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@BrandonJones-jt8lj

3 жыл бұрын

My name is Brandon lol

@kapolchougle1394

3 жыл бұрын

thank u soo much for ur advice Apollonia!!!! I really need this. My gf has stopped replying to my texts, or replies any of my msg after 2 days. Please help!!!

@mrx-od3ji

2 жыл бұрын

I'm good fact I was single for 39 years and I turn 40 on Oct 27 I don't need a woman I don't need to be in a relationship to be happy.

@Vergil-sparda08

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for speaking honest. I think I'm being dumb since I really felt I love her deep down . Because I don't wanna lose her I'm acting childish for few days. Pretty dumb to look at myself . She have less confidence in her and she's kinda lowkey goofing around. My girl and I are close like a year. She literally acts like my gf but when I confessed her a day before she said she's not ready for any relationship. But she always cringe on voice msg. Idk so I told her let's take some time. And she's still haven't pushed me back. She's good. And now I wanna work on myself so I hope things will go good between us. I don't wanna get obsessed and behave stupid.

@woodyjoseph9313

2 жыл бұрын

She said this then 2 days later kiss me then a week later put up a Wall sigh stress

the secret is to do nothing. back off and move on. take the rejection. it's better than getting friend zoned or getting played.

@daniellele9634

3 жыл бұрын

Word man

@emanuelgarcia7946

2 жыл бұрын

Lol happens but if they really want you they’ll come back around…happen to me because I took her for granted 🤷‍♂️

@pedrosantana4135

2 жыл бұрын

@@emanuelgarcia7946 In your case, how long did it take for them to come back?

@davidfernandez7173

2 жыл бұрын

@@pedrosantana4135 don’t even sweat it man, fuck em. If they come back embrace them, just be yourself and focus on things that make you happy. If they don’t come back don’t even think about it, write about it, and move on. Women will come as I’ve learned, don’t move with emotion, move with the intention of getting to know someone values, what they’re willing to sacrifice in the now not even for you for themselves, be patient. They’ll expose themselves

@Wild1KY

2 жыл бұрын

@@emanuelgarcia7946 how long did it take for her to come back?

Focus on yourself. Show that you're the stronger one and that you don't need them. Chase money and success, not people that waste your time. You don't need validation from anyone, because once you become successful you'll be looking down at what held you back in the first place.

@technotvreviews2471

3 жыл бұрын

Wow

@stewardtai8602

3 жыл бұрын

Powerful

@deantecunningham1241

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

@martinsmith511

2 жыл бұрын

I pray that you become a millionaire before 2025🙏

@curtisbennett5086

2 жыл бұрын

Now that was some inspiration brother!

She’s not ready for a relationship... with YOU but she’s ready for the guy she’s really into

@ryanbailey8588

3 жыл бұрын

Always ask yourself “if Brad Pitt was here, would she be ready for a relationship?” The answer is always “yes”.

@ayroneman34

3 жыл бұрын

You are so right!

@chrysromeo

3 жыл бұрын

exactly

@Ace.0.0.0.

3 жыл бұрын

She's not yours. You don't own her.

@ArcticSeraph

3 жыл бұрын

But she's ready for Chad and Tyrone. But once they're done with her. By then she might be ready for you after she's had 2 or 3 kids with those guys and have broken up with them.

Don’t tolerate anything less then what you deserve. If someone isn’t willing to show up for you, why should you show up for them?

@valesjanzens.7911

3 жыл бұрын

That hit me hard

@martinnlaudico1494

3 жыл бұрын

Fucks yea!!!

@travisandrews3909

Жыл бұрын

Facts

@vcb6080

Жыл бұрын

Fr I got friendzoned but I ain't taking that level of disrespect

@tomjones5338

10 ай бұрын

Stop worrying about it don't read in to it

she said she aint ready yet!? so I started lifting weights I'm not ready yet either self love comes first

@waudicas

3 жыл бұрын

Lol 😂

@TomFox1

3 жыл бұрын

hell yea

@daniellele9634

3 жыл бұрын

Get shredded brahhh

@ryana-6762

3 жыл бұрын

money and confidence is better than muscle though

@zoronamikaze

3 жыл бұрын

yeah buddy lightweight baby

Yeah, a woman who's coming from another relationship can be very slippery. She can give you mixed signals. See, she desires a man to fall on to and help her heal, but as her heartbreak eases out, she soon begins losing interest in you because she wasn't ready, she was just healing, and you happened to be a convenient medicine.

