I didn't think his comment was shade at all....When a woman is raised to be a wife and mother, having a meal prepared and on the table on time is what she is taught to do. I just wish he'd had the opportunity to complete his thought or his statement.

I wish Quad was able to finish her statement, but I realize Rashawn didn't want to make the topic a cultural issue, but it really is. My husband is a firefighter and about 90% of the white firefighters wives do not work, never have. They are housewives, but the majority of the black firefighters wives all work. If they don't work they are retired from something. Also I grew up in Western Pennsylvania which was about 80% white and I saw this same dynamic growing up among my friends parents. I think black men seem to always request there mate to bring "something" to the table, but if you ask the average white man his wife bringing something to the table doesn't occure to him. Now you could dig further down on a socioeconomic level and see that black people by in large are huge consumers and being that way requires disposable income of which living on one salary does not always provide. So that being the issue would signal the need for a two income household. Where as white people, but more so white women are not huge consumers, so living within their husbands one salary is something they can do. Think about it this way of you have school aged children......what nationality is the parents who are generally always at the school? Always volunteering? Always the class mom? On a personal note I was in Corporate America for over 2 decades and last year following my mothers passing from cancer I stopped working and now am a SAHM/SAHW and love it. My husband said I should have done it long before now. Funny thing is my husband and I actually spend more one on one time together than we did before while I was working fulltime. I spend more time at our boys (10&8) school than ever before, so they put me on the Board as the parent representative. I'm a total traveling AAU mom now. I get in more gym time too for me, so ironically the change has been a win-win for everyone. One day I'll probably work again, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't enjoy my freedom from the 9-5 grind.

@ms.j.2961

6 жыл бұрын

Congrats 2 u as that is true freedom & worth the investment u are now making in ur family!! Over 2 decades of experience in "Corporate America"? Sounds like an opportunity 4 entrepreneurship instead of being a W-2. 😉

@mariapink24

6 жыл бұрын

Fit2BJustMe. Wow!! Well said and great change for you and your family!!

@Shimmerzinefaithlifestyle

5 жыл бұрын

Really important to note thst some women love working. They don't work because their husbands demand it (speaking about those in a black race) they enjoy their independence and ability to contribute to their homes. Some women come from families that have seen Dad die suddenly and at an older age have to now just start the workforce to make ends meet after the insurance money and savings have gone. They witnessed a mom having to take mediocre jobs just to pay the bills. It's easier to build on your future have your own pension and such and just add it to together for added security. There are also quiet a bit of volunteers in the school that are black and other cultures that contribute to their children's lives. I don't only see the white ones. Depending on the demographics of people in your area it may look like more whites are active

@ravenshanks

4 жыл бұрын

You said a month full this was definitely a very valid point

@AmateurAthleteAllDay

4 жыл бұрын

And let’s not forget many white males have better position and make more money sometimes doing the same jobs as African American males, let’s not forget that sometimes the black wives had to work just to help make ends meet. Let’s not compare apples to oranges. White athletes, actors and actresses nearly always get paid more than minorities so just imagine how hard it is for the middle or lower class.

Motherhood is a long term career

@jaybae7315

4 жыл бұрын

Yup! And it's very taxing mentally, emotionally, and physically.

Let the man talk! Geesh

@tomaradoss3420

6 жыл бұрын

Gary Stallings typical of us 😂😂me included..Gotta work on that

@welpalright

6 жыл бұрын

Gary Stallings I was yelling STFU, let your damn guest speak!

How about one question at a time. Lawd. Lol.

@HeyYoggie

6 жыл бұрын

Michelle J. That's what I said!! 😂😂 Like dang, ladies!! I will be okay. 😂😂 #woosah

@michellej.462

6 жыл бұрын

AndriaNycole 😂😂😂

Come on Syleena!!!! You better tell it!

I get Rashan is trying to protect the show she doesn't want them to receive any backlash from the blanket statement that Quad threw out there. But for Memphitz to say they have dinner cooked and the house cleaned is not always the case. I knew of many who did not work, the husbands come home the house is a mess, kids are running wild, and there is no dinner cooked. Most times he had to stop on the way and bring dinner home. I worked full time outside the home and the house was always clean and there was a hot meal on the dinner table every evening. My Slow cooker put in a lot of hours but, you plan and do what you got to do. I was raised to earn my own and I was also raised to take care of my family's needs around the house. As women both can be done. I watched my mother do it everyday growing up. Our home was always clean and we always had dinner cooked plus she worked hard to provide for us as we got older she taught us how to take care of things around the house and modeled good work ethics for us as well.

