South African Interracial Marriage pt.2 | Nhlanhla & Marné | “We know this isn't normal”

Nhlanhla and Marné are an interracial couple who share the complexities of their marriage, cultural differences and their approach to raising mixed-race children.
The aim is to give insight into their unique relationship as well as help those who might find themselves in a similar situation.
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Chapters:
00:00 Intro
00:35 First Encounter
06:22 Initial Challenges
13:58 Current Challenges
40:25 Culture
51:04 Mixed Kids
59:31 Interracial Marriage
01:04:59 Lowest / Highest Moments
01:11:44 Misconceptions
01:19:40 Regrets
01:20:04 Last Words

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  • @habitusproject
    @habitusproject Жыл бұрын

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  • @musemezamurungiisaac2559
    @musemezamurungiisaac25599 ай бұрын

    That lady truly loves her husband, she's a good example.

  • @luisrenemoralesalvaro6396
    @luisrenemoralesalvaro6396 Жыл бұрын

    "The ink is black, the paper is white, together, we learn to read and write". The LORD be with your family always. From Puerto Rico with love in GOD.

  • @achatwithgoitse

    @achatwithgoitse

    Жыл бұрын

    🙌🏾Love it❤️

  • @luisrenemoralesalvaro6396

    @luisrenemoralesalvaro6396

    Жыл бұрын

    @@achatwithgoitse Gracias

  • @catrinakimber3579

    @catrinakimber3579

    7 ай бұрын

    Love that is analogy thank you

  • @luisrenemoralesalvaro6396

    @luisrenemoralesalvaro6396

    7 ай бұрын

    @@catrinakimber3579 Thank you. That is a verse of a song from the '70. Three Dog Night was the name of the group..."Black and White" very good song and very good pop group.

  • @luisrenemoralesalvaro6396

    @luisrenemoralesalvaro6396

    6 ай бұрын

    @@catrinakimber3579 Thank you.

  • @salehalimohamed2672
    @salehalimohamed2672 Жыл бұрын

    HIS VOICE AND HIS BODY MOVEMENTS TELLES THAT HE IS A STRONG, RELIABLE MAN FULL OF CHARACTER AND CHARISMA. THE BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IS AN HONEST LOVING AND LOVELY WOMAN. THEY ARE MADE FOR EACH OTHER. WISH YOU ALL THE BEST.

  • @kidanehabtemariam4348
    @kidanehabtemariam4348 Жыл бұрын

    I am black man from Eritrea (Pastor) and dating an Afrikaans girl, its going ups and downs. The social stigma especially from the Afrikaans side, is taking toll on us and plus some of our differences in values and culture. But we pray that God will give us grace to carry on, live for His glory and make it together to the end of its fruition.

  • @jgf4255

    @jgf4255

    Жыл бұрын

    Better move away from South Africa and move to the Netherlands, UK or Canada where it is more open to interracial couples.

  • @jamesbedukodjograham5508

    @jamesbedukodjograham5508

    Жыл бұрын

    Kidane Good Luck with your Afrikaans Woman,

  • @MentalFacility-u7o

    @MentalFacility-u7o

    Жыл бұрын

    Eritrean women are some of the most beautiful women in Africa. Respectfully bro, find yourself one, and live a happy life. Having to deal with bigots for who knows how long seems not ideal. Anyway, Best of luck.

  • @ronny-lb1cr

    @ronny-lb1cr

    Жыл бұрын

    As an Eritrean born and living in Germany I struggle to understand why native Africans are stigmatised on their continental ground by descendants of immigrants. I couldn't and wouldn't it to a native German. I'm equal and yet it requires to show respect to the culture on site.

  • @Josuemuller46

    @Josuemuller46

    7 ай бұрын

    Félicitations pour votre mariage ❤❤❤bravo ne lâche jamais et bon courage @kidaneh4348

  • @kwamena123
    @kwamena1234 ай бұрын

    This is a real marriage founded on an abiding love and respect for each other. God bless you two and your family

  • @colourinmyrainbow
    @colourinmyrainbow Жыл бұрын

    These are true Christians. Well done to them... what an example! 🙏

  • @zaneleimma6234
    @zaneleimma6234 Жыл бұрын

    One thing I love about marriage, especially interracial marriage, is that two people get to create their own new culture ❤️

  • @adamstrator5079

    @adamstrator5079

    9 ай бұрын

    That's it!

  • @patriotprince9358
    @patriotprince9358 Жыл бұрын

    The way she looks at him 😍😍😍 I need a woman who can look at me like this.

  • @lydiaheelu

    @lydiaheelu

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah, I noticed that too. She loves him deeply.

