Single Parent/Special Needs Parent *Stress of Finding Child Care*
Y’all......this has turned into the most epic, saga, story of my life! I feel like no matter what I do, or how hard I try, finding child care for my special needs son is always the most stressful part my life. I HAVE to work, there’s no getting around that. Being that me and Kaidale are a one parent household/income, I have no choice but to work and provide for us. However, it seems like we always find ourselves up sh*t’s creek without a paddle when it comes to child care. Obviously I can’t just hire any Joe Shmoe or take him to a day care center, he needs someone qualified. And believe me, I’m pretty sure I’ve thought of everything! Am I the only special needs parent that finds this next to impossible?!
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I can completely relate with you because I have a 8 year old special needs daughter in South Florida. You are such a breath of fresh air to see! Your doing a fantastic job as a mom but also shining the light to help others understand the lack of services needed in special education and the challenges we go through.
Yes!!! Thank you! I am California and it is a struggle finding childcare for special needs children. Daycares often say no to us too. My son has moderate to severe autism and it's a battle finding childcare. I am also a single mom working full time and yes, the befits, the insurance is also something we heavily rely on. Thank you for being real and sharing this much needed topic that needs to be talked about.
That’s nice that your parents help I’m a single mom of a toddler with ASD and a 14 year old. Family doesn’t and won’t help. Also a nurse but had to resign to be full time with my toddler because Nannie’s always bail on me or aren’t qualified to handle my daughter, having to leave too many jobs suddenly because they disappear so I gave up. Basically losing my mind 😢 isolated, trapped and lost, not sure who I even am anymore. Which I could go run or have any sort of alone time but it will never happen. Everyone says how important self care is but yeah how? Impossible.
@SydSync
Ай бұрын
Exactly, I’m praying for all of us out there in this situation.
I hope you are able to find a qualified caregiver who will love Kaidale and who he will enjoy spending time with. Love you💓
Oh my goodness!!! That baby picture at the end of Kaidale is the cutest EVER 🥰
I used to love swimming in the rain as a kid!! Reminds me of Jen's song "The Fish don't know When it Rains" What about one of the counselors from the camp Abbie goes to (and Summer & Becca work at). I bet Summer or Becca could get you some contacts
@JustMe-qo7yw
3 жыл бұрын
Yes ! Thats an awesome comparison. I love that song . Tbh, Jenn is whole bunch of SilverLinings
Hello Kaidale & Kaitlin ♥️ Kaidale didn’t care about any rain 🌧 He didn’t let that stop him from having fun swimming🥰
Not to minimize your struggles as a single parent, but we have those issues with childcare too even in a 2 parent household, but that's likely because of it being one income. Was just trying to help you feel less alone and less isolated
The ending with the toys scattered all over the place reminds me of my daughters room when she plays 😂❤️ prayers for your family that you find a awesome caregiver for your boy! 🙏🙏 this is also one of my biggest stressors when my daughter gets older, I also live in Jacksonville. She is only 3 currently. Also, prayers for your father’s mom 🙏
I saw the name of your video and immediately felt understood, worry about how I can get childcare for my sons to work and provide for them keeps me up at night a lot of nights, and no one outside of this community ever even considers how deep this issue can go regionally
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some new subs huh.. maybe because of your visit at A & P for A's birthday?? lol .. anyway the more the better.. I;ve been watching you for a while now and i love your content.. big kiss from Juliette from Holland
Love watching y’all! So down to earth 🙏🏼💙
I feel ya, Kaitlin. Life is hard. You continue taking care of Kaidale
Hands down, the worst part of being a parent is finding childcare. My family has never lived near any extended family, so we’ve always had to hire a nanny. We’ve had mixed luck. It’s stressful and frustrating. I feel for you.
Awe bubs is making me shiver!! Enjoy while you can sweet boy!
That baby picture at the end was adorable. I used to be a school nurse when my kids were in school. I still got great benefits and was home when the kids were home. I also wasn’t a single parent but my husband’s job took him all over for sometimes weeks. You also have the added burden of a non verbal kiddo. I think you have to be extra cautious when hiring someone. My heart goes out to you. Have you tried asking around at his school? Perhaps someone there might know someone.
I feel ya lady… having the same issue with my teens summer care and I’m in the military. It makes my heart hurt and I just have to use leave.🤷🏾♀️
Hi Kaitlyn & Kaidale.. Sending a ton of healing energy to your grandma for a full recovery.... Also lots of positive energy that you get a wonderful qualified care giver for beautiful Kaidale most importantly someone who Kaidale will love & trust & have fun with...one who will get him on a level that will enhance his phenomenal development.....x💙💙
I can only imagine. I have been a single mom and child care was a real struggle until my children came of age. Many many prayers for you guys
Wish I had the experience... I’d looove to live in Florida!