@frankiegunnz8066

2 жыл бұрын

Ouch that hurts!

@dannywholuv

2 жыл бұрын

This is happening right now with my situation. I called it from the start but still entertained it anyway. My mistake. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DON'T DATE ANYONE JUST OUT OF A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP!

@carlito0143

2 жыл бұрын

@@dannywholuv duuude!!! Same here...

@faizs.1541

2 жыл бұрын

Smart

@dannywholuv

2 жыл бұрын

@@carlito0143 it sucks doesn't it. What makes it worse I feel I done everything right with her EXCEPT trust my gut. Now she's done with me, my obsession with thinking about it all has my mind in overdrive. Never again... Hope your feeling better about it

Everytime a girls says I am not ready for a relationship indicates the guy is chassing and is trying to lock her down to a commitment. Remedy for this, let her do 100% of the calling, texting and pursuing from this point on and when she reaches out show your best self and live in the present those three HANG OUT, HAVE FUN, HUCK UP. Keep repeating that.

@Hamzak786

3 жыл бұрын

Faxssss

@enriqueemmanuelli4529

3 жыл бұрын

Mr. Wayne

@orlandoigno482

3 жыл бұрын

But what if you live together? (She’s my ex)

@strawsrcool1000

3 жыл бұрын

@@orlandoigno482 You okay man?

@kcharles5851

2 жыл бұрын

What does “ huck up” mean ?

The truth is if a women says she's not ready...she is not ready for you (she don't want you )

Bro if a woman is really into you, she'll find a way. If she is not ready - most of the time, not always - the desire ain't their brother. Just move on putting your inner child on a pedestal never a chick, ever. Forgive yourself, forgive yourself.

@travisandrews3909

Жыл бұрын

Facts

@theworldisimmense

Жыл бұрын

Used to think like This but there’s many cases when a girl really is into you but she’s really not ready for emotionally love yet

@Rene.A.D

8 ай бұрын

@@theworldisimmense could be, but so? If she's not ready, then the relationship can not happen. And that means it's the wrong timing. And that means it's the wrong person. You cannot talk her into being ready, and "waiting for her" is not right, as it will put your life on hold and get you depressed, and she might never be ready.

“I’m not ready for a relationship”? , I only said that to females I didn’t want, so let’s be honest yall SHE DONT WANT YOU., she getting with every guy she actually wants, move on y’all she going to want you after she’s used up., MOVE on for the better and you gone Attract so much more trust .

@TeacherP_

3 жыл бұрын

It's a hard pill to swallow, but it's the truth.

@TomFox1

3 жыл бұрын

Agree

@lexicon4u

3 жыл бұрын

What if she says shes not ready for a relationship with ANYONE? Is that also BS? I guess context would matter

@jmgmetal

3 жыл бұрын

@@lexicon4u 99% of the time it’s bs

@isaiahtr

3 жыл бұрын

Facts, now that im 30 I match with dimes, to bad most of them have more than two kids, smh.

The first one was spot on. Dated for 3 months and yeah she “loved bombed” me. All over me and wanted my attention and then boom she hits me with the breakup text of “I’m not ready for a relationship”

1. She’s not ready bc she’s trying to find herself or just out of a relationship 2. She notices she’s in control

@christiansnaturestudio6599

2 жыл бұрын

Reason #1 applies to me situation

@xdaydreamerx

Жыл бұрын

Or shes too stressed or shes busy with her study or hobbies or it could be anything.

just move on and find somone else who is looking and ready. its her loss, not yours, not something to think and stress over. just move on, you will feel better and stronger and come out looking strong.

I just experienced number 1 and after 6 weeks I finally said all the best and goodbye 👍🏽 Don't waste your time guys.

Usually, I do not comment on videos. I love the way you are unbiased, you are addressing facts about the dynamic between men and women, with zero judgment, so helpful.

shes not ready for a relationship but when you get your money up and can provide and can support her financial needs she will be ready for sure

@anastasiasanchez7852

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately that's how alot of ungrestfulll girls are. Just focus on the willing ones to avoid the gold diggers

@ephraimsdavidsonosita5341

3 жыл бұрын

Naija guys knows the secret.. hahahaha.

