"I don't hate people...I just feel better when they aren't around." - Charles Bukowski

@friendoftellus5741

7 ай бұрын

As if i should have said it myself ! 😊

@churchofpos2279

6 ай бұрын

💯 have always been a lone wolf and love it. I now live up in the mountains in a very rural area. My closest neighbors are cows. I don't get lonely. I love to read, do my hobbies, work in my garden, or go for hikes. I can go for days without seeing another human. It's paradise and wouldn't want it any other way.

@dark_nightwing_xl2797

4 ай бұрын

@@churchofpos2279lets gooo

@walterkersting9922

3 ай бұрын

Being locked in a room with other people and the you realize you’re in hell, you mean work?

@EC-yd9yv

3 ай бұрын

I'm def a part of that club 😂

“If you don't have many friends, that means you have a lot of life experience.” - Søren Kierkegaard

@abandonedstraya5264

7 ай бұрын

Wow than I am 70 years old in life experience but physically I am 27

@danacoleman4007

7 ай бұрын

Or you're a jerk. Or you're all done moving.

@freeman37

7 ай бұрын

💯🐺

@proprietarycurez8463

7 ай бұрын

@@danacoleman4007 You're so memorable.

@Leispada

7 ай бұрын

This quote seems 90% cope, 10% insight

I never tried to be alone, it is just something that has always been there.

@johnjennings9693

4 ай бұрын

I know what you mean exactly,

@filipepedro8272

4 ай бұрын

100%

@darkstarmatter5678

4 ай бұрын

yep

@H3XED_OwO

3 ай бұрын

so true!😭

@whyYUbee

3 ай бұрын

Yes. I can relate. However, somehow I have always loved it.

What drove me into depression was not being able to understand why I ended up alone. What drove me out was recognizing that I needed to be alone in order to thrive and embracing the life of solitude whole heartedly.

@Garnog404

3 ай бұрын

Being alone isn't for everyone, but for some of us it's bliss. Learning to enjoy your own company is a lesson too many people in toxic tragic relationships sadly never learn. Happiness comes in many forms. Good luck.

@Cookie-Yeah197

2 ай бұрын

Funny you say that as I too fell into depression for not understanding why I ended up so alone especially when my younger years were so vibrant with people . Just don't get what happened as I'm a good guy and have a lot to offer.

@johnjohnson5930

Ай бұрын

Well said man. I had the same experience.

Being a loner is the easy part. The hard part is convincing my family members that I'm not depressed, i just like being alone.

@Bodyknowledge77

7 ай бұрын

You're fortunate that they ( your family) care about your welfare in this regard even though it is annoying.

@m11hsilva

7 ай бұрын

​@Bodyknowledge77 true!! But I pushed myself so much for the sake of others, and I have developed agoraphobia.

@manhattanvi

7 ай бұрын

Only ppl with friends say its easy, most peoples definition of loner is "i havent talked to my friends in 2 weeks" or "i only have 2 friends"

@williamwhalen746

7 ай бұрын

Here is a problem only encountered by true lone wolves. I have difficulties scheduling medical appointments involving anesthesia. Hospitals require you have a driver sit in the waiting room. My neighbor can take the time to drive me but she camp-out due to an invalid husband. I am disabled veteran so I get free transportation, but they also can't sit in the office. Doctors refuse to schedule appointments of this nature due to this problem. I have done my regular colonoscopies (lost large colon due to cancer) without anesthesia. Being a lone wolf has real implications for my life.@@manhattanvi

@the_notorious_bas

7 ай бұрын

You don't have to explain yourself to them.

Being a loner is much more peaceful but I've found that it's important to have shared experiences with people who care about you. The problem is, you can't rely on people to be consistent throughout your life. Most of your relationships will change, people will leave or you might leave them which can bring a lot of pain.

@FeefailsGetDecapitated

7 ай бұрын

Pain. Nothing but pain😢

@ashthomas1482

7 ай бұрын

Pain in the arse free is the way ,to be

@CloudBaby222

7 ай бұрын

This is a perfectly balanced perspective

@HongKonger2022

7 ай бұрын

I found that very hard to do. I guess that’s why I became a loner in the first place, the idea that people leave regardless. And since then all I ever long for is that consistency of people sticking around, but that never happens as for it seems for majority of others that can maintain such relationships, just not for me, that makes it even more difficult and more lonely for me, I’m living a conflicting life of wanting to have people around me but never initiate any conversation or try to reach out…. Sometimes I doubt it’s just my coping mechanism, not how I want to be😢

@call_in_sick

7 ай бұрын

Pain and then acceptance. Life is constantly changing.

Childhood plays a huge part in the LW mentality in adults, I feel: if you've been neglected, rejected or abandoned by people in your early life there's only so many times your heart can put up with it, then it shuts down and you resign yourself to the LW life and deal with it as best you can. Yes, it's not ideal - most people ache to be loved and part of a 'group' whether that's friends/co-workers/family/relationship - but Life is what you make of the cards dealt to you and if that means being alone is the road you must walk, walk it with dignity and no shame.

@AwakenedAvocado

5 ай бұрын

Felt that, its exactly what happened to me.

@RareAries323

2 ай бұрын

Lovely comment 👍🏽

@gerhardfertl6716

2 ай бұрын

Same here, it seams, that my whole life was meant to be this way.

@alelectric2767

Ай бұрын

Exactly!

@deoxysandmew2162

Ай бұрын

This!!! I was a shy kid that was up for having friends. I welcomed everyone. Problem, i was bullied instead. Completely rejected from any type of friends, except one or two that backstabbed me instead. Thats where ive developed my sense of keeping distance and distaste towards people.

by missing out on the bad, you also miss out on the good. we are an inherently social species, we just need to find the right pack to be with.

I can't begin to tell you how grateful I am for finding your channel... you're helping and I thank you

@calogerovasi5528

7 ай бұрын

At times I'm a lone wolf in the middle of the best company. It's not a negative thing at all but I'm starting to understand that being a lone wolf is a necessity

@alanscaria3514

7 ай бұрын

Truly, this channel has been a light in the shadows for me too!