  • @martinpugh1008

    @martinpugh1008

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm divorced live alone and lonely and also need a woman who could do the same to me good luck to a lovely couple greetings from South Wales UK ♥️🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿♥️

  • @divineprovidence803

    @divineprovidence803

    19 күн бұрын

    Forget it with today's modern women with all their expectations.

  • @NelaoKegobonyeTibinyane
    @NelaoKegobonyeTibinyane11 ай бұрын

    I love the honesty ❤ As a black African women I appreciate how my brother articulated the emotional scars black men have as a result of Apartheid. Our men need this kind of honest and open conversations... Even men (black) married to black women grabble with some of these issues...

  • @xoliemafi7082
    @xoliemafi7082 Жыл бұрын

    Can't stop smiling throughout this interview ..what a lovely couple

  • @ManuS-rm7jk

    @ManuS-rm7jk

    11 ай бұрын

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @michellejolly7325
    @michellejolly7325 Жыл бұрын

    They’re such a lovely couple… You can see how much they love each other… Beautiful ❤

  • @oxonfrancois9969
    @oxonfrancois9969 Жыл бұрын

    People should be free to love whomever they want , you two keep loving one another!

  • @ManuS-rm7jk

    @ManuS-rm7jk

    11 ай бұрын

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @Josuemuller46

    @Josuemuller46

    7 ай бұрын

    Vous avez raison Madame ❤❤🎉🎉un peux de couleur ça fait du bien, depuis Canada 🇨🇦 Montréal 😊😊😊😊

  • @sivakumarpalliyil1182
    @sivakumarpalliyil1182 Жыл бұрын

    I'm really happy that still the world has left with good people.madam a great respect for you. He is a very lucky husband and you made a right choice. God bless you.

  • @NarnianLady
    @NarnianLady Жыл бұрын

    wow, such an articulate and deep thinking couple... may God bless them and show the way forward.

  • @ernestbrown7367
    @ernestbrown7367 Жыл бұрын

    Guys, you are an inspiration to the human race. I am a Jamaican living in Brisbane's for 3 to an Australian lady over 25, yes. Am impressed ❤

  • @DrUmarJohnson1

    @DrUmarJohnson1

    Жыл бұрын

    Stop lying! They are a DISGRACE!!! An African marrying a European on African soil turns my stomach!!!

  • @starseeker27

    @starseeker27

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@DrUmarJohnson1you have no say or authority in the lives of others, so focus on your school you damn pig

  • @mindfulthinker254
    @mindfulthinker254 Жыл бұрын

    Wow, what an impressive couple! Full of wisdom and maturity! Especially the husband radiates a special gift of wisdom & sincerity, and the wife radiates a special gift of beauty & dedication! May God continue to bless you abundantly! Greetings from Germany!

  • @000T00b
    @000T00b Жыл бұрын

    This beautiful, thoughtful, respectful and mature couple are an example to all others. My advice to them is …. A perfect marriage and a perfect couple does not exist, do not search for it. Just continue to do your best for each other and your children (as you already are doing). Do not look for external validation, or for comparison. You can only find that within and between the two of you. Love is not a romantic thing, it is a concerted, determined, gritty effort that you will stand by someone, you will be their rock in the face of any opposition or obstacle . It is dedication and loyalty, not romance and rainbows, contrary to the Hollywood mirage. And your very existence is proof that anything can be accomplished if there is love.

  • @tafadzwamatsvai92
    @tafadzwamatsvai92 Жыл бұрын

    I love you together guys, especially the way you are chilled, soft, and laid back. May the good Lord bless you abundantly.

  • @halgriffith2611
    @halgriffith261110 ай бұрын

    My brother, I am black, but I am 100% in your corner, camping and exploring new areas, I see it as a big opportunity in life, with great appreciation of life. I've traveled to those kinds of areas, by flying and driving.

  • @phakahmazibuko7968
    @phakahmazibuko7968 Жыл бұрын

    I love the vulnerability. We praying for you guys. Your resilience means a lot ❤️

  • @achatwithgoitse
    @achatwithgoitse Жыл бұрын

    Love that you couldn’t stay away from each other. True love. We glad you worked out! 😍🥰

  • @Saabjock
    @Saabjock12 күн бұрын

    They truly love each other. Look at the body language. Look at the way they look at each other...I love it.

