honestly no matter what a black woman does with her hair people have something to say. black men have something to say. white men have something to say. white women have something to say. non black people have something to say. if we’re natural we’re nappy. if we rock dreads it’s hard to get certain jobs. if we rock braids someone will call us ghetto and again it’s hard to get certain jobs. if we rock weave or straighten our hair we’re trying to have hair like white women. we never win. when i tell you black women are judged more than anyone it’s true. EDIT: didn’t expect this to get so many likes. to all my fellow black women girls and in betweens you’re beautiful. always remember that 🖤

@taylordowning2533

3 жыл бұрын

Very true

@lollybones

3 жыл бұрын

Truth!!!

@user-xe2io2go1f

3 жыл бұрын

It's hard living in America. In Africa (I'm Zambian) men love the natural hair, mothers encourage you to keep your natural hair. Braids are dope. No one ever calls you ghetto for a natural look. White people do not dare to comment on our hair. The American experience is very sad.

@braidedgirl757

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@ajl2232

3 жыл бұрын

It's because their opinions have nothing to do with our hair but everything to do with our race. They come after our hair and every other thing because they have deep hatred for black women. We black women are the most hated women in the face of this planet. Maybe even in the universe.

Before she started talking I thought she was gonna be British

@joeroot9142

3 жыл бұрын

Yeaaaa same

@angelnelson2012

3 жыл бұрын

Yes cause they leave out be looking bad in Britain

@callmekrayy

3 жыл бұрын

ME TOO! Omg , I thought I was the only one lol

@hannahnotanna

3 жыл бұрын

@@angelnelson2012 looooool

@unfazedjae2645

3 жыл бұрын

@@angelnelson2012 our hairdressers aren’t on America level yet. Plus the humidity ruins our hair

My heart broke when she said “relax that mess” no black little girl should be taught that their natural curly kinky hair is anything but beautiful

@bunnyboo6295

3 жыл бұрын

My mom had them shave it

@BriaBarrows

2 жыл бұрын

Facts.

@blacklyfe5543

2 жыл бұрын

Men too

@bethanyguzmanferia1571

2 жыл бұрын

@@blacklyfe5543 yeah, but it's not the same

@melancholiccatharsis9914

2 жыл бұрын

@@bethanyguzmanferia1571 it is the same

Moral of the story: don't be BOTHERED to care about what other people think. If you aren't supplying the air that I breathe, then your opinion is not relevant!

@skywalk78none94

3 жыл бұрын

Tell it!

@dumbidea1007

Ай бұрын

It would have been the moral if it hadnt ended with her weird monologue

The leave out is supposed to look terrible. Not every black woman knows how to lay their hair or stop it from getting frizzy. It's supposed to highlight the fact that she doesn't know how to deal with her hair. I noticed how bad it looked too, but as the film went on, I realized it was a creative choice to highlight how she's struggling. It's not meant solely to embarrass black women, but to make you aware that we can't look perfect all the time. People have to be realistic.

@aishaevelyna7767

3 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU YOU GOT IT!

@vinuthomas2814

3 жыл бұрын

At the top? I think this is a difference between men and women: she's still so pretty, so men wouldn't notice. The guy even says so.

@aquariaverse4651

3 жыл бұрын

@@aishaevelyna7767 Oh wow! I didn't expect one of the people who made it to reply. 😅Thank you for writing this beautiful story and you did a fantastic job acting in it!

@aquariaverse4651

3 жыл бұрын

@@vinuthomas2814 She is very pretty, but it won't change how she feels inside or how she pushes people away because of it.

@lukethelegend9705

3 жыл бұрын

Nobody can look perfect all the time.

Who else watched this thinking that lil girl had beautiful hair🙋🏾‍♀️

@justinwallace451

3 жыл бұрын

i damn sure did and many other black men like me did women got to stop caring what the world says and really hear what we are saying any black man that diss your hair was probably taught by a self hating woman or thought you didn't do a good job grooming it i promise you we love your kinks and curls and we really would love to stroke your hair in intimate moments with out you bitching about how long it took you to get it put in.

@justinwallace451

3 жыл бұрын

i only compliment women with natural hair styles no matter how cute your weave is i refuse to support that insecurity

@titianiaburgin6749

3 жыл бұрын

@@justinwallace451 Most African American women do not wear weaves and wigs because of insecurity. Yes of course, I know some do because of their own personal and societal issues. But most wear them because of the versatility and stylishness without damaging their natural hair. Thank for your truthfulness, and we appreciate you for loving us just as we are.

@justinwallace451

3 жыл бұрын

@@titianiaburgin6749 Thank you for hearing me and appreciating my point of view

@jasonmccreary4781

3 жыл бұрын

Me! She had amazing hair. Some are not blessed with such locks. Evern her hair as a child was pretty and fluffy and looked soft.

"When the world tells you that a part of you that you can't change is bad, it starts to make you hate yourself. Can you really blame me for not wanting to share that with you" that's the message.

@anonymouslearner2454

2 жыл бұрын

😢

@anastasia10017

Жыл бұрын

Please note it was HER MOTHER that told her she was ugly and that her hair wasn't worth the MOTHER's time or effort.

My EX husband wanted me to sleep on my hair at night without a bonnet. He hated for me to wear a bonnet to bed. The one time I did not wear a bonnet he complained that my hair was all over my head in the morning. He did not like perm wigs sew in kinky twist corn rows or braids. He found a long hair thin hair Becky. I found out and this natural hair Black woman lost 197 pounds in 3 months and 15 days. Guess who is miserable and wants his bonnet wearing ex wife back? Nope Nope Nope. I love my freedom and I never go backwards in life.

@luvburden5743

3 жыл бұрын

U go girl!!!!!!!💛💛💛💛💛

@BlackKiryuu

3 жыл бұрын

Very good.

@mermaidlilyrose

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. What a tough thing to go through. The best revenge is living your best life & watching those fools live in regret of how they treated us. I hope you are still thriving & shining bright

@brandonpeacenlove4375

2 жыл бұрын

Why couldn't you loose yjay weight an

@brandonpeacenlove4375

2 жыл бұрын

Why couldn't you loose that weight and be the best version of yourself while you was with him...you literally gave your husband the worst version of yourself physically

I hate how we are raised into a world of self hate unknowingly as children, brainwashed into thinking that what we have, all the beautiful features, aren't good enough.

