One of the things that made me feel even more isolated than you already tend to feel when you’ve been on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse, is how most people really just don’t get it. The societal conditioning runs so strong in many that the idea of being estranged from a family member is completely shocking and most especially it seems when that abuser is a mother. Our society, at the moment, is simply still not willing to face up to the fact that not all mothers are nurturers and it’s pretty taboo to suggest otherwise. If any one of us was being abused by a partner, a colleague or even a random person, most would agree that it’s best to walk away but when it comes to family members, so many will say things like “Remember blood is always thicker than water.” Or “You’ve only got one mother”. “But they’re your family” is another common one thrown at you. I could go on but you get the picture.

@sonja7halcyon

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“You know your Mother is the one person you can trust in life” a family member told me recently. I just agreed. One thing I learned in trauma therapy is to know who is safe to talk to about your trauma who is not. It’s enough to know your truth and do what you have to do to move on if you can.

@angelachan5587

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Exactly. So we are pressured to gaslight ourselves, when you are a child by abuser and family and addding society when we grow up

@aNnAkt1qw

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I totally agree with you. Its a shock but we must keep speaking up. Am in a situation with an adult toxic child, they have given me the silent treatment and not let me see my grandchildren for weeks now. I kept making excuses for them. I have grieved a lot for my two innocent grandchildren but am damn sure i will not put up with the disrepect and emotional abuse anymore. Am sick of it.

@yogawitch3

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I get you! I broke up with my mother in 2017 and it was the best thing that I did for myself and my daughters. Peg Streep’s work #daughterdetox saved my life! Check it out?

Thanks Lee...I took this course 4 years ago totally unaware that my adult daughter was narcissitic...as my focus had been on her Dad and my Dad......It s taken me this time to "figure out" what kind of relationship I would like with her..has ended up like a friendly divorce situation as there are grands involved...visits are usually group/fam gatherings... she behaves in public situations...Ha! My Dad passed last year...one of the last things he said to me was "I 'm sorry for being an asshole"....happy for that surprise....my ex husband, a ok with no contact....this video helped me rethink my choices....:)

@trishg126

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Thank you sharing your experience, Ruby. This is so similar to my own situation! "A friendly divorce" seems to be where our relationship has landed after much, much grieving. I'm finally at the point of accepting the truth...and letting go of hope for it to be what I want it to be.

@rubydarlene

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@@trishg126 , I soo hear you...lots of tears for me too...thank you for letting me know I m in good "company" in Lee Harris group...sending love n gentle hugs...life goes on...and change is life....

Yes, stay away from Narcissistic Abuse. Absolutely NO contact

Really resonated with me on a personal level Lee Much wisdom in there Thank you so much for this

Honestly after a good 6 years or so after working out I'd attracted dozens of these relationships /friendships, the cut is just the best way. It's one of the hardest things you will ever do. But for me now, if I'm even questioning slightly the way that I'm being spoken to / treated, I just stop going there. I'm not going to waste my time anymore trying to work out a dynamic. Just go for joy, go for simple, go for expansive.

Thank you for sharing this module. It's been tremendously helpful, giving me the clarity I need on how to deal with a very close family member. Sending love ❤️

What immense support Lee. I am so very grateful for this help in my life journey. Self love or self abuse? "Rise above" as my mother would have said and "stay," or turn and find new ways to live life that are supportive by being kind and receptive to my own needs! "Own oxygen mask first", finally.

This is a Great session Lee...I have been on this path for the last year or so and I can affirm it has allowed progress in my life that was previously Very Stuck. Thank you for your work 💝💫

Thanks Lee for the conversation with narc. situation. Helped expanding my awareness and knowing my position. I’ve seen others where (even me) narc talks to others as “control freak” or as if they are 5 yrs old. That can make us feel being neglected which they don’t realize it.

I just love Lee. I remember why I took all those courses with him. He's great!

Thank you, Lee!❤. The clarity and profound respect and loving that shines through all you share here is truly incredible, and beautiful. Extraordinarily clear and practical, these suggestions led me to reflect on what’s true about the relationship, as well as what’s real about my personal evolution through relationships. What a treasure!

