Once I was in a toxic relationship, many friends advised me to come out of it but with afraid of losing him I said to my parents that Iam in love with him & I like to marry him after 6 months of trouble both of our parents accepted for our marriage... that was the time I realised that he was not right partner for me bcoz iam the only one who is taking step to be with him but he casually blame me for everything... that time I took one decision that I can't be like this forever... then I said no for marriage to him and my parents both of them didn't accept that I said that we are not like lovers for 1 day also he always used to avoid me like that but nobody accepted it even my friends also... after that by God's miracle I find my true love of my life he was always with me and supports me but that was the time I realised iam actually in love with him, iam the type of person who deserves the person like him then I openly proposed him and he too accepted me as iam... but nobody accepted it so we did register marriage and iam really happy with him.

@mysaiappa

2 жыл бұрын

Congrats...be happy always😊

@nithyashreethangavel708

2 жыл бұрын

happy for you dear akka

@Ashwinthrock

2 жыл бұрын

Appa by god's grace you didnt fell into the toxic relation . And got a one who deserve you.

@881025sulo

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations 🎈

@gmscreations5616

2 жыл бұрын

Niceeee

Coming out of toxic relationship is really very hard once you did it you can feel the freedom

Exactly ipditha en relationship irundhuchi! 2years varavan poranvanta lam polambi vazhlkai ye veruthu finally suicidal thoughts vandhu! Na books padikra person eh ila but vera vazhli ilama evanachum namala mari kashta patrupan avn edhachum ezhludhi vechrpan adha follow panlam nu soli relationship and psychology books padika start panan. Aprm dha therinjidhu andha toxic person eh na dha nu. Aduthavan toxic ah nu kuda kandu pudichrlam pola but nama toxic ndradha therinjika dha rmba kashtam nu nenakran.

Much relatable! Oru oru varthaiyum "Palar" "Palar" nu aranja mathiri iruku doiii ... Nammala frst namma nesipoom... Avanga nalla jolly a than irukanga...nammathan soga violin vasichutu irukoom ... Ithu ellam nammaku thevaiya !!

13 things to quit for all Strong Minded People in 2022 : 1. Caring about what others think 2. Not believing in yourself 3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems ( life & business ) 4. Not prioritizing your health 5. Wasting your precious time 6. Chasing meaningless relationships 7. Wasting or draining your energy from beating your meat 8. Wasting time by scrolling social media 9. Nailbiting / nailpicking habit for good ( if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life ! ) 10. Watching dirty websites 11. Drinking cocktails with alcohol 12. Gaming for hours and hours 13. Taking life too seriously Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list . Cheering For You 🎇I believe in You, Love from a Small KZreadr 💝

@vijayalakshmirajan470

2 жыл бұрын

Aw thank you 😊

@saltnpepper2126

2 жыл бұрын

Tq i needed this !

@premaramesh3173

2 жыл бұрын

Nice

@harikrishnan6360

2 жыл бұрын

Nice points 👍 But I never knew about the 9th one.

@nitin_sailesh

2 жыл бұрын

Thankyouuuuuuu

I was in a toxic relationship for nearly 3 years. I exactly felt all in this video. Who ever going through such don’t look back move on please. Help yourself and love yourself

toxic relationship is not only between husband and wife, boy girl.. it's also between friends, other relationships, in laws, whomever you share your stay, home..

Very much important topic, very appreciated. Just came out of toxic relationship...it was very addictive even though u have been treated like nothing. Deprived of love , betrayed , cheated on, lost self value , begging. Gaslighting. Fear of abandonment and emotional abuse. In the beginning they treat u nice make u attached..and then that's all game over..u are slave. This thing not only broke my heart it shattered my mind...i lost myself. I was about to give up on me. But i went through it and came out stronger. Thing is happiness is within ourselves. Self love , self care Building our self esteem , belief , believing we deserve better. Good healthy support system. give some time..heal slowly and nicely..become independent. Relay on yourself emotionally. Life is too short to be drowned in pain. Raise up 👍

@karthikvpc

2 жыл бұрын

I just came out of 15 years long toxic friendship. He was full of negative thoughts and negative energy. His companionship was spoiling and damaging my personality. We have quarreled but patched up multiple times. But this time I need to confirm that he is a kind of psychopath who cherish by damaging himself and the people around him. It was a tough decision to break up because he was my only close friend. So, I feared of losing the only childhood friendship. But I feel completely relived now. I can see the world with a open mind now. God may show me some new friends who are good at heart !

