I'd rather be lonely by myself than lonely in a relationship.

@paulmaseman2171

4 ай бұрын

Yes! I used to say when I was married to a woman who, unbeknownst to me, was having a relationship with her ex-boss for six months, that during our marriage I was not alone, but I was terribly lonely. (Cold and unaffectionate woman pretty much always.) Now I can say that I am alone, but absolutely NOT lonely. I can actually interact with my colleagues and friends whenever I like and as often as I like, not to mention the rest of my family. I know which situation I prefer.

@bustjanzupan1074

4 ай бұрын

Aaamennn. I am reminding This 2 myself Tooo, in the last few years . Pwy 🙂

@khankrum1

4 ай бұрын

I hear you!

@billmeecham

4 ай бұрын

Confirmed

@ChristopherSalisburySalz

3 ай бұрын

Absolutely! Being in a relationship with someone that does not appreciate you is worse than being alone. When you are alone you don't have this constant feeling of rejection and unworthiness.

A woman will end the relationship months before she'll let you know.

@MikeBell-ez9gf

4 ай бұрын

That is why counseling is a fallacy. They have left the relationship long before they leave.

@shaolinotter

4 ай бұрын

really until shes secured a new long term relationship. But she will milk as many wallets as possible until that urge comes.

@MrErictank

4 ай бұрын

A couple of years, according to my ex.

@nathangrueber9834

4 ай бұрын

Guys dont click that telegram comment . if you do it tracks you its a scam from India

@Todd_Swank

4 ай бұрын

Sometimes theyve left the relationship just after the engagement, but shes dependent on your income to survive.

She will end her relationship with you in her head to give herself the excuse to cheat, then monkeybranch her way to another guy, THEN leave you. This could take months. So recognising the signs early can save you a lot of time and effort

@shaolinotter

4 ай бұрын

I think emily is putting a pretty ridiculous spin on this. Women will milk your wallet for years while she's with another guy and have no remorse.

@steve390gold

4 ай бұрын

​@@shaolinotter not all of them will. However Emily always likes to see the best in people so the list does come across as nieve

@heretikpapy

4 ай бұрын

I experience that with my ex wife (and only one wife I will have ever). She bring me into raves with her friends, and leave me after 9 years, as a HR profesionnal in the business department of a big bank here. I was still a Designer / DJ... but she changed so much... She left for a dude in her bank coworkers... She made a baby with him, and left him, 1.5 years after divorcing me. At the end, she was just wanting a baby like her older sister. The rest was just flushed out of her life after that. Super duper nice move. Bitche.

@diltberg9627

4 ай бұрын

This is the exact thing that happened to me 20 years ago and it hurt real bad

@nathangrueber9834

4 ай бұрын

Why didnt you see it before you dated her? Blinders? Tits? Coochie? Lack of observation? I havnt dated since 2001. Cos I catch things "before" not after.

Sign #11. She's been fat for years but all of a sudden starts working out incredibly hard and getting fit and losing weight. She's making fitness a huge priority in her life to get in shape to attract that next guy.

@floridaman5125

4 ай бұрын

And finally growing her hair long after 20 years of asking her to do that for you.

@LeeEverett1

4 ай бұрын

Not entirely true, it doesn't matter how fat a woman is there are still guys who will sleep with her

@jamesjoseph4373

4 ай бұрын

Or to try to attract the one she has. Let's face it guys sometimes get complacent and stop chasing the woman they are with. If she fails to attract the current guys eye again, yes she will look elsewhere.

@appliedfacts

4 ай бұрын

​@@jamesjoseph4373yes! She may be trying to make those changes for her partner. Try getting off the couch and join her in her fitness efforts. It will give her something in common with you.

@michaelhazard4007

4 ай бұрын

I figured out a long time ago that when a woman changes her habits usually does it for one of two reasons: Pregnant or a new man.

It’s downright depressing how familiar all these behaviors sound

@talkingpictures9107

4 ай бұрын

How do ibget this off my phonem.

@Todd_Swank

4 ай бұрын

This being my 2nd divorce I am going through, I saw the signs and started expecting it so I wasnt so distraught when the day finally came.

@joeyquiroz5192

4 ай бұрын

I was so blind during the last year of my marriage. My ex fit almost every single one of these. I wish this video had been around about 4 and half years ago. Could've saved me a ton of heartache either way it turned out. 😕

@randybobandy9828

4 ай бұрын

Yup it's disturbing when it's happened to you and you realize how the behavior is so spot on to other women. Bitter women will say that you weren't actually blindsided by the relationship... That the signs are obvious and she actually tried incredibly hard to work things out with you before she "mentality" ended the relationship thats also not true. They consider nagging her trying to get you to fix the relationship. The reason they do this mental break up is purely for their selfish benefit. It makes me sick to see how common it is.

