SEX, MASTURBATION, PORN, CELIBACY & BUDDHISM

MAN GIVES UP EVERYTHING
In 2015, aged 47 an English businessman gave up everything and travelled Asia to find true happiness. Now a Buddhist Monk, living a simple life in Thailand, India and Sri Lanka, he shares the continuing story.
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Phra Dan (Bhante Dhammarakkhita, Bhikkhu) is a Theravada Buddhist Monk who lived in India from 2020, Thailand and now Sri Lanka. Born in Sussex, England in 1967. Educated by French Catholic Monks. A successful businessman in Estate Agency and Financial Services during the 1980's and 90's. Married, now divorced with 3 adult son's. 2000 marked change and travel including South Africa returning to the UK in 2003 to continue different work and business activities until 2012. Gradually materialistic values turned to renunciation, simplicity and meditation, living nomadically in an old Ford Transit van full time for 3 years. Van life and meditation led to Buddhism and a Thai Forest Tradition, Theravada Buddhist Monastery in the UK. During 2015 travelling the Buddhist Holy Sites of India, deep faith reinforced desire for Ordination. In 2020 after 5 years of intensive meditation practice between Thai Forest Monasteries in Thailand and England he was Ordained in India where he lived for 3 years until returning to Thailand in 2023 and now Sri Lanka.
Sabe Satta Sukhi Hontu
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  • @damodarvinayagam3552
    @damodarvinayagam35524 ай бұрын

    Thanks a ton Ajahn.... Feel privileged that even after 2000+ years after Thahthagatha, we can still listen to Dhamma... Inspite of your priority to cross the shore, you've the compassion to guide us... Sadhu, Sadhu, Sadhu🙏

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    You're welcome it's my pleasure. Be happy and stay well

  • @marinatf-oy8rx
    @marinatf-oy8rx4 ай бұрын

    Venerable, your message of tolerance and the avoidance of harm as the core principles of sexual conduct in Buddhism has made quite an impact on me. Thank you. 🙏

  • @noonespecial4171

    @noonespecial4171

    4 ай бұрын

    I was under the impression that women in the porn videos were willing participants. It was a shock to discover these are trafficked women or drugged, tricked etc. It's the conditioning we learn about women that I discovered is very far from respectful to humanity and myself too. Best away from this kind of thing.

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @jens6754
    @jens67544 ай бұрын

    The water on the roof was no problem at all. Thank you, Phra Dan ❤

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @InfinitusYT
    @InfinitusYT4 ай бұрын

    Thank You so much Phra Dan, You have no idea how much Your gentle voice soothes Me. I look forward to every video!

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    You're welcome it's my pleasure. Be happy and stay well

  • @fingerprint5511
    @fingerprint55114 ай бұрын

    No questions in my comments! If you were looking to go on Tudong soon, I understand Ajahn Martin is leaving his Monastery due to Western Monks being disrespectful, entitled and not practicing Dhammavinaya. All those years he trained and poured himself into building a good Monastery with no corruption only to have virtually no one to support the practice. He would treasure your dedication Bhante. His latest video in his KZread channel is worth listening to for everyone practicing Dhamma. Meanwhile this talk doesn't bother me as I'm celibate. Thank you and hope you are well and happy.

  • @fingerprint5511

    @fingerprint5511

    4 ай бұрын

    I think they are called Hijra, those born with 2 genders, they wear female clothing to honour the Goddess in Hinduism, and Eunuchs who are actually castrated males who dress as women. I saw a docco years ago and it is traced back in history to when males castrated themselves to serve the Royal family,the Enuchs, wereas Hijras are born with 2 genders. Also, this reminds me of Ajahn Brahm who asks why people keep asking him about sexual issues, marriage, romantic relationships, he says, I'm a Monk! Also people seem to be unaware that Buddhist Monastics can not and do not conduct marriage ceremonies - blessings yes, but not actual nuptials. And that the world also includes what is called the body so yes, to be celibate means you completely drop all interest and actions (life is easier if we do anyway) thank you for talking about the reality of Pornography. Its been proven that it rewires the brain much like those awful experiments on Rats where a buzzer that gave an electric shock was put in a cage along with food, the Rat ended up pressing the buzzer over eating. Porn rewires where humanity appears as objects to use and only for one's personal sense satisfaction, that cant be satisfied, much like the poor rat with the buzzer. It all comes back to understanding the 4 Noble Truths truly and yes, someone is always watching all we do - us 🙏

