I've noticed how much asking a man at the store for help reaching something or finding an isle and then showing gratefulness makes them light up

@Chainbreak2023

Жыл бұрын

And probably that will be his first and last appreciation for the day, the little things matter to them

This is exactly what I did to HEAL my marriage. I had to let him fail, be a gracious receiver and give back love and gentleness to him without withholding based on performance. I stop keeping a score card. I gave up being in charge. Through all of it God worked on my sin as well and we are healing and in a much better place. Lately I’ve noticed I’m doubting him, and sure enough those little patterns come back so thank you I needed this reminder! -None of the work of healing was in my own strength God truly was the once working in our marriage leading me every step of the way. Prayer for your marriage and time in the word is the most powerful weapon as Christ followers. I’m definitely picking up this book! Thank you Bindi ❤

When I think of being a “needy wife” I think of a woman who relies on her husband to satisfy all of her emotional needs, requesting him to constantly spend time with her at the expense of doing other things (like spending time with his male friends or playing sports, etc) and just overall depends on her husband for her feelings of self-worth, security, identity, and joy. I see it as someone who places this burden on her husband instead of finding this identity, joy, and fulfillment in the Lord. I was that woman and God has graciously shown me this and changed my heart to be fully satisfied in his love for me instead of demanding a certain type of love from my husband to feel whole, seen, and loved. Curious what others think!

@stephaniem895

Жыл бұрын

The lord recently revealed this to me too. Im workinf though the emotional wounds to place my identity wholly and Wiley in Christ

@RuthofBoaz

Жыл бұрын

I’m struggling with this.

@realtorgiftee

Жыл бұрын

Amen sister!

@claudiag.3036

Жыл бұрын

I completely agree, and it’s also something I struggle with.

@Radianty_Ella

Жыл бұрын

💚 yes

This is soo good!! I noticed in the beginning of my marriage I was so fixated on what my husband was doing that I was nagging him with random things. And the lord randomly checked me and was like “Joy are you doing what I called you to do as a wife/homemaker”. I shut up real quick and started focusing on taking care of our home and preparing meals etc and there was such a difference and peace that came over our home! It was beautiful 🥰 Thank you Bindi!

@michaelclyburn7511

Жыл бұрын

Amen🔥🕊🔥

@rosanellesblessedlife1786

Жыл бұрын

Pray for me as I am in the process of finding our way in my marriage so that each of us can do what God wants us to do.

@michaelclyburn7511

Жыл бұрын

@@rosanellesblessedlife1786 praying for you and your family🕊, Remember put God first and watch how everything fall into place🔥🕊🔥🤗, God bless you

@rayted9073

11 ай бұрын

You are blessed to have had that word and walking in it is the best thing you did.

@Mommamelabee

3 ай бұрын

Pray for me as I am working on these things, it’s been hard but I know God will work all these things out 🙌🏾

She just highlights biblical marriage so beautifully. Makes me excited to be married and grow with my husband.

As Dr. Laura says: men are simple. If you do it, they won't. Most men won't fight you for it, but it undermines your faith in them and emasculates them...or gives them a sort of allowance to act as a teenage boy. Generally speaking, a man will act according to the way you treat him. Treat him as a mature, responsible leader...even when he's failing to be so. You stay in your lane ...and eventually he'll realize what he needs to do. Let's not make our husbands lazy.

@theparttimehomemaker

Жыл бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@myriamdiallo4434

Жыл бұрын

Love this!

@charlottemckenzie5259

Жыл бұрын

AMEEEEEEENNNNNNN

@NokukhanyaForChrist1426

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, hey

@Themachine3.0

Жыл бұрын

Most men, not all men. I wish all men were like “most” men then this statement will apply to all of us

This is truth. I made a hard decision to stop being the sole provider. Although we’ve had to live with family and suffer financial hardship, my husband figured it out. My prayers have been answered by me stepping back and giving up control. Our marriage is thriving watching him hop over obstacles and strategize our present and future. He is energized through providing, and loves coming home to a home cooked meal…not the other way around! Just like any skill we have to let our men practice, develop and learn these skills. Just stand by his side, pray, and see it through with him.