@randybobandy9828

4 ай бұрын

​@@Todd_Swankson you're saying both ex wives acted the same way before ending it? It's wild how they know how to do this almost instinctively or is this shit being taught in a damn class?

As a divorce lawyer I have heard hundreds of breakup stories. A common theme is women go through the stages of grief while still in the relationship and are over it when they leave. Men are oblivious and say they are blindsided- “what happened”

@sundown6748

4 ай бұрын

Yes and after she told him for many years usually what the problems were and they were blown off

@martysykes3221

4 ай бұрын

My father was a divorce attorney. He’s gone now, however, I am deeply upset with him for not warning me not to get married. It would have saved me years of systematic abuse and heartache. Suffice it to say, I am not a fan of that institution.

@BLACKMONGOOSE13

4 ай бұрын

@@sundown6748100%. Speaking as man who did just that. All these signs were there and she told me about them NUMEROUS times but I was “blindsided” when she told me she wanted out. When I think back now it’s embarrassing how ignorant and self absorbed I was. But…I saved it. Married 26 yrs. 😅

@josephwalsh7546

4 ай бұрын

@@martysykes3221He should at minimum have told you how to put a firewall around your assets !

@dickybyrd6865

4 ай бұрын

Agreed, sounds so familiar.

Most of these things are done to make herself feel better so she can have a clear conscience, but when a guy does them...he's the a-hole. The level of hypocrisy is insane.

@diltberg9627

4 ай бұрын

No fucking doubt I hear ya

@erniezimmer7187

4 ай бұрын

Welcome to the double standard Sir....

@exothermal.sprocket

4 ай бұрын

The cancer of the feminist agenda has been threatening the family unit in the USA for a very long time. It's just come to a head lately.

@nate2838

4 ай бұрын

Hey! Don't bring rational thinking into this!

@priscillaL83

4 ай бұрын

Men have double standards more than anyone okaay? Most men think its ok to cheat on their woman. They make excuses like what happens on the road stays on the road. Or they go on so called business trips. Mmmhmm so dont even with all that. You guys are notorious for adultery!

Every single day i watch these and im reminded why I'm better off alone

@c.san.8751

4 ай бұрын

Single vs alone. Big difference.

1. She stops bringing issues to your attention 2. She starts focus on herself more 3. She stops putting any money at you 3. She stops putting any money at you (lol) 4. She stops talking to your family 5. She starts priority work colleagues 6. The little things she stops doing for you 7. Whatever lovelangues she had, she drops it 8. Seggs will be different/less 9. Will not ask you anything 10. She stops planning for the future

@LastEarBender

4 ай бұрын

🙏

@BWS952

4 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@bobdillon7832

4 ай бұрын

Get a life dude. Jesus.

@AndyViant

4 ай бұрын

@@chrisfrandsen4201 Why have you been with her for 33 years again?

@hvacrwrld1402

4 ай бұрын

Yep. Times up. Onto the next one

My favorite is the "you're at work too much" b.s. when they contribute nothing financially at all. Basicly make you work long hours and then leave you because you're never home. Those are great.

@LoLaSn

4 ай бұрын

Because it's not what they mean at all, they enjoy your hard work for their benefit, you're like a stepping stone on her way to get the guy she wants

@01Zenaku01

4 ай бұрын

I'm so indifferent about girls...this shit is stupid. (Walks away)

@Dove88

2 ай бұрын

Yeah those kind of women are the worst, they’re definitely not wife material.

Yes Emily this list is pretty much spot on. In my experience when she gets into this phase trying to talk things out will never be allowed. She has a plan and a time frame already set in her mind. All she is doing is setting up her new life with what she needs. Once she has achieved those goals that is when she'll spring it on you. Oh, watch the behavior of her girlfriends, they're in on it too.

@AndyViant

4 ай бұрын

100%> They probably talked her into it. Single girls keep girls single.

@kwpres

4 ай бұрын

It's like the conversation in Harry Met Sally with Harry and his buddy at the football game.

If she does any of this, dump her. For she has already dumped you. Divorce her, believe me, it is better to be the one that initiates the divorce.

@AndyViant

4 ай бұрын

Especially if you empty the joint account so she can't do it first.

@mitchellblackburn5664

4 ай бұрын

Or why not this. Make her think you need her but just concentrate on you

@appliedfacts

4 ай бұрын

No dude, instead communicate with her what you are seeing. The last thing you want is to dump out of a good relationship based on misunderstandings. Remember these things are not rock solid proof. They are clues only.

@hendrikmoons8218

4 ай бұрын

@@appliedfactsWhere talking 'may' help get clarity, if the rats are already leaving the ship, it is all but done. Do not fall back on simping, it will make her lose all respect and this leads to the 2 main reasons a woman stays with a man. 1. respect (his status that she can ride on) 2. money (what he can provide) In the main article, youtube-vid here, if 2/3 of these happen... RUN! Don't stay and simp her bills.

