The fact that kandi had no idea about generational trauma and was kinda laughing about it 💀 thank you Amanda for educating her “and you can laugh but” 😂

@stsbk

Жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@Noise_floorxx

Жыл бұрын

Kandis response was so cringey and dismissive.

@jacifrankie9893

Жыл бұрын

Yes. With all due respect im like Kandi it didn't work cause your mama is crazy. You gotta go back.

@leslieboozer7529

Жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same thing.

@leslieboozer7529

Жыл бұрын

Amanda is telling her what she needed to be told. Maybe her laugh is a coping mechanism. And Kandi needs to learn she is not always right.

Omg, the way Kandi fought you on therapy! 😂 I'm so glad you stood your ground. We gonna get there one day. 😩

@Foodieengineer

Жыл бұрын

They should have had a therapist on the show.

@Foodieengineer

Жыл бұрын

@@janaysauce but she said they didn’t do therapy on the show

@richblondebombshell

Жыл бұрын

Kandi did this also on speak on it! Amanda talk about light skin blacks playing roles that are meant for brown skin/ dark skin ppl. She didn’t see Amanda’s point

@misha3514

Жыл бұрын

Great interview Amanda keep it up. I wish the major network will give you your own talk show.

@trolltrolling9022

Жыл бұрын

@@Foodieengineer people hear what they want. I did not extrapolate from the conversation that Kandi was fighting the idea of therapy at all. People passively cause problems and often the entertainers fall for the ploy, as did Amanda. I wouldn’t have ❤ the comment but that just me!

I completely agree with Amanda on the topic that Black people carry trauma in our DNA. I am a Nigerian scholar whose interest is on African and African American studies. I just completed a research on epigenetics and trauma. Studies have revealed that when a group goes through any traumatic event of historical proportions, the generations that follow carry trauma in their genes passed on to them from their ancestors. We carry this trauma as a result of centuries of the slave trade and many decades of colonial rule.

@rerebrook5057

8 ай бұрын

Thank you for that. I’m often shunned by my family when I bring that point up in conversations.

@ememmichaeludo2044

8 ай бұрын

@@rerebrook5057 You are welcome 👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿

@missbb5432

7 ай бұрын

🎯🎯🎯💯💯💯..been saying this most of my adult life 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Kandi has put so many of her friends and family on and has helped so many people be successful. I don’t know why members in her group won’t trust her when it comes to the business of the group! She’s noticeably successful in all her businesses! I honestly feel that Latocha always wanted to go solo, but she continues to go about it the wrong way, which is why God never blessed her moves. Tamika has finally found her voice and recognized that her sister was costing her her bag! And trying to receive her mothers love by standing by her sister even when she was wrong, has made her mature and move differently. I believe Tiny is willing to work with the group and Kandi. Latocha needs to swallow her pride (Pride comes before the fall!) and stop letting her husband cause her to make ungodly decisions and boost her head ! She is not bigger than the group!! And although she has a beautiful voice, it cannot be heard over her shananigans! Please recognize the gift that God has given you all in this group, swallow pride, pray, go to therapy as a group, get all husbands out the business and go be great!!!❤❤❤

@mskeenajo

Жыл бұрын

Yes, Tiny mentioned a lot of the times Kandi was correct when it came to the group's business ventures and mishaps.

@kaunagora6656

Жыл бұрын

Yes, please. Let go and let God with therapy.

@priscillabackmon

Жыл бұрын

This is the truth!

@T4KE_A_BREATH

Жыл бұрын

Because they would rather cut their nose off to spite their face… sometimes people won’t receive the greatness from someone they’re clearly jealous of… smh.

@yeyoof3496

Жыл бұрын

If this true Y is Latocha the only one punished.🤦 Asking because they are so many broken unhealed successful people. Billionaire are seems to be hard business people. But yet they can be seen as Favored. I think they are all talented and did not have a coach like a sport team. I really like the group and I do not want to see all this pain. 🧘🙏✌

Amen Amanda!!!! I been saying that Black people should get free therapy. Living in America as a black person is traumatic and we have PTSD PERIOD!!! And that's just some of it.