Gift giving is one of my love languages. Not about the $ spent on the gift but the thoughtfulness behind it. I love when a person studies me, KNOWS ME, and gets me something with what they know about me in mind. Hubby began our marriage by being a terrible gift giver. His gifts seemed like he forgot it was my birthday, remembered on the way home from work, stopped at the Target down the street from the house, grabbed a ramdom top off the rack. Got a card. Came home and gave me the gift, in the Target bag, with the tag still on and the receipt in the bag. I said thank you. Read the card, which was heartfelt, and said thank you. BUUUUUUUUT......later that night, when the kids were in the bed....we had pillow talk. I asked him why did he pick the gift that he picked and what was it about the gift that he thought I would love. Of course, he couldn't articulate why and without me saying it, realized he fell short. I then expressed my expectation concerning gifts. I havent had a problem since. He got a gift that was really a matter of convenience for him. He forgot,it was quick, cheap and thoughtless. I said...i don't care if your gift was free, picked up off the side of the road. If YOU KNOW I like flipping furniture....and you found a gem of piece. And you stopped and picked it up knowing I'd love it and hauled it home AND bought me a paint brush with a bow on it and Lowes gift card to get paint.... THAT IS A THOUGHTFUL GIFT BABY!!!❤❤❤❤ you KNOW me. You KNOW what I love. That's ALL it takes😊

Bindi, I So admire your wisdom and articulate way of encouraging women in their marriages and homes! I have been married over 30 years and could have used this advice :) When I think of neediness? Having a need to me means asking for something your husband can actually do for you. NeediNESS reminds me of asking my husband to fill needs that were never his to fill. Father issues, broken trust from others etc. Things that can make you cling in unhealthy ways.

@thereallehasa

Жыл бұрын

This is the best definition

@MyPrimeone

Жыл бұрын

Facts!!

@Thabaniization

Жыл бұрын

Interesting....

@gustocoder8900

11 ай бұрын

Correct!!!

This is sooo good! My husband and I have been married for 52 years but I still need reminders. I did not know this important information for many years in our marriage but when I thank my husband for his provision and love, he responds as if he’s 10 feet tall. By the way, my husband has for many years now told me that my pleasure is way more important to his in the love-making arena. He proves that all the time. When we were much younger, I honestly think it was important to him but I didn’t know that and punished him for wanting to make love so often. Wish I could get those years back… But, I do understand now and life with my precious husband is sweet! Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Bindi. I’m writing down your KZread information to give to a young woman in our church who will be married next year. It’s exciting to think some can start out armed with Gods full truth about marriage!

I believe that being needy is a state of emotional deficit and whereby the individual experiencing this does not take responsibility for their emotional wellbeing and nurturing but rather places this responsibility on someone else to fill this need.

This was really helpful; to look at my husband (as a giver) like we look at the Lord God. I tend to struggle with feeling like I'm failing at my role as a wife and homemaker if I need help from my husband with a task. If dinner is not already served when he comes home, he will ask if there is anything he can do to help. I tend to default to, no, because I want to prove (to both of us) that I'm succeeding at my role by myself. But, I think I need to receive that help more readily. As believers, if we treat the Lord's help as something to refuse and prove we do not need, that is actually contrary to a healthy relationship with Him. Acknowledging our need for His resources in order to bear the fruit and do the good works He has ordained is the way we truly succeed at living the Christian life. The branch cannot bear fruit of itself. The Father gave His Son. The Son ascended so that we would be sent the Helper (the Holy Spirit), the Paraclete, one who walks alongside. We need to be receptive to the Lord, and that same picture is in our marriages. Thanks for the video!

A needy person usually struggles with low self-esteem, guilt, and poor choices which make things more complicated in a marriage Issues with being transparent Thanks for making these videos 🙏🏽😊

Being "in need": requiring something to fulfill a desired purpose Being "needy": the constant requiring of something that may seem unreasonable and overwhelming to the person who you're taking it from (a perspective) This is just how I've always interpreted it. I believe what you "need" in a relationship should be established in the very beginning and both should be willing to give 100%. Also, I don't think being needy in a relationship is always a negative thing though, because maybe in that moment we just need a little extra love, and that's ok!