@Aritase

4 ай бұрын

​@@appliedfactsGood to see someone with a working brain. How much better wouldnt the earth become if people would just learn to properly communicate. To listen with intent and improve ones communication skills should be a mandatory subject in all schools at all levels, worldwide

When you come home from work and she's taken your child and left, it's a pretty big sign.

@KevinJames-yg9eu

4 ай бұрын

When you come home from work, and she's on the phone with her boyfriend and immediately hangs up and locks the phone, so you can't see who she's talking to....

@user-sn4gd3lx6f

4 ай бұрын

sorry to hear bros

If she is bitching all is fine, it is when she stops bitching you gotta be alert!

@timoteo950

4 ай бұрын

True. She wouldn't bother since she has already checked out.

@RapK-fu2sh

4 ай бұрын

Just look at the tone "bitching". If you have an idea of women that they are only "bitching".. good luck. How condescending! Men are better off dating men if they think women do nothing but "bitch".

@marguskiis7711

Ай бұрын

My ex wife is still bitching years after the divorce,

Been married almost 20 years, she's been doing these things most of those 20 years

@b4ph0m3tdk9

4 ай бұрын

Ohh my, bro is keeping it on the edge.

@andersnielsen6044

4 ай бұрын

And what does that tell about you? :D

@hidenwatch7592

4 ай бұрын

@@andersnielsen6044 that I won't leave my children in the hands of family court.

@ciddyfent4246

4 ай бұрын

It tells him nothing. That's what Emily began the video by saying. If one partner has a problem, it shouldn't come down to 'signs'. That person should tell the other person, and make it undeniable that they knew the issue(s), but didn't care. THEN you leave, if at all. The only thing that's going to tell him ANYTHING about him is HER lips, teeth and tongue. Nothing less counts as 'communication'.

@hidenwatch7592

4 ай бұрын

​@b4ph0m3tdk9 it says l won't leave my children in the hands of family court

12. She stops you doing things for her - and afterwards complains to many others that you no more do things for her.

keep in mind that 70% of married women already have the backup guy chosen.

@georgeelder8415

4 ай бұрын

It matters not sir. You can do the same... At least work on your knowledge skills and abilities...

@MisterMiller

4 ай бұрын

This is going to be a deuce of a statistic of prove accurate.

@_..____

4 ай бұрын

Name year of study?

@georgeelder8415

4 ай бұрын

@@_..____ Someone mentioned around 45% of women have a backup plan... 70% seems a bit high....

@exothermal.sprocket

4 ай бұрын

What percentage of statistics are made up on the spot?

What I got from this video is women put so little effort and communication into a relationship in the first place, you probably will be blindsided when she stops doing what little she does you won't notice.

@chatwithaninja

4 ай бұрын

Yes and no. Women communicate complete opposite of men. You will never get a clear answer from a woman. That's what this video is about. On the flipside women don't understand us when we talk facts and logic

@randybobandy9828

4 ай бұрын

Bingo

@Elmeeklo32

4 ай бұрын

Speak on it!

@thzmaniac377

4 ай бұрын

Nailed it.

@steeleheroesmedia4699

4 ай бұрын

You nailed the key point i think: they put so little effort and communication into the relationship and then go on a massive PR campaign to convince you and everyone else that she is putting in the ONLY effort. And she is secretly HAPPY that you have missed her deliberately vague and inconsistent hints and mixed messages. “He just wasn’t listening!!!!! Ge never listens!!!” (When i express a concern or need and then contradict it and negate it by later saying the exact opposite. I never said i communicated ethically; only that communication is important”)

My wife does about 7 of these things now. Nice. Especially when it happens after 33 years together. Well, I guess a woman can choose to change her mind at any time in the relationship. Guys often don't look at marriage the same way. No communication means no chance to fix the relationship. Thank you for the video as it re-affirmed my suspicion about the state of my relationship.

@shocked_shocked7703

4 ай бұрын

Don't give up.

@jasonsanders8091

4 ай бұрын

Draw her out now, so she can't blame you later on, for the break up.

@jalisad3941

4 ай бұрын

That usually means there is an issue that she tried to talk about that was either ignored, not taken seriously or flat out refused. The only other time I've seen this is when she catches him in a lie/action (even not apologizing or acknowledging pain caused) and feels that he has devalued the relationship and decides to match that energy. Are any of these a possibility in your situation?

@jalisad3941

4 ай бұрын

"No communication means no chance to fix the relationship." Facts! But that goes both ways...tell her how you feel and what you are worried about. Then if she opens up, make sure you listen with intent to understand, not to rebuke

@t1aoDC

4 ай бұрын

a friend (female) of 13 plus years told me "i think you could be the one"... we tried to get together for lunch a couple of times, but work schedules prevented that. so we talked on the phone... during conversation, the friend said that she thinks that her man should be able to honest and open with her. i then told her that "i would love to be in a relationship, but i'm scared" (i've been hurt, and she knows this)... the conversation went cold... i tried to contact her the next day. and was sent to voice-mail... i have not since spoken a word to her, nor her to me (we work in the same place and see each other in passing btw... and remember, we were friends for 13 yrs before SHE told me "i think you could be the one"...)