@nandmelchor5376

7 ай бұрын

same here

@user-om7pt6te7z

7 ай бұрын

I cannot tell you how much comments like yours make me not want to align with the type of thinkers and fawners who watched this video. The likes say it all. This group is clearly for children.

@DexterMorgan-sd4jx

7 ай бұрын

I find a little bit of contradiction in this video. How is it possible that einzelganger mentions Jean Paul Sartre as an example of how to be authentic and a free thinker, when Sartre and his partner (Simone de Beauvoir) were admirers of Fidel Castro, Che Guevara, Marxism etc, idiologies that are against free thinking, idiologies that promote the herd mentality. I think Jean Paul Sartre was an hipócrita

Being alone is a power that only a few have mastered. I'm not lonely, I find being alone to be enriching.

@mila7809

7 ай бұрын

Thank you😊

@iulia1690

7 ай бұрын

Your bateries get charged. Nobody really wants to be Alone, îs just these ignorant/kids like people are hard to endure.

@WetbackNoSetback

7 ай бұрын

Sometimes im lonely but i rather be alone than in bad company

@XeL__

7 ай бұрын

same, when you are your own best friend you can empower so many aspect of your life. you are your own student and teacher, and you dont wnat to lie or backstab yorself. negative autodestructive people dislike being alone or unaware that its disadvantageous to be alone : with their negative destructive auto suggestion

@unknownwatcher2586

7 ай бұрын

how bro pls tell me i feel like im missing out on so much things man

I'm a lone wolf with employment. I've been in too many bullying and toxic environments. I had so many painful and debilitating experiences they've actually given me ptsd. I'm picking up the pieces and healing, trying to figure out my next step, and knowing I have to face my fears but sometimes I feel frozen. I am reading books on joy, on boundaries, on communication.

@Naheenmather

4 ай бұрын

I’m going to take a guess. Medical field? Those are my words and I was a nurse. Godspeed

@muzerhythm2242

4 ай бұрын

I felt being in an office with the gossip and games and being forced to choose a side was exhausting. What I learned is that I thrive working independently, so I assessed my knowledge, skills , and experience and found a way to freelance. My example: I worked in social work in mental health and did the same in nursing facilities....also providing activities for residents. How I now do freelance....used my education of psychology, skills and experience from working in mental health and in nursing facilities...now I freelance to various nursing facilities doing crafts, games, and drumming. I set my schedule with a number of places. And with this economy, if a facility not able to budget and ends the program, it's not my ONLY income, I have other facilities I do the program to bring in income. Hope this helps getting ideas going.😊

@lisal311

4 ай бұрын

I'm a nurse too. I'm trying to decide whether to apply for another job or retire early. I am also the only empath in a narcissistic and abusive toxic family. I am completely estranged from them as I am the family Scapegoat. Life is hard standing alone in a cruel, cold world. But there is also an overall feeling of peace and freedom no longer being subjected to fake and deceptive people. @@Naheenmather

@catharinepizzarello4784

3 ай бұрын

Oh yeah. I have my own business. There was a lot of uncertainty. I had to suck it up, working for some real pieces of work for a long while. But as I always did my best job, it got better and better over the years. I like my job and the people I work for. I'm applying this to the rest of my life now. To personal relationships and even small encounters. It's making a real difference. I have choices. It was very hard and scary at first, but a billion times worth it.

@chrisdraughn5941

3 ай бұрын

I was military, never in combat, but worked in so many toxic work environments over my 24 year career. I’m sure that influenced my worldview and mental health significantly, but I wouldn’t call it PTSD. Not sure, what I’d call it.

If the lone wolf is only supposed to be a temporary state if existence, I'll still rebel against it. I'd rather die in the wilderness than ever come back. To be forced into an artificial position in society is this sort of living death that creates the desire to leave this plane of existence sooner rather than later.

@sandi5276

20 күн бұрын

WORD

As from my experience, being alone might be boring sometimes but it is MUCH better than being among toxic people. I still love being among people but it must be the right crowd. Being in the wrong crowd (toxic people, people who's values are not matching your own, etc) is really a hell.

@allseeingotto2912

7 ай бұрын

Absolutely

@kshay1394

6 ай бұрын

Agreed, so much effort and wasted energy.

@zeedo666

6 ай бұрын

I am never bored

@angelinasimon3513

6 ай бұрын

Me too, I enjoy my own company but being always alone isn't very productive. As Oprah Winfrey says: "No one goes on top alone" and I agree.@@zeedo666

@tylerdurden3722

6 ай бұрын

Boredom, on a biological level, is merely dopamine withdrawal symptoms. Dopamine is the hormone, when released into your blood, that you're actually feeling when an experience feels fun. One can only experience dopamine withdrawals (boredom), if one is addicted to dopamine. And one can only become, and remain addicted, if one is constantly exposed to experiences that trigger lots of dopamine...which typically involves interaction with others. Some individuals do not experience much dopamine release when around others, instead the experience is tedious. Not because those people are tedious, but because even charming people you "like" are experienced as tedious. Which prevents a dopamine addiction from forming, and such people not experiencing boredom

Thank you, man. As someone who is constantly in a battle between needing solitude and longing for close relationships I found this video somewhat comforting

@spraitukas

7 ай бұрын

Baby german shepherd is what you need. Or a husky. In a few months you won't even be able to remember that state of mind 💯%

@asmundlvgreen7689

7 ай бұрын

My cat wouldn’t like that :) But yeah, pets are wonderful

@georgehancock2307

7 ай бұрын

Steppenwolf by Hess

@Saber23

7 ай бұрын

It’s pathetic how you people think life works

@orlock5510

7 ай бұрын

​@@Saber23projecting again

Thankyou 🙏 I love how you explain the benefits of solitude, when all around us society gives the message that there is something wrong with us if we are alone

Thank you for this brilliant piece - empty nester in the final healing stage of a long painful journey. Waking up to the art of non-toxic friendship as a desire not a need.

