Note that this video was created for informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a physician or other licensed healthcare professional. Thanks for watching! Be sure to share your experiences.

A huge part of all this is also mood and body image. It’s amazing what women go through to create a baby, but there are also so many emotions , Sheer exhaustion, and just not feeling like yourself mentally, emotionally, and physically.

@aleshaswords3976

3 жыл бұрын

I agree so much. My husband would say ‘you look great’ but I didn’t feel great. I felt like a deflated balloon.

@rom1digital227

3 жыл бұрын

@@aleshaswords3976 my wife feel the same

@aleshaswords3976

3 жыл бұрын

@@rom1digital227 I hope she feels better. It’s been a year for me and my daughter is self weaning from breastfeeding now, so I can finally cut the extra calories and work out again. Getting back the little things helps so much.

@hannahbrinson8049

2 жыл бұрын

Body image is a big thing after having your baby.

Honestly the best postpartum sex video out there! You just cut out the middle man and bought the experts and every common question was presented soo amazingly. You just normalised soo many stigmas. Mums everywhere are eternally grateful.

This is great coverage of the physical aspect of it. I think a huge part that is often not talked about between partners is the mental part of it, especially if you had a difficult labor, or if you're struggling with breastfeeding or libido. I really enjoyed this video and it was great to have experts on the topic. It would be great to see the same topic covered for the mental and emotional aspects of it too.

This is something that's definitely not talked about enough and something that we didn't expect after having a c-section birth. It can be really hard for us as dads to understand what our partner is going through and information like this is super helpful. The important thing is to take it slow, listen to your partner, and do your best to respect boundaries, feelings, and feedback.

@tmckenzie8314

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah 💯 bro . bang on with this video!

*6 weeks? I'm going to wait 6 months.*

I really like and appreciate the dynamic of this video. To hear the a man be involved and ask the questions, it’s raw and real and highly respect that. It helps me feel like men can be trusted and that there are men that care. I am single and have been so afraid that a guy will leave me, since my father left my mother when I was 1. So just seeing and hearing a man be present and caring about these things that some women can feel insecure about is reassuring. Thank you.

I'm glad the OBs busted the tightness myth. The vagina is like a rubber band it goes back to its normal elasticity over time. Kegels won't make you tighter they just workout the muscles.

This has helped me understand my partner better and regulate my expectations much more realistically. I feel a lot of times, it’s not seen as or spoken about as a priority for new parents in general. Thank you for bringing it to the forefront to us new dads.

Wow, I didn't expect this gold-level content. I really appreciate that you brought in experts!

@KC-rx5eu

3 жыл бұрын

very appreciated! especially for me as a new mom.. this was very helpful!!

U forgot to mention the trauma of being pregnant and the fear of getting pregnant again. It's not the sex or intimacy it's the fear of having to go through the HELL of pregnancy especially if you had hyperemesis graviadarum.

@belafafa1058

2 жыл бұрын

I totally get it . I had H.G for 9 months and had preeclampsia so I'm terrified of pregnancy .. i placed my IUD 6 weeks postpartum

@neuroticgypsy

2 жыл бұрын

@@belafafa1058 ME TOO! My hyperemesis stopped though at 22 weeks, but I had severe preeclampsia too! My pregnancy was HELL!

Thank you for this video. Even some OBs don’t spend enough time discussing this. It’s helpful for guys to know this information also esp being a new mom there is now pressure to take care of the baby and be there as a partner for you spouse in every way.

Your video was sooo accurate and amazing for awareness for post partum health/sex and the aftermath. GREAT questions to ask & have been answered. More awareness needs to be spread about this topic because it’s VERY real and SERIOUS !! 👏🏽💯 Going through some of these things personally and having it talked about is amazing. Post partum womens physical & internal/intimacy health MATTERS !! 💯💯👏🏽👏🏽

Thank you for doing this video. After giving birth for four weeks, I really need this topic for my partner for future preparations.

Much needed perspective to a very common issue. Thanks so much for posting this.

What a different perspective!! Thank you for answering the questions that are super awkward to ask in person! 😅

You’ve done it again! Solid content!! Thank you!

Thank you for making this video! I just made one about keeping the sexual fire in a long-term relationship, and I'm currently 27 weeks pregnant. I was curious how things would change. I've been binging your content. Appreciate your work!