I hear you, I am a single mom as well and it's hard and yes it's hard to get trusting care!!! The system doesn't make it easy either!!! But us single parents have to do what we have to do.
Wished I lived by ya I'd out ya out all the time!!
Awesome work and amazing videos
I understand your frustration my son is 6 and me and his dad had a big discussion about what to do and thankfully dad decided to be a stay at home dad but it is getting tough for dad now and like you said daycares say no or they want more than I make an hour as a CNA
You can work with an agency that will pay you to take care of him. being a nurse makes you more than qualified IM a CNA going back to school so I can do this ...or go straight through the gov & apply to Medicaid as a caregiver and see if the state would pay u as his caregiver now sometimes or some states don’t want to pay us mother’s to take care of our kids..due to the fact it is our responsibility, but you never know....I’m 21 and my daughter has Cerebral palsy and I think of this everyday she’s 2 now but I know I’ll be miserable dedicating my life to her and working specially being so young and with a 1 year old son as well😂😩😩 I don’t trust anyone with her anyways ....hope this helps 💕I shed a a few tears for you because I stay up all night wondering how I can get pass the same thing and I’m younger with 2 kids so you DEFF got this👌🏾❤️
How adorable is that picture of kaidale. Them cheeks!!! 🙏🙏🙏🤗🤗🤗🤗😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘 Bless him and you always.🙏🤗😘🥰❤😊
Did you ever think of talking to summer
I know this feeling too well my daughter is special needs and it's hard to work when she needs 24/7 care I wish it was much easier for moms like us I just want to make a much better income but its definitely hard when you have to choose between caring for your child and working so that you can afford to live..bless your heart wishing you the best 🙏
I wish I didn't live across the pond, I would gladly help you with child care. The right person is out there for you Kaitlin, they will be every bit as much of a blessing as G was. In the meantime, you got this, you're an amazing mum, keep up the great job that you're doing. Hope your grandma is ok & loving the cutie pie pics of mr handsome. 💞💞
I sure wish I lived closer!!!! I have experience working with special needs children and adults (and loads of babysitting/childcare experience)..... but I'm in Kentucky. Kaidale is such a sweet boy 👦, and I can understand most of what he says on the vlog!!!
Hope everyone is OK x
My goodness but I've got all kinds of mad respect for you & your immediate circle ! Kaitlin , I certainly don't intend this as a gender issue, but here in my locale, I was told care for our lil mancubs was less obtainable . I couldnt wrap my brain around that 1 at all. I'm so glad G is able to expand on his passion. I've seen other videos of Kaidales & his outings w/ others. Ya know I was smiling to see kaidale determined for the pool. Hopefully soon ,situ will improve, till then keep rocking it! Well wishes for your grandmother too 💙
I wish I lived closer. I work for an Autism Center and would love to take care of that sweet face!!
Can JSA offer some kind of a morning respite for parents who are working where u can drop your children off at school early and pick them up later? Or see if you can get a group of parents from the school that need the same thing as you and maybe they can help out anything’s possible
Oh I am sorry you are going through that. If I lived in Florida I would definitely help you with sweet boy kaidale.🤗🤗🤗🙏🙏🙏 I know you will find someone who would be able to help you. I know you will you got this girl🤗🤗🤗🤗❤❤❤🥰🥰🥰🙏🙏🙏🙏
Is G still able to bring him and pick him up from school if your in a pinch? This is one of the reasons I am so passionate to be a respite provider . Thanks for sharing hope someone amazing will come into your life.
@jgilbert1998
3 жыл бұрын
I think he still does but not right now because of COVID-19
Who let the dogs out 🎼 ( I’m being silly 😜)
I relate so much, I currently have no time on my own. No family, and far away from friends. I wanted to start work this year but covid happened and I'm in new city, kindergarten closed, so stuck at home.
Is there a way to ask for resources at Kaidale’s school? G or Becca have friends with similar interests who may be able to do respite? Local colleges/universities with special education and/or ABA programs who have students looking to gain experience working with a special needs child?
I feel you I have austim son and try get job I been stay home parent for after high school both kids now I only have my 6year son in find someone who able take care of him when I have to work or do other stuff that he can not come to
Kaitlin I admire you so much as a person, I love yr vlogs you and your gorgeous boy kaidel are a true inspiration 💯💓💙And just so you know I have been watching you since you started you tube, I rarely comment 🤗
I am in my master's program for ABA right now. I have been trying to think of what I could do after I graduate to best serve the autism community. I will look into if it is possible to have a childcare center for kids who have autism! I spent many years as a respite provider and know how much of a struggle it is for parents to find quality, safe, and reliable care. Sending you much luck!
@niebieskimotyl3308
3 жыл бұрын
For me, evening and weekend childcare/classes would be great. But I don't know if there are many parents with similar needs.