@d_bee6448

2 жыл бұрын

👍👌FIGHTING✌️

Inda Mari toxic relationship la namma career and personal growth gets affected. Waste of time and effort. Stress Nala health kuda affect agudu. So we should stop such relationship.

I think this is the 10th time am watching this video rmba kolapamave irunthuchu nw am clear yes me too in a toxic relationship nw going to get out of this shit in two days,marubadium manasu marida kudathunu than comment pani vechikuren 😬 i hope it will be smooth ending plss pray for me, than you ananthi u r really awesome❤

i actually come out from toxic relationship ...😇, it's really hard and much much pain ...., but after that i find real happiness and beauty of the life ...❤️,and Start love myself...💯, really there is a better life out there....😇

@hariprakash5625

2 жыл бұрын

Stay positive ✨bru

@mampisarkar5823

4 ай бұрын

How can you live from toxic relationship.. please help me, my bf also very toxic with me and if I talking about breakup then he started blackmailing me 🥺🥺🥺

Yes I realised and moved on from the toxic relationship...but it hits me hard and breaks me.. once I moved on it feels so good

I also came out from the toxic relationship..🤩🤩😆😆😆it is really fun and wonderful experience...it is totally different enviroment came out after that.that is surbley amazing..guys that you have suffering from that...please come out...beautiful world is waiting for you

@fathimaakeela4592

8 ай бұрын

@@amjath96 I am good.thank you

Anandhi..... Im not completely out of that toxic relationship but i have taken the first step. After that one day i have been with my friend, i felt like i breathe, i live life,no need to keep on proving ...omg....i really felt the liberation. Best book to invest on

Before getting out of a toxic relationship, there will so much of emotional vandalism. But it's fine to quit. You will be happy and it will be good for the person on the other side too ✌️✌️

@karthikvpc

2 жыл бұрын

Ok Kanmani 👍

@karthikvpc

2 жыл бұрын

I just came out of 15 years long toxic friendship. He was full of negative thoughts and negative energy. His companionship was spoiling and damaging my personality. We have quarreled but patched up multiple times. But this time I need to confirm that he is a kind of psychopath who cherish by damaging himself and the people around him. It was a tough decision to break up because he was my only close friend. So, I feared of losing the only childhood friendship. But I feel completely relived now. I can see the world with a open mind now. God may show me some new friends who are good at heart !

@maleficent6974

Жыл бұрын

Wow... This is helping me...

Huge respect to the friends who where at that moment on your side by respecting your decision,it may be of any relationship

I should hv seen this video before my marriage...my kind advice to all peopl who c this video..pls com out of toxic relationship as she says...my experience: was n love for 8 yrs even knowin all things elama seri agum nu i married .. Within 6months suffered alot... physical abuse mentally abused.....now am blank now the break up is called as Divorce...love panumbothu na just break up nu poirukum ipo everyon r gng to suffer ..

Hey Ananthi, I did stay in a legal toxic relationship, left my job, left my parents just to ensure the person will accept me and the number of times me and my son was used as a bait......it took a great courage, pain and fear to overcome. Thnks to my friends who supported me. My son Is happy now. My new year wishes to everyone. Remember once we are ready to face things will show its way to overcome. Now I am in a proudest job ever and my son is more happier and we explore things and make happier memories.love Ur work Dear.

Recently i came out from a relationship. Definitely u can do that. Live your life for you. Don't try to forget him/her. But try to remember you and your parents

Thank you Anandhi for a timely message. I just came out of 15 years long toxic friendship. He was full of negative thoughts and negative energy. His companionship was spoiling and damaging my personality. We have quarreled but patched up multiple times. But this time I need to confirm that he is a kind of psychopath who cherish by damaging himself and the people around him. It was a tough decision to break up because he was my only close friend. So, I feared of losing the only childhood friendship. But I feel completely relived now. I can see the world with a open mind now. God may show me some new friends who are good at heart !

