Even in a real relationship, the asking for money should have sent red flags.

@greg33770

25 күн бұрын

Exactly !

@SimoneNC

25 күн бұрын

These types of women will never learn

@MichelleT-so4we

24 күн бұрын

Build up your own house.🌎 Or Diamond jewelry makes NICE collateral.

@acd1168

24 күн бұрын

If he asked for $75, it’s fine but not $50k and $100k. That’s crazy stuff

@lindamattioli7943

24 күн бұрын

Lack of hygiene experience. You must go with the intervoice

The strange part is that if her closest relative asked her for $20,000 she probably would have said no.

@brigittebeltran6701

22 күн бұрын

💯

@AnthonyMason-cq9gi

21 күн бұрын

You have a excellent point.😢😢😢

@stacyb-r6931

21 күн бұрын

Bingo

@rachshred9613

21 күн бұрын

agreed. however, I have noticed most people in general are only willing to help their significant other. it's not just her.

@kathe9662

21 күн бұрын

Absolutely! And so many family are better friends with acquaintances than their own family.

My husband and I was scammed twice last year, totaling losses over $550k. It was a lengthy process involving federal intervention to get our money back. We need more people like Retrievebackteam taking a stand against these criminals. Much love and support from California.

@Edgardo477

2 күн бұрын

I got scammed out of my retirement money but I was new to it. thanks for sharing will definitely get in touch with them

@Chaim127

2 күн бұрын

There is immense pain in losing a large amount of money but to garner courage to speak about it says a lot about the person’s great character.

@DrealOtis00

2 күн бұрын

Thanks for the Info. Got scammed this past week out of 2.25 Bitcoin

@BubbleMix-96

Күн бұрын

jeez u boomers are swimming in money. meanwhile i can barely eat

This is insane. Sending 2 million to someone you’ve never met.

@sableann4255

24 күн бұрын

I wouldn't send anyone money, even if I've known them 30 years let alone met them online.

@rg2613

24 күн бұрын

@@sableann4255 and that’s why you haven’t lost 2 million. It’s hard to feel bad for these people who are so reckless with their money with no ounce of common sense. Hell, even if I had 2 million and it was my sister who wants to borrow that much money from me, I would tell her hells no. Get a loan from the bank.

@ElizzzaB

21 күн бұрын

She is not alone. There have been other reports.

@mariarohmer2374

18 күн бұрын

It's almost laughable she tries to defend herself. Says he wasn't a stranger. Come on, lady.

@gracechan1496

14 күн бұрын

there is no limit to stupidity

Why isn't a man asking for money a turn off? I don't get it.

@teacherlisa163

24 күн бұрын

Watch out, or you will be someone's next target. A man should be able to work and provide for himself - not ask a woman to support him, especially in terms of tens of thousands of dollars at a time.

@madamebutterfly851

22 күн бұрын

Right 😅 Total turn off and non negotiable for me. Grown men who can't take care of themselves or have their own money for their own desires are a big no thank you for me. So pathetic.

@Ididntwantthishandle

21 күн бұрын

Particularly large sums. A hundred here or there is one thing. This person is bleeding thousands out of you

@KathleenMcNe

21 күн бұрын

It would be for me. Next!

@molliwilson5639

18 күн бұрын

Anyone asking me for money is a turn off.

Sending entire $2mil life savings to someone she’s never met-to the point where she sold her house & became homeless/living in her car-seems an obvious question of mental competency.

@janetr5929

26 күн бұрын

My thoughts exactly.

@AGL01772

26 күн бұрын

I think it’s time to stop blaming the victim. There is no doubt that this person is mentally competent. However, she was probably lonely and vulnerable. We need to take a look at the fact that there are a few protections in place for consumers. This scammer used a commercial dating website and was able to pull off their scam. we cannot trust that our privacy is protected, or that organizations that sell products have our safety and best interest at heart. This makes us vulnerable to scams. Therefore, instead of making it the victims problem, we need to do more education on how to protect people from these types of situations.

@BrokeMillionaire1

26 күн бұрын

@@AGL01772unfortunately, there will never be enough protections to combat people who are so vulnerable and gullible. We will never stop scammers. The only way we can stop it is if we stop allowing ourselves to be victims. Assume everyone is out to scam you until they prove otherwise. You are the only one responsible for your money. I feel so bad for this lady. I hope that someone would have been there to intervene.

@Kim-yy4zd

26 күн бұрын

@@AGL01772 what sane person sales their house for a stranger Personal accountability is needed

@olderandwiser127

26 күн бұрын

Exactly! How can anyone be that innocent at an advanced age?? She appears to have the maturity level of a teenager.

I'm grateful for my pets. They never ask for money.

@gointothedogs4634

21 күн бұрын

They can get costly but I'm grateful for my two dogs !

@jaxonwilson4722

17 күн бұрын

That's because I work for them.

@mane3763

13 күн бұрын

​@@jaxonwilson4722😂😂😂😂

@robertblaney5033

12 күн бұрын

Pets don’t ask for money but they will wipe out your life savings just begging for treats 😂

@channel23753

11 күн бұрын

They never ask for money, but they do require it. It's still worth it though.

How does an "international businessman" need money from someone?

@yvonne2965

23 күн бұрын

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

@B.H.56

22 күн бұрын

His "account was frozen."

@gointothedogs4634

21 күн бұрын

Same reason a 'billionaire' political candidate is begging for money all the time. Because they're scammers.

@jenniferloftus2363

2 күн бұрын

@@B.H.56 While traveling. Account frozen while traveling and needs money to get back to the victim or to the next place where they are putting a down payment on a house for the victim, relative sick etc.