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @noonespecial4171
    @noonespecial41714 ай бұрын

    As unsavoury as those emailers were, at very least you were reminded of how carnal some humans are. The way you so tactfully described these too-much-information messages you had to read, I actually experienced the revulsion you must have experienced. Perhaps let people know that yiu are a Celibate Monastic and therefore have no association anymore with this topic. One has to ask whether these people are practising Buddhists or are just seeking someone to carry them. We either practice or we don't and that includes respect and extra respect for Monastics, being aware of the extra training rules you are practising.

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @srmcfarling2315
    @srmcfarling23154 ай бұрын

    YOGA SUTRAS By Patanjali Vyasas And Lord Buddha's Dharma Sangha Thera Vada suttas, Real Yoga practice and Meditation Are the Language of The Inner World that really Very few people really go, I'm Thrilled to get the Official SUTRAS By Buddha from your, Yea Finally found the Real Treasure from the Thera Vada Buddhism thanks to your Real Treasure tradition WOW thank you, YOGI Steven Mcfarling Ashland Oregon USA

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @drm54321
    @drm543213 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much Bhante!

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    3 ай бұрын

    You're welcome it's my pleasure. Be happy and stay well

  • @user-yb1pl5ep6f
    @user-yb1pl5ep6f4 ай бұрын

    Thank you Bhante Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @thomasbarchen
    @thomasbarchen15 күн бұрын

    Wise answers...

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    15 күн бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @RiccMarin
    @RiccMarin4 ай бұрын

    Thank you, sadhu 🙏🙏🙏

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    You're welcome it's my pleasure. Be happy and stay well

  • @andrejtomazic8495
    @andrejtomazic8495Ай бұрын

    Sadhu, sasdhu, sadhu. Thak you so much.

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    Ай бұрын

    You're welcome it's my pleasure. Be happy and stay well

  • @BohnDe95
    @BohnDe954 ай бұрын

    Thankyou for your talks Bhante. One questions I have, what is the Buddhist method to deal with feeling tired? Ive heard of some monestaries holding all night sitting sessions, surely there is a perspective on fatigue that helps one overcome it?

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon. kzread.info/head/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj Be happy and stay well.

  • @ValentinaPicchiLondon
    @ValentinaPicchiLondon3 ай бұрын

    Thanks Ajahn for this talk. How do I know your email? Or the chanting schedule? Or any other online/in-person events? With metta.

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    3 ай бұрын

    You can see the chanel description and subscribe

  • @v6vlogs
    @v6vlogs4 ай бұрын

    Vandami bhantey

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @v6vlogs

    @v6vlogs

    4 ай бұрын

    @@englishmonk 😊😊😊 thanks bhantey

  • @Zulay092
    @Zulay0924 ай бұрын

    Hello bhante, should my walking meditation advancement be equal to my sitting meditation for it to be effective? and does ambient sorroundings play a big role in walking meditation.

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon. kzread.info/head/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj Be happy and stay well.

  • @Thisandthat284
    @Thisandthat2844 ай бұрын

    Hello I've been to Sri Lanka do you have an option on the elephant tourism industry it's absolutely disgusting how they are treated

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    It is horrible to see animals in captivity anywhere I agree

  • @lukemckean6155
    @lukemckean61554 ай бұрын

    Much Mudita for your trip to Kandy and the Temple of the Tooth Bhante! How wonderful 🙏❤️💎

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @julie-vg4so
    @julie-vg4so4 ай бұрын

    "If we are really thirsty, water is sufficient". 25:39

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @nahanng7791
    @nahanng77914 ай бұрын

    How can I be ordained at the same vihara as you Bhante?

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon. kzread.info/head/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj Be happy and stay well.