@Duruvansivakumarshorts

2 жыл бұрын

I bet you will never regret this decision..ivainga kooda irundhu dhinamum saguradhuku..thanimai evlavo mel..you will truly find a better companion..trust me it happened for me..

@karthikvpc

2 жыл бұрын

@@Duruvansivakumarshorts நன்றி நண்பரே 😍🙏

Yep I'm there 5years of relationship it's not really toxic one but sometimes he's is immature rarely he's behavior completely selfish so I did breakup and lots of rebounce and I felt very lonely after I left from the relationship now itself I saw your video it's damnnnn open my eyes I felt motivated✌happy breakup days, love your self

I was feeling low but after watching this got some confidence sis, thank you so much

I have to say i was the one toxic in my relationship. He showed me soo much affection which i took as an advantage and made it toxic. I was always very polite and friendly to be with. I don't know which changed me like a hell in my relationship. I would scold him for nothing and made him beg behind me. Like for the initial one year, i was very arrogant and toxic in my relationship. Everything changed when our relationship became long distance coz of covid. I realised i was toxic, i cried many nights for hurting him. I felt he doesn't he deserve me and he deseves better. When i told him how i felt, he said its good u realised now and u will soon come out of it. He helped and we built our relationship healthy. I lowered my expectations and gave him space. I always put myself in his position which reduced the misunderstandings.

I think people get motivated by your speech..we are blessed to have you here :) You are a life changer for most of the people;) Keep rocking :)

@fathimaakeela4592

2 жыл бұрын

I also came out from the toxic relationship..🤩🤩😆😆😆it is really fun and wonderful experience...it is totally different enviroment came out after that.that is surbley amazing..guys that you have suffering from that...please come out...beautiful world is waiting for you

@akhilakeshav

2 жыл бұрын

Defenatley she is life changer

Got emotional seeing this video.i am deeply connected to this video. Longing for a person to share how I feel but at the same time I don't want to share pain with others as anyone influence the situation. This video is definitely a god gift for me personally thank you anadhi

Toxicity is addictive. In psychology, there are many definitions... push and pull, anxious attachment styles etc. In toxic relationships people go looking for someone who they feel familiar with. its nothing but your wounds seeking similar grounds..

There is always peace in relationship if it isn't in yours and you always feel burdened I guess you have to rethink on the relationship and let go be free , explore ! Make breakups peaceful not rude or always crying or cursing. If you are with a kind of person who just understands the logic behind your words and doesn't compel you in anything then it's worth ! Those kind of relationships are there and you just have to meet a lot of people be friends then you'll know ! Don't jump into a relationship just because you feel alone , that's a bad idea 💯

So true! It's such a tough topic to talk about in Indian culture. Romba polite ah azhaga ah solliteenga :)

I also come out from the toxic relationship Now only I feel so good happy But often times feelings also hurt a lot,but don't consider that.... In that time divert mind with someother things....

Deivamee🤩 Just now toxic relationship naala bayanGara depression la irundha ena da panalam nu yosichitee summa KZread open pana unGa video dha first la vandhu ninunuchii seri ena da play pani papomee nu paatha vera level Ga enooda problems ah apdiyee puttu puttu vachitinGa🤣🤣🤣Na ipa semmayana oru toxic relationship la matikutuu mulikuraa akka 😭😭😭😭 unGa video pathadhuku aprm enaku oru idea kidachiruku akka very very thanks akka🤝 keep it up akka we want more videos👍we will support you more akka🤩❤️❤️

This is the best book I have read It's way more than relationship I like the way he calls out the bullshit we carry on with this Things I am gonna carry on my life about this book 1. Don't chase happiness but build satisfaction 2. You're not a James Bond/Princess, No one is special in this world 3. Don't over estimate others and underestimate yourself and don't run behind approval 4. Rejections are normal and people are wierd