Your video describes me beautifully. I am by nature introverted. I like my socialization in small doses because I find that I don’t often meet the expectations of others. I process slowly and so can’t keep up at times. I am 74 and have spent quite a lot of time in the company of others. I have yet to find a place where I feel like I belong or people that I feel are “my people “. I do not have any family connections so I spend most of my time alone rather than putting on a persona that isn’t me. I am alone but not lonely. I understand what you mean about the coldness of being alone. I feel it too. Even though I have made great effort I have yet to find that warmth, companionship and sense of community that you speak of although I have witnessed it in very many others. My consolation is that we seldom miss what we have never had.

@sonnychhuon2694

7 ай бұрын

Only in solitude can one discover the depths of nonjudgmental existence. To be pleasantly accepting of one’s self wholeheartedly is a difficult concept to comprehend. Personas help us suppress authenticity while simultaneously integrates us into social acceptance. You’re not alone. ❤

@user-qn6dn1ht4j

Ай бұрын

Thank you for your insight, I am of a similar age with a similar past. I would think that people that share these traits would best understand each other,

To all the lone wolfs watching , welcome to the pack .

@helmutwilhelm8918

7 ай бұрын

Saw what you did there 👍

@brenop111

7 ай бұрын

love

@natashaj9169

7 ай бұрын

❤

@roberthevern6169

7 ай бұрын

Glad to be here! That's not to say that I wasn't aware of where I was until now. I don't need validation from others.

@darkchild130

7 ай бұрын

I feel like you misunderstand the concept at a fundamental level.

This video resonated with the deepest part of my soul and gave me a new meaning and understanding of this phase of my life. Thank you very much!

I never meant to be a lone wolf, but COVID forced it upon me. I was actually a stand up comedian before COVID hit. Now I’m just a person who drinks beer alone every night, and gets anxiety everyday I have to face people.

There's no need to commit to sticking with solitude or socialization. Both are needed, like seasons, like day and night. I like how creative people get that when you are socially quiet, good things are happening. And when you're more out doing stuff, that's fun.

@ecelsozanato5603

7 ай бұрын

Indeed. You're sage

@Dezzyyx

7 ай бұрын

yep, this is basic yin yang, all is good, so it's not either or, it's sun and moon different values both needed, complimenting even

@RotaryPoweredRX

7 ай бұрын

a lot of people have trouble with balance in many aspects of their life, but if you can manage to stay somewhere in the middle you're good

I’m a Lone Wolf 🐺.. I’ve been in “ survival-mode “ and have been w/o friends + family and have battled everything. Tough.. YES. But being alone is also addictive.

@Sheepdog1314

7 ай бұрын

same here.

@lorenzog7811

7 ай бұрын

Me too. Been in survival mode almost since I was born

You make some great points, it’s true, we sometimes seek solitude because we are running away or because it’s important for the human experience, but it’s closer to nature to think of this as a temporary state, meant to renew and redirect the individual with life within communities.

It is better to be alone than to chase people who do not care about you

The ending brought me to tears. Hearing that the lone wolf is actually looking to not be alone spoke so deeply about how I feel currently. The transition phase mentioned really sums up where I feel like I am presently, and how I crave authentic intimacy and connection with my brothers and sisters in this life. I just need to find myself first.

@FeefailsGetDecapitated

7 ай бұрын

You are lovely. I'm here for you ❤

@brenop111

7 ай бұрын

you got it!

@moniequajohnson3094

6 ай бұрын

Wow, what an enlightening statement!

@ogsponge8678

6 ай бұрын

Sometimes you can't understand what you want to feel untill someone or something forces a reaction inside your brain, it's not always something you can learn overtime, it's being in the right headspace, In the right circumstances... only then can you reflect and understand how something made you feel, you'll also understand how you can re-create that feeling from that point onward. Good luck on your journey fellow loner 🫡

@spontaksback

6 ай бұрын

Thank you all for the kind words. Alone we are strong. Together we are stronger. It’s just finding the right Wolfpack!!

I think for most people, the part about solitude that really works is being able to have your own private space. So much of how we live and how society works tries to deny that.

@CFlandre

7 ай бұрын

Underrated comment, I completely agree.

@thomassimmons1306

6 ай бұрын

It’s actually the opposite in a capitalistic, materialist society/economy- alienation. In this type of society it’s rather easy to find solitude and aloneness. Biologically, humans survive and learn through social behaviors and cooperation. It’s evolutionary to our genes. Just like the wolf metaphor this video uses. Wolves are pack animals. The solitude here has to be seeked out, and is against the nature of wolves. I add no negative connotation to seeking out that solitude. Alienation due to capitalism creates many lone wolves forcefully, rather than naturally due to self autonomy.

@demohidu5946

6 ай бұрын

@@thomassimmons1306 except for the fact that the over pressuring of what society wants to make of you is literally trying to take that away in every sense. Capitalism is no different.

I love this video! thank you for making it. I often deliberately put myself in solitude every once in a while, and though there are worse days, I do think that these periods are very important. they make me appreciate myself and what I have, what I'm willing to stand for regardless of majority's opinion and why. after a period being alone, I always come back as a better person/friend, because time away from people makes me appreciate them more (expect less), understand myself more, communicate more clearly.

Nothing helps me reconnect with and understand society better than gaining a better understanding of myself, and I usually gain that through solitary activity, like hiking, camping, etc. Great video, thank you for sharing.

Excellent statement on the lone wolf! At 72 I find my greatest peace while alone. Knowing there are a few good friends and family members available to chat with and share deeper disclosures keeps loneliness and isolation at bay. Many of your readers would likely feel the same.

@Onion_of_Ultimate_Concern

6 ай бұрын

I'm 33 and I have always made solitary reflection a priority. It keeps me from going off the deep end. ✊😐

@australien6611

6 ай бұрын

Having those few close friends and family isnt being a lone wolf, its the opposite

@MarcLowe

5 ай бұрын

Yes. Alone is peace. But it can also be rather depressing on occasion if one's mental state is not strong. It takes a lot of vigilance and courage to always be alone.