  • @lukemckean6155
    @lukemckean61554 ай бұрын

    Wow! As a good Buddhist I’m not sure i should watch this video with a title like that Bhante! 😂😂😂

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Buddhists should understand the 3rd Precept. Sukhi Hontu

  • @lukemckean6155

    @lukemckean6155

    4 ай бұрын

    @@englishmonk hehe I know. I was being facetious 🙏

  • @FRED-gx2qk
    @FRED-gx2qk4 ай бұрын

    Greetings Phra Dan🧐

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @Jess-hm7ft
    @Jess-hm7ft4 ай бұрын

    🙏🌹🙏🌹🙏

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @the.trollgubbe2642
    @the.trollgubbe26424 ай бұрын

    Sidenote: Isac Newton lived in celebacy, maybe just to busy to even think about women

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @HNIW
    @HNIW4 ай бұрын

    Have you Bhante watched the movies "The Matrix" and the "Star Wars" series? Ignoring the action scenes, for me as a teen in Europe they were the first glimpse into Eastern Spirituality. Do you have any personal observations about elements of Dharma that can be introduced to teens by this way? How is Buddhist path different from "unplugging from the Matrix"? Except for the light saber, how are you different from a Jedi 🙂 ?

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    No but I have heard of them. The word of the Buddha in the Suttas is the best way to introduce Dhamma.

  • @dennnn13
    @dennnn134 ай бұрын

    ,Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu! Bhante, would you advise to lay people to practice asubha practice in order for them to restraint their sensuality? Thank you.

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon. kzread.info/head/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj Be happy and stay well.

  • @julie-vg4so
    @julie-vg4so4 ай бұрын

    Dear Venerable, many Buddhist monks have KZread channels that are ad-free. Due to the title of this subject, the ad was very sensual, and really not aligned with the dhamma.

  • @lukemckean6155

    @lukemckean6155

    4 ай бұрын

    Bhante has no control over the advertising. If you don’t want ads you should sign up to YT Premium

  • @julie-vg4so

    @julie-vg4so

    4 ай бұрын

    I've heard from other monks that they do have a say over ads@@lukemckean6155 . My comment was for informative purposes, it wasn't a complaint and is not based on my preferences.

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    There are no adds during the videos, this is my choice. Before and after I can't control.

  • @julie-vg4so

    @julie-vg4so

    4 ай бұрын

    @@englishmonk Sadhu 🙏

  • @clayclayton9819
    @clayclayton98194 ай бұрын

    Venerable Sir, what is acceptable to sleep on ?

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching and your comments. I will talk about this in a Q&A's video coming soon. kzread.info/head/PLiX6s1kV1fRMCQyR6F7b6HxXuBUn9Zgck&si=7nWb2Y5dT2JpZjzj Be happy and stay well.

  • @dimopetrov4982
    @dimopetrov4982Ай бұрын

    Not to be rude, but 40 min.of talking and you said almost nothing. It's the same with all the scriptures,they use one word "sila" ok..that doesn't explain much ether. Let me say it with one sentence,...If you don't preserve your sexual energy it's impossible to open your energy channels and chakras, that means you never gonna achieve Razor sharp Mindfulness (Knowingness). You have to see clearly every single thought popping in your head to be able to stop lust( craving for sex) Even then ,you have to investigate how single thought triggers feelings, emotions and actions. Without that never gonna reach any awakening. Unfortunately most of the people doing sex and then meditate, this like a hamster wheel, spinning in circle in vain. Thank you for your videos!

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    Ай бұрын

    Sukhi Hontu

  • @barbararew5203
    @barbararew52034 ай бұрын

    I am a Catholic and wanted to make you aware of Catholic teachings. You stated that masturbation was ok with other Religions. Catholic Church teaches that is a sin against purity. The body wages war upon the spirit. One must subdue the passions if we want the spirit to reign.

  • @fingerprint5511

    @fingerprint5511

    4 ай бұрын

    Just because the Catholic Church says something does not mean it is factual or a belief everyone should adopt. The Catholic Church also says that sexual relations should only be performed when one is going to attempt conception, never any other time. So if you are not abiding by that rule, you are 'sinning.' Every time you have had intercourse without the intention to create a human being, you have sinned. Of all people to judge, right in front of you a man who lives by 227 Precepts which is subduing sensual pleasures in ways you could not cope with in your luxurious religion of Popery. Buddhism is about purifying the Citta, unlike your Monastics living in luxury, drinking alcohol, I won't even go into the breaking of celibacy and the long, long list of corruption hidden behind a face of 'love.' Have respect when you speak to a living human actually practicing purity. Perhaps you are so accustomed to the corruption you can not recognise what is wholesome. Ex catholic here, a big one too.

  • @englishmonk

    @englishmonk

    4 ай бұрын

    Peace be with you.