"she's doing this because she's in control" You said it all, you nailed it Appolonia !!! Thank you.

@slarze5409

Жыл бұрын

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@xdaydreamerx

Жыл бұрын

Nah i was in love once and I didnt want a relationship. I dont like sex and I like being single.

@travisandrews3909

Жыл бұрын

Wow .!

@Cataclismos

Жыл бұрын

@@xdaydreamerxyou for the streets

@christopher-yi3rm

3 ай бұрын

she is in control of making more bad decisions that go wrong and she ends up feeling sad and heartbroken she thought he wanted her for a relationship but it was only one night.so she keeps making the bad decisions.

This is me 100 percent. I watched this twice. It was like a swift kick in the nuts but i needed it. Thank you.

Relationships now is all about who can beat the other in a mind game. For me, if I can't be myself, then I can't give myself. These videos literally teach people to pretend.

@SaturnVII

3 жыл бұрын

Go watch the Quiet Man with John Wayne and Maureen O'Hara. Great romantic comedy set in turn of the century Ireland. Drama and emotions...as human as anything else. As Spock said: "who said humans were rational?"

@oluwolefadipe838

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, this is so true and it sucks. But it's a game now and to come out on top, you have no choice but to play the game.

@alanaholland8566

2 жыл бұрын

Not true. They're rare, but there's others out there who don't want to play the game.

Thank you for this one. My ex would throw bread crumbs. Spent a year picking them up hoping for a relationship again. And finally I couldn't do it anymore. The hardest part was letting go. But it was a better feeling knowing a relationship would never happen with her. And time to move forward.

@dmgsoultogetherness6667

3 жыл бұрын

Congrats....you did it....proud of you.....i done it to....just processing the fall out at the mo. Getting easier tho.

@kw9568

2 жыл бұрын

Awesome!!!! Good for you!

@travisandrews3909

Жыл бұрын

Yeah buddy.!

@flint9889

Жыл бұрын

I was talking to this girl for three months. She pushed me away and then for almost couple months we avoided. But during she was coming back around I was saying hi and she said something to me finally. But one day I asked to go out and she said no. I regret asking that cause that's not what I wanted to do. Actually wanted to establish the communication and trust again

@Lboogs7

Жыл бұрын

​@@flint9889 leave all flaky, non commital women where they are. Let them be and let them streets take care of them. You deserve better than a half ass relationship or a half ass person

let's be honest, most girls do this at the beginning of their dating life, We all know what happens in the "She wants to finds herself" phase, and it never ends until she hits the "Wall"

@elmalanmalan2175

3 жыл бұрын

Then she becomes desperate because she is running out of time

@CBRRR-eh3ky

3 жыл бұрын

How old is she when she is running outta time. I got one who at 32 still looking for fans lol

@johnathandavis9098

3 жыл бұрын

FACTS!!!

@daviewz9335

2 жыл бұрын

@@CBRRR-eh3ky Would someone please answer this man.

@BrandonThe1nr

2 жыл бұрын

@@daviewz9335 It depends on the woman, simple. Don't wait around for her to figure it out. Just live your life and cut her off.

Thank you for such great advice, it’s been harder since I work with her. But, it’s been about 3 weeks of me just evaluating myself so I don’t fall back into something that isn’t shown to be wanted by her. Keeping strong, Love your work !!

This help me out, I just got out of a toxic relationship and it’s crazy how this came up on my page thank you so much and I appreciate your video and keep making love you contact

These are tips that I feel we'e all heard and should know, but it's always refreshing to hear them again and to help us build confidence back in ourselves. Thank you for another great video with great tips AP!

@travisandrews3909

Жыл бұрын

Yeah buddy.!

Wow! This video was so solid! 🔥👌💯 This was literally one of my latest relationships. You hit the nail on the head! I now have a better understanding. Thanks for what you do Apollonia

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Keep spreading the truth AP!