I'm gonna go out on a limb here, I'm certain I'm going to receive some backlash as well, I'll preface by saying, I'm a woman, married 15 years this May. I agree with everything she listed off in this video, but I also feel the need to mention, that just because one or 2 of those things may happen in a relationship, its not an immediate end to the relationship, run away now sort of thing. Sometimes with relationships there is a bit of ebb and flow with all of those things. Sometimes I find myself pulling away when I feel extremely overwhelmed as a coping mechanism, but that doesn't mean I want to leave or have written off the relationship, it might just mean i need a little time to process. The key difference here though is that I come back and communicate with my husband what I am feeling and why I feel this way. I think the key take away here fellas, if she no longer expresses the need to, or desire to want to, communicate with you in any way, it might be time to reevaluate things. I also think too many women are way to toxic towards men and that men often times get the short of the stick. I also highly doubt anyone will even take the time to read this far and realize I'm on the mens side. Way to many women are raised to be narcissistic idiots and taught that it's ok to belittle men and treat them terribly, then wonder why no good men want anything to do with them. I've had plenty of bad men in my life that I've had to deal with, but the women were/are have proven to be way more detrimental. Without good men there aren't good women, with shitty women there are shitty men.

@BLACKMONGOOSE13

4 ай бұрын

I read it all. You are one of the good ones. 😁 I almost lost my wife of 24 yrs. Became a quick study and saved it. Almost 27 yrs now. Best marriage ever. 😅 COMMUNICATION TRANSPARENCY. NO SECRETS! I dare anyone to try it. Prove me wrong.

@akulkis

4 ай бұрын

Most women are absolutely lousy communicators within a relationship once it's established.

@c.san.8751

4 ай бұрын

The problem is 'feeling.' The goal should be the overall state of contentment because feelings are like the weather. Are you content in your relationship? What we feel changes often. That is why it is not a reliable measure of anything.

@Tommy_Two_Two

4 ай бұрын

I read your comment all the way through. Whoo!

@tiredoftheliesalready

4 ай бұрын

You're a woman, but your user name is a man's? Why, though? Almost feels like you aren't a real person at all...or a man working on his ragebait game before going over to r/AITAH. Well, unless ya'll share an account...and IMO that speaks volumes in and of itself.

All I heard was "It's not worthy the burden."

@AndyViant

4 ай бұрын

It's all I've heard for over 10 years. Best 10 years of my life.

@chrisking6667

4 ай бұрын

Straight out brother. Been in love twice. Never again. I literally make a direct point of telling new women this at the start, before any bedroom antics. It seems to make them want me more...? Guess they like the challenge of fixing me or something. In the end I'm the asshole for some reason... even though I warned them I would not become emotionally invested.

@c.san.8751

4 ай бұрын

@@chrisking6667 My father told me only fools marry for love. He said look for a good partner/teammate. Someone who works hard at everything. It is all about values.

I was just thinking back about my ex the other day and was wondering why she refused to show gratitude for gifts that I bought her... Now I know why... it made her feel guilty! O how I waisted my life...

@nate2838

4 ай бұрын

Theres a petty part of me that says "so lay it on" knowing that it makes her feel guilty until she cant take it anymore.

@catmando4914

4 ай бұрын

You got an education, and an education experience is never a waste.

@ed9041

4 ай бұрын

@@catmando4914 The thing that makes me feel I waisted my life is that I put in to the relationship for years. Now I'm almost 50, have no children and no wife. I can find a wife but I will probably never have children because no young woman would want an old guy and have children with him. So effectively she robbed me of having a family. ... I might have learnt a lesson but the lesson doesn't measure up to the loss I feel. But thanks for your encouragement.

@chrisd9759

3 ай бұрын

@ed...: I would feel similarly about my marriage but I have to remind myself that my life has gone the way I steered it. Even if we didn't know there was something we could've done about it we still can't blame what happened to us on other people because it was still due to choices *we* made along the way and not anybody else.

@chrisd9759

3 ай бұрын

@ed...: And I agree with "catmando". You learned a valuable lesson which makes us smarter. And you're 50, man! Not 100. You'd be surprised what you can still accomplish. Get some good counseling and get back out there. I'm 73 and I ain't done yet.

Guys, go your own way. No woman, no problem !

@Last_one_before_I_go

4 ай бұрын

It saddens me it's come to this, but I accept it.

@cyrusfreeman9972

4 ай бұрын

This is capitulation and cowardly. I say this as a betrayed husband.

