I’m not a pet… so NO you can’t feel/touch/play in my hair it’s mine … you have hair … mine is just magic ✨

@benirpierre2671

Жыл бұрын

Boom! Mine is just magic!!!

@nikkiblane7746

Жыл бұрын

PREACH MAMA!!!!!❤

@blackgirljoy5045

Жыл бұрын

I agree but, there is still a level of disrespect with this period.

@SageOfTruth1111

Жыл бұрын

Period 💯

@cherylrestel9063

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! Quite literally was going to say that she is not a dog and NO you can't pet. 🤢😒

I had this happen to me. She asked, but before I could answer, she touched one of my braids. So I touched her ponytail. I acted like her hair was the strangest thing I ever touched in my life.

@esotericdarkangel4971

Жыл бұрын

😅😂😂

@SD-ji9th

Жыл бұрын

This works too! LMAO!!

@ajones21606

Жыл бұрын

Perfect response lol

@vergespierre4271

Жыл бұрын

Yup. Because you hair is organic to this earth

where I'm from we don't allow anyone that is random or even family to touch our hair because they secretly transfer negative and bad energy and things onto you just buy touching your hair , bad intentions

@theblackbird_

Жыл бұрын

Exactly what I was taught

@monikadixon6307

Жыл бұрын

💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@natwoods9357

Жыл бұрын

we get spiritual over here girlll

@ezrinpetersen4131

Жыл бұрын

@@natwoods9357 meaning

@natwoods9357

Жыл бұрын

@@ezrinpetersen4131 dispelling any negative energy not for our highest good

Respectfully mama, you feeling 'off' and strange in that moment was your spirit telling you that that did not agree with your soul. Trust your intuition. As a recovering people-pleaser, I can tell you that it is not rude when they ask, to say 'No.' As a Black woman, I have been touched on, had hair felt on without permission, asked if my hair is real, some of everything. No more. Yet if I were to walk up to a random stranger and ask her if her breasts were real or are they implants, then there would be an issue. My hair is a part of me also. Everything about your being is sacred. I would tell her sweet self, 'Thanks for asking, but no.' No rudeness, no anger, just choice, personal space, and autonomy. Listen, honestly, Black folk and women are beautiful and divinely diverse, so I get the fascination about us...we're dope af. But I will not stand still to be petted on like a lamb or a llama. I am not on display, nor am I here to satisfy your curiosity. That is not my role.

@terry5942

Жыл бұрын

My reply would be, get a life or get a perm it feels beautiful, and she can play with her own hair

It makes me feel like they think I'm a pet or something. Do not touch my hair

I'm impressed that she asked. Sometimes they just walk up and start groping. Your hair is your crown and glory, you don't know what people are into so don't let people you don't know or trust touch your hair by any means necessary!

@xzauceonapalmer9032

Жыл бұрын

This ! Sometimes they entitled asses just walk up and start touching like a dog at pet smart

@callie216

Жыл бұрын

@@xzauceonapalmer9032 FACTS! Then have the audacity to get offended when you stop them and/or put them in their place. Like, "What?" "I can't touch you?!" And your like "No!" "Think of me and my hair as a museum, admire, don't touch, and walk tf away!"

@reesycasi

Жыл бұрын

Was thinking the same thing

I’m also indigenous and hair is very important in my culture…you can’t let everyone touch your head especially if they don’t have good intentions. You don’t want that bad energy.

@empressfree6342

Жыл бұрын

Word🙌🏾

Some people are curious, and comfortable enough around you that they respectfully ask. It's not an everyday thing so it can be a little off, no harm no file, I allow...if it feel ok.

You in my BUBBLE, you TOUCHING me. STOP it. Please and thank you 😂😂😂

I'm Samoan (Pacific islander) and my daughter's hair is super long and curly. Same thing happened but I said no and the white lady got upset. I said no cause I don't know her and where her hands have been.