A person you’ve never met in-person is still a stranger…

@evanordstrand8585

27 күн бұрын

So very true 👍

@roxanab.1626

27 күн бұрын

Sadly, many many times ... People that are in your life under the same roof for decades can still be strangers to you and even enemies. 😔😮‍💨

@marytheresejacksonlutz2533

26 күн бұрын

Exactly!!!!

@laurawhitaker1797

25 күн бұрын

Even the ones you marry can end up strangers.

@annowens5019

25 күн бұрын

​@@roxanab.1626 ... That Part

She worked her whole life and made smart financial decisions, only to give it all away in 8 months to a Nigerian teenager who sent her poems he found on line. 😑😑😐😐

@tabby73

25 күн бұрын

Good and very true summary

@anonymous-zn2iv

24 күн бұрын

That teenager is living like a king now.

@barb6868

24 күн бұрын

Teenager?

@dennykeaton9701

24 күн бұрын

Well said. Copying and pasting poems he found online. Sadly that's all it took to get her lifetime savings.

@HoneyLove77

24 күн бұрын

HOW DO YOU KNOW IT'S A NIGERIAN? INDIANS, CHINESE, ETC ALL ARE DOING THIS!

He was a stranger, dear lady. You never met him.

@stephenbanks5952

16 күн бұрын

He doesn't exist

I've been married and had long term relationships, but I'm single now. And no matter how lonely I get, I am never, ever giving a man money. Ever.

@ladyvent

20 күн бұрын

Great cause we don't want to see you on the news!😊

@rozchristopherson648

19 күн бұрын

I'm 63 and have never been married or had children. Took care of my elderly parents and grandmother for 17 years. I agree with you totally. No matter what, never give a man money.

@superdoobo

13 күн бұрын

Same here as a man. Never give women a nickle and avoid the largest scam ever by woman...Marriage!

@ladyvent

13 күн бұрын

@superdoobo🤣a scam huh?

@superdoobo

13 күн бұрын

@@ladyvent Correct!

Your mistake was in thinking that conversing with a stranger online and phone was a RELATIONSHIP.

@B.H.56

22 күн бұрын

social media has made people lose their minds. They think online = real life. When in reality it's like a TV show. Not real.

@clairebond6958

16 күн бұрын

She was naive so so sad

NEVER send men money

@MoInTheCity03

27 күн бұрын

NEVER!!!

@marylynch951

27 күн бұрын

Men and women

@MrElliotc02

27 күн бұрын

Or women.

@spiritcreek9813

27 күн бұрын

Or anyone. You want to give your money away? Support your local charities. Food banks, clothing banks, people and animal shelters.

@newtrollaccount384

27 күн бұрын

@@marylynch951 It's different and you know it.

"He wasn't a stranger at that point"! say what! No meeting in person, no video chat, no vetting of this person in any way...thats a hard lesson to learn ma'am. It's bizarre that a person can see themselves as trapped and punished when all they needed to do was hit delete.

@conqueror03

25 күн бұрын

Well said 👏

This is the reason I go without "love" and "companionship". I'd rather be alone.

@SarahRenz59

20 күн бұрын

@nancydemoss2945 Me, too. My motto: I'd rather be lonely than miserable.

@RawOlympia

13 күн бұрын

Two cats and one very appreciative rescue doggie ~ we're set!

@manoramareddy4662

10 күн бұрын

better choice than be duped smart lady

@marthawoodworth

Күн бұрын

Well, you can always love yourself - unconditionally - and that includes s-x, too, lol. I was happily married for twenty-five years to my soul mate. Since he died, I have not desired any other man I've met. OK, maybe a couple, lol. But no one can take my baby's place and that isn't fair to other men. So I stay alone, sometimes lonely, but have four best friends I can visit and talk on the phone with forever. And single female neighbors - we help each other out when needed. Most of all, I love my work - so life is actually very good. Frankly, I can't afford a man. I have too much work to do, making a living (which I enjoy), doing Pilates, eating well, dancing around my house, shopping, and yakkin' with my bff's. I think I would have missed a man more if I hadn't gotten so much love from my husband.

I knew she was in trouble when she said “I can live with him and be poor”. She had already accepted downgrading after working her whole life. Sad. 😔

@lu_re7198

26 күн бұрын

On some level she realized that she’d been scammed but she was still desperately clinging to a thread of hope for love. 😔

@Onelightoftheworld

25 күн бұрын

@@lu_re7198 or clinging onto the hope that she would get that money back too.

@Mario_N64

25 күн бұрын

Victor Hugo, the writer, said that a woman in love could sleep on the floor and live on bread and water.

@markmedley6849

24 күн бұрын

@@Mario_N64 I don't know Victor Hugo, but he is right in this case.

@jramsey9690

23 күн бұрын

@@Mario_N64Ah, that “nesting instinct” never goes away.

If they don't want to meet you within 2 weeks, and then they cancel the first time, move on. That is your first clue.

@lindaabraham8715

27 күн бұрын

A good clue, but not the first. The first clue is saying all the right things.