@Last_one_before_I_go

4 ай бұрын

@@cyrusfreeman9972- can't shame me. I put in 27 years married. Quality of divorcees is not appealing, they have their own issues. No reason to marry unless having kids. I'm in my mid-late 60's there's no incentive to chase them unless it's just for sport, an I'm not interested in playing that. I simply don't want the crap they bring at their age.

@t1aoDC

4 ай бұрын

i'm 36, and i can tell you it ain't no better in my age group...

@melanehme3661

4 ай бұрын

Waiting for robot ladies to be perfected (and affordable) 😆

A dentist told me that when a 30-40 something woman gets he teeth fix, she will get a divorce within a year.

@sunbutma4285

4 ай бұрын

Dang my wife got her teeth fixed when she was 35 yo. It's been 12 years since and our marriage is stronger than ever. Sometimes women just want to finally fix there teeth 😁

@relicpathfinder2800

2 ай бұрын

​@@sunbutma4285 Or she got a side love and suddenly happy and you thought it was just the dental work.

@sunbutma4285

2 ай бұрын

@@relicpathfinder2800 hahaha maybe you're right, but hey we're both happy so it's all good.

@chefnyc

2 ай бұрын

@sunbutma4285 I guess she went to a different dentist 😬

@sunbutma4285

2 ай бұрын

@@chefnyc 😂

The LOVE of my Life passed away August 26th, 2023. We had issues. I can't get over her. I LOVE AND MISS YOU SUSANNE

I found out she cheated on me when I woke up with herpes one day. Very sure sign.

@johnniewes3704

4 ай бұрын

So sad

@russellzigler2180

4 ай бұрын

That's not good.

@c.san.8751

4 ай бұрын

Have her charged.

@coreybomhoff4784

4 ай бұрын

Lmao yup

that's why every relationship needs to start with a prenup. no prenup, no ring, no exceptions. if she sees in her mind, that she can leave you and still get the benefits of your resources, she's much more likely to walk out the door for some petty or stupid reasons. If she has to actually stay with you to get the benefits, she'll try to work things out. That prenup changes everything. she has to be part of a "WE" situation, and not just biding her time until something better comes along, or she gets bored and just wants a handout and then move on.

@CoolKoon

4 ай бұрын

A prenup is kinda useless for someone who doesn't have anything you know....

@jamesreichert6914

4 ай бұрын

then there is no reason not to sign it. :-)

@CoolKoon

4 ай бұрын

@@jamesreichert6914 We'll see once I'll get to that.

@petersulewski

4 ай бұрын

@@CoolKoon $20 bucks is till $20. lol and they will absolutely try to take it from you

I’ve felt these things so many times in my life it almost become self evident if they happen again

They can breakup with you in her head many months ago, cheated with someone else, but still sleeping with you. For them s33x is like nothing important

If she wants to go let her go. Being able to walk away and mean it is the strongest negotiating position

Spot on with all ten. My son just got answers from his mother after 20 years, because he wanted to know what happened. He got the answers that she never gave me. All moved within your ten as to how she worked against our marriage for YEARS. But he unintentionally got my revenge. She made the mistake of asking if she was a good mother. After that cavalcade of him letting her in on his pain and her abandonment while being present, she asked what "Your father" had done that he didn't think was right. He answered, 'Nothing. Dad was amazing.' Yes I did cry with joy when he told me the other night of this. But in a manly way.

@c.san.8751

4 ай бұрын

What a great feeling it is to take the high road. Congrats.

You are right. All those things happened to me but never saw them at the time. I was concentrating on our kids and advancing her career and over looked all those things. After becoming a CEO and going to a week long convention in Florida she came back and ended our 25 year marriage. She said she would have left years ago but needed me to get through her cancer. I wanted to die at the time but my faith and family saw me through it. Going on seven years now and I am finally in a better place

@Dominic1962

4 ай бұрын

Yep. What killed me was the admission that my ex was acting like things were ok while getting all her ducks in a row to pull the trigger on a divorce, having chosen a time I was struggling to do so. With her year or so head start, it left me scrambling to even function on the day to day with the all of a sudden realization of just what might be happening. Luckily I was able to get it together enough to organize a strategic retreat of sorts and not completely loose everything while countering her propaganda campaign labeling me “abusive”. Yes, after about 6 years, I’m in a better place but still having to work hard to fully right my boat. The utter betrayal, using me, lying, destroying my family, dragging my good name through the mud etc. was really beyond the pale and sounds like you got the same sort of horrible treatment. I couldn’t, and still can’t, fathom treating anyone like that myself. It’s pure evil. I never cheated, never laid a hand on her or did anything of the sort, mentally, financially etc. The most neutral way I can describe it after the fact is to say we mutually grew apart. That happening in no way even begins to justify me being “punished” and treated in such a horrible way but yet that’s exactly what she decided I somehow deserved. Unsurprisingly she’s now doing the pathetic single mom song and dance of “dating” people who inevitably dump her after a few weeks and seeing the grass really isn’t any greener.