@RPRosen-ki2fk

3 жыл бұрын

It's often the case that we are ... VICTIMS of out upbringing.

@aishaevelyna7767

3 жыл бұрын

thank so much for your comment. It is truly about a woman at the moment when she learns she needs to look inward and find self love.

@MichelleSPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

And that’s why we should screw what society says. Because whether we have love handles or we’re short or nose is too big or our hair doesn’t fit societies standards, there’s very few women who perfect everything society says is awesome so what’s the freaking point? This was an amazing short

@jss8215

3 жыл бұрын

Black women make themselves victims by succumbing to the mockery of the world. It’s takes a group to stand up to what’s wrong to make change not adapt to a standard that is acceptable because it’s easy. Fighting back and loving yourself brings change

@MichelleSPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

@@jss8215 They don’t make themselves victims!!!! How can they be a victim for something they can’t control? We ALL suffer from self doubt and Confidence from time to time and others more often. Doesn’t make anyone a victim! Smh

She was in a sunken place. The coworkers touched her hair, yet she didn't even flinch. No boundaries.

@TheLeah2344

3 жыл бұрын

That’s why her weave was a mess.

@rubymargaritais5657

3 жыл бұрын

Awww po baby.

@theboldeststatement4005

3 жыл бұрын

It wasn't actually her hair though, so it makes sense that she wouldn't flinch. She had no connection to that hair on her head- that's why it looked crazy. She was trying to live in an identity she felt she had too, rather then her own.

@naya6593

3 жыл бұрын

I was mad🤣🤣🤣

@boochi7087

3 жыл бұрын

One old white dude coworker tried to make a joke about how often I change my hair during a work meeting and I shut that down so quickly, I swear I heard some people gasp. My hair is none of your damn business unless you're giving me a compliment! Next question.

11:45 "When the world tells you that a part of you cant change is bad, it makes you hate yourself" awesome quote

This almost made me cry. It really hit a very personal nerve. Feeling like nothing I do is ever good enough, whether I’m natural, with a fro, braids, or locks, or a relaxer that gave me chemical burns and scars, or rocking a sew in or a wig. People always felt it their absolute NEED to force their opinion of my hair on me. I don’t care how you like my hair. And after years of self hate and with a lot of self reflection and deliverance I love myself and all of my beautiful God given features, just as everyone else should. We are not mythical creatures were humans.

@PabloCotugno

Жыл бұрын

what makes me cry is how americans cant see how they whine about nothing i know these things happen but... this channel seems to always have the victim as a woman or minority Life is more complicated than how americans see things Yall victimise the world in the most heinous way yet whine about people not liking frizzy hair Americans make me sick

Being a white male who has dated beautiful black women and eventually married one, I get so sick of people always asking ME about my womans hair. Is it real? How long is her real hair? Can she grow an afro? Does she wear wigs? Has she ever done dreadlocks? It’s such an uncomfortable topic for me that I can’t even imagine how it makes a woman feel to be subjected to ridiculous questions and comments. And God forbid if she changes her hair... the comments like “oh, I liked it better before, why did you change it?” Or “What happened to your hair?” Come on people, can we treat others with respect when it comes to their personal choices with black hair. Can we start empowering women and young girls with comments like “Your hair looks beautiful!”? When we as a society place so much importance on something that in reality doesn’t even matter, we create self hate and underlying conditions that affect women for the rest of their lives. I have seen it time and time again with women of color who can’t love their natural hair or think they are too dark or are insecure about certain facial features. Tell your children they are beautiful and give them the confidence they need to be themselves in a world full of judgement. If you have questions about natural hair Google or KZread it. Stop with the questions and comments and start with the appreciation and respect.

@Josherrificly

3 жыл бұрын

I am always so disgusted by people's ignorance. Why are they so concerned?

@khwhi1

3 жыл бұрын

💯

@coachberline

3 жыл бұрын

🙏🏽💖🌹

@elariamiranda4334

3 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏👏

@2tuff977

3 жыл бұрын

this deserves so much more likes

FOR THE RECORD: The actress wrote the story👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@Lethisha7

3 жыл бұрын

There is nothing more powerful than sharing your own story. The message is the medium. It took me a long time to embrace and love my hair. I've gone through over processing it with perms and heat to now accepting my crown. Today, I can proudly say understanding the ins and outs of Black hair care and learning to love it is part of my story about self love. Society's perspective is skewed and one that was not created with me in mind. Brilliant writing and film.

@Mossingen-kq6go

3 жыл бұрын

Contrived nonsense....at the expense of white men, of course.

@saroyafanniel8932

3 жыл бұрын

@@Mossingen-kq6go *EXPERIENCE IS KNOWLEDGE* not opinion. The arrogance of those without direct participation is prolific in Western culture. *Arrogance + Ignorance = Savagery* _____________________________________________________________

@mrs210

3 жыл бұрын

Curiosity then black obsession and self loathing,why????

@saroyafanniel8932

3 жыл бұрын

@@mrs210 The psychopathy of 'wht' supremacy has detrimental emotional and Spiritual effects upon *ALL* sides of the equation... ________________________________________________________

I'm so touched by this film. I love the illustration of vulnerability with her leave out. It also depicts the internalized texturism we have in the Black community. As a Blasian, I've experimented with my hair in countless ways to try to make it more "manageable" and dealt with the "shoulds" and shame along with it. The often times decades-long "hair journeys" that Black women endure is a chronic trauma-related adjustment experience of being othered in our own country, by our own friend groups, and by our own perception. Until there is more representation of Black American women living well and whimsically natural, it won't feel safe to do so.

@CosmicEremite

2 жыл бұрын

I just really can't relate to this struggle. And why is the focus always on one type of hair when it isn't even representative of all black women? Everyone doesn't share the same struggles just because we are considered black.

@bgos4727

2 жыл бұрын

@@CosmicEremite majority le black woman would agree with this struggle. I am just a teen i still have never figure out what i want to do.

I just joined a bookclub and my first read with them was The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison. This video made me think about poor Pecola Breedlove. Her feelings of being ugly were reinforced by everyone around her and she thought that if she just had those blue eyes how happy and accepted she would be.