@rorenee5245

Жыл бұрын

Blessing, and the fact that that woman got upset revealed her heart. She got upset because she felt entitlement, and likely thought that she deserved credit for even asking you first. You made the right decision.

@Read_with_eliana

Жыл бұрын

@@rorenee5245 it's strange cause we live in New Zealand and their are alot of Polynesian or I should say pacific Islanders here so it weird for her to ask or do that. We've never really experienced any type of entitlement like that but that was really a first and in all honesty if my hubby didn't stop me I would've hit her. It's just the islander in me, you know protecting my blood/family/people first.

Genetically speaking she is giving you a GREAT compliment. She can only dream of having what you have and desires for herself. Better genetics matter and very important.

Afro Latina here!! At first it made me feel uncomfortable, but now I use it as a learning convention. Alot of the time it's solely out of fascination and curiosity. I dont let people touch it all the time, but I do explain why it can come off rude or disrespectful to ask a person of color to touch their hair.

This isn't a petting zoo.. I would have politely declined

I'm a straight up person, so when people ask me if they can touch my hair, I'm like no.

They are amazed!!! We come in all shades...we have all texture of hair....we can wear it in many different styles.....be proud!!

I definitely always answer no. I'm not a a pet and two, I don't what spirit you have to just touch my Crown. Some are audacious enough to just touch my hair without asking. I spazz out like are you serious.

You should’ve said no… you seemed reluctant when asked and if you’re not comfortable, then that’s what really matters. Not her curiosity, your comfort definitely comes first!❤

I get it, that would come off awkward but I've always been taught that you don't let just any and everyone touch or have their hands in your hair. Not saying she had bad intentions or anything but your hair is your crown, you want to protect that.

@arielreliford4365

Жыл бұрын

Exactly what I was gonna say!! No offense to the lady (I'm sure she was just curious) but that's extremely personal space for her to be entering.

@musicaldncer

Жыл бұрын

@Malissa Alexander Exactly because people can transfer negative energy to you from doing that

It's ok, I screen shotted all my comments before they got deleted lol 🤣

It makes me feel, Like wow this is crazy 💯

I feel the same. I'm nice so it's like "sure" but......stranger danger 😭

*1) THANK YOU FOR ACKNOWLEDGING THAT YOU'RE NOT A BW!* *2) ALSO FOR ACKNOWLEDGING OUR FEELINGS!*

Got dreads down to my butt n ppl assume it's not mine but I'm more offended when people don't ask they just reach out and touch. It's a personal space thing for me

Ppl ask to feel my hair all the time I’m just like ahhhh okay go head 😂

All the time ALL THE TIME I get this question. I'm like dude it's just hair. I'm am not an animal (in my clarisse voice) 🤣🤣🤣

I always get asked if ppl can touch my hair I tell them hell no idk we're hands been the fuc lol 😂😂

I get asked that question ALOT! I’m picky when it comes to who gets to touch my hair or even do my hair. Lmao idk where they hands been 😅

@lharris4118

Жыл бұрын

That part

At least she asked. I have super Long curly hair and I’ve had white women just randomly touch my hair while it’s in a pony tail, usually accompanied by a “wow, is this your real hair?!” And it takes everything in my soul not to slap their hands away but I always respond with a “yes, but that’s rude. Please don’t grab someone’s hair if you don’t know them” sometimes they apologize, other times they get nasty like they didn’t just treat me like a entire horse. Smh

BOUNDARIES Mamas we can’t let ‘em touch our crown 👑

What is their obsession with our hair. Nooo ma'am you cannot touch my hair. Its like touching my soul, because there is a vibrational energy connection between our hair and the universe. Dead serious

I don’t see it as a big deal. Most times they are fascinated and give compliments. If I’m comfortable I say okay. If not, I would say no still with a smile and life goes on.

I like asking "why?" The answer usually "oh I just wanted to touch it" then they pause and say "because it's so pretty. " Then I say "oh, thank you" and walk away.