@Ashwinthrock

2 жыл бұрын

3rd point suits me apt bro . I will henceforth try to be happy within me

@johnheathalin7397

2 жыл бұрын

Write it down and read it everyday you will be more aware

Sister ..iruka relationship vitu vera thedi.. adhu idha vida mosama irundha enna pandradhu.. 😂 apdinu dha nariya per relationship continue pandranga 😂.. it sounds comical.. but ppl with more insecurity and sensitivity continue to stay in. PAINFUL RELATIONSHIP..😔 more over relationship apdindradhu.. bf and gf mattum illa.. also very close blood relations can also be toxic.. appo veliya vandhalum.. adhu pain dha indha society la🥺😭

@manjulasaravanan5976

2 жыл бұрын

Relationship set aahalana yen relationship kulla ponum... Single ah irukka vendiyathu than

@srinithyamanavalagan1918

2 жыл бұрын

What do to??????????

@CharukesiArunraj

2 жыл бұрын

@@manjulasaravanan5976 adhum iruka Vida maatanga.. Parents oda duty nu solli marriage panika soli comple panuvanga.. emotional black mail iruku... Vera vazhi ilama marriage pannikanum 🤣

@CharukesiArunraj

2 жыл бұрын

@@srinithyamanavalagan1918 I don't know 😇🙃

@Ramya0216

2 жыл бұрын

@@CharukesiArunraj What urs it'll come..

Exactly every women i grew up with, my mother, my grandmother, my aunt everyone ☀️ They think they are sacrificing and that's the right thing too.

@Mel-by7re

2 жыл бұрын

if the other person cares for you, supports you and puts efforts for you, yes. or else no no no

@s.shanmugasundaram8869

Жыл бұрын

@@Mel-by7re if another person cares or loves you truly they won’t like it if you “sacrifice”. They will actually be against it. When that is not happening that is not true care or love.

@Mel-by7re

Жыл бұрын

@@s.shanmugasundaram8869 every marriage has some adjustments to be made from both sides but as along as its not completing letting go of your dreams, your goals and losing yourself completely it is ok. love makes you give in sometimes but it should never be forced or something outside of your boundaries or limits.

New yearனு கூட இல்லாம செம்ம confusion la இருந்தன்..... இப்போ க்ளீயர் ஆகிடுச்சு.... t.x akka 🙏🏼 Happy new year ♥️

Yes, sometimes we must take a hard decision to move on with grace , poise n comfort which is the best solution in a toxic relationship!!

♥️Really gud content akka💯 I've been there for few years. As u said, i couldn't think out of the relationship as it was my life line. Bt, later i realised life has much more to offer than being in a toxic relationship, where u r not even considered & prioritised. When Zero efforts been put by ur partner to save the relationship which is divine for u. That's the time I decided to let it go.... And "finally i found peace of mind after 1 year of Breakup." Now these r the best days of my life. "Prioritise Peace of mind" This vdeo resembles many of our lifes. Hope it slaps on everyone's face before it's too late. Thanx for this vdeo 👍

Finally i found best KZread channel in my life Thanks for your actual live events and facts sharing with us

This book probably helps many people's mental health, thankyou for suggesting this book...... 💙💐

Thanks for the video. It's really hard going in circles in a toxic relationship. The problem is that I keep falling back into going in circles even after talking about it with friends to help me out of the dangerous toxic relation. No wonder my friends are angry or upset when I fall back to the attachment of toxic circle. I am trying to get off, yet the guilt is high to walk off the toxic relation. I am still trying to do something for myself. It will take some time for things to change, still work in progress.

I would say every relationship needs time. You should give your partner their time and space, set boundries between yourself. Reduce expectations and ensure the other person is happy because of you. Fight really hard to fix it. Make them realise your worth. Coming out should be the last option. I know many cases where people have lived happily after putting a lot of effort to make it work. This generation nobody has patience, no real life experiences and no proper mentors. We are slowly transforming into a western society. Don't get influenced by the video straightaway. Asses your individual case, work on it to fix it. A beautiful relationship is a worth a million.