@riobrasilsambashowssambist1453

27 күн бұрын

Exactly. I don't the understand how they end up like this. It must be some shreds of desperation that makes a person think they are in a "relationship" when they have never met

@rumblefish9

27 күн бұрын

I've seen so many videos from Scamfish that you kinda get a picture of the typical victim and the scammer. The victims are usually older, lonely or stuck in unhappy marriages. The scammer has used some poor unsuspecting guy's images to scam the victims and they usually use younger (late 30s, 40s or early 50s), good-looking guys who are in the army/navy/air force or have businesses and travel to so and so places. The real guy has no idea his social media pictures are being used by scammers and when they do it's usually too late. In reality, these men would probably not go for these older women and in reality most of them already have families. But all the victim thinks is there's this younger, handsome guy who is giving me all this attention and love. That's why the victims stick with them. They're getting something out of the scam; whether it's an ego boost, validation or the attention they crave that it completely makes them blind to reason. The manipulation is planned in stages and these scammers have scripts they use and a system in place. And when you ask the victims why they keep sending money even though they have never met the guy or even had a video call with him, they'll say they love him. They're that manipulated.

@jolyfrye1871

27 күн бұрын

Their is a big difference between a relationship and an illusion.😮

@lindaabraham8715

27 күн бұрын

@@jolyfrye1871 Don't be so sure. Some illusions last a life time.

Anybody who truly cares for you will not ask you for massive amounts of money. IMO, being broke is far worse than loneliness.

Where were the employees of your bank? Someone there should have questioned these large withdrawals from someone who didn’t spend money like a crazy person … then suddenly starts. Why are the people in this world not looking out for each other????

@wideawake5630

16 күн бұрын

Not their responsibility. This is all on her. She was stupid.

@louhortonsculpture

10 күн бұрын

They do, and the victim just gets angry with them. They can’t tell her what to do with her own money.

@RoseRaines

8 күн бұрын

No warning from a banker not from law enforcement can convince these people that they are being scammed. It reminds me of a cult (pyramid schemes).

@AkweliParker

6 күн бұрын

If you work for a financial institution, you undergo mandatory anti-fraud training-you’re taught to question stuff exactly like this, and flag it for review. Original poster is right, someone (besides the victim) was asleep at the wheel.

@e.e.harrison1357

3 күн бұрын

Because our world has gone to the dogs. Even Mr. Clavick on the Beverly Hillbillies kept close tabs on their 30 million. A good banker would have said something.

There were PLENTY of red flags to warn her.

@gothboschincarnate3931

25 күн бұрын

Rich people are just stupid.

@davidmarks8318

24 күн бұрын

@@gothboschincarnate3931 sure are!!

@davidmarks8318

24 күн бұрын

And how!!

@acornsucks2111

24 күн бұрын

The biggest orange flag was men don't fall in love with 70 year old women.

@barb6868

24 күн бұрын

@@acornsucks2111Oh how can you say that.? What a stupid thing to say. Someone her age can fall in love with another person the same age.

I was going out with a man I worked with. He asked to borrow $100 so his car could be repaired & pass inspection. Then he started telling me how his mother was sick and he needed to send money back home for medication she needed. I ignored this thinly veiled request for more money. Next payday, I started asking for the $100 he owed me. After I got it, I stop seeing him, never answered his texts again, and quit not long after. THAT is how you deal with a scammer. You do not keep giving them money!!

@ericb8413

27 күн бұрын

Fantastic. Glad you ghosted him. Any man who needs a woman’s money has real problems.

@Raja1938

24 күн бұрын

That a grown man couldn't swing a $100 expense should've been the first sign that he wasn't a viable dating prospect.

@wakeupbell2491

24 күн бұрын

@@Raja1938 True. But it was a casual relationship, not anything serious. Plus, without going into details, he had legitimate reasons to be struggling financially. But I could see through his ploy for money "for his sick mom."

@kksga5476

15 күн бұрын

whats his nationality?

@ValleyoftheRogue

10 сағат бұрын

Shall we give you a cookie or a gold star? So you dodged a bullet, but there are literally millions of men (and some women) who scam women. It is almost the rule when it comes to dating past 25 or 30. Stop blaming victims for being victimized.

This isn't normal.

1st red flag: they dont want to meet in person 2nd red flag: ask you to invest, actually any money involved is a red flag.

Why would you send someone hundreds of thousands when you hadn’t even met them yet? At some point personal responsibility comes into play.

@AlphaandOmega-mb1wg

25 күн бұрын

Just can't explain the human mind. Makes no sense

@caiqueparrot5374

25 күн бұрын

Don't even give money to people you know. 😮

@kellycarpenter3021

25 күн бұрын

Desparate for love

@chiefrcker

25 күн бұрын

I know, she is just stupid for sending someone she never met all her life savings

@tlmas1914

24 күн бұрын

@@kellycarpenter3021 NOPE STUPID FOR LOVE

If they claim to be a businessman, but they need Your money for their business expenses, that's a BIG red flag. Either they aren't one or they are bad at it.

@gfunk63901

27 күн бұрын

I’m still sending money to trump

@shinyshinythings

27 күн бұрын

Exactly. Or if they’re constantly “in legal trouble” or “trapped” somewhere.

@robertkorth2911

25 күн бұрын

​@gfunk63901 and he will still lose 😂

@aishanjgirl07

24 күн бұрын

Exactly, that literally makes no sense

@WNHTCT

24 күн бұрын

Or they want you to "invest" in their business

I wouldn't give a family member $2.5M; much less a stranger.

@vondavee1544

5 күн бұрын

I HAVE SAID THAT A FEW TIMES TO MYSELF WHEN READING AND SEEING THESE WOMEN AND MEN BEING TAKEN OVER.

The sad thing is most of these what's called romance victims won't loan a dime even to their kids when they need money but they give their entire life savings to a total stranger that doesn't even exist

@isay207

7 күн бұрын

Or neighbors friends community charity could have traveled with friends instead of giving it to potential pay for lay

How kind and brave of her to share this horrendous story 😢

@t.k3025

27 күн бұрын

Talking marriage and he isn’t in the same country? Yikes.