@DL-sl3nt

Жыл бұрын

Gurl bye! Speak for yo self and the natural hair women who live in that echo chamber!

This interview shows that Kandi’s heart is in the right place when it comes to their group’s situation.

I love that Amanda discusses Therapy.

I love that Kandi always keeps it real and is relatable. Doesn’t have a reputation as a liar or being messy.

@sistaviv1521

Жыл бұрын

Are you serious? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@RealTakerslady

Жыл бұрын

@@sistaviv1521 Yup.

@chocolatecapricorn9418

Жыл бұрын

@@sistaviv1521 Exactly! Lol

@sistaviv1521

Жыл бұрын

@@RealTakerslady This is a joke.

@RealTakerslady

Жыл бұрын

@@sistaviv1521 No. Its not.

Kandi’s reaction to therapy is why people don’t go to therapy.

@mentalhealth4098

Жыл бұрын

Facts

@sagitterrorists

Жыл бұрын

Yessss, her response was so ignorant.

@deddrickdharris

Жыл бұрын

I was surprised and thrown off by that!

@derrickangton4342

Жыл бұрын

@@sagitterrorists not ignorant if she’s aware of it. Someone just don’t wanna do n deal

@eshamontgomery8641

Жыл бұрын

Therapy doesn't work for everyone... Her perspective isn't ignorant. I can relate.

Amanda we love you sis! For real! Thank you for ALWAYS driving the importance of therapy. All black people DO need it! 💯

Kandi is diplomatic and business minded. Her thought process even when answering questions displays she is always thinking about future collaboratives and keeping things professional and making sure she doesn't tarnish her character. 💞

I love an anti group think interview. I love that Kandi don't accept anything at face value. She asks questions and respect opposing opinions. Amanda navigated that conversation very well. I love it!

@Noise_floorxx

Жыл бұрын

True but the anti therapy narrative is tired.

@treashurespencer

Жыл бұрын

@Noise_floorxx I don't think Kandi is an Anti Therapy advocate. I think she understands what works for her and is confident enough not to agree. Therapy is definitely a tool, but it takes many tools to build a stable home. Nothing is absolute. Therapy is awesome and useful, but not for everyone, and that's okay. We have to allow people the space to use what works for them and respect that even if it goes against our personal principles or practices. The ultimate goal is just to simply do the work, rather that be Therapy or in Kandi's case it could be stepping on stage and singing. Who knows...

@cinema-q

6 ай бұрын

@@treashurespenceryes, but lets not get therapeutic activities (getting on stage & singing) confused with actual therapy, which is facilitated by another person. It’s not the same.

@treashurespencer

6 ай бұрын

​@cinema-q Fair assessment, my question for you is what is the end goal? Is it to simply say you go to therapy or to actually heal and gain tools to be a better version of yourself. If someone path to healing is not your style of therapy they should not be judged for not fitting into a narrative that reflects someone else's solution to a problem. I know the difference between the two just as much as I'm comfortable with being an independent thinker and doing what works best for me. I love that there's more way to be a better human. I appreciate your feedback. I welcome difference of opinions.

"They" care about your writing ✍️ accomplishments. They will never tell you because they're jealous. Keep being great, Kandi 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽

“Wearing all leather & du rags” Amandaaaaa I’m screaminggggggg 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I would love for Kandi to teach classes on business. I always love to hear her speak and her hustle. Amanda I love your channel and just you as a person i really admire you

It's soo refreshing to see the lighter and softer side of Amanda, but make no Mistake she's still a Pitbull 😊❤

I was surprised to see Kandi's ignorance regarding therapy. It has been scientifically proven that slavery effected our DNA.

@chelliechelle6602

Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, everyone does not know about epigenetics.