✨..even those lines are special. Because today I felf that my relationship is in toxic. I confused what kind of relationship is this.i likes and loved more and more. Even I lost many of my friends for that person. But now I am feeling very bad and guilty about my blindly toxic relationship.😑😓.. I forget to love myself.and my family tooo. But I can back them and sure one day that person release how I took care of him.. Lost mee... It's paining but now I am feeling my self better and I can take breathe my self. Thanks so muchh😌🙏

@dpriyan7653

5 ай бұрын

Brother u r message is veryy deep and i the same happened for me even more too but even sometimes I'm having some unwanted thoughts and after seeing anadhis video and some of the comments im sure ill be free one day ill succeed in my life and ill lead a happy life

Hai ananthi.... Happily nan athula irunthu velila vanthuten. Toxic ah irunthathu remba varsam munnadi... Actual ah namaku antha time nallathu sonna friends kooda apo namaku kettavangala therivanga. In fact intha relationship vanthu kandipa love ah than irukanum nu ila.... nama best friends kulla kooda irukum .nama frnd Vera yaarkitayachum pesuna or avanagala best fend nu sonna .... Antha time la vara possessiveness.... maturity ilama ukanthu alurathu, namma cal attend panala na voice note send pandrathu ithulam namma yaara remba pidichu irukunu pandromo avangalukey pidikaathu. Aluthu poraadi iruntha time lam miss aana apram thonum. Intha olgathula NamalA thavara namaku yaarumey nerantharam ilanu ... Neenga pesum pothu neraiya visayam relate panika mudinjathu... and yaarum yaaravathu pesala or ignore pandranga nu feel panatheenga. Live your life as ur wish❤️

The best thing in 2021 is I found ur videos and started addicted😍

@karthikvpc

2 жыл бұрын

I just came out of 15 years long toxic friendship. He was full of negative thoughts and negative energy. His companionship was spoiling and damaging my personality. We have quarreled but patched up multiple times. But this time I need to confirm that he is a kind of psychopath who cherish by damaging himself and the people around him. It was a tough decision to break up because he was my only close friend. So, I feared of losing the only childhood friendship. But I feel completely relived now. I can see the world with a open mind now. God may show me some new friends who are good at heart !

Thanks for being a legendary example!

I left toxic relationships feel good now. Thank you for your advice

Relatable and eye opener!! Thanks for the suggestion.. will read this book. Thanks again!

Single mindset:- goyyala toxic aa கூட ஒரு relationship இல்லை யே da, 😅

First of all, I am going to gift this book to myself 🙂.

100000000000000000000 times true . Chance e illa :) .. I mean, each and every line. After break up, I went in a loop over and over again and agian , ena da ithan mudiva ninachen .. as she said, its just time people. jail kulaye romba varushama irunthutu sudden a unaku release . , enjoy nu solita first few months life mosama than therium . then we realize what does freedom actually feel like .. cheers to everyone hustling tough times . and big cheers to Namma Anandhi :P

Very motivating talk. It gives me the thought that I should introspect my rltp and see if the other person is being toxic or am I myself being toxic. Have to read this book. Thank you for the talk 🙏🙏

It's not the books inspires me, it's your cute expression inspires me. Love you. God bless you.

Really Worthy.. Thank you for this one❤❤❤

Much needed one. Thank You🖤

A true life changer in deed. Keep up the good work.

Yes very special ....book மட்டும் தான் நல்ல friend .. மனிதர்கள் ரொம்பவே பொறாமையும் அதிகாரம் மிக்கவர்களாகவும் இருக்காங்க...

Very true 👍thank you for the wonderful message

Wow. Just what I've been looking for. You're just doing a great job. Kudos ❣️

This book is much wanted by the world.coz people are entangled like this type of toxic relationship.I walked out of this toxic relationship and now happy

Thank you sis for reflecting my mind thoughts! And thanks for the book author also ❤️

Most needed!! Thank for this video at the right time😇 Love u Anandhi akka❤nd thanks for this channel❤

Happy New Year to The Book Show team.... and main wishes to RJ Ananthi ( motivational 👸)

Indha video oru one year munnala potrundha nallarndhrukum...but no problem, naan idhula sonna advices ah own ah follow pannikiten andha time la😇

Amazinggggg,Ananthi... Felt like you explained this book just for me... Thank u

U r Soo confident I can felt an high enthusiasm energy form u keep rocking ananthi

This message is the real new year gift for me,Happy new year 2022 anandhi.