@cabbagecrosby1993

Жыл бұрын

That’s what I was thinking. I’ve never considered myself needy, so I know if I get to the point (because of lack of communicating and maybe even realizing myself) that I can no longer pretend I’m okay with being neglected, I might come off as “needy” or “high maintenance” for simply having basic needs and expressing them so late that I’ve been overthinking the situations resentfully, while he’s been completely unaware there was ever such problems under the surface. This is why communication must always improve if we want to be on the same page and have a chance of our needs being met. I’m still trying to unlearn the communication issues I got from my parents’s marriage. So many times where I only see what he’s doing wrong or where he’s lacking, and only later realizing how toxic and how like my mother I sounded when I said what I said to him because I’m just used to biting off more than I can chew, and have a hard time asking for help.

Wish I heard this 12 years ago. This is good. For those desiring to be a homemaker don’t cave and go out to get that higher paying job. Stay the course. I love my husband and we have a great marriage but there is always a part of me that wish I stood my ground and be the homemaker I have always wanted to be.

@shaymay2892

Жыл бұрын

Was he encouraging you to work,

After watching the whole video, the thought popped up that this is also a great way to show your children love. Treating your children with that same grace will encourage them to want to do more for you and for the house.

This is a very important conversation. Yes, most of us women fall into that trap of, "If he doesn't det it done, I can do it myself!" In most cases, this reaction comes out of emotions and impulsiveness on women. When the hubby decides to stop doing whatever it was that he didn't jump at her call, it becomes a bigger problem.

You clarified this concept of needing vs neediness like no one else has done. Simply profound. So grateful.

This was really good. I enjoyed every bit of what you said. I am still struggling with receiving what my hubby gives. I usually think he can do better. I will work on improving my receiving so he can improve his giving. I will also make sure to be more specific with my requests and place my expectations in the Lord with faith that my hubby will give the way I need him to.

I love love your mind. I am benefiting from this perspective. What I love love love even more is it is Christ centered and edifying. All praises to the one true God! I love you and appreciate your time! This makes sooo much sense and a great discussion!

I think using the words “I need YOU” to do xyz is huge for my man. Like you said, clear and concise. I used to not say anything and would blow up once a month with feelings of being unloved and under valued.

This is, by far, the best video I have ever watched on traditional roles in marriage. Subbed immediately after watching.

@molly_frances

Жыл бұрын

She hits the nail on the head in every video. 🔨

@jannadee77

Жыл бұрын

@@molly_frances I am blown away. 💯 Incredibly intelligent, beautiful Christian wife and mother who presents the information thoughtfully and accurately.

@neelafung8787

Жыл бұрын

Girl just wait there’s more. It’s no mistake that you even found her channel. I started watching her videos and like it all aligns with the Bible and it’s been life changing for me.

@jannadee77

Жыл бұрын

@@neelafung8787 I've just started a deep dive into her videos. Incredible.

@shaymay2892

Жыл бұрын

​@@jannadee77Aw,❤ Keep reading your Bibles ladies.

I’m so thankful that I no longer listen to voices that tell me how perfect I need to be in order to be accepted by my husband. It was such a lonely place to be. I kept all of my emotional, spiritual needs private because I heard so many women who always put the blame at my doorstep for my lack. I tried so hard to be good enough for my husband’s love and attention. If he didn’t give me something I needed I blamed my “neediness” or whatever. It was always my fault. So so thankful to find that freedom!! My relationship with my husband has flourished since we learned the actual BIBLICAL wisdom, not man’s wisdom. It not based on works it’s based on Christ. We are genuinely crazy for each other. I feel incredibly safe. My neediness has gone away, naturally. His distance is no longer there. He loves and cares for me. Out of a heart of overflowing love for him and Jesus I gladly serve him. I’m walking in that place that the Bible says needs no law. 🙌 I highly recommend the covenant household by Douglas Wilson. I got the cannon plus app. When I understood how it was actually designed I loved God and my husband more than ever!

@GinaA

Жыл бұрын

Amen! I love that app and their books/ podcasts in general. Im also listening to covenant household.

I've been guilty of giving needy responses to my husband and no wonder I get nowhere. It totally makes sense why this is not the most effective way to get help from your husband. I'm going to practice and speak more from a posture of capability and preciseness with my husband. Thank you as always Bindi ❤

Whew you are always speaking truth! I have been loving your videos these past couple months I have found you. Im a new mama of a now 9 month old and learning how to be a better wife, mama, homemaker and daughter of Christ. Sometimes you call me out, but hey, its needed! Thank you Bindi!

I would say that goes to dating also, a woman might be upset that she is not being pursued, so does the first step, and maybe also the second, third... all of a sudden she can become bitter and think that no men pursue women the right way anymore. Joyce, the green dress looks stunning on you.