  • @mimidepina9501
    @mimidepina9501 Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely FANTASTIC video. Thank you so sooo SOOO much for your 'honesty'. The video started off and I thought "Oh my goodness, are these 2 just out to make a buck or two, or joking around as an experiment " but the more I listened the more addicted I became to your amazing story, your analysis. Life is difficult- relationships and or marriage a real test. I have married someone from the same roots as me, but born and brought up in different countries. And boy, it's a challenge. So hats off and CONGRATULATIONS you guys are incredible. I wish I could share this video to the whole world. Best luck for your future. God's richest blessings (God must surely be VERY proud of the 2 of you 😉❣️)

  • @rosemabunda7663
    @rosemabunda7663 Жыл бұрын

    Congratulations to you guys. If God wants to bring people together no one can stop him. He is our only hope to our life. In God's eye there is no black or white.. There's no color to him we all his creation. Wish you all the best in your life.

  • @brucepower3429

    @brucepower3429

    Жыл бұрын

    😂😂😂😂😂

  • @Acton65
    @Acton65 Жыл бұрын

    What a wonderful couple. Mature, loving, embracing the challenges of married life. Loving wishes and all success to them!!!

  • @englishteacher3145
    @englishteacher3145 Жыл бұрын

    Very articulate, conscious, profound pair. Amazing and impressive. Lovely couple.

  • @sellothabane3331
    @sellothabane3331 Жыл бұрын

    This couple just touches my soul. There's something about them warm, satisfying, and precious. May the God whose I am and to whom I belong bless, protect, and prosper this family. Blessings!

  • @DavidMartin24
    @DavidMartin24 Жыл бұрын

    You guys are so beautiful and adorable together! When God brings a man and woman together it’s just such a wonderful thing to see.

  • @sithembisombatha1713
    @sithembisombatha1713 Жыл бұрын

    Big ups to this couple for speaking up about these challenges. I pray they remain strong and they allow the word of God guide them in their marriage

  • @nduduzodlaldla4592
    @nduduzodlaldla4592 Жыл бұрын

    If you put Christ first ,he will make a way for and you will be victors. You guys a re blessed with wisdom and love no one cant take it away from you. Love you guys ,may the lord continue strengthening you.💪💪💪💪

  • @weymouthesterhuizen1145
    @weymouthesterhuizen1145 Жыл бұрын

    Loved. Learned. God bless yous. Keep on shining. God bless.

  • @sophiequick3895
    @sophiequick3895 Жыл бұрын

    This has really opened my eyes, growing up in the Uk where it is completely normal to see couples from many different cultures I am shocked by the difficulty’s you have both faced . But this is by far the most beautiful story I have ever heard ❤❤ so much wisdom in your hearts , I hope you have the best future together

  • @marthasheilds2446

    @marthasheilds2446

    Жыл бұрын

    Uk is very segregated and divided right now not everyone is mixing many are against it in the UK people prefer thier own kind.

  • @Samuelajetomobi50
    @Samuelajetomobi50 Жыл бұрын

    I am from Nigeria. I love you both. this is what you call real and true love. You are both looking nice, beautiful and very intellegent. May God Almighty continue to guide, protect, provide and bless you and your children. Believe me things are going to get easier as time goes on in the name of the most high.

  • @martinpugh1008
    @martinpugh1008 Жыл бұрын

    There's absolutely nothing wrong with this at all it's what's in a person's heart not the colour of their skin love is a very beautiful thing immaterial of colour or religion😍♥️😍

  • @brucepower3429

    @brucepower3429

    Жыл бұрын

    Color of the skin will always count.

  • @martinpugh1008

    @martinpugh1008

    Жыл бұрын

    @@brucepower3429 The colour of a person's skin or race does not matter count or come into it if two people genuinely have feelings for and love each other and want to be together we are all human and cannot help who we fall in love with 😍❤️😍

  • @seiketsomogale6201
    @seiketsomogale6201 Жыл бұрын

    Year after year we ask for new part, it will really motivate up & coming interracial couples

  • @yunusjanuary9376
    @yunusjanuary9376 Жыл бұрын

    Wow, found this discussion incredibly insightful. I'd dare to say that this microcosm of South Africa as a society and the challenges we continue to struggle with when it comes to reconciliation and integration. We still have a long way to go in terms of addressing racial inequality not only from an economic perspective, but from a psychological perspective too. Religion and faith is very important to both Nhlanhla and Marne and appears to be the key ingredient to keeping things in place. Glad they're able to find commonality and use it to their advantage. All the best with the channel, this is really good content and something we definitely need to have more of in SA today.

  • @habitusproject

    @habitusproject

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your astute comment. We appreciate the positive feedback!

  • @andrepotgieter7083
    @andrepotgieter7083 Жыл бұрын

    What an awesome couple, I watched it till the end and they both warmed my heart!

  • @seiketsomogale6201
    @seiketsomogale6201 Жыл бұрын

    I can't really stop watching or listening to you guys because I love interracial or mixed races, I don't know why

  • @be-unique2325

    @be-unique2325

    Жыл бұрын

    You're like me

  • @Mo-yd8xc

    @Mo-yd8xc

    Жыл бұрын

    Would you marry an African foreign national?