You make perfect sense especially the last part I think I feel like reaching out because of the idea of the person instead of being in reality

Among the hundreds of videos I watched, I found the video that belongs to me in the end. Thank you!

thank you, that was very usefull. Especially bcs I‘m stuck in a situation where this video fits prefectly. Stopping to overvalue her and rather focusing on myself keep up the great vids

Thank you for making me look at myself and not just blindly run into a bottomless pit thank you so much Apollonia

I love the way how you break things down Appalonia, it seems you have a deep understanding of these topics and human behaviour if i may.

Means shes playing the field and you're not her first choice... fall back

@craig8304

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe, but it mostly means that the guy is coming on too strong. Over pursuing and acting like a woman. Or he's acting like her boyfriend too soon, or bringing up relationship topics. Causes the woman to either back off and become confused, or tell you she is not ready for a relationship and place you firmly in the friendzone.

@zachmondrala8614

3 жыл бұрын

@@craig8304 I get that, but for the guy to think or act like that, the girl must be doing something for him to think that she will be with him or that she likes him

@jamesharris6368

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly, she's still exploring her options...fuck that, never be a bitch's second choice or her standby, get rid of her.

@lgiver5148

3 жыл бұрын

Lmaoo I did that and she came back lmaoo

@VietDudez

3 жыл бұрын

happend to me, slept with her, and week later say she is not ready for relationship. Turn out she and her bf were having problem and using me to pull her bf back.

She did go all in and said it during the breakup a yr later. We had the same energy back and forth, but a yr later, stress with family and me being "understanding" and saying sweet things and showing appreciation.. she seemed to get scared and put on breaks and said she is too stressed for a relationship now

This video helped so much. Saw I was attach to this girl and I really wanted things to work out with her. She told me she wasn’t ready and I took a look at myself and realized i needed to work on myself after getting so attached so quick. Told her I didn’t want to remain friends anymore, she offered me to stay friends again and declined once again and gave her to offer to text me again if she felt ready. Have that self respect for yourself. If she wants you bad enough and if she was telling the truth she will come back. In the meantime you will be alright and eventually someone else will come along.

Thank you so mis ponti you've always been of help on my side right form day one I wish all people that are struggling with love would watch this

Wow. Sometimes all it takes is someone explaininh something you have heard a thousand times in a certain way. My constant mistake is offering too much of myself and not showing up for myself. Thank you

This video REALLY spoke to me in many ways. It's time to move on and cut out the BS she's giving me

good speech, and also when she says she's not ready, then she's not ready for you, but she might be ready for someone else... that's another truth to keep in mind and not waste time thinking things will improve if you wait for her to decide... she already decided

I drew back my effort and she came over and she stayed till 5 in the morning

The entire video is so good but that control bit, so so true. Apollonia you are amazing

Slowly but surely I’ve manifested the information you give in your videos to achieve what I want

You're amazing Apollonia! Thanks for always giving great advice!

Love all your advice Apollonia! You've made a Huge difference in my life, and i thank you for sharing your information. Perry

you sought out my life ! thankyou , i am going through a similar situation wherein i brought the relationship stuff too much and i had ( which i am not proud of by any means) similar desires , and i immediately realised i did something wrong, she became really uncomfortable even when i apologised several times , she couldnt calm herself down . I hope i sort this out quickly and end it peacefully

Happy Tuesday Apollonia! This is very useful information. I've gone through the experience in the past where the girl told me she wasn't looking for a relationship and I tried to pursue into hoping to make it into a relationship and it backfired on me, and not something I would recommend. If a girl tells you she is not looking for a relationship, just accept it and move on from her as there's plenty of women out there

Thank you, I've been feeling so confused for the past month after asking her if she wanted to be in a relationship, her answer "umm I'm not ready for a relationship but we can be exclusive, it's not like I'm gunna meet anyone anytime soon" after 9 months of dating. Took a step back as I couldn't carry on and she hated it, making me the bad guy. But after watching this and reading the comments I feel alot better and know what I want/should do.

This is solid advice. Much needed to bring perspective and insight. Peeling back now.

Great vid I’m from Baltimore Apollonia resonate even down da hill and ova west peace to everyone who reads

This was very helpful. I could see some of my dominant patterns in what you shared. Thank you!

Truth be told after years of a verbally physically abusive marriage I would say that it's not love that she's afraid of she's afraid that any man would be just like the person who destroyed her. it's shame she is a good woman deep down inside but I think for her this video actually explains a lot more than I thought at the time and opened my eyes

Apollonia you hit the nail right on the head on "What does she have to offer me"? and the answer is.....nothing! She is a beautiful woman but she would only anchor me down. So Thank you for your videos ...A.G.