@tvxfilmtime

Жыл бұрын

She’s from the South. Such a different culture there

@saaunique

Жыл бұрын

That’s literally no excuse. I’m from Georgia and read several books on generational trauma.

@chelliechelle6602

Жыл бұрын

@@saaunique I think you may be a person who likes to read and learn. Others must be exposed to new information by people like you who are either formally educated, self-taught, or both.

@kate-lynnmotloung3985

Жыл бұрын

I guess as when explains the discomforts of the group and Amanda goes 'well, therapy' and she says 'that is something therapy would fix, wouldn't it?' it kind of makes sense why she's 'ignorant'. It doesn't sound like she's aware of the traumas that has and that black people experience, as well as what Amanda is trying to explain to her. Maybe it's a matter of being educated a bit more. It's kinda sad to see folk not realise what they're going through.

Amanda is correct, trauma store itself at the cellular level and is passed on. I’m convinced that due to the unique circumstances of descendants of the enslaved and colonized globally, need therapy. I point to the collective conditions of our people as evidence. Asé

@AshleyRaeTV

Жыл бұрын

You’re 1,000% correct so is Amanda! Asé

@AdrienneUnae

Жыл бұрын

TRUE!!!!!

@mybizness247

Жыл бұрын

I believe her. Amanda used the fear of dogs reference and I immediately connected. I had a traumatic experience with a dog when I was a teen so I became so fearful of dogs. When I had my sons they were petrified of dogs and had never had a personal experience with a dog so I did not understand but I asked myself "what if they're afraid of dogs because of me?" Same with heights, I had a huge fear of falling from high places and my sons were the same. I was always mad at myself because most boys often aren't afraid of everything. So now I'm working on it with them

@-Epiphany

Жыл бұрын

I believe this as well..and the older I get the more I see it clearer...

@miraclesblessings5044

Жыл бұрын

Agreed..

Yes, black people still have a stigma about therapy. But it has changed for the better within the past ten years or so.

I was rolling when Kandi said, “I can’t wait for them to see this effing show so they can know..we are not the problem!” I swear she was doing a Dave Chappelle impersonation. 😂 Enjoyed the podcast!

@nodoubt8842

Жыл бұрын

Who's we? Kandi is the problem. If the sisters are against her then why was Tiny in the group Xscap3 with them as late as spring 2022?

@kishajones841

Жыл бұрын

@@nodoubt8842 bc Kandi was filming tv shows and working on a Broadway production at the time. They wanted to record new music so they formed Xscap3.

@chinajohnson9805

Жыл бұрын

@@nodoubt8842 how was she the problem tamika and tosha are the ones beefing and tosha over there tryna make kandi the reason her solo album didn’t come out 30 years ago even tho she already gave two other reasonings why that album didnt see the light of day and she had 30 years to put out another album but neglected to do so and tiny did xscap3 along side the sisters b/c wanted to do new music kandi did not want to do it so she opted out there was no beef between them when they did that ep

June's Diary was the first group that came to mind for me. I was introduced to them when they opened for Xscape. 🔥 group

@bwell6941

Жыл бұрын

….🙋🏽‍♀️

@Blaze_Undefined

Жыл бұрын

What happened to them? I so kiss their music 🤩

Mama Joyce may be a narcissist and that may be the reason therapy "didn't work" for them. Anyone who's ever dealt with a narcissist says that family therapy only makes things worse because they get mad when you expose their behavior to outsiders. That doesn't mean that individual therapy for Kandi herself wouldn't be beneficial. Therapy only works if all parties involved are willing to do what it takes. If you bring someone to therapy with you who is determined to not listen or admit fault, that's a "them" problem, not a therapy problem. Therapy only works on willing participants. It isn't magic.

@TheRetroWoman80

Жыл бұрын

Read my mind

@Kcarneirowashere

Жыл бұрын

Narcissistic people don’t won’t you to expose them. Absolutely true

@jay_e36

Жыл бұрын

that part. and its VERY apparent that Joyce is a toxic parent.