Don't forget: "she's more attentive to her physical appearance than what she's settled into, but it's not in connection with spending more time with you (probably less)"

Yeah, this (all of those things) happened to me. 11yr relaionship ... she failed to communicate clearly, checked out from 'us', ghosted me in our home for 3 months, and the split only happened when I asked what was going on. I moved out within 2 weeks. Many months later, she comes up with a few reasons (because I had asked at he time of the break up), and tells me softly (among other things), "I should have let you go years ago". Cruel. I thought I was moving on, and that conversation totally broke me, and 2 years later, (3yrs post break up) I'm def still messed up - that person is no longer around (I ceased all contact over 2yrs ago), but the bomb they set off has blown up so, so much in my life. Keeping to myself and I won't easily trust anyone. People are not honest with themselves, so why would they be honest with you? We all do stupid things, make mistakes, say things we wish we hadn't, but some things are huge and difficult to recover from. Hard to imagine truly opening up and being vulnerable. I swear you don't really know someone until after a break up, and then their real character comes out. I won't judge someone new based on someone else, but I will be very, very cautious. In any case, online dating is a shallow cesspool, and I quit that over 6 months ago.

@trevormann8221

4 ай бұрын

I know and feel your pain

@SKBottom

4 ай бұрын

One way that will help you which is also a good way to protect yourself. No marriage or cohabitation. Ever.

@TheHamburgler123

4 ай бұрын

I feel you, brother. 10 years for me. It ended completely out of the blue from my perspective (classic lol) about four months ago. In retrospect, there was clearly a pulling away the last couple of months. When you're with someone for that long that's not entirely unusual, though. I couldn't process and accept it until she actually moved out, about 6 weeks after the split. She admitted that she knew she was done with our relationship six months (six months!) before she broke the news to me. Hearing that really messed up my perspective regarding security and trust in relationships. All the sweet moments, great moment of genuine connection, that happened during those 6 months all just feel phony, like one big lie. All this to say this experience has colored my perception of dating and relationships and not for the best. Moving forward I'll have to be a little more guarded and cautious for my own sake.

Every single one of the things she did to me. But the entire time said she would never leave because she loves me.

If she's about to leave, let her walk away.... She's not worth fighting for or trying to keep. If she's made up her mind let her go. No one needs drama.

Very useful. Good refresher for me. Hurts a bit as a reminder of how some past relationships have gone, and a realization for future ones. I have experience all of this. And being naïve, or unwilling to want to see the truth paid the price. Makes things daunting.

Thank you so much. I wish I could have seen your videos with all this insight long ago. I may have avoided so much pain, mentally, financially, emotionally, blah-blah-blah. Keep up the great work. Thanks..!!

Sounds like she becomes a distant roomate. Man this is heart-rending.

@Jacentheintern

4 ай бұрын

Been living with one for 11 months. She started a new job on Monday, and I have no idea where. Tl;dr “I’m taking my name off the lease and leaving.”

Just wanted to tell you how much you are appreciated. Thank you for standing up for good men and your spouse.

Wow! What a great list of items to look out for. I could have saved myself some heartache, had I had that insight a few years back. 🙃

Starts @2:30

the not talking about bettering herself is a good one.

You are exactly right. All ten of them.

Thank you for this important information.

28 years married. Last 4 were very different in the bed room, eye contact less, no love talk, won't wear things, doggie became a thing so she could think of other men. She used sex as a weapon for 28 years and I went along to try and make it work. No amount of pleasing increased it.

@francispanny5068

4 ай бұрын

Christ, is this what it's come down to ???????????

@francispanny5068

4 ай бұрын

I agree

@Todd_Swank

4 ай бұрын

Oof, I know what you mean. She forgot my birthday this last year and after talking about it why it pissed me off and calling her out on all of these signs, she tempted me with sex and then we went to dinner. But it was usually 2-3 months in between together time for the past 2 years.

@akathman4399

4 ай бұрын

I'm right there with you 33 years married, last October she totally forgot our anniversary one of my adult children had to remind her that's the only way she remembered, and that was the last intimate time in our bedroom was because she felt guilty she forgot our anniversary. Horrible communication and arguments since then nothing has changed, so I'm selling all my stuff planning my exit route and I'm going to file first. Sucks to invest 33 years into something like this and just be shit on but that's how it goes nowadays. Guess I'll see if she finds the grass is really greener or not😅

@andrewosso2943

4 ай бұрын

@@akathman4399 exactly. These guys that say just leave. It was a Christian wedding vow to me. It was 28 years of love investment, 3 kids. Glad your pulling the plug. My gut said to divorce her at year 12 but I had little kids that I didn't want hurt in it all. God bless you and I hope you fare ok in all this. There are no winners. In my case she's lonely as hell and moving closer to her family 2 states away.