Great information, Thanks! Working on the Pro/Con list. I appreciate you!! 💖💖

You and your team deserve whatever riches come your way Apollonia! Thank you for helping us clueless guys try to get our dream girls! Many of us suffer for years making well intentioned mistakes and screwing up what could have been a great thing so many times. Priceless advice!

@TomFox1

2 жыл бұрын

right. She does it for humanity! 🙏

@travisandrews3909

Жыл бұрын

Facts

Perfect video for my situation. Thank you much. I'm almost at the point where I'm just going to give her space and leave her be. She's not really giving me much and I haven't done anything to her to make her pull back. I think reality is setting in for her and she's realizing she's not really ready for a relationship. I honestly respect that. Nothing can hurt worse than a breakup that I went through with somebody who I was truly in love with (different person). I have moved forward and became a better person, but finding someone who knows what they want is the real deal obviously, not a poser. This woman should figure out what she wants before coming off like she is ready to be in a committed relationship. I also saw your video on dating older women. Older women are my only preference, and I know they're not all perfect, but there is a lot more success.

May God bless you and your colleagues. Thank you for your guidance and great videos. It’s always good learning from your teaching.

Need to hear this. I'm going through alot with this girl. I need to see my value more. Thank you

Hi Apollonia, I have been following your advice since a couple of years ago and I really appreciate what you are doing and want to say thank you for it. This video fits perfectly in my current situation and helps me to manage it the proper way. You are absolutely right

Yes ! Thanks Apollo ! Smh this happen to me last week tbh I was like “what the” I walked Away haven’t heard from her 🤷🏽‍♂️ exactly what you said crazy lol

You really hit the nail on the head with this one. Thank you!

ultimately it depends with what happened with her past and you finding out. If a girl likes you, she WILL tell you what happened in her past. She will give you hints and clues and its up to you to find out. Dont be direct, don't be forward, let her OPEN up. You can only tell what "I am not ready for a relationship" mean if you actually know her. If she was badly hurt in her past, shes will be hesitant with you because she doesn't want to be hurt. If this is the case, DO NOT FOCUS ON FORMING A OFFICIAL RELATIONSHIP. This is will just scared her. Instead make the FRIENDSHIP be about showing her a FUN time, enjoying the moment. DON'T PUSH IT. Once its established that she likes you but shes scared to commit then there's you reason why shes not ready for a relationship. Like she says at 7:22, DO GO ALL OUT, CONTINUE JUST DOING WHAT YOU WERE DOING. Be CONSTANT, give yourself DISTANCE as well to show her that despite you wanting something with her, you are STABLE enough to GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE. If you go ALL go in, she WILL Be scared because moving too quickly IS a huge red flag to her. BUT ALSO have RESPECT FOR YOURSELF - Don't limit yourself to this for too long, continue doing what you were doing for her to let you know she likes you but isnt ready for a relationship and keep at it steady. Be a FRIEND for her and little by little she will open up. Pay attention to ANY and ALL flags she puts up because these flags WILL come up again. In other words, be patient, don't show her that you are NEEDY or CLINGY for her, just be there and continue doing what you are doing. Remember, the interactions you have with her should be FUN, as two besties going out, she will open up with you and she will be then be ready.

@seehlemsiza8004

4 ай бұрын

You just hit it spot on!It's exactly what i'm going through,she's been through alot and was badly hurt and etc She tols me she's not ready a few days ago and before that when we would have heart to heart convos She's tell me she is scared of being in a relationship

This is amazing and absolutlely correct. I have been through this. This video is very enlightening and an eye opener. I appreciate you Apollonia!

I definitely agree with your observation when it comes to a man who rarely publicly socializes...I have certainly been a fine example of such... Thank you Apollonia....

i meet alot of girls...but ones i actually like are rare....so when i do find one i like i have a tendency to go all in.....its rough being a romantic....especially when luck and timing is never on your side. girls i find are always already in a relationship....the good ones are never single

This is spot on! This is exactly what I'm dealing with. Thank you for putting that truth out there!