I never comment on videos but this was like the re telling of my introspective thoughts on being a solitary person! Thank you extremely for putting my existence in words so eloquently!

@user-xp6sc6su9c

5 ай бұрын

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@graywilliams_77.

5 ай бұрын

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@graywilliams_77.

5 ай бұрын

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@BillHawkins0318

5 ай бұрын

Agree 100% I just didn't have the words

@peekaxu4352

5 ай бұрын

this video doesnt talk about money you are 10000% A SCAM

Bro is describing my life in scandinavia. Im half swedish and thought that i would "fit in" and was very extroverted and almost goofily naive.After 10 years i got burned out, i couldnt stand one more day being around stingy people and not having one friend. After a lot of psychological ups and downs i found peace in solitude. Ive programmed my mind to not even do eye contact if its not necesarry and view the world as a simulation. Doing some yoga nidra, exercuse everyday and got a buddy in the form of a cat. Its beautiful to be alone if youre able to reprogram your brain but sadness will still hit you from times to times

This episode is the most powerful motivation for me as I relate and connect everything which is being said. Living in a place where social expectations are just the opposite of what I believe this channel has helped me a lot. Thank you so much❤ ❤

Minimal human interaction is all I need to satisfy my social craving. Like going out once in while or a chat on the phone.

@j.manuelp.vicens3888

6 ай бұрын

Lucky you.

@ghenulo

6 ай бұрын

Eek! I wouldn't even have a phone if it weren't absolutely necessary in the case of an emergency. Though I do go out nearly every day (except when the weather is too bad), if by "going out", you mean "going outside"; if by "going out", you mean like going to a restaurant or a movie or the like, no thanks (the last movie I went to see was "Skyfall", which I regretted; I should have just waited to rent it, so I could watch it in the comfort and privacy of my own home). That is, I generally bicycle on a daily basis, preferably in places where there's a lot of wilderness and little to no people. The problem with a bicycle is that I have to take it to the bike shop occasionally, but that requires human interaction, so I tend to wait until it's on the verge of breaking down; for example, I went last month when the crank broke and I knew that the pedals would fall off any second (where so many other things had been wrong with it for months, but I didn't want to go to the bike shop).

@kellyrollins8308

6 ай бұрын

@@ghenulo are they friendly at the bike shop atleast?

Through solitude, I learned more about myself compared to what I once knew. I grew as a person mentally and emotionally. Of course, I would not want to experience this ever again and everyone else should not for what ever cause but, I think everyone must go through this period in life. Even if you are a victim or forced by circumstances or your self, being alone is a learning experience, a soul-searching and purpose-finding journey. You are never alone if you are contented with your, self.❤

@miketython1550

7 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@proprietarycurez8463

7 ай бұрын

You're just building off other peoples ideals. I'm sure you're some kind of evil hypocrite. Just sayin. ✌

@sonnychhuon2694

7 ай бұрын

From 1 human who has gone through this and currently still improving day to day. I resonate with your response.

I like your posts. Your honest introspection and the credit you give to your sources, allowing further exploration.

There is a thing about friendship that people who talk about it never mention. Friendship is always talked about in an idealistic, "disneyfied" way but there are many so-called friends that just see a friend as an entertainment gadget. Something that can be replaced with a game or something similar. Nothing to have empathy with or care about just a tool for making background noise. I don't understand those people and they are one of many reasons why I am a lone wolf too.

@johnjennings9693

4 ай бұрын

Exactly,

@where_is_my_slippers

4 ай бұрын

Yes I had a friend like that, if you could call it that. People treat me like I must be needy of friends because I am a loner, and they tend to target me. They don't understand that its a choice because I prefer solitude to mind games. Constant gossiping, drama, and small talk just isn't my vibe. I don't see it as a weakness, but I think they do.

@ItsAllAboutGuitar

4 ай бұрын

I think the smart phone replaced "friends".

@YouTuber-my2ky

3 ай бұрын

Yes, I know someone like that but I also know someone who thought I was like that

Loners are old souls looking to connect with other old souls

@danacoleman4007

7 ай бұрын

That's kind of a nice way to think about it.

@sillyioussodus6373

7 ай бұрын

Or at least recognising on your travels other "old souls" or someone who has walked talked or been in a moment in their unsettled dreams in a place that is familiar but not in a time/era/or placement current to the world you know, these scenes/places are foggy anamorphic and "out of time" with your current state of existence or where you find yourself thrown into, But yes lone creatures definitely find solace/succour and contemplation in places of vast open spaces and long walks, and here in Ireland drizzly rain really helps with isolating yourself, ( in a good way)

@aaruaaru8339

6 ай бұрын

How true this is 😞

@yanzi8543

6 ай бұрын

Oh yes, that's so making sense. I realized this when I stayed in China in 2012. My friends were like some older than me some really young like 16, 18 but I'm quite sure they were old souls.

@embatbr

6 ай бұрын

No. They are just antissocial ppl.

I became a loner after being hurt by a few of the ppl closest to me. I’ve always been reserved but still somewhat social. I took a few years basically pushing everyone else away, I needed time to love myself and find what about life I really enjoyed. I realized I don’t hate ppl, I was surrounding myself with the wrong ppl who would end up hurting me, because I wasn’t always in the best state of mind. Now I’m more social since I’ve improved, better ppl are around me and it makes me appreciate ppl who are close to me. I still spend alot of time alone but as long as you don’t develop bad habits while alone, there’s nothing wrong with that. Just don’t be bitter about the pain and hateful towards other humans. Beautiful video👏🏻

@dizzydino1

7 ай бұрын

Not being bitter, well spoken ❤

@FeefailsGetDecapitated

7 ай бұрын

I love you ❤

@Mmmmmmmmmnmnn

7 ай бұрын

@@FeefailsGetDecapitated ☺️🫶🏻

@perfectlife6016

3 ай бұрын

you dont become lone wolf you either are one or you're not you're a fake

I love being the Lone Wolf . Solitude is the best medicine for me . The words . " its good to have met you now goodbye ." Are medicine to me

I'm a bit of a lone wolf. I once stood in a big crowd of people.... I suddenly realized I have NEVER felt so alone as in that moment. It changed me. I enjoy solitude and clarity. The biggest change in my life is who I am still friends with. I have picked my friends very carefully, and they are few.... but true quality people. A long past "friend" once told me "Happiness can only EVER come from inside YOU!" He was right. The few social interactions I have, are now well chosen. They ADD to my life, not take from it.