@oliviatrelles

27 күн бұрын

Agreed. I can’t imagine this happening to anyone I care about let alone her courage to speak about it publicly. Everyone thinks it can’t happen to them but it can and I thank her for sharing so others may set aside their own hubris.

@riobrasilsambashowssambist1453

26 күн бұрын

Brave to share, but blind to think that she was in a relationship when they had never met. .if I don't meet after 1 week, I am losing interest. If I don't meet after 2 weeks, I stop replying

@jawwad1189

24 күн бұрын

​​​@@oliviatrelles guys go through this all the time spending on women and not getting anything in return what makes her so special?? Gender? I don't get? Is it because the roles are revsered.

@Gheorghe99

24 күн бұрын

@@jawwad1189 1. Most guys I know would take a lady out to a nice dinner or maybe even a weekend getaway and if nothing romantically happened that would be the end of that relationship. 2. I'm a dude and never asked a woman for money, regardless of whether she's a longtime friend or we just met.

as an older retired woman that had plenty of lousy relationships, failed marriage and another marriage ending with hubby od'd and dead I would never send a nickel for anyone let alone $50,000, $100,000 and so on, that is insane on any level

@desireesalas5820

26 күн бұрын

Exactly. Every single time she sent these large sums of money to the scammer, she made a conscious decision to do so. She wasn't receiving threats on her life, request for ransom or any other severe form of manipulation. There needs to be some personal accountability here as well.

@corrinedorsey8024

25 күн бұрын

I'm not giving 20.00 of my money to just a name on a piece of paper!!!

@ls-l1518

25 күн бұрын

​@@desireesalas5820 I agree 100%. But her bank should also have stopped it. Asked her, why are you sending all your money all of a sudden?

@VeeFoster

24 күн бұрын

Early on in a relationship, if a man asks a woman for money, that's a red flag.

@donnamoore193

23 күн бұрын

For sure never send money for any reason no matter how lonely you are

This is incredibly sad. She obviously was vulnerable and naive. Shame of the piece of trash that did this to her.

Crazy. Never send money. You hadn't even met the man.

LIFE LESSON: If you have not met in person, then you're not in a relationship.

@ananeeva4109

18 күн бұрын

So true. Those in denial of it will pay the ultimate price :(

@se_me1756

16 күн бұрын

Half the time you aren’t in one even if you meet in person. Never ever give a man money. Men do not ask women for money. SMH

@foreveryoung999

16 күн бұрын

Even if you have met the person, you aren't in a relationship that qualifies money gifts.

@jekalambert9412

15 күн бұрын

Even if you HAVE met in person, it doesn't mean you're in a relationship!

Literally the first second anyone you don’t even know asks you for 3 cents, run!

@anonymous-zn2iv

24 күн бұрын

You don't need to run, just say no. It's like when a vampire asks to be let into your room, all you have to do is refuse. All the power rests with you.

@jcook2433

22 күн бұрын

Yes. The power rests with you. Never a nickel , even if you have begun to know them in person. A person who cannot manage their own life will take you down with them. Hard to be alone? Harder to be alone and ruined.

@katemarr1984

21 күн бұрын

​@@anonymous-zn2iv You make valid points; however I'm going offer a slight modification - RUN & Say no! The vampire analogy is 💯 on point.

@foodie2011

14 күн бұрын

Vampire 🧛‍♂️. Exactly 💯.

@superdoobo

13 күн бұрын

Can I get 2 cents then?

I got scammed by an old friend from high school. Our mothers were best friends. Turned out he was a liar and a thief. Be careful of old friends from the past who have a financial crisis.

@Svetlana-says-it-as-it-is.

8 күн бұрын

This is only my personal experience, I wouldn’t trust most of my school “friends” either or shall say school mates or contemporaries. Mmmm, I don’t know I found things I don’t like, glad I am far away in another country.

Why would you send money and think you are in a relationship with someone that you NEVER met?? wow

Practice the phrase ‘ that sounds hard. I am sure you will find a solution. No I don’t lend or give money to anyone. I will keep you in my prayers.’

@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823

21 күн бұрын

Give them the phone number to the bank.

@maryanneborders9602

9 күн бұрын

Amen. Should be at the front of all 'dating' sites!

WOW ! In her head, this guy was not a stranger. Realty check : HE WAS A STRANGER! If she had an active, balanced life, she would have blown him off quite quickly and would have understood she was in a scam. Reality check: she never once met him and yet she thinks he is not a stranger and even worse -- sends money? Seriously? This was an ongoing fantasy in her head that was not at all reality based. Hope she gets the counseling she deserves.

@Ava2969ny

26 күн бұрын

The fraudsters know exactly who to target...the elderly or widowed women are the most vulnerable because of loneliness. It's horrible because she spent years of her life preparing for retirement and now she doesn't have money to support herself.

@bichonbeach3859

24 күн бұрын

They don’t just target the elderly, they target everyone! Anyone at any time can be a victim. This is a massive problem and with no repercussion for these scammers it will keep on getting worse.

@VintageLady56

24 күн бұрын

Yes. This is called Limerence. Can develop into a severe psychological condition. I truly believe this is her case. Very sad.

@Emm325

21 күн бұрын

@@VintageLady56💯💯💯

'Santos'? That should have been a clue right there.

Over 2 million to strangers. She doesn't seem to blame herself at all. So now she only has her car, i HOPE SHE DRIVES IT TO CHURCH AND FINDS PEACE AND THE LORD.