@mrx-od3ji

2 жыл бұрын

I'm not ready for a relationship I'm 39 years old and I turn 40 on Oct 27 I don't care to have plan on having kids. Being single feels good.

@xdaydreamerx

Жыл бұрын

There are so many people not ready for a relationship.This woman doesnt know what shes talking about.

Haven’t been to your page in a while but this video is the first one I’d seen in a while and it’s like you were talking to me lol gonna come back more often thanks!

This video is what i really needed. THANK YOU SO MUCH

This is a better video in my opinion then a trip advisor video. My favorite relationship video

A well spoken video and a point you made about a man being too focused on a woman because he doesn't have other women in his life. I experience this terrible reality. Dating apps for men are a disaster, no women available in my line of work, and the pandemic is also a factor where there's zero nightlife culture available. Women are the more privileged gender in the dating world. Women are flooded by men on dating apps.

@travisandrews3909

Жыл бұрын

I don't go on dating aps

JUST got out of 3 months of talking to someone who “wasn’t ready”. Learn from me. I made the mistake of still talking every day. We played it out, turns out she viewed me as desperate and clingy and that was what drove her away. Her words exactly. Yeah, she was into me- but it didn’t matter. The fact that I stuck around was a massive turn off for her. The messed up part is- she wasn’t worth the drama and BS. I was so engrossed in making her mine that when she finally agreed to go on a date, I cancelled the next day and ghosted her. Then she texted me everything about how I had no options and was just someone to giver her attention. Live and learn, this is the first and last time I believe someone when they say they aren’t ready and need time.

@lorenzoscott8551

2 жыл бұрын

You the one ghosted her. She said yes.. she probably thought you was playing with her. She was probably saying that to protect herself

@cameron8500

2 жыл бұрын

These women are clueless

@zipeto

2 жыл бұрын

Same thing happened to me...but i was only in this situation for 20 days.Called her two times on date she said i cant...so i used two times rule and fck her off from me forever. Only problem is that we work together and i apply ignore mode on job

This was Great Advice and Reminder. She has my heart and I have to step back and restart my life without her

Ponti that’s some real talk & all facts 🙌🏿

I think you just saved me from something bad with this video.... . Thank you!

@ApolloniaPonti

3 жыл бұрын

Glad I could help!

1.Definitely can’t ignore red flags. No. You aren’t gonna be the one that it’s different with. 2. If a woman ever says she’s not ready for a relationship or wants a break, she high key doesn’t respect you. A. She’s not afraid of losing you. Why would she risk losing someone she really wants to be with? B. She’s trying to find something she views as better C. She knows she can mess around and comeback to you. She thinks you’re not confident enough to find someone else. You’re basically a back up plan.

@butterfly4537

2 жыл бұрын

2) is not necessarily true. By telling you she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, she is actually respecting you by being true to herself.

@mikewilliams9069

2 жыл бұрын

And what if for example some guy speaking with a girl didn't even ask about relationships, but the girl brings it up that she's not ready for relationship? Surely she aint talking about the guy

@MrMalicious5

2 жыл бұрын

100% accurate.

@KeenApollo

2 жыл бұрын

@@mikewilliams9069 Yea some of these dudes are butt hurt af. The girl I'm dating now literally always contacts me first we just kick it and have a good time. She told me she wasn't ready for a relationship and I'm said cool me either and she said i don't want you to think I'm wasting your time. I said lets just keep having fun. A lot of these guys are crying because they actually want a monogamous relationship they seek it out I'm just enjoying my life. When she said that nothing has changed. Still doing all the contacting everything. So it doesn't mean she doesn't want you I know from experience. She dead as might just not be ready and that's cool as men you shouldn't be concerned with locking her down anyways.