It's useful. Keep it coming.

i could have used this advice 10 years ago... spot on...i know that now...i didnt know that then.

WOW, we are in our low 70's and almost all of the 10 items you have mentioned describes our relationship for the last 12 years.

Wow I’m experiencing all of this right now .. i am preparing myself as best I can.. what sucks is i have 10 yr old twin girls with her. My daughters and I are inseparable.. interesting to see how this plays out. Seeing this video? I am not going to sit back and watch it hit me in the face..

@WhyYallActinSpicious

3 ай бұрын

What are you going to do?

The first two you mentioned in the opening before the introduction actually happened in my most recent relationship that ended more than eleven years ago.

Honestly it's kind of dangerous to tell men these things because it could make them paranoid of an impending breakup. Could cause the wrong men to react badly over little things or perceived signs..

In the process of getting discarded now, and that's OK with me.

@bonitablack8306

4 ай бұрын

Sad.

@steve390gold

4 ай бұрын

Use this time to your advantage and end the relationship on YOUR terms not hers. Trust me on this

@johnniewes3704

4 ай бұрын

@@steve390gold I'm also at that point but don't know how to end things with her... I'm tired of living like this, with thoughts and clear signs of her not interested in me

@northernmichigan4108

4 ай бұрын

Me too

@badideaman

4 ай бұрын

I just got the boot 2 weeks ago. Funny the things that become readily apparent. I got paid 5 days ago and the money is still in the bank!

Emily, thank you for the ministry and effort to make families great again. Family dynamics and legacies can radically improve by starting with the core understanding Of Gender Differences and you really nail it in the videos & shorts that you release. You're doing a great job and may you, your daughter and family be blessed.

Great clues, thanks,

She's not going to fully cut it off with you until the guy she's seeing fully commits to her. Coming from a now old geezer.

@c.san.8751

4 ай бұрын

When this crap happens, she is usually looking for what she feels are better options. Now you may be an older man, but women in your day were and are of much higher quality when it comes to values, morals and principles than modern women.

Thankyou and well presented. This is one of the saddest and difficult videos I've had to watch for a long time as I recognised every single point you've made just prior to my relationships ending. I am single now after two failed marriages and two failed relationships since. I recognise I'm partly to blame for what's happened. However, I have a close relationship with the Lord God and nice female friends which include my first wife. This is plenty enough for me and I'm very happy with my life.

Thanks for making these videos. Gives me some hope for the future.

So you're telling me... I follow these rules and I can have her out of my life?

WOW...Nailed it!

Came across your channel some the advice you provided happened to me personally. Think some guys have pretty much given up prefer staying single and happy instead of being one those unhappy relationships. After having one to many bad relationships staying single was one the best things.

I needed this video months ago!

Where were you like 3 years ago I could have really used this list back then but I've learned my lesson so far. Definitely useful.

@chrisbish1420

4 ай бұрын

How do I figure out who liked my commit?

Avoiding physical contact is the biggest one. If she doesn't want to hug or kiss, its over

I need all these tips and more❤

11. She goes out to clubs with her single friends

@TheHamburgler123

4 ай бұрын

I don't mean to victim blame. However, getting involved with a girl who enjoys clubbing is a losing proposition from the get-go.

100% on point- I personally experienced everything she said

Thank you for your videos Emily, i appreciate you! You are a wonderful Lady!

Good video as always, Emily. Helpful.

A woman is always about to leave you. the "constantly trade up" mentality is absolutely ingrained at this point. slightest mistake and she's out unless you a millionaire gigachad

Anytime they can show/prove your "faults" or lack of perfection...they will.

Thankyou Emily for your insight. These are fairly obvious as "her" just holding back. The don't buy me anything is the one that used to trip me up. I don't want or require gifts and each time a girl says she doesn't either I mistake that for growth. It wasn't. My relationships rarely go past 6 months, I used to blame myself for being to insular, but it turns out my girls were as much to blame as me. I need to choose better. Thank you Emily.

Yep going though most of these right now. But at least she was upfront and said we are only married on paper.....good times.

@randybobandy9828

4 ай бұрын

Ouch that's cold. I hope you don't share your bank account.... Start hiding your money in your mom's account and start preparing to hide assets.

I had a woman leave me after five years because she met a man who she had more feelings for then me. She told me that she cared about me but never loved me. They got married and divorced after about thirty years. When she left me I sank into a very serious suicidal depression. I saw a mental health therapist but it did not help. I kept blaming myself. My friends helped me more then anything. That emotional pain of her leaving has never left me because I did nothing wrong. I lived in an emotional hell for about a year. Should she have stayed with me, someone she did not love? You cannot make someone love you. I am thankful that I had her in my life for five years and at the same time I wish we never met. I eventually met someone and we have been married for over forty years but the pain of her leaving has never left me.