This woman is so brave to share her story in order to help others.

@AGL01772

25 күн бұрын

Agree. I like your comment. Not much compassion in these comments here. Lots of judgment.

@ellebell9139

25 күн бұрын

​@@AGL01772the internet is younger than this woman. Literally, ok. ... This is the actual first ever scam people started doing on the internet. Its the reason people were warning everyone about online dating way back in the day. The judgement comes from the fact that it is common knowledge that people will fake being in love with you online to get your money. Its why catfishing became a thing....... She is too old to not be aware of this.

@xana5649

18 күн бұрын

​@@AGL01772nobody respect fools

@s.e.3252

14 күн бұрын

No, she's not sharing her story to help others, she's making hwrself a victim so someone rescues her!

@PamDubier

14 күн бұрын

@@s.e.3252 I missed the part where she asked for money or lodging or a car or --

Love bombing is one of the top telltale signs of a scammer. Definitely when they start asking for money - cut it off. Block them whatever you need to do. It’s easy to believe it when you’re lonely and you WANT to. I wish her well on her recovery financially, emotionally and psychologically.

@sie4431

27 күн бұрын

Not just a scammer but an abuser too

@jolyfrye1871

27 күн бұрын

NEVER feel like u have 2 B N A relationship to feel complete. I'd rather have 2 million dollars in my bank account.💸 💸 💸

@i-dash

27 күн бұрын

@@jolyfrye1871 💯

@rumblefish9

27 күн бұрын

@@i-dash I've seen so many videos from SocialCatfish/Scamfish that you kinda get a picture of the typical victim and the scammer. The victims are usually much older, lonely or stuck in unhappy marriages. The scammer has used some poor unsuspecting guy's images to scam the victims and they usually use younger (late 30s, 40s or early 50s), good-looking guys who are in the army/navy/air force or have businesses and travel to so and so places. The real guy has no idea his social media pictures are being used by scammers and when they do it's usually too late. In reality, these men would probably not go for these older women and in reality most of them already have families. But all the victim thinks is there's this younger, handsome guy who is giving her all this attention and love. That's why the victims stick with them. They're getting something out of the scam; whether it's an ego boost, validation or the attention they crave that it completely makes them blind to reason. The manipulation is planned in stages and these scammers have scripts they use and a system in place. And when you ask the victims why they keep sending money even though they have never met the guy or even had a video call with him, they'll say they love him. They're that manipulated.

@paulamitchell1653

27 күн бұрын

But never blame yourself for being a kind and generous person… pple are just low

How on earth could you send two MILLION dollars to a person whom you’d never met? I hope I am never that lonely.

@darcy5761

24 күн бұрын

Or gullible

@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823

21 күн бұрын

Get. A. Dog.

"Sue" still doesn't get it. She says she and "Santos" had a "dating relationship." They did not. They never even met. She says he wasn't a stranger. Yes, he was. The level of naivete of people who allow themselves to be duped by romance scammers is astonishing. That she gave anyone -- much less a stranger she never met -- her entire life savings of $2+ million is mind-numbing. I am 66 and retired, never married, and have a net worth of $14 million. If anyone asked me for money, I'd be gone instantly and never look back. I can't imagine being so lonely and desperate that I'd hand my life savings to anyone. I do feel sorry for "Sue." She's going to be under tremendous financial stress for the remainder of her life. And the anguish of knowing she gave all of her hard-earned money to a criminal must be overwhelming.

A smart person learns from their mistakes but a brilliant person learns from others mistakes .

@willissudweeks1050

27 күн бұрын

There are no smart nor brilliant people who could fall for this in the first place. No need for an example.

@maritesshoy317

27 күн бұрын

@@willissudweeks1050 - showing the whole internet that you are neither & couldn't possibly know w/ that comment. 😜

@lindaabraham8715

27 күн бұрын

@@willissudweeks1050 Loneliness will override smartness.

@willissudweeks1050

27 күн бұрын

@@maritesshoy317 No it’s called having common sense and most people have it.

@willissudweeks1050

27 күн бұрын

@@lindaabraham8715 Not with everyone. There’s a degree of silliness in falling for this stuff.

NEVER EVER give money to someone you are dating. You can buy travel tickets and take them along if you want, but NEVER EVER give them money.

@strawberryseason

25 күн бұрын

yes, yes, yes.

@RippleDrop.

24 күн бұрын

What do you think, is it okay if you are in a relationship?

@KS-kr4ok

24 күн бұрын

@@RippleDrop. NO NO NO. The scammer convinces the mark they are in a relationship. Then comes the sad scam story to steal money. A few dollars, not more than $20 maybe. If they need money because they lost their passport or need money to escape a problem to come see you blah blah blah, it is always a scam.

@goldenparachute392

24 күн бұрын

Realistically she wasn’t dating this person. They had never met.

@gointothedogs4634

21 күн бұрын

@@goldenparachute392 Well she thought they were in a relationship. Same thing.

They only communicated by email and text. That was the first red flag.A BIG ONE!

@mildredpierce4506

21 күн бұрын

Didn’t they say by phone as well?

Why are people so sexist? My co-worker’s 66 year old ex-husband fell for a scam like this, so it’s not only women.

@e.e.harrison1357

22 күн бұрын

It goes both ways, I agree!

@gointothedogs4634

21 күн бұрын

We're not, there have been comments about men too, but it's far more common with women.

@Ms_Sharpie

17 күн бұрын

Women are more open to talking about it when it happens to them.

@rominagresely526

9 күн бұрын

It's true. My brother in law was scammed of his $300,000 Publix retirement.