Honestly whether I wear my natural hair, braids, passion twists or weave, someone always has something bad to say. Everyone has an opinion on black women's hair so honestly just do whatever you like! I have sisterlocks and still receive negative comments so there's literally nothing we can do to avoid that.

@sagarikasingh834

3 жыл бұрын

Well they don't get to have an opinion on how you do your hair or how you feel beautiful.

@coloursarebrighter4719

3 жыл бұрын

@@HappyCamper870 bro who asked for your opinion

@Gay-Icon

3 жыл бұрын

@@coloursarebrighter4719 lol he was complimentary though.

@John77Doe

3 жыл бұрын

N N Shave it off like the Egyptians and wear a wig of straight black Asiatic hair. 😍😍😍😍😍😍

@122hsrfe

3 жыл бұрын

@@sagarikasingh834 exactly. I don't care anymore lol. I just do whatever makes me feel good

This one speaks to me. My whole life changed when I learned to make peace with my hair, accept it for what it is, work with it rather than against it, and love it! A lot of black girls are raised with deep shame about the unique texture of our hair. Hopefully younger generations won't have to feel that.

@aishaevelyna7767

3 жыл бұрын

oh man this is exactly what I needed to learn and why i wrote it. Thank you for sharing.

@aprilmay1061

3 жыл бұрын

@@aishaevelyna7767 Very good video. It hits on a lot of points regarding our perspective of our hair (= our identity) We are programed from birth to aspire to be what we are told is the idea of "perfection" without being taught to discover what is perfect about ourselves. In other words, teach our babies that they are just fine the way God made them. We have a long way to go, but we are trying. This video was short but spoke volumes. The scene with the child says it all. Brought back lots of not so pleasant memories but that's ok. It brings the subject up for conversation. Good work. Thank you.

@nikkinorman4254

3 жыл бұрын

How is it unique? It's just hair. I'm literally saying this as a black hispanic

@XxMercuriiXx

3 жыл бұрын

@@nikkinorman4254 did you not read her comment?

@aishaevelyna7767

3 жыл бұрын

@@aprilmay1061 No THANK YOU for your lovely comment. it's so rewarding to know you see value/took something from it .

I wanted more. I wanted to hear the ex-boyfriends response to her question "can you blame me for not wanting to share that?" This young woman made me feel what she was struggling with. Amazing.

@donaldbadowski6048

Жыл бұрын

He didn't want to answer her. He wanted to hug her.

Trauma from childhood can stick hard. This girl with BEAUTIFUL hair really got traumatized as a child and her entire life has revolved around it to the point that she can't see what the world sees. This one is deep on so many levels but it reminds me of what my Grandma used to say.. " The biggest problems I've ever had were the ones that didn't really exist".

Don’t even get me started on women who want to touch your hair. It’s not performance art. Keep your hands to yourself!

@myckalaross8973

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏾 I hate that

@therealselenaselena

3 жыл бұрын

Right!!

@drinkwatereatmelons7048

3 жыл бұрын

A LOT OF ADULTS LACK MANNERS. WOULD U REACH OUT TO TOUCH SOMEONE'S DOG W/O ASKING IS IT OK? WILL HE BITE? WOULD U TURN THE KNOB OF A CLOSED DOOR BEFORE KNOCKING? WOULD U REACH OVER A CO-WORKER'S LUNCH? THE LIST OF ILL MANNERS GOES ON. SIDE NOTE: SOMEONE'S UNCLEAN HANDS TOUCHING MY HAIR🤬

@brendielahooha

3 жыл бұрын

I had so many people, family member, friends, hair stylists convince me to do treatments with my hair (relaxing, formaldehyde etc). And I did it plenty of times. I had two phases in my life that I developed tricotilomania. Now that I am more mature I can see, that the way I think my hair is most beautiful and that makes me most happy is in its natural state, taking care and Hydrating it. (I do not jugde who prefer their hair straightened or other ways though)

@africanodyssey4805

3 жыл бұрын

@Aeternalis Armentarius have you ever bothered to see it from our side? As Black ppl, we don’t know what it’s like to have y’all hair either. I don’t know what it’s like to have hair obey gravity or have completely flat hair. We’re not outsiders in this human experience. Your hair is just as foreign to us as ours is to you. And when I’ve seen white girls who’s hair I thought was nice I simply COMPLEMENT them, not TOUCH them. Y’all will ask someone’s permission before touching their dog but blatantly grab hair that isn’t yours before even saying hello??( which has happened to me and friends). We don’t know where ur hands have been, we don’t even KNOW you half the time. Yt ppl need to learn to respect Black ppl as equals, because I’ve never in my life heard of or seen a yt person(male and female) grabbing a yt woman’s hair out of no where in bathrooms, classrooms, as they’re walking by, at work, etc. When it comes to each other you know how to respect boundaries. But then you feel entitled to invade our personal space because you “feel” like it.

Brilliant! The trauma for this woman was her own mother condemning her hair. I thought it was beautiful the way it was, but the stylist couldn’t convince her, no one could. Her mother already planted the seed of revulsion for her natural hair. So sad.

@lightglowinthenight

3 жыл бұрын

Hummm...got any clues as to why her mother condemned her daughter for her hair?

@zionassedo

3 жыл бұрын

@Bradley Gaju Complete BS

@salmaabdullahgb

3 жыл бұрын

@@zionassedo hahaa how black women have literally been taught to change themselves to fit in. literally to intergrade that doesnt magically go away

@zionassedo

3 жыл бұрын

@@salmaabdullahgb External cultural pressure has always existed all arround the world, no matter the color of the skin. But, nowadays, the leftist victimhood likes to set it as racist. Be proud of what you are, that's simple.

@Dontarguewithme.

3 жыл бұрын

As a black woman that was well said!! Our parents or care givers are our first supporters if they condem our lives or behavior it sometimes sets the tone for how we view ourselves!!!

I think the end comment, "Can you really blame me?" says so much. And the shot at the end of her in front of the headlights looking paralyzed- what a powerful metaphor. Brilliant film written by and starring Alisha Evelyna. Thank you for sharing!

Am I the only person who realizes it started with the Mom. Everyone hypothetical person is getting called out; black guys, white guys, could workers, not Mom tho

This actress has some acting chops. I think she’s amazing.