@deejay4183

6 жыл бұрын

jen bradley yup

@andresmith6591

4 жыл бұрын

Jen Bradley, Sister, I applaud your values. In the late 20th century and early 21st century, a number of these females are clueless about applicable domestic skills. In addition, problems arise in relationships when roles are not defined. Expectations must be clear and not assumed. Unfortunately, many individuals have not been taught and this deficiency leads to an ultimate departure from the marriage. When the Word of God is not followed, Satan is waiting to step in and wreck havoc. Divorce is the outcome. Some individuals still will never learn about the pitfalls of life and don't care who they destroy through their ignorance and stupidity.

First off, Quad Gold Digging is not only #dubbed in the African American community. Gold Digging is #dubbed and #pertains to all Races and Communities!

@insanemob8508

6 жыл бұрын

Grace Turner , I agRee With you Grace Turner

Great talk...and Memphitz looks so much healthier.

Yup! Thank you for doing this show.

Was Quad speaking from personal experience or is that just my interpretation

@posthumanismkarma6120

5 жыл бұрын

@@comment2kare well if course she could accomplish what she wanted but the matter of fact is she lied. She went along that she wanted kids with Gregory from the get go. I still remember she told him in the show that she was going to give him kids soon. God..what a manipulative liar

@andresmith6591

4 жыл бұрын

@@posthumanismkarma6120 Absolutely. An opportunist who cleverly played the victim. It is all about Her pursuing individual goals and making herself available back on the market. Of course, I am speculating about Quad's agenda. This is between Quad, Her ex-husband and Yahweh.

Love Selina’s look, hair and outfit! Beautiful

They had no intention on letting this man speak.

@kiki-oo6uc

5 жыл бұрын

Ms. MeMe 🤣😂😂😂🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂 true

Damn Rashan, that was a rough transition 🙊

This is a topic that requires a larger selection of men from various ages and backgrounds to get a better consensus on how we as blk men feel about this topic. I heard a lot of misconceptions about what we as blk men feel is a gold digger vs goal digger (I hate that terms as it makes it seems negative for a woman to want to mate with a male who is goal oriented and successful). For the record, most Men who are goal oriented and is successful are never threatened by a woman who seeks a relationship with a man who is a proven provider.

U betta PREACH Syleena!!!🤗

I would have preferred that they let the man answer the first seven minute question. Then he may have touched on every other thought in the panel. I'd prefer two women to one ratio

He’s seems more comfortable in his skin. I wonder if he came out the closet.🤔 kudos to him if so! 💪🏼🌈

Great discussion!!!

this needs to replace the real

@jenbradley4728

6 жыл бұрын

Vanessa starter why? No disrespect I'm just asking. There's enough room for both shows. This show and The Real are the only 2 shows where the panels have all women of color.

@lilmamasofly9111

6 жыл бұрын

Just my opinion, I just don't like the real and I think this would do better than the real in my opinion, or maybe i should have said i wish this was just a big as the real

@biancalord488

6 жыл бұрын

Why can't both shows shine?

@biancalord488

6 жыл бұрын

jen bradley 🙌

@jenbradley4728

6 жыл бұрын

I can get with that I wishing the same thing for it, but this show is just starting out. They haven't been on a full year yet. Give them time and support and they will be as big as The Real. Make sure the network keeps the show going and put money into promoting it by calling in. The Real had to find its grounding too but they did and now they are Emmy winners.

100% agreed with Ms Syleena

The question of stay at home mom , came up and the fact that many white women are raised that way , the black man was about to go there and he did state that white women are willing to cook. The conversation was redirected immediately. This is the problem we have in our community with many of our men. It was clear where he was about to go with that. Sad!!

Is it me or can we do without Quad she don't seem Authentic..

@pansylatrayalgooden6359

6 жыл бұрын

msboo msboo I agree

@estellabutler5424

6 жыл бұрын

She changed that weave to the curly look, guess she read the comment. I don't care for her and the lady on the side with that blonde extra hair.

First of all I am not going to allow any man into my life that's doesn't have his life together and that' means also his mental, emotional , spiritual, financial, and physical.

100% Agree with Kiana comment. Love!!!!!!!!!!! this topic.

Good discussion

Each relationship is different. Sometimes a man and a woman agree for a more "traditional" lifestyle. Meaning the man works while the woman takes care of the children and home. Back in the day, this was the norm. However, housewives of yesterday are very different from what housewives are today. A real housewife has actual work to do inside and often outside of the home while trying to spread all of her attention evenly between the children, her husband and other family. She's often exhausted but still has to figure out a way to accomplish all of this. Today, everyone wants to call themselves a housewife while having maids, nanny's, assistants, gardners etc. A stay-at-home mom doesn't mean that you just stay at home and do nothing. A gold digger just wants a lavish lifestyle with minimal effort.