“They’re a wolf who elects to be alone temporarily as they try to find a mate and find a place to have a family” Really felt that. Feel like I’ve isolated myself as I’ve been trying to look in the mirror and face my own reflection. Letting go of previous habits and addictions to create the life i desire. A wolf who cant look after himself cant look after his pack.

@nidzaraosmanagicbedenik3808

7 ай бұрын

Me too, same experience! Sometimes we need to bi alone, sometimes we need adequate company. The point is in the balance, i would say.

@vincentgros

6 ай бұрын

felt it too +++

@zeedo666

6 ай бұрын

"taking care of my pack|, to me seems as a way to masturbate my ego. I used to tell myself those words when I couln't make up anything better to give my life a meaning. I dont like it now because it adds a layer of idealisation of people in your life, they might not necessarily want to share the same path as me but I am already making decision for them that they will cause i need them to be important to me so that I am important :D the hero who will "take care" of them

Exactly. The wolf leaves the pack to create his own. That's what we should all strive for - to find our own pack. A place where we belong and a place where we can truly be ourselves. Find people who allow you to be you and who make you better person.

@geekvinos

7 ай бұрын

🎯

@ghenulo

6 ай бұрын

LOL!

@Mango_1359

2 ай бұрын

Lone wolfs don't leave their pack. They get kicked out

@yytyytg

2 ай бұрын

​@@Mango_1359it happens randomly or the group is a "usage type" where how useful you are were the key to stay in the group. That or jealousy.

Embrace the chaos, or embrace solitude... Thank you for this..

Breathtaking. Thank you. Freedom comes with a price. Sometimes almost unbearable hardship. Yet, to learn solitude, to realise the loneliness of all existence: Then one might glimpse the light in this world, their inner light, undisturbed.

I am that lone wolf. This video hit deep. You beautifully explained my solitude experience. I watched it several times in a row and it helped me understand what I have been going through. I live alone, I chose it, I enjoy it. But yet, sometimes the loneliness sinks in painfull, unbearable agony. My solitude can without warning flip on me, cause depression and hopelessness. It's tough getting out of those holes alone. Videoes like yours are a valued company and give understanding. Thank you for you

I’ve been a lone wolf for the last 3 years. Through out my early 20’s I was really social and was in multiple relationships. Every day I was hanging out with friends or girl friend. When I started getting closer to 30, being around people all the time started to get annoying to me. I still have friends and female company one in a while. But being alone is the happiest and most at peace I’ve been in a long time and I love it!

@zeedo666

6 ай бұрын

what I like in it is the freedom from the constant pressure and compulsion to compete with all of them

@EvanCops

4 ай бұрын

​@@zeedo666same

@perfectlife6016

3 ай бұрын

you dont become lone wolf you either are one or you're not you're a fake

Transition at 10:44 gives time for thought, prepares you for the turn in the narrative. A masterpiece. Congratulations, such a peaceful and clear way of clarifying an issue that goes deep into our lives. Thank you

Great video. Seneca said: "We are made for each other." I wholeheartedly agree that solitude and aloneness vs loneliness is a path of healing, not an end unto itself.

In search of connection, I distance myself from an individual or group who devalued, disregarded, belittled, used, abused, manipulated, took me for granted, or alienated me. Attempts to connect precede isolation, lone wolf is not a choice but the only path to endless possibilities. It's a journey, not destiny or fate as others perceive.

We destroy ourselves by seeking other people.

@viso93x

7 ай бұрын

No

It's a period of healing, to restart things with better knowledge of what kind of people to aviod and what kind of people to let in 🤗 Good video! 🙂

Absolutely profound! As a loner myself, I have gone through this very experience. My girlfriend of 15 years left me and I at first enjoyed being alone. After a short period of time I started to feel the need to reconnect. I have since done so, but now find myself seeking the comfort of being alone. I know from my past experience, this is my mind seeking the healing that being alone provides. I guess the question is, why do I need this alone time to heal. Am I destined to never be able to exist in a society indefinitely?

This video resonated with me strongly because I live alone and don't get involved in others lives and yet I have to endure people who constantly talk about me behind my back who seem to not like that I don't conform to their ways of life.

@robvidaic3755

7 ай бұрын

Absolutely relate to to this. People are almost offended if you don’t want to spend time with them

@juangarza7193

7 ай бұрын

😮😮I'm going through the same situation and process it is awkward as fuk unfortunately we as our own pack 🐕🐕🐕must painfully say that we are a small denomination of different species that we are all about in the same place and situation but we don't conform n don't bow down to the point that we have to conform with them 🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕😂😂fuck them your information and what is important to us the lone wolf is a common bond between us we are truly alone together 😔

@sonicleaves

7 ай бұрын

If you don't interact with others, how do people know you exist enough to talk about you behind your back or notice you live life in a way they don't like?

@juangarza7193

7 ай бұрын

Okay 👍♉🇨🇱💭

@brenop111

7 ай бұрын

muhhfuckas be like 🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆

The symmetry of the lone wolf's life and its delicate balance between isolation and introspection is something I deeply resonate with. Your video offers a tableau of solitude that feels both whimsical and profound, much like the world inside a snow globe. It's a singular vision, beautifully executed.

@JaysonT1

7 ай бұрын

Hmmm, I like your snow globe analogy

@sarita79

7 ай бұрын

Beautifully put. Thank you.