  • @martinpugh1008

    @martinpugh1008

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Mo-yd8xc yes of course I would if she was the right girl and I loved her country colour race religion does not come into it with me love and happiness does greetings and love from South Wales UK 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿♥️😍♥️

  • @iancampdell8892
    @iancampdell8892 Жыл бұрын

    They were ment to be together ❤️ God is love ❤️ my blessings n love to both of you ❤️ n long live sweethearts 💞❤💞❤

  • @joronobs5004
    @joronobs5004 Жыл бұрын

    There's hope for humanity. Love never fails🙏🏽

  • @ManuS-rm7jk

    @ManuS-rm7jk

    11 ай бұрын

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @shahirhaffajee3524
    @shahirhaffajee3524 Жыл бұрын

    A grateful thank you to this couple. They have shared many personal issues that I always wondered about concerning mixed race marriage. Any marriage requires sacrifices. I absolutely admire this couples bravery & more importantly the respect shown to each others families. As a fellow South African, I've found this video extremely educational & beneficial. You guys should be extremely proud of the sacrifices you've made in order to follow true love. More similiar videos are required in R.S.A. Thanking you again.

  • @cl1164
    @cl1164 Жыл бұрын

    I'm glad you guys chose to speak about this topic. It's quite sensitive and we need to speak about it. Thank you

  • @jamesbedukodjograham5508

    @jamesbedukodjograham5508

    Жыл бұрын

    It is a sensitive topic especially within the African Continent and Movement.

  • @fmbida
    @fmbida Жыл бұрын

    Wow!! this now makes me understand the black South-Aftican psyche. In the rest of Africa, we don't feel that way: when I get a woman, no matter her colour, I still feel like a man. Heck, I've been in China, where I was the only black man in a village and I still felt like a man (so is it with many other Africans I've met there). South Africa needs to heal.

  • @HoodsGlobal
    @HoodsGlobal Жыл бұрын

    The history of South Africa makes interracial marriage more challenging. European ladies intermarried in other African countries are unlikely to see their husband struggle with self esteem issues.

  • @fightback397

    @fightback397

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes , i believe that is true .

  • @jgf4255

    @jgf4255

    Жыл бұрын

    There is still racial stigma in South Africa because of the history of that country.

  • @jamesbedukodjograham5508

    @jamesbedukodjograham5508

    Жыл бұрын

    It depends the stigma also is an issue in Ghana somewhat.

  • @NarnianLady

    @NarnianLady

    Жыл бұрын

    Sadly, it often goes the other way.. Many well-meaning European women who married African men, ended up rejected and disrespected by his family ... even financially exploited, finally tossed aside, while he got himself 'the real wife' from his own tribe... very different from what we are seeing here.

  • @jamesbedukodjograham5508

    @jamesbedukodjograham5508

    Жыл бұрын

    @@NarnianLady You have said it quite well and right.

  • @mohammedsaeed4554
    @mohammedsaeed4554 Жыл бұрын

    This is such a thoughtful , fruitful conversation, May God this wonderful couple , God bless you for your boldness.

  • @rubyhenderson1393
    @rubyhenderson13936 ай бұрын

    I know they are a interracial couple(husband and wife) I am witnessing to people regardless of race love one another he is more reserved she is more vocal she is very active in what she believes but she respects him totally he as alot of men not only black are more background than up in the front this comes from what has been taught and what has been seen two different things in their lives so even with my husband it is a constant inner struggle to get in their right place the head of their family his wife compliments him so well she is so genuine as women we have to realize we are the helpers to our husbands we do not dominate them at all I see so many women out of order so much and they wonder why their marriages end But I am admiring these two they are so right now TOGETHER!!! Beautiful she could be an advocate for interracial marriages I am glad he has a beautiful and loving wife like her in his life and I hope he always respects her and also encourages her as well,you can see she encourages him above and beyond🎉 be well

  • @honourableprince4203
    @honourableprince4203 Жыл бұрын

    More blessings to you guys. There's a lot of love getting lost in the way because of how races view each other. It is hard to love someone and knowing you'll never be enough because of the color of your skin.

  • @ntakirutimanavalens4412
    @ntakirutimanavalens4412 Жыл бұрын

    I love seeing how this man keeps on proctecting his wife saying what could turn into a damage to their family ( of course out in public), We call it wisdom and protection! that;s the role of a man in the family! Kudos to him. This wife also look very understanding ! i like it very much

  • @everlyuk9942
    @everlyuk9942 Жыл бұрын

    You are an inspiration. An Encouragement in faith. 'God actually will answer your prayer', as Marne says

  • @Bonniebontleng
    @Bonniebontleng21 күн бұрын

    Ke a lerata guys. I watch this so many times. I don't see race but love. I learn what marriage is as wedding is just an event. Mostly, I see God in this marriage. May God bless you and may He keep you till you are grannies so the generation to come will learn from you.