Men are not afraid of Strong women we don’t want aggressive women

how can one become a guest on the show

I felt as though they kinda bombarded him with so many questions without really letting him process and answer and they were really defensive vs listening or trying to understand where he was coming from I felt they weren't really trying to understand or receive his perspective they were trying to flip it or create so many scenarios then shutting him down at the end I was really trying to hear what he was trying to say

I feel like that's alot of our problem we're all trying to talk and we're not truly listening we're listening to respond not listening to understand

That's who that is up there? Memphitz? The modern day Ike Turner? I'll pass on this one. Bye!

Im a goal and gold digger. Dont care what ppl got to say

Body language speak' s volumes

Goal/Gold..same people

There needs to be a conversation before you get married about whether a woman will work or not

This conversation could have been really great...It was getting there. The ladies did not let the man elaborate his thoughts. That hurt the conversation a lot.

@andresmith6591

4 жыл бұрын

Some Women just don't know when to control their tongues. Listen, process and respond respectfully. Maybe some will become educated through relevant perspectives.

Some strong women make some weak men uncomfortable. He doesn't know what he can offer her if she can do it herself. There is the extreme, there are woman and men that only see their goals and forgets about building a stable meaningful longstanding relationship. That is toxic. Why have the relationship if it is not one of the top priorities in their life.

I think we both get to expect and have values and expect certain things of the other. However, women sometimes want a man to have a lot but don't have the same in return. A good man may not have a lot of gold at first may not have a nice car or all of the things we want but the woman who is a good woman sticks by him as he makes moves to get there. However, men take us when we have nothing but we expect men to always come to the table with everything. Black women never want to own up to there outrageous lists of what they want but not willing to do. You should be choosing people for who they are not for what they have. Also, why bring up the question but the man didn't get to say his side only because they didn't want to hear it.

She shouldn't have to dumb herself down to please her man

Women judge men for what they have but get upset when you're called a gold digger or when a man judges you for your body. It goes both ways. Just like I don't want to be judged by how big my booty is they don't want to be measured by their financial shortcomings. Contrary to popular belief and images on Instagram and other social media, people actually struggling out here but everyone is too embarrassed to admit that because of these expectations. You find someone willing to work together towards something and you work from there. If you basing love off of the persons material status, well that's how you get cheaters and abuse because you so busy making sure he can pay all your bills yet he treats you like shit. The money should be the last thing to check off because that comes and goes. The person is what matters because if he is a good man he'll work to get what you both want.

Many American males would live off of a woman. They want the woman to take care of them but that is not a respectable trait.

Why the stereotypes about black/white! 🙁🙁

@alpoyeo7008

6 жыл бұрын

MrsBalanceSheet quard wit her dumb ass...LMAO

@melaninenriched7844

6 жыл бұрын

MrsBalanceSheet Are they not black and are we not constantly indirectly taught how the good life is a white life through society? The question has merits. Think outside the box.

Quad, it's because you're dating black men

Syleena is tooo BITTER tho 🤔

Memphitz is a goal digger too....the only reason why he was/is with Toya is because of her lil Wayne resume....

@luvlapetite1421

6 жыл бұрын

Ghana Mafia Memphitz was successful in his own business

@ghanamafia7199

6 жыл бұрын

Garland Mcgowan...and what business was that?...the only "hit" song I know he had an affiliation with or maybe produced was POP, LOCK, AND DROP IT...and that was about 10 years ago...I was in highschool back then...Memphitz is known for domestic violence with K.Michelle and carrying Toya Wright's purse...and sliding into reality show beefs for a check....lmao....That is his resume....

@luvlapetite1421

6 жыл бұрын

Ghana Mafia you talking like you know him personally, I noticed you did say " known for", so either you know him personally or you don't.

@luvlapetite1421

6 жыл бұрын

Ghana Mafia Because of Toya's lil Wayne resume. You sound very stupid. I believe you meant to say because of Toya's ties to Lil Wayne. Shows how much you think about Toya. So I guess you know her personally to huh??????

@ghanamafia7199

6 жыл бұрын

Garland Mcgowan Stay pressed heaux.

Why do women forge limitations in their minds? Women assume men see them as nothing and it's dangerous because they begin to fight for a position no one is contending with them for. If a man starts trying to enjoy what women are enjoying, they'll say he's crazy. What's wrong if a woman opens the car door for her husband every time they on a ride. So you see....

Have dinner ready? They cannot cook at all, a great many. You all black Americans always putting whites up. Clearly do not like who you all are.

These so called strong women keep pretending to not understand what a gold digger is n does.. smfh. How about you use what feminism has given you in an equal opportunity education system. Hi get your own.. Meet a mate and build an empire together, instead of waiting for his finish product n doing nothing with yours.