Wow this video has been so helpful and right on time! I have been that “no I got it” wife/woman, usually out of not communicating my own needs and then feeling disappointed when the need isn’t met. Now I’m seeing why I’ve felt so tired and like I don’t have help. Stepping out of the husband role immediately!

I think the difference between neediness and needing something is in the amount of control the woman is trying to exercise over her husband. It manifests as her not giving him any space or control over his time. Examples include calling him every 30 minutes when he's away, a pointless laundry list of tasks with expectation they be done on her time-line, and requests for him to constantly validate her emotions.

I have seen relationships go downhill because the women took on the provider role. It’s almost like the man got bored of having it all made for him that he went out and committed adultery smh. This was executed beautifully!

@cristinap6394

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for giving a perfect example of how a man cheating is not the woman’s fault. If he was the provider in the first place, then maybe she wouldn’t have needed to step into that role.

@ChiomaChinedu714

Жыл бұрын

The Most High God made the man the head,leader and provider,and wives the home builders. Unfortunately, the followers of Christ Jesus are now following the pattern of the world instead of the scripture. Once the roles are switched, the family isn't functioning as God's will.

I really love your videos. I feel what you share (and how well you articulate the things you share) seriously grounds my heart attitude toward my husband, myself, and my child - in the way God designed. It’s truth that we can so easily veer off course from and it’s so good to have the redirection. Thank you for doing this ❤

I have been described as needy before. I am very much a quality time person and something that has been difficult for me in marriage is to not allow my love for quality time with my best friend to become codependency.

@kirky3051

Жыл бұрын

How do you prevent it from turning into codependency? I’m a quality time girl too.

@walkinunity5461

Жыл бұрын

@@kirky3051have quality time with yourself too. Finding something that you like doing that helps clear your mind and/or just for fun.

@thepuffinpanda9139

Жыл бұрын

@kirky3051 Well, my husband has been having to take long work trips this Summer, like 20 days at a time, so I've been forced to get back into my own hobbies and do things without him. That has been a hard and not fun lesson but forcing myself to do the things has helped. When he gets home I'm a bit clingy but after this Summer is over and he's back to his normal schedule, I think I'll be better off than I was before he started on this rotation.

This isnt about your hair but it’s been wonderful seeing your hair growth through your videos 💜 I think of being needy as being an all consuming person who is barely or rarely able to give back. Someone who can do nothing but take in all areas because she’s got a bottomless pit that never gets filled.

I just want to give the Glory to God for this video and my marriage. HalleluYAH!

What I believe being neediness is wanting to have your way and not exercising the word No nor having patience/self control and being in need for something is help with something, because we are all in need of help..My understanding of neediness vs need..By the way great teaching sis so encouraging❤

I needed to hear this more than I realized! And I actively try and practice receiving with gratitude. The clip of the Rabbi made my heart hurt. Thank you for your content ❤ I also love hearing the children in the background 🥰

We all have needs (God-given by design), and we are to give others the space to consent whether they are able to meet our needs. The book Boundaries by John Townsend and Henry Cloud goes into the stewardship of our needs/emotions. I think the big difference in having a need and being needy, is whether we are permitting space for the other's free will to meet our need or not. Also, when we truly provide people freedom to meet needs, we must ask of more than one person, because one person is not meant to carry that load on our behalf. Being needy is repeatedly going to one person, and not permitting space for them to consent/refuse without a consequence (like pouting or bringing it up all the time).

Needing is a proactive ask, working together to facilitate the meeting of that need (ie timing and type of delivery) as well as a contentment with the best effort being taken and a gradual building towards bettering that best to more accurately meet that need. Neediness is a passive (sometimes aggressive) nag which doesn't quite know what is needed to fulfill itself, isn't willing to work towards figuring that out and only regards it's own position of lack ignoring the very real capacity of another to help provide for that lack

Great advice! I have been working to make this change by thinking about what they are going to hear. A simple change of tone can be the difference is someone hearing “oh she’s upset” rather than “I didn’t realize she needed help. Let me see what I can do”

Well this was a timely video. Thank you Bindi for discussing this topic. It was encouragement to me and gave me hope for better communication.

I have really struggled with doing to much and being resentful of my husband. Thanks, you have given me a new perspective.