When I was staying in Congo.. I would go to markets and people would be behind me touching my hair or walk behind me just to see if it was real.. it would go on for months and even after they got used to me they would still do it.. I got so tired that I cut my hair in a bob.. you would think it was their hair with how disappointed they were.

@littlefarmers1861

Жыл бұрын

Yeah it's out of curiosity. In the US there's a more diverse population here. I think we should be more aware of physical differences by now

My hair dry I would be embarrassed to let someone feel the Brillo pad… and I have soft curly texture

@jaslyfe

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@IAmKenziePiper

Жыл бұрын

The heck 😂 😂

@Aniexo_

Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

You have beautiful Hair 😍...love from south Africa 🇿🇦 ❤

It felt weird because we were the first to be showcased in Zoos and they would come and pet us and touch our hair

When I was a child, my mom told me it was bad luck to let people touch my hair.

Skin lookin flawless

@ritam1402

Жыл бұрын

⏸️ no homo

Zashia is a modern day black fisher lol 🤣

I have the same hair type as you and grew my hair out. I get the same thing. It's makes you feel weird but also at the same time you understand they honestly don't understand and are just curious and not trying to be malicious. You feel a lot of things all at once and that's ok

Honestly it doesn’t bother me cause whether they’re being funny/rude or just curious I think of it as I’m standing out and I like attention!! I’m Black and German but my hair is more black and I recently did a full chop!! Now my hair is growing back out I’ve been natural no heat/weave/harsh chemicals.. Since my hair is naturally curly and fluffy/soft I walk around with a baby Afro so customers and my coworkers (white) ask to feel my hair all the time..

As a black woman, I've never felt the urge to feel a white person's hair nor a black person for that matter. Not even for boundary issues, I've just never felt the need or want to do that even when it's ppl close to me. I check my son's hair for tangles or comb it and send him on his way, that's about it.

I’m Korean and black! Anytime my mom took us back to her home to visit my grandparents people use to randomly walk up and touch us or take videos/pics. It was so weird… even an an adult people still ask me things like that

I'm not a queen but I am a black male with a head full of hair and I don't know what it is, but yet I agree with Kiana Floyd comment.

Zasha thank you for sharing that.😘😘😘

At least she asked sometimes they don’t

Girl u ain't touching my hair we got mixed girl problems 👀💀🤣🤣

LONG AS THEIR HANDS ARE NOT DIRTY ..HECK WHY NOT. YOU'RE HAIR IS SIMPLY BEAUTIFUL ZASHIA.

I personally do not like anyone touching my hair other than my children and my wife. The reason is everyone has different types of energy both positive and negative and when someone touches you they transfer their energy onto you. Your hair is your strength and someone touching your strength weakens it. Not to mention when they pass their energy on to you it can change yours to a negative state hence the reason you felt uneasy when she touched you. No matter how sweet a person may be majority have hidden subconscious motives that even they are not aware of consciously.

I get a lot of that from women especially older whites women who don’t know and are curious and they always go your Afro is so beautiful. I know but honestly the oils in my hair and moisture to maintain it they would not want to touch my hair those oils are hard to wash away. However, I have a friend who is white and when I tell you she can braid some hair. She is the only whites woman I trust to braid my hair.

Been there done that. I take it as a learning opportunity for the other person. We can start a dialog and let it not be a mystery.

I was taught that your hair represents how you were raised. If it's combed and braided and just looks good ,then you were raised in love but if you have unkept hair than most likely that person slightly less fortunate "at least in the love department" . Not to mention if any random person is close enough to touch your hair they're too close to you.

Same thing happened to me at the dentist office. I was in pain and I didn't want to be rude, so I let her touch my hair . I felt cornered.

Experienced a similar thing last week but instead the woman was Indian. This happened in Canada. I was fine with it!

I heard that a lot of times in my life and I normally don't like it...but it depends on how people ask and sometimes who.

A throwback to the worst of days l, like I'm back on the block being examined...

That happened to me once. It’s as if they’ve never seen anything like it, or we’re aliens or something. Lol but I don’t get too worked up about it. Sometimes they actually like our hair and they simply just want to feel it.