@WasimIslam22314

4 ай бұрын

That pain never left you because you are yet to see the blessing of, and blessings that came out of her leaving you. Living a false life with a fake love could have been absolutely devastating for you if you found that out at the end of your lifespan and not at the beginning. Count yourself very lucky and once you fully realize the blessing of her departure, you will heal from that pain and sense of loss. Best wishes!

@TheHamburgler123

4 ай бұрын

As much as that sounds awful and damaging, it sounds like you pulled off a major win in the end. A 40 year marriage, so long as it's actually healthy and satisfying, is an incredible accomplishment.

@Artnahc

22 күн бұрын

You gotta let go and let it be sir. Hope you well.

Good vid, thanks!

All true. 11. She'll start going to the gym, 12. She'll start going out on her own to see "friends" (other guys), 13. She'll start separating her finances from yours to protect herself, 14. She'll either stop having sex or will only have sex on special occasions and if she's a bit drunk.

Thank you I didn’t like her in the first place and now I know how to do this correctly. Nice lady.

I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL and I Tell all of my guy friends about you....GOOD FOR YOU...and THANK YOU

Can you do a list detailing the signs of when a man is fed up with a woman?

Great video and on point a bit late for me but if I didn't break up I would not have started watching you XD It is quite unreasonable to expect to understand these things without communication

Thank you Queen Emily

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..

@peterwilliams6361

4 ай бұрын

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back.

@user-er9hv4pl2u

4 ай бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?.

@peterwilliams6361

4 ай бұрын

Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex..

@user-er9hv4pl2u

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

@user-jq4fz6co8b

4 ай бұрын

Dwelling about it online won’t help. The only thing that helps is either diving into a really good hobby or talking to a new woman that likes you as much as you like her. I thought my first love was THE one, but found someone WAY better than her not very long after.

Did you do something different with your hair? Looks fantastic! 😊

Great video. Earned a subscription.

I really hope there is a, where are they now for these guys, I'd like to see how her surgery went. Congrats Sean on your 100k!!! So happy to see your channel growing!

Yes, more like this please!!!!

I mean, it's a bit late for me personally - divorce was final 8 years ago. But yeah. Looking back, lots of these behaviors were present.

There's a song by REO KEEP pushing, listen to the words .I rather be alone then miserable.

Yeah...she did ALL of these, but i was so CoDependent at time, I lived with it. She emotionally checked out 14 years into the marriage when she started her affair with her sister's husband. Then another 13 years later, before she divorced me and physically left to marry him.

Sad as it is, these kinds of comment sections in videos like this are kind of a comfort to me knowing I'm not alone. I've been perfectly fine with myself being single for years now and really aren't making plans for things to change. I'm done with the chase and the rejection stuff. It's become so ridiculous out there

It has been my experience that it is not if, but when they leave.

When my partner stopped talking, gave me the silent treatment and cut off sex. I couldn't even bring myself to lie in bed next to her. I would get up and lie on the couch, she would then ask me why I am lying on the couch. Obvious I thought. Turns out a few months earlier she got a new job and she was looking for a way to put me off her. I didn't click at first, doh! I put up with it for 10 days then we had a talk, I told her I was leaving, she cried, asked me to stay but I felt so disrespected that I was done, I hate game players. I realised afterwards that when she moved job she obviously found someone she got the tingles for. I was so glad to be gone in the end. I suspect she made a move on the new guy afterwards but I kept away from her completely so don't know for sure. As soon as a woman plays games I am gone. Never have I ever went back.

I could have used this video a year ago. At least I have this info now.

You look more natural today. It's very nice to see your natural beauty

The 2 easiest and biggest ones to spot: 1. She doesn't initiate contact first anymore. No good morning/night texts, doesn't ask about your day, no random check ins or cute selfies; you just get nothing. 2. She doesn't initiate sex anymore or the sex has become so minimal its left you frustrated. If either of these are true, just end the relationship before she does.

@randybobandy9828

4 ай бұрын

You're definitely not wrong

I recognize pretty much every point.

I wish I saw these in my ex. She had almost all these signs but I was blind in love to see. I hate that bucking fitch!

most of these do make sense, but narrating and breaking them down this way, made me realise how my ex-wife has been doing them for months before our separation!

Once she got her promotion these signs immediately began. Now she just touched base with me. So many factors I won't go into now, but I am just asking for a conversation and honesty. All I get is either silence, change of subject and "I'll really bust with work now" . I just would be told "we're done" than the silence. If your mind changes, heart changes, say so. Unfortunately it's just a sick game for adults.

I noticed these things with my x:es. But im glad those relationships ended, now for the last 3 years I have been with an amazing woman, we are still in Love as we were when we fel in love 3 years ago. We can never get enough of each other and its amazing. If it continues like this, she is the one.