"Never send money to anyone you have only communicated with online or by phone." Shouldn't this be the very first thing? This should be a warning for everyone. If this scammers are so good at what they do, people should be aware of this before they hit their 70's or 80's.

@willissudweeks1050

27 күн бұрын

And even if you get manipulated a few times I don’t see how you could give away EVERYTHING.

@kimbok5971

26 күн бұрын

Are the scammers good at what they do or do we still have an extremely gullible society? I just can't believe the amounts of money she shelled out for someone she'd never met.

@bertmunoz7100

25 күн бұрын

I'm a fan of the show "AMERICAN GREED" and is always fascinating what people of all generations are willing to believe just to be part of something. On TV there are commercials for products that are clearly a scam, but as long as the Networks post a disclaimer they avoid culpability.

@B1LL9465

25 күн бұрын

The fact that she was willing to live with him even if she was poor 🤦🏻‍♀️

@OldSchool4U

25 күн бұрын

A female senior friend in my 55+ retirement community is currently in a “relationship” with a “solar installer German man who supposedly is an international traveler. Like “Sue” in this video, my friend has never been married. She lives alone and owns her own home. I’ve sent her numerous romance scammer stories including this one! It’s been a year of her online romance and his numerous excuse making no shows. It’s baffling. My friend is a highly educated woman with a MSW degree. She should know better. And didn’t answer my past questions about giving her fantasy scammer money 💰. It’s downright unbelievable how emotionally hooked some people become when their fantasy misconceptions overpower common sense & logical thinking!

I read that if you retire on 1.3 million you’re comfortable. If you retire on 2.3 million you’re wealthy. Where was her financial advisor? If I wanted to withdraw such sums mine would be all over this.

@genxx2724

25 күн бұрын

How much do you pay your financial advisor? How long have you had them, and what did they do for you?

@conqueror03

25 күн бұрын

Where was everybody in her life, friends, family??

@SarahRenz59

21 күн бұрын

@ritaroad Also, where was her bank? My bank puts a stop on my debit card the one time a year I buy jewelry from a lady based in Texas; she rents a booth at the WI State Fair every year. I have to call them and answer all the security questions to prove that yes, it's me making the purchase. My bank would probably send me a fraud alert if they suddenly saw large amounts of money disappearing from my accounts.

@xana5649

18 күн бұрын

Exactly

Psychological manipulation. Absolutely terrible. I feel so sorry for this woman.

What a horrible lesson to learn.

Why on Gods green earth would you EVER send money to someone you've never met in person?

She explained so well how these scammers manipulate their victims' minds. Guard your minds, your hearts, your bodies, and your lives.

@lindaslattery8341

27 күн бұрын

And your wallet

@TheSouthIsHot

27 күн бұрын

@@lindaslattery8341 Yeah, that too!👍🏻

@leanordials8008

27 күн бұрын

This is what parents need to teach their children!

@marylynch951

27 күн бұрын

​@@leanordials8008 Agree 💯

@cocatfan

26 күн бұрын

Only gullible people fall for this.

this is just so unbelievable that a person can be this naive and gullible

I can not feel sorry for her, this is beyond stupid. She was so desperate for love she gave him EVERYTHING. She should have spent that money on a therapist.

I am so very sorry for this lady. She fell victim because of a desire for love and marriage, which she hadn't realized earlier in her life. In the end, she lost her hope for companionship and all her money. Yes it was naive of her but it was innocent. She is very brave to share this story. I cannot fathom the cruelty of the people who do this scamming.

@wildmountainthyme4123

27 күн бұрын

The cruelty of these scammers is overwhelming. I think Sue was so brave to tell her story, and I pray that she finds peace.

@teacherlisa163

24 күн бұрын

They are sociopaths and have no souls.

@missmiss9539

22 күн бұрын

I pray she gets her money back and god brings her love

@brooklyn3299

18 күн бұрын

She really needs to sue that company eharmony company! They led her to believe that these were REAL people. If they can’t vet the people in their site, then at this point that stupid site is a Craigslist Ad.

@Glen-uy4jt

15 күн бұрын

You see it as cruelty but they see it as a gold mine without the hard physical work. The internet is digital, it is a form of obscure communication. I mean if you get asked for 250,000 dollars once and they do not have a payback schedule, then they ask for more, to fall for that is outright stupidity. Do not let your emotions rule your life.

My mother taught me growing up to don't let people f*** with your money. She taught me this way before the internet. Sorry this happened to you.

@leanordials8008

27 күн бұрын

Good mom!

@bradfordjhart

27 күн бұрын

She's a smart woman

@greg33770

25 күн бұрын

Yep ! Same way I was brought up !

@gointothedogs4634

21 күн бұрын

You were lucky. My mother was so desperate to see me married that she put my life in danger numerous times, starting when I was in High school. I finally quit all contact with her until I realized she was dying. By then I wasn't her focus.

It's so hard to believe this is still happening after so many women have come forward to talk about this theft!

I'm sorry....I still don't understand how this happens. You ask me for $20 and a prayer I'm 🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️💨💨 😂😂😂😂

"He wasn't a stranger at this point" sorry to tell you, he damn well was

@rozchristopherson648

19 күн бұрын

I agree. But she felt she met him through a reputable daring site. So her guard was done.

@gee_emm

16 күн бұрын

He still is a stranger. She has no idea who she was emailing or speaking to and Santos was a fictional character. She never met anyone. There was no Santos to ever meet!

@gee_emm

16 күн бұрын

@@rozchristopherson648Dating sites are full of freaks, weirdos and liars. It shouldn't take longer than 5 minutes to realise that!