@rorenee5245

Жыл бұрын

@Lauren, I respect your statement and your choice mama, and not all have malicious intentions, much of it is curiosity. Yet, it would be tone deaf for white folk to feign ignorance of the historical nuances of that type of request...the history of how white hands have had entitlement to Black bodies for centuries. That is why this request is deeper than simply a benign one for me. It makes me think of the scene in The Color Purple when the white woman was touching and handling Miss Sophia's child, complimenting her on how 'clean' she is...thinking of it makes me cringe inside. So as innocent as some requests may be, there is a sensitivity that needs to be respected. And in my opinion, if they don't educate themselves on this or understand it, then perhaps that "Black friend" (I'm doing air quotes) that some brag that they have can explain it to them. But that is not my role. So issa no for me for $500, Alex.

@ltr777lr

Жыл бұрын

@@rorenee5245 Of course! This is just me looking at it from all angles. But I’m definitely with you on that! 💯

It be annoying at times but really depends on how the person approaches it

I’d rather they didn’t but I don’t mind it that much. A lot of Asian women like touching my hair too especially when I have beads on them I lowkey kind like it. Bc I’ve spent almost 10 yrs learning, nurturing my hair spending a crap ton of money on it. So when people are amazed I get flattered bc the hard work paid off

You got lucky .. they don’t normally ask 😂😂😂… much coworker never ask. It’s HIGHKEY annoying

When I was 16, I went to Mexico to build houses and and help the local kids. We helped clean an orphanage from top to bottom and provided cribs etc.. anyway, we were in a very small town where no tourists would ever go. EVERY SINGLE DAY I had someone wanting to touch my hair . Now this was a LONG time ago and my hair was very very blonde and I always wore it curly and so many of the people there had never seen “white people” … I took absolutely no offense to this. However there is a big difference between what you just spoke about and my situation. Just wanted to add my 2 pesos to this!

You know when someone is being funny or malicious, I have no problem with someone asking to feel my hair. Our hair is intriguing and beautiful, as long as ya ass not tryin to be funny, slick or whatever, I don’t mind 🤷🏽‍♀️

Invasive !!!

Happened to me at work not too long ago, my hair was in braids and she asked AS she reached and touched it, so I’m like whatever sure shes just curious. Later i felt mad at myself because the vibe wasn’t right. Curious people ask questions about your hair they don’t fucking ask to pet you. I’ll never allow it again.

Thanks for Sharing with us ❤

You should have asked her, could YOU touch her hair and ask her why is her hair stringy and limp ??? Flip the script on people like that !!!

I’m a black woman with a natural hairstyle. I have to say, your hair looks incredibly soft and beautiful. I want to touch it too! 🤩 Of course, I’m a stranger and it’s not appropriate. The woman crossed a boundary. That’s why you feel weird. Who knows why she did it, but she did. Some would say it’s inherently racist for a white person to ask to touch a black person’s hair they don’t know because it bespeaks white privilege and entitlement to dare to cross that boundary, no matter how well-intentioned the person thinks they are. I would tend to agree. I hope someone gives you a good gift soon to balance the karmic scales. 🎁

The only reason you should not have allowed that is because you were uncomfortable with it! I wouldn't have but 🤷🏾‍♀️

I don't really mind any more. I'm a black girl who had really long hair. Like down to my butt. I just recently cut 10 inches. People aren't used to seeing that. And my flat irons makes my hair look like silk. I very more offended when asked "is that your real hair?".

The answer is always NO you can not touch my hair. It makes me think they don’t see me as an equally human and it makes me feel sorry for them.

😂😂😂😂😂Fetish for real!!

This happened to me in the office twice. The last time I checked I'm not a Labrador Retriever. I spend hours styling my hair and I'm not about to let a stranger touch my hair. Especially after finding out how offensive soap is to some white people.