@keishaeller6714

10 ай бұрын

Idk if she’s narcissistic, but she has shown some behaviors that anyone would call dysfunctional or disruptive to any healing Kandi would want. When she said her mom wasn’t necessarily agreeing with her leaving the cheating millionaire, I was like 😮

@politicaljunkie1967

6 ай бұрын

Mama Joyce has some major trauma. She lost a child, man. That would tear any parent up !!!

Wow I didn’t know Amanda had a channel, I’ll definitely support ❤

@TheAmandaSeales

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!! Spread the word ❤

I made a KZread account just so I could officially subscribe 💞 this is my first KZread comment ever.

@TheAmandaSeales

Жыл бұрын

oh wowwowowwowowowo i'm so honored!!! Welcome and thank you!

@mybizness247

Жыл бұрын

Oh my goh😮 well you went big for your first subscribe and comment. ❤

I give Amanda sooo much credit, because trying to have a conversation of real substance outside the drama was like pulling teeth.

Yeah… this needs to be a Netflix special Amanda and Kandi need to produce this

“How you gon’ tell me” is some true Taurus ish 😂😂♉️

Kandi is such a Taurus ♉️ 😂 and that’s coming from one lol but Amanda is right black women have certain stress receptors in our bodies that literally aren’t present in white women which may contribute to different health problems we face at a greater rate like premature births for example

@kalinpalmer3468

Жыл бұрын

Team Taurus!

@skip031890

Жыл бұрын

I like Taurus people. They're usually very attractive as well.

Yesss Amanda, you better teach about generational trauma!!! Teach the people✊🏽

I think i would watch a Documentary on why girl groups breakup and she should interview someone of the women /girls that were in group. It's crazy that hardly any of them are still together or have the original members 😞

Great job, Amanda, with explaining the impact of trauma and the need for therapy! 👏🏽👏🏽 Wow! I really enjoyed this interview and Amanda's energy.. a new subscriber 😊

Loved the episode!

The best interviews in my opinion feels like a conversation. Great conversation 👏

My favs. This conversation was great! I enjoy both of their perspectives and questions.

I enjoy the interview. Amanda comment on black people and therapy was spot on! Kandi spoke on issues that would be discussed in therapy but I think because she is use to pushing through and being the leader when underestimated I think she created coping mechanisms and a mindset that helped her to thrive in tough times. And when you think about she often shares that she didn’t have others that she can depend on to assist her and she has helped to put other people on. With that said, I don’t know how else to say this but I noticed that Kandi has a knot on her neck. It may be nothing but I hope she gets it checked out by a doctor. I don’t have the other forms of social media to DM her.

@corscheeverette1700

Жыл бұрын

She already got it checked because the fan were concerned lol but it’s nothing she’s fine

@fegrace_1

Жыл бұрын

@@corscheeverette1700 Thanks for sharing; that is great news! I felt bad for leaving a comment that could appear like I was criticizing her body, but because it was on her next I was hoping it wasn’t associated with her vocal cords etc. Have a great day!

Great chemistry! This was fun to watch.

I love that Amanda Seales seems to be a bit more softer and vulnerable here - more relaxed and less tense. It's more digestible. I love that for her. I usually always agree with her but her energy use to give me anxiety a little lol. Seems like something is different about her. I love it💜

Awesome Job Amanda And A Shout Out To Kandi.Long Live The 90s.

Amanda, you're always a breath of fresh air. This was simply lovely and insightful.

I'm sad that things aren't great between all of you but Xscape as a group is LEGENDARY. What you ladies created together is STILL the soundtrack to so many of our lives. ♥️🖤💚

@sistaviv1521

Жыл бұрын

A messy dysfunctional drama group. Team SWV with no drama.

@BlackGreedy18

Жыл бұрын

@@sistaviv1521 Every time someone says something good about Xscape, here come you lame ass SWV fans that’s stuck in the 90s. Go buy a ticket to one their shows it might help increase their cheap ass booking fee.

