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Feeling unhappy all the time?
It might be because your expectations aren't being met.
According to Carl Rogers, this feeling of discontent is what he termed as "Incongruence."
In simple terms, Incongruence happens when the person you are on the inside doesn't quite match up with the person you aspire to be.
This discrepancy between what we hope for and what actually happens can lead to feelings of anxiety, depression, and overall dissatisfaction.
Why does this happen? Well, it's because you are failing to bridge the gap between expectation and reality.
Take, for instance, wanting to be healthier but struggling to stick to a balanced diet or exercise routine. That's Incongruence in action-your desire for fitness clashes with your habits.
Or maybe you long for deep, meaningful relationships but find it hard to open up or apologize when needed. That's another example of Incongruence-your yearning for connection isn't aligning with your actions.
These instances of incongruence can really take a toll on our mental well-being, leaving us feeling disheartened and unsatisfied with life.
And then there's expectation, which adds another layer to the mix. Being overly attached to uncertain futures can keep us stuck in this cycle of incongruence, preventing us from taking real action.
This fixation on what could be, rather than what is, often leads to a sense of stagnation and indecision.
By becoming overly attached to these hypothetical scenarios, we not only distance ourselves from the present moment but also hinder our ability to take meaningful action. Our preoccupation with future expectations can cloud our judgment and inhibit our capacity to address the misalignments between our desires and actions.
Instead, you want to develop congruence between both your perceived self and ideal self through daily rituals of behaviour that bring you closer to who you want to become.
The only way towards binding these two perceptions of Self is through accountability.
Are you ready to be accountable and say goodbye to the cycle of unmet expectations and dissatisfaction?
It's time to take charge of your happiness and realign your expectations with reality.
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