@aishaevelyna7767

3 жыл бұрын

I'm falling over. Thank you.

@MisterG2323

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. She made me teary-eyed and that's a good thing. Brava!

@chubbyemu

3 жыл бұрын

@@aishaevelyna7767 great acting! and great writing too 😃

@Jefferson-xi8tu

3 жыл бұрын

@@chubbyemu Your channel scares me

@rishabhsonkar4593

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, she's superbly brilliant 😎

Man this hits deep. It really isn’t just hair. It starts when we’re little girls. I had my first relaxer in the 1st grade. I remember in middle school I had a full blown panic attack over my natural hair. I was so afraid because I had been conditioned that it wasn’t pretty enough or straight enough or long enough. I didn’t wanna see it and I damn sure didn’t want to let anyone else see it. I spent the entirety of my 7th grade year with my hair in a ponytail. If I could go back, I’d give myself a hug and tell myself “Your hair is absolutely perfect”.

@aishaevelyna7767

3 жыл бұрын

this is such a lovely story. thank you so much for sharing. This was very similar to my experience. I wrote this to let black women know that someone sees this and understands. Thank you.

@Ny.Lynette

3 жыл бұрын

@@aishaevelyna7767 Thank you for writing this! Very well done and I appreciate you for it!

@Ny.Lynette

3 жыл бұрын

@Aeternalis Armentarius you’re entirely too kind lol! Thank you!

@synn103

3 жыл бұрын

Same here sis it’s so common we gotta break this cycle

@kamigriff

3 жыл бұрын

Same my families nick name for me was woola head. I remember getting my hair pressed and burning my scalp with the steam. Getting hit for moving. I honestly felt relief when I got my relaxer. It wasn’t just my mom. It was was my whole black family aunts uncles cousin. I went natural before anyone in my family 12 years ago and I love it. My husband loves it. He loves my wash n go more than me straightening my hair, but I do whatever I feel like. We need to free ourselves of this slave mentality. We will not do this to our children. Break the cycle queens 👸🏿👸🏾👸🏽

Aside from the collective trauma black women have with their hair, she did a great job portraying how all those incidents impact us, our confidence, and our self worth. This is so true for any trauma - how she’s instantly transported back to younger years, past experiences, how she was hyper-focused on others’ hair present day. She eventually focused so much on her own hair that it impacted her ability to form meaningful relationships and missed that she had someone there trying to be supportive. Would’ve been great if she had other black women around that had been through similar situations to process it with. Reminds me a lot of my past trauma, especially body image issues stemming from remarks made by my mom and perpetuated by *so* many people over the years.

@foundationforbuilding-scar2060

8 ай бұрын

Great point

The type of story that lives with you. I feel so much in reaction to it. Kudos to the entire cast and especially this writer. Incredible.

She's going to be late for her job interview worrying about what a man thinks about her hair

@criticalthinking6929

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Damn I was wondering if anyone else observed that fact.

@ellejarrett42

3 жыл бұрын

First thing I thought . That’s her issue right there.

@potatoalpacas6114

3 жыл бұрын

The point of the film is less about what the guy feels about her hair and more about how she let her hair control her, trying too hard to make it seem "normal", and highlights this issue in society, and black women culture in the US.

@jamesbeyer

3 жыл бұрын

@@potatoalpacas6114 lol thank you! My immediate reaction to their comment was they clearly didn’t get and the point flew right over their heads.

@potatoalpacas6114

3 жыл бұрын

@@jamesbeyer glad you agree, and also, obviously not all black women have those natural curls/afro-textured hair, but still the film makes a good point

I seen her leave out before I watched it & said “maybe that’s why”💀 I didn’t think hair had to actually do with it

@thatgirllis2454

3 жыл бұрын

I was looking at her hair too💀❗️

@kaylahearty649

3 жыл бұрын

Same I’m like she might as well her natural hair all the way out.

@susanayeni2247

3 жыл бұрын

I really said the same thing then when he said hair I was like damn

@paigew6707

3 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same thing!

@RavenBaxter

3 жыл бұрын

😩😩😩😭

‘Like.. Beyoncé did that.. in that one movie’ Lord Jesus.. This was actually one of the best short films I’ve ever seen. The way the scenes with her as a little girl were shot from a lower angle, the shot with her and her as that little girl. The way her ex showed his ignorance about her real trauma associated with her hair but that he ‘tried’ to care.

@BlessedOne686

Жыл бұрын

💯

Hair, hair, hair. Some want more, some less, some straight, some curly, some full, some thinned out... the problem isn't bad hair, it's a bad sense of self-acceptance.

This film was beautiful. I had a dear friend and roommate who was black. We spent many nights staying up to the early morning hours talking about the differences in our cultures- open, honestly, and without boundary. We both learned so much, and I am so grateful for our friendship.

@alibalbee2883

3 жыл бұрын

Had a dear friend. Are you two not friends anymore?

@ashleybanksss

3 жыл бұрын

Aw 💛

@rattusnorvegicus4380

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry for your loss....

@miamimiami7278

2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️

@kaysuksess

2 жыл бұрын

@@alibalbee2883 😬

Appreciate the reflection of child trauma impacting her adult life. Sadly her mom made her insecure and the world validated it. Hated she wasn’t concerned about being prompt for her job interview and had to get closure at that exact moment with her ex. Hopefully the women who can relate to her character can find self ❤️love.

@krystal7382

3 жыл бұрын

Queen Kimmi...Amen🙏

@CosmicEremite

2 жыл бұрын

I hope so. This is really sad.

Please note that it was her MOTHER who told her her hair was ugly. HER MOTHER.

I wish I would have seen this short film years ago. It would have saved me a lot of heartache and sadness. Well received. Thank you for the message 💕

“a little bag ladyish” is as bad as tom asking darcey if she gained weight.

@isabellemeyer4625

3 жыл бұрын

90 day fiancee!

@La-PetitMort

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-mb8rf7qk5q pride and prejudice 😳

@iMsOiNsO

3 жыл бұрын

Lmaoooooo wow 😂😂🤣😂🤣🤣😀

@irisagrimes8073

3 жыл бұрын

She's preggo. You can see the bump!