  • @kofiboateng1241
    @kofiboateng1241 Жыл бұрын

    Wow love is truly blind. I'm extremely humbled listening to this beautiful couples journey. May the lord continue to strengthen their support & love for each other. Great story!!

  • @sudonyl9945
    @sudonyl9945 Жыл бұрын

    I can so emphathise with the 2 of you. I met my husband 30 yrs ago and we are married for 28 yrs, we have a beautiful adult son. We come from totally different cultutes and religious backgrounds from different countries, I'm fair skin and he dark skin but respect, understanding and a give and take which is the composition of love, will conquer all. Just stay strong. Challenges is part and parcel of life but I can see that your faith will get you through it. Sterkte vorentoe ♥️

  • @martinpugh1008

    @martinpugh1008

    Жыл бұрын

    What a lovely message absolutely beautiful amen to everything you have said good luck greetings from South Wales UK, 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿♥️😍♥️

  • @sudonyl9945

    @sudonyl9945

    Жыл бұрын

    @@martinpugh1008 ♥️🙏

  • @Samuelajetomobi50
    @Samuelajetomobi50 Жыл бұрын

    Brother, I'm so happy to see your beautiful wife and your two adorable children. This is how God works. It is GOD that put you two together. May he continue to provide, bless and guide you. AMEN!!!.

  • @Aries4uu
    @Aries4uu Жыл бұрын

    It’s eye opening to hear. I am a lucky dude, here in Washington state interracial marriage is common and biracial kids are even more than blacks in number.

  • @sol.leseyaneleseyane5008
    @sol.leseyaneleseyane5008 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks you guys for sharing.This is a true love story,is bringing us all together back and white in our rainbow nation.With God in your side the Devil is defeated,you will overcome no one will stop this beautiful marriage.God bless you and kids

  • @rosahacketts1668

    @rosahacketts1668

    Жыл бұрын

    She isn't white.

  • @ramonateelsiethoabala653

    @ramonateelsiethoabala653

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen and Amen

  • @lonitenten
    @lonitenten Жыл бұрын

    SA. Slowly but surely. We are on our good way. There are good things coming. Good days are coming. Greetings from Germany. GOOD LUCK .❤ Omnia vincit Amour. Love Concor everything

  • @wattsman2
    @wattsman2 Жыл бұрын

    Love you guys think about moving to Canada . As a black man who has dated out of my race i can tell you you will not get half the pain you are getting there. God bless

  • @johnpaulfaith7266
    @johnpaulfaith7266 Жыл бұрын

    I am glad the revolving around racial discrimination in marriage is growing everyday. lovely couple

  • @ThandoNdlela
    @ThandoNdlela Жыл бұрын

    Nhlanhla’s mum sounds like a beautiful kind lady

  • @mutendemusonda336
    @mutendemusonda336 Жыл бұрын

    This is inspiring! Thank you for sharing your experiences.

  • @getchtefera7928
    @getchtefera7928 Жыл бұрын

    What a beauty woman of God that you married what gave you.God bless you. He is humble man that he loves God . Let God bless you more.

  • @andreainpa5739
    @andreainpa5739 Жыл бұрын

    This was such a thoughtful, sensitive conversation t witness. Thank you to this couple for sharing their experience so far. My very best wishes to you both and to your respective families as you continue to navigate your ways forward in life and in your spiritual journey.

  • @patrickroode8678
    @patrickroode8678 Жыл бұрын

    I just want to say keep the faith guys. I'm coloured and so is my wife, and there are times when I have to make a point of letting her know that I'm the head of the house because I'm carrying most of the responsibilities. We resontly had a thing about her father who wanted to say in my house. Sometimes she makes me feel like I'm the help. If she was white I would have blamed her better-than attitude on her race, when it was just a bad attitude. Secondly, her family gets more of our time. Seeing her parents almost every day. Think Megan Trainer and the bible called it. I'm cheering for you and your beautiful family.