Such a good video and a blessing! Need to rewatch 🙏🏾

Excellent topic! I do find that the more I recognize him for what he does, the more he does - and the more he shares with me about other things! I do my best to stay in tune when he talks about door frames bc he is sharing & proud of himself!

I am not married yet but I am so grateful that I came across this video! You are like a grandmother who is full of life experiences that she learned throughout the years and gets to share them with the world ❤❤

Truly inspired by your journey! You have an anointed voice, hope to hear more of it in your videos, maybe at the end or with your modest fitting shorts? Just throwing that out there lol. Truly a blessing! ❤

This video is right on time. I’m learning this lesson right now. Without faith, it’s impossible to please God.

This was an amazing video! Thank you ! May God continue to bless you and your family ! Definitely will be sharing this video with other women

Excellent insights! I bought the book and am loving it so far! I definitely have my work cut out for me this chapter

Thank you so much for your advice ! I have struggled with neediness , and doing things for others when I shouldn’t . I am currently learning to step back and let my husband take action. I was the type to financially provide when he lacked and this put him in a place where he is not worried if we lack because he knows I am providing . We got together so young and I didn’t know what to expect from a man other than love . I found myself in a place where I became very “needy” and I didn’t know why until I realized that I was doing too much ! It’s a hard situation but I believe God is in control.

@lindsaypeek63

Жыл бұрын

I did the same and my husband is in fact a wonderful man but once you do that it’s hard to turn the ship around . Indeed God is in control. It took me getting very I’ll with autoimmunity and burnt out to see the error of my ways and turn to try to chnage. Our roles are back to what God created us for it’s been 3 years of working on it and it gets better every year. God had you on this plan for a reason

@brendah4701

Жыл бұрын

@@lindsaypeek63 My husband is a wonderful man too ! It’s very hard to understand how much damage we can cause when we think we are helping . I am glad that your relationship is the way God intended it to be for you to be the best people you can be . God always makes something wonderful of a bad situation 🤍 may god bless you and your marriage , thank you for sharing this !

Neediness- a bottomless pit of need/requests without satisfaction or gratitude….

@shaymay2892

Жыл бұрын

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Being needy equals codependency. It’s wanting all of his time when he’s not at work, and getting upset when he does anything away from you in his free time. It’s needing constant validation & words of affirmation. I struggle with this.

@kemigisavictoria7285

Жыл бұрын

I Iam the kind as well.Hopefully I drop the neediness too

@PeaceBeStill24

Жыл бұрын

But isnt this just your love language??

@claudiag.3036

Жыл бұрын

@@PeaceBeStill24 I guess that’s part of it.

This is so much confirmation! Bindi!!! Whew! I needed this! I was contemplating a decision but didn’t have peace and this affirmed how Holy Spirit was leading me. Thank you for your obedience👏🏾💯🥰

I thought I already know all the secrets of good marriage. But every time I listen to you I get so many Perl’s off wisdom. Thank you

Neediness is when you’re emotionally tied to getting your satisfaction from your spouse. You can’t just be content in yourself. You need validation from him. Constant approval. You need attention. Example- your husband is working extra hours at work and that cuts into your time with him instead of being appreciative of him making more money you complain about him not being home with you as much. Or maybe that’s clingy? 😅

@cabbagecrosby1993

Жыл бұрын

I’ve always used the two interchangeably. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@LinorMilan

Жыл бұрын

what about if you prefer having a husband who spends time with you a lot more than him making more money ? or is that selfish ,idk :)

@huyaba100

Жыл бұрын

@@LinorMilan not selfish just gotta adjust the house so that it doesn’t interfere with your bills

@lovejones1897

Жыл бұрын

A good example is texting all day I did that and my husband kept saying ok leave me alone now and I was hurt and offended because when I say ok I’m gonna leave u alone and talk to u later he would say no it’s ok. My husband would call me needy during fights and I would say you should be happy I pay you attention. I didn’t get it. Confused my clingy brain but the lord revealed my neediness is bad. My life revolves around my family. I just told my husband I need a day for me

Wow, this message blessed me in such a way that I didn't know that I was a needy wife. Once again, Joyce, you have graciously communicated a behavior that many wives like myself struggled with. I'll be sure to share this with my women's group! God bless you.