@bryanmoore3051

Жыл бұрын

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You could not be more spot on! I’m in that situation right now. It started online. Have met and went very well. It was enjoyable for both I’m confident. The texts before and after meeting were going on daily mornings and evenings often as we shifted to a different channel to communicate. Photos exchanged about where we live, pets, sunsets, songs (mostly mine to her). Things seems to begin to get a little more stale so I sort of dove a little in. I wrote in a song in text Jody Mitchell, Help me (I think I’m falling). Keep in mind our exchanges are in Spanish so she might not know who Joni Mitchell is and help me certainly doesn’t come across if this was taken as I sent this to her meaning it was for someone else named Joni Mitchell and saying help me. And even if she did take it as meant I would have taken it as needy. No word or text back. I kind of felt I needed to know because she wouldn’t indicate, even after all the questions early on giving fairly strong indicators headed towards something. But I think I understand so I haven’t answered back. I think we both enjoyed the interaction/s, but I also believe we both needed some space for even the possibility of this to work, or maybe not work out at all. It’s only been a few days and I plan on at least two weeks if no word before hand. Maybe a little longer. I need to collect myself and who I am meanwhile. One of the topics is it is her dream to see whales and turtles. September is the month for both and I am certain I can make this happen. I figure I will drop a line mid month, explain as briefly as possible, sorry, I needed to take a step back for a little. Then ask if she still wants to see the humpback whales and turtles hatch? I believe the time away is healthy for us both. I’m am still on her Line channel as a contact. And she hasn’t cut me on the website. My question is; should I make contact? Two, do you have any advise on my approach if your answer is yes?

Thanks! I'll really appreciate those strong words. I'm really stuck in this situation because I ignored by a girl who's playing hot and cold. She was showing like sort of connection to me but since I texted her for first dating, she ignored me, My gut tells me she's not the right girl for me, but my emotions are saying something else. Since she ignored my text and didn't answer, my emotions are extremely hurt, and I feel like I deserved at least a response.

So on point! I definitely relate

I really needed to hear this today. Thank you

@mijaytaylor6567

2 жыл бұрын

What If she says she us not ready for a serious relationship but she needs a man

I needed to hear this. Ponti Ur picture deserves to be in the Hall Of Fame. Thnx lady👌

@ApolloniaPonti

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Good Afternoon Apollonia, very awesome video you shared today

True Story. I had a similar situation and what she actually means is she is not ready for a relationshotp with "YOU". We were all living togather in the same appartment with mutual friends and used to see each other day in and day out. I didnt give a flying F about her and went by improving myself and just kept trying my options. FF 6 months. She slowely and gradually started giving me the signs that she's now started to like me and silent flirted with me. Our mutual friends too said the same about her but I was aloof and kept my core intact. One fine evening when no one was home and just the two of us ,she barged in and suddenly shut the door of my room and said "Don't you see anything!!" . Man I just cant forget that moment . She said "kiss me now and I want you..Only you." TLDR: Have patience men, Go about your life to improve and work on yourself both inside and out. She one day wont be able to take it anymore but confess.

if she's not ready for a relationship it is because she is not interested in you if she was interested, she would be ready for a relationship period

@xxunprecidablexx6709

3 жыл бұрын

What if she has never been into one, im in that situation right now

@adityaagrawal8156

3 жыл бұрын

@@xxunprecidablexx6709 same my case she doesn't have in any relationship & she also doesn't have male friends & I m her bestiee but she wants me as bestiee always

@mehta_deepak_

2 жыл бұрын

@@adityaagrawal8156 leave her

@coastaldiva

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely true

This is amazing and what I need. I anted this girl so bad and I would ask her out and she would shoot me down.. then she flirted with me and and I hooked up with her. I still wanted to see her and everything and long story short she never came to see me, I gave blood at her job and didn’t even say thank you or check on me. And when I called her out for using me she blew up on me and said I don’t like what you had to say at all. I was finding myself apologizing. And the while still trying to show I care by sending flowers on her birthday and stuff she told me I was affecting her mental health... this showed me I cared way too much and she wasn’t any effort. I slipped in depression till I spoke with family and friends and it wasn’t my fault at all. See those red flags and know when you are wasting your time.love is coming

Thank you for this. Really needed it tonight.

My last ex love bombed me for sure . Typical story , everything was going great yards yada yada lol.. then boom gone like a fart in the wind .. but what I’ve discovered were things that I was subconsciously doing and I could kick myself because I know I came off as smothering . It was a major learning experience for me moving forward . It’s made me realize it all and made me stronger for the next person I date . In a world of beta males I’ve definitely become alpha now ... thanks for your videos!

@justin-dr6sx

3 жыл бұрын

That is so funny. The best expression i have heard! 🤣🤣

I swear she's talking about my ex-girlfriend. I walked out of her life and deleted her text messages she sent me without reading them. It felt so satisfying not knowing what she wrote me.