  • @aswinosumopawiro771
    @aswinosumopawiro771 Жыл бұрын

    My grandparents from my mother are a couple of different races and different religions. They got married in the midst of environmental conditions during which Indonesia was colonized by the Dutch. My grandfather is Indonesian-Arabic-Muslim & my grandmother is Dutch-Catholic. Their marriage resulted in my grandfather being given the sanction of being buried alive by his family. but fortunately my grandfather managed to save himself and moved to another city with my grandmother. Their marriage produced 5 children. My mother is the 5th child. Early journey Their family's life was faced with a tough challenge because at that time Japan colonized Indonesia, & Grandparents' families were forced to work as slaves by the Japanese invaders without being paid. After Indonesia became independent. the existence of their relationship as husband and wife is still considered strange by the Indonesian people, my grandfather is considered a traitor for marrying a colonial nation. My grandmother was seen as a fool for marrying a slave nation. But they managed to keep their love until the end of their life. & the descendants of their extended family can live in harmony, whatever the differences

  • @platophilosopher1293

    @platophilosopher1293

    Жыл бұрын

    Inspiring story. It shows that love knows no boundaries nor limitations.

  • @jamesbedukodjograham5508

    @jamesbedukodjograham5508

    Жыл бұрын

    I love your background simply interesting.

  • @ashton1952

    @ashton1952

    Жыл бұрын

    Amazing story, thank you for sharing

  • @romeooscar2923
    @romeooscar2923 Жыл бұрын

    He is very sensitive with the culture and family topics. I understand where he is coming from. However, learn to let your wife speak her mind even if it will embarrass you or cause friction with your family, friends or unsettle your societal norms. I’m an African married to a white lady and I use to be scared whenever my wife speaks her mind among my people then I realized I needed to grow and let her be. How other people hear her is not for you to determine. She is an soul and very aware of the enormity of the situation. Sit back and let her be and you’ll be as well. It’s okay the universe has way to teach others.

  • @errolmotau927
    @errolmotau927 Жыл бұрын

    The key thing is to ensure that you don't let prejudices from any angle creep into your personal spaces.

  • @marthasheilds2446

    @marthasheilds2446

    Жыл бұрын

    Everyone like it or not has racism and prejudice it's a human trait .

  • @africangodman6145

    @africangodman6145

    Жыл бұрын

    @@marthasheilds2446 Exactly, that's why there will never be peace because of the attitude of some humans.

  • @marthasheilds2446

    @marthasheilds2446

    Жыл бұрын

    @@africangodman6145 People prefer to live amongst their own kind and be around people who look like them and share same interests its normal , most people don't want to mix or integrate both young and older generations.

  • @africangodman6145

    @africangodman6145

    Жыл бұрын

    @@marthasheilds2446 I agree 💯% it's less complicated too. I have my preference to stick to my own kind. I love me some Chocolate lol.

  • @DrUmarJohnson1

    @DrUmarJohnson1

    Жыл бұрын

    @@marthasheilds2446 And I'm here to reinforce that human trait! Africans belong with Africans. Africans marrying non-Africans MUST be banned inside ALL African nations!

  • @mmaphuthisephesu7108
    @mmaphuthisephesu71082 ай бұрын

    Marriage is a hard hard gig. Im happy u pulling the strings in a positive way!

  • @mrpbrown3383
    @mrpbrown3383 Жыл бұрын

    Well done both of you! Long may you continue to grow together. God Bless you!

  • @Bonniebontleng
    @Bonniebontleng Жыл бұрын

    I love you guys.... You inspired me to go for what I want, what is immersed deep in me. God bless you...

  • @banekanikak5894
    @banekanikak5894 Жыл бұрын

    I see the joy (not happiness) Joy! but also the pain and I get both their views, i have two suggestions for them if i may 1, its a false narrative that in marriage its two families coming together this misconception is actually a big problem in marriages and society at large. its actually 3 families that are separate families and have to coexist. my fam, my wifes fam and MY FAM. this families are 3 dif families and they have to operate parallel. you cant get either fam too involved cause the lines become blurred, and humans have this capacity and habit of holding something against you, if i tell my fam about an issue or problem about my wife they might give an honest opinion or suggestion but they might hold it against her in the future with out an intention at times, its even better to discuss this with total strangers or someone that doesn't even know your wife. the respect that they give your partner is based mostly on what you tell them (and they wont forget it) and how u treat her, they will treat her the same way, so i really believe in 3 families not two families coming together, that's why the bible says a man shall leave his mother and father... not leave to stay, u must literally leave and start your own fam and start your own way of life. 2, please please please remove the idea of race in your family and lives in general, there is no such thing as a black or white person, they just simply do not exist, this is an IDEA created by a play writer in the 1600 where in the play an African king called a European commoner a white man, (remember this was just a play) and the idea of identifying race was born. what is interesting is that this idea is fairly new, i know the play was written in 1600 but that's recent history. in ancient history there's no where in reference to literature where ppl are referred to as white or black. not in the Bible, not in the Quran, not in the first books in the world from china and india now where does it refer to anyone by colour. in the bible they always referred someone by where they are from not by race, black is a colour not a person, white is a colour not a race. someone sold us an idea and we ALL bought it' and it has caused so much pain in t he world and we still feed it to this day. but i like that you have a championship mentality , God bless

  • @normg8503
    @normg8503 Жыл бұрын

    You guys are such a very beautiful couple. Yes people can be so cruel. You guys were meant for each other!!! Stay strong guys! We are with you!