I love you Amanda, thank you for lifting us up through talk! You are talk!

I'm so proud of you Amanda !!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤

This was a great conversation. Thank you for asking her about things that she never really gets to dive deep into.

Great show. Love the conversation!! Love when it connected that oh therapy probably would’ve help. I see why she or other don’t wanna do therapy but that small trauma she experienced from her momma not talking to her made her not wanna go would’ve been great 🧐 in therapy but people dnt like to be vulnerable n open

What I appreciate most about this is that both women are able to share their individual journey, knowledge and perspective with one another minus belittling or overall negative energies. Healthy and stimulating exchange/debate 101. Hope this continues on your podcast, Amanda👍🏻👏👏

Kandi is so likable!

I am loving the Kandi interviews on YT!

such a fun organic episode. amanda you are a gem. i enjoyed this so much and SO glad small doses is now visual. so cool >>>

@TheAmandaSeales

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! So glad you're enjoying the visuals!

A necessary duo! Loved the conversation. 🔥💯👏🏾

AMANDA, thank you for your platform!! Thank you for your words!!! Thank you for sharing 💎💎💎

@TheAmandaSeales

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

I love Amanda and Kandi, two of my favorite actresses and spirits 💕

Love love love this vibe ( y'all need a show together )

They definitely needed mediation as a group. But also, given the latest stunts on Latocha's part, seems they should move along as three.

@tabithabrice5905

Жыл бұрын

They seem to get along better without her like sister's

@stryfetc1471

10 ай бұрын

What has LaTocha done??....what stunts?

Loved this interview!!

Please listen at the 27:06 mark. Y'all tripping. Kandi did say... And I quote, "I'm not saying therapy isn't"....

Yes, love ya'll both. Great interview.

I think Iyanla need to come back and do Xscape Fix Your Life. It’s needed. I would watch.

@hurtspublishing3906

Жыл бұрын

Even iyanla can't fix this

Two of my ABSOLUTE FAVORITES!!!

Absolutely love seeing these two.

This was so good!!

I loved this interview!

I love Amanda and I have grown to really appreciate Kandi. Unfortunately I was one who grew up thinking Kandi “slept her way to the top “ and I hate that for me ..and her . Those rumors really stained her perception so I am SO glad she is being vindicated . I know it must feel good to know everyone is seeing what you have been saying for years.

Realllly good interview!!

Love these together ❤❤❤

I have been watching these series for so many displays! I can’t be mad at ya and this podcast!! 🫵🏽🤨

This interview just made me a subscriber. Lol, baby when Amanda was talking about therapy with her mom and said we came here to heal. I hit that subscribe button so quick.😂😂😂

@mlucanuzoh2360

Жыл бұрын

Same.

Loved the pod! 💖

Their chemistry is so awesome!

Great conversation!

Also Kandi. Tamika is in therapy and you've noticed the change in how she deals with her sister and mom. Don't you think that could be helpful for you? I'm not seeing how you didn't connect that dot.

I honestly came on for Kandi, but you YOURSELF dropped so many jewels 💎 , thank you for the INSPIRATION one ACE (actors, creator, entertainer) to another ❤❤

I was so embarrassed Kandi assumed Amanda was mixed. Innocent mistake cause I did too

30:37 Kandi!!!! Amanda has had this conversation with you before on speak on it but in a different context about colorism. Kandi has Been rich for a while and a lot of black rich ppl sometimes are removed from the day to day of being black in America because of their privilege. Hard for me to explain

@richblondebombshell

Жыл бұрын

Please Amanda we need this topic to be a episode

@mybizness247

Жыл бұрын

Right, a great deal of black celebrities gave said racism doesn't exist and all of a sudden become colorist. I remember when Lil Wayne said that racism doesn't exist in his world. Of course you're treated differently, you have money. The only time we're tolerated is when we have money or we're making them money.