Thank you for making this video!

Thanks for being real

This is great info that I’ve shared with new dads locally. I know many struggle with understanding many of these issues the women in our lives face. Great stuff

@dadverb

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

I wish I had this video when I gave birth to baby girl. It definitely took months before I was ready to engage with hubby

Thank you for covering this topic.

This is a good content man. Appreciate it! My wife and I are expecting our first child and this is good information to note. Also, are you part of any dad/fatherhood groups around? Can you make content regarding dad communities and what your POV is regarding them?

Awesome down to earth video! Thank you for sharing!

So lucky my wife and I didnt have any issues after birth, she did get crazy mood swings but thankfully they didnt last long and she was aware after what was happening. Even more lucky sex drive has been the same if not more.

@aaronmacias1033

Ай бұрын

Bruh how has no one commented on this comment 🥲 Happy for man. Happy for you.

This was so helpful :) thanks so much 😊🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Wow you are amazing I love hearing this point of view from a man, and I love that included professionals!!! Great channel, I am going to become a subscriber

First of all THANK YOU! This is a huge help to dads who are apart of the journey and trying their best to understand our feelings physical and mental. Thank you for bringing this to light.

I waited for 5 months to try to have intercourse. I had first degree tear from top to the urethra and down and also some tearing inside. still till the day the bottom part is tender, but getting better. first baby and did it in 15 minutes lol. it's also how we feel too. it's draining add on the full on breastfeeding nipples sore and cracked... terrible. love my bundle of joy though. lots of lube guys!!! lots of it! my husband was very understanding and supportive.

I have struggled with recurring yeast infections my entire pregnancy so the constant on and off vaginal irritation has made it impossible for my partner and I to have sex. He has been such an amazing support for me and has been very patient and loving throughout my whole pregnancy. Has never complained about not having sex this whole time. I feel like it has deepened our relationship but also It has been a very emotional 8 months because deep down I know he has been wanting that deep emotional sexual side of our relationship. So I have been very nervous to see how things go after having the baby . My due date is 6/21 . Wish us luck 🙏🏻

@bridgettejohnson9085

3 жыл бұрын

You are not alone. I have too experienced this and my husband has not complained one bit. Of course men would want to know why does it keep happening and I just tell him my body is changing. We are both blessed to have good men by our side.

@meganrose5224

3 жыл бұрын

I am dealing with this currently. In fact have been recurring for months, even before being pregnant. Now it's only continuing going on 4 months pregnant. Thankfully he's been so patient.

@betylaguerrera

3 жыл бұрын

Definitely sounds tough. I hope it all turns out extremely well for you and your husband. Congrats on your baby 🧡 I'm due on 6/25

I’m going to be honest, this video made me feel a lot better about what to expect after I have my baby.

@jackietorres2444

2 жыл бұрын

Same here! I am due 2/21/22. Good luck to you, mama!

@yu-a9596

2 жыл бұрын

@@jackietorres2444 have you had your baby

@jackietorres2444

2 жыл бұрын

@@yu-a9596 No! I am currently 41+1 and will need to be induced in 2 days…😝

Great information 👍👍

This is an incredible video! Thank you so much for putting it out there and tackling a difficult and taboo subject

What lights are those in the background? Great set up!

If people are really worried about "tightness" make sure to exercise because blood flow matters. My sister has 5 and is on her 6th. She has all kinds of vaginal exercise things. Balls, cones etc She said they work.

Ive been looking forever to find something to help me understand what I AM going through. I'm fully aware what my spouse is going through, I support her entirely and try to patient, but also, there still needs to be an US, schedule allowing. I don't want my incredible fiance to feel pressured, but I don't want to be completely invalidated in these VERY FAIR needs of acknowledgement, not even just physically, but intimately and romantically. I just don't want this to destroy our relationship as we were a highly intimate couple for four years leading up to the pregnancy. It's a complete 180 and we both value our love languages immensely.

@dadverb

4 ай бұрын

This is a fascinating interview on Diary of a CEO that I recently listened to that I thought was quite enlightening regarding the 180 after kids: kzread.info/dash/bejne/d2mn2daCmtPeqKQ.htmlsi=trL-J-Nt5Snav6NR

Great video, Thank you so much for putting it out there and tackling a difficult and taboo subject

10 weeks and still nothing.. i'm patient, i love her and wait till she ready... (hope it wont be too long lol) thank u for talking about that, so often taboo for people...!