  • @Beneth91
    @Beneth918 ай бұрын

    Your love is just beautiful to see. This lady is so beautiful yet so humble. How were raised to think of whites honestly is not encouraging but thank you guys for sacrificially sharing your love life to bring about positivity. With your story my mind has been transformed. God bless you.

  • @kateseverein7650
    @kateseverein7650 Жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful sincere interview, thnku so much + bless you both + yr beautiful family

  • @georgechimuzinga4529
    @georgechimuzinga4529 Жыл бұрын

    I am so happy for you guys because I can see that you love each other which is very important in marriage. Marriage is not easy regardless of whether it is a multiracial marriage or not never allow a third party in your marriage, if you do the marriage won't survive. May the grace of God be upon you and your children.

  • @lonitenten
    @lonitenten Жыл бұрын

    Ek jou van jou man. Groetjies an almal tuis. Baie gelukkeg mooi familie, mooi kinder. Groetjie van Duitsland.❤

  • @sakariamwiiyale7375
    @sakariamwiiyale7375 Жыл бұрын

    I'm learning so much from you guys. Thank you for sharing your story ❤.

  • @veragietzmann6087
    @veragietzmann6087 Жыл бұрын

    Your story is amazing. Love conquers all things. God is love and where love is, He is there. He has and will carry you, no problem to big that He cannot solve. I pray that God will go before you and remove all the hindrances and obstacles that stop God's plan and purpose for your lives. It won't be easy at times, but you can by the power given to you by God and have already paved the way for future generations. May God bless you as you journey together, showing the world that love has no colour.

  • @lorenzoolton
    @lorenzoolton Жыл бұрын

    Well done guys... really appreciated this... I pray that u grow together from strength to strength as a loving family together..... in Jesus Name.... keep the faith all things are possible.... 🙌🙌🙏

  • @noneofyodamnbidness6373
    @noneofyodamnbidness6373 Жыл бұрын

    You guys are beautiful! Your story is amazing and I wish you and your children peace and blessings always!

  • @ManuS-rm7jk

    @ManuS-rm7jk

    11 ай бұрын

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @sheenaamoako1811
    @sheenaamoako1811 Жыл бұрын

    Love you so much guys, I thank God for your relationship and telling you true side of your story and I believe it will open many people's minds and have a great impact to this generation. Be strong and put your trust in the Lord, you are surely going to accomplish God's purpose. Forward ever and backwards never. All the glory belongs to our God . ❤

  • @jamesbedukodjograham5508

    @jamesbedukodjograham5508

    Жыл бұрын

    It takes bravery to be in a mixed Relationshiop especially Black and white, People fantasised about how their love and the sex will be like you know. May God guide this couple because in a Racial South Africa they will face loads of stare and commentaries.

  • @holocaustremembranceassociati
    @holocaustremembranceassociati Жыл бұрын

    You are both wonderful people, a gift to us

  • @jeffreygriffith6403
    @jeffreygriffith6403 Жыл бұрын

    She's such a strong amazing woman , he has picked a winner there .

  • @denispulle9025

    @denispulle9025

    Жыл бұрын

    He didn't pick her, Someone above sent her to him

  • @ashton1952

    @ashton1952

    Жыл бұрын

    She picked him, a gentleman, so kind and wise. Amazing people. Like hearts come together.

  • @roger8654
    @roger8654 Жыл бұрын

    I'm Colombian and I'm talking to a Russian woman. Good luck with your relationship

  • @siletamus2016
    @siletamus2016 Жыл бұрын

    I loved the honesty of their answers

  • @ledosecur
    @ledosecur Жыл бұрын

    That's what love is! Well done couple! God Bless you!

  • @greggovender3825

    @greggovender3825

    Жыл бұрын

    Awesome, many blessings to you. Myself and my wife are married 10 years this month, and all glory to our Jesus.