Thank for your amazing videos Bindi. I am not married yet, but I am engaged and will soon Lord willing be getting married. Watching your videos is helping me to evaluate myself and work on becoming the wife I would like my fiancé to have when we are married. This video especially has convicted me and made me realize that I do have this needy attitude towards a lot of things. Praying for all the women who struggle with this as well! God bless.❤️

@Ehlaar

Жыл бұрын

If you both are working dont have kids. I am a mom i WFH and it still suck to have to dedicate 40 hours a week to my employer instead of to my 1 year old and my two who are off for the summer. If you work and save to have a baby to be off for at least until the baby gets to 1st grade cause thats when the calls home from teachers stop about them needing a change of clothes cause they peed themselves kids need lots of support. I am so serious i feel like todays women dont really have to be married cause men dont want non working women.

Wow! Thank you God for this rebuke & edification to us as your daughters! Thank you sis for your obedience & allowing God to use you to make this video. Will continue to help many more women for sure in the body of Christ. Married or not married this is pure wisdom!

This is so good. How we receive our husband's efforts is everything! To the taking out the trash example; one strategy I used was asking him what will help him to take it out. I asked him if putting the trash by the door so he'd see/remember it would help and he said yes. That happened for a period and now; sometimes I ask and sometimes he does it without me saying anything.

@dahliaherrod4301

Жыл бұрын

That's good! I love the idea of acting like a team. How can I help you fulfill your role? If you don't mind me asking, does he do the same for you?

@KKTanaa

Жыл бұрын

That’s good but then I saw you say sometimes you still ask or am I understanding that wrong? I think it gets a point where women gets tired of asking because ain’t they supposed to be the leader? It seems leaders should be aware of what needs to be done

@Rae_eLLe

Жыл бұрын

@awriterwhocantthinkofaperf1610 I ask occasionally still yes but it always gets done(i dont leave it at the door anymore). I think it's important for us to realize they're minds aren't focused and consumed on the same things as ours. My husband's biggest responsibility is providing for our family so there are times when he doesn't notice the trash. In those moments, it's important that I operate in understanding and simply mention it to make sure it's now on his mind and he gets it done. We as women as so different than men. I think it's imperative that we don't hold their difference against them but help them. Build them up. We are their other half. And together we made a whole.

@Rae_eLLe

Жыл бұрын

@@dahliaherrod4301 what do you mean when you ask that? Does he ask me how he can help me?

@dahliaherrod4301

Жыл бұрын

@@Rae_eLLe Yes. You asked your husband a good question and I wanted to know if he does the same for you

Great video!… but the locs😍😍😍 come on!!

Ohhhh you are speaking to me 😂 we have had this discussion not long ago and changes have been made. What a beautiful difference it has made to just TRUST him even if it’s not on MY time.

So good and so true for my past marriage. My husband didn't have the best health so I made alot of excuses for him. However, there was much he wasn't willing to do having grown up in a culture where the women did most everything anyway.

Well if this didn’t hit hard!! 😮😅 This should have been taught to me many years ago. Ouch!!! I always thought of needy as “help me” type of things. I did not know how to receive correctly apparently and I definitely complain that I have to do everything. And I do! But, now I see how I might have pushed it that way. I can’t tell you how many things I have learned over the past year or so by watching your channel as you are going through books. And I’ve bought them. Lol I really appreciate what you do! ❤🙏🏻

This is also called 'co-dependent' great edification video Sister ❤

Bindi I really love the message but I have to say that I really love your natural glow it really stands out🎉

@kerrymartin7557

Жыл бұрын

I agree! Beautiful skin & hair!🤩

Neediness means you can’t do anything at all yourself. Like you need him to tell you exactly what to do and when.. Or maybe even being so needy that you allow yourself to be abused. I’m not really sure what the author means though. All of this is such wisdom. Thank you. ❤

@lovejones1897

Жыл бұрын

No you’re off.

Just a great message that many of us need to hear. I personally have made progress on this but of course I still have work to do

Oh, my goodness I'm am beyond grateful for your channel. Thank you Lord, for you❤

My husband has said this to me. Even after our last disagreement, he coached me on how to approach him. This, coming from a woman, hits different. It helps me to genuinely understand. Emotional regulation is the first step. My husband doesn’t do well when I’m dysregulated because I often let things fester until I explode, which often ends with him being torn down, because of expecting him to just know how to help. Please keep this content coming. SO GOOD! In pre-marital counseling 9 years ago, our pastor said to me, “13 words or less with your requests”. This video was a pleasant reminder ❤️

Every time I watch your videos, I’m instantly convicted. Thank you for allowing God to use you ❤️

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! This was a helpful reminder because we (as women) would not want to be treated poorly when we make a mistake either. As you continued to mention showing appreciation, I wondered if you have made a video on how to show appreciation for the deeds of the husband? I am working on recovering from my toxic independence and I find I often don't show appreciation for things because I know it's just something that needed doing. As a result, my SO and I simply exist, getting our work done but neither of us feel appreciated for it. I wonder what your thoughts are on the subject?