@Beatngu23

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!! I love that I got this reference!! 🤣🤣

Why was I expecting a British accent...

@tierrareed3139

3 жыл бұрын

Bc they leave out be looking a mess 😂🤣

@Henilegasp

3 жыл бұрын

@@tierrareed3139 😅🤦🏾‍♀️

@Henilegasp

3 жыл бұрын

@ShemaB - probably because of how grey and cold the weather looks in the vid... it's mostly like that here in the UK but you get used to it!

@TheSweetForever

3 жыл бұрын

@@tierrareed3139 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. Stop it 😂

@ho-wy4lh

3 жыл бұрын

@@Henilegasp it feels like home

Great story! Thank you for making it.

🥺🙏🏻 powerful message! Well done 💯 i pray this encourages and brings awareness 🙏🏻

The main actress and her younger counterpart were solid tho

@theeclectic6206

3 жыл бұрын

That was cute, when sitting on the floor, her current self looked at her younger self.

"Why don't you grow your afro like Beyonce did in that movie?" Yep that sums it up right there. And if your afro doesn't look like Beyonce's (wig), then that's another unsolicited opinion you will hear. Sorry I felt that one in my soul.

@breakfastattiffanys741

2 жыл бұрын

Whatever accent that girl spoke in, is akin to nails on a chalkboard. So many Omeleto vids have that accent/way of speech 🤢

Great piece of work! TFS 👍🏾

Dang, I did not expect to feel so strongly for this girl in this situation. Well done!

Unfortunately you can be your own worse enemy and not even know it, your mind can keep you prisoned, it's when you TRULY know YOU that is when you DON'T care what anyone says about you ✌️

@jadesola9324

3 жыл бұрын

@überguy not really

@MichelleSPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

It’s true. But I think society does a great deal of trying to portray what is the worlds idea of perfect or pretty and that’s not OK or right. As long as we stop listening to that, I think will all be OK. Because maybe 2% of us in the world would fit that mold and I’m not sure I would even care to fit in it even if I could.

@bobp5523

3 жыл бұрын

Wow! So many good comments : AquairaVerse, Amber Mouton, The Uncolored Man, and madden Brown. madden Brown - Yours really hit home for me. Even at age 65, and I think I truly do knowing myself, I still care what people say, though less so than when I was younger. Perhaps some (like me) need to reach the point where they not only know their "flaws" or even accept them, but rather embrace them. Maybe I'll get there some day.

@maddenbrown3215

3 жыл бұрын

@@bobp5523 you are already there, you have more confidence than you know wear it PROUDLY ✌️🙏♥️🙏

@maddenbrown3215

3 жыл бұрын

@@jadesola9324 Thank you 🙏♥️🙏

wow. something so simple can cause so much anguish in a person's life.

@tena2sweet

3 жыл бұрын

Now imagine being fat. 😢

@frexkles_choxolate7621

3 жыл бұрын

@@tena2sweet Well at least you can stop being fat. All sorts of way to do it. But you can’t convincingly change hair texture whatever you do.

@tena2sweet

3 жыл бұрын

@@frexkles_choxolate7621 also she can have her hair done at a salon and it'll look nice. So much easier than what I'd have to go through.

@jemwithouttheholograms8806

3 жыл бұрын

@@tena2sweet comparing the two is honestly really ignorant lol

@tena2sweet

3 жыл бұрын

@@jemwithouttheholograms8806 she was literally letting something she can pay to have fixed ruin her life. I on the other hand can't do much to help my situation because of my medical condition. So your the ignorant one. Thinking that hair, which is easily fixable, is worse then being fat. This story made it out like she had no control over the situation when 40 bucks and a hair salon would have fixed it. So yeah I can compare the two.

This was beautiful, I think a few people missed the point, it was not about him calling her a bag lady. the bag symbolized how much baggage she was caring in her life. How you carry yourself shows up in the world. He broke up with her because of her "hair" it was not about her hair but that is what she gave her attention to the most. Her hair was one thing that trickled down into her being insecure. When you are insecure you show up in the world as unsure, unhappy and lost. She didn't trust him to love her for all of her because she did not love herself. Our skin is pure gold and when you learn how to love on EVERY PART of you, NO ONE could ever make you feel like you are not valued.

@arteffoff2261

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with everything but this: "Our skin is pure gold and when you learn how to love on EVERY PART of you" No one's skin is gold - not a single human has that level of value.

This is so painful. Thank you for sharing.

Wow her cracking her hands, being tired of doing her hair. Such a mood not a lot of people understand

@missnlahi

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@17MrLeon

3 жыл бұрын

yeah im a guy and due to corona lockdown for the first time i had my hair uncut for a year and i dont know what to do with it. my whole life i had short hair that i could just wake up and go to work without touching them. cant imagine what you women deal with compared to us guys.

@taleenawherry5524

2 жыл бұрын

Arms be burning 😂

@Shenesa

2 жыл бұрын

💯

Her leave out was killing me the entire time

3 жыл бұрын

I literally was staring at it only. Like whyyyy😂

@madolyn206

3 жыл бұрын

LMAOOO Like was there no flat iron available? I-

@aishaevelyna7767

3 жыл бұрын

AHAHAHAH - Yeah me too.

@nguverenahua59

3 жыл бұрын

Lol but it's so true to life! I know I see those eeeeeevery day

@simonecorridon7534

3 жыл бұрын

An here u guys are 😂😂😂😂

As a black man I had to teach myself how to love my hair by growing locs. You want to learn to love yourself and your natural look grow locs

This is so symbolic. Black girl can't find a way with her truth

Something told me his answer was gonna be “it’s the hair.” 😩 Update: I’m not trying to be funny or mean. I get the point of this was to highlight her insecurities about herself and depict what she’s struggling with internally. She’s beautiful regardless.❤️

@kianayemoja463

3 жыл бұрын

Omfg 💀 JAIL!!!

@Maria-sg4zy

3 жыл бұрын

I though so as well.

@vanessababbage9409

3 жыл бұрын

i thought so too

@shaimaajomha3285

3 жыл бұрын

I thought he was gonna say something like people make fun of him cuz his girlfriend is black

@KiDn0cuDi

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

Don’t date someone who calls u a bag lady n thinks he’s being funny.