Excellent video. Thought provoking and it certainly resonated with me, as did your conclusion. Thank you. I will investigate more of your videos. I loved the simplicity of the animation. Beautifully done. Thanks again.🙂👍

That last part really resonates with me. In my current "lone wolf" life, I have the urge of connecting with a community of people who embrace what I value: mutual respect, sincerity, and acknowledgement and appreciation of the agency of others. Starting online, and, eventually, having a piece of land somewhere with a self-governing constitution that demands the same. I love people, but I hate society.

@levibull6063

4 ай бұрын

It's funny I used to think less of myself because I didn't have a job and wouldn't even be able to properly care for my partner I always worried about what her family would think of me .... but as they got to know me they saw I cared for her and dont want to hurt her I would do all I can to help her I try to be respectful and work on my manners im honest as I can be without sounding to rude Been with her a while and her family do genuinly like me Her father always asks about me and both her perants tell her they are happy she is daiting someone like me even if I am struggling to find work ..... honestly makes me appreciate how some people do understand life can be tricky and confusing but how you view it and take it can make all the difference

First off thank you very much for video. I have been a loner all my life and my perspective on this has changed significantly over the years. As a child I felt an outcast in my own family, I did well in school but questioned things early on when I realized a lot of the material is absolutely useless. I am now happily married but aside from my spouse, I am very very distant from society. I see no benefit to having any participation in a society so focused on the meaningless and whose values are very far from aligned with my own. I avoid the news/media like the plague, I have a very small circle of friends and I do not like being in public unless necessary. I prefer being alone because humanity is simply not worth the effort anymore. I have watched my fellow human become the more self obsessed, greedy and especially oblivious to the hardship/pain of others. I have spent a good portion of my life alone and I have always preferred it. I have always held the belief people will do good given the chance but I am less and less of a believer of that daily. I have met many people who made me wish I was alone instead of enduring the presence for as little time as humanly possible. I think some of us are not meant to "fit in" to society and they are occasionally labeled as outcasts. In my experience this is usually done by those who have not actually experienced what they judge. I prefer to watch society at a distance, watching for signs the focus on the meaningless has shifted to something better. I do see the value of interacting with others more, and when they earn that right by being decent people long term, then I will consider changing. But it's been close to 50 years and I currently feel I will be more distant in the future, not less.

@MusiicRoolz

7 ай бұрын

you talk about others as if it's one big conglomerate. yes you can generalise people but if you're basing your behaviour and stunting your growth just from a generalisation, there may be a problem. there are thousands and millions of people who do not fit into the mainstream. if you wait for the mainstream to become not mainstream, you will be waiting forever. find your person or crowd and build your life from there. don't expect the world to change, cus it won't, not in the way you want it to.

@epsteenwusmerdered9878

7 ай бұрын

I mean, you’re not wrong. The majority of people are collectively descending into darkness and ignorance. They’ve been hypnotized.

I've come the to conclusion that all the problems in my life have only come from other people. I've been living solo (more or less) for years and I love it. I don't seem to cause myself any problems. Humanity is in a strange place and I think the social order is falling apart rapidly. Why take the risk dealing with other people when they don't provide enough value?

@gogadget9656

7 ай бұрын

Often, the expectations of how other's should behave turn the pain we receive into suffering. Are our problems a result of pain, suffering, or both?

@call_in_sick

7 ай бұрын

I find that a strange conclusion to come to. It’s like you are taking zero personal responsibility for your part in the relationship. And thus your justification for cutting off any chance of a relationship. Which i find sad. But whatever works for you. ❤

@SalemSnow2

6 ай бұрын

Great job. The leading philosophers today tell you blame others for your own plight.. take responsibility dude.

Thank you for this video😊 Was really helpful

Yes! Me becoming a lone wolf, was my response and a phase, until I grew to be able to find someone worthwhile. Not just a romantic partner, but also a circle of friends as well. Now it's a conscious choice I make, whenever I need to recharge and regain my productivity. So far it's going great!

I’ve always lived like this, moving between periods of being alone and being more familial with friends. Right now, I’m in my lone wolf stage, enjoying my peace and freedom while I continue to heal. This is a beautiful video, thank you.

Social anxiety that i developed over the last few years has forced me into isolation. I used to love being around ppl and found it easy to see the beauty in each person and refrain from judging their 'flaws'. Now i avoid being around ppl as the anxiety and being overly self aware, and being ironically super judgemental of every action i take (i also project that judgement over people) has created a recipe for misery. However today i realized that its better to accept those feelings and thats its ok to not wanna be around ppl, and guess what, im starting to feel better. Pls forgive my rambling i just felt like venting

@jeremyc2445

7 ай бұрын

I feel exactly the same way. Thank you

@mrstig94

7 ай бұрын

​@@jeremyc2445its nice to know im not alone. Take care friend ❤

@travelwithcamera

7 ай бұрын

If you're not already, try to avoid eating gluten and see if it helps. I realize it sounds weird, but gluten sensitivity comes in many forms and can impact social anxiety. I stopped eating gluten and it helped tremendously (just wish it didn't take me 20 years of adult life to figure this out).

@mrstig94

7 ай бұрын

Thanks for the advice, ill try that out

@wayneshamba6961

7 ай бұрын

Aye you just spoke for me, no need to apologise. I should say thank you for articulating my similar thoughts and feelings through your own experience.

The most interesting part to me was when you mentioned that the lone wolf isn't actually alone for the reasons we project onto them. I never knew it was just a temporary occurrence for finding a mate. I also found it very thought provoking that you said it could be a period for healing instead of completely shutting the door.

"the more I learn about people, the more I like my dog" - Mark Twain

Ever since I experienced discrimination, double standards and injustice from people around me, I have become a Lone Wolf!

@h.hholmes.492

7 ай бұрын

Long road broo

@merajsupercluster9015

7 ай бұрын

What do you do? Don't let people around you sleep?

@guudvybezonly

7 ай бұрын

Hope life feels better soon bro. Keep moving forward!

@Namrec_Molai

7 ай бұрын

​@@merajsupercluster9015being away from you

@joao3547

7 ай бұрын

You poor middle class white man, you.