Loved this Omg you are truely an inspiration.

What are all mentioned in this book are absolutely right. I have come out of a toxic relationship. I am also seeing many married women struggling in toxic relationship (her husband) but they are not ready to accept that the relationship is actually toxic and they suffer everyday. They believe like they can give chance (again and again) for years even for the lifetime to change their character or whatever the issue but in real time it won't happen. Problem here is they take ownership or responsibility or accountability for everything they are undergoing and they are not ready to accept the reality.

Superb Ananthi. . Same situation me and my kids. . Trying to come out of it. . Wife threw kids in Ashrama. . Omg she is so crazy almost 8years we suffered. .By God grace found my kids. . Now need to come out of her memory. .This video make more sense for us. . Thanks😊 . . Stay blessed. .

My whole life is cleared and freshly started by this 15mins vdo.....

Thank you soo much for this video 🙏

Thanks a lot for talking about books like Attitude is everything, As a man thinketh and Think like a monk.. It gave so much insights to me and very much beneficial.. Keep up the good work...

Listening to this video when ever i feel sad. Thank you

Thank you ananthi for this book review... very useful for me in 2022.. Happy New year... God bless you.. 🙏

Thanks for the clearer information.

I came out of it Most of the things u told was absolutely right . After the certain point, u already knew this is the end ,dont hesitate to end things like this .if u didnt it will cost ur health

Most thoughtful and thankful video sis ,

Because we love to be in pain than in joy knowingly or unknowingly we like to be entangled with issues and enjoy the emotions like self pitty anxiety lost in thoughts etc.... yes we are the reason for our sorrows

Very good explanation, Thank you, God Bless You

Wherever she saying is damn true .. i was in toxic relationship she tried to kill me 20-30 times in the past 3 years.. Some how survived because of her worst childhood she was hurting me like anything in the world

@pragadeeshas

2 жыл бұрын

Don't feel bro time heals everything

@mohamedfarook.i8624

2 жыл бұрын

@@pragadeeshas Am perfectly Now Am beginner level Public Speaker, My life encouraged with my passion Am writing a Book. life Transformrd here in all 5Main Aspects Physical health, mental health, emotional Health and spiritual health.

@mohamedfarook.i8624

2 жыл бұрын

@@pragadeeshas Thanks for your Love brothrr

Exact explanation super akka put your hands together 👏👏👏The solution is self love and spread unconditional love

Great vdo with clear cut explaination....just hit me deep

Ohh my god how beautifully said

20/22.. இனிய புத்தாண்டு வாழ்த்துகள் ! 🔥⚜🔥..Happy 20/22..Nieuw Year.. Super R.J.Ananthi... உண்மை ! உறவு அறுந்து விழக்கூடியது ...

Thank you so much. In the right situation at the right time i got this message from you. 🙏. Once again tnx Aanandhi sis.

Thank you so much

Ur doing great 👍👍...ur my inspiration to read books...love you sis

Thx for this akka 😊 a good message in a right time ❤️

In this new year am watching thisss.. Thank you sooo much sis love u💓...

Very nice book...thank u .

I am come out of toxic relationship😊. Thank you anathi said detailed about it.

You are so matured. Your Life partner is so lucky.

Oh my God, thank you 💕🙏 You made my day , it's new year i breakup , very toxic verrry toxic, im free now , thank you

The way of explaining is very amazing...I really love you sister.

உங்க பதிவினை கேட்க கேட்க .. ஒவ்வொரு பிரச்சினைகளுக்கு தீர்வு கிடைக்கிறது ..நன்றி 🙏 உங்கள் சேவைக்கு .

New year start with your video ananthi♥️🔥

I needed to hear this.

Seeing u is so blissful ananthi So a big ❌ to podcasts🥰

Your speech and selection .. 👍🏼👍🏼 Super cool 1

Thanks for the advice 😊😊 it mean a lotss...

@13.42 It's me! I came out of this, I had been played and I am brave enough to walk away, and I don't have any cruse words for him. Now I love me ,I, myself more then ever, I am not gonna mistreat me again.