Awesome video with quality content... Thank you! I have no children, but my bf and I are considering it for our future, once we're married. Question: if I were post-partum, what could I do to make things easier for my partner while I'm unable (physically, emotionally, mentally) to have sex? Do men just need to masturbate? Mutual foreplay? I'm just wondering how couples navigate this. Women go through A LOT, but men do too, and I recognize it's a partnership.

I'm so afraid of trying to have intercourse. And our baby is already 3 months old -_-. I want to be a partner for my boyfriend again and not only mommy to my daughter...

I waited nerly 7 mounths after my first baby because i was afraid 🙈 Now Im pregnant with my second and I probobly will wait like 6 mounths this time to 🤣

I tore every time I gave birth (3x). This last time I had my post partum checkup at 4 weeks and thru video chat, so I was not checked physically to see if I was healing ok. Guess I have to figure it out on my own.

@betylaguerrera

3 жыл бұрын

Wow that must be tough. And honestly so dumb that you weren't seen physically.

Off topic - - Dude you're lighting is amazing how do you pull that off lol.

@dadverb

3 жыл бұрын

Getting lighting right is still an elusive goal to me and I'm never satisfied. Right now this is my process: Turn off all lights in the room Aputure 120d + light dome at 30%, 45-degress left of the camera LIFX color bulb in the back at 20% Tube lights at 7% in the rear

What they did not cover was decrease in libido with breastfeeding women. How long does it take for a lady to get her libido back or will she ever? Sorry to sound so broad it's just a question that has weighed heavily on my mind for a while now.

Dood. I so could understand how awkward this might have been along the way.... But damn is it a tricky question and "men" are left so confused 🤔 and just wondering how they feel.. but ya. It's hard to stop our hormones women... And we're kinda sorry... But then we love you and so passionate. Thanks dadverb for answering the hard questions

it felt SOO WEIRD THE FIRST TIME I HAD SEX AGAIN. I couldn’t get into the mood 😢

The real question is : Do men like it even though we are loose ?? Every man says it's not the same or not as pleasurable, and there goes our whole confidence because we have to be sexy, before, during pregnancy, during birth and after. Men sees us as means to an end only...

I may have a completely different issue. My husband doesn’t initiate any sex during my pregnancy. I’ve been the one with all of the hormones and now I’m not sure if I’m experiencing depression and not feeling good enough. That textbook “depression” quality. Any husbands or dads felt like they haven’t wanted to touch their wives due to the baby?

@annarocha3254

3 жыл бұрын

My husband is the same way. He treated me so well otherwise but I was left feeling so empty and unwanted. To the point where I fell into a very deep depression for months. But my sex life after baby was born (once I felt physically able) has been wonderful. You're the first person I have ever seen who shared my problem. I hope I can give you encouragement that it will get better.

@Valerievento_

3 жыл бұрын

@@annarocha3254 thank you 🙏🏽 yes otherwise he’s amazing, super supportive. Thank you for sharing with me. It helps to know I’m not alone

@NietzscheanMan

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe talk to him if you have not about what is going on. It can be a range of things: he may be afraid to hurt you or the baby, he may assume that you are not into it, maybe he is hurt over feeling left out or about some mood swing, he may be stressed out over how his life is changing and how thngs are getting real (not easy for any man to feel locked in, it has nothing to do with love), maybe you gained a lot of weight beyond what is due to pregnancy and he finds that unattractive (as a guy among guys I have never heard guys not being physically attracted anymore just because of a pregnant belly, but that is not the same as bloating up as a whole due to cheeseburgers, etc.) or maybe the pregnancy is causing emotional stress for him due to thinking about how he was treated as a child. The only one who can tell you is your husband, but you may need to push and pull a bit without making him feel guilty. In any case, there are a lot of possible reasons beyond not loving you anymore or not being attracted anymore, which can be completely disconnected from you (but if it is not, be cognizant of weight gain and mood swings and don't make excuses for that being "normal" as the price for that can be very high in the long run). Just some thoughts from a random guy - all the best.