A wolf that can walk his path alone and with his pack is very powerful be both 🐺 ❤️

@danacoleman4007

7 ай бұрын

That's usually called a leader I think

Love the video and knowledge imparted in the script. I’ve been alone for now 17 years and the last 12 of those, in a quest to know and improve myself, work on my Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and have found some wisdom and am ready to rejoin the pack, find love and hopefully know which boundaries to set so that my inner peace remains there!

This is my favorite video of yours, good work and thank you

The only thing better than a pack of one is a pack of two. I was/am a lone wolf & I met a significant other that is also a lone wolf. We both never thought we could “click” with anyone the way we are with each other. Needless to say we’ve completely changed each other’s lives. Waking up next to someone you love doesn’t compare to much of anything else. We’ve definitely had some challenges but in all it made us both realize that true intimacy is an even deeper peace than solitude. Don’t give up on finding new member(s) for your pack.

@SpiderSmokingSam

4 ай бұрын

so it turns out love is wonderful? great, thanks for that. maybe i'll try it.

@Antzus81

4 ай бұрын

This fits with an actual lone wolf's trajectory, as he mentions at the end. Great you found your complement

@cakensteak

4 ай бұрын

Man, you're awful young to be saying that. Best wishes beating the odds.

@pixiv9823

4 ай бұрын

Lone wolf's are alone

@vidchan4247

3 ай бұрын

@L0R3N23 How did you two meet? I mean, lone wolves aren't known to go out much, are they?

Exactly. I’ve been on the path of the lone wolf for a few years now. When people asked: don’t you get lonely? I replied I’m my own best friend! This time of solitude has helped me connect with nature,love,myself,… and showed me that you’re never really alone. And looking at it now, with your complete explanation, I realize I was searching my pack. And I think I found it… To everyone out there having doubts, just relax and trust the universe… It will listen.

It always gives me pain when I am around people. It always gives me happiness when I am alone.

@16:07 so true😊 This video is so well articulated. I really appreciate your research into this topic. It's highly relatable. Thank you for the message. Very well delivered 🙏🤍✨

I much prefer living lone wolf with the occasional meet up with friends instead of the other way round Great video

i love to be alone , its not lonely, it just feel freedom , no one can’t bother you , no one can’t have you , its priceless.

Hello. I just found your channel a week ago and having been watching all your videos, when I have time. I like especially this one, about the lone wolf. I tend to reject labels about myself and about others, but I would definitely say that I am a lone wolf. No, I do not hate people, but find it very tiresome to deal with people in general. On top of that, I love freedom and I am very independent. I really like my own company and the peace that comes from the absence of discussions and disputes. As you said "the lone wolf chooses freedom from the tiranny of the pack". And, I can understand your reference to fending for yourself in a Scandinavian landscape. I am a person from the south of this world who have moved many years ago to Scandinavia. This cold place made me discover myself, my courage. I pay glady the price for being a lone wolf. So keep up the good work. Your videos are very good.

Hey, I can't thank you enough for your video :) I've been struggling with identifying as a lone wolf and this really left reflect a lot. Also I love all of your work, it really lets me strive for greatness💪

I've learned over the recent years, that it is not the solitude that I crave, it is the peace. If I am with people who makes me feel at peace, I much prefer this over solitude. However, I've been living alone for more then a decade, I'm not sure if I would be ready to swap ALL my alonetime for company at once :) Thank you for another video, that ibspires reflection

@ceriasophis405

3 ай бұрын

Me neither..unless she comes with a damn good script

"Yearning for solitude, I wandered into the wilderness of loneliness, only to discover that the silence held a haunting emptiness I never anticipated."-me

@feathercat9118

7 ай бұрын

But the emptiness is not truly empty, you can hear the beat of the world.

@SamuelBlack84

5 ай бұрын

I much prefer the howling emptiness to the painful chaos of others

@maxinebowe8097

4 ай бұрын

As a lone wolf, I do have small bursts of connection with the community via like minded groups…..but, ah there it is, humans have a way of being judgemental, and critical etc.. yes there is more to list, but we all know that 😂 so it’s just reminder why I have chose my lone wolf path. Everything in moderation, that includes community, friendships and family

This is probably one of your best. Also as a child of parent with NPD, I have chosen to isolate. However disappointing and sometimes evil people there are, there are also people who are loyal and supportive for a time. I try to remember this and not dismiss everyone all the time.

This video was so elightning to me. Thanks for sharing it.

This is an _excellent_ essay. Focusing on one topic lets you explore it in depth, with time to share your personal insights. I enjoy hearing your story, as much as you're willing to share with strangers, and this tighter focus emphasizes how each idea is meaningful to you.

@eduardodeoliveira7432

7 ай бұрын

is that some AI comment?

A philosopher is sitting on a bench, thinking deeply about life in his solitude. Then a random bypassing man comes and sits next to him by saying “I’ve seen you alone and decided to accompany you here”. Philosopher answers: “My loneliness started when you sit next to me”.

@Thebeetlemangr

7 ай бұрын

Bypasser: Rude...😑

@adambrande

7 ай бұрын

too bad, the bench is public property.

@JamesDavid-yt4ec

7 ай бұрын

smoke & mirrors OR sticks and sones , philosopher?

Thank you for such a beautiful explanation covering all sides of the story..🙏😊 You are absolutely right at the end part as well ..

Being alone, most of the time I am alone and find it more powerful,creative as well knowledgeable. But whenever there is a company I enjoy it to. Then I find it sharing knowledge and experiences with others is wonderful. But in many cases many of your nears and dears don’t match your standards. But you have to live with it as it is. 😎

I would prefer to be unalone but I am not like others, and others are not like me. If I wanted to compromise my integrity, I would have many friends, but I know that I don’t fit in, and that my contentedness lies in my hands only. Not in people, not in their perception of me, their opinions or any other circumstance which is beyond my control. In order to accept yourself, you need to make sure that you ARE who you SAY you are. Not the loudest person in the room, not the most popular person but the one that you ACTUALLY are.