@KGreen-wz5xr

3 жыл бұрын

That’s 100

@cassiemarie859

3 жыл бұрын

I'm looking at him like for real? not even in her league

@drthvadr3418

3 жыл бұрын

@@cassiemarie859 Of course he's in her league, it's Zaddy. If the characters would have been Tyrone and Becky the comments would have been an epic well worth read.

@ninjanibba4259

3 жыл бұрын

Only if it's good normal banter

@TheLace

3 жыл бұрын

@@drthvadr3418 Becky, the daughter of Karen and Darren...

Wow. This was too real. Thank you for telling the truth.

What a great video, thank you for uploading!

As a woman with wavy/curly hair and a mother of a daughter with coiled hair, I have come to the conclusion that every woman has to decide what personally makes her feel beautiful and honor that, and tune out the external contradictions.

@DLBMOS

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@KC-qr3wk

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. This is what I’ve done. I offer absolutely 0.00 explanations or justifications anymore.

@celesteadeanes4478

2 жыл бұрын

your daughter requires modeling. And guidance first , I think

@simplicityseeu

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

Everything we say to our children at home and in schools should be about acceptance, the most important thing you can give your child.

@finallythere100

2 жыл бұрын

oh but that goes against CRT!

The amount of detail-in this is amazing.

So many of these are almost good, and they never seem to finish.

I was about to get annoyed at the thumbnail until I watched the whole short 💀. This was appreciated. From an early age a lot of black women are taught their hair isn’t good enough or pretty enough.

@drd.n4695

3 жыл бұрын

But, isn't that how Afro hair is? Why shame something made by nature?

@johnwescott3846

3 жыл бұрын

@@drd.n4695 Because the West has some issues regarding race, dude. This is why we're often screwed by the rest of the world.

@drd.n4695

3 жыл бұрын

@@johnwescott3846 The issue with appearance is a universal disease. And I see that Afro hair is no exception.

@REOROWE

3 жыл бұрын

Its not afro hair🤦

@drd.n4695

3 жыл бұрын

@@REOROWE You can go ahead and correct my jargon but that is a minor point in an otherwise important conversation. I can feel her pain because I had been body shamed since 12 and it's over 30 years and I still struggle. Let's focus on the root. Thank you.

The first person to make me feel bad about my natural hair was a random blk woman at a passport office. In an African country (I was born in the West but I was in my parents home country on holiday at the time) And I was just a child. This was over twenty years ago but to this day I can still remember what she said and the hurt and humiliation it made me feel. As much as we love to complain about hair texture discrimination in western society, blk people also help to perpetuate it. Alongside colourism. The hair salon scene was a perfect example. Nonetheless this short was very moving, and the main actress was very convincing in the role.

That was a very strong directors vision. well done. This is why I subscribed.

My mom did the same to me. But when I got old enough and I saw natural hair videos of black women loving and taking care of their hair. I grew it out and now my hair is the healthiest and prettiest it has ever been. Edit: I still can't style it though lol and I struggle taking care of it but I love my hair regardless and I'm never going back

“When the world tells you that apart of you, that you can’t change is bad you start to hate yourself’ this spoke to the 14 year old me and is so so relevant to the age of social media when certain body types and images are being plastered as being the default beauty standard it creates an array of mental illnesses like anxiety, depression body dysmorphia etc I really loved this take and from the perspective of somebody who looks like me and struggles with their natural hair

@shaimaajomha3285

3 жыл бұрын

This speaks to me now

@drd.n4695

3 жыл бұрын

Darling, people have a problem in accepting others as they're. If the hair is beautiful, the teeth is not nice. If the hair and teeth are beautiful, then your bust is not big enough. And if your hair, teeth and bust is ok, then it's your hip, skin, hair and the list goes on and on ... A lot of jobless insensitive people around. And if it comes from your own mother day in and day out, it shatters. Been there. Please love your grey hair dear: I know of young girls having grey hair prematurely but that doesn't stop them being 15 or 20 or 25. It's hard but I do hope you make peace with your beautiful hair, I mean it, for what it is. And your friends and a partner will look for your beauty beyond what is ... My mother was made inadequate that she couldn't accept my love because I saw none of these. I saw my mother. And there are kinder people around love. It takes time but believe in you and take the next step. Much love 💗

@tena2sweet

3 жыл бұрын

@@drd.n4695 I think I might have body dysmorphia. I'm fat, but I think I'm fatter than I really am. Because I have a lot of people tell me I'm not that big but when I look in the mirror I see a cow. it doesn't help that growing up my mom would always tell me I'd be so much prettier if I just lost some weight. Something I've never said to my two daughters and somehow they both still have issues with their appearance particularly my oldest. 😢

@aishaevelyna7767

3 жыл бұрын

I WROTE IT FOR YOU. Really. Overjoyed you took something from it. Thank you .

@demijour1234

3 жыл бұрын

​@@tena2sweet I am sorry to hear that growing up, you had to hear that from your mom. I grew up hearing my mom and my sister (who is a year younger than me) telling me my round face is not beautiful and only oval shape faces are beautiful (guess what shape theirs was). Then my sister telling me I had an Indian nose (we are Korean). As an adult I am so insecure about my looks. My friends tell me that I am more prettier than my sister however I don`t believe them. When I was growing up, I had these marks on my face, I wanted to always cover it up with foundation. It is from a genetic disorder I have. My little cousins were always around me. My youngest cousin who was maybe 7yrs old. I found out was trying to buy foundation to cover up her face too. I told her she does not need it at all but she kept buying it. She was looking at me and listening to me talking about my insecurities even though I never said anything negative to them. Do you think maybe your daughters saw your insecurities and were critical about themselves even though you never said anything negative to them like your mom did. Young kids watch us and listen to us and as they grew older they carry that with them. Just like we did but we were told verbally.

Her hair was so beautiful when she was a kid but her mom made her believe she had "bad" hair which led her to grow up not knowing how to properly style her and also a deep insecurity about her hair that a lot of black women are too familiar with.

this hit too close...i cried

This was deep. Awesome writing and acting. 💕

My girlfriend is black and Puerto Rican, and she has broke down crying over her hair many times .. when I first met her she wore it in a bun a lot because that’s just what everyone else does .. but eventually one of her bosses asked her to to braid it or put weave in it or something so sheet looks “more professional “ .. and the entire time I’ve been dating her , I’ve told her in love her natural fro..that it Iscompletely unique to her , and I want her to express her self to the fullest extent possible .. but I still want her to do what makes her happy with it , no matter what my preference is :. Anyway , as soon as her boss said that , I putsuaded her to let me help her get a new job, so she can quit that one , and We found her one right away .. I don’t know what she goes through personally , but I would do anything to understand her and relieve her struggles ..