Thank you so much Lee, for sharing this here for free. So much needed in this time. For me again good reminders of this healing process. I figured most of it out myself, after 3 relationships and too many years. The way you bring this is so clear, loving, full of compassion, and free of blaming or judgement. So to the essence of the dynamic. The best I have encountered yet. ❤

Thank you Lee. Your teachings are both healing and meditative. Much needed ❤️🙏

Deeply appreciate this wisdom from you dear Lee. 💗🙏

So grateful to your sound and gentle approach to this. And as ever, right on time 💖 I am feeling the weight of this decision and the break down questions you posed has given me a bit more room to breathe. Sincerely grateful to you Lee. Love always 💖✨💖

Lots of helpful stuff , thank you. What resonated for me was when you spoke about the terror of loss and aloneness, and that we forget that letting go leaves room. Yes! That terror was the biggest thing for me, but I discovered that the room is actually the gift! The emptiness of loss of another is the fullness of gaining back ourselves. It was absolutely awful for months and it can be as slow a process as getting to know a stranger, because that is what you may have become to yourself. But it is such a solid gain. I am finding out so much about myself that wasn't possible to see while with him. A year later, I feel like I am still at the beginning of a treasure hunt. The only part that slightly concerns me about this video was at the end, when you suggested the tactic of taking a break. I just want to add that if the narcissist switches between abusive behaviour and love-bombing, this can be a possibly dangerous move. Because once you have reconnected, you may believe that everything is wonderful and they have changed, only to find weeks or months later that it was a temporary thing. I know because I did this more times than I care to remember. So please be cautious, it can really jam the works and delay the action you know is vital, by years.

Going through it now

Thank you for sharing this with us on KZread. I began to consciously learn about narcissism back in like 2016 and started to see the light around 2018- and finally got the strength to walk away from my narc parent in 2021 after being verbally and emotionally attacked again. Walking away was one of the most difficult things I've had to do in my life- but in doing so my life has gotten soo much easier and way more peaceful. I realized that I was abandoning myself by staying in that toxic dynamic- nothing changes until we make a change in ourselves. Every child dreams of having a loving and supportive relationship with their parents- but at what expense if it's just not there? Another thing to consider is that the more you're around them and the higher the pedestal on which you put them, the more you tend to behave in similar toxic ways- which is hard to look at, accept and correct- when you're still in it. But complete correction and healing is possible. My connection with my higher-self and spirit guides was basically a one way communication (I wasn't hearing or feeling anything from them) until I left and connected to myself. I might be physically alone now, but I've never felt so connected- and what's more is that I'm no longer too far away energetically/vibrationally to receive their guidance. I'm proud of myself and it feels damn good. 💪💔❤️‍🩹💖 Remember, it all starts with you. 🧏‍♀️🤍

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it is so scary to say, but i discover that problaby i grow up in narsistic familie.... i feel so strong that since i live on my own i am scary to feel what i feel , and that i that i only connect with them because i learn tha ti need to be for them..... but I strart to feel my needd, sooo much more since the distant and that i totaly dont feel connected to than.... i was kind of giving the accu, i need to be the point to get energie from, now i start to be there fully for myself. thanks you soo much Lee, worderfull work !

Thank you, Lee.

Thank you Lee this is wonderful. It's also worth considering that the narcissism tends to get more pronounced in these folks, not less, over time and with age. Bear that in mind for yourself. Lee's course helped me very much, highly recommend it! Best wishes to all.

Thank You 🙂

Thank you, Lee. This is an important topic and will help a lot of people. ❤

Thankyou thankyou, thankyou 🙏 this has helped immensely! So much wisdom 💚

Thank you so much Lee Beautiful ❤️🙏❤️

Thank you Lee for sharing this video. As always you speak to important topics and I appreciate this one in particular as I think you anticipated my situation. So grateful for your advice!