@Valerievento_

3 жыл бұрын

@@NietzscheanMan Thank you for this insight 🙏🏽

@annarocha3254

3 жыл бұрын

@@NietzscheanMan My husband was not physically attracted to me while I was pregnant. He said that physically it felt as though he was with a different woman and it was hard for him to reconcile. I did really struggle with that and I know many people will say he is cruel, but I don't believe so. People expect men to be these sexual robots and that they must ALWAYS feel attracted to their partners. Maybe that is the case for some, but I don't think it is realistic for most. That is why marriage or serious relationships must be built on more than just sex. Sex IS obviously so important, but you need more than that to get through certain seasons in life. Just my two cents.

Our child is almost 3, we did it only once 1.5 year ago. We are in good relationship, no high voice or smth, good paid, I (also her or my parents) support my wife like very much, I stand every night because of the baby even when she pumped milk, and I gave it to the baby.... so the reason is that we or she is very tired always or not in the mood. What to do?

Hello I’m 24 year old and new mom my baby is now 3 month old and he is Brest feeding only, and I don’t want sex I’m not comfortable I’m so sad for my husband, what should i do?

@iamkristina

Жыл бұрын

Same issue

That's the inside...how does the outside look? I have heard men and women say it looks and feels different. Only woman say it's not different. But most men say it's different 🙂

@kutie216

9 ай бұрын

Mine looks the same after (I’m 6 weeks postpartum) but it does look very slightly different from the hormones with breastfeeding which will go away when I stop breastfeeding.

My husband and I had our son exactly 8 months ago. I'm okay and all ready for sex but he isn't. The plan was to wait until 6 months but we are on the 8th and he says he's traumatized. He fears if he would hurt me down there and isn't comfortable yet with having sex. I have initiated sex twice after the 6months wait that we had agreed upon and we don't even finish because he pulls out. He's still a good man and treats me so well but I just don't understand this and I've never heard any man talk about it.

@crystalfrbz

Жыл бұрын

Hey did things improve for you? I think I’m in the same position and I don’t know what to do

Can sex affect the breastfeeding of a baby

I'm post delivery by 3 months. Not gonna have sex again

Does it look and feel the same? Opinions of a man and woman ☺️.

Really wish you covered more of the issue from the perpective of men. I feel like more often than not we are asked to just push our feelings aside for our wife. I think we should stop shaming men for trying to be intimate and have a discussion about it. It doesn't have to be always the "just deal with it" mentality.

@vane33a6

3 жыл бұрын

I don’t think this video is “shaming men” at all 🤣

@TheRealWinser

3 жыл бұрын

@@vane33a6 I didn't say that but the video does minimize feelings men might have. I think both men and women have valid feelings and both should be equally valued.

@vane33a6

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheRealWinser But what makes you think the intention is to single out a man’s feelings? Instead, gather the information and understand a woman’s difficulties. I’ve birthed 4 children vaginally so I have an actual understanding of the video. I am fortunate that my husband is considerate and thinks selflessly when it comes to the process of birth and his “needs” after. It’s not like men don’t get “alone” time to accommodate themselves whenever they “need” to. Women on the other hand get no breaks, physically and mentally. But...we can’t expect all men to understand this.

@TheRealWinser

3 жыл бұрын

@@vane33a6 I never commented on the intention of the video. I merely expressed my wish to have some of the perspective of men represented.

@TheRealWinser

3 жыл бұрын

@@vane33a6 it is painfully obvious in your comments you have no idea what men go through. Intimacy is not something you have to "take care of" during "alone" time. You think men get breaks? I didn't know it was a competition. The conversation should never just automatically be "you just have to compromise because". There is less issues if you actually take time to listen to your husband and talk about his feelings even if he does have to compromise (because that's what's expected of us anyway).

7:25 what about positioning = Can we do the fun stuff doc? Reverse cowgirl, doggy style etc? Lol

Me and my wife got back to it right at the 6 weeks, but now....9 months later, it seems she has lost all interest in me and any kind of physical contact, other than from our son, he is the only one able to cuddle with her, be held by her, and me being with her intimately is out of the question, its becoming incredibly frustrating, and things are happening to me duuring the night that some women wont understand....dreams of other women, who ive never met dreams that these women are there for me to fulfill my physical needs while my wife stands by and cares for my son. I wake up sometimes wake up forgetting that i am married. This is not what i want. It causes me great stress.

@Jo_Brody_

Жыл бұрын

Ask her what she needs. You may find she not getting her needs met.

Thank you for making this video!!!!!