Really, she should be able to do whatever the hell she wants with it and still be the beautiful woman she is!

@northshorepx

3 жыл бұрын

The problem is that she can, but she let herself do it. The tragedy is in her own head. She can't stop letting the crap she's felt in the past control her actions now. She can see the beauty as in her mind she's not good enough. It's her burden that that she can't unload.

@kenzielacosta8244

3 жыл бұрын

@@northshorepx Yes, Ive understood that completely.. I wrote my comment because I feel the same and I am trying to be ok with my hair and its a huge journey. Any part of your body. Being human as is, is a completely hard thing for anyone to conquer.

@jamesmcallister9504

3 жыл бұрын

No black woman can truly be beautiful with another woman’s hair taped, or sewn to her scalp.if black women want hair that bad, they need to take the time and grow their own, without the chemicals; its not that hard to do.

I love it straight and to the point well done👏👏👏👏

I love this film and the actors in it. What a powerful and great message. Every women is beautiful and special in their own way.

My daughters who were teens convinced me to embrace our natural hair and I’m grateful for the message

@nikicarrie4071

2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@superfly3990

Жыл бұрын

It's just that it's such a mess and freaks most of the rest of us out.

Their acting. So talented.

@aishaevelyna7767

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Sheena!

@apocalypse7224

3 жыл бұрын

@@aishaevelyna7767 omg even if you are only an actor your hair is amazing i felt bad while watching this 😂❤❤

This was so beautiful and needed for our community and everyone outside of it. It is SO MUCH more than just the hair❤️❤️❤️❤️

Love love this story ❤ thanks 😊

Related to the hair salon scene so much. My mom let them relax it till the age of 12 because she couldn't handle it. Haven't used a relaxer since I started taking care of my hair myself. You need a lot of patience to work out what products and methods work but it easy peasy from then on

@esahcaeeneiradgbo2464

3 жыл бұрын

My mom would always relax my hair. It was fun but also not fun. ☺

@aishaevelyna7767

3 жыл бұрын

YES. easy peasy now. But man what a journey. Thank you for watching and sharing. :)

@DjSiN71

3 жыл бұрын

Well I had no idea, this was/is a thing. I’ve never had an opinion on that hair, I guess if I had to comment, I’d say I love it. ! But I’m not sure this flick is really about HAIR, front row and centre. Interesting tho.

When the world tells you that a part of you that you can't change is bad (like your hair) then the world is wrong. Try to break those bonds of mental enslavement. Your natural hair is beautiful. Internalized racism does exist.

@HennessyNoDash

3 жыл бұрын

Loooool I'm DEAD😂😭

When I stopped perming and straighting my hair I didn't realize how beautiful it was. Sometimes I wear wigs for a different look not because I don't like my hair. I'm in love with my hair...it's gorgeous to me.😍😍😘😘🥰🤩

Love the cinematography!

Growing up, we were a group of 3 girls, one Japanese girl, one Polynesian and me Gaelic. The Japanese girl always wanted to ‘be able to do something’ with her hair, it was ebony black so deep it had blue highlights, so thick and glossy it shone, but she hated it because nothing held, no hairstyle except straight down, pins would slide down in a few minutes, hairbands the same and if you tied a knot in her hair it would also slide down and disappear by itself within a few seconds. My Polynesian friend used to hate her hair because her curls were ‘so much work’ to wash her hair she would block a whole afternoon so she would do it only once a week and hairstyles in her mind were limited to pulled tight over her head and a bun at the back, she would not let her hair loose except is special circumstances. And me, I just loved how beautiful and unique they both were and always thought I could be more like them instead of mousy ‘ordinary’. We all struggle to a certain extent. But none of us needs people on the outside to judge and put us down.

@nomorebrokenbyrds-podcast5849

3 жыл бұрын

Love it.

@DLBMOS

3 жыл бұрын

Amen

@l.t.9659

3 жыл бұрын

You must have met some of the same women i met in school. I had a Filipino girl in my class who had the thickest and blackest Asian style hair. Another girl in my class had that curly Polynesian style hair you mentioned. Here i am. With my medium and thick permed hair that in my opinion needed a new relaxer and they loved that my french twist stayed in place. They both complained that they wished they could do all the stuff to their hair that us black women can do. I wanted the hair the Filipino girl had.

@cronut5786

3 жыл бұрын

What makes you think that your hair is « ordinary » ? And other hair types aren’t ?

@ricardocosta5628

2 жыл бұрын

@@cronut5786 I would presume she meant hair that doesn't stand out for not being so different from most other hairstyles.

I do not know what I like most about this - if he dumped her for lack of self esteem or if he is waking her up to it.... But very strong indeed

as black man with long hair who gets told repeatedly to cut it I feel her struggle. It's not a black women thing it's just the world is not ready for our natural beauty. I refuse to do as others tell me with my own body

Thank U for this wonderful video 😊

She needs more black friends ❤️ (Read the comment feed before you have egg on your face please.)

@therealmaskriz5716

3 жыл бұрын

Good*

@cmdjk1

3 жыл бұрын

@@therealmaskriz5716 yep! It has nothing to do with having white friends. She needs good friends.

@chesneectp

3 жыл бұрын

@@cmdjk1 I've had white friends and I always had to go through telling them how to treat me as a black woman, dont say this, asking why they treat me differently, it's tiring and it does matter the majority of the time

@therealmaskriz5716

3 жыл бұрын

@@chesneectp wierd friends i guess. There will always be differences among people and friends aswell. As long as their not ill intended I can concur. My best friends and I dont have the same race or background and get along splendid.