Thank you for this sharing. Very inspiring especially when you talked about to learn to receive help from others, that’s what I have to learn, as I used to say no, thanks or I would feel sorry to let someone to help me even to hold the door for me! I’m learning to receive helps gladly and gracefully, I think that would make the others feel great too!

Example: Communication is something I need to be in a healthy relationship, him buying every single meal is not a need but is greatly appreciated. If I treat being fed with the same energy as the need to communicate effectively than I’m being needy.

Great! What a blessing. Love the depth of thought and insights.

I do appreciate very much this video that you made I have been subscribed to your channel and everytime I get a moment away from my channel I make sure that I coming to yours to check you out but this time I've watched the longer part of your video and complete video to be exact and I'm using Google voice to even write this comment right now because I usually don't leave comments typed out but long story short you have helped me to actually gained a marriage counseling on my own phone so this is wonderful and especially in the name of the Lord so it's great and I believe in the Proverbs woman and I believe that the Lord is higher and I believe in women respecting their husband's loving their husbands nurturing their husbands and I also their children. Blessings sister

This was spot on! Loved it

great video on the neediness advice for wives!

I always enjoy listening to your teachings because I learn a lot from each of them❤❤🇳🇬

Oh I knew this is what I needed with the first minute! 🙌🏾

@shaymay2892

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Wow our father just hit me on the head with this video this was amazing.

Very interesting and much needed by myself. Thank you thank you thank you! I am great at communicating but not receiving! This helped me tremendously!

I learned how to request with saying something about how it “would make me feel so good if…”… then just letting go and trusting that he’ll get it done in his own time. And always take the opportunity to say thank you for anything he does do for me.

So much wisdom in thie video!!!! Thank you xx

Girl, such food for thought!

In my head you’re my big sister. Love you sis. Great video lol

This was great, I thought “oh I’m not needy”. I thought neediness was about wanting your husband around and giving you all the attention and when I realized the theme of not being able to receive or trust that he will deliver I thought, oh dang yeah that’s me. Thank you for that!

So much encouragement here... just ordered the book

This was simply amazing. ❤🙏🏽💪🏾

Teach me WOG💕 Yes I will makes requests, from a position of faith 🙏

I was thinking earlier of how I could learn to be a better receiver. My man does so much and I do thank him for it but I'm not an enthusiastic person, im very monotone. I'll of course smile and give him lovin' too when I say thank you but I just don't feel like its enough. Especially, when he does something for me that is very hard and laborious. If any of you ladies or gentleman if there's any here have any tips, please let me know.

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I’ve heard try to feel it in your body and womb space really take time to slow down and appreciate. I can do it sometimes but not always 🤣

Bindi you are such a blessing

So glad I found you!

Very much needed and very well articulated video❤

Neediness is when the need is exploited, snowballed into a burden and never resolved. A need is always tenporary and always expected to be met.

Joyce, Bindi, are you happy? Really Happy? You are Beautiful a Good wife and mother . ❤ Often times women are not asked. Thank you for this message.

This is SO good!

🌹 Needing constant attention Emotionally unbalanced Easily angered or triggered Draining Yearning for completion & acceptance Often a needy person is frustrated, unable to communicate, and requires lots of attention in an unhealthy manner. Thank you Joyce for this perspective and breakdown. It's always a pleasure to hear from you.🌹🌹🌹

Very helpful video Bindi. I loved it. Thank you.

Absolutely brilliant, thank you for teaching the meaning of Christ consciousness for women!

Continue to share scriptural truth...many people need it in this dark day and age!!!

Neediness is a state of being unfulfilled and often times that person will not be content despite the provision Needing something is specific, often times when someone adresses that needs it quenches and its enough since the person who is in need is self aware of what it would take to adress that need

Sooo edifying ❤️