  • @ManuS-rm7jk

    @ManuS-rm7jk

    11 ай бұрын

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @Dlaba1973
    @Dlaba1973 Жыл бұрын

    Wonderful, brilliant couple. All the best and God bless.💝💙💜

  • @segamogotlha5290
    @segamogotlha5290 Жыл бұрын

    MR. AND MRS. HLONGWANE!!I APPRECIATE THE SHARING OF HOW YOU MET AND YOUR MARRIAGE JOURNEY. NHLANHLA; YOU'VE FOUND YOURSELF A GOOD WIFE AND SHE'S SO SWEET WHEN ADDRESSING YOUR CHILDREN... IT WAS WORTH WATCHING AND IT'S EDUCATIONAL AS WELL!!! THANK YOU ALL. I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST IN YOUR FAMILY LIFE!!!! //WARM REGARDS FROM SWEDEN

  • @gailallwn8400
    @gailallwn8400 Жыл бұрын

    You owe no one on this earth an explanation for your choice or your intention. You act on YOUR values, choices and decisions. Nobody out there makes those rules EXCEPT the GOOD MAN ABOVE and YOU act on his guidance. We are all HIS people and everyone unique so live a happy life with AN ABUNDANCE of BLESSINGS. Social media can be a toxic den of very angry unhappy ungrateful ungodly souls. I was Blessed with precious values such as....... IF YOU DO NOT HAVE A KIND WORD TO SAY THEN KEEP QUIET. NEVER LET THERE BE THE NEED TO HAVE TO GO BACK AND APOLOGIZE. thank you for sharing your story but do remember... You deserve YOUR happiness. Lovely couple lovely video🙏💝💐💕🌈

  • @legacyhrm
    @legacyhrmАй бұрын

    It's the balance for me, true love, faith and commitment both ways. A beautiful couple who are respectful of each other. May God bless your marriage, from Jamaica!

  • @mpumikambule455
    @mpumikambule455 Жыл бұрын

    Dear God Loving couples After my morning prayer ,i came across your video (since every Thursday i pray for families).I was in tears listening to your story.Nhlanhla you are the head in your Family, love your wife as Christ love the church..Morne submit but not be inferior. You spoke of your leaders not approving your relationship and you had to choose Ministry or her, that leader need deliverence. Stay away from families that create tensions around you.(its a suggestion) For your children sake.You have better things to worry about with your wife, than backwards people who need to repent and be delivered , I am praying for God's wisdom over your life,i will make it a mission to pray for you every Thursday. Remember coulor is just a shares,but we created in His Image, Love you guys.Christ Favored woman

  • @Samuelajetomobi50

    @Samuelajetomobi50

    Жыл бұрын

    See how God works. There's nothing impossible for God to do. He always works in a very miraculous way. All you need to do is to allow him to come into your life and he will do wanders. You guys are a great example for the world to see.

  • @ashton1952

    @ashton1952

    Жыл бұрын

    ❤️🙏

  • @1ntuthukozwane
    @1ntuthukozwane Жыл бұрын

    I also understand about inferiority. The Afrikaans community is very difficult to live within as a black person. They are stuck in their ways and a lot believe blacks are inferior. So, when you have to come into every room and be seen by even the one who finds you most dear the same way, gets tiring. I puffed my chest up and I became a larger and "louder" in presence version of myself who rolled with the punches. And, it is very difficult to keep it up. Some people like you and some don't.

  • @madamerose9473
    @madamerose9473 Жыл бұрын

    I want to see more of this!! Plus I want to see and hear more of this couple!!!

  • @kateregadennis5767
    @kateregadennis5767 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks guys, I enjoyed your conversation

  • @lagschooladoptionllc
    @lagschooladoptionllc Жыл бұрын

    Greetings to you and your lovely family. I love the way you address your life of partnership. The divine connections. Overcoming the racial hurdles. Working through the economic process. Even while being yourselves. Although I am an older person, I would like to interact with you for various reasons to which it is prudent for me not to divulge at this time. . I want to visit Africa soon and who knows we could have dinner or breakfast or lunch for all I care. God bless you and enriched your lives together. Please stay in touch.

  • @lillipad3503
    @lillipad35032 ай бұрын

    I think this was very "healing" for this couple. That was a mountain load. I am married to an German gent, and as a "coloured" person I never felt inferior -probably cause he comes from a total different background. As a SA born I totally can identify with this amazing couple. Stay blessed and hey you are a amazing family.

  • @raychibvongodze5283
    @raychibvongodze5283 Жыл бұрын

    So beautiful ,may God grant you the blessing of a happy long lasting union

  • @linatladi3518
    @linatladi3518 Жыл бұрын

    Just subscribed to your channel, in awe of you guys.

  • @KonjoVibes-UGlife
    @KonjoVibes-UGlife Жыл бұрын

    This couple is awesome! The woman is white but black at heart. She's such an amazing person from what I have heard. May God go before you and bless you both.

  • @harleyedw1
    @harleyedw1 Жыл бұрын

    Wonderful story. Love is blind. Bless you both.

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