@therealmaskriz5716

3 жыл бұрын

@Cee Moran that's like saying all people of one race think and act alike. Kinda backwards thinking but i guess I know what you're getting at.

as a black woman this was super triggering i never have loved my hair

@daniellac.7588

3 жыл бұрын

I feel like established beauty standards are the reason for this. I remember that for quite some time I envied those white girls with perfect blond hair and blue eyes. That was during a time where social media wasn't a thing and diversity was misrepresented because TV didn't portray main characters that were different from said standards. This said I hope you know that black hair is amazing! It's the type of hair that has the most potential for creativity and beauty.

very thought provoking, and a truth yet to resolve.

Thank you for this!

"the next one with a white man" wtf. Its the biggest slap in the face when even other black women have something negative to say about black hair. the only thing wrong with the kids hair was that oddly placed clip. Her hair was fine as it was!

@ornamentalyouth

2 жыл бұрын

it was a joke between two black women lighten up

@brownstudios5379

2 жыл бұрын

@@ornamentalyouth those joke will never be funny. especially when black people say them it just sad. idk if you're black but you don't know how hearing that stuff messes with a blackkids mind

@ornamentalyouth

2 жыл бұрын

@@brownstudios5379 no i hear you and respect what you're saying, but it came across as a joke between two black women. maybe not something to joke about in front of children. and no i'm not black so maybe there's flavors and notes that i just cannot fully understand, in all fairness. but the whole point of the film was to show how she developed these issues with her hair.

@cuteyalexia

2 жыл бұрын

It wasn't serious. The mother complains about the texture of her daughter's hair saying that she doesn't know where she got it from. The stylist was probably wondering what the mother expects since they're black, so she made the comment. The stylist was likely just fed up of the mother's negative comments about the daughter's hair. The stylist even says that her hair is gorgeous and that she loves her hair.

@darrellfoster5889

2 жыл бұрын

So true! I’m not against interracial dating but mixing intimately with whites never good for non white people particularly black folks

I cut off my permed hair, an I love my natural hair way more. Btw one of the best shorts yet 😍😍

@aishaevelyna7767

3 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU LAQUITTA

@randommercedesmgtow3675

3 жыл бұрын

Am proud of u

@jamesmcallister9504

3 жыл бұрын

You are waking up.

Great film very touching 😥

Awesome storyline!

Her mother planted the seed that her natural hair was an abomination. So sad. Your natural hair is beautiful! It's healthy, strong, and fierce. Straightening it just weakens it. Be strong and rock the hair you were born with!

@daisyx1002

3 жыл бұрын

Amen💗

@keymusabe7207

2 жыл бұрын

Notice the women aint here commenting

@barcaman1013

2 жыл бұрын

@@keymusabe7207 their at the Chinese hair store , they'll be here this afternoon

If that little girl grew up with a parent who told her she was beautiful like the hair dresser did and not hear the negative comments and aggravation from her mom. Her inner self would not be so insecure. I know what that feeling is like even though it had nothing to do with my hair. I was always given negative comments about my looks. That my round shape face is not beautiful and that only oval shape faces are more beautiful in the whole world (from my mom and a year younger sister who had oval shape faces). I felt I was ugly and carried that insecurity still as an adult. There were other things that my sister used to say about my face, like my nose looked like an Indian nose etc. Your upbringing and the things you are told, is what builds your confidence and inner security. Say negative things, you create and build insecurities that can last a lifetime.

@agarmimi2781

3 жыл бұрын

My mom calls me fat in front of my boyfriend and we both ignore it cause we know it's not true. U do u girl

@demijour1234

3 жыл бұрын

@@agarmimi2781 I am sorry she says that to you and saying that in front of your bf. Sounds like you have amazing confidence which is so great. I know in my head and my ears that what was said to me is wrong and not true. It's just telling that to my heart which is the hardest. Even as an adult those scars don't go away. I remember watching on one of those reality shows the real housewives (I know but I love them). There is a woman on there who is super talented, has a great voice and is super sexy. She said that she remembered once when she was performing on stage when she was a young girl (maybe 9yrs old) for a community theatre. There was one part in one of the song where she was singing solo, she belted it out loud (like her teacher told her to before the show). And her voice squealed a bit and she heard in the audience, her mom who was sitting in the front, snicker. It was a short one but she heard it. That made her so insecure because of it and from that day forward she started to get anxiety and have low self esteem that it may happen again to her. She is an adult now and it took that one trigger, that one negative moment in her life to leave that scar. So words are so powerful.

@agarmimi2781

3 жыл бұрын

@@demijour1234 it's not like it doesn't hurt but I learned to not care even tho it made me start exercising and she gave me stress so I had to start meditation but she never sees it

@demijour1234

3 жыл бұрын

@@agarmimi2781 Oh I know it must still hurt. I think you have the right idea though. I tried to mediate but I am not able to sit still and clear my mind. 💞

@agarmimi2781

3 жыл бұрын

@@demijour1234 I started because of Jay Shetty's 20 Day live meditations You can search up on instagram or Facebook and try it

we really appreciated this video. thank you so much!

I love her. She's beautiful. To have something hurt you in life and constantly being reminded about it is very painful to watch. Especially when it has something to do with what you have no control over like her hair. But this is more than that and it is told in such a perfect way.

listen, when you’re having your worst hair day, white or black, is always always always the day you run into your ex. esp if you’re in sweats. it’s a sad fact of life

@threetimesforgotten

3 жыл бұрын

I know of some stories in which people actually met their current ones while on bad hair day wearing sweats and no make-up. Chances are, one looks the sweetest particularly in those rare awkward moments. And, you never know, maybe the ex was hit with the strongest nostalgia he could ever got seeing you just the way you usually are when at home in the morning, but he just wouldn't tell you. He just never would.

@mentalchemistallismind9597

3 жыл бұрын

Missing the point

@rohiniguiland4873

3 жыл бұрын

Yep you got it. Happened to me yesterday.

@callmekrayy

3 жыл бұрын

@@mentalchemistallismind9597 It legit went over their head

@Tuncapoo

3 жыл бұрын

Well aren't you smart 🤪🤪🤪

In the salon, the camera angles are set lower to highlight the little girl's perspective and the effect is a bit scary to be honest but very exact.

So blessed my mother and family instilled pride, in my natural beauty including my hair, from young. Not a soul on this planet could ever make me feel ashamed of my 4C hair especially some white man or woman. This is so sad yet a reality for many. Parents, confidence and pride starts at home.