Great interview, great guest!

Yes 🙌🏿, my fave’s indeed. You and Kandi are both go-getters.

The converging of these 2 worlds...much appreciated! XO

I really enjoyed this

Great point Amanda, young me being an Xscape fan, and adult me being a fan of your evolution. Adult me is indifferent to adult Kandi's RHOA tenure. Girl Groups break up bc intentions and expectations are not defined and because they do not seek therapy--crisis averted. Kandi is cool but these worlds should never collide again. Amanda's versatility made this a great interview. Adult me doesn't want to hang out with my 16 yr old self and shoot the shit! I love their music but that's as far as it goes. I read comments and people frequently say Kandi is relatable and nonproblematic. I feel that Kandi simply isn't intellectually stimulating, which makes her unrelatable. Great job Amanda, explore, pitch, sell this idea, case study girl groups, and why they break up on a larger platform. Have them cut the check and I would definitely check in.

This is soooo good

Enjoyed this 👏🏽

I am so happy to have Small Doses videos on You Tube

Hello Amanda, this was really a great Podcast with you and Kandi, truly enjoyed it. Did you or are you getting your royalties? Loving it!!!! Thanks for keeping it REAL!!!! Smooches 🤣🤣🤣🤣💐💐💐💐😘😘😘😘🙏🙏🙏🙏

It’s the legacy group comment for me. I want to see the groups of my youth perform well into my placement at the senior home! And therapy is simple. Therapy is a tool. Receiving treatment and successfully using the therapy specific tools to thrive is no different then receiving primary medical care. And very much like primary medical care, if skipped or abandoned it could possibly result in some of the same issues skipping primary care does.

What a lovely surprise! Thank you for the interview. Greetings from UK 🇬🇧

@TheAmandaSeales

Жыл бұрын

Our pleasure!

Xscape, Mama Joyce, and the disrespect that is allowed from Mama Joyce toward her husband tells everybody Kandi don’t believe in therapy. Sis, we love you but there is a certain toxicity in communication that you both perpetuate and allow from others that could easily be fixed in therapy.

@sagitterrorists

Жыл бұрын

Don't let Kandi read this and her voice gets shaky. She's in denial.

Amanda Seales and her authentic energy and her entire presentation.. I started following HER career because she was introduced to my life through (Insecure) and when the show was over there had been some comments about her at a club when she had to fend for herself because the cast from the show were being petty and rude... So when she started doing her rants and shorts. A while back I was hooked. Then I saw her stand up specials... The girl is the truth.... Spiritually gifted and like he I to feel like Ive been here living on this earth in a different time but it familiar

Preach Amanda!! Therapy. Therapy. Therapy.

Beautiful ladies, I have always like Xscape. This was a cool interview.

Amanda, excellent interview, I live your energy, wit, beauty, and views. Kandi, you guys need to do an Escape movie starting from the 90s to the present day with all the salacious events. It will trump New Edition & Bobby Brown stories. You guys broke the Inernet.🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤

@justrob4433

Жыл бұрын

It should be a mini series. Give us more screen time for the perspective of each member.

We always talk about girl groups…but male groups breakup too. The only ones I know of are the Migos.

Woot woot. I listen to you on Spotify. ❤

Kandi is on to something and I’m here for it😉

Truly a wonderful interview. A group that is still together is June’s Diary. They are PHENOMENAL. @Kandi is successful & I believe very reasonable. If everyone could just please be sensible, put your bag first and not your feelings.

i really like their energies together. they are fun and friendly with each other but will also get each other together !

Amanda, I have subscribed!!!

I love both your drives to succeed❤

Love both these ladies

I always root for Amanda, she makes me feel sssseennnn do you hear me!!!

I’m so THANKFUL this moment of growth (AND OUR UNFORTUNATE TRUTH) happened on CAMERA 29:02❤!

Two Amazing women!✊🏾💪🏾👏🏾