went to the car. She ate then went to the car. That’s not making a show…

@xohoneyvee

Жыл бұрын

The fact she didn’t even got chase after him showed a lot. Like she literally waited 10+ minutes for her food to arrive, ate, and then took her sweet time back im the car only to yell at him

At the last story: I'm crying, I'm so happy for him, I hope they're happy 😭💖

Hard disagree on the whole “she paid to be there, she can slurp her food” because highkey that’s the argument I hear for the most fucking absurd things. Talking on the phone in a movie theater is the first thing that came to mind. But here’s the thing. Everyone else paid to be there too. If other people are staring and whispering then it HAS to be more than being a little messy and audible. Other people are paying for a nice night out, they deserve to not be disturbed by someone that doesn’t care about those around her. Also he literally brought it up to her in private and she lied to him. I would’ve walked out too.

With that 4th story: To me when you get into a relationship you know what you can take and can’t take and I’m not mad at her if she knows that something she can take for now. The kids feel loved. She feels loved. The bills are paid… if she is truly comfortable in that life who am I to judge I don’t gotta live it lol. I feel like why not just be poly but I guess that would involved talking about it which they seem to not really wanna do but other then that… who cares? Most of the ppl judging are poor anyway ( lol jk that was a joke.) The only thing I would say is that I hope that alimony agreement is written down on a postnup or something but at least if he screws her over she’s have all the money she hopefully saving from the businesses if he paying for everything

@bees1550

2 жыл бұрын

The part that gets me is the op saying it doesn't bother her anymore. That makes me wonder if she use to be very upset about it but over time found away to live with it. If this was okay with communication I think it would be an okay situation /to each their own. However if she is just numb to it then I feel awful for her having to get to that ppint. Either way I hope she finds her own happiness no matter how it looks.

@danganryanne9499

2 жыл бұрын

@@bees1550 For the fourth one, she wasn’t hurt because of the cheating but she was hurt because of the not knowing

I feel like the second story, ESH. The girlfriend sucks for not respecting her boyfriend’s boundaries, telling him that she’d order something else only to meanly order pasta again. And the boyfriend sucks for staying in the relationship and seemingly having a need for control. Both suck for making that toxic relationship.

i’m so happy to see the comments agree with me about story 2 because i was going insane

Haven’t watched the newest episode yet but I’m glad to see you back Morgan!! Don’t let the haters get you down! You and Justin are adorable 🥰 your viewers love you!

About the grandma’s ring, they could have had it resized or smelted down into a new ring with the jewels placed in a new arrangement. Like… there’s so many things he could have actually done

The spaghetti story instantly reminded me of that white chicks dinner scene, props to him for sticking that long but he communicated - NTA

@xohoneyvee

Жыл бұрын

I’m all about table manners in public but I would gladly eat like that one scene in white chicks when I’m home AND alone. If only the gf in the story was like that

A relationship should be equally supportive and encouraging, honest and fulfilling. I’ve been with my husband 11 years and it’s so so amazing to be supportive and equal and respected even with my insecurities and self doubt he supports me and listens to what I need from him.