@tinydream

15 күн бұрын

@@gee_emmit was likely a team working together in Nigeria, statistically speaking that’s the most likely with romance scams.

It's amazing how often this is happening these days. Even with many public warnings, people still fall for it.

@anonymous-zn2iv

24 күн бұрын

Scammers are very convincing.

She should be speaking out on “ACCOUNTABILITY” not deflecting with “psychological manipulation”. These stories always annoy me because it’s the same bs with the woman blaming the scammer for her behavior and desperation.

This shows how the need to feel loved and needed can override our rational minds. This has nothing to do with intelligence. It's much more profound.......

My heart goes out to her. What an awful lesson to learn in your 60's...I hope she'll be okay.

@wildmountainthyme4123

27 күн бұрын

I feel the same way. What a heartbreaking situation. I'm grateful she has such compassionate friends.

@davidmarks8318

26 күн бұрын

60s? She looks 79

@backtoasimplelife

25 күн бұрын

It sounds like she was a high-income earner, and she has to be getting social security benefits. If not, then she's going to have to get back to work. I wonder if she can get a part time job and build her savings back up. Sad story and this is so common. I pray for her to be well more each day.

@anonymous-zn2iv

24 күн бұрын

She is a smart woman when it comes to business. I am sure she can stay afloat. She may not retire a multi millionaire but she will be ok.

@yvonne2965

23 күн бұрын

It’s so sad

Whether someone is a stranger or not, do NOT send money to ANYONE. PERIOD. The moment they ask you for money, end all communication.

A "successful international businessman" should never need your money. Personally, I would never give my money to any man. If he has the gall to ask you for your money, tell him to take a hike. Remember, a fool and her money are soon parted, so don't be a patsy.

While I cannot imagine being so trusting of a total stranger, I can imagine how vulnerable she was to the idea that after 60+ years of being alone, it was finally her turn.

Good thing I don’t have any money so I don’t attract any scammers.

@kimmyescada5470

27 күн бұрын

Same🤣🤣🤣

@stephanieames66

26 күн бұрын

DITTO.

@alicepopovski3643

26 күн бұрын

Exactly

@user-eu2me4bp7j

25 күн бұрын

😂😂😂

@lindahathaway3519

22 күн бұрын

A very good reason to appear as if one has no money.

2.5 mill............... AND a house! Yeasus.

@anonymous-zn2iv

24 күн бұрын

For someone so smart when it comes to business, she sure is naive about other things.

I appreciate her speaking out, I pray that her sharing her story helps at least one person. 🙏🏽

Too bad these girlfriends didn't warn her sooner.

1. I wouldn't "loan" more than $1000 to even a friend because that can ruin a wonderful friendship. and 2. Never loan more than you can afford to strike a match to and set on fire, even for a friend. Even friends can disappoint you and you want to be able to walk away knowing you still protected your future. Loaning or giving money away is like gambling at a casino, it's entertaiment, not a financial decision. The house always wins.

Gullibility and desperation. Some women in their sixties and older believe a much younger person has fallen in love with them. They send them money. They believe far-fetched stories. They lose all logic and common sense. Yes, she is a victim and he is a terrible person. However, she fell for a scam because she was desperate to be with someone.

@carmarasmussen8118

27 күн бұрын

I understand loneliness but I will never ever understand why anyone would send all of their hard earned money to someone they haver NEVER MET. Makes absolutely no sense. 😮😳

@user-sc9lr6kz8t

27 күн бұрын

I'm sad she was lonely and felt that "Santos" was just the guy to fill that void.

@lkd06

27 күн бұрын

​@@carmarasmussen8118maybe dementia ?

@user-nv8nt6gm2d

27 күн бұрын

Get a dog. Better than any man, and dogs love to cuddle, unlike most men.

@lindahathaway3519

22 күн бұрын

@@soutinefan 🤣🥰

You do not know somebody you have never met in person, and you STILL don't know them until you spend a lot of time with them. A "businessman" should not need your money, but, if you are asked, you are not a bank. The answer is hell to the no!!!!!!!

I'm sorry this happened to her but if she was looking for love if would've been better for her to go on a very nice luxury cruise or just travel and meet someone in person, not do any online dating. She had the net worth to meet a man on the same level or higher.

Why would anybody send money to someone who they never met in person is beyond me.

@anonymous-zn2iv

24 күн бұрын

Love is blind.

Hopefully, "Sue's" story will help others avoid the scam she suffered.

@pamreneejones

27 күн бұрын

Every time I see these videos I say "I hope it will be this one to deter the next one or even the masses" but it seems these stories placed end to end could wrap the globe a million times over. Imagine the ones too embarrassed to even tell. 💔

@ninam.1560

27 күн бұрын

What about the millions of other stories out there about this? The problem is they don't want to listen...you can't help them! They need someone to take over their life choices and finances...not Boyfriends or Girlfriends

@janetr5929

26 күн бұрын

It won’t. These women can’t be helped.

@marinam.2293

25 күн бұрын

Sadly, people aren't likely to learn from mistakes of others. Our own experiences tend to mean much more to us.

@VioletEvans-yt2fd

20 күн бұрын

Nope. There are hundreds who are sending money to their new loves as I type this response.

Poor woman... but there are PLENTY of similar cases out there to be learned from. Still, we all say "not me" at least once in a lifetime. Tough lesson.

This is nauseating that a seemingly intelligent woman would be this desperate. The single women that I know would Never fall for this type of a scam. They wouldn't even buy a guy a drink, let alone send him money. You'd have to be living under a rock to not know about these scams.

