A traumatic birth experience is one of those things that holds one back from going down that road again 😢

@mapleleaf3803

9 ай бұрын

I completely get that! With our first, I had a horrible hospital birth experience. I literally had PTSD for years from it. I read Ina Mays Child birth book and it was sooo helpful. We had an unmedicated, home birth last year and it was an amazing experience. I'm so grateful we had another. My husband wants another one already, but I just want to enjoy the babies we have for now. ♥️

Kind of just seems like you're pushing folks toward considering having another child. This isn't super neutral. It would've been helpful to offer considerations for years into the future that don't involve children to counter some of the language. "who do you see sitting around your Thanksgiving table" is difficult to envision if you don't have an additional child yet. It would've been helpful to consider, "What kind of gatherings do you see yourself being happiest at in the future, large full fun family gatherings or intimate cozy get togethers."

I have 1 daughter. I don't know whether I want another one or not. When you said how do I see myself 20 years later. I don't see family or children. I see myself at the top of my career. Nothing else. I feel sorry that I see this way. I guess I shouldn't have anymore babies 😭

@edlynpz

Жыл бұрын

Same here

@mahmudaislam5428

Жыл бұрын

Also worth mentioning, we are so happy with our only child. We like the harmony of just 3 of us. I think she has occupied our whole heart ♥️

@edlynpz

Жыл бұрын

@@mahmudaislam5428 me too. My daughter is a happy kid. I just want to do something for my self and always be a good mother for her. And also a good example for her.

@angelab4518

10 ай бұрын

Obviously there is no law that says you have to have more than one child. But for those who says want the best for their kids, don't forget that a mother can't give what a sibling can give. That's just another kind of relationship that lasts a lifetime. It might not be perfect, no relationship is. But its different than friendship, which can last or not, and parents usually will die long before siblings, leaving an only child as a lonely child? Ive just read comments from people who lost their parents early and some mourned to have no siblings to share their family related memories with. Plus, as a mom of 5 I can tell you one child is harder than two, cause parents will always have to entertain their only child and can't imagine how only 2 of them can occupy themselves, giving their parents much more space to breathe. Last but not least, read or watch some comments of really old people about what made their life and what matters most of them looking back. I guarantee, very few will speak of their career...

@mahmudaislam5428

10 ай бұрын

@@angelab4518 i know what you mean. It's true. We are trying to do our best for the only 1 we got. We are not in that mental and financial boat to afford another one. Wouldn't that be cruel if having another child creates more stress at home? We as primary care givers need to thrive not just survive to be able to perform our best as parents

Love this video helps alot

that first question really gets me. I see three kids and fun family time! I have two now and afraid to have a third. This was very helpful thank you.

@texan903

2 ай бұрын

Go for the third. More love, more fun, more support for your current and future child.

It so helpful.

I am so grateful to have found your channel

@readynestcounseling

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! That's so kind. Let us know any questions you'd like answered!!!

I’m 41 and I have two daughters, 12 and 2 years old. My husband and I wanted also a boy but it didn’t happen. I had a second very bad pregnancy with cervix incompetence and was in the hospital for 3 month because of preterm birth danger for the child. Thank God she made it till 36+2 weeks and is healthy. But I saw so many other women who had not that much luck. All the mothers their suffering traumatised me and I can’t risk another pregnancy.

I currently have a 16 year old and a 3 year old. Big age gap right? And I'm really wanting one more precious blessing. My husband and I are 35. But I just think the bigger the family, the better. But then I have wants to my own private time. I'm so torn.

@kristens3413

Жыл бұрын

I am in almost the exact same situation. Did you end up deciding to have one