As a person who grew in a mostly white community it make me feel special but I also got that feeling and white girls do be giving good hair massages though

It doesn’t bother me at all, as long as they ask beforehand. Lots of people think our hair is hard or dry. So, by all means (ASK and) touch, and celebrate my soft, beautiful coils.

To me they be asking if it’s weave I say it’s my real hair and they be asking I’m like no sometimes I allow it just depends on

beautiful

I.never had that experience in my 56 years, however boundaries are important. Do not touch my persons at all because that crosses boundaries. You don't owe that to anyone.

Afro hair is basically your crown if you don’t like/ want people to touch it just say no your not being Rude your just staying comfortable in your body and setting boundaries 😌

Yeah that would make me feel weird

No Ma’am, you cannot touch my hair. WTF?

Gurl this just happened to me....BUT!!!! SHE DIDN'T ASK SHE JUST DID IT ....... I GET SUPER ANGRY 🤬 BECAUSE I'M NOT A DOG 🐕 OR 🐈 AND I DONT WANT YOU PETTING ME... DONT TOUCH ME....

At least she asked. They touch my puff at will. I touch there hair back.

Girl don’t say yes anymore 😂

So let me preface this by saying...I'm white...so I know you didn't ask for our thoughts but I'm giving mine anyway lol. If any person I didn't know walked up and asked to touch my hair (even another white woman), I'd be like....wtf? I try very hard not to see color, so I believe I'd react the same to anyone who just...out of the blue...asked that. In our current culture, I believe people assume too much about other people's intent. She may have just seen how nice your hair is and felt comfortable asking. The opposite could, of course, be true but If I'm making an assumption, I'd r rather assume the best of people and not immediately the worst. God bless.

For someone who is not family or a close friend, that’s like looking at you like your a rare animal at the petting zoo, also it’s like them putting their energy on you, our hair is precious and we do a lot to take care of it and make it look good. So no you-and nobody really can just touch it! Might mess my s&@* up🤣💯fr

Me personally it depends on the person and their intentions some are just genuinely curious and i'd rather educated (even if its just explaining why i don't want to let them and how it can be seen as disrespectful) and see it as interest to something they find unique, then not do so and then be upset when they're "ignorant"(when there genuinely just not educated on the subject or thing)

It's a toss up. My mood may motivate my response. Scarry stuff😂

Yeah, that goes on a lot.... Smh!!!

I don't like that. I'm not your puppy, you can't pet me! 🤣🦋

They can feel their bush before it's mowed 🤭If they can't resist but no hands off

I am 64 and I found it very offensive. My grandmother said that some white people had a superstition that touching a black persons hair could bring them luck. I was raised to never allow it to happen.

I had that experience before and I told the person NO because I am human being and not a pet.

If she wanted to touch hair, she should go to a petting zoo !!! Touch her own hair !!!

I've never had a WW ask to touch my hair... But then again, I've been told that I have "resting b__ face" so maybe that's why. 🤷🏾‍♀️

I have Locs and I hate for ppl to touch or ask to touch my hair OmG 😱

Definitely I’ve had it happen and it was by a white woman I was really close with and I still felt like she violated my personal space. I don’t understand the obsession they have with black hair.

@toriaisaac4704

Жыл бұрын

Yea I don’t get it either

Unless it's my best friend, I don't let anyone touch my hair. I can see why she asked, your hair looks ultra soft, but still. Don't hold it against her, she probably didn't know, but no, i don't let anyone touch my hair. There's a reason the saying "whatever you do, ain't no one touch a black woman's hair" because you will get snapped at and possibly smacked if you do

I generally say no if it's a random person, there's no need for you to make any kinda physical contact with me just suh. No sah

Most people aren't trying to be rude but that just pisses me off .... because some ppl will just try and touch it! And I'm a firm believer in "watch who you let in your head" negative energy...bad juju + 🤷🏾‍♀️

I was in high school working during holiday time and an old white man caressed my braids without permission saying he loved my hair blah blah blah. My coworkers immediately checked him. That is so uncomfortable and demeaning. We are not props or pets.