This video was extremely informative. Great content Apollonia. Thanks.

This was worth the watch.. so informative & of great help. Needed these tips at the moment. 👌🏻

I had this just happen to me. She wanted me so much in the beginning. Even asked me if I was seeing other women... Really thought we were on the same page.. Then almost overnight one day.. I go from being babe to im not ready for a relationship

@streamtoglory5308

3 жыл бұрын

That's me.

@adamlanza5383

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. Fucked up shit.

@thomasbrown7971

3 жыл бұрын

probably you tell are your single

@adrianleon1731

3 жыл бұрын

Why is that you think?

@TheAceOfOnes

3 жыл бұрын

Glad I’m not the only one so sick of winding up at ground zero every time

Yes, stepping back is very good advice. Try not to inhibit your thinking mind with your emotions and "lust". It is important to see the woman with a clear mind. This will help you make a more realistic decisions.

Having just been through this i can say it was 100% spot on

I just wished this had been put up earlier. but thanks AP, great insight and i totally agree.

I did exactly this. She said she wasn't ready for something serious but dating for a long time being focused mostly on work I finally felt something with her. I got attached and realised I had to back off, but when i did she gave me this message about how i was different and made her feel things so I caved and went back just for her to ghost me smh. Should've stuck with my gut instinct like you said in this video. You give a lot of good advice thank you for these, now I definitely know better especially after watching this video.

@TomFox1

3 жыл бұрын

She just wanted a little fun and sex. Not serious

@jpbazooka

3 жыл бұрын

@@TomFox1 yuup found out she's married to someone in the military. I got ghosted because he came back home.

@Hamzak786

3 жыл бұрын

I've experienced this.

@xdaydreamerx

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like shes using you.

Good morning ms. Apollonia I hope you continue to keep up the great work it really helps me through my relationship much love to you & your family 🌹

@ApolloniaPonti

3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome

@londelentoyanto2911

3 жыл бұрын

In South Africa its in the evening 7:00 pm

@paganmin8557

3 жыл бұрын

Simp

@hedal9176

3 жыл бұрын

@@ApolloniaPonti Apollonia Ponzi Scheme 🤑

You were already saying exactly what I needed to hear THEN you used my name as an example. I’ll definitely remember this 😂

Thank you for this video. There’s always something to learning about relationships. I’m glad, that men have sources to turn to get a much more clearer understanding women and what they look for in a woman. Men do have feelings and emotions as we do. And we truly need to mutual understand each other to move on to the levels we seek to connect with a potential partner.I always believe that women know exactly who they want to date and establish a relationship with. And men know the woman they want to be with and seek a relationship with. The man stops at the horizon and a woman who may not be ready keeps moving past. Unless she’s met the ‘one.’

Co worker told me her mother was "looking forward to meeting me", asked me to meet her after I said I wouldn't see her for a few weeks due to the rota. Then on the day we were to meet she said she was "kinda dating a guy in her street" and still wanted to meet. I said no then a few days later she tells another co worker she "likes me as a friend, has known her neighbour a long time but isn't ready for a relationship". It's either one of the three and the fact she couldn't tell me herself is just immature. Neither of us have spoken in a fortnight thankfully.

I’m in a similar situation. Started off as fun. She developed feelings for me. Those feelings was reciprocated. Only thing I didn’t like is she put a time cap on me making her my gf. She’s very insecure I knew I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone like that. I used to to attract insecure women in the past. She actually admitted she’s insecure and not ready for relationship which is a relief because I’m not either. When a women says she’s not ready it’s not always negative. I’m seeing a lot of toxic answers in the comment section. Most women are insecure and let it consume them and get into toxic relationships for validation. The ones that work on themselves and know they’re not ready are the keepers. Someone who is self aware

Fellas if you are here and haven't subscribed please do so. The information she provides is major. Honestly!!!

I was wondering why I wanted to run away in the very beginning. Now I completely understand it, thanks for helping me move on. I was an anchor at one point in my life, but I refuse to be pulled down with the ship. I pray that God heals hearts, because I’ve noticed I can’t. AP cares about Men, thanks for giving me muscles to move forward and being the best version of myself ❤️