I wish I could watch him. I have the patience with children with autism and special needs. My son Joshua has atisum and he's fantastic with children with special needs also. I kid you not. His teachers would have him sit in between the children that would become upset and not listen to the teachers but would listen to my son. I guess because he understands them more and he's tall with a deep voice. Lol 😂. Unfortunately, we live in Chicago Ilinois
Have you tried looking at the au pair program? It is a lot to consider having one but there are tons qualified for that
Finding care for my son while I work is really hard. He refused our before and after school programs as he couldn’t cope with the other students and noise. No family support meant I had to source a carer myself till his funding was approved. Being a sole parent is really hard sometimes
So happy for G...
Kaitlyn I love your videos and watching kaidale learn and grow , but it seems you let him get by with alot of things , like telling him not to take his shoes off and he does anyway and telling him not to go to the pool but you do anyway , do you just go along with him to avoid a meltdown or ??? Not being mean just curious
@jennrussell6704
3 жыл бұрын
I agree as well but I have been scared to ask because I love you guys but why does he get whatever he wants.. and as Beth said not being mean at all just curious because I know with my kids if I tell them no and they do it anyways they are in trouble and if they wanted to go to the pool in the rain and started opening the door I would say no and shut the door..so curious as to why
Kaitlin thais also my biggest worry. I work 5 days a week and need afternoon support. It is also my number 1 concern
Is Summer someone you could ask see if A& P could take Kadale to school.
You could have a babysitter that knows about stuff your son has so you could hire anyone
I'm sure you've already explored, but Surfers for Autism and Abbie's camp.
He needs more toys!! Just kidding. Take care.
Im sure if u ask cilla, or summer or becca, or g, ull be able to find someone qualified.
Soooo true....
Hello Kaitlin and kaidale 🥰❤😘😊🤗
I noticed the swing in the background. How are you able to hang the swing in apartment room if you don't mind me asking? My nonverbal 14 year old son loves to swing and request his platform swing everyday from therapy so we have to go to the park everyday. He would love one in his room.
@Kaitlin_and_Kaidale
3 жыл бұрын
It’s called a gorilla gym swing on amazon
@katiebenton2910
3 жыл бұрын
@@Kaitlin_and_Kaidale thank you so much! 🤗
What kind of gods are them the so cute we have two pit bulls they are the best dogs
We have no respite companies here in VA! They will pay a respite person $9.60/hr but you have to find your own person and no one wants to watch a nonverbal child with behaviors like my daughter at all let alone for $9.60/hr and parents are not allowed to supplement the hourly rate.
@tiffaniclark4373
3 жыл бұрын
I was going say it the pay and Benefits and lots time it part time
Hi! Did you have ever thought about getting an au pair? I know they are program for special needs kid. Idon't know financially how much is, just a suggestion
Hello From Canada 🇨🇦 I have a 3 year old that's been diagnosed in March with ASD and he's completely non verbal. He's suppose to start school next September. I'm sooo scared and its very stressful . And If it wasn't for my family I would never have a babysitter even with them I'm soo nervous on if my son is 2 much when babysitting so I don't go out for long.
@anikboucher4832
3 жыл бұрын
Oh and I call my son Bubba all the time. =p
Being a nurse for many many yrs I ssometimes
I dunno if u heard of 'our landing crew'. Stephanie and her family moved from Jacksonville to Colorado and says the therapies are so much better
@wt0416
3 жыл бұрын
They would never move. Kaidales school is the best school for autism.
Perhaps there may be some caregivers via camp I am special that Abby goes to? Any nursings aides or wards men/orderlies from your hospital?
I realize it is a real and serious issue...but on a lighter side....just drop him off to hang out with Abbie at the Mass household, I am sure they wouldn’t mind one bit! 😜 ....for real I am kidding though. Best of luck! Btw I have a friend that was a nurse in various settings who switched to home based but still had some visits...until COVID and it became 100% work from home. It is insurance related but not exactly sure how to explain what it is for sure.
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Where did you get the dogs harnesses and what is the brand?
@jamieowings6935
3 жыл бұрын
I got them off Amazon. The brand is rabbitgoo.
I'm sorry I could help you but I'm in new mexico I'm certified but I'm to far I'm so sorry
I WONDER? if K could get NURSING care since he takes meds? It may be easier to find a nurse? Check with some home healthcare agency. I don't know much but it was just a thought?
Have you tried Care.com?
Is that your dog
Maybe another camp buddy?
Why don’t you join Pricilla’s MLM company and work from home doing that and KZread like Asa? They seem to be very comfortable financially.
@karikarisutherland7589
3 жыл бұрын
She is a nurse, that’s a great career. Finding care for special needs children is just harder than normal because we have other considerations to take into the situation.