Really?? Someone you never met isn't a stranger? This is simply desperation ladies. Smh..

They tried that with me almost 10 years ago, but I figured it out somehow, and walked away with my mind intact. I was extremely lucky. I feel for this woman. They make up a name, a place where they live, and what they do. If they say their widowed, no matter how old they are, walk away.

@shinyshinythings

27 күн бұрын

I get messages from strangers sometimes on Fb, they see my profile and assume I’m alone or something, and they tell me they like my profile or comments and they’re a retired surgeon (they’re always surgeons, haha). I block and report them. I feel so sad for the women who don’t know how to recognize scammer messages, wherever they’re from.

@gointothedogs4634

21 күн бұрын

One started calling me in the middle of the night claiming he was in the military in Afghanistan. Apparently when my neighbor's phone was hacked, he'd found my number and photo. Amazing that I was able to figure out he was Nigerian - true story - called him on it and told him if he continued, I'd contact the FBI. That was the end of his calls. But he started out with some complimentary comments that were red flags. Plus he sent a photo of himself, claiming to be a real person here in the states. I found the real guy's info and realized there were just enough discrepancies that I knew he was a scammer.

Mam, thanks for being willing to share your story. You are helping people. Try to ignore all the folks who have it all figured out. They're usually the ones who've been through something similar or something you'd never do.

Sue, thank you for bravely telling your story. Blessings to you.

A fool and her money are soon parted.

So sorry this keeps happening to good people that want a relationship. The internet has made a big world small. We lock our doors but open up our homes to crooks through the computer anyway. It's not only the guy outside your house that's scary but the ones you let in via the internet, too.

@ericb8413

27 күн бұрын

Well said!

This is heartbreaking. Regardless of whether she should have sent anyone money, it's just sick that someone could do this to another individual. Sick people!!

Definitely be suspicious of someone who keeps gushing over how much they like you in the early stages. That's lovebombing. There's no way I'm sending a guy money either.

My husband of 40 years died in early 2014. In late 2016 I joined OK Cupid. 3 men tried to romance me. Messaging me that we would have a wonderful life together ! What before talking on phone or meeting in person? This was a clue something was not right. I had to pressure each one to speak on the phone and when they called they ALL had accents ! The next step would be them asking for money but I told each one scram once I heard the accents. Why in the world would would any woman send $ to a stranger? Desperate much? I was lonely but not desperate!

@ericb8413

27 күн бұрын

Did they call you their ‘queen’? That’s a dead giveaway. Glad you didn’t get scammed. 😊

@shelleycharlesworth5177

27 күн бұрын

@@ericb8413 -ha ha no they didn't say that! I copied a romance scam warning off the FBI website and posted it on my profile and I told them to read it and BUG OFF!

@TheQueensWish

25 күн бұрын

These dating sites have become the digital hunting grounds of these scammers. For a small membership costs it opens them up to a pool of potential victims.

@Emm325

21 күн бұрын

@@TheQueensWishexcept more and more they use Facebook, it doesn’t take much more than common sense to ask oneself why are they writing random people, saying “you’re so pretty, please respond” or some other similar response. I can’t believe this lady…🤦‍♀️

@TheQueensWish

21 күн бұрын

@@Emm325 Well of course, that’s even cheaper. It’s free isn’t it? And … they can sift through their targets info looking at photos and old posts and mining them to open conversations: “You like dogs! Oh my dog will love you!” “Oh, do you like lakes? Let me teach you stand up paddle boarding when the weathers nice …. if you’re adventurous.” etc, etc … they mirror whatever they observe of you to get their foot in the door.

If you haven't met in person, then they are still a stranger.

The biggest problem is that she is not taking responsability for her desperation that led her to believe that was a relationship.

Wow. 2 million dear lord

If you meet a person online and all they do is ask for money, that's your clue to run.

@conqueror03

25 күн бұрын

This still happens today, the show Catfish has people giving thousands of dollars to people they never met, some never even heard their voice and for years!

Thanks to this brave woman for sharing her story. Luckily, I have a successful career, but that also means I can painfully relate to the emotional emptiness that comes with it. Being professionally successful and financially responsible your whole life is tiring. And as stupid as it may sound to some of you, a sweet poem in the morning can be very powerful over an exhausted mind. Stop blaming the victim. Shame on those who take advantage of someone’s love for them.

Scary that she was an hospital executive! Yeah, we are in good hands...

She probably needed psychiatric or medical help before this started . These are not the actions of someone in their right mind.

Not too bright lady. As soon as they ask for money end it.

She must have told him at some point how much money she had. He didn't even start out with a low dollar request! There should be a HUGE full-page warning on EVERY dating site.

I feel sorry for this lady, but the person was a stranger. She never met him yet continued sending thousands at a time. If you’re manipulated that easily from having millions to zero, then there’s something internally wrong with you.

@robinr71

27 күн бұрын

She started off sending HUNDREDS of thousands., to a total stranger, love bombing and copy and pasting poems to her. Saying they love you a week into the "relationship". WTF is wrong with people???

@Lynn.B.

25 күн бұрын

You have the luxury of being judgmental and making that assessment. Given that you're obviously so superior to her, please don't expect any empathy should you one day fall prey to a scam.

@DillDough4u

25 күн бұрын

@@Lynn.B. I won’t expect any sympathy because that will never happen to me. I’m not gullible or stupid.

@Lynn.B.

25 күн бұрын

@@DillDough4u "...because that will never happen to me." Famous last words.

@DillDough4u

25 күн бұрын

@@Lynn.B. 😘

I would even question a good friend asking me for money