What timing u have 💞💞💞💞

Hello lee! Oui toujours dans un timing parfait!! Toujours simplement là!!! De tout mon coeur un tout lumineux merci lee!!! Amour et lumière 💜

Thank you

Thank you 💜

Thank you Lee, very serious section. Love Bernadette xxx❤❤❤

Thank you very, very much. 🙏

Thank you for sharing

Lee, this was very helpful. You try so carefully to guide us to the right decision for ourselves. I can’t help but hear for me, is run don’t walk away from this relationship. It is regarding a best friend parentheses someone I regarded as a best friend at least parentheses and she has ended up saying some of the most unkind things that I could have ever imagined, and I simply will not subject myself to that kind of abuse and beg someone to like me and be my close friend. I really really hate to lose the friendship but honestly, it has already been lost for sometime and it was my questioning the loss that led to the deep and unkindness that was expressed. I really appreciate this video as it is very confirming for me. I’m just so thankful that I am at an age where this has not completely destroyed me like it would have in the past. Don’t get me wrong. It hurts and cuts deeply but I don’t blame myself for it. I know it is not mine to carry. Thank you so much!

Yes yes yes yes yes yes yes you can never change them even if its difficult my father and mother and my two brothers are narcissist and i had to stop the contact with them even if its not always bad but its to toxic and to much suffering

While I have been in a relationship with a narcissist, my twin sister and I have an amazing and healthy relationship. We work together every day and laugh hysterically together and it just makes me feel so grateful. And then I look at my mom. Her sister is a narcissist and I started to really start to see that as I grew up and now my mom is 65 and barely has any contact with her sister at all and I've seen the distance developing more and more slowly but surely over the years and it just really breaks my heart because as an empath who has an amazing relationship with my own sister, I truly cannot imagine how painful it must be for my mom to be going through this with her own sister. She is to the point where as much as she loves her she knows that she has to have minimal contact for her own sake. But I can feel how much it hurts her and I can feel how much she missed the good times that they did have before my aunt got really bad. My heart really goes out to anyone who has a sibling or family member who is a narcissist. That is a very very difficult thing to go through and I am sending you love and strength ❤

Thank you very much for sharing this module. It gives me more clarity about how I want to move foreward with my relationship to a family member. I know I will change my pattern, I have already taken a brake. Next question is if I want to explain how I feel and how it has been for me in the last years. Love 🌸💞☀️

Thank you so much!❤❤❤

also to be disociatief could be the normal stand i had as a child, and when i am full there, i am affrais and experience rejection... so i aloud myself to feel that i wish and wanne stay away from my familie, i go so much more better, and i am fully in my power! also i exsist when there was a 3th person coming, when i was with my mom, without she make not connection, only very intenst controle questions to me, to controle and dive in my body an live, living true me... so scary emptyness was normal for me to look at. i hope my story is clear .. thanks everyone!

My ex husband is a partial narcissist I would say, on the spectrum as it's more covert. I unfortunately have to deal with him as he is the father to our children. Nothing has challenged me more than this relationship. It can feel crazy making for sure.

@marilynminer677

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Covert is actually not any less narcissistic; that behavior is often even more damaging to the people around them. How severely narcissistic is the person? Traits? or all the way to NPD? He may use covert behavior more of the time, but they do go back and forth (covert/overt). Getting clearer on what you can expect from him by observing more about where he might be on the spectrum will certainly help you parallel parent. It's truly amazing how predictable their behavior actually is. Best Wishes

My father love your videos Can you put Hindi subtitles he tried to watch your videos with auto translate but they are not accurate lots of love from India 🇮🇳🇮🇳💞💞

I loved the three self 😊I feel we can use them for any relationship?

So helpful, the breakdown and questions. Considering doing the whole course. I know it's self guided at your own pace, but how much time between modules would you recommend? For example, 1per week? I am scheduled to take a writing course 1st week of April and want to budget my time and make appropriate space to process the work fully in a balanced way. Thank you! 💞🙏💞

So funny because she is “MY SISTER “ 😂

* watching my portfolio decline is very disheartening. Holding doesn't really profit much, any idea how on how to earn better on the short run?*

What if you have to be all 3?

Is twin flame real?