@danacoleman4007

7 ай бұрын

Wow! This may be the most useful comment I've ever read! Very well said! I hope I remember it or that I can save it somehow.

I have lived alone for 2 years, I consider it my biggest blessing. I have hard days of course, but I wouldn’t change it.

I'm now in my early 50's, white male, and living alone for last 20+ years. I have a full time job, which is where I mostly get my socializing. I always wanted a big family, many children, a loving, GOD-fearing woman. It hasn't gone that way though I did/have tried. I find that I tire of most people quickly, but not all. The one thing I wish I could change was overly trying to please, accommodate others in my circle as a young man. I see now there's a happy medium, that will earn respect and make one more attractive. In retrospect in times where I stood up for myself, stood my ground, I gained respect and was viewed more favorably. But then I would ultimately shift back to Mr. Nice and well, here I am. It's frustrating and it feels like I've missed my chance sometimes and that I've accepted being alone (with my pet/pets). I've got so much love to give. Dear GOD, help me find my family. I know they are out there. ❤ David in KY.

Those comments pretty much summarize everything for me. I don’t care to know how others are doing or what they are doing with their lives. Because it is all emotionally draining. Recently I’ve been talking to my friends less and less and I spend more time alone. I am most happy when I’m alone and when I am with friends or even family sometimes, I get agitated and sometimes unhappy. It is all energy I cannot keep up with. I’ve been cutting off a lot of friends as well for various reasons, but for the most part, it is to maintain my own energy and happiness.

"It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude." ~Ralph Waldo Emerson~ Thank you for the video! Through your solitude it seems you went deep within and then burst out into the world sharing beautiful messages and videos. I'm grateful for you and your work! Loneliness is the shared condition that ironically brings people together. This loneliness drives us into the depths and can give us a deeper understanding of not only ourselves but others. Forging a tribe of seekers and creators. To all my lonely friends around the world. I feel you, I see you and even when you think you are alone in something, there are groups and communities like this one where you can find like minded people who can encourage you from all around the world.

@justincrabtree6748

7 ай бұрын

❤

just wanna say, thank you. we are not alone bcoz of you :)

The ending was very inspiring. I don't want to be alone forever. This video made me realize that I won't be alone forever. Maybe this season of my life is just choosing healthier people and learning to become a healthy person myself.

@davidtiredofthebullshit4510

4 ай бұрын

Indeed!

Great video ! I love the open conclusion where thriving towards the lonely wolf can also just be a mean to heal oneself !

Great video, as always. Thank you. I spent decades believing that I enjoyed my own company and wanted to be left alone. As I grew older and, perhaps, a little wiser, I came to understand that what I really wanted was a break from the more damaging relationships in my life and to build a new 'pack' which supported my needs instead of imposing the needs of the pack upon me. It took a long time and quite a few painful failures to understand this. Now, I accept that I need close relationships in order to be happy but, newsflash, I can choose those relationships!! As an ambivert, I still treasure alone time but I've finally admitted to myself that I also need select people in my life as well.

The wolf howls at the end hit differently after watching your vid. I'm a introvert by nature. Since I was a 9-10 I used to roam forests and graveyards alone at night. Still my favorite times. Now as a adult , I learned I need others , people that I can trust. And no matter how much I want to be alone, my closest friends and family come before my desire for isolation. Now when it comes to retaining a partner ... that's the hard part. I had a lot of relationships but my individualistic nature always translated to my partners as distant and not giving them enough attention... when in fact i was thinking about them all the time. Oh well. maybe ill find someone that understands. Edit: great video as always. Thank you.

@eskimocommotion4965

6 ай бұрын

I feel the same way. It's like I've never shared my true thoughts but went on as if I had and at end of the relationship realized that. If only I'd said what was in my head....

@rinzler666

6 ай бұрын

@@eskimocommotion4965 I did, it still didn't work lol

Ever since I started being one I’ve thought I was like that the whole time, but the truth about it really hits the heart. Thanks for making this video.

Thank you fot only this video but this channel as it really spoke to me and my life situation. You convey the messages very well. God bless you!

This is the first time I’ve heard about the “other side” of Lone Wolves. The family aspect of the pack and Alphas as parents. Very interesting premise and it opens the mind to view a simple concept in a whole new light. Thank you. ❤

@sunphoenix1231

7 ай бұрын

I kind of wish it was expanded a touch more. It felt like more of an afterthought. Ironically to the point that it seems to disprove of the notion that seeking endless solitude, like I believe, is unhealthy counter to what other videos claim.

I really appreciate how you have disassembled the concept of the lone wolf. My personal opinion based spending time as the “outcast” yet having to work in a very collaborative way for survival is that the hedgehog dilemma is only a dilemma if you think pain is wrong. Pain just like sadness, anger and etc. are normal parts of life that we cannot and should not push away. The issue is when things approach “extremes”. Negative emotions are just as instructive as positive ones. And wholeness only comes when we accept the whole of life, negative and positive.

@sk1nnyreject59

7 ай бұрын

Very well said.

@Onion_of_Ultimate_Concern

6 ай бұрын

I have to concur, good sir.

An entirely wonderful piece of work, well done and thank you!

The idea/ research on the 'dispersing wolves' is new to me. Wow! The keyword is temporary. They (wolves) still find their way back 'home', or perhaps start their own path/ family to reconnect. I can compare this temporary withdrawal to a social media detox. I have noticed that when I took a break for a while on some social media platforms and then returns a few weeks, or months later- my feed feels less toxic 🙂, (Perhaps some big tech companies way of encouraging us to come back to their platforms🙂🙂). I can come back with more energy, and/ or interest. I can also share new stories taken from my voluntary isolation experiences. I love being alone. Its so comforting. Taking a solo ride on my bicycle feels so good. But perhaps, some balance are also necessary. Just like in your other video about the 'flow state'. Being alone can set a condition to enter that state. When the mind becomes too chaotic, Take a temporary break. Dont force force flow to happen. Allow it. (Learned about the flow concept from a book by Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence)